Maamar Byom Ashtei 1971 #3- It's better to have little of G-d than lots of self-ego - RC Dalfin

So good today. We're learning the which the Reb said on his birthday 1971 when he was entering his 70th year. And we're on page 204, chapter 4. But briefly to recap what we learned till now, the Reba brought this medish here to explain that on the 11th on the on the in the month of Nissan, the month of Pesak, the various tribes brought sacrifices. On the 11th day, the tribes the tribes the trib's name was Usher. Usher means fortune, fortunate, lucky. And the Reb brings a midrash. Midrash says that there was a there was there was a king who was walking with his deputies and people who saw them congregated around the deputies. One person went with the one from education and finances whatever. And there was one shrewd fellow in Hebrew the word is pak. This beak said, "I'm not going to latch on and follow the deputies, but I'm going to follow the king himself." In Hebrew, in Aramaic, ano mala. Those are the famous words that that is quoted today in kabad. No mala. If you say those words, people know that you're that you're referring to this mimer. So the Reba asked the question what's what's the genius over here this shrewd fellow any average person would choose the king over the deputies what's the comparison and then the whole idea of choice he questioned choosing you know choosing means when two things are identical when two things are not identical there's no no concept of choice so in yesterday's lecture in yesterday's Here we learned that the choice was between choosing the the idea of worshiping the sun and the moon and the stars and constellations which also they facilitate effluence hashbah in the world versus Hashem himself. In other words, there could be a thought that since these these creations facilitate the the blessing of Hashem, the hashb. They deserve recognition. And this is where the shrewd person comes into the situation that that he understands that their entire recognition, their entire FACILITATION IS BECAUSE GOD GAVE them and gives them that coyak. So they themselves on their own are nothing different, nothing special. But you couldn't make that mistake. So the fir the first three type of people who gravitated to the deputy of of education or finance or whatever those old all those ministers they were learned into thinking and following the hashbah coming through the maz the stars and constellations where it came to the pak the smart guy he says you have it all wrong that's what we learned yesterday Today the Reb is going to reject this and add a very very important insight. So let's look at it and uh and read it carefully again. Page 204 chapter 4. The fact that the medbin brings an analogy from a king and his deputies. Although in the analogy the deputies are men people of free choice because every human being has free choice. And therefore it makes sense to say that gravitating to the deputies, the ones that said, "I will kind of marry relate to the deputies." This could cause that those that CHOSE THE DEPUTIES WILL GET MORE IN THEIR BANK ACCOUNT. Very simple favoritism. Just look at yesterday the the Trump speech, you know, and it's it's by every president. You know what I what what I what I LIKE WHAT I FIND FASCINATING is when he walks down the aisle, especially when he comes in, not when he goes out, you you see how he makes contact, eye contact, and sometimes body contact in a certain way to this person, a different way to another person. It seems to me as a as a novice and outsider that, you know, there there's there's a background to who he shakes his head to with a smile, who he shakes his head to without a smile, who he pats ON THE BACK, WHO HE PICKS UP AS A TIE. HEY, I LIKE THAT TIE, you know, an American flag tie. And all all these m in in other words, the the the uh the congressmen, senators, etc. THE DIFFERENT ONES THEY THEY LIKE THE THE deputies and THEY HAVE AN THEY HAVE A WITH HIM THEY HAVE AN ACCOUNT WITH him and and and they know that they have to say this or make this move or that move that's what the is saying here these deputies that don't choose the king if these people that don't choose the king but choose the deputies it's because they need more MONEY IN THE COFFERS for their their particular environment and being that they're that that human beings people have free will they will get more they use their free will to direct the hashbah the money in this situation or the favor or the favors a certain way you know like I don't have to tell you but you know the contracts the US contracts probably this reader just wrote too you know you rub shoulders the right way THE CONTRACT GOES TO YOU AND NOT TO SOMEONE ELSE. I know someone init who has a yeshiva and and a very fine gentleman. He in his his younger years he spent so much time in the hallways of the in Jerusalem even though he didn't live there. and and and Immish would would sit and and throw cigars to the to the uh