Laziness, Sadness, Procrastination vs. Exertion, Happiness & Alacrity - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

we'll learn Tanya chapter 26 page 64. I want to get right to it however keep going though for instance in this situation we need to notify you of a very important rule so here we have on the first line of chapter 26 we have two important words with three but I'm however Leo DIA to notify and then another two words Cloud God will a great lesson when you see the word baram you have to right away stop avram and say what does the author mean to imply what does the word bura mean however when I when you tell me something and I say to you however that means there's a clause before there's something before to which you're responding however so what's the question is what is the altareba here the first word of the chapter Maisha he says however however what and the answer is however although we've gone through 25 chapters and we spoke about refining yourself and developing or revealing love and all for God however there's a time when it don't work even though you're obeying the knee there is however there's a situation where seemingly you can be as refined as you as you are through working on yourself and there's still a problem so that's the issue that's the point that he makes with however he hasn't told us yet what that is we'll learn that in a moment then he says since there is this however we have to notify we have to announce it we have to talk about it because if we leave it under the rug it won't it'll still bother you and bug you and hurt you so therefore we have to blow it up the odia the word lodia to notify it make a public announcement deal with it so much so the next two words on the first line of 26 Cloud go to this isn't just a notification that uh you know Dodger Stadium was flooded or wasn't flooded this is a very important statement Claud gado which reminds us of probably a Kiva statement if you have to learn reading the first line tells you right away he lays out for us that the issue that we're going to deal with in chapter 26 through 34 is a very important rule that's relevant to everything you do and you described in Torah in Judaism what is this what is it let's continue second line for example when you seek to overpower to be victorious but not say ah means the word nitsahon to a physical material object you have two people two men who are wrestling with each other a good old wrestling belt one desires to topple the other one to push him down he may Behold Him if one of the two is lazy put a put a mark under the word laziness number two the capitals from the word Yoni coved sluggish heavy heavy right but me sluggish so if you're either lazy or you're sluggish you will fall you will be you will lose the match and you will fall come in even if you're stronger than your friend you go into a wrestling match right you're gonna whether it's a playful one or a real one and you're just I'm Gonna Knock this guy out I'm gonna beat him up I'm gonna drop him down and you just take it easy and the guy topples you why because you were lazy to really exert yourself are you heavy we don't mean here have you the gospel is that you know you weigh a lot that's not what we mean we mean carved those heaviness of of character heaviness of character sluggishness you're going to lose this is the muscle now comes the Nim show the parable Dr Pepper says so too in actuality when it comes to overpowering the inclination the evil inclination you can't be victorious over it you won't succeed the answers if you approach the Yates or Horror in trying to overcome it using laziness and sluggishness why not I'm sorry why because you're not exerting yourself so you think hey I'm a Yeshiva bucker I'm from I'm a Maher I'm a rabbi I'm a guy and the age of her and therefore yet Sahara you can't get to me my beard is too long I'm not gonna sin with such a long wild beard how really and the Yates are knocks you off your two feet and you wake up and you say he got me why because you were lazy and you're heavy now the out that ever says where does laziness and heaviness come from so the next word on the fifth line was six lines laziness and heaviness comes it's drawn it comes from avram from depression or better said in this case sadness the Tim tomb have left Evan and the clogging the shading of the heart like a stone you feel nothing in Your Heart Like a Rock you cannot if if I'm sorry that triggers a feeling of laziness and heaviness in other words when you give up one second listen when you give up and you say and and you're upset with a situation and and you've tried you say to yourself I've tried once I've tried twice I've tried three times I'm not getting there and you become down because of it and we're not talking here about clinical depression remember I told you that I mean we could extrapolate you know ideas from these chapters for clinical depression too but it's not a substitute so I've got to say it over and over so it's clear anyway you're talking about your you you lost to the eight Sahara and or you and and the eight Sahara it doesn't mean just I did a hardcore sin but I insulted someone I wasn't a mensch whatever the case so you feel you feel sad worse you feel it your heart is Jaded you have no feelings this is a big problem that we're dealing with today in our communities where people say I don't have any feelings I don't mean I don't have any feelings when you're dating and you want to meet someone to get married I don't have feelings for her or him talking about you know I don't have any