Lo Tiye Mishakela 1952, #9- Passion is necessary in addition to Discipline - RC Dalfin

So today is the first of two days. So it's technically still the month of it's the 30th but it's the first day. So we will now learn the mimer that was said in 1952 by the Reb. And we are on page 147. I wanted to address briefly the difference between serving God with fear and awe, discipline, as Mosha Baron said yesterday, used the word discipline, and serving God with love, which is what we're up to now, that it's not adequate, hilar, but there must be a love in serving God. You have to feel love in serving God. NOW OF COURSE WE TELL SOMEONE HEY PUT filling on you do know you don't know that is that's that's basic 101 but you can't if YOU STOP WITH 101 and you don't go further you're not developing yourself and you're not ultimately climbing the ladder so ava passion so I want to use the word passion passion versus discipline yes was also involved in the conversation yesterday discipline y is like the what must I do what are the guidelines that's very very important I mean I gave you the example yesterday of not going over the speed limit you know and all that but that's the guidelines that's the law so y I fear God I have awe I have respect I have discipline. It's very nice, but it doesn't involve passion. You're not passionate about it. Like I told you the example hundreds of times, many times, you know, you take out the garbage for your wife or for someone you care about. You tell me you're you you feel love palpitations in your heart taking out the garbage. If you do, you're not normal. The average PERSON TAKES OUT THE GARBAGE BECAUSE OTHERWISE IT'LL SMELL IN THE house and your wife says, "Hey, please take out the garbage or you yourself realize you got to take out the garbage so your wife won't come down and smash you over the head with a bottle." Okay. So, is that aa that's not ava? That's discipline. You're a mench. Aa is something very different. I do whatever I do, I do it because I have those he is called the yes yesterday love sickness whatever word you're going to and here we're talking about Hashem by Hashem it's so much more than by by to a spouse and to a child and to a person to din and to learn and to do a mitzvah know you're putting on the fillin in the morning right you could do it in your sleep if you've been doing it since your bar mitzvah but not to have do it because you know how to do it in your sleep. But each time you put it on, you feel the the connection and you and and you're motivated and you can't sleep in your bed longer cuz you have to run to sh to put the trillin on. Okay? Find me such a person. FIND ME SUCH A JEW. Find it in yourself AND THEN I KNOW YOU'RE IN LOVE WITH GOD. AND IF NOT, YOU'RE NOT IN LOVE WITH GOD. Not yet. And that's what that the PK says. I recall it was during the which we we make a special blessing after the evening prayer towards the end between PE and it's called the counting of the and I was standing next to a Russian Jew Mishovven. I'll tell you who he was. He was already in in Gandhen. He really passed on. There's a Kabad family. Some are in some in America from generations. And I'm standing next to him and and I start making my blessing. Blessed are you God. And I make and then I happen to turn around and see the way he makes the blessing. and he's turning red and he's saying the blessing every word LIKE IT'S JUMPING OUT OF THE BOOK. That's the first time I saw a Jew saying a braha like God is standing in front of him. In front of him literally which and and he's saying a blessing to Hashem. It's a diff it's a different experience. Passion. You're passionate about something. You know people say they they have passion. You have passion, but meanwhile for God, meanwhile, you do what you want and when it's comfortable, you do what God wants. That's not that's not a that's that's a fallacy. It's it's it's a fantasy of aa. So, this is what the Reb is saying here. And we'll continue now in chapter 8 on page 147. The importance of let's look inside. to explain this type of service. The verse in parish says there shall not be there will not be a woman who who loses her pregnancy loses her baby or a woman who is barren who cannot give birth. What is a anoris it? She can't give she doesn't give birth. She's barren the now spiritually this refers to this refers to the attributes to the emotions of love and fear and awe which are a result of meditation. When you meditate, when you contemplate on Hashem, it should lead to a feeling of either fearing God, loving God, or both. Is what we call the son, having a a boy, a son. Next page and is having a daughter. Okay, not going to go into it now. Now what about what is the spiritual ramification of heis? This is a person that does give offspring to a feeling of love and awe for Hashem. However, they don't last like the baby. You you the woman becomes pregnant and then loses her baby. the bre she she miscarriages or whatever the case. This is now the commandment of Hashem and there shall not be a situation of one has to meditate in a manner that will bring a result in the in in the offspring of of of either awe or or fear or love. And not only should they should it be a temporary situation. But you hear this, they should LIVE