minute to the people there and sit and crack the uh knew the uh those peanuts, whatever they're called, you know, uh and and and just kibuts. Well, they gave him um they gave him a piece of land and and then paid for a building and now he's a second building. That's the world we live in. you know you you you you you hang around and you get more hash. Let's continue the text in this detail the analog and the analogy are different because the analog if you compare the deputies giving more to those that hang hang on to them and follow them. This is not true regarding the stars and this and and and the moon and the constellations and they are not creations that have a choice. The moon, the star and THE CONSTELLATIONS HAVE NO WHATSOEVER. BUT WHATEVER HASHEM says they have to do. A human being can say, "I'm not listening to you, God. I'm doing it my way." or I'm not listening to you king. So the just points out here as an aside a sidebar the difference between the analogy and the analog. Let's continue. But that's and that's why it's in a bracket. Next page 205. From this we understand that the shrewd fellow Omar when he said no mal I will marry the the king. I I will identify with the king. I will join the king. It's because serving the king is more important to him more than the benefit of the affluence that he'll HAVE THROUGH RUBBING SHOULDERS WITH THE MINISTERS. You hear what the says here? IT'S A GOOD POINT. IT'S UNBELIEVABLE. You corrupt shoulders with their ministers and they WILL SMEAR YOUR COFFERS. THEY'LL GIVE you more. Right? But guess what? This pak and THIS IS WHY HE'S SHREW AND SHARP. He realizes that if he doesn't get sidetracked to what we'll call the fascinations, but just focuses on the king and that he's able to serve the king, THAT'S GREATER FOR HIM. THAT'S GREATER. Why is that greater? Because he has the mel. When you have the mel, you have everything. And it's not about having everything. You are in. You're in. You're with the king. WHAT MORE DO you need? You need money, the king will give you money. YOU NEED FAME, THE KING WILL GIVE YOU FAME. You need recognition, he'll give you recognition. You don't HAVE TO YOU DON'T HAVE TO BEG for it. And you don't have to make maneuvers because you're with the melik. AND AS THE MELIK TAKES CARE OF HIMSELF, HE TAKES YOU AND THE MEL ONE. That's why he's a pak. THAT'S WHY THIS FELLOW IS SO SHREWD AND SHARP BECAUSE HE DOESN'T FALL INTO THE trap of following the fascinations. Let's continue. This will also make clear the analog the primary reason why the non-Jewish nations serve the sun and the moon but Jews don't serve only God Almighty who is not It's not because non-Jews make the mistake thinking that the stars in the constellation are are a creatures of choice. And the Jews know the truth that it they are only like the axe in the hand of the chopper. As we said yesterday rather the reason is ashb the non-Jewish nation by them what's most important to receive the affluence the money the BOTTOM LINE THAT THAT'S IMPORTANT to us THE HASH ISRAEL IN CONTRAST BY THE Eden by the Jews who the primary drive and focus of the Jews is here you have IT SIR SERVING THE KING IT'S NOT ABOUT WHAT I'M GOING TO GET OUT OF THE KING DO YOU HEAR WHAT'S going on over here this is such a paradigm shift in the way we should be thinking like you know you're living in most of you right IT'S NOT ABOUT WHAT CAN I GET OUT OF YOU'RE IN WHETHER YOU GET SOMETHING OUT OF IT OR NOT is irrelevant it's relevant IF YOUR MAIN PRIMARY GOAL IS I I want to have better I want to have my kids serve in the army I want to have this I want to have that and guess what IF THAT'S YOUR PRIMARY THINKING. With all due respect, you're going to have disappointments. And that's why SO MANY PEOPLE TRY LIVING their and then they end up coming back CUZ THEY'RE GOING WITH AN AGENDA. But if your is the holy land OF IT'S KADESH THAT'S it that's it and I'm thinking about it you know this morning I overheard in shul about someone who's been married someone who for years and everything everything you know and he left his wife whatever I'm thinking about what's the whole idea of marriage and I'm thinking when I was getting married. I I you know and I'm not I'm like like anyone else. The whole idea is Hashem says you should get married. You want to start a life and build Yiddish kite and do what you have to whatever in any way whether it's a business or in in in in clay kaidesh and Jewish things to things. So you need a partner that's it. And this this is a very HARD TASK. THAT'S WHY IT TAKES A PAK. THAT'S WHY THE MED SAYS IT TAKES A VERY SMART FELLOW. IT TAKES A VERY SMART FELLOW TO COME to understand that whether it's in marriage, whether it's in in relationships, it whether it's in the choices we make to be really honed in on what is the ekar here. Now, I'm not saying that someone that doesn't feel this way is a bad person or someone who will ultimately divorces aren't grounds for a divorce. I'm not saying that. But what