Laziness: Break it - Regret & Remorse is Possible even for intentional sins - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so we're learning now Havoc 25 Cafe and we are on page lamit Alice we're still doing towards the beginning of the painting and just to recap briefly down to River here concludes his explanation of the tagline that he used on the title page of Tanya foreign here he brings it all together and summarizes and concludes and what we learned yesterday is very very important words that he says it's the second line of the chapter it's with a man's capacity and ability to transfer the rules the spirit of folly and forgetfulness from within yourself Philistine and you could remember you could bring to mind into arouse abuse that's hidden them latent within your heart use the word surely it's not a Suffolk you only maybe yeah maybe not it's without any doubt let's continue possession so out of the three words in the Posse and partial itself in your heart upon the the word glass is the one that's most difficult for the balotanya why to act is easy to do behavior modification to speak is also easy speak talk is cheap but to feel it in your heart that's a difficult one so the alternative explained that what type of am I talking about not a pure passionate love for God that you have palpitations for God every time you think about it and that's for Sadiq for the average man and the potential pain in it which we all are it's a I'm I'm looking for at least some feeling within the heart or better set as explained to chapter 16 a feeling within the mind that it's notion its orientation is to action it's it's so it's not pure it's Draper says look in the prosecuts socially the word implies an action-oriented feeling what is that so as we explained at length in the past this refers to doing the right thing understanding with your mind that this is the right thing to do and you understand it not just you not just you act like a robot you understand that because your wife is your wife take the garbage out you understand why you should do it not just because if not she's going to clobber me or it's gonna stink in my house it's gonna be a bad smell or she's gonna you know nudge me and play me a cup no that's mice that's action I don't want to hear from her nudging so I better take the garbage out I don't want it to smell the house I take the garbage out we're talking about you understand what a wife is and you understand that she is your wife and you understand how you are her husband so by understanding all of those things I now take the garbage out so that understanding we call the Antonette called in chapter 16. that's enough to get you to feel something justifying the behavior so this is what he says now there's another point doesn't only mean love it means fear too or reverence and the question was how do we include that and the ultimate explained that I believe in chapter 19 that it refers to separation if you love someone or something you don't want to be separate from them right imagine when you you or your spouse goes on a trip and you're by yourself if you're really what they would call today in love but really together you're you feel lonely why do you feel lonely you're coming back in a few days because the separation is part of the love and Truth truthfully speaking if the feeling of Separation doesn't create kind of a loneliness it's it it it it it it's somewhat symptomatic that the the love needs an upgrade okay but we're not going to go into marriage counseling right now so we'll leave that for another time for a good funbraingan when the boys will air it out although we could I know we could we all could but that's where if I bring in when the boys will wear it out but going back to the Tanya is that shikos also incorporates fear a feeling an emotion called fear or respect says I don't mean fear or Whiplash you scared your wife's gonna beat you that's ridiculous or God's gonna beat you he's gonna beat you with a Seguin to get hit him and you're gonna burn burn burn that's not the concept that we're syntha sees it rather sheleighly parade you shouldn't separate yourself in any way to go on to page 62. from the unity and the Oneness with God our feet will be Messina Snapfish momish and you're ready to have Messi that nephesh to give away your soul to die for of as long as you you won't be separate from Hashem believe some time to say who Muslim without any rationale Ella mitive it's natural for the godliness within us I.E The Godly soul to feel if at any point I'm going to be separate from God I'm ready to give my life for that I will not allow that to happen what does that show you any that shows that the feeling the emotion of yira is very much attached to Ava in the pasta it means with your heart my it includes my shamayas it includes also separation you don't want to be separate because as soon as you're separate right as soon as you separate you're on your own and when you're on your own you know so you don't want to be in that situation the Torah is very close to you before in your mouth and in your heart meaning not only from the love perspective but from the fear perspective because that's the the complementary element of love that being separate let's continue the coast game needless to say Isa needless to say breaking shattering lightweight like light type of indulgences which which you're ready to do rather than having the punishment of death so this is very close to you yes sir by preventing yourself from doing what's wrong I feel on my way to college that they've been safer including lenient um available since by desecrating even a rabbinic enactment you're separating yourself from the Oneness and the unity of God and as we said earlier in the chapter 24 it's similar to idolatry bishas during at the time of the ACT it's like you're worshiping an idol because when you worship an idol you give Credence to the deity to