feelings I lost my feelings if you are at that point that's gonna cause you to be lazy and heavy and exerting yourself because you've given up that's what he says here let me just continue please the only way rather the only way to overcome the Yates of harass is rizus is with alacrity which is drawn which where does that come from is the opposite of Atlas laziness you do it quickly you do it now you don't procrastinate this comes this comes from a happiness and the opening of the heart Victor rossoi and its Purity Nicole nidnut from any Iota the word means Iota tiger of anxiety the XF and sadness that's in the world you've rid yourself of any iota of anxiety what a heavy heavy trip but my friends this is the reality if you have thy God if you have a tiger an anxiety you're stuck and Christ you know my wife and two friends have a share every day for five ten minutes you know the rebel encouraged so many people in letters who wrote to him about issues and problems to learn and she shares with you many times things they learn and then of the talking is Hashem to rid yourself or die of thy gods of worries of anxiety that's very easy easily said but that the truth is that's the avoida the altered alludes to it too he says when you have simcha and secrets I live then you've rid yourself of tiger it's all good now you go back to what what Israel said to us months ago or maybe half a year ago long time ago you know about that situation either was a car or something I forget and you know this is the will of Hashem don't worry yeah logically someone hurt you logically this it's not going to be good Trust real trust and it's an avoider to the altered says here the only way of ram the only way to overcome the state Sahara who's constantly nagging at us and schlepping us down is to create a state of simcha a state of openness of heart which is contrary to a jaded clogged heart and that will will cause you not to have laziness and not to be Heavy in Your War over the Yates what we understand from this part of Kanye here is that the avoida of simcha is an ikar now I just want you to see the way the altareba here builds starts building his you could call it his his his his simcha thesis so the beginning of one of nine chapters and it's it's clear clear as even as even here at the beginning this is he does this in a Chabad way he give he gives you a muscle he gives you a nymshu then he starts articulating it one second my ship if you look into anachment of wrestler in his forum is very big on simcha it's it's a diff it's a take a look and if you study it it's a different approach it's it's a holy approach but it's a different approach the bellatania is is is a very uh you can call it an intellectual one in other words I'm gonna prove to you why you must have simcha not the person says this and this and that's why you have to say that's somebody says here he doesn't tell you because we know that right could have said over here you know why you have to have simply interested finish doesn't do that it gives you a muscle of two people wrestling he gives you an insul then he tells you what the cause of of of laziness is why does he have to say that because he wants you to understand and understand where it comes from if you don't understand where your laziness comes from you'll remain lazy because you'll never get rid of the cause that's a very important you know they say Okay behavioral modification do this and do this and do this yes but at the same time if the cause is still there the bear is always inside and can always eat you up what's the bear the bear is the cause the cause is sadness a feeling of not accomplishment a feeling I failed so the after that been a few words that says to you Kevin that if you don't deal with this cause as he's going to deal with in the next nine chapters and boy you're going to see how he deals with it details and details this type of sadness this type and this type you know it's amazing it's amazing how he he opens up something that in others for him is just a line or two or three or maybe a page or two of this person that person can this school and that's the Gula and this is so I I just again has to show them not the you know the living anyone's approach but you need to understand that when people say oh is the same it's nonsense pure nonsense the philosophy is what says what the sheet is is it differentiator it's a different approach and like Issa and I were talking before this year everyone has to find in their heart what talks to them not that you shouldn't learn you know and regardless of but as far as you know you're avoided if you if you're you're husted and you want to follow a certain approach a certain rabbit that's fine you know I'm saying you have a right they're not only a right and a way an obligation to come to that place what talks to Myna Sharma and that's why can you legislate to someone you must be a breast lover a laboratory no this this this is you know and unfortunately it's like you must wear shrimal at your wedding I don't want to wear slime you're gonna embarrass us and I us our grandparents our community and and and many people put on the shrimal as you know and they don't believe at all in their triangle but they do it for the show because they want to keep the peace and there's something to that yeah I'm not from those that say don't do that but at the same time when you see a person who gravitates to another hasidis or to or becomes that truth be said we've had we've had that I just spoke to three sons of a major Russia I don't want to he's already passed away