Mental vs Speech Rage - Feelings come when you're Egoless - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

learning now Tanya pay the cliff test we are on page lamid Zion La medzan the left hand column uh of page 72 Islamic Zion where is smack in middle of the page uh after the DOT the last thing that ever taught us in his explanation of how to humble yourself so that by humbling and crushing your own ego the Clipper the negative Force gets crushed and when the negative Force gets crushed then the light of the nashama can catch on fire it can get to you this was based on a teaching of the Tsar that a love that doesn't catch on fire you have to break it into splinters so too if you feel that you have a jaded heart and who doesn't feel that meaning they feel that nothing they don't feel anything they dab and they learn and they're like a stone there's no feeling that means you have a jaded heart what we call in Hebrew Tim tomb so Dalton says the reason why you have tintumalev is because not catching is not being caught on fire by your by your goof by your body and what does desire say what's the advice split to your body not to bring a bigger light it doesn't say that in this piece of Zyra it says Splinter the lock into pieces into little pieces will catch on fire the Nim show what's the moral desire says a goof at least a body that doesn't catch on fire to the light of the Soul you need to break it so it's a pretty much type of uh as we discussed in the previous year M but this at this point is the only way to get this this course goof of ours to catch on fire so in order to to and to Delta that episode and what is it that's blocking what's causing the blockage of my ship the blockage is caused by the clipper there is a clip in the world and the Clipper says you have a nice beer then you learn and you're dopping and you're a Gaba you're a great guy but I'm gonna block the light of your nishama to make make you catch on fire so that you have a feeling for God okay I remember Issa once uh spoke about the the something similar you know about the feeling so what we're learning in this chapter is that sometimes the reason you don't have a feeling is because is because because the Clipper there is Clipper in the world and the clip was blocking it was novelty in chapter 29 is that in order to get rid of the Clipper you have to get you have to get rid of your the self with the self your yourself will break the Clipper that's what he's saying over here why and he says the famous words three times on page on the previous page he heard the mouse he he or the monster he he or the monster mate this this is man himself what's the distance the truth is everyone's on the show and everyone is in the shama but the fact is that we're not living but gollywood we're living with the Goof we're living with the nebuchad bombies so if you break your nephew I.E you break your own ego that in turn will break the Clipper and once the Clipper will be broken then hashema's life will be able to come into your body out that ever said so how do I break the Clippers they said in two ways one way is by realizing that the clipper uh is who you are and you know it's like wait a minute I'm a clipper I'm God's gift to humanity I'm such a holy good guy I I can chuva I got rid of all my students well guess what you're still a stickle Clipper because you still have some me go and if and if you weren't on guard you would you would do forbidden things like that has it don't want to say hello a very big husband who I knew who told someone who told me this he said that if he didn't learn to see this when he would see a woman he would tear her apart meaning he would go after her like a like like a like a a lunatic like a nut like a like a grump junk like a H I do this concert this concert was hello turn off please turn off your your with yourself thank you but Uncle Bahama exactly he said it by himself because he knew he knew himself and that's what doctor ever wants here know yourself know yourself some of us are more tame we're like mules sheep and some of us are like Goring uh Bulls you know so sober is smart he's the best psychologist so he knows human psychology and Dr Edwards says you need to figure out your human psychology and realize that you are shyak to be the biggest behave that means you are a big behemoth and since we are big Bahamas therefore that itself should humble us humble us could you imagine someone as a Russia someone's a God or someone who's a rabbit whatever I don't wanna you know and he's always in control so if you know he's at Sadiq if if if if if if is it sadik which is a big if okay but if it's not exactly then he's a potential pain in the maybe he's an actual pain in the what does that ever teaches in Tanya that even a pain in these always has the urge and always has the control that means that if he for a moment lets go of The reigns but not sure he be his behema comes out another story just to bring out the point there was a there was a there was a discussion of 770 for who was going to be the a rough uh the next Rabbi of the