Love is only real when there's result: Talk is cheap - Soldiers Self-Sacrifice Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

okay so we're learning Tanya now let's try to finish the pic today we're going to skip the long hag which are probably most of the rest of the chapter and uh because it's really cabalistic and let's stay focused we're at the point where we're on page n n the Top Line a the it's the third word from the end of the line page nun he Al basically teaches us here that the words of and are are are more vibrant with godliness although they're physical words right and look at the top of the line that the it it the the sound The Voice and the debor are gashi they're physical vocal cords sound effects noises nevertheless conversely when you when you when you Lear when you D with kavana intent focus and you learn to for the sake of learning not for the sake of the degree the the purpose and focus invests itself in the words I'm going to explain this in a moment since what animates the words the and because of that because of the you know there is lip service and then there is real service lip service is just saying what you need to say politically correct it sounds good that's what you're supposed to say that's not kavana that's fake and there are times you have to be fake yes MOA when writes what's the difference between and deor are the actual words Cole is the sound Oh e a that's Cole the way the the the the sound articulates itself is specifically through Debra so so so going back to what I was saying there's fake words but they're words thank you someone says here MOA how you feeling you could be feeling not good that day and you want to just be polite and you don't want to get into a a long conversation you say fine and really it's not that way so in other words there is the the there is words that are animated with kavana kavana means how do I really feel about it right so Dr says here that when you die and when you say the words of fortunate is the one who sits in the house of Hashem and you think about it I don't have to go now I'm not going to work I'm in the sho I'm in my you know I'm daving and and you feel good about that and you have Focus intent how is that seen in the words that are articulated in other words when I hear you say Ash if you have have good kavana I can hear the kavana through your words if you don't have kavana if we don't have kavana a then I hear Ash but it's like totally not animated I think each of us should in the morning when we go to sh especially shakas you start do you start daving and all of a sudden tell me if you hear animation in people many times s it's a sorry to say a cemetery it's totally quiet it could be 20 30 people in sh it's a cemetery now even if it's not a cemetery and you do hear some words do you hear an a an animation a liveliness a a a frustration whatever that's what we're talking about here and says that when you learn then in your Torah learning it is heard and felt that you're doing it because of Hashem not because of a degree or business or fame or whatever else and so to in ding that's what he says here and and and this is to me this is so practical because M this is like every day every day we make this light chitchat conversation and there's time for that but we need more of meaningful conversation heartfelt words and and if you pay attention and sure to someone who davens that way you'll be very inspired you'll be just to listen listen there were you should know who would DAV with tremendous kavana and then they would daving is not just knowing the meaning of the words but but it's it's what we're discussing here as heard in the words and especially if they chanted a little niggan or um you know something like that in their davening there would be that would sneak to the back to the right and the left without the governor realizing trying you know that people are listening to him watching him and why did they do that because they were inspired by Thea the F was animated and what I'm saying is that you could you can have sometimes in sh someone who DAV like that more or less and it can be very inspiring and and and we ourselves should emulate that so let's go back to the text when you with this you elevate to the right place whether it be the 10 spos of based on your focus with a and love intellectual generated intellectually or naturally as we said earlier can and in that in that Plateau God reveals himself there it's the will of God I want you to notice that he uses the word here twice misses on the second line on n and again here meish what is this idea of clothing I like the word investing in other words that this is an investment who is the good investor the good investor someone who understands the stock market who understands the real estate market who who who who understands it that's really the sharp the sharp you know astute investor anyone can buy a stock right and either Hashem gives you the muzzle and you make on it or God forbid you losing it but but but a an investor who is sharp is meash you know he's invested in it he he's part of it so the AL uses the words he says that the will of hem is is invested in the words of your that you study with your God emanates those aspects of your life in other words there's no other opportunity in in in in the in the in the physical in the physical world as expressed through Torah and and and Mitzvah ad cats when will there be in the physical world when you're playing golf and you're just walking down the street and you're doing your taxes whatever else when will be the time when there as well will be heard and felt the that it's godliness will come at the end of day the world will Elevate itself from its material and the the glory of God will be revealed Etc as we learned earlier in chapter 37 now remember the al already quoted a piece of Zo that love and fear and again the chapter 39 is about the importance of having inspiration when you DAV and you learn to do a Mitzvah and don't do it just by wrot okay and that's called what's inspiration a my father told me when I was a young boy teenager over