Love Forms for G-d - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

page 42 chapter 16. so this chapter in a way culminates doublet's theses of what abandon me is and we're obeying the ears and what's obeying this job he began chapter 12 and 13. there he discussed what the essence of obeying in the Years chapter 14 the uh how it's relevant how it's possible for everyone to be a banana in chapter 15 was the content of the avoid of abandoning which in one word is Avada right that was the word that the outlet used the struggle the challenge and he brought he brought the verse and he explained that this is not this person is not talking about it Sadiq as its simple interpretation it's talking about abandoning someone and there's two two levels in abandoning there is the banyani who is an avid hello Kim he works he struggles he works with Elohim with nature and he finds God in nature and then there is a type of abandon me that is abandon me but loyal father it's natural to him the box and the bottom line is that he doesn't sin in thought speech and action but how does that come to him because as we say in Yiddish it is refined he's born refined and that's the outer that gave us the example it doesn't turn them on this doesn't turn them on that turn the money doesn't turn them on Honor doesn't turn them on women doesn't turn them on Pleasures don't turn them on it's meaningless but that's not that's not the thing in the the ultimate banana the ultimate pain in the is that these things should turn you on and you struggling you fight and you overcome that's the ultimate being in me so now in chapter 15 16 on page 42 Delta remember ads two more very important aspects to the beginning and the so important that the alternator calls them Cloud Google Cloud Google means a very important rule do you have remember another place where it says cloud godo come on you're learning and Diving every day what Robbie Akiva that's right I bet you if I had your kids your grandkids they would know because it's one of the twelve second of the river instituted is that cloud Global if you have to learn uses here look at the first words of Peter kazayan when you use the words Cloud girdle means hey I'm I'm I'm telling you something now very heavy very serious very important and he didn't use this until now so we need to understand in a moment as we learn what is the addition of this Cloud goggle and he uses it twice on this page it's very very unusual for him to employ these words but he does so let's see first what he says and then we'll explain Panic design here we go Hashem and this is a very important rule in the service of Hashem for those that are baby name I.E for every single Yeet who can potentially be obeying a knee and what is it here it is the primary thing is for you to focus on and implement limshul villagelight it is for you to control to dominate over over the nature of your left ventricle meaning the nature that's here in a nutshell he tells you right here what is the theme of the banana knee if the person dominates and controls their name the nature of the year and the nephew my nature is that I enjoy overeating eating and not forget about overeating eating you have to break that habit that nature you have you need to eat but you need to eat little shame I enjoy sleeping I enjoy at least wasting time whatever it is and like we learned in panicked as well even if I enjoy learning and davening if it's natural if you don't break that habit you're not abating me I mean that's uh I've said it over and over because it's such a in a way outrageous statement then but at the same time it's a phenomenal statement it's it's down to them it's insight insight into human psyche you're nothing special if you sit and learn day and night because that's all you know what to do and that's all you want to do thank you very much you know you are special if you learn an extra minute and you don't want to learn an extra minute you want to close your garage already I already finished I want to run to eat I want to run to play I want to run to watch the sports whatever and you say no I'm gonna break my habit that's special again now the question is how do we how am I able to do that says Hashem through the light of God how male will never shall it is which illuminates The Godly Soul that's within your mind literally to dominate over the heart whenever when you will meditate within your mind you you'll contemplate Ula saintsov the greatness of the infinite God is Hashem this meditation reflection will give birth to a spirit of knowledge and having all for God in your mind to prevent yourself from doing things that are against Hashem biblical prohibitions and rabbinic ones and even light prohibitions enacted by the rabbis by the Shalom to violate them so you through your meditation you come to a place of year it doesn't mean they're gonna spank you I mean that too but year a means reverence yeah how can I do this I'm violating God's command I want to be with Hashem Hashem is so awesome he creates the world and everything else and she was we just read about the terror and many of the shoes I'm sure Karl Bach and as cold as they do the abdomos Shabbat we don't do abdomas and if you read the abdomas in the translation it's awesome I once went here in Boro Park to the Kosovo Rebel they called the cost of a rebel division of vision it's and the man and they set up dumbest he led abdomus and I pretty much had to run out of shoe I mean he was crying and throwing himself around