Maamar Zochor 1934 #3- Why do we get bored w our Service of G-d? Bc we don't pay attention to G-d

so good morning we're learning the maya mazaka malik from 1934 what was set in vega uh we're on page 143 um we're on page 143 yesterday's year that ever spoke about actually i take that background page 141 the new paragraph apple the emmis but just a recap in today's year's continuation of yesterday that ever speaks about here he speaks about the idea of the nether shabbamis how it uses its good part to lull a person into typhus and this as we said yesterday is a very very uh subtle approach but yet it's devious it doesn't tell a person go and like the mother says go serve idols and go be uh take your beard over your yarmulke if i need treyfus no it tells you where your beard with your yarmulke but look when you eat enjoy the food you're eating and that yesterday we had a big discussion here and said about this afrom was asking and we responded and i said i elaborated and said that this is really the way what i know of this is like unique what we call avraham in chabad and uranus is very familiar with it we call this the aveda of iscafia you've heard of the word escafi avram is kaffir or sometimes pronounced with a tough it kafiya it's an aramaic word it means in english it means to subjugate to control yourself from the hebrew the hebrew would be lacuff lakuf and this chabad over the centuries the 200 plus years of the chabad movement has been a big deal anyone that's a real yeshiva booker and yeshiva knows about a scaffold whether they do it or they don't they're successful or not there's ups and downs as we all have in life and i said you're innocent that really all muslims forum are full of you know the idea of pro holding yourself back from taibus so what's the difference between this view of this kafiya and musaswaru so i said musa's forum comes from the angle of musser that if you give in to your titus you will be punished this way and this way and burned this way and this won't you know there's a negative twist and negative association and it's also necessary because sometimes unless you know you're gonna get a ticket for passing it through a red light or driving fast you're gonna continue driving fast as i could be as i can give testimony but when you get caught and you have to spend a half a day in a courthouse they schlep it out so you miss a day of work and then they give you a fine of several hundred dollars then you know oh boy when i drive again on this highway i'm gonna go to the speed limit and that's really a way that most people are you know it's not that we're bad or you know ugly or but it's just a matter of uh of habit no good habits and and giving in and giving in that's the point giving it so mussar uses that you know you're gonna remember you're gonna end up wasting a day of work not if it was not wasting but not going to work you lose pay for that day and you'll end up paying a fine so like it'll be a twice a bammy you know a whammy excuse me it'll be like a dub a double punch into your face see this doesn't come from that perspective see this doesn't come from that perspective citizen general balchemtoph the teachings of and in particular particularly uses the mind let's rationally look at the argument why indulging titus is good and let's see why it's no good and let's see what the truth is that it's really horrible this approach especially coupled with his abundance reflection and meditation hashem's awesomeness and greatness and everything else changes the the the paradigm the moa the live that's the theme of the tanya in those few words since naturally a person has it within himself to control their typhus their levi so although when the person is born into the world and is surrounded by typhus it's a tough job nevertheless if you will use your mayak and live with your thinking everything over and and and being thoughtful you will succeed in conquering the live in a way that's that's positive you won't transform the lev that's the avoid of assadic the altered says in tanya the avoid of a bananee is to control the heart the painting does not transform the heart a banana is adulteration chapter 12 and 13 in tanya there are so always there and it's always ready to come back and pick its ugly head up again and and disturb us that's what he says there what is the avoidable to control yourself but from the perspective and using the tool and the instrument of mayakh and and and this isn't just a logistical difference between musser and and siddhis emphasizes the positive and muslim emphasizes the negative it's a qualitative difference it's a whole different approach so the quality and the approach the mindset is very different than each this is what the rabbit does and this mimer when he talks about amalek he talks about the nephew shabbat he says that there's something called the beneficial bombings the goodness of the nephew obama's what do you mean look at this obama's jainism i thought the deficit obama is a troublemaker that explains that we're not that's for sure that if the troublemaker part of the nephesh obama is a void but even the good part what enough obama says like avrom asked us yesterday it's shabbos let me have pleasure from the meat and wine from sleeping comes along say this and says that's good but it's the good of the neferja babies why because it's not you're enjoying it because it's shabbos and it's only for shabbos you're enjoying it too in that scenario because you want to enjoy you want to taste good food says siddhis yes like abram said we're supposed to as it says owning but the only shabbos is don't forget that last word that's the key word own it shabbos not only otzmi only goofy the we're simply mixing up the two ideas and most people do this we convince ourselves that the chunk we eat and the sleep that we do and everything else that we do is for hashem and it could quite well be it's for