years ago a real from Europe and they I didn't know and he told me that they come their great-grandchildren of a big question of the out of the samak sadik known as a hill of Parrish which I've told you but of hilloparature through the one of his daughters married into their family and and and the grandfather used to have a picture on the wall here in the probably in the Bronx in the 50s of the bellatania and if you ask anybody they are as lit [ __ ] as you get it happens some will say it's just legit so but if someone feels that way that's the way it feels there's no there's no you know right and wrong and and to say that you have to come to this yourself Misha what do you want to say um I was gonna say it's interesting I was just gonna ask about a couple other things but it's not necessary now but it's interesting what you just said I wonder I've met many people that they came like back they came from like but for recently I haven't met so many people just who are like more recent this is sort of like left like you know left let's say being consider let's say it went over to be that fish I don't know it just it's an interesting it's it's okay it's not right we'll we'll leave that for if I bring in there's there is what to talk about there is what to talk about if I'm praying about but let's leave that for for another time and I wouldn't there's not nothing I would agree with you and I believe I could prove it um many more that were literature became versus literally especially Chabad you can count them on your fingers those you're talking about it was at a time that samach and the sons and when there's up people in Russia and the and there was The Villages Yeshiva for years was the Yeshiva or later even hotels and Mir and there was there weren't lebavati yeshivas around so they had no choice to send their their sons there and some it became literature that that that's a fact and that's why it's it's very important if you do desire that your kids remain habat or Hasidic make sure to put him into Shiva because in the same is true for girls school again if if that's not something that you and your wife feel strongly about um no problem but if you do then I would say 90 percent or more of the time what they what they get in high school and post high schools what they'll be um and we we have this phenomenon out here I don't want to say who and but I know someone who had boys and he sent them all to Le Bobby Yeshiva and they're all about it and he had girls and he sent them all to obesity locally and they all married litfish boys good boy good good uh but they're not lavage so this this is this is the score you know there's no there's no hidden agendas you know and um everyone take me to the side and the same was true with bells and gear although in the Hasidic World they they stay generally Hasidic if they go a Belzer goes to agaria Shiva Gary goes to sat me Yeshiva you know what I'm saying because they're all like um you know the same of the same mindset you know the strimel and the payers and the bekisha so because that's a a commonality in all all of the all the Hasidic groups so what you know what's the difference in other words in Moses today there isn't you know this this kind of uh emphasis on if your Chabad your Chabad if you suck for you by the way soccer is this way satmer in this issue they share a commonality with Chabad with satma really pushes you know if you're satma you stay in soccer and you don't go away from Sadler now what supper is a different question we have to go find hard and understand when their own Revenue the total Center has been forgotten so suppose that means that you're not president you're you're you're you're Hungary Jews who we're stronger but you already said you forgot Teresa so what kind of concedes are you but we'll leave that for if I bring it let's continue insight responds to a rhetorical question that he asks on himself there's the verse it says in all sadness you will have advantage what does that imply that there's there's an advantage to sadness so here Delta them is saying I'm teaching you to avoid sadness for whatever the course may be and you should just be Simka and simcha is the answer just overcoming the Yates Sahara because you'll be uh you'll have this alacrity yet the verse seems to imply there is advantage to sadness retorts responds to his rhetorical question and he says Peter from this verse the implication is just as I said the altitude and not the way the question seems to to be what is what is that how is that yes I'm sorry sorry this is part of the question petos this is all the verse seems to imply that there'll be some advantage and benefit coming from sadness and therefore why shun sadness completely in the service of Hashem here Begins the answer says from this very language of the verse it it implies that sadness itself aimed by Mila it doesn't have an advantage there will come as a result from this sadness some benefit but sadness itself no way Jose so what do we understand from this that the ick here is the objective yes sir the goal is simcha but guess what there is a way which we're going to learn later in time in these chapters how we could use sadness as a springboard for great simran the hainu and the altareba calls this of Rome the sadness that comes as a as a springboard to generate simcha is what the outer ever calls sorry the simha that comes as a result that comes following this true look what he says he calls it only true sadness upon him at select times when you're sad about your sins with the bitterness of your soul the first