and making with his hands like the house was coming down and he was serious I'm not saying this that that I'm really you know making fun of him and it just it was it was it was Heavy it was real heavy yeah yeah no no I I I I I Johnny I didn't go there I went there to observe I'm an observer I study and look and learn from other people and my minute is not to say it but it was it was an opportunity Weinberger the grandson of the salon of my dad but my friend here Borough Park urged me says go there one time you'll have something you've never seen and he was right I never saw such a thing so there are people I'm just saying there are people again he did it in what we call the hagas way in a very emotional way the shaking I mean the body was shaking and he was jumping and he was screaming and he was crying it was like wow you know so it was very emotional it was very non-jabbar you know quiet meditation thoughtfulness but but it was real it was real it was real I felt he was real he was genuine it's not my style but so what who cares he's not even Hashem so there is the yira sashem throughout Tanya and as you all know he proposes a different approach to accomplish the same thing the the his abundance within the mayak and that that it that doesn't come like a seti over and over from just partying and wasting time that comes from meditation and reflection and and and and thoughtfulness you know we come into us and it's this one or two day jump div and we don't have any we don't have to have matzah we don't have to be careful how much and we don't have to have uh a little Vanessa with a towel is falling up and over our head and just going this way and it's about a gun and then there's a shyness and I can't hold my sinner in my little over my estrad right eat your cheesecake buy some flowers stay up at night as much as you can go to the mix in the morning and you got it you got it all done the truth is she was just the hardest youngsters because we don't have those objects to identify with we have to create the relationship it's much harder Dr Evans is harder there's no question that it's harder than jumping around and dancing around or screaming shout and scream that's their invited they don't emphasize the serious learning of Citizen meditation and everything else that's not there Mahala so regardless but what I'm saying is that the idea of yes here then he says let's continue believe through the meditation not only do you create a year for God but a love don't think it's only about yet you will create moisha a love which corresponds to all so what is the cloud government and the rep explained this once the altarap is cloud God was the following which is more important the focus on the oven the era that brings you to a place where you're able to control yourself or the or the primary focuses of debate any mindset the control the cloud goggle the Great rule that is sharing with everyone is that that although what what leads you to this is the meditation that's not the cloud goggle Cloud Global is the actual control which again is exactly is Sir without them is teaching here and Tanya the bottom line is control your midday's control your thought your speeching that's the cloud goggle her Ikea her means the main thing is the fact that you will you will attain this through reflection and meditation that's true but that's not the icker what if someone what if someone Avi is not strong in meditation and reflection or doesn't have the patience it takes a lot of time it doesn't it there's no quick fixes when it comes to meditation I need not tell those of you who've done whatever kind of meditation and surely not Chabad meditation I'm not talking about other forms of Jewish meditation as Rabbi Kaplan talks about in his book on meditation and Kabbalah Etc right by Aria capital meditation has expounded upon in Tanya it's a different a different form it takes time meditation remember I want you to know once in all meditation doesn't mean thinking just thinking you can think very quickly meditation is focused concentration of the Mind and contemplation and that takes time and no one can tell you oh it has to be five minutes no no no there has to be 10 minutes that's nonsense but it has to be a mindset that's spent with time and patience so you might think if I can only invest myself in this avoid of meditation and contemplation and it arouses me when I realize how Hashem is so awesome that I have offered him fear for him and I have love for him that's the primary aspect of the baby and someone who doesn't have that on fear is a rush of a timeline sorry you're not a obeying your mindset says yeah did that but wrong as long as you control your Yates are horror and your nephew bombers and you work at it breaking your nature if you break your nature whether you meditate or not your ability and that's Cloud Google why that's the important rule you need to walk away with someone will learn all these chapters and Tanya will say look and you're telling me that this this avoid of abandon is associated with meditation and contemplation I'm not into that I don't care for it I don't know how to do it I don't have patience and by the way this is a constant um issue within those that seek to to work on this model of abandon me I can tell you from being in the inside and learning in the Yeshiva this modality this is a very difficult modality this is not an easy modality it really it really is not easy and so sometimes you say okay I didn't succeed so what shelters do I have