Mincha Prayer is Antidote to Mid-Life Crises

so we um we're on page 403 the last paragraph the hine let's begin the xiv we're in the loyola from 1931 to the previous leather it says save chrysler shoe assessor i will lift up a kaiser cup and while i do that i will call the name of hashem the name of god in order for what for there to be a curse which means a clea kibble a vessel of receiving a reception to receiving what lie yeshua is to receive salvation of hashem the gospels in all physical and spiritual matter who are your days it's to through calling the name of hashem through what the toyota through learning toyota utwila and davenik they spotted sibo to daven with a minion to daven with a congregation a quorum of ten people when possible of course possible meaning when you're not subject to good the quarantine rules et cetera for the four years and to set times to learn tighter and i explained in an earlier share that possibly the rep is alluding to agamara which discusses whether one's activity one's melancholy is guarded is is safeguarded but there's no growth or miss borehas it's blessed with growth [Music] so that employs the words here the osmo not only is your work safeguarded but miss borekas it's blessed where you'll even have more than what you had before okay this is all when you are a clay kibble when you make yourself into a vessel avocado limited soil but if a one is full of their own desires and wishes of physical matter how lame it by saying this i like i want this but this activity of what hashem wants of me i don't want or this i and the other thing i cannot do much on page 403 the next new paragraph the fourth largest line in other words this is what we call choose and pick your yiddish kite choose and pick your mitzvahs choose and pick your torah right so he says i know as a reviewer one doesn't want to go to study in shiurim in classes let's say there's a class that your rabbi your of announces and it's only proper that everyone joined and you say i'm not interested in that class you don't want to be part of the group to learn that's called you're choosing you're being choosy that ever says that that this type of attitude choosing what you like and and choosing what you don't like and not you're not choosing what you don't like is satisfying yourself so that type of learning that type of davening is a selfish one or mother become a kindness now you know we're not going to outright say we don't want to go to the rabbi's class to the ruff's class he's the role of yeshua he made your sons bar mitzvah etc but you're not interested in the topic or you're not not interested in learning from him because whatever he's not a great teacher whatever the excuses so whatever says you come up with excuses omar become a kindness you come up with excuses i can't keep the times of the classes it just doesn't work for me we're talking about it truly not you know someone let's say with a few people now are not with us right now because they got jobs hashem and i i always tell them when they discuss it with me i always tell them great you have to bring home partners that's a priority you know of course you you you know you need to learn and before work and after work so we're not talking about a truth a true a true reason for not coming to a sheer like working we're talking about you know staying home and just surfing the net and wasting time and you could be at the sheer so this is what the rabbit says umar become a taina is as a candidate he finds excuses why he can't attend then he is not a vessel to contain the 18 benedictions kind of salvation and supernal kindness you know we say ishmael i'm not sure if he means this monastery i don't have a reference to look it up but possibly it's associated with this monastery right esther means eighteen eighteen brothers so he's not a vessel to receive the eighteen brothers says learn from the actual making motion of a cup how do you make a cup of course a reserve you take material raw material of silver and gold sorry it requires a craftsman an engraver a craftsman to take the raw material the substance the plain substance matter to bang it be patient with a hammer losses to make it like flat actually until he could bend it the lasso is clear kibble and make it for a vessel to contain to receive in other words this is the process of making a cayley by chef sure in you know in finland and messages and save potatoes you're a safer you take the raw height you have to make it smooth and then you can make batim i think i you once took me to buy bottom i remember in in betar you i think i think was bought them or maybe was parched but i don't recall but whatever it is if you're talking about bhatti and yoni it requires you take rawhide you have to soften it the motion knows the details i'm not a safer but i'm just talking generally speaking and then you're able to make the four compartments out of it so the same thing over here how do you make a cayley you take a piece of material that's raw you sand it down you make it smooth so it shouldn't have splinters you shouldn't hurt yourself and then you form it to what you're making a cup a bench a chair table let's go further this is the muscle now comes the nimsho what does this mean and avoid this hashem okay nobody benefits also the same case in service to making a vessel making ourselves a vessel so that we become a recipient akali for hashem who are you today it's through firstly coming to a point of having a contrite heart leave nishabad a broken heart she itake is optimally one should break themselves it doesn't mean beat yourself up physically it means you should say to yourself what is the advantage of my life over the life of animals if i'm acting like an animal i'm wasting