Lying isn't acceptable even if it's about yourself - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so we're on page the Huff gimbal in middle of chapter youth Zion 17. so to recap what we learned yesterday in this chapter in pedicure Zion the altareba begins his conclusion of his banana knee Doctrine let's call it that although when I say he concludes the entire first halik of the 53 chapters is geared towards the baitany towards the average person the potential person but nevertheless from chapter 12 through are the five chapters where he really gets into the guts of what the pain in the is and what's the objective of the Bane in the in various forms of being in the so 12 13 14 15 16 17. sorry six chapters so what did we learn yesterday so we learned that given the tagline the mission statement of Tanya was on the title page ant for this thing is close to you in your mouth your heart and to act upon it what is now she says all of Tara mitzvahs and Hashem is telling us that we should know that Torah and mitzvah's observance is close to us as close and not only close to us it's very close to us meaning it's close to us and closer than even goshmi's material matter life and and and that is a such a heavy statement and one that needs clarification because seemingly as the altareba uses these beautiful words on page 44 the third line of in the chapter 17 naked it's contrary to our host to our reality now to them in this bit sadik knows that for the human being the human being is created by Hashem to say that terrorism is close to you and very close to you is enigmatic it's it's like and then he added in a bracket you see the brackets there at the end of the third line on page 44 on um and Taylor is eternal and we discussed yesterday why he needed to add that and basically it is to tell us that even though this person is not a team it's not a civilian it's not a command it's not about Commandments super bauma it's God telling you telling us a story what's the story The Script it's the script what's the script the script there's a tournaments this is close to you guys and therefore he the verse continues it's not in heaven it's not a cross the sea you don't gotta take a con a plane and a ship and you don't have to endanger yourself it's right there right now in each and every one of ours a house or apartment sitting and learning together it's right here foreign the story is eternal because you would think that amidstv is eternal that I get as the rambam writes if anyone changes in Iota of what it says in the theater it's it's a violation a breach in the 13 principles of Faith but as far as the stories of Torah the simple what's the big deal in Moses generation it was a reality because they were maybe they're more Spirituals right so Maisha when Hashem communicates to Maisha avrah this person it passes that something you would say you would argue for his generation this people they were more they weren't interested in kashmias they were interested in look at this so it makes sense but for us for every generation following my show many generations many people no it's not that way it says here in Tanya in chapter 17 no wrong foreign different things over 42 years of his talks that anything that's entire is reality and that's why I doubted that but this isn't the only time later in chapter 41 he says something similar about Toyota omaris of course what do you have to say about Torah Ramirez who else says that Shakespeare but I'll tell you how it matters say what what the verse is if you're quoting a verse from the Torah you don't have to say and the Torah says quote the verse the same over here why do you have to make up a point and torah's everlasting duh oh really so the answer is because emphasizes and teaches us a hidden lesson and a very important lesson that every aspect can teller from law to story like is eternal and is relevant to us today and that's why Dr ever says it here in Tanya it's relevant to every need that is a potential pain anytime every time even after messiah's coming if the machine is coming will also be learning the Tanya like we'll be learning the good mother it's a it's it's a it's a uh a shallow shallow understanding of Taylor that um comes and will know will be involved in in God's knowledge which means previous subtitle of the esoteric aspects of Toyota doesn't mean that we're not going to learn we're going to learn the inner meaning you have to learn the gamot to be able to understand the sinner meaning excuse me so anyway anyway this was what he said on page 44 then on page of gimbal where we're at in the middle of the page now could have introduced the idea that how is it so what's the answer how is it close to us so he says call me yesterday the second line of gimbal see yesterday as long as you have a brain in your head for your brain your intellect is within your domain and ability to make cognitive changes the Yokel is bling and boy and to contemplate on it as much as you would like in regard to God's greatness in other words don't tell me that you can't use your head you can you're lazy if you're lazy that's not an excuse if you tell me that your brain doesn't get it for whatever reason and there are such situations I cannot excuse you but the average person has in a far in a regular normal way in a way that's fine now I want to make myself clear God forbid to think that if Hashem created someone with an issue a cognitive issue that it's not according to the plan it's a hundred percent according to the plan and as we know from different studies those that have cognitive disabilities could get to the truth more than those that don't because they see it without the the cover-ups without the facade without the build up right and that's why there's been studies case studies in there to throw in other way other other places about autistic children autistic people but many times they they say things and feel things that are right on because there isn't the the limitation of the intellect which challenges and dissects and questions that's an ex that's kind of an exception that's the shamaya and and very important to to understand that and to respect it and to work with it and I can say about Hashem that there's been such a great Improvement in this area in the Jewish Community all over the world where there's um so much available for you know people with with cognitive issues yes Maisha where we're done I'm sorry to come back to this but um I'm I'm just as you're speaking I'm I'm looking at the English translation I'm using the you know even going back to this the altar up it says this language of like and it is very easy for any person who has brains in his head I I'm having I guess you know I I as I looked at that again I'm just struggling to understand why why would the alternator use that particular language meaning it seems like we know that all durable is so particular about every single word that he wrote in a