with being in the that's why Dr never says no Cloud bubble I'm teaching you a main rule that if you somehow create within yourself to break your nature you're my Bailey that's a very very important rule so it gives the petitioner and the student of of Abuelita Hashem hope and not just hope to know that you can actually control yourself naturally naturally and and not only control yourself but break your nature the more awe and love you have for Hashem the greater that love and off Hashem will be right if you invest in a certain modality and you practice and train yourself in that you will be up it'll be easier for you to break your habit because you all of a sudden understand and you feel because of your understanding that just doing things that are natural is is is is not it's not really service it's not service it's it's it's cheap it's cheap and we as human beings and even especially what we want for ourselves is to create our own independent model of connection not because my father did it not because my rabbit did it one of the Chabad schools someone told me yesterday they have a big sign and the sign says it's not my father it's not my mother over there it says it's my River because they're pushing you the river but in other words it's your connection your own connection so what's the difference whether your father or mother was this way or that way and it was the whole idea of yehus is a small change a small change it's small change yeah I come from him and he come from her and you know who my grandfather was and my grandmother and what about you right that Mendel's famous story which I could fight for her by now you should know the story I've said it over hundreds of times comes to a party and all the streets of smoke in the cigars and with their other cat they have the glass of champagne and they're walking around with the tuxedo and the cufflinks and their hairstyle and they're moving in a shaking boy wow this is a real Switzer's party this is the who's who's of schwitzer kite and uh this one guy who's dressed like chat tatters and is going around he says and who are you oh I'm Hillary my zaida was this is I am this I'm dead and and this guy and and they never saw him how do you get in here you you you you you foreign how'd you get here who let you in and they say to him so tell me you're asking us all who are we and who are you and he says I'm shyk your favorite I'm shy named shayad shaker The Whistleblower all I can do is just whistle so that mental told me there are two ways of this of of answering the question the the anecdote one is he says like in a in a belittling way in a depressed way I'm shaking Pfeiffer I'm a nothing I don't have any big parents or grandparents and the other one is he says I'm shykifer I'm the redness whistleblower I'm a shem's whistleblower I myself am a nothing but I toot his horn and for that I am shaky Phifer so it depends we need our independence and this whole idea of is nourish kite and you should know the rebel in a way taught that to his own hasidim I know people who wrote to the rebel about him and they and their son or daughter was gonna meet a son someone whose parents didn't necessarily go to the mother didn't necessarily go to the mixer no having a child not going to the Midfield in the Holy Zohar is is a big deal we'll leave it at that so the person writes to the Reba the rabbi my child is gonna wants to meet this person or that we have this idea but we don't know if he or she is up and they neither a child of Anita the status not going to the mixer you know the laboratory that they did he took his little pencil was starting with a pencil like this and it went like this and like this and like this it went down like this I couldn't write anymore for whatever reason every every had to be used so remember took his little pencil and he crossed out the questions from the Zohar which means cut it out cut it out I know about the center too right the rebels I know about desire but in today's world that shouldn't be our concern someone who did shuva and is now Shay Mateo mitzvahs everything from before is gone that's it so the devil took this approach in teaching his own hasidim and Claude Israel those that would like want to listen and hear that the the the idea of past egos a small change I'll change were there people who would ask the Reba about a certain and and and they the rebel knew that they for them yikos was important so the rabbi if he knew the egos he would say and they have this in these years if you happen to know because for them it was important for him it wasn't important the rebel would always say avramafrino also didn't have Goods Tara what more do you need than Terror or even avoid the Zara an idol worship was outram's father can you find me a person a woman who wouldn't want to marry avram I if anyone doesn't want to marry a from something's wrong with them okay anyway back to the point in Tanya so this is the cloud goggle that the outer never speaks about let's continue the yes sir now we're holding by the dock now he is a Nuance of another Cloud gold and this isn't a way maybe even more important but yes it all came it is more important because he says but yes it all came even more so much are you with me Abram are you with me come on guys after the period look inside I want you to see the words even more so you must know a very important rule about this and that is even if the hand of his mind meaning his intellect and the spirit of his understanding does not massage does