your own palate than your own typist so see this says don't throw out the baby with the water throw out the water and leave the baby tight look shabbos feel shabbos and if you really feel shabbos then you won't eat and sleep like a glutton and an animal you'll eat and sleep like a human being and a holy human being and it's a different quality on sharpest itself on the contrary of rome the shabbos makes your eating a sleeping very different you know i always observed i'm sure jameson did too the red hat a fabregan right so the rebber would come to 770 shabbos morning 8 30 or so okay 8 39 from his house during my years in the 70s and 80s and then he would learn before davening i guess and then he would come down to davening 10 o'clock he would go back up 12 to 12 30 after davening he stayed in his room and then he came down to the fabrega at 1 30 and he made kiddish um i i believe he had a a drink in 770 in a thermos they always had a thermos that the rabbits and kaya mushrooms yard side was this past week sent to 770. so in the pharmacy it had hot water i don't know if you know but the rabbit didn't use a stove on shabbos did you know that the rabbit did not it seemed like trust the the the the the shabbos stuff for whatever reason the reason you know truth i don't know if he didn't trust he didn't use one now maybe because his stove in his house which i saw and everyone saw when you were in his house and we passed you know we dive in there for shiva in different times the earth's titan you could see it was a 1930 1940 stove maybe you felt that's not that's not uh half of the acceptable shabbos i don't know so the rabbitson would would pref prepare for the reb i think hot soup in a thermos and also um hot water i believe and he had some of that hot water um shop this morning whether he had some missonis before davenink um i heard two opinions one i always thought the answer was yes and more recently a friend of mine said that he heard from rabbi klein one of the other secretaries that he that the rebber uh did not eat before davening you know how logically according to strict childhood you shouldn't be eating anything before darkening the the hector given is that if you won't be able to dive in properly you're allowed to taste something right that's what it says but um you know i could see the rabbit not accepting that no no no it's not not accepting it the rabbit not needing that for his you know service of hashem yes maisha you wanted to ask something yeah just when you when rabid elephant when you mentioned the rabbit didn't trust the stove i assume you're talking about that obviously i assume that you're talking about having set up some sort of a black that is uh right that's i'm just clarifying yes yes yes yes again but i i want to say i didn't hear this from anybody so and i don't believe the rebels said so but that would be correct so see imagine a person come is up early comes you know to 7 70 8 39 davin's and it goes back to his room at 12 30 has a half a 45 an hour to four to half an hour you know in in 770. who knows if he made kiddus there also in this room who knows and then comes to the fabrega at 1 30 innocent and it's 1 30 you're pretty hungry by this time right so i always noticed you know how much so there was a platter of cake on the table and wine they ever made kiddish right and after he made kiddush we we signed a negan and then he and then he and he said hi to people and then he started to give his first secrets first 12. that was the way it was in my days in at fabregas how much cake did he eat from that plate he ate literally the shear the amount of just enough to make an after brother and and you could see the way he took out it was amazing you could see him i was not so close i was far but you could see he took out like he took out a piece of cake one usually one piece of cake that was like this big right so it had the shear or brock ocarina and for the next three four hours he ate that piece of cake all of it or not all of it i'm not sure and that's it and he made a bracha right now that was every single fabregan every single fabregan including the shabbos fabregans so if i bring it didn't finish to four or five o'clock pretty much he didn't eat from when he got up which i'm sure was early five six in the morning till four five six in the evening okay now as you'll see that was a bit sad yes but there's a message here and the message is that you can have a little piece of cake and that cake sustains you and it becomes thai nook shabbos that's what i'm i'm i'm i'm i'm i'm i'm sharing these details for you because i'm from you spoke about you know tainak shabbas so after hearing the the order of the rebel shabbos you would ask yourself how is that taino shabbas know when he says eating uh you know a good chunk and a good steak is kind of shabbos a good ice cream is tiny shabbos that chopper tone i went to that chapel tonight i went to two three two weeks ago that was kind of shabbos 24 7 non-stop food all around you seven types of herring three types of meat and non-stop and after you know i tell you last night or maybe i did after they finished the meal which came after the kiddish which i told you about then they had a canteen that was open and there were two people serving behind the canteen potato chips pretzels fruits and guess what power of ice cream and isis on a cold freezing 15 degree new uh the east coast weather when no one went outside except when we woken up eight in the morning sunday morning by a false alarm and everyone had to go down and the women barely got dressed and came down so god really did us and that's after going to sleep four in the morning because they had the skits and comedy and plays and all kinds of things to four in the morning eight o'clock everyone was downstairs because the alarm didn't stop and the the the fire people came and everyone had to be downstairs so they really got