community and there was one Russian custard who came from Prestige Lubavitch and everything and he was he was someone who knew Shas he knew Zaya I mean he was he had everything right and they voted him down basically at the meeting and he like got up and like stormed out of 770. I heard this I wasn't there so people said wow wow he still has an ego you understand under his big beard and under his cragging and under you know the ego is very very smart it dresses itself up in so many different ways you know the famous vert of the I think the Mickler ramp I wrote it in my book your better self I know Sahara with a sword asaph face up as a sword the gates are I never knew of that idea okay and I don't mean jedimal don't catch me by my words that I move but Yama can keep us through God so Dr ever in this chapter of all the chapters of Tanya you really really goes into this to show the US that we are a behemoth you understand so it's not you I I I'm also addressing now that this is not real Musser real mustard is like you know you're gonna burn says this verse for doing the Salvation that's not what he's doing here it's a psychological study of man and he wants to open up your head who are you and wake up so he has to show you in great detail who you are so he starts so the first thing it says that even if you're in control nevertheless you have the urge so that's who you are a behemoth number two he says sometimes not that God and that's who Hashem Hashem make you a certain way the next thing is you bring upon yourself to behem of I.E through sins of the youth are you masturbation Etc then he says you do other types of things and then he says um through um dreams through dreams and by the way I didn't say correctly or I didn't elaborate the the Tsar that it brings about dreams I'm in page on page has the first paragraph I'm sorry I'm Paige Lama Zion which speaks about the dreams a very short uh kind of from one period to the other period uh Paige Lama Zion he says that the Czar says that the sithrimpition the the kind of other side of the Clipper attached itself to you and lets you know in your dream Milling the alma so I said yesterday was negative things it's not that's not soap download means worldly matters so imagine imagine uh Avi you wake up in the morning and you have a dream I know that today I'm gonna have a flat tire you have a dream that you're gonna have a flat tire so now you get into your car you're gonna be so careful why you believe that God revealed him something to you in the dream is that bad is that bad no but it's not conducive a flat tire not a flat tire it's not kadusha unless unless you need to go to a sheer or you need to give a share or you need to go to visit someone in a hospital or give someone a ride so then having a flat tire not a flat tire isn't just meal in the alma worldly Revelations it's Jewish spiritual Godly Revelations but there's something called my shamilanda alma there right so that desire cover says that doesn't come from kadusha you know it comes from kadusha when you have a dream about Torah where you have a dream about mixes when you have a dream about helping someone else that's good just future prophecy the Market's gonna go up today the Market's gonna go down and therefore I'm going to either pull my money or invest more money thank you very much and the fact that uh one day I'm gonna give stuck from it sorry chap one day one day we will all be together right one day right now when the markets up or down you and that came to you in a Dream It's Melinda Alma it's a secular mundane idea it's not negative but Unholy so downtown ever says so number one many times we have these type of Dreams number two they get sometimes worse and they pain us that we spoke about that yesterday right where there's lies in the dreams and there's fear and the dreams and things like that the point being now today but why is it talking about dreams in this chapter the point that he's making is that look at yourself you want to see how far you are from Holiness what type of dreams do you have in other words again let's make this clear he's not telling you here to make an avoid of searching your dreams each morning or when you have your dreams to make an analysis and a study before you adopt a chakra so during chakras about my dream it doesn't say that saying that if you if you want to really assess who you really are and where you're at you can even take a look at your dreams and you will see that your dreams substantiate that you're a behavior okay what's the point the point is all of this is to Humble us today now we're going to learn the continuation of that thought so we know already which meditations okay you want to know what should I meditate and think about to humble myself down to that ever gives us their three points is is is passionate about and even if you're in control and that's you number two your sins of the youth masturbation and even things that you've done stupid to he says even if you've done sugar for the masturbation and other things later but by God things are above time so