Lustful Thoughts are Expected - Rejecting them is the objective - You can do it - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

dedicate this year today to actually a far distance relatively you should you should know from America's role the famous singer daddy groucher daddy he's very very ill his name is Odette David Benson polish I'm going to force Lima so we're learning now Tanya we're starting today page 66 uh good morning avram chapter 27. good morning 27 chapter 27 of Zion let me bring you up to date in chapter 26 dealt with dealt with the issue of being basimha the bottom line is you have to be similar to serve God if you don't have simcha in your life you don't work on it it's not something that comes from you know from um taking a walk every day I mean that's helpful but you gotta walk you got you got to work on yourself and when you work on yourself you can have simcha but the question is when issues come from the outside to disturb us like what did I do in the past and what did I do yesterday and what did I do today you're concerned you're really concerned about your sins about our sins says they are and therefore it's hard for you to give a SIM card says uh it's not the time now that now today it's not the time to deal with sins while you're davening that's ridiculous number two now there's time set times for that that will uh the uh that's times when you're supposed to look at you make an accounting of the past but even if he says if it enters your mind while you're working I see um velcos wearing his white uh White Capote that's a white cupboard so imagine he's he's middle of operating or someone who is taking up and doing the console and all that and he starts like I didn't say shma last night I forgot to erase whatever I said late and whatever it is that's also that's coming from the Yates so this was the issue that concerned the altered in chapter 26. now I just want to say you know you think about it today like you know unless you're a very very serious person and you take the time to to be concerned about these things how many people are really concerned about uh their past and their Vedas but the altered believes in us and ever believes that we all are potential pain in them never leave this has to always be in your mind when you learn the first 53 chapters of Tanya believes that we are potential being in them and if you're a potential being in thee then these issues are are your cup of tea they're not your cup of tea if you if you consider yourself a Russia or if you say I'll never become better and all that then this whole chapter is irrelevant because I'm dealing with making a Partners I'm dealing with you know keeping I'm not concerned about my uh my sins my transgressions but since we're talking about a pain in the knee remember why because we finished 25 chapters of the altarepants teaching us how we are every one of us regardless of who we are and what we are we we're where we were and all that we are potential abandonment that's what the Tanya teaches that's that's that's basic 101 Tanya and and also you should know that this thought is such a it's such an uplifting thought he talked to you talk to a person you talk to a child I believe in you about that episode series he believes in US and Hashem believes in US it's not that you know in others we are to begin with shattered and broken and no good and bad and and that's the attitude and I'm gonna try to help you get up no I believe you're good and I believe your potentials for excellence and on and on yeah you left turn he took a right turn you went up the mountain you went down the mountain you did this you did that but the exam who are you your yeed within the summer and with the faculties and with makshaba dibromise and you have can have attachment to it Sadiq and all that so that's what now today was coming from so now then I'm page 66 chapters of Zion about that but now deals with a second time second type of Optimus I want you to to make a note either in your Tanya or on a paper or so that because you know he he's going into details and if you don't if you don't decipher it becomes one big chunk it's not a chunk here this is very this is Chabad this is articulated in in Seiko and deciphered so what's the type of Asus we're talking about here let's learn inside and we'll see if a person's his sadness isn't from concern of sin but I am they come from bad thoughts the tiger stories and and bad indulgences that enter a person's mind in other words you haven't done anything yet and mind you we learned already chapter 12. when a bad thought comes to a person's mind if they are macabolic barotzon if they receive it accept it willingly Dr ebbes says they're necro Russia you're already a Russia what can you do what should you do stay or dying that's the language of the altadap in chapter 12. push it away with two hands out you came and you disturb me this bad thought this disgusting thought get out of here that that idea so what is he upset about this fellow that we're talking about here in chapter that it enters my mind here I am with this beard and with this Yarmouth and living a bit shemish and I'm and Borough Park and was so holy and what comes to my mind this is right these fantasies and all kinds of inappropriate thoughts and it bothers you what you know like who am I what's going on my darling doesn't help at all my learning doesn't help my seductive doesn't help that's that's the concern here so here here to say to say that it's not the appropriate time it like we said earlier this is not a matter of appropriate time this hits you like a like a like a hurricane you know Florida's being for a hurricane whether you're ready or not you better shut your windows and put up the the boards because it's coming it might go this way it might go that way but it's coming you know so so so so so these maksha these here they come to you last night the established us I woke up I woke up I went to sleep earlier that my wife I woke up I had a dream that she was driving and being and she was feeling like it give up cars and and driving it just enters your mind I'm gonna go now I'm gonna do now a husband why did this particular dream enter my mind that's ridiculous if it's a dream that