it and i overheard some of the women these are like acidic women who are used to sleeping in i mean they're not used to sleeping in then i used to sleep again they have kids but when they go away to a weekend like this and their kids are away this is like like someone who took us home said this is our opportunity just to sleep in a little bit so what hashem do you have a great sense of humor eight o'clock in the morning if your art goes on out dressed or not get downstairs having pleasure shabbos is quality that's what i want to tell you it's quality it's not about how much chunk cake or ice cream you have it's the quality and if it's for shabbos and if you if you live with that motto you don't need a lot to eat and listen i'm not the one to talk about this but i have to and i want to and and and i would love this to be my reality and it was once my reality i have to go back i always say when i'll be seventy eighteen year yerushalayim i'll be able to become a yeshiva bucker again those those those truths and paradigms that we learned lived with when we were younger in yeshiva i always have this dream to to revert back but the truth is that's like a fantasy because if you can't do it from 20 to 60 or 20 to 70 while your prime of your life that means the years as we learned in the last mimer what are you worth chakras in our harvest uh youth years teen years and young adult years before working and and retirement years there's no big deal anyway that's just an aside so going back to the mimer your innocent asked me to repeat so i just repeat it to your innocence with more stories and details which got you all guys to laugh and got me to to laugh that um this is what we're at now so when you don't do this that ever said at the end and we we indulge we start falling and the last few lines that ever said the the last line of last paragraph page 141 he said one descends from level to level until he becomes god forbid no fail so we have your tooth concept say uh hillel a yell raid and a neutral what's the difference your aid is gradual you're on the the top step you go down to the next step and next slowly but surely you get weak and in in your commitments and you and you drop knuckles you fall from the top step all the way to the bottom that's a very harsh fall much harsher let's see how the ribbon continues now next paragraph 141 new paragraph avo bms when they fail even one with the sense and even one who falls flat face from top to bottom there is a beginning cause that causes him to descend and to fall vascular who what is it later it's the lack of attention given to spirituality and the ways of service of hashem is translated now to yiddish like spirituality that's a yiddish expression it's a beautiful expression meaning to do with yourself or better in english would be to refine yourself spirituality and self-refinement farnam earth has no value to him it takes no place it doesn't occupy space you know why because it's not important the cache where spirituality and refinement of character is is valueless is not important us all of it is without feeling type of 142 avoid me it's without service and spiritual vitality it's doing things because the book says so the rabbi says so my wife says so i'll be embarrassed if i don't do it otherwise as we've discussed many times the stale approach to yiddish kite it's lacking the summer it's lacking soul it's lacking animation it's lacking excitement says that this is the beginning the cause for the the the initial descent is the fact that there isn't any regis any feeling any motivation any vitality and enthusiasm in your voice it begins with a gradual descent and it ends with a fla a fake a flat face full where you give it all up the rabbit now says look at the look at it and learn from the opposite from the way it should be the casual does take is valuable to the person it takes a place in your mind and your heart and your in in your being on earth this takes place takes is valuable he needs at that time he knows that when he dives or he learns or does mitchells without this enthusiasm and inner feeling high no headache meaning referring to having a godly feeling who could goof below the summer he realizes it's like a body that's so less doesn't have a soul creatures creatures do not know the essence of their vitality of their energy but the preciousness of life all creatures know in other words that we exist something animates us and all creatures know god that if when a person is not alive the hedgehog is the opposite of life one knows how how much there's missing this everyone knows so the question is burning the calling nearly when a person reflects on that all of us learning sri lanka is dominic and all of his observation is not that way it is like a soul with like a body with that soulless without a body soul because he's not animated in exact smite that itself triggers maybe i say they avoid the to work harder [Music] in other words it doesn't lead you this is to the person who's a thinking person and is plugged in the right way to give up on the contrary it leads you to do more remember what the alternative says in tanya chapter 26 and 31 the difference between frustration and depression depression is where you go under your blankets more and you give up and you don't go out and frustration is you get up you say i can't take this anymore you jump out and you start and you just go out and you start doing it and then they're moving and shaking and talking and and you're upset that you you wasted time you know that feeling of fright it's frustrating frustrating is upbeat frustration is positive depression is negative so don't rebel says here when you realize that some of your avoid or all of your avoidance belongs enough already i'm not happy and this is true also for anyone that's learning and dabbing custard lit fox fired makes no difference and they feel empty they feel old they feel stale