Maamar Zochor 1934 #21- Antidote to Apathy, Laziness & Amelek is Memorizing Torah & using it

so we're on page 149 now this is the 21st year baruch hashem only good for israel which is very appropriate these days as our brethren escape the the horrors that are taking place in ukraine so we should only have goodness ah only uh the gemara says ah have you heard that expression of ram i don't see your face you're off screen now i see your face unless you don't want to be seen afro whenever you find the word or the word the kumara says it comes to exclude something there are certain words that come to include the mother says when you see the word ah and rock usually it's so when we say over here ah israel it doesn't mean jews should have it good they should only have it good because of the word ah it implies not that they should have bad and good or sometimes bad and sometimes good ah only good all the time so this is the 21st year so when you learn a mimer and you learn it slow and you articulate you take it apart and you have good discussion and dialogue it's a whole different type of learning and uh again i encourage everyone all my listeners including uh all three to to get people they can't join the sheer to to listen to this urim now they're pretty much a half an hour or so not that long and um it's like you're a sound bite for the day with uh an apple a day keeps the doctor away some casitas with rabbi dolphin a day keeps you rocking and rolling for the day you gotta keep you gotta you gotta you gotta be fresh you gotta be fun and you gotta keep going because otherwise you get very decrepit and very lonely very sad and very upset so take it take it as it comes you know i wouldn't say this when i was 20 30 even 40 but now at 61 um but hashem that i have more of that attitude i'm not going to say i have it all the time but more of the attitude and it's important it's important if you if you gain this attitude when you're younger you know it's easier and there's some people by nature they they have that that's the way it is you know one of my daughters you know nothing fathers him it's water off her back you know she's so chilled she's so calm it it's a blessing in a way you know but for many of us it's not that way you know we take things seriously and we get involved and then we get upset and we have opinions and so when you listen to this you learn to see this and you internalize it you take you try to take it in you try to work with it you realize you know you're not the center of the universe and the world has been around and hashem is much bigger than all of us so just relax calm down calm down and let's see how you can make it work how we can make it work so in this minor 149 that eben now concludes with what he began which is the past exactly and to read to remind ourselves of what we learned probably two to three months ago the questions of the mimer which as i've told you are always kind of the insignificant part of the mimer although for the average even terrorist student you want a question you have a question you want an answer give me an answer what are you slapping me out for 21 classes see this different approach you like it don't like it but it's a different approach we first have to become more spiritual and once we become more sensitized and spiritual through the learning of the mimer the content the body the meat and potatoes of the mimer then you could look at an answer you could look at a question how does it answer the question question and all that but that's not really what we're looking at we want to we want to come to an experience that i'm purim were more sensitized to god yesterday [Music] is like a piece of wood and when you tuck the wood out then it's easy to burn then once it burns then you get a lot of custard in the middle uh-huh and where did you hear this really lipscore who told you this i figured i figured he heard the mara stun forever lip skirt it smells a rubber lipstickers uh uh an insight which is beautiful thank you just yesterday i was speaking to rabbi herson of of of morristown hashem you know the memory is not as sharp as it was but but he he when he realizes that he's he's a little misplacing dates and years he like composes himself and he says hold on he it is a very very uh composed disciplined person and i see it now as he's probably 86 or so or 87 you know uh and and uh canada i i i i see in other words the quality that that he had when we were in yeshiva you know it's it's it's recognizable now even at an age where he's he's you know a little sometimes a little mixed up with the days here or there but his you know his style of preciseness and and clarity and and be very careful what what's being said is is still there which is again you know a person if they in their youth they they they develop themselves in a certain way it stays with them for their life and even at the end of their life even towards the end of their life there's still that um that feeling that you sense from the person but the barack hashem we had a great conversation a few stories that i i wrote and he gave me the correct version in detail in great detail so that when i publish it and he was very happy for me to publish it it's published um properly and accurately um this is a this is uh no small tasks and as i've told you to document things correctly is is so it's it's it's so much work i spend you know hours and days thinking and and and and trying to get the right information because with one word you could you could you could misinterpret and mislead people uh and it's a very um it's it's very important to to say things the way the way you heard now if you heard incorrectly or you were told nonsense and lies you know you know we're not profits but but what what you have to go