day the lavender and a broken heart that Sim that Sim could have generated from True remorse for your sins is the true sadness that brings to the SIM hamities in other words when you stop and think and you say I realized what I did was so wrong and and and and and it bothers me but if not it bothers me to go and sleep under my covers and be depressed but it bothers me to do something about it to be frustrated to be proactive that activity that comes after a true sadness is true joy in Hashem continue it through this contrite heartuma we shatter the spirit of folly the sitra and the other side the extraneous negative side um and the Iron Curtain seconds which separates the anoint between the Jew the other in heaven commission as it says in the Holy zayar our Posse On the verse a broken Spirit contrite spirit is caused by lathe nishbar a broken heart the glamor Etc and when you have that the beginning of that verse I believe in chapter 51 and to heal him and we say it every night in Christmas will be fulfilled the beginning of the verse me any sausage let me hear joy and happiness Etc the glamor Etc Joy yes of your salvation and the generous Spirit when will we have that says after you have caused within yourself as as Israel before the world a rebellion you broke you're you're lame nishbar you rebelled against your your your your sins and when you do that the result will be the greatest symptom this also explains in a simple way with Tiki no Ariza the Ariza established to say this chapter until in 51 after the midnight prayer before you spend the rest of the night learning Torah so that you're learning of theta the second part of the night after the midnight prayer should be simcha amitis with true joy bashem in God we're going over another page which comes following the sadness yes an advantage like the advantage to life that comes from Darkness not only light that's imposed on Darkness but a light that's been that it comes because Darkness has been transformed and become light that type of that type of light is is the is the highest the greatest it says in desire I'll pass it on the verse quoting King I see yes yes there is advantage to wisdom over foolishness which is compared to okay yes like to the advantage of light over equation over Darkness saying that that you need you you need to have this you need to have this uh you need to have this type of transformation to appreciate imposed wisdom for example you come you hear a class lecture you learn right okay but when you yourself figure it out it goes back to the same that we spoke about before when you come to a place where your nashama says this Reba or this is what talks to mind it's much more rich so too when it comes to overcoming the Yates Sahara when you can when you cause the shtus to be the trigger for your avoidance Hashem that's the greatest type so imagine is to learn for years to become a doctor right now somehow he's able to take what he learned in University and in a medical school and not only to help a patient you know and especially his patients dealing with all the patients yeah right but in your avoid this Hashem you actually see the benefit from the schooling how it helps you be a better over the Hashem that's trans and that's not an easy outweather you know and you use it and you use it in your advantage Hashem that's a transformation that's taking this case would be you know University compared to sinning Yeshiva right and and whatever the case and you take that those years you didn't spend learning but you spent the university and you use it now because of that it's cavaldi you know the same person I interviewed you told me that's such an interesting thing he told me because he went to high school you know because he went to high school it helped them become a better rebbe because he can start to give homework and sheets and articulate and he he and he said he got that from the high school studies not from his Yiddish studies and you're talking about a very Pious religious uh hasid and and talmud hockham I was blown away when he said that you know and it it spoke to me because I didn't want to go to high school and my grandmother my good old old Holocaust Survivor polish grandmother you know she would say you'll be a doctor Rabbi you know it's the best of both worlds that's that's you know that's the way the Eden they came to America you know so she basically ran the show in our house my father was out working very hard then she said he has to go to high school my father said go to high school I wasn't interested I was interested in learning under my under my sheets and I used to learn okay and the teachers got upset and they went to Rabbi to out my principal my my Yiddish principal Hebrew subject principle and they said this is not right so he called me in and he said to me like this I'll never forget it and it was it was so important he said to me I'm not telling you to go to high school but if your father wants you to go to high school you have a midst of going to high school and and getting A's in your studies if you're there ready you have to be the best you have to excel and not Goof Off so when this first time interview told me that because of his high school experience that you know it helped them years later uh you know become a a excellent Arabian deal with children and give you know give them sheets and homework and work with them it triggered that thought okay we stop here and tomorrow we'll finish this little part and continue with Hashem learning uh the rest have a great day everyone bye well bye bye take care foreign