this right here is good to study and think about and say okay but that's as long as you know that your server should be in an animated way if you've convinced yourself okay yes one second one second if you've convinced yourself or you've allowed yourself to be convinced by your teachers or rabbis or rebbe's etc that it's okay to serve god lifeless then we really have a problem then like dr ebba says in the my manila deity that we learned then it's like you've been cut off and boy then you have to ask hashem have mercy i'm so far from hashem i'm so far that i think that what i'm doing is good yes yes yes so that that's what we were learning about the the concept of his touches no yes that's right very good that we need to have his statute right but he doesn't use that word here but that's that's a good word but but but but what he's saying is before you need to you need to be aware that you're stale and and and if you're not aware you stale and you think you're alive he doesn't even he doesn't talk about that that's like god forbid you're dead imagine a dead person thinks he's alive there's no one to think that he's alive but if you think that that person's alive we're in trouble here he's talking about someone who who has the realization that he that it's no good and therefore what can i do about it i will stop here because the next part is he talks about that void of darvening his abundance but just to so so all of this all of this is an answer to the question i want you to walk away with clarity the question is how do you prevent yourself from going down it's a good question how do you prevent yourself from being a yo-rai then god forbid a nightfall and the rebbe's answer is you need to have see my slave see my slave means be attentive be aware of the situation what's the expression uh knowing that you're ill is hotsy reforest half of the cure if you're not even aware that you're ill then it's it's really bad and then then you know the only god only hashem can save the situation because as far as you're concerned you're very very healthy and you know i don't have to tell tell you that many times people people good people are are um what's the word i'm looking for oblivious oblivious to this and they think they're healthy and spiritual and driven and this and that and they're on a real real uh no good path an unhealthy path and the question is how do you get them to realize their mistake so that they wake up and like i told you the zora color says the rooster won't become clean from the schmutz that are picked up in the um the barn with all or you know the trough until it shakes itself you shake it you can get a little dirt off but if it doesn't give its own shake this is from the tsar it's still there there's still some dirt so a person at the end has to give its own shake which is really i think hilo could tell us but it's also you tell you know about the 12-step program you hit rock bottom where you yourself realize that hey i submit to god i'm sick yes hello you know just uh as a comment on the rooster that um uh in modern modern study of trauma and the neuroscience of trauma yes that that one of the things that the body spontaneously does in its ability to kind of release trauma is it starts to shake and it's a natural thing throughout the animal world wow so uh that's very good you know those things it it's uh yeah it's got i mean you see it like in you know in an injury so one of the mistakes that was often done in um you know like in in emergency medicine yeah it's like if if if somebody was injured you know the body was kind of sh was shaking like uh uh often they were they used to be taught to restrain that kind of movement it's scary to watch but in fact it's much healthier for the body to be able to complete those movements and not go and not go into a traumatic like freeze reaction makes it much harder for the body to get over if it's injured so you're saying that it's it's healthy for it to shake or not healthy it's healthy for your body to shake it shakes off it shakes off the uh the the the trauma and that uh and and it kind of res that's how it kind of resets that's how the body sort of resets itself uh-huh it's very interesting because you know the whole idea like you know shaking means say is movement you know in other words it show what i'm hearing you say tell me if i'm right it's it's it's positive light life it's a sign of life it's a the movement is a healthy sign of of life is is that what i'm hearing yes yeah yeah that's right which is it you know it's very much in one second but she's very much in in tune with uh with what we learned in tyron the concept of movement i'll give you an example the negan the previous level writes this in khabad you know we sing over and over what's this say the words say the tune and go on i'll be making my clip for the third today the poltava which i hope you enjoy so so the previous never writes that this is this this is a sign of friction the iii is like a debate which if you heard some of my explanations every has has a message in it sometimes it's hope sometimes it's despair sometimes it's it's love sometimes it's awe sometimes it's mercy every the the richness of khabad nagina is that there is an entire um discussion between oneself and one soul of what's going on and how to improve that's what a negan is now rum is a musician this is very important for you of rome so the rapper says it's the friction that's demonstrated by the eye to the eyes the eye to the eye says it's not just another repetition it's the friction it's it's it's the movement that that shows life and that's and that's what the eye to the eyes and the repetition is it it's an experience of life not just boring repetition you know um and rabbi sal of he says it in his way regarding um his philosophy not of nagina but of life he talks about tension and and explains that the whole approach of brisk true brisk who