Tanya that seems like a very flippant sort of way to speak I'm sure you didn't mean it that way but maybe I guess what I'm asking you is I'm going back to what I'm saying like I don't understand why it's not terribly speaking this way like obviously everybody has brains in their head so I'm just I guess I just don't understand what what requires that I've been using this particular language okay it's a good question and altered is using it because we're dealing with someone who's fine who's looking who's looking for an excuse who's using he's using he says I I ca I cannot do this now terrible says basically he's saying that you're a liar okay yeah yes he he has to confront the person and guess what it's us it's at different times don't give me your cockum excuse me your cockamania excuses use your brains yeah my shoes so drama has to be very very very sharp he otherwise you don't get it you know that everyone spoke a secret by the way and it's printed and look what they secrets and it's online in English it's worth learning and reading by Nayak right it says it says the animal that's kosher and the animal that's a nano Tahira why doesn't the terrorist say taken to the table the kosher animals and the non-kosher animals wouldn't that be clear it's like you know here my ear this ear my left ear right itches me so instead of going like this I go like this you'll see left hand to it's your left ear why you why do you use your right hand it's kosher and it's not Kosher no it coach I'm sorry it's kosher and strength no it doesn't say that the kosher ones and the ones that are not koshered and that explained how careful you learn how careful your language has to be that the title didn't want to say traif so then they're ever asked on himself but we find in other parts of the title where it says puzzle and not you know and traif and all that have explained when it comes to bottom line you have to make it as crystal clear it passes which was the story of the Ark and the table it's not it's not later when it talks about the animals that are caution and not cushioned and passage meaning over there clearly it says you know why because there are there's no there's no room for there's no room for this because someone will walk away with this instead of hey this is not Kosher finished strife and using that Maisha is an example to support what the altered MSS here and to answer your question which is a good question and that is what's the answer yes he has to tell you you have money yeah in other words I understand it's like it feels like he's belittling the person that's what's bothering you and the answer is the person's belittling himself and the person is putting up a blockage and there's no way to get through this person I'm sorry it's just it's just a so so over here there's no room for negotiations one second and the same is with your Arab neighbors there's no room for negotiations okay and and and yes Amir Kahani had it right and not that I'm a cocknic and all that but you know and I'm not saying she's gonna kill everyone that but this is our country and you want to bother us you're going to you're gonna pay for it that's it get you know you have your place God gave us this to you it has nothing to do with the Six Day War and the 48 that's all natural phenomena Rashi first Rashi voracious looking Rashi got took gave us the land God took the land that means God gave it to us first it belongs to us you want to be a mensch you want to ask for something us to help you we'll be more than glad to help you there are times my when you have to confront the situation and if you beat around the bush then it's going to be a greater mess now today here in this chapter has to employ what seems like a belittling statement as you say you know whoever has brains in his head especially in English it sounds terrible you know in Hebrew moisture you can get away with it yes they may have become cuddly but when he translated in English you're right it sounds so degrading and the answer is because we're dealing with a degrading situation someone who uses excuses to to go against be a jerk excuse the expression yes so just uh a little bit going back a little bit when you were talking about somebody is going to say lazy or creating blockages where where would I mean unfortunately we live in 2023 you know the the we don't live in the times like that we have different situations a lot of trauma a lot of people with trauma and a lot of this Mr Gus with the you know the trans movement and all this and you see I don't have to tell you you're here in big chemist the kids the the vinay no or it's it's a Horgan ready it's a horben and it's happening in kharadi homes it's Manish like I I don't even know like what are we supposed to do I mean how are we supposed to like Implement what we're learning to help the kids to help the Next Generation because they're we can we we didn't grow up with this stuff this stuff is now like it's new age whatever it's much much worse yeah and uh it's it's real and it's happening and um I don't want to say and I don't I don't think it's the case that it's it's too late it's not too late but it requires it requires you know you talk about I'm writing about how good Israel now and it requires the a good I mean I don't mean the organization Cloud Israel to get together and and create a system of Education where parents and and the youth but they don't know as you say you know there's a a talking and working relationship there's a talking working relationship between Educators and students institutions and students not kicking out boys and girls and things like that and and I know they're tough situations and I know Paul Hashem there are many new yeshivas and girls schools and smaller schools which is all great and then and then this has to be this has to be uh really looked at at an earlier age maybe even you know in elementary school you know as soon as a parent uneducated detects in the young man or a young woman or a boy or a girl you know feelings of that they're not a male or a female and things like that um that makes them be a system within the Yeshiva World and in the girls World School world of psychologists and therapists and and and the reppis and the the teachers women teachers have to be trained how to how to deal with this and the answer is not to say you're a shaged to say you're you're a misfit okay at the same time you know I I I saw maybe I shouldn't I saw some woman talk talk show I don't want to mention the name and and she gave it to this transgender movement she isn't Jewish so the fact that they're going that are against this is very good in other words you know there has to be a a on one hand this this forceful uh the forceful God's approach vis-a-vis Toyota and religion and Humanity that a male is a male a female is a female at the same time if a person has an issue they need to be helped I remember the rebel spoke about um this issue