Maamar v"im Ruach Hamoishel 1924 #5 - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin: Teachers Beware

I said if you had to change your clothes on an oven I thought right right that's the story to bring on your heater so why am I saying that because here we're talking about when it comes to constructive criticism to feel the person you have to get involved you have to you know remind yourself that you might be elsewhere and you might think you're better but the truth is like the outlet ever says in chapter 30 of time you have a shroud roof Biffen a cold um and the altar that bears the words mojave mmm islam eatery in other words it's not just a figment of one's imagination it's not just I'm gonna pretend that I'm humble no you really are nothing you know are you really a nothing because that man is on the street and you have complaints and you say he's not religious and he's a bum and he's an outcast and I am a little guy and I am an upstanding guy says dr. Deborah you're fortunate that you'll be able to sit and play limbo cherish and learn he doesn't have that luxury now put yourself in the same situation where you have to be on the street and you have to pedal and you have to walk around San Francisco or Wyoming or face that thing whatever you get to walk around and you have all kinds of things all around you know would you be better maybe you would actually be worse Wow so this is all this is all part of what that ever saying that in mind me here you have to think about this before you start criticizing the other person and remember dr. Deb in chapter 32 of Tonya when he quotes this possibly if they after here cuz I miss fo he says in sheath huh he's with you he's together with you the story I've told you over and over and I repeated again that I had a ball above the cardigan of the doctor in Marin County and he was a good Jewish Brooklyn boy and he went to the Erasmus high school with Barbra Streisand wind they were all together all the Jewish youth alive in Brooklyn and on Church Avenue over their Erasmus high school before it became a war zone and you would you wouldn't walk there during the day today already could walk there during the day but in the 60s and 70s if you walk there you wouldn't come back so any who hate so so so this friend of mine is kind again who actually was one of the people who brought me to California are sleepless in 1984 brought my wife and I there so after a few years he comes to me says rabbi I can't take it anymore all my friends who I grew up with in public school in Brooklyn they're all eaten and they come to the cafeteria so that they don't keep kosher okay but they have to eat pork they have to eat ham your you know better you come from Brooklyn you don't need hand you know you eat trays but you don't eat pork so he says I just want to I wanna I want to give it to them I want to say you're a jerk you're really you know you're a Jew how could you eat pork okay so I said - and so he asked me for permission if I give him permission to criticize his friends so I said - no I don't give you permission she says why not I said cuz I have a question to ask you tell me the last time you played golf with them it looks and he says what my English meet the Saints hearts tonight what what does golf have to do with their meeting trade so I set them dr. EV answers your question to chapter 32 and Tanya and your alibi betray your cousin you have a nice beard and all that thirty-two and Tanya says that before you can do the midst of a half that heels I mean settle in Delta versus inch it cobertura mitzvahs he takes the word I miss echo which means your friend and he and he breaks it up into two words in Chiquita he you're together with him if you're not together with him you have no business of giving him criticism what does they bring together with him playing golf together having a cup of coffee together going for a stroll together oh you just rub shoulders in the Hawkeye road or of Kaiser Permanente Hospital in San Francisco and you guys were together on rasmus high school so what that doesn't make you real good friends it makes you not you know you know each other but you need two different totally la lives and therefore for you to criticize them here is meaningless totally meaningless and is wrong first become as friend first befriended and first and then you'll become friends not only will you be able to talk about not eating Qasr you'll be able to eat talk about making your cows kosher and as a Brooklyn boy and a teenager you know that it's something special and you can have a conversation and let's learn and let's smooth let's talk and let's make our kitchen kosher so Delta debe without saying all this it's I'm sorry the flea the culebras is is also addressing this by saying you have to be in the same boat empathy put yourself in as a situate in the other person situation so that's basically recap what we learned we're now on page is it ratio tests or race cuff you guys remember I think we are yeah I think we are a pay to race cuffs on them on them I'll die in the next paragraph well you have you have a news forum you have these okay so then over here would be these this is the safer it's called my moral of cotton Hale agimo it's it's not that it's not the previous rappers can trace him it's the collection with vowels are very nicely done by the other about outfit I guess in there just row and the moment would be from page 344 thank you small 344 oh no my dying sort of loving however we still must understand that I got Lada who Nazi the leader of a generation is a leader as an Aussies of Prince Marte and the epitome the doline we learnt in the paucity qohelet remember this my murder began with the pasta Kymco helis and he says the second half of the processes is Omar pay and healing young Nia will alleviate her pain good daily and greats it's how pay - who the meaning of this is they should go to Lotte the Marriott Srinivas Nasser cellex-c borne by the leader of the generation preventing himself from rising and exalting himself over the congregation and make himself a big-shot that he's much