and over how kesman he was one of the most famous in the last century first in luden then inab he came from Russia Etc he learned in laich so one of his main that he emphasized is the a the necessity of a and in your in your T and your mitvah particularly your and he used um there's an English word for it but I forget what the word is now he used is it NE necron necron he used this idea where he took 15 16 year old boys and he and he he said you know the way you're ding is like the vision ofba the vision sad and he convinced the boys to D with kavana and to also subjugate themselves from tiis it was an entire uh transformation process going on in lud in the base medish in the 1950s and my father was there and he changed these young boys who came from different homes Holocaust homes right other homes and he convinced them that they daving can be at the same level as let's say R Kanki give you an example he used cidic rebies cuz my father and some friends were from visionit they wanted to go to VIs Reb and he wanted him to be leich so he used Vision but regardless this God this rebba this rabi so the idea that he emphasized is AA and Y do you really love Hashem through your ding do you really have all for Hashem this chapter actually these chapters are all about the kavana the importance of kavana and that makes in the of the Z your MIT s so let's let's see what he says now about that the says that the the two ideas of a and love forem are called Wings are wings like wings of a bird as it says it says regarding the the angels with two Wings they fly right so there's a reference to over there refers to the malim but the language employed by the prophet is fly the wings the wings of a bird hang Z next page 110 top of the page are the arms of man now in cabala um imagery the the the hands the arms the right is and the left is the right is Mal M and the left represents Mal gavriel right both m is of K of Holiness so the imagery in the Z is such that we employ this idea of wings flying birds flying through their wings those that study and do Mitzvah with awe and love that they're they're is animated with the love of God and it's felt in the Mitzvah that they love God and that's why they're doing the Mitzvah they're called children children love parents parents love children love and if they don't have that animation they're called chicks little chicks that don't Can't Fly yet they don't have developed their wings the they cannot fly and he explains just like the wings of a bird are not the primary bird a bird is a bird even without wings a the the life of the bird is not dependent on its wings as it says in the M as it says in what if a bird's wings were removed koser why is the bird Kos doesn't have wings what does that show that a bird is a bird even without the wings and if it's a kosher bird it's kulture what is the primary aspect of a bird it's its head the rest of its body and the wings a only an aid to the head and its body helps the bird fly here ends the muscle now comes the theal doing learning TI and doing mites this is the primary you bond with God God ring that's revealed through them through them so the the putting on with a Jew with yourself is the bottom line putting a mu up that's it lighting the Mana not getting another year to light the Mana they have no idea I'm walking down here yesterday I was turning into the parking lot to go to m a man's walking stops I roll my window and says hi do you need a manora I assumed he's Jewish I especially did that uh and he says oh no no I'm not Jewish but my my girlfriend is oh okay why don't you why don't you you know have her like the manora oh we have a manora I says it's very nice you have a we have to like the manora make the blessings tonight's Kaneka right he's not Jewish he knows nothing probably she knows also very little the bot line is that the Mitzvah creates is thear right now so so where do love and awe inspiration come into the picture says the AL contining the and the love you know what they do they take the MIT and they bring it to a place where there there's the reev ation and I use the word inspiration that comes along in other words when you do the mitvah when the person likes the Mona and has no idea but the rabbi or or or or or the boyfriend tells I met this Rabbi driving into the parking lot and he told me therefore you're Jewish like the make a blessing and you know what what blessing who what when I'm going to do it it's kanah right cuz that's the eer but it's it's it's it's missing the inspiration it's missing the and the says the importance of the A and when doing a Mitzvah is so that it it it goes to the right place and in the right place there is inspiration but but even if if if that's not present nevertheless the mitah was done let's continue I want to continue and finish so he says so it takes it to the right right place of behold wait a minute he says why is love and fear love and awe and his within a Mitzvah just considered inspiration it's a Mitzvah it's part of the says nevertheless they're still called only wings they're not the bird itself it's not the head of the bird it's just the wings two Wings a this line is a fascinating line you know what this translates to mean in our vernacular in our world falling in love is falling out of love if you're falling in love if you're really in love with Hashem or with another person Etc then show it remember this these words he Thea oh I love God and I'm inspired and I have all really but you want to do it your way hasem just put on a par film no no no no these the oldfashioned you know primitive boxes and ideas my idea of loving God is going to a Mountaintop in in in in in New Mexico or in uh India somewhere meditating sitting on the floor Barefoot you know with um with with with others all that right sorry chap you want to do that on your vacation and you think that's a good vacation go on vacation that way but for you as a Jew putting on a pair of filling in the morning or in the afternoon or towards the evening that's the bottom line yes Misha that's that's like uh this today's T yes today's T yes very good