THE CHILD. YOU BECOME PREGNANT and then IF YOU LOSE YOUR PREGNANCY, OKAY, WHAT'S THE POINT? NO, you should become pregnant spiritually with love and FEAR FOR GOD AND IT SHOULD BE EVERLASTING. That's what it means. Then the service of serving Hashem will be proper to explain this further. Now the Reb is going to explain that within a barren spiritual situation there are two levels. The first one is listen to this even that a woman is lacking a womb entirely. She doesn't have she doesn't have the womb to make it possible to for her to be to conceive. What does that mean spiritually? Next page 149. BL the womb refers to the intellectual arousal shall that will lead to the revelation of the emotions. Okay have to explain this. THE FIRST STEP is the intellectual arousal. So the actually is the second step. THE FIRST STEP IS TO UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU'RE WHAT you're reading and learning. IF YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND, you can't go further. Now when I say you can't go further, IF IF GOD WANTS TO INSERT a feeling into a person without studying, he could do that. But we're talking about the norm. What's the normal pro procedure? You study something, a text, you need to understand it. Once you understand it well, it leads to an arousal. But an intellectual arousal and that intellectual arousal will trigger an emotion of the heart. And a woman who's barbad who doesn't have a womb spiritually. What does this mean? This means not only doesn't she have palpable love and fear for God in her heart in in the heart. But any person, not only doesn't he have this palpable love and fear for Hashem in his heart, this is what calls jading of the heart. Clogging of the heart VELV CLOGGED. In other words, what does this mean? Stop for a second. You understand? You know what the meaning means, Mark? You understand it. You know what it means. You intellectually, BUT YOUR HEART IS CLOGGED. IT'S JADED. IT FEEL IT DOESN'T FEEL IT. says that not only is this one a one condition of of of which we would call a woman who ha who is barren i.e that this is a spiritual baroness if there is such a word state of being barren. It gets even worse. You don't have what we call intellectual arousal. Okay, we're not talking about emotional arousal. Emotional arousal is BV in the heart. So one condition of ao barren not having a womb spiritually means that you don't feel it in your heart BUT IN YOUR HEAD you feel it. The second one is THAT YOU'RE BARREN IN YOUR mind and so what does that mean? It's like you can you can learn and read but there's no arousal in the mind. There's a difference between understanding something and then the understanding coming to a point which says therefore it is correct I should behave in a certain way or do a certain thing it's NOT YET AN EMOTION IN the heart you don't feel it but you aroused intellectually talks about this in chapter 16 in Tanya I believe so the says here that A second form of being barren. A second form is that you lack the int not only the emotional arousal, you also lack the intellectual arousal. Hel your job is GOING TO BE TO PUT ALL THIS INTO psychological terms and give us give us a synopsis of what this would all be in psychological terms because that's your field. Let's continue. that the Reb says and when you what do we call the condition when there is a there lacks intellectual arousal Tim jading of the brain of the mind of the intellect. Now in Yiddish in the classical Yiddish when you say to someone in Yeshu you what that means is or the person has means that he don't get IT. HE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND IT. He doesn't he doesn't HAVE THE BRAIN CAPACITY to understand it. That's not what we're TALKING ABOUT HERE. WE'RE TALKING ABOUT EVEN IF YOU HAVE THE BRAIN CAPACITY TO get it, you're not aroused intellectually. That's what the rebba means here is by not theb only but when it speaks about the malady called it's referring to a breakdown in the mind that there's no intellectual arousal. So we have three things. Let's review. We have intellect to understand something. Then we have intellectual arousal and then we have emotional arousal. Good summary for you to work on. Let's continue. So the question now is why WHY IF I STUDY SOMETHING if you study something you understand it we're TALKING ABOUT YOU UNDERSTAND IT. WHY AREN'T YOU WHY AREN'T you intellectually aroused? You understand it. says the reason it's because you are not at the time a vessel to handle it. And you know why? BECAUSE YOU'RE A A VESSEL THAT'S FULL. IF THE CUP IS FULL WITH WATER TO THE TOP, YOU CAN'T pour any more water into it. It spills over me of Adam. Clay molly when it comes to the human the human experience. Clay mully top of page 150. A full vessel doesn't hold more. Now the Reb is going to elaborate on that. When a person is full of himself full of his own desires and wishes and wants surely we're not talking if if those are desires and wants of the evil inclination which is desires and wishes and wants for forbidden matter. That's for sure that the person's full of those things. Even if you're full of permissible matter, but it's all for the self, for the pallet, for the ego of the although it's technically it has 10, THE BAD AND