Maamar Lecha 1940#5- Do you have true love in your heart for G-d or is it an "intellectual" love?

page 12. ice gimmel let's go dive right into it so we spoke yesterday about um iloveolo and we spoke about the difference between the impact of willpower over the mind versus the impact of the mind over the heart that's the summation of the last nakuda that we learned yesterday intellect is drawn to the emotion super dead appeal always in a manner that we call that we we call we call it cause and effect should be mela which is automatic we call muck nevertheless that's when the middles are kind of prepared to be a recipient to the impact of seiko in other words for emotions to be healthy they need seasoning if they don't have seasoning we see they're out of whack so therefore for example a child becomes very emotional very quickly totally has a meltdown i wish it would only be by by children uh plenty of adults have the same thing a meltdown an emotional meltdown why because the emotions were not prepared to handle the moah and if there's too much mark there's too much intellect or too little for that matter it uh it does not handle it so the rabbit says here when we talk about the automatic cause and effect relationship that ever says that's true when will it happen automatically in a proper way when you're prepared if you're not prepared expect trouble on the road behind the so what does that mean how do we get this preparation so the rapper tells us in addition to contemplating ungodliness lavazza is martian in addition to the fact that not only do you just for a fleeing moment think about hashem and his creation and everything else but rather you're you spend time elaborating and thinking at length because bindingness and here introduces of course the word the word uses so often his bone anut his bonynus meditation contemplation reflection and what is that leda protein has to know every detail of that idea well thought out understood in great detail and again here you need for those that are always are looking for a a understanding what's the difference between chabad his bunions and let's say breast lift his body those are other systems themselves it says it clearly here without you know saying this is the difference about this beginners is a meditative intellectual process it's not an emotional process whereas for example his body does really has a very strong element of emotions within the experience called his bladedust when you know talking to hashem talking your heart out right there it's an emotional experience i'm not even talking about the fact that it's because by the dude in isolation and all that but just the token the content of of of breast lift his body does is a definitely means more to the emotional side intellect than the intellectual side whereas the chabad it is about his bueno nose mind you there were siddhim that practiced his bone in this hillel privately as well because they didn't want distractions so for example shabbos they would come to the minion listen to all the of him and then go into a private room in daven or some even went home in a chabad school in in the old country and some still emulated try to in in in the free world there's a room called sir now it's it's it's similar to what we call today a haider shaney but in chabad as i've told you all along has this its own lingo its own dictionary and the word for one second for the heidersheinis what was the chabadan say about israel was where on avid someone who served hashem through trilobite could go to that room after hearing all the men and being at the minion and in continuous davening in in solitude and quietness etc yes yes yes sir so i'm not sure if what i'm observing or what i have observed is that or something else but i'll tell you what i have observed um amongst people i know who are the bubbagers who will come in to davening and they will dive in i'll describe it at their own pace usually slower than the minion and they don't necessarily they're not in a rush to catch up so the question is you know where does to felipe sebor fit in when somebody is dabbing at their own pace now you're saying that they've they've heard all their but but what i've witnessed is not in in sync so much with that well like with everything else if what you witnessed is against halacha then discount it it's meaningless however i i don't want to say it again what i'm saying is that i'm i'm because i always unders there's a difference between happening with a minion and dominate to feel [Music] um i i've been uh immersed in this field for the last 40 years let me tell you about this the chabad system and the river response to these questions and issues that you bring up and others is that the word shipur means to congregate to gather together the bad belief is that you need to congregate the 10 faculties of your soul when you're diving in other words spiritually you haven't died you've technically done you you you know what i'm saying you get it you'll get it you'll get a checkpoint for davening but you really you really didn't daven always talk about this you know davening what what is david and just uh just a robotic thing yeah so there is that robotic with a minion right so the work system and and i knew this sydney that would start their dabbing a half hour an hour before the school started so that by the time when the shule was up to schmonastery they managed to catch up and