to the source but even what i'm saying is even going to the source i'll give you an example i'll just show you one example if i may i don't know if i'm boring you i'll stop talking about this uh sarah hurston said that in in in the late 50s he doesn't remember what year um the hon hola the the 770 administration came to him and they said they uh they want him to go to the haven he didn't ask any questions but they told him this after they had written without his knowledge to the rebel and the rabbit told them answer them no this should not be done because listen to this moishe because of two things one he's tutoring his sister with her homework every night his sister learned to williamsburg at the base yakov school this is the mid-fifties and because she came from brazil they're from brazil she was weaker in her studies so robert hurston after he finished hasidis at night in 770 he would go over to her sister i think she was living in crown heights but regardless and he would help her with her homework so they never said you want to send them away he needs to do that how do you like that that epis wants a brother to help his sister with her homework i think it's for that that's a that's an original type of a story number two the schlier of the time in argentina was wrapped by beryl baumgarten there's a family in cronize baumgarten so there were two brothers one of them beryl i think the older brother was the sleek in argentina and he sent a group of boys to learn in 770 and they were also weaker in their studies because they came from you know not having the background rabbi hurston spoke portuguese and spanish you know so the the administration asked him if he would learn i think two hours a day tomorrow with the boys and he agreed of course to help them get com get up to the level so the rebber wrote to the to the administration you want to send them away no he's learning with the argentina boys and i need i want him to continue that okay that that's and that's very interesting on its own but when he said to me new haven this is the way you know a historian researcher thinks why did he go to new haven what was going on in the haven what did why did the yeshiva wanted to go to naven and you know what he told me i don't know i never asked and until today i don't know because as far as i know there was no labor to yeshiva in new haven in 1958-59 there was rabbi moshe a brother of j.j hecht who was like the shliyaka rabbi there and he had a day school he had an akita so maybe they wanted him to be a a rebbe a teacher in the yeshiva there it's hard to believe because rabbi herself was one of the prime nicest students of 770 in many in many ways he was you know very talented and and he was a also he was he was used by the rebel rabbi khadakov because only he knew portuguese so he revealed to us years later that they would give him letters for him to answer people people wrote to the rebel in spanish or portuguese i think that ever was able to read the letters not the spanish i know because they never told my mother a little show this i know in yejidis he said to my mother you could speak to me in spanish my mother was raised in costa rica after the war so she was she was knew spanish fluently and she didn't want we should understand every anything that she was saying privately to the rebel so there ever sat you could speak in spanish because i understand but to write back in spanish i'm not sure he was able to do and in portuguese for sure not as far as i know so they quietly asked rabbi hurston to translate the rebels letters that were written that that he responded to someone who wrote to him in spanish or portuguese and he should write in his passage of portuguese which he did quietly and no one knew about this for years because you're talking about he was given the letter to write you know it's very private right but there was no choice someone's writing to the rev in portuguese and needs an answer in portuguese because they don't understand so he had he had he had that was in addition to being a student in yeshiva and all that so he had some important responsibilities as a booker in 770. right so i asked him what was going so to take to take him to send them to be a beloved a teacher which i'm not sure he would be good at anyway or you know in new haven doesn't make sense and he told me he doesn't know but that's an example in other words he's walking around with a story of new haven but you have to ask him why do they want to send your name and the answer is he doesn't know so it doesn't make a difference but the the question should enter your mind right away when someone tells you such a story what are you going to the haven for what was going on in haven there was gold in the haven later in 1976 they opened the laboratory of shebo in the haven but not till 1970 talking about 1958 59 the late 50s i'm just giving you an example how when you say a story you need to question the story i'll give you another example that my friends and i are now dialoguing about and i don't have a yet a good answer i went into the car a few days ago and i put on a a a cd from abyr khan i'm tanya that he gave this urum here in borough park and though shiyurim he prepped for the radio and and for the telephone in 770 and there's actually a video somewhere where you see how he did it it was he would mama stop at every word and tell john johannes and hackner from wlcc i took you to the room by my shirt to show you the room of the communication room so that's where he sat there boyle and he was able to see through a little window hackner and he would communicate with him and if he wasn't happy about something he'd like to tell him to press it and stop and he redid it and it's amazing to see how the man is like every word has to