the masturbation of 18 years old still haunts you today at 65. and if you don't do true but today it's 65 for the masturbation of 18 you did shuva for the masturbation of 18 Till 65 but today is a new day and you're alive and you aren't doing chuva for it again by serving God in a proper way and and eradicating that type of behavior then today you didn't do true before yesterday you did yesterday you did and that answers much a good question of yesterday with Nila Nila Yom Kippur is yesterday today it's the day after Yom Kippur it's like I told you an example comes after she was we were flying high amida Silas with one with God the moment you finish someone that's where you back down to earth you got a bang or sham the Bugatti it's a new situation so therefore it's not a contradiction you did shoot and you did a great truth but today is a new day and then the third point out that ever made was about your dreams so now let's see let's continue La medzayan about 10 lines on the top after the period the longer you will contemplate look at the word yariya from the word long you will spend more long time thinking about these things in your thought it doesn't say the deeper that's one of the differences maybe between breslin's emphasis is and thought breast lift the way it seems to me is more but deeper okay that's an aside Point either right wrong it makes no difference let's go further the Gam bino you should look into swara look at the word the eunai even it doesn't mean just a couch potato reading like I like to call it unit means you should study it and sweat it get into a safer and study very well this is not just I read a little bit I get tired I fall asleep the phone rings my wife needs me my kids need me that's not serious learning so if you want to really tackle this issue you have to spend time on it by understanding who you are which today we would call that good therapy I don't mean necessarily have to go to therapist I mean really understand yourself right and the universe water make sure you look into the right sweater you're going to look up you're going to look up these things in Heretics books you're going to get heretical views that's why it's so important to have a a from psychologist a psychologist a psychiatrist or even if they're not from but they're on the right page as far as God's concerned you know I remember once someone had a excellent not Jewish uh therapist Park Slope is a section here in Brooklyn a yuppie section she was excellent excellent for the issue at hand we didn't she was she wasn't gone we didn't go to her because of uh you know Judaism there was a particular issue and she knew that field so I don't want to I don't want to um exclude Professionals in their field as long as it's not antithetical to Theta so Dr Debra says for him you look at this foreign [Music] animalistic type of life so by doing that in other words by realizing that I have ego on some level and that I have done these issues in the past and my dreams aren't great how they position that's the way you humble and you embarrass the situation negative side um you lower it to the Earth Abram why does he say the word um because we learned earlier the clip was like an eagle who soars on high with its eagle so it's magbia right Source High Like an Eagle I'm On Top I'm flying I'm all over you I'm a drone man you guys are little midgets and nitpicks down here below and I'm on top of you you know the famous uh lying the truck is in front of you on the on the on the Palisades or the uh New Jersey um Turnpike Wherever You Are and you're saying you you slow truck get out of the way let me go by and you go by and he rolls down in Windows and he said he bounced the horn you know I used to go on I was like boy I used to go like that and they would hunt their horn on the turnpike and he says maybe I'm slow but I'm ahead of you might be slow and Goofy but it's ahead of us it's soaring on high says through this activity in this meditation we push it down oh my spirit of the offer we dump it down to the floor to the Earth down you go you you arrogant SOB excuse the expression and you lower it from it's greatness the gospels and its ego centered uh spirit and its exaltation exalted stations that it it rises over the uh the Holy Light of the nephew so what did we do yeah what do we do we slap it down so when we when we this is the answer when we humble our ourselves when we humble ourselves we Crush automatically the sithra because as Dr everybody proposed and taught us into the other page in this chapter he he or the maximally we are living right now with so we are a piece of so when we humble ourselves we have Rihanna once we humble the silver honey go solid goes into the lob into the Goof and it ignites us and we have a feeling so in in in in in in psychological words what is the cause for the lack of feeling ego if this is my understanding if you you know of in in today's contemporary words what is the cause why we don't have feelings or enough feelings for Hashem even though we're doing the Mitzvahs and learning and helping or on the right