Maamar Zochor 1934 #6- There's hope to breaking bad habits and behavior - Mind over Matter

hilo has to share with us what it was like in kaaba this morning oh uh it was it was a deck i did not come away uh disappointed thank god so the this year we have 60 days of simcha as you know and the rebel always when he spoke about this he mentioned the concept the halakhah says in the laws of basil milk and you know one drop of milk in a pot of 60 times as much meat or soup flake soup is bottle it's called the bitter sheep bottle basician the rebel would point out that any anything god forbid that's negative for a jew or jews are bottled this month because they're 60 days of simcoe so that's the uh the kayak of this but we're going to return to our mimer and uh we are on page 142. 43. thank you eva here is talking about this idea of indulging in three types of waste chamanto cosiso avisa and cosiso you have you have fattened yourself you have thickened yourself and kind of you have rejected and created uh uh you know a distance and that ebb explained that it all begins with not the powell i want to clarify this again maybe i didn't do it enough yesterday it doesn't begin with what is the particular issue you're indulging in no it begins in the psychology it begins in the mindset what is the mindset of someone who is an indulgent person that ever says his mindset is i am very satisfied with myself and very happy about myself and without me the world wouldn't be able to be and it ever says it's from this mental attitude that everything else follows which falls in line with the altar in tanya the charlotte al-aleigh if someone asks you moshe what is the nakuda of tanya okay and i would hope that people in the asia code should ask you this question what would you answer this is the answer the answer is the answer of simcha is not the true answer the balchampta was all about simcha rabinacham of bresliv is about the which we began learning today through 34 talks about simcha as the necessary ingredient to serve god but he explains it in a very different way than wade of nachman of breslift and lukewarm explains it it's totally different it's more in the line of chabad in other words let's analyze the situation and let's focus and meditate and and realize that this is not who you think you are and this is who you are and what's going on it's like it's not just writing quoting a verse and saying jump to this verse or believe in this verse or let me articulate the verse a little bit but but there isn't deep thought not that god forbid classification i'm not saying that but the style is a very different style anyone that learned and then and those swarms and he learns a piece of tanya it's it's two different styles okay and it's not better or worse just two different styles absolutely what completely completely different complete it's night and day yeah night and day yeah i got to get i got to get to you guys my book of chabad and breast lift somehow i got to send them there so you guys would appreciate it yeah i'd love to see that yeah i have a question um yes uh related to the daily learning of tanya um in on the uh a leap year cycle because um it seems to me that um that there are these much longer sections in the leap year so that uh say than in the regular year right i'm wondering if that's just like because i'm doing it so early in the morning that i'm just i can't face three pages but okay okay but i i was going to tell you i'm not going to tell you the answer because you could figure it out yourself but let's see let's see if marshall knows the answer moshe okay so hello dolphin correct me if i'm wrong for the leap year there's one day a week there's a long a very long portion but the other days a week if you look you'll see the divide into very short very short very short portions behind it so i okay so i believe the i believe because that it's designed or in in theory that during the week of the weekday the six week days you have a short portion and that is uh the correct explanation heard that from uh rabbi uh rabbi yoshua gordon yes but but it but this year doesn't come out like that no i don't think so oh because hillel it's the cycle is based on 1943 when the hyoid was written by the rebber at that time the previous river for the purpose of where he wanted to give every day the gita section that's the cycle that he used that year 1943 and if you look it up in a calendar you'll see at 1943 it came out of shabbos the long section came out of shabbos okay yeah so that i just as an aside i want to say something i heard recently uh uh that helps that answers my question and um there was a fascinating uh um youtube video with robert y jacobson and with one of the world's leading trauma researchers a man named bessel vanderko out of one of the one of the universities in boston and uh so ambassador vandal cook uh described himself as uh that he said i was born in 1943 which was the darkest year in the history of humanity uh and he was i think he's dutch or belgium uh belgian and that he went his family was displaced by the war and they went back um they went back to a village to rebuild uh and that there were a number of jewish families in the village so he grew up amongst amongst jews who had just come back from the camps and so on so very very moving and fascinating uh thing done um sponsored by a new organization out of detroit called fresh start which is some kind of a resource center for people for jews who've been abused uh abuse survivors we're trauma survivors so i just you said 1943 and i i thought boy you know fascinating he called it the darkest year in the history of humanity and that was the year that uh that that they uh put out that organization of learning the tanya like a little lightning in the darkness yeah yeah so anyway that's the reason for that going back to the nakuda so what is the essence of tanya that the mind has the ability and the alternate adds even a word of chapter 12 that told us genetically to control the heart so don't tell me you can't control yourself you can't you don't want to you don't want to but if you really want to you can control yourself okay so in regard to what we're learning now chamanto uh or visa it all begins with the self it all begins the way you see yourself if you see yourself as the center of universe and you have that arrogant pride in you then what follows is indulgences because indulgences just enhance you and that also brings about jealousy not in other my mom that we've learned i refresh your memory the previous that ever taught us where there's someone who can even be kind of jealous and upset that his own wife and children have why