Likutei Sichos, Inreach, Tzama, Friction vs. Complancey - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

that has a punchline. >> What you talking about? >> Your avoid and your daily life. >> You're talking about Yes. >> Yes. Yes. That's very different than a Torah that you're going to hear from many or that you're going to read. It's a nice vort that picks apart, you know, some gumatri of a word, but it doesn't have a practical this is what you take away from it. And in learning the rebikas, I always see that he draws down the practical level something to learn from it. >> Right? >> And in your aod, >> right? And and and and you could understand why that didn't really interest Rabi Salvich because that's not the way the brisker mind thinks. You know the brisker mind is is is enthralled with with the concept. I I so so I dab a shaw with the roshiva who was the the shaw who was a roshiva who mamash was a brisker in his thinking process despite his strival and what he would take something from rashi something from the pussk and he'd go to the ram and then take a steer in the rambom and come to some some resolution of the steering in the ram based on [ __ ] very nice >> very nice very deep Yeah. >> But what how what does it deal with me in my >> life in my Hashem and how I relate to other people? >> Yeah. Um it's a it's it's a >> Go ahead. Go ahead. Yeah. >> Was that was that the idea of Cayeno? >> No. Hayo is a a recent publication to make it accessible to English speakers and is done in a fascinating way. They're always adding more and more but Cayeno I would say is more of a is more a practical a practicality. So it has myimas, letters, stories, uh, you know, here [snorts] we're talking about, um, the Reba's own writings, you know, and the the the the novelty of the our our Reb, the lastb of the Reb is the six from the alterba through the freed they all said my mor even if you look at the of the previousb which I I really encourage you to to read because it but it it's it's kind of the history of kabad and that's very important but the reb is unique he's taking the paras with rashis and as is says and then there's a a takeaway, a bottom line. That's uh that's uh that's unique. That's unique because you you were saying about how other people that are not necessarily born into so they've taken on these things. I'm telling you, all over Israel, ask Moshe, ask Elliot, the Everyone was walking around with the not people with beards and and and hats and a wreck. People love it. >> Okay. Okay. >> People love it. >> But but but for English speakers, >> I understand, but we're living the sixth town. I'm not I'm not I'm not what >> I think I think I I think Yoni means Yonyi when you meanu you don't you you're also I think what you're talking about is the malus the the all Hebrew all >> yeah so that yeah okay fine that's a publication but I'm not putting down the public I'm saying that within the publication there's I'm talking about the virtue and what is this is not a contradiction And has so much more than THE MALAS HAS THE I believe as well. It's not not a contradiction. It's just a Yes. Then people are not walking around with the as much as they walk around. I agree with you. >> Yes. I think I I want to just say that um I was speaking with my son-in-law um because Iser is and I had planned to go to Tama Monday night, but because Esther had to go to Detroit, so his ticket became available. So I I actually invited my son-in-law to come with me and he and he he said, "Yeah, I'd like to come with." So after the concert and everything, we walked we were walking through the the swarm sale in Bign, you know, it's >> Yeah. >> And he said he said to me, "Wow, like there's all types of people here, you know, litish." And it was interesting. There were a lot of a lot of what I call like bakim litfish people. really really all types. And I said to him, you know, I said, you know, um, today it's like you have people who are really lifish guys who are coming out and saying that they have kuses in Tanya. And I said to him, I said, you know, I said, I said, you know, when I first started after I had become observant and when I really started getting connected, you know, more to Libavich and slowly slowly, I said there was a certain point, this would be in like the '9s, I would say. Um, even into like, you know, 2000 plus, I said, all my like litfisher type friends, like I get like I I got a lot of push back, you know. I got a lot of push back then then but not now. Now now I think it's the opposite. >> Yeah, there's been a a great change especially in Israel this this organ you know what moil was behind this summer what they've created. I was telling my on our group chat because they're they really not they're not as aware as I am. I've seen it up close because I, you know, frequent so over the years has really made a change in in in what you're saying. It's it's made a it's made a real change. A real change. You know, I'm not going to go say that uh you know, hardcore Punovicher or Lakewitterers are u are behind that, but it's it's much more open and you know, >> yeah, my my nephew is my nephew is in the mirror and he says that there's a a huge kabur of guys learning. >> Yeah. Every day. >> Yeah. Yeah. And in in fact there's a boy here who's in the mirror is going back mat shabas and he's from kabad family and they have an entire two three times a week at a shul near mir where they have but um one of the points I said at this fab I'm going to send you I didn't send out fabangan in Cleveland I spoke about friction Ra Salvich he opened my eyes to this idea when I researched him Salvich believed that without friction in terra you're not getting the essence of Tyra the whole brisk approach is the friction with friction to really see the steus the contradictions like Isa said this Rambam that Rambam and then to really get into it. So, so too in in in life friction ultimately can be used and should be used in a healthy way where that's where you kind of settle this is who I am, this is what I want to be, etc. And that's so this is a you could we could say moisha like this that the friction that you experienced in the 19 1990s and 2000s the push back led to the kind of situation now where there's less friction and more