another deity right when you do an Aveda you're giving credence to your ego which is like a very disorder idolatry one candle chuva after worshiping now here he goes into a um a question a rhetorical question foreign but meanwhile let me live it up because I'll save um [Music] even the although the gazelle say if someone says I will sin and then I'll lay down to truva we don't a must speak him we don't give him the chance to do them so they're out there that was asking on himself why are you telling me that I can do truth after about the Zara I know that now answers his own rhetorical question I know what what do the hazal means Hashem won't hold him by his hand and say here I'm bringing an opportunity for you to do juva but if the hour you know it's an expression if if the the pressure of the hour if the situation lends itself for us at juva in other words God's not going to say look look I'm gonna give you an opportunity to truth if you're such a bad sinner that you made a calculation I'm gonna sit now although I know I shouldn't but I want to enjoy and Live It Up I don't do true but when it comes to you I'm keeping a shot and all that cause I'll say God's not going to give you an easy he's not going to put the front of your way of doing true for but but that doesn't mean that God won't accept you true if you jump in if you fight kind of with God and say I wanted to choose her I am such a jerk that I made a calculation but I still want to do chuva Hashem says okay get to my table so that's what it is if someone pushes himself in the door you're in you know it's like you come to a refuge door while rabbi's door or a goggles door whatever and they have a lineup of people and there's someone pushes himself in the the guy by might want to throw you out but not the red be Rabbi God they're in you're in already once you're in you're in I got there by you know being aggressive and not nice you're right but you're in now the same thing over here my God does not say here you did you you didn't know Vera I'm gonna give you a chance I'm gonna provide for you an opportunity to do that because I'll say you're not getting if you were um if you uh say I will sin and I'll do chuva you're not getting God to give you on a plateral way to do truth it ain't happening but what will happen is that if you yourself notwithstanding yours and your evil and your stupidity and and at some point you have real regret I was such a bad person and bad thing and person sorry I did such a bad thing and I was so intentionally knowing what I'm doing but I regret that and I want to do chuva Hashem says come in the door so what do we see that you could always do true but let's continue so he says um there's nothing that stands in the way of chuva nevertheless every single Jewish Hashem is ready and is prepared to give their life for the sanctity of God is not to bow to idolatry to an idol I feel the future even if just temporarily the last is chuva and if he did to do children for that final why which is invested in The Godly soul of every Jews that's not confined to time to time at all right you can't say you know when I'm in Yeshiva when I'm on the chemist that's when I'm a Jew when I go out to Wyoming and to Nigeria there I act like everyone else so so and and therefore I'm not really Jewish when I go there the answer is it's a lie whatever a Jew is they have an Assam Wherever You Are so and as we remember what we learned earlier in the chapter that even at the time of the sin the by a Jew of every Jew is complete so the alteneba says this is because to time you say oh at this time I'm gonna set my alarm clock and this time I'm Jewish at this time when the shama is active but at this time I'm not no it doesn't work that way then the shaman is pristine state within every Jew is at all times ready ever Milo man's mom rather the shama is transcendent of time the Charlotte um all of Canada and it dominates and controls when accessed over the stos and therefore you will do chuva at any time and point when you access your nashama so you have to have a call from your soul so this is regarding surma to hold yourself back from doing what you're not supposed to do and so too vehement when it comes out from to doing good his garbage to overpower your yatesahara like a lion with a strength the aim of and power of the heart against the age of the inclination the yatesahara that makes one's body heavy one's body says I need this and I need this and I need to be fed this way and feel this way that's called heaviness of the body uh the body created by a person laziness at solo I'm lazy to do this I'm lazy to do that it's too hot it's too cold it's too good it's too bad and you become lazy premise you say to offer we learned already chapter one Italian that comes from the element of offer of of dust that's within all of creation bomb is including within the animal Soul which then causes the body the human being to to to to be lazy in exerting itself business with alacrity with sneezers the whole military with all kinds of heart bother and service avoid this muscle are carrying a heavy package in regards Hashem she and hard work going for example to learn to study to be studious in Taylor with your mouth it was the end with your depth of mind or prepare and articulating it through your mouth when person not to stop for a moment for learning as to say to say a person a person should Place upon himself the Yoke of the words of thetaiah like an ax has a yoke and like a donkey has a saddle which helps carry the packages says that when it comes to the study of Taylor this concept this concept of overpowering the yancer and he says touches upon a very important thing laziness which is going to talk about more in the next chapter but he he already begins kind of uh alluding to it that this idea that the Yates of the Yates Sahara not causing the person to have a difficulty both in surma and I say Tov in