the and the and the bells and the and all the symbols. It's kosher. But you don't need it. So why are you eating it? BECAUSE YOU HAVE A TY TO A PIECE OF STEAK. Say steak wasn't your dinner. Your dinner you had chicken. AND THEN SOMEONE COMES OUT AND BRINGS OUT A STEAK. YOUR WIFE BRINGS OUT a steak and you say, "I GOT TO STUFF MYSELF WITH SOME STEAK." I HAVE A STEAK. Unbeliev Okay. >> Wait, wait, WAIT, WAIT. NO, YOU GOT TO LET ME FINISH. HOLD ON. Chapter 8 for for that for anything that's permissible is what we call a Jewish devil shade a shindaled ye a shindaled among from Shad That's Jewish brings this chapter 8 WHICH AIN'T GOOD. YOU DON'T WANT TO BRING IN DEVILS EVEN JEWISH DEVILS. OKAY. So that's number two. So we have tya for things that are forbidden. We have tya for things that are permissible but unnecessary. And now we have certain types of tyas of the godly soul. Now listen to this. Holy Tyus. I want to d in a certain sho. I can't do in another sho. It has to be the shoe. But they need you for a minion elsewhere. But I I WANT TO DO IN MY SHO. BUT THERE'S A MINION. They don't need a 10th person. You're dominating. You do has to be this way. If the attitude regarding holy matters, godly soul matters is based on your desires and wants. Look at the word. This type of activity I have a talent inb next page page 151 this thing I want this thing I don't want and this is common to every every person who's film and involved and all that choose and pick I like doing THIS I DON'T LIKE doing in the this activity he wants and the other the other activity he doesn't want says the if this is the attitude who clay molly that means he's he's a vessel that's full that will not be able to retain any intellect arousal, intellectual, not even emotional. Wait, because this attitude prevents him from grasping the truth in his MIND for there to be an emotional an intellectual arousal. In order for the be to an intellectual arousable arousal, the thought HAS TO BE PROCESSED in an objective way. And when THE THOUGHT IS PROCESSED in an subjective way, intellectually you will not have the arousal. This is a great insight to think about the cause for what we call. So again, don't make the mistake that Tim means you don't understand it. You do understand it. THE PROBLEM IS YOU UNDERSTAND THAT THE WAY YOU'RE BEING TRIGGERED by your wants and desires. Oh, so that's not pure objectivity. Hence, the feeling of uh intellectual arousal won't be there for Hashem. This is all one elaborate explanation of an number two bak. The second type of baron spiritual malady base. You do the woman does have a womb, a womb, but she can become pregnant. This refers to a person who does have the capacity to understand and to develop an intellectual arousal. However, there's a breakdown and it doesn't go from the intellectual realm to the emotional realm. having a feeling in the heart. Why? Just as it is to give birth physically has to be the concept, the male seowing seed. Next page 152 which is a revelation of the power of God. You can be pregnant. You can have seed, semen, and and and and union. And if Hashem doesn't bless that, nothing comes from it. Conception, I want to read the note on 152. Conception is the closest example in physical terms to bringing an entity into being from absolute nothingness. Yes. Just as creation is only possible through the power of God's essence, so too conception is a manifestation of his essential powers. God's influence is reflected by the fact that there are times when there is no natural cause that a couple will not conceive a child. Right? Everything's fine with the man and the woman out. and it doesn't go. So the says so in order for that to be an emotion of the heart there has to be the sewing s. What is that? That's the sewing of the light of the alitus refers to the sewing of mitz. And that comes specifically through a higher power. THIS IS THE PARADIGM SHIFT above rationale. Here are those famous words of the has to be at least once a year. In note number 67 he speaks about he says that it's the um it's not restricted just the rosh elsewhere it says onash as for the chuva you need to have the paradigm shift the the note makes it clear that when the reb IT IMPLIES NOT JUST ONCE a year it could be today or could be next any or day when you come to a place where you have that paradigm shift that transcends rationale that is the sewing of the sadic within you which makes the pregnant makes you become pregnant i.e He have the emotional feeling. Now this is a a very interesting concept. In other words, what the Reb is addressing here the way I understand it is the following. If you have intellectual arousal no so why doesn't it trans translate in then having the emotion right THE FIRST PROBLEM was there was lacking the intellectual arousal here was saying no there is the intellectual arousal in other words THERE IS NO TIMUM hamak clogging jading of the mind so if MY MIND IS NOT CLOGGED and I have this feeling this is the right thing to do. Why wouldn't it naturally then translate to a feeling in the heart so I want to do it so I want to I love it or I fear it. So the Reb says obviously there's something else lacking and that is just like a woman and a man who they're healthy and they can't become pregnant without