time like an animal roaming the streets what's so special about my life nothing so this is a kind of a beat-up call you're beating yourself up because you're wasting so much time so you need a wake-up call so this is the first thing just like you take the piece of raw material and the first thing you have to do is yake matisse you have to hit it pound it with a hammer to smoothen out all the bumps and grooves and everything else so the first thing you have to do about this hashem is smooth in your raw corporeal self to be a vessel for hashem that's the first thing you have to do so make a husband make an account why does he deserve it why do i deserve it why do i deserve that hashem should give me the things that i want if i'm wasting time and i'm acting like a behemoth roaming the streets and just being unproductive so you i expect hashem to give me what i want i'm not worthy of it for if he would have served hashem as hashem commands foreign the truth is even if you're doing what hashem wants avi to think that i deserve is arrogant it's but it's what it's entitlement entitlement exactly exactly however however however if you do what hashem wants at least you could fool yourself i'm i'm entitled but if if to begin with you're not doing what hashem wants and you're just wasting your time the thought that maybe i deserve or maybe i should get is absurd you're not following the guidelines you're not following the the the the conditions although let's continue inside [Music] but if god forbid you are distant from doing what hashem wants why do you deserve it and when you think about this idea that we just discussed in the last few lines howdy who you're aroused to receive the yoke of hashem through tell you don't feel it so basically in a nutshell what is he talking about here cabola and just for a moment to understand this a little better you know when a person i remember in yeshiva in yeshiva we had a seder right we had to learn let's say this and this this gemara and at these times etc there were some students who would come to learn but they didn't want to learn what the yeshiva is learning they wanted to learn their own seder or they came and maybe learned late at night but when it came time to be up in the morning at 7 30 when we began they weren't there they were sleeping they were up to one two three whatever so and and it could be that they knew much more than many of the other students but the other students had kabbalah soil i told you once that there's a uh alaba ashley in california rabbi engel may be well of long beach california at moshi yays of engle very fine yid he's been there from the early 70s he's been a trooper a big trooper so he studied the bulk of his years at the montreal chabad yeshiva so they i guess they they had access so someone saw once the the the book the little booklet of the masjid who would would check off if you came late you came early and he saw by his name the three four years that he was in the yeshiva there every day there was a check that he came exactly at 7 30. four years didn't miss a day another story our mashpee in marstown rabbi melaksevil allah so he wouldn't come 7 30 7 25 he was already in base madrid we would come 720 because he had a system he would he would he would allow you to ask questions in the mimer usually once per hour and a half because he had 70 buffering he had to attend to so he didn't want anyone to hug he didn't want one group of cafrusas to have the time so you know you got one chance and you know 10-15 minutes you stayed with him and he explained and you and that was it but my character and i we already had we had we had more questions that we needed resolved that one sitting wouldn't be enough so what did we do we used to come 720 before he came and we were learning so when he came 725 he would write down your name so at 7 40 when he started to kind of you know take the buck or admit to his table call him over he called us over usually one the first and then later on we got a second chance but my point being i'm bringing out the point that his uh meticulousness in coming on time and before time was exemplary and i remember it till today and that's why the sunday about three years ago the sunday one sunday he didn't he didn't show up at 7 30. so the bakr knew already if he's not here 7 30 he's not feeling well or or something you know and that sunday take he passed away around that time he had a heart attack and he passed away it was like if you can count on him this idea of counting on someone who who is called cabola soyo and cabola so you should know is the hardest thing it's much easier to be you know i had a havrusa just reminding myself in yeshiva in marstown who his head was so fast but he was so wild you know to get him to sit down was was was difficult but when he when he when we learned the material he was so much ahead of me because he picked it up so much quicker but he didn't have couple of soil and i i not that i i didn't have perfect couple of silver i had more cables here than him cabola soil is a hard avoider it's it's you know it's really army work clockwork you know and and this is a um a very fundamental teaching in tehran and in chabad yeshiva system especially and who in chabad were always uh lorded amongst the khasid and those who see them that had kabbalah soil so we're learning over here this mimer it's the same idea here he'll you can have someone who is very interested in learning and learns a lot but he's he picks and choose what he learns you understand he picks and what he learns then you have then you have someone who doesn't pick and choose you tell me this is the say there this is what i learned when i'm giving free time and i have you know i can choose whatever i want to find