they got both they dive and feel a bit zebra because they stood together with the congregation and they darvened more with kavanaugh and and his bananas and they tried gathering together with sibor the 10 faculties however those that you know need more time and they come before the minion starts where the media starts and they dabble slowly at their pace because that's the way they have kavanagh in khabad in in classical khabar 200 years of khabad that's acceptable now of recent i found out that for example the brisker have a an opinion that you don't need to doubt even with a minion how they explain that i don't know but my point is that we're less concerned about the technicalities in true chabad than the connection so that's why i emphasized you need to hear all the there are the arch of kidusa and berho different obligations that ayid is instructed to here every day so by being at the media you hear all of these obligations and you do your best to be with dominion but if but if russian gertrilla will will sacrifice your focus and concentration in chabad the choice is not to rush your trilo but again this has been unfortunately abused misused and um really you know it's not but for example in yeshiva or more serious shows or more serious individuals um keep very much much to this and and i've seen it and i i've done it you know that's that's the answer is it clear to you now or still you have questions yeah yeah okay let's continue so what he said before you go yeah i have seen i have seen a practice in amongst certain hasidah i think in the traditional region but the red bee dove is in a little separate room off to the side right about that yeah i mean is that right i think right yeah yeah you're right uh certain rebels um i'm not convinced it has to do with uh that they're not happening with dominion you know they i believe some of them are diving with dominion but they want to be in solitude uh private uh whether it's whether it's because they darven better or that's the tradition um i don't know in other words i cannot tell you that regina the father figure of the see this that's the way he dives i don't know it needs to be researched but but in in in habad the the way it worked uh for example the freedom our author night and chabad the the most prominent fila is the first night of rosh hashanah of all year that feel it even more than the ela and the way that obey him they they would spend hours in davening and and a lot of times with a lot of tears and the 1941 or 42 in the early 40s the the previous set up but was well enough to and had the stamina and he and he dive into school to like uh 11 o'clock at night 11 you know he started to set eight o'clock hours and and and you know the regular balabathan went home but the the bakarim and others they stayed and they remember it was it was an awesome experience so in that case the rebbe was kind of bearing his soul through his tv and yet he did it in public in public in a sense he did it where he was you know so um but but but but some of the bothered rappers i think maybe that are shabb they did if after the formal end of of the trilla go to their room and continue davening and so we saw the same thing um yo khan would would say you know don't make yourself holy so holy that you have to run home or escape somewhere you want to doubt me just stop you know if you're gaining uh ego out of this oh i'm so special and holy that i don't want anyone to see me then he said it's a contradiction to the whole essence of davening and he and he cautioned against it yes hello okay can you talk a little more about this idea that the the tavila i guess you're saying of marv of rosh hashanah is is sin is the most central of the year yeah yeah it's actually today's time it's so funny you asked today's tanya is he garrison 14. with the alternative speaks about what happens rosh hashanah on the night and what happens refreshing today the first day you should really you know look at it carefully and then and learn it and basically at night the first night the world goes into a tardamer a slumber asleep and when that happens you know it's it's a risky business i mean you know it's it's part of hashem i you know it's hard to use those words but it's like it's not here hashem is always here but hashem kind of disguises himself and pulls himself back so it's a very very um you know it's an awesome night so there are him that obey him again i i didn't hear this but i this is my understanding from the whole subject that obey him um took it very seriously and and and and they were dominating that the world continue being till the morning till kia schaefer [Music] that's the nisira that's right that's exactly the means of from the the building of the uh the you know from from adam right so that's called kabbalah nasirah so so the next day doubt that ebba says in this chapter 14 letter 14 that through and by the way there's some very important words we've learned it before i think and maybe we should learn it again maybe after this mimer but the alternative says there through the theolos not just that kias he inserts the words through the philos of the morning and all culminating with the kia schaefer do we bring back the king the melech to want to be a king in other words what happens at night is basically says hey guys i've given you a year and i'm not satisfied so i want to leave so you know it's scary so the night is