Misnagdim: Love them genuinely - Tanya Igeres haTeshuva 2b - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so goodday we're learning KES the fourth section in Tanya chapter 2 we gave a long introduction with the historical overview of the chapter and we won't repeat that encourage everyone to listen to it it's online let's go so the chapter begins with peterborg Bays I explained yesterday iser the re once explained why the B is after the caption not before the caption in P get there's 27 it's just the opposite the caption is after the number right you usually a writer writes a number like I when I write my books and after I write the number I write a title here it's just the opposite so we explain that at length I don't won't take the time now let's go the says I've become diminished through all of the kindnesses that hasem did and we also explained the the M of Rashi and raan on this POS and the alter's integration of both and his own unique approach to it we spoke about that yesterday too so I'll let you listen to that and from all the truth p this means every kindness that does to a person a person must be most humble not to feel that he gets this special attention from Hashem Hashem gives him all of this kindness because he's something special but rather rather to recognize that it's all about God not about him and Al explains it when we sayem's his kindness is upon us we need to know that theid is considered metaphorically speaking the right arm of hasem the and then there's a verse is brought in right my right my right will embrace will embra embrace me so in other words the right side of hasem which is Embraces the person is adding a description to what it says in Caba and to what it says in thek and you have to ask yourself what is he adding over here we we just said we know right we say that know the right arm of God represents kindness we know that is a we know that what is he adding here it's such a closeness of God that far intensely than before what does it mean far intensely from before the the the various aspects of the way Hashem involves himself and gives has to the world is saying that when a person is showered with when a person re this is a that God did to me he saved my life he saved me from from tickets he saved me from summons whatever whatever the it is one has to know that you're going you're getting closer to God in other words it's about God Hashem is taking you inside his own Essence more and that's very very special and it says further the continue whoever is closer to hem in the most in the greatest way being raised a loft higher and higher again needs to exclude the thought ifem is taking me done such to me that means I'm worthy of his he doesn't do it to my he does it to me says you have it all wrong of if you were chosen to have God's it means you need to to recognize and feel God more not yourself more that that's the thought yes H I'm following along in the lessons in Tanya and there's a note here at the bottom that I don't understand it's on this this line so he he says and then he says the letters of the unusual Hebrew verb hag are vocalized as follows and for the final M uh in I don't I don't understand how that's referring to this word the word hgba what it's referring to the I'm not I'm not a Hebrew linguistic but the the the word HBA he's saying there's a mik hey at the end right H usually usually a letter doesn't it doesn't end usually with a with a a hay with a that's what he's saying he's saying so it's HBA with is an unusual word that's what he's saying and he says he brings it from the P from yes but would be under the base the H yes yes no no guess I guess I don't where is there a in that word b under the base and then what's what does it mean what says and maybe no in other words it's like the word El if you remember there's a PK you swallow the at the end when it comes out of the hay when a when a you swallow it so B and the and and the last is not sounded uhhuh okay let's go further that helps okay let's go further so it says brings a verse another verse from afar appears to me now literally what does that mean is distant from me from being in a position of distance of God meaning reverence for God all for God are ye the feeling being distant that's how God will appear to you you want to to appear to you inculcate the concept of of a of reverence okay and he says he he mentioned this in the first letter he mentions it here it's interesting that both letters you mentioned it which is every everything before God is like n so what's he mentioning this again he's mentioning it because contrary to to logical thinking the closer I am to you the more of a relationship we have in the sense that we're buddies or friends the famous line in hu don't touch my anointed one and my don't do any evil to them right we said it this morning in we say every morning of the year every single morning so there's a there's a a t of when it comes to prophets it comes to the word r not from the word bad ra but R which means friend don't make yourself buddy buddy chap chap friend friend with NV they're not your friends I I I when my children were growing up I said to them I'm not your friend I'm your father and I want to be close to you and know but I'm not your friend I'm your father and this is very important when it comes to we blur the lines we become sometimes very