so this is what the rep is saying he's not talking here about to someone who's not interested in learning he's talking to someone who is interested in learning and he's saying that if you're really interested in learning don't choose and pick this you want to learn this you don't want to learn because that shows that your whole learning is selfish it's all about you not about hashem and again this becomes more of an issue when you're in the world of learning well let's say misfits you know the toyota tell teaches us that the doing of mitzvos should all mister should be alike right um altia shaco you shouldn't weigh mitzvah kala versus mitsubhamura a ling and it's a strange atmosphere over a lenient mitzvah you know all mitzvahs if it's the rats in hashem it's the will of god that's it who are you to choose yes but i i hear that i hear that argument about choosing but aren't there certain topics that first a person is going to find more interesting and certain topics will put someone to sleep you know i'm saying like okay there's certain things that you have to know that you're going to want to know because it's practical like shabbos like uh [Music] i mean it's something more likely to you'll be able to focus more on than something that's abstract and doesn't speak to you as much okay so again when you're given that right it's no problem and you give it and we're given that right but that's why i gave this long introduction this long idea that that when you're in a yeshiva it's not up to you to choose otherwise you're not part of the yeshiva you're an individual sitting in a study hall for that matter you could sit in any basement rich or you could sit at home if you're sitting in a yeshiva there's a sader of the yeshiva and you need to follow the sader otherwise you're not a yeshiva student so i was very i think i was clear in in what miss get it we're talking about okay so it's not a contradiction you know what i'm saying but but let's even take your example you say peop people need to know what to do they're interested in the shop as a sukkah and i can show you 10 people that are not interested in that and they're more interested in knowing about afsilas and about the psychology of the soul that turns them on and for sure non-religious people and even religious people just just what's going on here in the communities is that a lot of the young kids and girls are not interested anymore in the gemara missionaries but we talked to them about we talked to them about yavin what's the purpose of the shambha oh they say that's interesting i remember i was in monroe and curious joel you know with the sapphire have their community and uh i walked around to get it get a a feeling for the different rules and i was told that this i think i told you this once i was told there's a certain rule which is most interesting that i i would want to go visit the shoe so i governed earlier you know i dive in that an early minion so this way i i did all my before i had to go to my house i was able to make the rounds so i came to this school and as i'm about to go down into the basement i see a few fellas with long beards and i think and and capotes and the beckish's and they're talking and we got to talk and on the steps i told at that time i i i had written the book arab karol bach and they and they they they were very interested they told me and they listened and they said yeah we don't agree with with what's going on over here and and they were not interested they were not interested in davening i came into the show one was reading a newspaper one was playing backgammon one was drinking coffee and eating and the other one was david and schweith so it was a very interesting experience but what i did see also is that these people who grew up with a certain rigidity in a certain lifestyle a certain way they weren't they were more interested in in their arab slamism approach you know with nego name and stories so you cannot you know you can't say that uh everyone's interested in in in shabbos and sukkah doesn't work that way but anyway the discussion that we're having here is when there is a say there and you pick and choose let's say tisha bob is coming now i'll give you an example how many people have the patience to read all of kinners i don't it's it's i don't understand three quarters of what i'm saying so to really do it right you have to you have to stay all day in jewel with the translation and it's a lot of work and it's hot and you're hungry right but but cabela's soil a couple of soils you know at least till midday stay in school do your best what i'm saying is you follow it's not your father because you're a behemoth you know you don't know what's going on you follow because we have cupboard soil and if weak and if and if you and if one if we follow and we develop kabbalah soil it's a it's it's a very healthy thing it gives structure to life discipline and obedience and this is i don't know you know for me i find this the hardest avoid is cabola soil listening following you know that's hard and that's why the rebel mentions here let's continue and he says the lips of the wise are crowned with das jose das why since they engage in the idea of a voice make your heart be attentive to what ki hashem who eloly came that the youth kevof kay is the supernatural forces of hashem is elokim is the natch is it reflected in nature not that nature is on its own but rather that the nature itself is fueled by the supernatural so when you think about this and you make your heart be attentive to this idea then you're crowning yourself with dust with real knowledge leo visel now he goes back finally after three weeks to the beginning of the mimer [Music] and this is why when it comes to the afternoon