be exact okay so on the first of these cds that's now public he talks about the the cover page of tanya the sharp lot but they and at the end although says but there are this is about is the long short way and he brings the gemara explaining that the two ways to enter the city one is a long way but it's a short way but it's a long way because you get till the till the gate we can't come in because there's gates and thorns and bushes he can't get through and the other way is a short long way in other words it's it's it's it's a long short way which is khabab once with long short way which means you you you um it takes you a long time to get to the metropolitan to the to the palace but once you get there you're able to get in let's come to sagamura it's a story in the gomorrah and the alternative cites those words in the cover page of tanya so the then of your explains the nimsho the moral that there is that derek leimer carlina the polish kassidim and right which is hagas kasich word which is based on a munna you rely on that and that sadik was plugged in and connected if you follow that sadiq and live with its the topic will slap you out of all your issues so kind so it doesn't require as much internal work on your part so it's right he says that's called that's analogous to the short longer way right it's a shortcut just rely on something to scale him to say hello visit him once a year give him some seduce and all that and you're in or at least you think you're in then there is the long shorter way which is how bad oh you have to learn 21 urine and you have to meditate and you have to reflect it's it's it's not it's not the small change it's it's a whole available and frankly as we all know that's why not many join khabar and those that are serious because you know the smart person realizes this is a lot of work and i i i just don't have the interest or the patience anyway in saying that rabbi yolkand says that that uh there were he says he says in english but i'll translate he says there were many students of the champton who were noted notice the hebrew word means which were inclined towards that theraph of the alta river and i don't know why it was the first time that i heard such words come to him so my ears went what i am under the impression for 50 years 40 years that most of the students went the other way not with the outdoor render and okay zeb yo didn't say the word most he said many asakh many so right away i started to whatsapp and emailed you know the big thinkers of khabar today supposedly anyway and what what do they think and i got the i got the answers right here on the phone and they say it makes no sense in other words the feeling i had they're acknowledging it but that's what he said and i'm convinced either that he heard it from the rebel because he would never say such a thing if he didn't hear it from the rebel or he could prove it he cannot explain it but he's not here now so like a friend said to me a friend the rabbi said to me go to his caver pray there and maybe at night he'll reveal himself to you and give you an explanation but all jokes aside of um when you hear such a thing you know you could just take it at face value and and and some of my friends are like being dismissive you know either we don't know or but i i really am all you know worked up about this because i'm convinced if he said it you know he meant something there's not even a question in my mind now now go figure it out so that that's the way you need to explore a story and a lot of people they don't they don't have the patience the interest and they even sometimes get upset and angry that you explore a story this way because there you feel you're um watering down the faith of the story [Music] moisture you follow what i'm saying and and there's something to it i will acknowledge that and it's a very hard balance it's a very hard balance to be faithful and at the same time be um what's the word exquisitive um you know to explore [Music] the balance walking between the drops like i told you yesterday you know on one hand you're a husset you're from yid you have faith you hear a story excuse me that's the way it is and at the same time you know come on let's let's let's let's see if this you know how do you reconcile it too this is all a long elaboration which since we mentioned story i just wanted to share the way um i think we should think about incorporating stories into our alexa chefs let's go now to the mimer 149 the fourth line and that was the fabrian that i said we would fabricate today about so the last eight minutes of this year is dedicated to the last share share 22. end of the fourth line third word on the last on the fourth line the zeho and this is remember what our molly did to you the buddha shall amolek the destruction and obliteration of molecular days it comes specifically through memory very clear this means of ram we need to memorize torah and the in our minds it needs to be cooking engraved in our minds everyone here has to choose apostica two or three and memorize it yes whatever it is to have words of torah look at the words in the power and the faculty of your memory so that you should be a you will be able to think contemplate him on those words the holy so here is the answer abraham how do i get rid of this amulet which is apathy and everything else the answer is by thinking words of torah that you have stored away your memory while molly comes to you and he wants you to be cold and apathetic and throws down sin start thinking torah but you have to have what to think about and we talk and we mean specifically to have it it's edged in your memory says the previous level this is the way we destroy the negative clipper of our mullet and this answers the question the question was how is