close to our children and we lose the respect that they should be they should have for a parent because we have given them the impression and and acted in a way where we're friends that does that mean to say you have to be distant shom and the same is with a a re or even now taking that a step you know to what was we're talking about here is saying as as close asem takes you to him remember that we are nothing compared to Hashem even when Hashem bestows upon us and you would think you know I have the connection what's the word they Us in the U connections what's that word uh prot prot I have prot I was in such deep trouble and I was going to sit in jail and all of a sudden the judge just ripped up the that must because I've done something great you know and then and whatever the situation is God has gifted me I'll Al you remember my friend you have no you have no you're not on the level of God you're not on the level of n they're a different category so the AL is saying here that one would think that when it comes to when when a person experiences there's more room to feel closer and to feel gifted and to feel special says the AL yeah hasem did to you but don't think for a moment that you're on a level of God and that's why from being distant meaning distant in the sense of a wow you're so awesome so rever revered and you were kind enough to take me into your domain for through bestowing the that's what he says let's go on came and therefore whoever becomes please mute yourselfers whoever becomes closer to is more nothing right the F the statement story theid theid is walking and he's asked by someone in the street in Russia who are you he says biger who's walking B is walking nothing's walking zero who are you zero but you're walking but if you're living B that's who's walking B now you're going to say well for someone to say that B's walking is the biggest GAA the biggest ego and and hoiness but we're talking about something but it kind automatic you know bit so the same idea over here let's continue and he says this is what we call the right side of Holiness and so you think of is is significant and has a a place and says about himself Amer dust for a and Ashes meaning I'm nothing but I'm a yeah I'm a Ab chose me to be AB I'm a and I have a mission but I myself is of and this is says the quality of yov remember how did he get us start it's number two says I've been humbled from all the that you did to me and therefore I'm scared of Asa I don't know if I'm going to win over ASA as is coming to hurt me says this issue of B the closer you are to Hashem Etc the more buly you are this was expressed by and this is his excuse over as not his excuse this was the concern he was saying I have a big pedigree my grandfather my father and everything I've did and accomplished for sure Hashem is going to not take me down so yob says no I'm no one special if so asa's coming what's going to be over here so that and andem says I will protect you another words don't rely on the very important you know I don't care who your father your grandfather is your grandmother this that it's nothing if I want you you are with me and he says why does hasem say I am with you cuz hasem real saw in yov that he was very humble because of the many kindnesses that God did to him with the staff I pass felt incompetent I'm not worthy of being saved say the sages say maybe the reason why yob was apprehensive was because maybe sin some sin that he did will cause him to be punished and he won't be saved from as adds the words what do mean it appeared to him look to him that is you know why because when you compare yourself to Hashem to the higher level what you do on this level is insignificant so of course Yakov knew everything that he did but when he when he starts Hashem did to me that means Hashem is taking me closer to him Hashem is taking me closer to him than what I did yesterday is insignificant today so I don't have any I don't have any merits and on the contrary on the contrary maybe what I did is considered not only insignificant sinful I didn't do hard enough I didn't work hard enough and I have the ability to work harder and I didn't I'm guilty so this thinking is just the opposite of the way the normal person in the world thinks just the opposite and this is a very important thought to not only it's but emphasized this idea that The Closer You Are The Closer you the more the more buckly you are and the more you feel insignificant and the more you feel that you're sinful and the more you do Tru so someone walks away feeling I've done it all or I'm on the you the right track is very far from has let's continue okay all of this is the attitude of of ab conversely is what we call of is of the Arabs what's the of is the Arabs who says the opposite iser they would never be able to hurt a Jew God forbid and do anything if they didn't have some in them whether it be the half of bris that they have and all of that but the bottom line is that the con you know is the more you experience the more you boast and you see this with these with these uh MIM what do you see with them look at this they're being demolished and decimated and they I just saw yesterday in Janine we went in and we did a a job in Janine right after the out in front of you know the signs with the guns parading around with happiness there's no sense of like shame