not accomplish to give birth to give an offspring to create a feeling of love that's revealed that a person's heart should be a flame fire heart palpitations if you don't have that if you don't have all of that all you have is what we call concealed love within your brain and within the recesses look at the words these are new words to Tanya we haven't had him until this chapter the recesses of the heart meaning that within the heart it's in the heart but guess what it's the the uh a coldness so you what okay yeah but but young we're talking about in the left it's in the heart so there is a feeling but it's a cold feeling not a burning feeling of love for God we'll go back maybe tomorrow let's see the highness shall leave the Mind understands with its the heart the heart understands you see these words hello maven what do you mean I love maven the left Fields the left doesn't maven what on this what's the word baby mean understand Maisha who understands the cup the brain understands look at the authorities maven because we're talking about not a a feeling within the heart that's heart heart warm warm it's a cold feeling in the heart because the sense of intellect of brain is dominating in the heart so it's like within the heart but it's the heart relating to Maven to understanding and what does it understand I'm going to give you that example in a moment the greatness of God everything can compare to God it's like North mamish ably Therefore your conclusion is the right thing is my soul should expire for you God should cleave to you God go highly doubly collaborate I should I want to be included Incorporated in your light in your spirit that's the thing you yours it's properly his place ale of the shake of faitha I should give up my own self for God Desiring you type of patriot base for me to leave the shield what's the shield who I goof this refers to the body with shields and and it heals you from God it hides God so I want to Super I want to overcome that little Dusky bite the cleave to him true God says hey don't have a uh end of life trip you know don't have one of these psychedelic trips where you want to kill yourself you have to look I'm forcing you to stay within a body with through this boy and you're bound up in a body look down today is like living widows you know the whole good morning you promise where someone never is the husband doesn't want to give her a gift so you're forced I I'm not enough I want to go on in my life but you got a man that's going to give you a guess and you're like calamon is highest living widows you're not a real Widow you're a living Widow someone Embraces the king guess what the king is dressed with X clothing says the altareba chapter 4 makes no difference Avi because the king is there the clothing are only on top of the king and when you embrace the king the clothing of the king you have the king what's the point he's making here the point is out to them but saying there's something that the mainly has to know that's a cloud goggle and even more important and that is even if you can't come to a point where you understand through meditation and you have fear and in the mind and love in the heart with heart palpitations for God you can come to a point of what's called taluma slippery an intellectual love within the heart and that's the muscle I've given you and give you again your wife asks you to take out the garbage you don't want to do it you do it anyway ask yourself if you have love palpitations for your wife when you take out the garbage you trouble but why are you doing it because it's the right thing look at the wealthy rabbit's words history okay on the bottom of page 42. okay yes sir lawyers bought it you also lawyers buttock means the right thing to feel for God is to do what God wants you're my God you made me you're awesome so I don't have that deep intellectual understanding I don't have that deep feeling emotionally but I know it's the right thing to do I do it says the out to them this is expected of abandon me and this is what abandon me must know and this is even the greater General lesson if because debating again we might might say look I I can't get into meditation and I don't understand so deeply God and I don't have this great fear in my mind and it's the great feelings of heart palpitations love for God therefore I'm not shy to be abandonedly says doubt that ever wrong wrong wrong wrong as long as you think about God and you come to a place where it's the right thing to do that's fine that's fine and it's going to teach us later in the next year or two is going to teach us that Hashem loves that so much that he gives you credit as though you have loved palpitations for Hashem which is an awesome thoughts out to support it right in other words it's as though when you're taking out the garbage for your wife the credit you get is that not only do you love her you know all other times or many other times but even we take out the garbage when you don't really love her you always have to be incredible like you love her because this is the right thing so you bathe in me don't be despondent but know that if you come to a place where even if you just conclude it's right for me to go to Jewel it's right for me to learn it's right for me to be a servant of God and therefore I you do it you're getting the full credit and that's a cloud goggle that's a great plow because otherwise we wouldn't think that's the case kevra we'll see everyone tomorrow Brian earling have a great day Shalom bye