very very uh kind of scary and uh that's that's one that could and that's one point the other point is on the positive side that the energy of rejection is roche it's the nerve center and the nerve center it's a very delicate god forbid if there's an operation needed under the nerve and then the brain and we know we know we know how sensitive it is right it controls the whole body so when we enter rosh hashanah we're entering the deepest of the deep as far as the nerves and um that takes a lot of uh vehicles and a lot of connection so that's why the first night of rosh hashanah and by the way it wasn't just by the the rabbi the rabbi you know did it on their level of kadusha and holiness but even i i recall um i forget which horses yeah much can label much as a family muchkin and he told over that he remembers seeing right uh that's no that that's uh that's uh much nick thank you much kin so one of the sons they had four sons three only ones left anyway so he told over that i think he was in summer camp you know after they escaped from russia they went to samarkanth so before they left in 46 or 47 so so he remembers seeing rosh hashanah like a lineup at a wall in in their in the show whatever a lineup one two three four like hasidim just with their heads to the wall and just dabbing and and meditating and he said it's like it was so real to this and he and he himself was a from hasidic stock but with this lineup and you didn't see their faces um the the famous mashpea of um of russia samakant and then france the yeshiva shiva and bruno brunoise the yeshiva in france it's the city of france and yeshiva there abner nemanja that was his name i was told by people who saw this he would come into shul rosh hashanah morning eight o'clock go to the wall not leave the wall till after darkening and he didn't have a sitter a master i guess he memorized it i don't know what he did but people were okay maybe he made a break i'm sorry you know to make kiddish at the end he was a religious guy so it's after my kidneys he went to make he made kiddush but they saw him all day standing on the wall and crying and just the face became red and didn't turn around i i i don't know how it's possible but people saw that little children saw it they because they would say look at him look the parents say look at him you want to see someone and rosh hashanah look at him so so this idea of of of fila because especially as he asked me about hilo at night is very very powerful i they say by my spear of yoyo one second the steps in 770 emotion knows i took you guys up the steps from downstairs to upstairs those steps and bjorn sometimes could be sitting on the step like like a regular child and crying rosh hashanah night you know and not crying where everyone could see him but you know you could see that the man is elsewhere you know he didn't you know it was packed he would have sat at a table but he never placed the city he sat down over there after after the minion after the minion but this was a a staple in chabadvilla you know um and it of course brings us to the idea that i've said this many every time you know every year every time we come to this time of the year that really you know if you're able to you shouldn't be talking rosh hashanah night you know i at my table my family knows that i i i basically don't talk sometimes i say no no you know maybe i'll say something you know but it's it's it's the the roshana knight is about thought not about dibor debora's already the next day through the tv and the kia schaefer you know that that's d boards yitzchak as it says in the swarm so it's not a time to to uh to waste on you know anyway yes me so you just done i i was just about to say that um because first of all you mentioned two things first of all your first part of this you were talking about um about how breslau is a little bit different than habane and you're talking about you know the way they do his body is biting us however a lot of what you're saying now is is mamish like you know breslau number one but you just mentioned about the first night of rosh hashanah one of the things i missed very much about umang you know because last couple of years with kova it wasn't able to go and then this year with the war is mamish the first night of rosh hashanah everyone goblins together in the clois so you're talking like 200 to 220 million doesn't matter astronaut aspartame money everybody dabbling in the coins are surrounding the ploys and the tide is deeper shattered as different people don't talk during the meal you know there are certain people but most real breast lovers do not speak until the following day but what you do see is that the davening on on on my earth in the first night of rosh hashanah is something out of this world like and and just you know because nobody's talking so nobody's there's no realist there's no just nobody's talking everybody's having people taking their time nobody's rushing to finish and just the actus of having everybody in this one huge massive show around the shoal is just a beautiful sight to see and it's very very similar to what you're saying about um you know and and i i i i wanted to uh i still want to get there one year maybe it's hashem um i had a chance two years ago uh the sponsor wanted me to go but um i i couldn't go so immediate but let's get back to the text okay okay so now we're on page 12. let's see um so we're learning