God's blessing, God's involvement, God's insertion. So too one needs this to help the feeling come about. I want to finish and then I have a thing a thought to share. Even after the seed is sewn, there needs to be the the progress of of of pregnancy that the the fetus becomes bigger and bigger until he comes out into the world. So too, spiritually speaking, There is this process in the development and revelation of the emotions in the heart even after there is an emotional arousal in the heart which is the which is the opposite of a of someone who's barren that needs needs to be the carefulness. There has to be it has to be everlasting which is the opposite of the first problem. In other words, heaven listen to this. A person could be let's say he is emotionally aroused one day, two days and all of a sudden he feels dull. YOU WERE SO TURNED ON. YOU WERE SO PASSIONATE. YOU WERE SO EMOTIONALLY CHARGED. WHAT HAPPENED over here? Then in other words, when somehow you keep the passion burning and going, that's when the is truthful. It says the lips of truth will be established forever. I'll read the note. One's divine service will not be an occasional initiative but ongoing steady process of spiritual growth. Only then can it be considered as true for truth is unchanging. So this is it's very it's very brief here. every every line here could made be talked and explained at length but briefly talking here about two more points. One is that you do why isn't there the emot sometimes the emotional um arousal because the blessing from God's not there meaning for some reason that's lacking then he says even if it is there it has you have to keep it going and that takes an ongoing aid. So this is of course what we all deal with daily as yeden as a hashem where one day you could be so turned on so inspired to dav and to learn and to do and the other day you're dull not interested you know and the answer is there's no shortcomings there there's no shortcut here there's no shortcut there's no sigulas there's no pills it's all I'm sorry it's all ridiculous all these I'm not saying that a sigula is not a sigula but to use it as a substitute for a inabad theology it doesn't work when the previousb told her wuk whose grandfather was alabik and he brought his grandson Herman in 1942 he was going out to the to to the army was he was drafted And he brings in this young man and the tells him to make sure to put on fill in every day when he's out there and he gives him a dime. Mr. Woop told me this. I walked him home once. I shouldn't say I walked him home. He wouldn't let me walk him home. He he let me walk with him to a certain spot. This is shopless after Davening in Palm Springs. And then I said, "I'd like to." He says, "You can't come further." He went to the left and I have to go to the right. He had privacy. He was very private that way. But from Shul to where he let me walk with him, he told me that the KB gave him I think it was a nickel or a dime. I think it was a dime. And that he should sew it into his his his his either shirt or sitsus or his undershirt. I don't remember that. either as agula a protection and that's a separate thing that's a true truism BUT THAT'S NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR FEELING God feeling God a headish a regggish an arousal takes work and look YOU COULD BE TURNED ON AND INSPIRED and the next day it's like So this demands of a person a stop with your wants. Stop with your own desires. If it's unhealthy and and and forbidden there's no there's no even if it's not but it's just your own ty then cut it out. You know look for what God wants so you're not full of yourself. You wanted to say something earlier. I'm sorry I didn't let you the time. Now it's your turn. >> No, no problem. I just I I have a a hard time with one thing not understanding like I understand the the what he's talking about when he's when you have the of the tas and I understand that and I understand when you have like a good you know piece of flesh and and you know you have a tya for flesh or whatever the case may be. Now we know when it comes to these type of things you can elevate it. So you you buy the best piece of fish and the b the best piece of meat and you save it for yumpt you save it for shabas. So there's a way to elevate that but of course you know you you have you have this issue where you go overboard whatever it is if it's on if it's on could be during the week also but my question my question is and this is what I don't understand I I don't I mean it's it's it's amongst everybody but specifically by not saying necessarily just there is this this um ta to go really overboard and take something that is completely completely user like let's say fake crab okay fake fake crab or or facon right kosher bacon glock kosher everyone's giving it you know you got to what's it called to whatever is giving a hash on it sat's giving hash like when you're doing that and taking a do that's misher and then trying to take that and to elevate it I I I just it's beyond me after learning this right now I don't understand how it's mut >> because there's a gumar that says that in the times of Msiah for everything that's assured there will be something that's mut all the time. >> Um I I want to go back before