because he's so so self-centered that he can't even afford them to have even though they're his own flesh and blood but they're not they're not his flesh and blood he is closest to himself to quote the gemara adam karov that's a lot to me [Applause] a man is close to his child his wife atel osmo so since it says lots more therefore the way you feel about yourself and think about yourself and you to yourself just to yourself that's the way everything else falls into place and my just and i don't want to go into this just as an aside that explains what i sent you yesterday an article you asked before where the woman says you know she was a she's a good she was a good basiaco major she girl to the outside and then when she benched lived and she was to herself she felt her humanity was lost because she was abused you're to yourself that's when you know the truth both in these issues and in healthy issues so that every here you know makes a point because it's interesting you don't find this type of discussion other my muram here he's because usually it talks about what are you indulging in abc why and all that here he goes back to the cause of indulgence and the cause of indulgences is because you consider yourself so special that you you have a right to do what you want like you're a sec caviar got to but you're like a second god and since you're a second god therefore you can do what you want so this is the cause and from there we have the three positions of shamanto because oh no he calls that the position of shamanto you fatten yourself a visa then he goes to the second cell 143 avisa says this position this belief this ideology this ideology of vegas makes you thick and he says it's a freedom quite nick grub humility it makes you course corporeal unless they're lost it doesn't allow any sense any feeling one second of my show of spirituality to be felt why because you take everything in a grub way you know there are people it reminds me just one second it reminds me of i told you this years ago but it's someone of your khan was giving a sheer cities here in borough park and it was talking about silas and bria that the four worlds and someone in this sincere way raise his hand he says where can i find that silas uh i would have answered go into sears and pay five dollars you'll get silas the whole question is absurd what do you mean where can you find that syllabus find yourself and then you find yourself you'll find that seedless either you will or you won't well i i say this because the rapper says here look at this he says here he's bereft of the herges why because everything he does and the way he approached everything is grub in other words not only in grub things and coarse things even in unison and things that are davening and learning he goes about in a grub kite and this by the way just between us this was a major uh thought process by hasidim was this idea that within your hasidism don't take it in the global way and if you're taking it in a grubble way you're missing the boat marshall you wanted to say something then hilla yes yeah i just wanna just just going back just to understand the the word in yiddish so freedom kite to free the word so freedom means happy say fleeting kite the kite is like yiddish kite okay okay can you can can you explain to find what is the ski the right what do you want no yeah just i'm sorry hello excuse me no this is rabbit so just in this context in the sentence which means course what no so what what what makes what makes that's a that's a free the happiness that he's happy with himself remember the avisa moshe of avisa follows the word shamanto which it literally means fat right right right the rabbit that's that's a fried kite one second one sec now he says this to frida kai with yourself makes you grub so so avisa is already the result of shamanta you got it yeah yeah yeah you said what yes and you have a better way of saying it you're satisfied he's identified with himself satisfied with himself okay good hillary uh so first thing i wanted to say was how remarkably similar this process of chamanta avita sisa sounds to the development of heart of heart disease you know they talk about uh fat floating in the blood system and then it and then adhering you know uh uh to the to the to the vessels and constricting the the the vessels and then eventually a harder episode god forbid is like uh uh is like uh cassis it covers over the heart so you can't uh you can't access it you can't get your heart rate going excellent excellent i like that i like that hero now this is great great muscle great the other thing i wanted to say was um a story i just i read on shabbos that you reminded me of with the question about silas i think it was the divrechaim of sans then at chalichitis once he was in a certain uh the vegas dikka place and he started coughing so his son brings him a cup of tea so the rabbit says to his son he says they're not silas they don't drink tea and the sun says and it seals they don't cough either so he drank the tea that was the proper response it's all the paradigm the perspective you know by the way the alternative says in nigeria kurdish my talks about ghanaian he says you know and yaakov joseph smelled ghanaian when he went into the room over there so dalton ebba says she writes in a letter that i believe it's there he says that's that's a perspective in other words you can live and feel donating in your house if you have the gandhidin energy present if you created it now yes is there a physical place called the bay san miguel acai we don't discount that but don't let that limit you to feeling the presence you know that reminds me of something else i should tell you in the early years in 1950 51 of the rebbe's leadership so one of the things that hasidah saw in him that he said is that he went to his father-in-law's gravesite the ohio to pray on behalf of people who requested him and that wasn't a smooth sailing it took a while for him to accept that and and you know but that was one of the things in other words that we the sydney felt that he sees the previous cerebra as a source and he sees himself as connecting to his father-in-law at his gravesite and the language that the rebbe would answer people both in writing and verbally was askier al hatseyan ayan hey ditto sadiq you'll see that many times in letters i will mention you oscar is alex but it's al hazil so sometimes there'll be an oliver front sometimes not anyway so someone asked the writer you didn't go to the oil this week how could you answer me ask her i'll see you also the rabbit somebody asked did so he says i already mentioned you this week at the ohio i'll see you