it through zucker remember that you get rid of a molly how you would think moshe that that the way to get rid of ammonic is not to bring him to your mind you don't want to think about negative stuff bad people bad situations so what does that ever say you're right you shouldn't be thinking about our molec you should think tighter and that's why again we've said this before but it's worth saying again a good part of toyota to memorize are the first 12 lines of chapter 41 and tanya chapter that's the way it begins it ends on the side two of the of that chapter printed in tanya with the words with nehamel and it's not my suggestion it's suggestion and many letters to many people from students to balabata because that chapter in that chapter in general and those 12 lines put the whole idea of the fear of god or for hashem as the as the crux as the essence of the foundation of everything you do that's that's the most important that could have him from that birth right the alternative single though we've discussed ways of becoming obediently refining yourself and although we also learned that there's sometimes issues that in chapter 26 he says that that come from the outside to disturb us like issues with health children and paranosa so you would think that if so i'm stuck i'm stuck god you did it to me and i heard a secret from the rabbit the other day talking about mashiach and the red was choking up and couldn't talk he was crying like and he says what do you want from the person talk to god admossa yesterday i don't know if you guys saw rabbi osman uh osman from from ukraine somewhere wow was he upset i don't know he i don't seem to be very angry at some of his i think friends i don't know and he and he was going on but part of it said is you know is you know we we you gotta gotta really oh this is another rabbi another rabbi on a on a bus on a bus coming out of i forget where um any any and he was saying let's talk to hashem to and ask hashem to bring mashiach already like you know why don't we what did we do that we deserve this one crazy man is causing this balagana in an entire country and and you know and we have to run because he's throwing missiles now in buildings with kids and and people so you're saying like hashem what what do you want from us like what what did we do so when it come amalek ambalik is a troublemaker amolek is a troublemaker that that's in a nutshell a troublemaker you know here you are davening and here you are in your shoe and here are your family and things like that and all of a sudden there are issues and troubles that come up and it throws you for a loop like so what's the answer that's harmonic abolish even more where amalek will say hey you're derek why do you have to go such a derrick why do you have to go in such a path i mean we all have beards so we could talk about it what do you need a beard for what do you need a full beard why can't you trim your beard you want to have a beard no problem like you have to have a wild beard that they should call you santa claus you know and what's the answer that's that's not a mullet question because if you decided with your free will and hashem gives it to you to have such a beard color covered you're not putting down those that don't have such a beards but you feel either good or whatever it's your decision and someone can go and challenge you and poo poo you especially from the inside a spouse a child a parent etc we all know you know so what's the answer it's an amalek i'm sorry it could be your own spouse and it's a molly question it doesn't mean you you don't have you shouldn't have a good relationship and have love towards them but in this area they said i'm alike i'm sorry because whether they don't have the background whether they have they have anger whether they have low self-esteem i don't know whatever it is so it's you know we shouldn't i'm saying this because it can be your closest person or close people to you who have good relationships with you but in certain areas they just don't understand or don't agree okay they don't and if and and if someone walks away from a relationship and a friendship because of that you got to check out of to begin with there you really your friend and they're in a relationship people have to respect each other if you can't respect i always say like you have to respect the other person's differences not what what you have in common that's a molecule and what does that ever say is the answer don't fight with them that's my point it he doesn't say that the way to get rid of my mother is to fight like mulligan shoot back oh and you don't like my beard my my my whole beard my full beard my uncamped beard whatever the case and then you have this issue and do i do i criticize you about this i don't so you're not have this issue but i'm not gonna have my beard there ever says you shouldn't do that he doesn't say it but he's intimating you shouldn't use that approach because that's combative and it's going to leave to it is not going to leave to show him bias and it's not going to lead to good relationships and good friendships he says do one thing start thinking words of torah that you have memorized in your head that have meaning it'll put you in a different area and what what so the question is how will the amalek dissipate and be obliterated from that attitude by me thinking torah the answer is they'll see they'll say you're special i told you a friend that i know about the shrub came about this room he has a beard that like goes to his belly button he rolls it up but if he let his beard out he married a girl who wasn't religious he wasn't religious she's a modern woman like what what are you out of your mind and when he started to grow his beard like that was during the time i was learning