oh this I was waiting for that exactly this I I thought the same thing when I Was preparing the shear this is what it says in today's Shear look at the words the ultimate of Love is the of love and remember you know this can be explained and and and it should be explained to our youngsters children grandchild friends the youth that having I'm in love if you're in love show it don't show show me how you're in love you know the same as with a spouse you love your spouse wonderful you show it you show it let's continue action should be louder than words I say right yes what about a love a lovey doy the lovey doy feeling without service without work he to of for someone who's on a high level it's what we call a love of delights to have this delight of God that we will experience and we have the reward today we have to work tomorrow comes receive word someone who hasn't reached this level which is most of us only have that other level to taste have a taste similar to what we'll have in one soul is still thirsty still yearns and is thirsty for God the and his entire day he goes around saying I want to I want to I'm thirsty you're thirsty all day you're running around you're hungry you're thirsty well you have that feeling I didn't get have a love feeling for God today in an a feeling and you walk around that way says the look at this mush it's like someone standing at a river he says may may water water I'm thirsty L the drink and you're standing at the river you czy bum but bent down and drink from the river I'm thirsty you're you're at the water they say the ostrich has this long neck this is by is the used to say that the has a long neck it it flies to the water there's water but it's lazy it doesn't want to bend its neck it's long neck to the water to drink so stands there and it doesn't drink any water because it's a lazy Al employs this idea the same thing here you're thirsty for God You Want To Be Inspired it's right there and he says all as thei laments the verse says how thirsty you're thirsty for water where is your water drink it's right there based on the simple text text of the verse it's not comprehensible if you're thirsty and and and then then what do you need the Nai what do you need you the prophet to to tell you drink from the water the water is right there so what's and so why why so the answer is what he's doing over here is like this he's saying cuz it's not so simple to be inspired to love Hashem through a MIT and to fear Hashem and to have all for hasem through a Mitzvah and through and when you T is not simple how many people learn and d and are not inspired and who says they're inspir ation is genuine their inspiration could be miscalculated misguided for external reasons so what we have here towards the end of this chapter is a very interesting discussion and that is that don't make the mistake to think that with that that the primary thing is the kavana you see this is what he's doing here and it this ends the five six chapters from 35 through 40 we be if you remember in chapter 36 shared the medish right I believe that the God has the spiritual lust and desire Le to have a home make a home from him here and not a home like you want to make for him a home that he wants if if the home is the type of home that you side that he's not in your home he's not he he's not in your home you're in your own home it's your imagination and cognition and imagery of what God is and and and therefore you set your home up based on that no you if you want to really please Hashem make a home for him it's like you invite a guest even a parent right one second m one right you you really want to do make the type of situation where they feel comfortable not you feel comfortable and it's not easy you know we all live in a certain lifestyle and a certain behavior and this and that like I told you you know when you bring into your home people who are very different um than the way we live and you know and and and and they're demanding and and and more that to make a a place where they're comfortable is not an easy job and says but that's the right to make a home for ourselves that's not the that's not where it's at it's for Hashem so you have to follow what Hashem wants so the question now is I make this home just by doing the Mitzvah by doing the learning by daving and what's with inspiration how does inspiration fall into the into the into the picture that that's the discussion of chapter 40 and what he's saying is that part of a bright home a shiny home an illuminated home is that there's inspiration there so the bottom line is the home the bird the head of the bird the wings are add-ons and adjuncts but they're important for a lit home a bright home so that's how you reconcile the two so therefore if you ask yourself a question should I D should I learn should I do a mitzah even though I'm not inspired the answer is absolutely yes but nevertheless as a Jew as a ye and as a call below a is lacking in the a so you need the a you need as mha said the action the action substantiates that you're an inspire but say differently the action can be demonstrative of inspiration when it is an animated action yes M this comes back to the expression yes right mean it's a connected again right right cuz an on one hand it means orientation but an I think this is what you're alluding to it means not just a dry action a boring action un an these are people that in their action you saw inspiration you saw life you saw life and and you know we we see this today in ER down with the soldiers and the whole situation CL there's a lot of inspiration there's a lot of inspiration because remember we learned also in the chapter if you don't love someone or something or you don't or fear them then you're not you're not you're not attracted to to move that way and who is going to who is going to um go to give their lives my wife was telling me someone and I'm sure you know this who who wrote that if it's a matter of he giving himself up versus freeing prison ERS this is what he said don't free one prisoner from me I'm ready to die for am is this is mish like Raba