so he said remember you didn't go to this week you didn't go to the ohio and the rapper said to him it was in my room there is alexio literally standing in queens at the old hill and there is alexio if you make that the reality of your life in that situation and you're that type of person and and that refined it's in your room in 770 on eastern parkway now it's you know you have to be uh you know you have to be a sadiq and a person okay let's continue so that's why he says chavisa is because you didn't create uh you you because you are satisfied with yourself like davidson said therefore you're corporeal and course be there until he becomes god forbid that i'll cease the third stage and now he explains what kasisa means what he means that it covers the seiko hanushi so hila what i want to add to to to what you said earlier it's not just a cover-up of the truth it's a cover-up of gama and what's the point here of rum logic dictates live life be normal be healthy be happy when you lose your sacral your human intelligence forget it you know things go bonkers and everything is topsy-turvy upside down says that ever that the satisfy satisfaction that you have for yourself leading to coarseness ultimate leads that even human intelligence not godly intelligence human intelligence logic is lost it's covered and when that's covered everything goes out the window because the dictates of logic what is proper and what is not don't apply that's what he says is the meaning of casiso and yiddish again the hebrew word that it covers and ultimately he falls into all evil not just indulgences that are permissible let's continue what we understand from all this is that the lack of avoider of service of work is the reason why humbly is corporeality overpowers his gabriels and the overpowering of corporeality causes one to lose some god forbid any and all good feeling of spirituality is lost in that cover-up coming because of the coarseness caused by the self-satisfaction they feel until god forbid you become the person becomes a yo raid your reader descends with neuffer and falls okay now um however went from time to time he has an arousal in everything that he does exchange somehow he wakes up in the morning and he says what i'm doing is so contrary to what hashem wants it's a thought that comes into him guess what hashem just sends it he didn't earn it in fact his seijo lanushi his human intelligence is covered but somehow it comes the extra who saw nui the milo sondheim by libertaculus very very strong language he realizes how he's hated from above absolute this is such a strong language wow not what shot he's hated what he's involved with is such a hateful disgusting and it's contrary to hashem when when one realizes at that moment this is the position of god towards me because of what i'm doing he becomes bitter miss marmare the word murderer frustrated show of la chamberholi and he does truva completely overly they darker avoiding that he starts working on himself ook sieve and it says one second please the shove he does truviv and he's healed yes mushroom yeah i'm i'm sorry to bring us back for a second yeah um i can't help but think when you when when we just learned this just now that he becomes bitter this is his behavior is hated it becomes bitter but no no no no my my no he when he realizes that what he's doing is hated he becomes bitter in the sense of frustrated than he does truva [Music] uh uh okay okay so never mind what i was gonna okay now maybe what you're thinking of the alternative says in in the mind of anili dodi in in the couture we also learned in the past there is a situation in a time where you're so thick and you're so lost that that you don't feel the call from heaven telling you get out of your rut and do chuva here here that ever saying the previous lap is saying that although he's so cut it's so covered he's so coarse from time to time he can feel a sense of awakening to to stop so therefore he becomes frustrated and and he realizes that what i'm doing is disgusting and he becomes upset with himself it can get even worse but you don't you don't even feel that he doesn't discuss that here he discusses it over there briefly in that mind but here he's talking about where he that he does have a marie root feeling a regretful feeling you hear unison regret you know what i would say this is analogous to hebrew remember in tanya in chapter 11 altered speaks about russia vetovlo and russia viralia i would say this is the russia victoriavloy and guess what we're all in that category unless you're a banany if any of you obey me i don't please forgive me i didn't mean you we are russia vertov lawyers with the potential of bani right so what's the rush of a table nothing ever says there in chapter in chapter 11. he says that what it is is what it is is i messed up now but from time to time i say i gotta get out of it that's what he says here here he just puts it in these graphic words where you know no one's gonna say hey i'm hated by god no i'm not hated but when we when we do something that's shanta shamanto or visa because that action is hated and disgusted yeah with your yarmulke and your beard and everything else in your shoe but in that area you you you meet the guidelines the difference is that we say if so i don't want to be there i'm going to do chufa and and what does it say at the end the shove the ruffle he returns the raffle law and is given healing okay everyone yes you're innocent two things um normally friends like common sense the common sense you know he loses his huge common sense common sense tells you that you have to do certain things in a certain way and and because of because of the driver or his feelings completely you know he doesn't have to look at the common sense as he usually is like you said intellectual or human intelligence right right okay and what's the other thing my mail [Music] correct but but i understand but remember it's it's on on paper it's very easily said but imagine in real life you know it's it's not an easy avoider because if you're if you're if you're so i'm gonna use the words if you're so sick in this area if you're so so insensitive so grub to to get out of that is very hard so it takes a a a realization that the situation is no good so that's why the business comes that's right that he's fighting to get out yes he wants to do something about it yes and that's why i say that that's why it's a step above or in its own category versus someone who's a rush of virality his personality and behavior there's no fighting because they don't care anymore we'll see everyone tomorrow today have a great play designers of bye-bye thank you thank you