here so in addition to understanding the details uh what does it mean of room to understand godliness he says here just like you understand something something physical you could explain in great detail your violin your instrument that you use to play your beautiful music right it's gashness so too the power of his bonniness it the right kind of abundance that you can explain godliness in detail says this comes specifically when you're married when you elaborate your your his bondings with what you understand look he tells us a recipe very clearly you need to review kosair the concept you're thinking about in your mind many times over and over you know we're not used to this you know we we learn something we study it next next no his abundance means over and over understanding it thinking about it well the whole palm will come and each time that you review it natasha vloyas there is an additional clarity and depth to the idea that's added each time you review it in yiddish which means a clarity clear from the word clarity from the word thief deep clear and deep you see now he has the word veikus so here you see a little bit sees the vehicles dracus isn't just a good laugh or a good cry or a good shake about vegas comes after understanding something very well then your mind is davook is glued to the idea that's the way he sees the vehicles and that time i share that idea is grasped grasped nit fast besikhli through your mind the whole master might at least buy new islamic basel and the longer you take to reflect and to deepen your mind on the godly concept that you're thinking about and learning about so not only is a two-way street of rum right there is the concept and there is the mind understanding the concept the the so the rabbit says that it's not just from the perspective of the concept being um being understood but the mind becomes one with the concept after the hosea latin says that ever although you've done all of this look at look what it says here nevertheless like amida there won't be an actual birth of an emotion hamas saga that's fitting for the cop for this level of comprehension in leithia hashover yeah but in this context doesn't mean return it means yeah attentive attentive very good attentive i i hadn't written in from years ago that's fine that's good that's what i want to see good good good bash your voice this is a very interesting version you can learn something and understand it and reflect and meditate on it you want to be an emotion believe you want it to be a heart palpitation you need to have a tentativeness of the heart to that idea and here is the the bombshell and that is the medos in the very pure form will not come from the outer trappings of intellect they only come from what's called atsumu the essence of seiko what is the difference there is cycle that's already um what's the word they use that they tweaked how is the seiko tweaked it knows that its job is to to get the emotions to go somewhere to feel something right that's not pure satel that's a sacral that's already subordinate to the media and that's one type and that's where we say ilovao cause an effect that type of seiko will impact the media that they'll be in effect but but that media is not pure media or better said it's not authentic either why because it's not coming from the unadulterated cycle it's coming from an adulterated it's coming from a seiju that's not removed completely from mita but it's a seiko that's already tweaked for mida so it's it's as it's it's it's as though let's think of it this way yoni think of it this way you're already you're you have a it's a preconceived idea it's preconceived what makes it preconceived the emotion because you know that that this is for this is what you should feel this is what you should work towards so you you get your mind to justify and create that feeling the feeling that's created from it is not authentic 100 percent it's already a watered-down i like that word a watered-down type of media because it comes from a watered down compromised abram will use the word compromise a compromise and what and and what will create a unadulterated media when it comes what he says here it comes from the essence of let's continue how does it work what i just said now he's going to say in hebrew in the mind after merchant is miss salem conceals and hides itself um and it shines in a contracted form of and now it its appearance is in a very different essence than the way it was before now its orientation is bottom line so so the the seiko is already thinking bottom line that's not pure single that's not pure intellect pure intellect transcends bottom line it's like the genius professor that you know who comes in and he doesn't care whether anyone understands he has one thing in mind he's going to now share pure logic and intellect the fact that no one understands who cares now the answer is so what's the benefit that that's uh that's when you're looking for benefit that's when you're looking for students that's when you're looking for results but there is a position where it goes beyond that and what we're saying here is that to get the best of the media you need to tap into that unadulterated level of seiju abu minas mita bellev but from pure's intellect there won't be any immediate spiral circle levad you know what you get i'm sorry when you get when you use an adulterated seiko you get what's called emotional