service called min [Music] what does this mean in the moral it is yet when man roseach is boiling is passionate about all of his worldly affairs he's in the best years of his life working and not just working but rosaya you see that word jose means like boiling passionate and yet like i told you the word all immersed in worldly matters so this is called the minha days of your life there is the chakras days moshe buyers that's when you are a youngster a teenager yeshiva in college when you're still before your midlife then there is your midlife with minha and then there is the mire of life the evening life which is after retirement kind of your older years in your young years it's your it's before you're immersed in work you're you're educating yourself in your evening years avi has told us he learns about hashem around the clock he's more settled it's his you know slowing down but in the middle years you need to bring home paranosa you need to be involved in the world politics this that everything is more um boiling passionate we call those the mencha years [Music] next page it is at that time page 404 top of the page shuv you know when we have to do true verb we have to always do true though but when does truth account most your name now now because in the in the morning years and chakras years it's easier to do you chuva you're in yeshiva you're in college i mean saying you you didn't get started you don't have to make a living you don't have to raise a family when you're a grandfather my wife and i are having the best vacation in our lives six weeks no one's home we don't have to go to the mountains i have the best vacation there's so much parking here in borough park there's no noise we have air conditioning and bar hashem we have a little food and we have a vault because who has to run quiet you know well because but hashem my kids are grown they're all out you know that's the evening years but during the mid the middle years the minha years there's no vacation you're running to camp you're coming from camp visiting day packages um and it goes on and on right it's it's it's really like there's no respite because you have younger children so the minha years that's the crux of the the requirement for truva it's easy to do truva when you're young it's easy to trivial when you're older but during the medical years it's very tough because you have all the all the issues so the rabbit says that's why minha is where it counts and that's where yo navi was answered specifically because of minha because minka is symbolic of a tough avoid of the toughest avoider the hardest job continuing inside the zell milot filas this is the virtue of minh smack in the middle of the day two o'clock you you come on to learn how to see this you know the day i mean it's like what are your pens and ears you work you have responsibility no we take a break we'll learn exitus it's the middle of the day minha represents because the sunset already is considered from midday and beyond and and later the coyotes say yes so the question is how do i have the kayak [Music] here be careful in middle of your passion with what the asic with work um business yes it's during that time you should remind yourself about hashem the esparel and darwin [Music] to minneapolis and minnesota and he he went to see a professor the professor's name was velvet green some of you might have known him he later made aliyah he was a nasa scientist and uh he was he was later made aliyah he was a professor at uh at ben gurion university in bercheva and i knew him personally i invited him twice to marin county and we had long conversations he was a tired eat he didn't grow up from him in fact he grew up as a yiddish the bundest and he actually wrote through articles in the 50s i think in yiddish anyway in the early 60s i believe it was 64 or so rabbi mosher feller uh makes calls and says i'd like to see you and he says rabbi i'm too busy and he wasn't religious and he knew what i think he was from from from brooklyn i mean you know he he knew what the rabbis want somehow he let him come he says okay you can come for 10 minutes so feller comes to him and when he arrived it was a winter day and you know and he had he didn't have a min yet he's in his office and you understand this is this is time that this professor green velvet green ever it's very very he doesn't have much time he says professor greene please excuse me i need to dive i have to pray the afternoon i haven't done them the sun's going down and he stands up puts on his garter goes to the wall and darwin's mind green was a guest like outrageous but what should he say he's a little rabbi he's dominant to god what should he say and that's how he began his chuva because he thought about it and he said wow he don't care that i'm a nasa scientist because god is greater than a nasa scientist you understand so initially he gets so old you know worked up you're coming into my office on my time and wait and doing this but then he calmed down he said this man is real this person is the real mccoy because hashem tells him he has to pray he can be a friend to the president lahavnil in front of anyone and he's getting up and he's dabbling nothing's going to stop him and that puts something into his head that hashem is greater than science and that's how he became about teshuva with a long beard and his kids are habanics and and for any and not okay i'm saying but they're five from family developed a beautiful family it came from fellers minha you see the power of minha because you're in the middle of the day only and you stop what you're doing and the business deals i have to close the deal give me an answer right now sorry i have to dive in here i have a seer another i remember i was a