I'm saying is that the question you have to ask yourself is what am I looking for? What is my paradigm? You know, I say this always my mash Khan was, you know, besides a genius, he was a person that, you know, his mind was dedicated to Hashem and to the toidim and the Reb and and Yeden, right? And over the years I heard like but SOMETIMES YOU KNOW BECAUSE he was so like kind of in a way a little absom minded sometimes because he he was thinking this like you know and and and his WIFE WOULD SOMETIMES CRITICIZE HIM. I I HEARD THIS. I was there in the house in a in a cute way, you know, in a loving way. Really, like she would say, "Yo, she called him, you know, to her husband. Yo, mench, why would you already be a mench? You know, tuck yourself in." That's a that's a a response to uh to Iser's comment to me yesterday about the bin not tucking themsel in. Anyway, when will you TUCK YOURSELF IN? WHEN WILL YOU BE PROPER? YOU KNOW, YOU KNOW, YOU KNOW WHAT I'm saying? Like, WHEN WILL YOU HAVE A JOB 9 TO5, NOT NOT STAY UP TO 3:00, 4 IN THE MORNING AND GET UP, you know, he got up early anyway. But but saying, you know, and and you know what his response was? I'll never forget his response was like this. The fact that I'm working for I'm now again don't take it in the wrong way. Working for the Reba doesn't mean you should be a slob show. AND I'M NOT SAYING THAT. But what makes a person happy? Just in other words, what he was telling HIS WIFE IS YOU'RE RIGHT IN IN LOGIC. YOU'RE RIGHT. YOU should have, you know, this and that and organized and your IRA and this and you go to your doctors and you go for your checkups and right that's say that's the way the world works. That's the way right there's a higher reality if you could come to that and live it is that I'm with God. I I would like to be more organized and more disciplined but my nature is not that way and I'm in a good place. Why I'm in a good place? Not because of what I get from this good place because I'm in I'm in the right I'm with the melik with the forid like is being with the isb. But for every every Jew, it's that sense of feeling. You know, I remember when I would come back from Marin County torren heist to the to 770, it wasn't about what am I going to get on this trip. Just being with and being with the and being together in this atmosphere, that was enough. Even if I never heard a sika which I did and if I during that time just being in that atmosphere feels so good and feels so good is selfish right but what I'm saying is I'm I I I'm I'm bringing out the the point that when you're in the right atmosphere you don't need any other outside stimuli TO JUSTIFY YOUR EXISTENCE and why you're there. And this is what we're learning here in the mimer. See, here you learn a mime. It talks about something entirely different. But if you bring it home to yourself, it's the exact same nakuda. Are you serving Hashem like the constellations and the stars and the moon, which which their primary objective is give me more, make me more happy, self-centered in in many in different ways. WHAT CAN I GAIN out of this? What will I have? The PK, the smart truth fellow, he's thinking this differently. IT'S RADICALLY DIFFERENT. IT'S NOT JUST, you know, um it's not just a matter of degree. It's a an entire different perspective. I'm with the king. You'll ask me, "What do I get from the king?" I can't answer you, but I'm with the king. I feel great. I'm with the king. That's all I need. I need to be with the melik. This is the that it brings out. And this is why we call him a not the other ones. Next page. Now, we'll explain this at length. Page 206. The primary reason that they serve the stars and constellation is it's because in order to receive effluence you have to have humility. And since they didn't want to humble themselves, we're talking about the go, the non-Jews when they worship the stars and the moon. WHY? FOR THEM, YOU don't have to HUMBLE YOURSELF. YOU COULD BE A YESH. You could be a have your ego and get what you want. Oh, this this is such a deep such a such a so real. You can have your cake and eat it too. That's exactly what it says here. You understand? Or like I told you when I came to BM the first time, you can someone said to me, I got the best of both worlds here. I'm in Eric Israel. I'm in Israel and I got a nice villa. Why do I have to live in borrow park in Flatbush in Boston in LA in Baltimore here or there and have a nice va nice house? I can live in Bish have a big va and I'm living in there is a son of you don't have to humble yourself that's not bit that means you're coming into the situation WITH YOUR FULL SET OF ego self-centerness selfishness and even if it's not as coarse as I'm I'm I'm describing it you're You're you're you're coming there with what WHAT CAN I GET OUT OF LIVING in says that means you don't have ble to that the uh the spirit of impurity is continuously found where there's no cost and there's emptiness. You know that good old