intellectualism you don't get a heart palpitation i told you taking out the garbage for your wife in the morning you don't have heart a heart palpitation of love of loving your wife when you take out the garbage if you do it you see a psych sugar no why are you doing it because it's the right thing to do be a mensch she cooks and cleans and all that take the garbage out so when you take the garbage out your mind is is already in a position of what we call his spiral sickly emotional intellectual and intellectual emotionalism it's an emotion that's within the mind and that's not pure media look what he says he's impacted intellectually it's such a in other words i understand how valuable my wife is wow unbelievable i'm taking the garbage out right so your your intellectual fascination creates within the brain within the mind a notion a movement a movement a movement but it's all part of the brain yes motion is it open isn't this again just classic isn't what you got to be isn't what what's the idea of what despondent you know you you use bonino and you've been missed on how much your wife does on a daily weekly basis for the for you for the family yeah et cetera so that's going to naturally personalize right you you appreciate that intellectually and that translates into okay feeling appreciated emotionally right but that's the but that that that that means that you then will do the right thing but it doesn't yet mean that that the feelings that you have the deep feelings of of ava and everything that you have you're not having that at that time you're understanding it you just said i understand i appreciate i understand that's in that example and that's fine for that for that example that's fine but when you talk about you want to you know we were talking uh months ago you know but when you want to feel something that's a whole different that's a different level feeling something is it is a very different level it's a different it's it's it's it's not it's not i'm just doing what's right and i appreciate what you're doing that's not that's that's not an emotion that's not a that's not a a a a heartfelt emotion your head what well i i just want to say i have to so i have to add this in and maybe in hillel interesting for you to what your your take on this i was listening to a share um a talk given by rabbi you've heard rabbi david paul palkowitz yes okay so not rabbi doctor doctor doctor excuse me excuse me doctor dr david belkowitz yes listen to a tacos going back um i don't know let's say a couple months ago okay it was all it was the tacos on marriage which you know he spoke about this yeah obviously yeah it's something though that i thought was very very interesting he was speaking about marriage he was speaking about some some things all of a sudden he put in in the middle of his talk i don't know it sort of almost came from like left field he said he put in he put in the the words he said but by the way he said um he said when a person meditates on and thinks about and recalls all the the wonderful qualities of one's wife what she does for the family i don't know etc he said it is a tremendous i'm paraphrasing what he said a tremendous preventative for for infidelity and then he said those words and then he just continued on with whatever he was talking about okay it's like it was up he was speaking he made this pause just put this in it's like uh you know like and then he just kept talking about whatever it was he was speaking about before so i'm i'm i'm bringing this up because i was i was i thought that was brilliant what he did but my point of bringing this up is almost as if like it's like almost like this this is in a way i feel like an example but he said of of what we're talking about obviously the example that he gave would say would be the extreme in a way in the other way the point i'm getting at is that is that um the point that i'm getting at is this it's just that the the moa it i don't know i mean maybe it could bring one to to appreciate one's wife you know or something else in a you know in a deep emotional way i um i have to go but basically um the example that you're sharing from what he said i'm hearing it very differently i'm hearing it that basically he's talking about like this is spiral sickly not the deep level of in other words you want to avoid infidelity praise your wife you don't have relationship okay that's one level that's practical to me that's similar take out the to the taking out the garbage it's just another example of taking out the garbage is that is that is that what we talk about when two people go under the hooper they have hoop of the conduction they have fictitious so you should avoid infidelity you should say that you should take no no so so so so you have to compare apples to apples what i'm saying is that that's all true when he's saying what you're saying it's all true but it's it's not it's not what we talk about a meter of ava in your heart and and frankly and frankly if you don't develop that media you're always at risk of infidelity so in a way you have to touch that core essence in the relationship for that to be you know kind of guaranteed there's no guarantees but guaranteed anyway let's talk more about this maybe on monday okay because it's an important point um everyone should have a great shabbos and uh we'll see each everyone on monday have a great shopping zeitgeist buy a good shot everybody