better than them and rather what does he do Umar swats Malcolm he puts himself on the same plateau as the generation as the congregation and he's no better with than that him somebody does that had a busy home Merapi capadders a shady doing this he accomplishes healing as as we explained the meaning of healing in the second interpretation earlier hi Noam show who he dare to vow save either by Joseph through his true ver and the service to a sham maybe the fool avan-ha died he brings healing to the to the sin of generation he heals the transgression of the generation well the fighter when that get call us again on the seals that but now I asked a very powerful question seemingly this attitude of the leader making himself part and parcel of the nation thereby causing healing to the nation is contrary to the overall objective and behavior that we that Thoreau wants of enough see because the inion are the seals that sort of Lee is Babas muscles the seals mmm being a prince requires being exalted and above the ordinary alcohol Dharma Rabi and as Rabi says in the good mother Goose club Arama conduct your leadership with exaltation he gives on the cleaner there's a few gifts is a few ways of within the camera and the previous 11 says this is the right gear so this is the right way of reading that Gomorrah so what do we understand from the schematic Super's that a leader Alessi that's which we're talking about should leaders his himself in a way of exaltation like murder become either the governor says could throw mutter mutter means fear but tell me them on to the students they shouldn't come into a classroom and laugh with you a smile of you and like they're your buddy buddy no a teacher comes into the classroom there's a certain reference okay forget about the word fear but reverence so the governor says that honey moving is there we understand from this camera and sub is the hama co-speaker leaders they have bhavish nozzles that the seals that leadership requires exaltation and elevation in canaan if soul 8th aficionado vote how is it possible I should go too hot during Yahshua acts Morocco that the leader of the generation should make in him make himself similar and part of the congregation as though he's one of the guys that's the question yo Jason and even more so I shed your copies be Ott's my limb sorry I should gone boy but doctors the doctors yes more than I did and even more so you sitting there ever saying we just concluded in the previous paragraph teaching that he should fight with himself even the most refined way that he has a similarity to somehow up to the transgression of the generation wait a minute you want your rabbi you respect the rabbi or of because you say he's different than I I'm a regular guy I do this and my Rob my rabbi my Rebbe my leader is something he doesn't have that but wait a minute in the previous chapter we said with a regarding giving constructive criticism that ever says that the leader should look to find within himself a deficiency that in the deficiency that the nation has that people have in a coarse way he suffered that there is fine way but nevertheless he said look for a flaw that's the question my god he may no sir came and we learned earlier swore that if he doesn't do that honey who grated muffin I'll do it he makes he exasperates the problem the transgression will become worse by the people if the leader doesn't find it within himself somehow that's what we learned earlier and continues and this is the question and he said is the OJS actually happens about you actually pull out the awesome might return of classes he has to space them flight and what why does why will he cause the transgression to be worse why because because he did not endeavor to stop them sleep all for sir he didn't activate he didn't do what he needs to do really yes anymore so she later LaDainian more so he sent his generation you hear that hi guys a leader of Sadiq a rather a rough a rabbi who doesn't say you know take a position and doesn't take leadership and doesn't scold basically it's contributing and making worse what's going on like we discussed in the last year we don't have to repeat it so that every now answers this question so how do you reconcile the two jealousy how do we say that a leader should be exalted should be above the nation and at the very same time we say you should be part of the nation are you understand the question no okay okay hold on tell me why you don't understand that what don't you understand okay okay so so basically wake up now now you're awake and we're asking a simple question we're learning in the minor the fact that that was even a leader when he gives criticism he shouldn't be the big honcho the big boss the big rabbi the big Rebbe but he should be kind of similar within together with the people and the Rebbe says how could that be he brings the Gemara he says if students come into a classroom and the teachers is you know yadda yadda friendly friendly knuth all the kids forget it it's gonna be a terrible relationship but it's not gonna accomplish anything there has to be reverence from the students to the teacher and so to when it comes to a red bee arrived a rabbi a leader that he should be exalted so how do you reconcile the two that's his question and now he answers he begins this you know the idea is the he may hazard a zoo in the hide this he was a bird on this instruction that the Chimera says can quote conduct your leadership with exultation conduct yourself in a way in a manner that it is felt and present that you are above the others he shall eyassa have no seed of our human Agudelo osseous it is he regarding manners matters in which the Princeton OC shouldn't do something that's contrary to leadership Lahaina masa a knight rider' shall not see that commander ever says refers to issues that contradict the idea of small what's called Vader shall not see the other of NaCI there is an institution there is a reality called the silt leadership you are not allowed to to blemish damage and and belittle in any way shape or form that institution and we call that in