your your issue that you mentioned which I hear the you you said and it seems to me like you just glossed over it. If you buy it for Shabas and Yumiff it's not a tya. That's wrong. If you BUY IT FOR SHABAS, IF YOU BUY IT FOR LET ME let me finish. If you buy it for shabas and yum and you eat it LIKE A GLUTTON, IT'S JUST AS MUCH AS A TYA SHABAS AND YUMPTIVE shabas and yt does not change the the situation. What shabas a yamt does is because it's shabas and it's ytiff and you eat it like a ye and not like a glutton there's there's more of a a an ability to elevate it to the right place but as we've discussed many times just people who are drinking in shs excessively or not even just becau because of shabas y this this is not this is wrong. Since when drinking in A SHABASIVE IS ANY different than DRINKING IN A BAR DURING THE WEEK? IT'S THE SAME THING. It is the same thing. You say, you sit down, you sing a you say, you wish someone well. That's that's 100% a beautiful thing that the Tyra and and and Khazal and and our tradition endorses. So I'm I'm more concerned y about that than those that do these things. I I you know those that do these things are just it's money. It's money. No, it's a way to make money. Fake bacon, fake this. It's a way. So we're not not talking about that. That's when we learn. When we learn, we're going into God's mind, Hashem's mind. We're dealing with something more refined. You know, we we're NOT DEALING WITH THIS IS NOT IS LIKE YOU SAY. So if if a Ra says it's forbidden and obviously if the Rabon are giving a I guess it's not forbidden. I'm not in that venue to to to say yes or no. It definitely feels, you know, it feels strange. But at the other hand, let's say children who who I don't know, they're they're used to eating Cheerios every day and and maybe, you know, they'll I'm just saying I'm not So they make >> People used to have Shabas cereal. The Shabas cereal was the sugary stuff. Yeah. >> It was just for Shabas. >> Okay. So, so or but I'm saying >> it's the whole idea of putting something aside. >> Yeah. That is a and that your time is so this this this is an age-old um I don't know disagreement but between Kabad Albba's view and and other other view whether just because it's Shabas makes it it's justified to to to eating and and sleeping more took and took a very very um strong approach and say no. Uh previous Reb writes in in one Sikha and I'm guilty but but he says sleeping shabas afternoon is a rebellion against God. Okay. Who's many people sleep shabas afternoon but the rebba is talking about theb is talking like you want to be a real shabas is so holy is there time for you to sleep if you fall asleep but but that's not the so YOU'RE GOING TO SAY SOMEONE ASLEEP HE'S A BAD JEW a bad ye is not a bad ye is not a badass either has he reached the the level where they were yeen up you know Friday night you know what a shame shabas was called shabas and someone keeps shabas you know what it used to be mean not someone who doesn't drive a car on shabas and turn on a light on SHABAS IT MEANT SOMEONE WHO WAS UP 24/7 OR AS MUCH as Friday NIGHT HE DIDN'T SLEEP HE DIDN'T GO INTO A bed and I and I HEARD ABOUT JEWS THAT DID that just 50 60 years ago and maybe there are Jews today who do it they don't go into a bed they'll sit at the table learning and then they'll They'll fall asleep. They'll fall asleep. So >> exactly. It's what I told you about Kazanovski and my father. >> Yeah. >> Until 3 4:00 in the morning on Friday night. >> Right. Right. That's the way yeden me that's the way many yeden and I'm going to say the average Jew. BUT A SHABAS. NO. Who's a shab? I'm not a shabas. I go to sleep Friday night. So compared TO THEM MY AIDA is lousy. You know, you have to you have to put things in perspective. And now we'll say this generation, you know, you got TO TONE IT DOWN. We can't handle so much. We well, you know, too much pressure. Okay, there's something to be said about it. But what we learned here is is the paradigm. In other words, if you want IF WE WANT TO KNOW why is it that sometimes or more than sometimes our learning in Davin feels jaded and feels stale and feels old and we're not inspired. This chapter is a recipe what we should do. And I I I'm and I know that when you when you engage in these activities that the Reb suggests briefly here, your your your level of dabbing and mitzvah and and excitement, you'll jump out OF BED. WHY? WHY DO PEOPLE and let's say you get kids great, they're teenagers and and they sleep in and sleep in and sleep in CUZ THEY'RE NOT EXCITED. THEY'RE NOT EXCITED ABOUT GOING TO SCHOOL. They're not excited. Where? And that's the remember we spoke about Moshe. You came a little late the difference between a and I spoke about in the beginning you listen to the tape to the buter the passion is missing and that's what the says SERVE GOD YOUR GOD isn't just discipline like you said mish yesterday it requires PASSION BECAUSE GUESS what if you miss if you're missing passion ultimately you're going to miss discipline too your discipline is GOING TO GO TO THE SIDE AND THIS HAPPENS You know I don't have to NOT WATCHING BUT IF YOU BECOME PASSIONATE ABOUT SOMETHING you have the discipline too. EVERYONE HAVE A GREAT WE'LL SEE everyone tomorrow. Byebye. Thank you.