is kind of meaningful like I told you that dream I had with with the rabbit coming to me and telling me that I should make the allow my son to meet this girl for shindric purposes that's a dream of Compton the pilot because it happened you know what I'm saying and and there's there's dreams and there's dreams the Stuart and then there's something that it really you know kind of pushes it back and that's every individual's right how to assess it it's not like my father maybe Wells 86 container heard him so the other a few weeks I went to visit him so my brother was there my brother says you hear about our father's a dream I said now what was your dream that he saw a lion and a lion roared so right away says hi disheveled it says [Music] mighty and it goes on yeah it goes on rights Then I then then there's a safer cauldron sitter you must must have heard it so you buy it it's out there and he has a section called piston hallamos interpretation of Dreams and when we were kids you know my father told us about it and in Yeshiva we heard about it and then we we at times when people had dreams we said shouldn't we you know look into this into the yaakov emden's interpretation of the dream it's like scary what if God forbid it's not a good interpretation anyway my father said take out the sinner so we took out his old Jack of them to sit there and we looked it up and it said something if you see a lion it's it's it's it's a good sign now yeah another detail a lion hey I think ate him up okay whatever my point is you know if something's very meaningful to you okay you know but why am I saying this because when it comes to these thoughts I'm not talking out anymore about dreams I left the dream that was just an example upon you you you could be just stop and you walk the Hill from Ace coat as you walk to your apartment there's a few have buildings down and all that and all of a sudden this hidden hoodie and there's no it's not the Miami Fort Lauderdale Venice Beach or or Miami to get over there the uh South Beach everyone sleeps it's bechamish at least a seven in the morning or eight o'clock in the morning that's the way it is so rather than trying to figure out why knifeless don't waste your time that's not our reflector the question is what to do with it says you're a lucky man this is incredible words and advice you're a lucky guy why are you lucky Yoni I have these inappropriate thoughts and I'm a lucky guy sounds like I'm a pervert says you have an opportunity to be mikayan to fulfill a a negative Commandments three times a day twice a day don't follow the dictates and in lusts of your heart which they follow so each time these thoughts come to you push them aside of them and then you're fulfilling a Mitzvah and that should make you very happy in other words this is genius now that ever says God is giving you an opportunity to do another Mitzvah be happy so again I want to say like we said like we like I explained to chapter 26 to go and say Hashem hey you know what today is a good day give me some bad thoughts give me some disgusting thoughts so I can show how strong and Macho I am and I'll push them away that's absurd you know how to do that but if from heaven God gave you today these thoughts right for whatever reason we don't know and we're not gonna and we don't that means that Hashem is giving you an opportunity to do another mental to reject them okay this is what he's gonna say now inside I just wanted to give it to you outside look look inside now he may behold after the DOT him nicely slowly though if these four if these enter your Consciousness these thoughts not during davening that is going to talk about in the next chapter 28. so remember we're putting that if if these type of thoughts enter your mind during diving and learning what you do about it that will is next chapter here in chapter 27 we're talking about the thoughts entering your mind while you're working elevates uske let's continue while you're working vasakov in his business similar stop so what do you do here's the ultimate's big word just the opposite of the contrary yes a person should be happy with his portion although these thoughts enter your mind who the person massive averts his mind he he he's proactive and averted he's not sitting on his couch he's he's actually saying get out of here any any mentally shoves them out of his mind thereby fulfilling what's written quote the legs do not turn after your hearts we actually make him after your eyes that you desire to have these lustens and things now you might say this verse in the Shema refers to Sadiq and the Holy Rollers says down to Heaven of course how can how could you think that the person because it says what it says this don't follow your heart don't follow the dictates of your heart and your eyes that you desire santikum don't have the desire if you this is basic Tanya Sadiq Russian Benin Sadiq doesn't have a Yeti Sahara Russia has a big gay Sahara and baitany has a yesahara but works on refining it and pushing and and not committing behavior is good you don't desire these lusts that's without 10 episodes of course the diverse and the terror doesn't refer to the nick of the Quran zainim to call sadikim zainim that he desired these these type of things has to show them and um the tire is referring to individuals which is US average person average Eden who are bathing in potential being there comes to the average person the lustful thoughts in their mind being beheaded whether it be permissive we meaning you don't focus on it and they come to you or he says Hulu it says Etc meaning even God told me the answer where you bring it upon you through looking at things that are appropriate on and on and on so when you are avert your attention from these thoughts whether they came to you in inadvertently when it came to you intentionally but regardless you push them away you act the mikayam loves it you fulfill this Mitzvah it's a lab it's a pro a negative commandment where it's a suru Chevrolet so you might say like this wait a minute what am I doing over here listen what am I doing over here I'm just not acting upon the thought right so it's called Cheval Tyson it's a Mitzvah that doesn't in a sense warrant um and I say do something