halakha void I shall not see him well you must heard of that term the honour of the Nazi the grovelled right and let's continue inside the key shame should Talmud Horsham ain't sort of miasma enough in our yards just as a towel Makaha a scholar is not supposed to be mixed with the ignoramus of playing a moment cane who gamba no see so is also regarding a Nazi you know there's a difference between atomic awesome a plate of scholar and a Nazi there are many many tell me the Harmon but they're not many eaten the sium right an us is very very very very rare a leader a real leader so that ever says just as a comic awesome the gomorrah says he's not supposed to make himself cheap by finding himself with the ignoramus and the boars because guess what after a while and rubs off on you and even though you're a town McCullum you act in a boorish way so that's why the gomorrah says keep some distance keep some distance it doesn't mean you shouldn't smile to them and give them sell them away them and give them a hug and invite him to your house but it means you have to know that this top this time we'll call them and bors and and and and each one has a place okay that's a Gomorrah it's now casitas it's not mu sir it's AB Gomorrah so to go further and he says should not see who lotion have bother animals the word Nazi we translated English as Prince but join us and what's the meaning of the word NaCI exaltation miss ute right higher right have bother animals the hey no drama sure who dynamos write the word Rama remember what what is the Gemara saying supers look at the quote guys new hike Nishioka Barama yawns what does that mean now hi conduct the co through your leadership Behrami a high-level right Behrami so the rebus says the word drama is associated with the word Shalom Ramos Roman look how close they would close they would wrap with a gale this year's Bovada when do we say all of this that you should be exalted it's only regarding the matter of the silt of leadership she used the heat of betrayal you that you should be careful to honor the institution of leadership and a leader in that area who can say Tadashi Anna's la she says over the other good mother Martel alayan Aimie the Nazi places upon them fear live ID honest you say why to let know his miss youth why does why should a leader re place and create fear in the people not for himself for in for the institution of the seals otherwise you think he's another guy of a block and we're going to play volleyball together and one day will go for strolling beats together and that one day we'll go to the movies and go forth together but just the other day he was a nut see I'll tell you the famous term Aristotle or IRA startled the big intellectual and one day define dividend I'm compromising position and a car I'm compromising thing and they say mr. Aristotle you're such a sucker and you're the wisest man you're so smart what happened to you he says guys when I did that and when I behave like an animal I wasn't mr. Aristotle now what does that tell you that he was never really a Nazi because if is really enough see if he's not allowed to abuse his the silk and and by doing that it's a an abuse to miss youth so in that area there's no compromise in that area there's only remembers when there ever when we when we looked and learnt from a rebel and any weapon Howard ever especially there was reverence in Chabad you don't look at it as chitchat you know when I take the data I was scared to open my mouth and not only me thousands of thousands of people because this is a this subsonic he's in a different plateau he's he's worried about the whole world grandma's motion Rubino right so in this area Rashi says Mathilde L AM a mer he places upon them this fear Livadia missio say to make them aware of his leadership the hey new Ben Urich mother but I'll meet him so also whether the mother says that the teacher should throw murder reverence but Almeida fear into the students should be lead over misko in a measured way not that the teachers come in and and curse out and and say nasty things that's not we're talking about we mean that a teacher should eight an aura in the classroom that they know that they are students and he's the teacher and she's the teacher that's what me but me though a Misco measured this this is not a card blonde for teachers who come in and they bully kids and they pressure kids and I had that and I'm sure you guys had it and you only definitely had it yeah you know you take you know young little children even at nine ten eleven twelve and many sometimes teachers abused and thank God that this has come out today and now teachers are very careful sometimes as cameras in the room if not in the room there's maybe mics and everyone has a cell phone and he can turn it on in his backpack you're finished one time you caught on on camera or on your cell phone the Hakata on the tape recorder and the cell phone and that's brought to the attention of the principal higher-ups you've lost your job because you did not just create healthy reverence you bullied and abused some of those children by screaming at them and talking to them nasty and belittling them why cuz you lost your cool and that's why before one takes a job as a teacher in a school or a red beanie yeshiva they really have to think hard if they're cut out for it we're not all cut out for it and we have then sometimes especially post-holocaust many of the achievers had teachers who needed part no sir they needed a job and they weren't cut out for the job but they need it and they went into the achievement today girls school pressure shivers and the Talmud tourists and they were a disaster for the kids and we lost thousands of kids the Yiddish kite but Hashem many of them are returning today but some of I'm sure some of your grandparents or parents went through that and we went through that so now in hindsight I say and I think you guys could say to that there's been an approve an improvement in this area that still needs more to be done but there's been a very nice improvement because a teacher knows they can't get away with it