expression, if it don't cost you, stay away. Why? BECAUSE IT DON'T COST YOU, THERE'S NO THERE'S NO EFFORT. That means it's not good. IF SOMEONE OFFERS YOU 50% ON YOUR INVESTMENT, RUN FAR AWAY, EVEN 30%. Cuz he's going to rip you off, guaranteed. WHETHER IT'S THE PONZI scheme or you know which came much later or earlier but you you can bet you that you are going to get ripped off cuz you're getting a hand out. THE SAYS THE holy says when you get a hand out that's from kipa that's not from kadusha. uh it's understood there's a time when a person has a need there's a concept of help and all that that's but we're talking about this this attitude the attitude of entitlement which we we we we are sick of sick from from this entitlement I deserve and I deserve and I deserve the says this is the attitude of the star the stars the moon the constellations let's continue inside. You know, regarding the it says that we ATE IN EGYPT WITHOUT CHARGE, FREELOADERS. We were freeloaders in IN EGYPT. HASHEM GAVE US the money, the water, the clouds of glory, and you can GO AND LIVE IT UP. GO TO THE BEACH in the Gazo or Egypt, wherever you were at the time, and bathe and do whatever it is because God's taking care of you. He's giving you your food in the morning for the day. You don't have TO EVEN GO. YOU WOKE UP AND YOU WENT OUT YOUR DOOR. THERE WAS FOOD FOR YOU. Home delivery. Wow. Wow. Wow. That's a freeloader. Free, you know. The Reb always quoted the whoever despises presence will live longer. Meaning don't take anything for free. And the Reb would always say, "I'm paying you for it. I'm paying." Now, of course, naturally, people gave gifts to the office for him, you know, but when he was able to, he would not receive anything. You know, the breast of aid would come. I saw this. And they would sell the different things for the little booklets and they would stop the Reb and and they would go over to him and the Reb would take it and he would take out money and pay them $10, $20. And trust me, it wasn't worth that amount. Not because it's not a good safe because it was, you know, a little pamphlet worth two, three, four, five bucks. You know, you know the joke of matonis. Instead of reading it with a sin, the dot being on the left side, put the dot on the right side. What does it read? Say shides. BEAUTIFUL PRESENCE WILL make you live longer. But that's just a play on words. So going back to the text, the Reb is saying here that the the issue of the the the this idea of receiving affluence is living off the fat of the land being giving everything and it's considered free. That's doesn't have B. Let's continue. He says the affluence coming from the other side i.e. Egypt, the Egyptians, it's a free handout. That's one thing. Another reason in next page is why do these people want to receive the the why do the non-Jewish nations worship the stars and the constellations? Because the very affluence itself that comes through the stars and the constellations, you get a lot more. YOU GET TWICE FOR YOUR BUCK. Because since the nourishment of the negative side comes what we call this comp encompassing the the encompassing energy of Hashem which transcends the progression and pervasive from there there's no pimi right is or lighting vessel so much you can handle so much you get that's it there's a m there's nob it says that the kipa we learned about this at length if you remember in that the concept is that the kipa receives its energy from the mif so therefore it's beyond accounting Next page 209 is a massive amount. This this makes it clear to us the the the uh shrewdness of the Jewish people of of the of the Eden that they only want God. Even though if they just follow the the the moon and the and the sun, they'll get much more in their bank. That doesn't TALK TO THEM. AND THEY KNOW THAT IN ORDER TO RECEIVE from holiness, you got to work very hard with much effort. And then initially the affluence that they'll get from will be limited initially based on how much work they put into it. Nevertheless, Hashea, they um they're willing to forego the abundance of affluence even though that a Jew who like does a sin will get temporarily from the negative side. They get they get from the the top they didn't say we we will forego this ultimately we will forego this look at these words page 210 and it's more dear to them more precious the little amount that they get from kadusha A LITTLE FROM KADUSHA is better than a lot from Kipa. Make the best out of this today. Remember that you're living in that. Most of you, you have this opportunity. You've given away and don't for a moment. For a moment, it's easy FOR ME TO TALK CUZ I'm living here on the fat of the land. Right? But you guys, you know exactly what we're saying. You come, you come from here. So, see, and it shouldn't be looked upon. I'm giving up. YOU YOU YOU YOU GRABBED AN opportunity and halai. We should all grab that opportunity. Have a great day. We'll continue tomorrow. Zaz. >> Thank you.