yeah we spoke we just said it's the Mind work of get out get out of here but in in reality Cheval Tyson you have a an inappropriate thought you don't act on it so you might think that you don't get credit for it you know it's like if you walk by you know inappropriate places and you hold yourself back from looking at it and going there and all that you could say hey it was right in front of my eyes and I held myself back here we're talking about life it's you're sitting you're sitting at home you're sitting at work you're not going to any in appropriate places and and you know where it's 100 degrees on a beach you're not getting you're at home but it comes to you so you might think and and then you push it aside and you're the same from that and you have each time you push it aside it's a greater simcha I was able to overcome right and I'm happy about it but why should you get the credits doubt that but there's also a great thing over here he says I'll say you're Chevrolet if you control yourself you sit you're passive okay hello use the word passive your passive for the over a Veda and you don't commit to sin by engaging in the thought even mentally Maisha we're not talking about engaging the thought and acting on it mentally you're not allowed to engage in a thought and and and and and focus on the thought that's called wrestling you're not allowed to do that herobrotoxide so over here shortly of an Aveda you're passive and you do not engage in that Aveda in your mind because I'll say we give the person reward that's a great it's a beautiful beautiful bird it says no you didn't make sure you put film now and today you're faster Yom Kippur but all I did was say get out of here leave me alone and you just continue right says tell us about this Mitzvah this late says say Falcon let's continue we're going on to La Madonna therefore a person a Eid must be happy be Kim alive when fulfilling this negative commandment to my big key and Mrs exactly like the same person has from doing a positive commandment now stop here see finish this now down today but says let's think about the psychologically what's going on over here someone gets bent out of shape and it has sadness right you're upset how can it be that these thoughts come to me you know I haven't been on a college campus for the last 35 40 years I haven't been to hate Ashbury in 50 years it's like I left this garbage and all of a sudden the garbage is floating in the head crazy thoughts says the outlet and this is such such a beautiful important piece it's one of the gems I love this tanyas this this upcoming thought if you think Buddy if you think fella that you are someone that's beyond a thought entering your mind you are an egomaniac you are a yesh you're an egotist who are you after all you're a little garnished we're saying Yiddish you're a nothing I mean you're everything because you're hashem's creation but as far as Who We Are like what are you some kind of uh Holy Soul that's refined itself come on Dalton ever says but look at his words let him say it that he could save better than I her absolutely feeling sad from thoughts entering your mind that are inappropriate and being upset and sad about it and saying to yourself what kind of I'm a loser shows that you are the biggest bulgiver because you can even think about yourself that you're on this Plateau you're a big fool but more than being a fool you're a bald Guyver your gospel you don't recognize your place you don't know who you are about King you ain't above me they're forces you don't know who you are you feel bad I'll say Angela that you're not on the level of exotic is because surely this type of stuyat of stupidities and foolishness doesn't enter their mind you are very far buddy you are very far I mean you have no association whatsoever with exotic get it through your head now we talk we're talking about that this model of exotic not what the world calls someone who's shackling the whole time and learning he's a tragic that's a different that's a different discussion we're talking about dramas Tanya model says you are so far from it and if you think that you are shyless to that ain't Immaculate money and my Heather this is if you've been around or will be around it probably have been around sometimes you hear a real chabotnik kind of talking to swear if I bring it and you say to yourself you know where is this guy coming from it's from this chapter right here when they when they squashed one's kind of uh you know good stuff and they and they belittled him it wasn't because they were mean or or insensitive it was it's a it's a it's this idea in other words who you know had a teacher would say don't think you're God's gift to humanity that idea like who are you who are you with all you're learning and all your diving Inc in other words this this thought this idea that uh uh inappropriate thought can enter your mind with your dominant you're learning drama says that's the norm that's the expectation so what I should give you I should give you a star and and a metal for pushing aside and no that's what you're expected to do that's why we're on Earth We're on Earth to battle the urges that's Western creators otherwise go back no he never should have come this is a world where we fight we wage a war and we're happy about it because through that we Elevate the world Hashem made the world to tempt us and challenge us yeah sure it would be very nice to sit to live in there to throw over a hundred people never have been killed in this year I mean it's terrible and it this this is true is a reality you know call it you know Arabs call it bombs call it this call it that call it Israeli politics call it someone called the hillonim you know yesterday I saw they made a they made a documentary of Rabbi cook and they show the way they set it up it's online on YouTube it's in Hebrew with English subtitles I think they show you're a bit cook believed that mashiach and Joseph was hurtful they took they took a statement that Robert cook made out of context and they put a picture of cook then they give you the line of bushes and then they put a picture of herzl so they interviewed a person of brother Cook's you know movement and all that has there and whatever