you won't get away with it you will be caught and you will be ousted and it is something really bad you'll be behind bars let's go further so he says look man I shall tell me then you cob load the rudder because what's the reason why the teacher is it is instructed by the gamora to throw to create reverence in the tell me then so that to tell me then the students you cobbled vote of batalov should receive his teaching his words in a proper way in a good way there are the Talmud hurry killing your nation I'll tell me to next page 345 when it comes to relationship of a teacher to student the main idea of a student whom I share you copy Tiffany I love it so that the student should receive the word the words of the teacher but they're who in use Lika have motivation scofflaw thought and because this is the idea of creating and throwing and throwing you know they're just now from ISM the the this is reference to the students so that they should receive the teachers words well and they should know who are talking about you don't have just any if it's a real teacher you know you have reference so Tom McLoughlin is more refined he's you know over a year Medea crushin and that ever says with this idea will understand better the term Zurich murder the Talmud oh nicholas Bechet mora the Rebbe is looking at the word Mora why does the DA mother say hello create throw create murder for while Dennis here hapless murder but coffee okay you know the money is small mother Slater mother Lavina what does that mean true the black eye right the black gold the white gold right in the body there's the the good mother right so this there's that part that makes you happier and there's a motivator a part that makes you kind of sadder bitter so but but the the word is mother's murder the mother is associated by coverage would deliver the hack of aid who plays HeLa you wanted to say something I just wondered sometimes in English we use the word vile bye all right bye well no swordsman violent vile is not secreted by the liver it's excreted by the gallbladder so I just so but I know I know III I don't know the science enough to I I was wondering I myself I don't know oh you know what I better ask you shoe shoppers may be other have a doctor as the head of the department and Maimonides I'll ask him maybe he could explain it anyway the hawk of aid who plays Cove aid what what now it says here the liver is associated with anger what's the connection between the two anyone though in what the deliver I'm asked to deliver purifies the blood oh that's what the Liberty okay so so that means that so that so the dam is like did the heat the anger okay right for her mother and the bile against the motor Hema shock at this Cossack of it so how does that has that workout Hillel it calms down the anger of the liver does it make any sense to you well yeah I mean we're talking about amorous Clara like you know like a depressive neurotransmitter or something you know something that causes you to have a bad down spirit yeah yeah no but but but but but but right right that's true but right here he's talking about the gosh me is the physical Maura he says it's me shocked at this gossip of it how is it me shocked endlessly liqueur a it gets processed to through the liver well III I see I have a good a good friend of masculine see this someone on the stand see this on the Facebook live in Yokohama of so maybe he will write a note and and explain what the rebus says here this whole idea with the mother being that the mother that again the mother be shocked at this Cossack of it yes I understand um mom says that Evers air Bushido me the doctor this process of using the murder to calm down the situation here this process that the mother creates the reverence and that's why the de mother says the rake murder but tell me them the teacher should actively and prevent prevent and proactively create a a fear a reverence a murder in the tummy then that emphasizes Reshiram either it's a measured way the india-pakistan she will you ask either covet oh no just the opposite of I said sorry if there's not a of the Mara you hear this unison if there's not enough of the Mara that's active in the body the the heat in of the coveted of the liver will be out of control and be very angry so you need a certain amount of kind of thrust it's interesting you need a sample of frustration and bitterness so that that the it doesn't go into anger the frustration and reverence although it's kind of in that it with holes in its discipline that itself will hold back from the situation spiraling out of control and becoming worth becoming anger full-blown anger so what he's saying is it's a very gavel to cover a very deep idea that the more itself is a catalyst for a healthy situation avoiding anger what a spin what a spin and he says the india told us have bought about called yes Almeida on the other hand if you have too much mother more than the measured amount years that slavery cos Michelle you become sick Jana Singh so too much murder in the body brings illness in other words too much reverence put on the students will backfire as well so a teacher needs to be very balanced in giving the right amount of murder of reverence to the students that I want and they get the point this is the teacher we're students at the same time the teacher doesn't get out of control and express his frustrations and anger on the students make a just a few more minutes we can be kids because I'm mother but al-midan she's lethal ears with me the Nahanni boyfriend said to Solomon Cavanaugh a métis that needs to be the proper amount of discipline in order for the purpose and objective the true purpose an objective to be filled the Kabbalah's DVD arrived to receive the teachers words beefy tithe in the best way relieves I be quite the shall arrive and they should be careful with the honor of the teacher and will stop here but this is an amazing amazing thought of how important that is for a teacher to evaluate himself in order to communicate properly to his students everyone have a great day we'll see everyone tomorrow mr. Shimizu