said with the Romans I want to be M neish it's modern day M neish 2023 that's inspiration that's inspiration that's a person that you you you you you say h this man is living with with with Hashem you know this man I mean how can a father give give ready to give up his wife his children his community his am is but he sees it no this is an integral part of am is and if the r is that I lose my life in battle so be it these people in this attitude to me is is the greatest it it it's really really bigger than anything else cuz like Moosa said this is this is action this is bottom line this isn't a joke this is not a joke this is not sitting in the yes a in a med you knowx rabbis it's all very nice it's all very nice it sounds nice but these are people that are having m us neish every moment for cl the AL in this chapter speaks about the same idea that when you DAV that's what should be felt when you're daving what you be felt is that I I'm in love with Hashem I love you Hashem so much I fear you so much and therefore whatever you want I'm ready Whatever Whatever It Takes and that that's fting your words as you say and as you d as you learn one hears to themsel and others who listen and there's inspiration there this person means it this person means it and therefore to to challenge maybe they don't maybe this you know yeah yeah there are like we've discussed fake tears now you have to cry okay I'm going to sit and make myself cry that's baloney we're not talking that that that does doesn't even as we say in Hebrew right that doesn't even enter the domain of this discussion being a fake any wants to be a fake God bless you be a fake you know what it's acting it's acting exactly you know I was on a movie set once I'll tell you I was working on a movie set yeah big movie in Toronto I was a piano player in this scene anyways this woman she was a famous actress and she had to do this scene and the director wanted over and over again for whatever reason every scene she did it must have been six times she cried every time and it was it looked real you know I mean it was about her life so kind of was real but I just he just reminded me of that right right it's really fake right it's really fake I they say the story of theid who you know he was a Survivor and and this and that and he took off his beard and you know whatever and he wore a short jacket and he came to the base Isel y the G rebba the old G from and um it was poror him and everyone's going by to give the Reb shom it wasn't poor him it was during during the year sorry he puts on a stral maybe he grows a little bit I I don't whatever yes I think the the he puts on the he goes by the GB the G says shom happy Pur you know I guess he detected him that you know you don't really believe in the in the you know first come on come back to putting on filling every day and then you put your on although I must tell you uh when I was in Marine County a group of the that brought me out there wanted me to be the rabby there you know they wore G and not everyone was yet shabas so I was coming from 770 from CR Heights from you know baber and the I I was saying like you know come on guys don't drive to don't drive here in shabas before you put on a GLE but you know I quickly I quickly realized that I should keep quiet and and not say anything because the way they bonded was you know was like a what do they call that a u a fraternity you know a Brotherhood and they bonded through that GLE that was something to them they felt good about it the fact that they didn't yet keep shabas all of them It came it did come but in the beginning it's like hey you know shabas is shabas a is is just you know and all that but there's something to be said about an initial stage of what we call what Misha called acting it's true but we as resident you know that's not an answer for us you know for for us or for ourselves you know we know better you know so but but we have to we have to understand that others aren't always in on this level so their entry their entry to kism to frite to Torah and all that begins many times with the social aspect but with a good teacher Masia a r a rabbi a good good friend they need to kind of hey that was the past now we're you know we're different we're different it's okay it's okay to say that for 20 years I was this way the next 20 years I was this way and the third 20 years I'm this way and the next 20 years I'll be this way that's what growth is growth is realizing you were this way then you left this plateau and you really leave the plateau and you forsake those ideologies and philosophies and lifestyle and you go on to a higher more refined and better situation and you continue in this trajectory you know as you develop life and I think if we if we look at life as a wholesome picture one large unit then then then the growth will come the growth will come and you won't say as some who have gone through and say ah I'm a faker I still like the rock and roll I still like the trfe I still like the girls and on and on the drugs and all that even if you do who cares who cares the bottom line is learn DAV do a Mitzvah help another and the more you imerse yourself in that with kavana you'll see like you guys asked me what am I doing here before the CH start what am I doing a f you going here there you know you know it depends on your mindset if your mindset is you came here for your grandkids and your family to sing and give out and play Dr that's it you know yeah if you came to explore you know Florida okay then explore it you know do do what you want so it all depends on the kavana that's why kavana and Dr is such an integral part of the Jewish experience and there's not enough especially today everything is so quick no one has a second to sit still no one has a second to to reflect is we're running and there's more and there's more and there's more it's time to go the children are really enjoying the the she so zun love you all tomorrow we start chapter 41 one of the most important chapters in Tanya and it will be a Dandy EXP serous to go through chapter 41 have a great KH shalom byebye byebye