with him i was concerned you know like what if you know i because i felt that she's gonna you know just explode and you know what i was told and i saw it because i spoke with her and we had conversations because she respected him i don't know if she you know is is in love with the beard but she tolerated it that's for sure and maybe even more when you when you respect someone the issues f the issues that you fall aside so that episode how do you gain respect but one second by memorizing toyota because by memorizing toyota you're a different person they they they see that this is you're not you're not in other words they see that your beard is not because you decided they see your beard is coming from a deeper connection a more spiritual life things are more important for you yes maisha i was going to add that obviously she she respects it she tolerates it maybe even more because of how her husband how he treats her yes obviously he treats her like um like a queen like a queen right so yeah yeah that's right a hundred percent a hundred percent if they thank you for adding that if he wouldn't treat her with that respect yeah i told you the other story an old congress congress for years ago they were fighting cats and dogs he comes to me wants a divorce i say i don't give divorces i didn't come here i didn't come to i just have to give divorces i came to bring people under the hoop try another three months go back and and work it out three months come back he says rabbi i can't i can't and she's not going to the mikvah now he really got me you know now you know hey this now he's not going to mix with that this is like issues so i say look i'm a new rabbi i'm a new guy i i i did training in rabbinics but this is a heavy one this you have to write to the rebel as far as i'm concerned write to the rabbi and whatever direction it gives you that's what we do he wrote to the rebel and the rebbe answered right away quoting to gomorrah how great shalom bias is and it was the rabbit disregarded his argument that she doesn't go to the mikvah and by the way i just heard it the other day another winnipeg said a similar story with someone a couple one was from was what one wasn't from and the front said i can't i wanna i went out and the rabbit said no mikveh sean bias is so great work it out there doesn't have to give you the specifics you have to work it out yourself but anyway what happened after he got that letter this person i'm telling the story about got that letter from the river guess what happened he changed his attitude to stop to stop bickering and criticizing her and they're married today with in a beautiful way so that supports what you're saying moishe his criticism of her she said i'll teach you a lesson i ain't go to the bigfoot do something about it but when he changed his attitude and he had more respect for her she said sure i'm going to go to the midfielder you know and that's how you have harmony now other exceptions there's always an exception i'm not going to say but so but overall as a general rule i think that these are truisms these claw lamb with moisture said what i said and i'm just emphasizing that this is what the rep is saying in the mimer that the way to combat a molecule is not confrontational but rather immerse yourself in something higher and different and all of a sudden you'll see the and and as much as i said and also show respect towards the other and you'll see that there's a change in everything that's going on and uh i think that's why such a mimer although a lot of it was about very deep intellectual stuff but we've at the end the ideas but at the end when he when he boils it down he's and he explains the zachary and it's coming up in a week or two is the shabba zakhar i i think it's a beautiful lesson to share the kiddish moisture with other people you know you don't you don't have to go into you know the the bottom line you ask a question and give an answer and how the writer you can explain it in a way that people can relate to it and you'd say that this is from a mimer the previous rebber they should know where it comes from because first of all pinkie over says a madoff of the shame and maybe gulaila someone who says something over in the name of the person who said it brings redemption to the world that's what it says in pity office and who doesn't want to bring redemptions that's number one and number two it's only right if we're learning his mind he taught us this we should we should give him the credit and finally and finally um the message is such a important one especially today and especially in with even relationships with parents and kids and teenagers and young adults and and and on and on um you know you wouldn't think you wouldn't think that this is the answer of romanian you wouldn't think this is the answer when you have an amolec situation you wouldn't think that this answer that the rabbit gives in this mimer and by the way in other my mommy says other things but in this moment in 1934 he said riga this is what he says you wouldn't think this would be the answer but if you open it up and you look at the greater picture you extrapolate you i think you you will find that this is definitely one method and a healthy and a good method to say changing the situation have a great high dish everyone good for bringing good learning in shambles start a new mimer we're gonna start a mimer and with hashem on pesach because pacer is coming and it's in this safer it's not the next mimer but it's the mimer after that which is um us right where is it uh paige what did you say age 158 yeah 158 so that's the mind we're gonna learn and i think that should take us through uh pesach hashem okay have a great shabbos only good news we'll be in touch love you all bye-bye thank you