mayor sheriff once coming out of mayor sherman going up to rojo jaffo it was a hot day i and there was a kiosk a little store so i went and i wanted to buy a drink just to have it it was a steep hill going up if you know that street it's called the bahrain bahrain street goes down from yafa over there and i don't know not sorry sorry whatever it goes down and so what no not in parallel to strauss this is in the heart of mayor storm coming out from the village we're coming out of the village anyway yeah yeah anyway whatever it is it's like going to the store and there's this husset or whatever and he's talking to another and they're talking and learning it's like wait wait and he's talking and talking and he sees me there i'm the only one in the store i wanna i bring a drink so after a few minutes i say i'm saying yes i'm childish excuse me i'd like to pay for this he says to me rabbit i remember this he says we are talking tighter now when we will finish i will take your money and sell you the water if you're not happy about that find another store and and and i didn't feel that he was being arrogant really i didn't feel that what i felt is that he's so he's so yes it's a store but the store is like he's about tighter and here he and his friend are talking taylor in the middle of the train you're gonna you're gonna disturb me for for a few um shekels to buy a drink again right wrong the point is that the time the mint time is when you're like you know you know you're you're you're passionate about whether it's business or pleasure or whatever it is and there you break away and you make time to dominate to learn that's the main credit and that's why leo was answered because this answers the question right what was our question what was the question of getting mine what's so special about minha that aliyah was answered only because of min khadev's question is why not shock her so my the answer is because then it's much easier but during again i heard this growing up from my father over and over and he worked very hard in the beginning he worked two jobs to bring home parnosa for us you know it wasn't easy it was a very very difficult thing for him to do and shabbos shabbos we would wake up and he would be sitting at the at the table learning lakuta torah out loud translating each word in yiddish to himself but during the week during the week when i was a a young teenager i wanted to learn things i used to learn from 6 30 in the morning yiddish foreign before he went to work because by seven he was out of the house already you know and at night he came home and we were you know children had to go to sleep so the hardest time is when you're you know in your youthful not youthful your mid life years and i i'm thinking about it that's why maybe maybe that's why this whole idea of a mid-life crisis mid-life crisis it's tied with milka you don't have you don't have a crisis when you're 20 years old i mean i'm generally speaking or when you're 70 years old the real crisis is in the middle years of crisis the mental crisis yeah no the you know and because people are like you know they know they have to work they know they have to produce they have a family they want to have a family this is the time when it really counts you know it's an hour it's these years because we're all i'm sure in my mind you know as i went as i'm finishing these years pretty much but i remember yet when i was younger i was 35 40 45 those years i said oh when i'll be 60 years old mr shem i hope to go back to learning like you know full-time or you know or 70 you know but you know now i'm giving myself over and and then i really want to go back to learning of course to teach and but the milk years are we need to produce so when you're when you're you're producing parnosa it gets very very um you get passionate about it and involved and to separate yourself to daven and to learn during these years that's when it counts and the rebbe says at the end reminder hashem in other words when hashem sees that you dedicate yourself during the day at two o'clock to 2 45 to learn to see this i'm not joking it's it's it's a real point you're really getting a big star i'm just saying it's it's a tremendous uh commitment to keep the middle of the day of sheer is the most difficult thing so with that uh we will learn tomorrow wednesday we won't learn and then there will be straight to shallow so there's a three week break um i have to get the exact date it meets hashem are you guys going on to yulin with your kids this this crayfish are you going to be doing that or or you guys are not doing that either i'm going to be around i'm not planning uh anything more than a day or two and moshe are you going out with the kids at all we're gonna right now we're planning to take a couple at least a couple day trips at least at least but you usually usually the the three weeks between tish above and l everyone goes out no yeah but yeah right now this is unusual i i'd be open to keep you learning what'd you say i hear you hila what you say moshe myers okay well you know let's see i mean one week i'm out i'm going down to the to pennsylvania so that week i'm not maybe maybe another week before here with corona there's a lot of variables it's not so simple it's still uh been uh the government's really you know clamping down a lot right right look we can look we can learn with ki rabbi dolphin like he says leo and we can learn among ourselves right okay okay let's let's let's see let's see uh but the wednesday we not allowed to it's already past midday for you so tomorrow will be tomorrow i'd like to talk about tisch above give a share maybe on tish above and some ideas have a great day everyone that's love take care bye-bye thank you so much