path of God the answer is because somehow there's ego there and my friends ego has so many forms I can't tell you it's it's just rare do you find someone who doesn't have ego who's worked out and dumped out their ego ego gets in in so many different ways in the name of Titan the name of hasidus in the name of her rabbit in the name of the God and the name of Heritage Road at the end of the day it's all I my opinion I my opinion you know here that's that's the reason for the blockage you want to know why you have a blockage are you having a shovel you just stopped he just learned Ashley a fortune is man that sits in the house of Hashem you were in the house of Hashem this morning you dive into the shoe you come out sure you start eating then you start and you go to work and all of a sudden it's like you didn't dive and you didn't learn you're feeling your feelings that you had dissipate so Downton says the reason is because the ego is blocking so break your ego huh it's easy said something I understand therefore you got to be Myra you gotta take time now naturally who has the time every day to do this but Thursday night this time it was the Sun at this time I said excuse me tube at this time you keep it this time you know and yeah you know I want to say this is Cedars okay we're all consider one one of the one this this cause this is a recipe of the valetania there's other recipes but there's no shortcuts there's no shortcuts you know if this is what you want this is what you get you want another path choose another path but this is his path you need to take time to realize who you are and when you realize who you are so many things will fall in place you know I think about people who are you know look for counsel and advice and I ask myself what am I going to say am I gonna say what's good for me in a subtle way or am I going to try to find what to say what's good for them and completely forget about myself in the conversation you know that it's very hard to do it is so hard to divest yourself from the advice and counsel given to others and it's so easy to convince yourself that you're giving objective of advice when it's really subjective of some level that's ego and and the truth is a good counselor a good therapist a good Rabbi a good mashpia Etc is someone who's more and more able to divest himself or herself from having an ulterior motive on some level when giving the advice you know it might not be here it might not be today but maybe you know on the back of my mind it's like you know if I say this to this person and they're going to act upon it in 20 years from now it's going to be beneficial for my kids that's ego that's not pure that's an agenda it's about you not about him or her you're not really counseling that you're counseling yourself so this idea about terebe here is very real it's not you know capitalistic and Hasidic and and you know this is a real issue in daily life of the altered and that's and that's why you either feel or you don't feel because what is a Feeling a feeling means a genuine feeling not a feeling that's about myself it's not genuine it's them ego you want to feel Hashem you want to feel God you want to feel the truth you want to feel the truth you have to and I want to use the word that other religions use empty movements empty yourself out it's Hillary probably knows what I'm referring to you know you have to empty yourself out dump yourself out in in the terminology of Chabad see this people this professor uh PhD at Emory University a good friend of mine told me he's writing a book about Bittle years ago I say Tim Don why are you writing the book a bit too because he he got it he says teaches one thing without Bittle there's no relationship with Hashem it's a relationship with yourself so therefore we have to try to find the academic language to express the concept of Bickle Bittle is the number one thing and that by the way moisha when you come into a vibration sometimes clever and you hear one cause of jiding another one or one buffer you know kind of giving it to another buffer and like leveling him you know the the the style is wrong because the previous episode you should you shouldn't you shouldn't poke your D your sharp nails into them so the style is not right but the message is right the message is right get rid of your ego right so maybe the way I'm doing it is you know ugly right and I'm not condoning that it's wrong but the message the the message behind the method of style that's a correct one get rid of the eagle let's continue now Dr never says something very profound until now we said you you have to recognize that you're an Africa now doubt that ever says wait a minute I have another way to deal with this issue the truth is you're an officially kiss you're a sweetheart your God God loves you I love you you're the best the particular the holy badiction when you can't do any wrong you're God's child but there's one problem you got enough for shabamis who's a troublemaker so what do you have to do you have to get the necessarily kiss your nephew Shirley kiss to shout