because everyone knows that for yile the the I don't know if the worst but one of the worst thing is the the loss of Pride the loss of Pride and you should know that for us yeen that's not where it's at for us it's is Hashem more here is God more here whether we have pride or whether right so the alter says it here quoting the Caba that the the opposite of of's is the of is let's continue says all of this is a lesson for youn I'm not giving you AA now here just for the sake of AA I have a message to you an an referring in this case to the of the great amount of that did with us referring to this letter was written I think a day after or right after 1798 when the AL life was spared so natural the feeling was to get back at the so the AL says listen to his words we recognize the great did with us and he says I want you to hold on to the quality and attribute of a remnant of his people leftover of the of Israel sh making himself as remnants and truly super and indispensable don't raise your hearts of on the calls them our brothers you imagine the brothers who wanted to get have the AL killed killed let you know if you sometimes you have to say it the way it is because otherwise we get mixed messages that was the intent the intent was to eliminate not just the whole group of the to get rid of were in their eyes at the time a cult a cult that's that's that's misleading the Jewish people and dangerous so we have to get rid of them we tried talking to them we tried this we tried that we tried putting out proclamations it don't help so the next thing is is we go and inform on them to the government and this obfiction will hopefully bring an end to their to their activities says the AL response to remember theid the of yov is that when he was blessed with he looked at himself as insignificant and you too the fact that doesn't say I but that I was my life was spared and from on high as we discussed yesterday was Vindicated was Vindicated is not reason to be bo ful with pride and ultimately with anger and hate for the m and he calls them that's his words don't raise your hearts over look at he adds these adjectives and don't Jer nor whistle you know how you walk hey who look who's there oh the loser is there you come into Sho everyone looks oh you're the one that informed an our Reb you low life well you know if you read a little bit historical accounts is a great book you have to read it it's called The I've told you this if you haven't gotten it you have to buy it or or loan it and it's written by it was translated by mik rotenberg of the turo originally written by P goldenstein I've mentioned it many times but now uh it's out the first the second volume is coming out now and it's a a bird's eye view of what was going on in the strle in 1850s and 1860s and 1870s and how they were always on each other again I told you yesterday not with the same Venom as it was you know 50 67 years ago but the the jarring and the driving and the poking for example he was hitching a ride you understand he doesn't have a penny to his name his wife's pregnant he's trying to go to the re in laich I think it was 1874 the re marash I think or maybe it was 1869 whatever and and he get some ride from TI T is near CH okay and there there not and they give him a ride and they say drink say and he says I I don't want to drink now says you're a Salem cup your head is a cross a cross he about to he says what did I do he says if you can't drink that means you're a mnet get out of here you have to just read it yourself you like say what what's going on here but this you know this was the type of conversations that that had especially certain certain times you know and what I'm saying this so when the AL says here don't raise your voice don't raise your heart don't whistle at them meaning in netive way you know like oh you losers next line a strict warning I'm warning you hold your peace mention nothing that's what he says humble your your spirit and your heart like yov Call of them every in front for every person don't tell me he yes she no maybe every person with humility with a soft answer that turns away anger and with a a restrained Spirit now initially is finished here but that year a like water reflects on water three times and when he then he added a fourth line a last line look the last line it's unbelievable perhaps maybe perhaps God will put in a contradictory and loving resp response he says maybe hasem will put in a a feeling of Love That Will Will reciprocate by them having love to you you want to have anger number one he says AB stop stop wanting to hurt them but more so this is a more so it's not enough not just to have anger you have to have love to them and when they'll feel that you really have genuine love for them they'll have love for you and my friends and it's so true I deal with all kinds of people many lit fxs MN them over the years and when you when you combat you get nowhere when you really are able to feel love and it's not easy it's far from Easy especially someone who's ra born and raised you know in AIC home and aab home after everything said and done but if you're able to do that and you really feel genuine love they will feel love to you and you'll have peace and there'll be real peace so this is the message of the second letter in Tanya in have a great day we'll see everyone tomorrow Z byebye thank you care