and and he says it's it's mamish there's a battle there's a real war going on there right so what what are you gonna say you're gonna say this is not the this is not who we are no this is who you are until mashiach comes which then will be a different operator from good to better it's between bad and good so that's what the outlets Associated that's why he says why does it says but the first line moisha the last word on page on the Llama dalid um the first one the added up this fellow moisture that we began talking about in chapter 27 he's oh I'm so upset I'm so sad that that these thoughts come to me what's my darling learning and it makes me down says down to them if that's if that's what you're experiencing you're an egomaniac you're you're a gases you're not holy you're the ultimate of of gaiva because if you knew who you were in truth hey and you know I just want to say if you understand this piece of Tanya and you not just understand it but you live with it and you experience it guess what my there's no questions about walders and schmolders and holders he learned this piece of Tanya like everyone in one second no the the the one he abused the your children he wrote books I'm just saying I'm just saying that the whole concept of you know for a person to believe in themselves that they're beyond sin is unless you're a topic it was just an exception it's not one second one second it's not the reality so so on one hand you're probably wondering that we've discussed and I don't want to go into it now again so much that's if you want to ask me about that I really don't I want to keep the trajectory here but the point being like this that if it of course he's supposed to give a person copdell respect foreign so if so my Rabbi my robe my rabbit my goggle actually the answer is on a certain level yes on a certain level no what's that what has been a certain level yes if a rabbit got the rough tells you to violate Taylor you're not supposed to listen to them because Hashem who is says don't do it you don't do it I'm talking about a clear breach of Taylor not where there's disagreement if this is a breach should you say after the or should you say it after Elena talking about that light on fire on Shabbos one second light of fire Shabbos he's here ever go go fly a kite I'm sorry it doesn't it doesn't work that way Pincus who got up and he killed the zimby and all of that right right he was a the mother says there's a source for doing that if there wouldn't be a source in halacha for a kanoi to get up and kill someone then Pinterest would be wrong and he wouldn't be the title The only reason why Pinterest made it into the Container because he's become Hashem he's fighting and waging God's War and who is the one that establishes that Hashem not the knesset and not panovic and not Chabad and if you follow I want to tell you if you follow the Rebel's life and his teachings for 40 50 years he never violated and was so careful about China and he said a lot of innovative things but there wasn't a violation of Toyota you can argue that there's another masora another way yes that you can but everything must tell you that yes Maisha now it's your turn okay so I just want to say that regarding let's say the individual which you mentioned yeah or others I mean clearly clearly we've seen it unfortunately so many people that get exposed and those people seem like they're obviously sick right it doesn't work yes right sick is a different a different gather they're sick here we're not talking about sick here we're talking about the norm a person has a title right I was coming up is because right you use it right I I should have you're right you're right I I you're right I should have used a different example because that's sickness that's or evil here we're not talking about sickness or evil you're right I I I I will take back that example but we're talking about the average person's you know tiger the average person's type so Kevin we're going to conclude here today but we're a middle of this fascinating insight into the psychology of a person Hillary you know in your work you need to take this and and and develop it in a way that it it can be helpful to people on the street who are dealing with those addictions that you're dealing with and you know and you think about it it's I'm not saying that you have the answer but but you know this I this idea I think you know for children and in Yeshiva the only mentioned you know his best friend's uh kid was you know already thrown out of yesheep in a few hours you know there needs to be a balance you know I just finished interviewing someone who's been a Mahana for 60 years did about 20 30 hours of interviews fascinating it started in 1965 and it's 2023. that's what he's done 60 years of his life he's 84.85 what a Hacienda head works and you know we're talking a lot about discipline because I had I had him as a ready in 1973 or 74. 72 was 73 and I loved him but he was a disciplinarian you had to be quiet no eating at class you ate in class you wrote times where you paid 25 cents and he and he had that class the class was quiet and you know did we did everyone love him I don't know if anyone left him but he was fair it was very fair so you know this idea of of being disciplined is part of what the outlet says here now that ever says on one hand it's an expectation for you to know that those thoughts are going to come to you at the same time you have to work on velocious Subaru and that should make you happy once something comes you want to say this lesson heart to your wife you're having dinner and you want to share something that's real juicy and you shut your mouth and you close up and you don't that's released a suitable that's what it means we're talking about simple simple basic Yiddish guide and so and so and so when I say someone asks if it's a Ducker and you don't want to give now you don't have to give Grace you're not in the mood and you take it out and you give you're breaking yourself that's okay that's already in positive but but these things out that ever says what does it show it shows that you are in the realm of a normal person which a normal person has inappropriate thoughts coming to them that's it that's it you know