in makshaba doesn't you'll see Dr Robert doesn't mean here shout at him with words but in thought shout them out and Bully him down sorry for using that word bully him down I mean to say is give him a good zest let's see what he says look at the lid also yarim comes from the word like a Thunder Thunder against the Netflix with a a sound it doesn't mean a physical sound it means a mental sound of thunder and anger LA spiela to lower the nephew bombers says I'm not making up any stories one should always a man should constantly anger storm his Gates says rig Zoo storm and anger against it the high no lyrics to anger yourself over the beneficial bomb is yeah so who are we talking to now here we're talking to Hebrew to them officially kiss until this point we were talking to the nephilis Obamas that you are enough as Obama's now we're talking about the nephew keys and we're saying to nephe Chile kiss look at this heaven [Music] five terms you are bad you are wicked Michelle gets your shag it's you know the disgusting Uma so ever you're despicable oh man novel and you're uh deplorable enough five terms to express one idea you're a real jerk you're real bad okay says these names I didn't make them up you find them in that are that are addressed the Yates so someone is means that we really mean it no that ever learns different shot the 10 percent is supposed to say what does that mean later and Tanya down to them at the end will bring the Muslim of the design of the prostitutes hired by the king to tempt the son the King's son to see if the King's son is loyal to the King right so both The Prostitute and the and the King know that it's a game there she has no interest in in tempting this kid she has no interest to him she's being paid to do a job so she does her job but she don't care one sec moisture one sec so the naked is says the truth is from on high Hashem knows that the Yates are her up is in his work very bad really bad on high it's like the king and the prostitute knowing that it's only a game and and and to test the kid the son of the king but the son of the king doesn't know that the son of the king thinks hey there's this gorgeous woman there is a prostitute wow I got an opportunity to be with her and all that right so as far as he's concerned it's real says when he comes to us he means business he doesn't look at himself at that time hey I'm doing God's work no no that's a husband for the necessarily kiss and for God but from the perspective of yatesahara he's really doing the job he wants to screw you excuse me he wants to mess you up he wants to give you problems that's why Dr Debbie uses the word behemus at the Russia business let's go further I must say it is how much longer will you conceal God and the pervading the world in the past few present the future equally God right here where I am on Earth God is here and you're consuming that come on just as God was before pre-creation believes from shinoy there's no difference creation and non-creation before and after it's all the same but because it says I am God I don't change because God is above us you deplorable thing you deny the truth that's it's that scene to All Eyes just opened their eyes there's nothing before God is in actuality that you see yourself okay we'll stop here and tomorrow with ambush's help hope to finish the painting any comments or questions yes hello I just want to mentioned I I did I looked up yesterday we had a question about the parade yes my question has been my question has been whether uh a beta name could ever be called Emma Damita yes so is very interesting so I wanted to get your comments on it so uh so the designer says look Abby madriguez obtaining him I cracked a build a Tama the MS love me too so I wanted to just really uh Plumb your understanding of this word oh Thomas so the the um the consider Smith awareness says foreign even though the love of Hashem of abandoning that I I'm not sure what he means by hamala here it's not at the higher level of Ms the feet uh because it's nonetheless called avadas MS uh right through the simple meaning of MS hyenosha it doesn't have uh doesn't have false qualities of it so at the moment that it happened it's Ms but it's not em as well Mito in the sense so we've been talking about that it's about I would say that the phrase means an enduring truth or a sustaining right and that's the level of the pastors I think the answer would be no but you know believe that if I find the safer here I want to see it inside you know I'm sure they're renovating now so I don't know if they'll have the Swarm but I I would like to see it inside and then comment intelligently so we'll have to so this word Tama avoid avoid this time a sincere wholesome avoida but sincere uh like like there were times yeah yeah but right but the question is if the the level of Ms qualifies for Tama or is it only Emma slamite that's Tama I think even Ms is Tama anyway let me let me yeah it would seem to me that's what he says yes yes yes [Music] okay have a great day everyone see everyone tomorrow as I guess bye bye take care