uh wasn't trans it was with gays in in the you know one time he spoke about it in the in a public fiberian I believe in the 1980s in 384 and the rabbit didn't squash the person the represent if they have a psychological need you need to help them you know we know what the terrorist says but the fact is that there are people who will feel this way uh and and we need we need to we need to help them how that's done is is is is is is um another issue and unfortunately there's you know disagreements and I can understand the disagreements but somehow you know when you start disagreeing and the youth see this sees this then they find that as a legitimate reason for them to continue their behavior we do have to go on and Tanya I would love to talk about it more maybe we'll have a bring in and we could talk about it more so it is a serious issue and I appreciate you bringing it up you know I need and um you know we spoke about the blockages but here we're talking about a person who's looking to serve Hashem and and and I I guess this would apply to that too in other words through being the Carib through being the Curve this individual these individuals you can help them the problem that we're facing Amy as you know is that there's an entire entire groups that have been formed and created to legitimatize this Behavior and these thoughts so whereas in in our time in our you know growing up if you had one two whatever it was the exception to the rule no one said it's acceptable but now on CNN the other day a few right a talk show there's a woman and there's a man and he says oh yeah yeah my husband said so and so I mean millions of people see it my husband said so and so he's a male talking I mean this has become the norm and it's it's it's it's it's very very hard because it's been legitimized and now what happened I think in energy as well wasn't it an orthodox singer came out and said that he's uh what is he gay or trans I don't whatever I mean and and people have have actually uh communicated with me about about this issue like it's it's a very very difficult issue very very difficult issue you know the fact is you see in the gemara avram you see in the gemara that there is what they call today trans of so in other words is so why are you laughing I'm not laughing I disagree I've talked to him and drag this is a I understand I know that and and what people are doing now with this trans stuff is they're creating their own fantasy I understand that's from reality okay I I agree I agree I understand I I understand what I understand what I meant to say is for the the Orthodox ones and the front ones the ones who learned the Yeshiva it gives them some legitimacy and I understand that the basic difference it's ridiculous argument all I'm saying is that that that this is what's happening today whereas one once upon a time it was clear when I learned in the gemara as a 15 year old it didn't enter my mind that there was such a there are people that want to be talking when I'm drinking this walking around the streets of borough parking Crown Heights and Flatbush all of us in Flatbush I it was like the now I don't know how it was for you guys in college in high school you know in Chicago or wherever in La you know Maple was different I don't know could be was different but in the 1970s and 80s I I never heard of anyone saying crying you know I saw a talk to my drinking this walking on the street I never heard such a thing so whatever anyway bottom line is I don't have the solution there's a lot of michigas so on one hand we have to be strong you know I I you know I said Americano you know with every Jew with a 22 you know it's Ireland and on the other hand the implementation and the way was debated and questioned and um some will say hey look America was right look look at the mess we have today look at the the taxes that we have to pay uh because we have to you know defend ourselves you know and if we would have been 67 made the uh you know hey you guys crossed the line you're all dead not just one we wipe out you know an entire Village don't be a different you know but no concessions right I remember the rep speaking I think it was um the early 80s when we when we went into Syria you know um and there ever said go to Damascus and you know they didn't they or they weren't the mask of State you know they ever wanted that they should not but the conquer syrians no no he of the conquer Syria that wasn't this point it's going to show you tough show What You're Made Of you start up with us and we're gonna hang around here you won't be able to move you're gonna make your life very uncomfortable so just behave yourself you know okay let's learn a few more lines okay so now turn to Paige huffkin um so the answer never said that may actually leave the mind can control the heart and the actual heart not just the tools and instruments of the heart unless it's like eight nine lines from the top unless someone's really a Russia sleep and that same measures that he brings earlier regarding Sadiq and controlling their heart the Matthew says the flip side is that the wicked people didn't show him their heart controls them club and their heart is not at all controlled by them in their control and this is the punishment and the great punishment for their sins for these doesn't talk about these dead people these dead onesim because the hazal say Russia even while they're alive are called deadmes Hashem foreign truth it is impossible for Wicked people to start to serve God Allah he said this is like also very very much a very strong statement which is a true statement you gotta stop doing your fingers you don't stop doing the Vegas first you you you your approach to God is is not it's not good surma comes first then if I say clip is continuing you have to break the negative forces and extraneous matters which is a separating curtain number two it's even more issued than a curtain it's a partition of barzel of iron Hamas that separates the people that will show you to the Father in Heaven I and so how and how do you break that that's the reality the way to break this Clipper this this this uh curtain and this uh is through srira sleeping you have to shatter your heart a contrite heart um and frustration of the soul that I sinned I am frustrated not depressed but it really bothers me that I spent so much time in this world of nonsense Etc like desire writes I'll possibly as a person tell him the slaughterings that you give to God it consists of ruach brother a contrite heart lave nishbar and a broken heart shall you they leave nisbane when they when this Russia Maisha will break his heart meaning stop doing the bad and do surmeera this will automatically crack and break the spirit of folly the negative energy the Clippers he gives you the citations to desire he okay we'll stop here and tomorrow Mr sham believe that they will continue to finish the painting everyone have a great day