acceptance. You see we could look at the differences between the reb and the rabbutler and all of those things which you know that that's what I've studied and write about written about. There's [laughter] nothing there's not more I don't have more more friction to write about. what I've written [laughter] about everything like it's all been said right you got to now find find new friction and there isn't there isn't really >> last night there was in the crown heights by the sat uh by the what do you called last night the sat get together the yard site yeah site >> what's the >> yeah the yakiola but what was the friction what >> what was the friction >> Ben land there was Then Lando was there and they threw him out. It was the whole thing. >> Okay. But that that has nothing to do with >> No. Nothing to do about it. >> No. >> So in a way, Mosa, in a way it's like I I missed the friction. In other friction really gets you to move. You got to make a decision. Who am I? Where do I want to be? When things are very complacent and nice, there's no movement. Generally, there's no movement. You're a nice boy. You're a nice girl. You're doing well. You're the best. Oh, so and we talk about the 60s and 70s, right? [snorts] Like the whole counterculture revolution, you know, and that's what the Reb saw. The Reb saw this as an opportunity for truth. And then the six day war, the bala movement, an upheaval. When there's an upheaval, there's movement. When there's no upheaval is okay. So, you know, as much as we talk about what you're saying and and as I said, it's real. You're right. It's real. But but but know that there's still another step. It it it there's another step where in other words to to jump over it takes it takes a challenge. If there isn't a challenge then you're not really jumping over. You just gradually a little step. Okay. And and and some people get to the higher step and many people don't. And that's what I'm finding within Kabad as well. me over the last since Gimmel Thomas 30 plus years now. This is a challenge where because the Reb is not here but Gash is to kind of say do this now you know new campaigns and new issues which caused alarm inside Kabad outside Kabad and things were shaking and moving. So when things are shaking and moving, people move. But when everything is like complacent, yeah, it's not nice. There's there's less movement. And this is the and this is I think an overall issue. So there's what I'm saying is there's pluses and minuses to the the the the feelings that you said about now compared to your time acceptance of I'm saying I I understand it. I see it. It's good. At the same time, I would like to see a little more friction. I friction doesn't, by the way, friction doesn't mean you're a jerk and you're bad, but just your movement, you know, let let's let's really get into it. So, that that's how people make moves. What What do you say about that? that I I think that it um I I totally hear that. I totally hear that. And as you were speaking, I was thinking how one of the things I think that's changed since then is the amount of inreach that is needed. And I think that that is a what is the situation today within the community. >> Yeah. >> Is in many in some ways very different from you know 30 30 you know since Thomas >> right >> very good point. >> Yeah. That is a very good point and that's what I saw in Cleveland. This was a paprankan sponsored by four kabad shuls anash the young the younger ones you know and this issue is is is the issue what you're identifying the the inreach you know so that's a very good point and and that is true and um if leadership in every community in every group will allow Sorry, I I don't understand what you mean by inner reach. >> Withinad, not going outside and doing not the part >> within the people. You have a lot of kids going off the d. And >> there's other issues in that they didn't have so many years ago and has a lot to do with that there's no reba today. It's one of the reasons. I [snorts] think it's one of the I don't think it's the only reason. I think there's many reasons because everyone's having it. It's not just a kabad issue, right? Everybody's having this issue, >> but I think with Kabad because they're so, you know, they're so good at the outreach, the inreach is something that's really neglected. >> Yeah, that's He makes a very very good point. That that's I You're saying the same thing, right? >> Yeah. Yeah. 100%. But yes, sir. Did you do you did you do you understand that? Did you did you do you understand what we're saying? >> Yes, sir. >> Yeah, I think so. I understand now. And >> okay, >> you know the but like Y said it's not just in Kabad. I think it's in every community today. It's in every community. The inreach, you know, the sadikim, the big rebas, it's finished. They've gone up. Okay, they're good people and holy people. But this era of 1900 to 2000 is over. as far as that level of holiness and and and and sitkiss and and and godliness that's listen God willing it'll come back we'll have a new generation of but you know so so the focus has shifted should shift to the okay now we have so many so many yeshivas so many girls schools no what's going on inside and now like said What are we finding the OTD? I spoke about that at the fabraan OTD and this and that, you know, and and like I always go back to what Misha told me when I came to Ramsh the first time. He he told me this people are stale and he was talking about his own shoe ace kes I remember he said that great people but there's a lot of people that are stale so that's in reach how do you get the excitement to people who became balichua and FFBs who who are also just you know stale how do you get them to to be excited and to be new and fresh and how do you communicate that to our kids and grandkids? And that's that's that's the issue. That's the issue that we're all confronted with. And uh hopefully, you know, more and more people and organizations are dedicating themselves to this approach. I think they are. I think they are, you know. So whether it's summer or whether it's another group um I think they are everyone should have a great chabas. We'll see everyone next week and we'll start learning again the m zaz great shabas. Take care. Byebye. Byebye. Byebye.