is tension to be in a state of tension not to resolve tension to be in a state of tension because the state of attention of tension itself is healthy because it moves it makes you move which is interesting it's not not about approach it's not anyone else's approach you know everyone wants to have a resolve but salvation in his early writings in the 40s after the holocaust i mean i wrote about this it's so interesting that he talks about this tension and as positive and he says this is real brisk so when people say because you know you ask a brisker a question you get you know the answer is it depends what we're talking about he'll never give you a clear answer so the whole world the torah world laughs said the briskers make up your mind is it a or b and they say no no no it's both a and b because that is their motto that's their belief that state of of what we perceive as being unsure to them is reality the reality is there's two modes either this way or that way and that's what keeps you going i don't know if i'm correct in my in my uh comparison of of the brisk notion of tension to the chabad notion of friction but it's something that i thought about when i was investigating writing researching now moishe i'm sorry you wanted to say something i don't wanna i'll just make a proof it's such very interesting hill what you were sharing with us and um connected to everything that rabbi doblin were talking about i find it very interesting this whole um we talk about the body moving uh i'd be very curious to know from a psychological perspective everything we're talking about you know some people you see them when they're dabbing um i don't want to generalize but there's certain people who might be connected to a little bit more of a non-hasidic approach which they're like you know constantly there's like almost like this robotic movement and it's so i've seen you know sometimes it's generally you see it in younger younger bachram younger people you know usually the older a person gets the less they tend generally i notice they're less they tend to shuckle but because they have less energy no i don't i don't think that's what it is i definitely don't think that's what it is but i i would maybe for another time be very interesting to just contrasting hillary what you said about the healthy for the body to shake to move on that level but sometimes i look at certain people when they're shuckling particularly younger bachram it it almost looks like it's like it's um uh it's a show well partially yes yes i think and sometimes it looks like it's not integrated like the movement never resolved exactly like he was just talking about the attention right and that's that's true it's it's like the it's like the the you're kind of caught in a rut it's like a um it's like a a a thought that you that you obsess on or you perseverate out and i think you're i think you're right and that's often a kind of feature of a like the obsessive compulsive mind and a lot of a lot of rote learning kind of triggers that in the mind yeah that's yeah yeah yeah those are exactly right here you're you're never getting all those points but we leave it for now but uh but moshe i'll just tell you at some point remind me i'll tell you two really interesting stories one about my father and one about um that's that's that's older and one about just this week a fascinating talk between uh mo y jacobson rabbi jacobson and one of the world's sort of foremost trauma researchers uh yeah i'm in the middle of listening to uh so uh interesting um yeah okay uh i i regarding this this whole parsha uh the shaking what you're referring to there's a gentleman here and a shul near a neighbor actually i've seen him damage monstery and he is you know even he's older than than me you know probably hillary's age maybe whatever a little older hillary's young but anyway hello and zuckerberg he when he damaged monastery wow he makes these i mean it's like intense and so when you said motions generally by the young buccaneer the young it's true but i would say a little different anyone that still maintains that mindset of youth like he's in yeshiva like this 70 year old man will die in that way too if they were raised in the lit yeshiva world yeah yeah or or or even hasidic world by somehow yeah right i heard a quote from the kimana he said in my youth i thought for sure i would storm heaven he said today thank god where would i have been without my youth yeah yeah or then they they say uh a vertical joke they say with the stolen if i see them scream and shake scream they say does god not have ears that he can't hear you if you dove without screaming but listen these are avoiders that sadikim you know uh seemingly uh introduced although i'll tell you i asked for example if rabaran cutler who was you know the leader of the lakewood and the whole movement and in america for sure in this heyday how did he die i asked people and they told me who saw him in shul he didn't shake away he died he died and you know like like like weed of them that's what they told me so i was once at uh time berlin in brooklyn uh varan schechter was the rosh yeshiva right and um uh he he uh he stood with extraordinary stillness for like an hour whatever right that yeah right so so you see that it's not it's not as though you know there is a uh teaching in in in their you know in their shita you have to shake um i think it's you know like you said my you know they get intense and you're all worked up and excited and and um yeah maybe the the musa their their muslim teachers when they're younger when like you say when the yeshiva uh tell them to be expressive of kind of of of their feelings during shimones right okay it's an uh a good discussion and the great the conversation we'll see everyone sh uh mr sham shabazz from vargo this year we have 60 days of simcha marvin basimka 60 days let's do it have a great shabbos everyone bye-bye