preventing yourself from bad and doing good is associated with laziness that's solo axles right and and then and the yitzahara is trained in in giving a person all kinds of excuses not to work hard not to work hard we discussed this many times but the idea of has passed it for me it's not befitting for me to go and wash windows of course not you're a Ben Malik you're a king but guess what the same Melech wants you to have food on your table and if for some reason you've been laid off from your job right now and you need to make food you need to make Pine also to feed your family to whatever it is and if it means doing that do that you know how many people were great people let's talk about the prophets traveled around Russia Ukraine and Poland selling his own swearing so sometimes when I do that in the shoe or two that I'm visiting I feel great I'm I'm in I'm in the wagon of the conference crying but on the other hand ask yourself a question the conference crying is such a heat should be he should be sitting and learning and everything should be provided for him so that he can write more and come up with more important Torah ideas for Claudius Royal and what is he doing he's schlepping around to sell the swearing why because he needed panosa and you should know that I saw by the Bible of great notoriety that others that when they needed parnosa everything about the the mysterious and the hasidish kite was all filtered through work my father may be well in the early 60s worked in in an industry in Brooklyn where they collected the waste from material and then made of and made of the waist clothing sweaters and other things this is before he became what's called a knitter and he told me that he sat and that he worked on a table and next to him was a hussied who who learned in Lubavitch who was they say one of the 10 people who signed a pact with the previous celebrity to do or die to keep you just got going in the underground in Russia and later came there to Israel and he was the Manila of one of the Babaji shivas and he is standing there on the next table officially working my father told me that he had a safer day of the mital arepa and a lot of the time he was learning hasidus his F his son was the owner of the business and his son you know wanted to to accommodate his father who felt he should be working in addition to everything else and and I you know whenever I think about it it's like on one hand like a like such a Jew should be working in a sweatshop okay it's hard it's it's but that's what he did for partners for a while then he got then he was had another job was to hired as a fundraiser for the Yeshiva my point being is that the attitude was there's nothing embarrassing about with any job as long as it's cushioned it's kosher and acceptable to bring panosa home and that's a lost art but the European Jews my father still at 85 in Hudson becomes 86 still lives with this attitude and he shares it with his grandchildren and he said with his great-grandchildren and he would I mean this he would knock it into our heads you know like you know you lazy you get off your you know and get out and do something you know if you're not learning Tata within title learning there's also laziness you know I mean here we're learning Tanya and there's some deep ideas sometimes we say well the Deep ideas they're way above me I'm gonna leave that for uh for another time another person I'm just going to focus on kind of the the emotional power the psychological part so however you have to know that when you learn you'll never see this especially you need to Endeavor to understand the Deep Parts as well you have to hurt them you have to put effort into it it doesn't come from wearing pajamas tonight and going to sleep you know on a comfortable bed you can do that too but you need to lose your mind a piece of Gamora right there's learning to murder with Rashi okay what about Tysons so we knew when we were in Yeshiva that when we didn't learn tasteless we're just learning it cursory you know it's just like uh you know like a shallow learning you stop learning tysus and Tyson's you know rips apart Rashi and Rashi has his opinion and why is it not lactase and what's taste was adding and you gotta really use your cup your head that's you know sweating away to understand the piece of Gomorrah alludes to all of these ideas here when he speaks about laziness within learning within learning and what's what's what is he getting at not to leave us high and dry over the weekend Shoppers gazaim which is this Shabbos the base I mean this is being shown to us what is doubt that everyone that never wants us to know that Hashem accepts trueva at any time and every time and that every Jew has something in themselves to do children to turn on that faucet of of abasashem and get as Hashem at any moment and the same is true as we conclude with the idea of the shop is the saddest Shabbos of the year of the Shabbos yet like I told you what is the the holy of the Blazing Islam but did you ever said Hashem shows us a vision of the third base amitish which is the saddest time emotion emotionally when you when you stop and think about especially have it that live you won't live in there so you know you're you're a minute you're there what do you mean you don't have to go to the clay so you're you're in in the land of the Philistines but your mom is when you think about how we don't have a base Amigos yeah we have attitude Hashem but we don't have a base amigdish it's like a classic one said he said who mashiach is I know but what I still haven't seen is the base amigdush the basement where is the base of Milton I'm sorry oh what the question says oh he said who who is he said I know who mashiach is but that's by me no question is feeling but what I don't yet know is where is the base amigdush I don't see it I need a base amigdish a physical base Amadeus so you can have Mr mashiach but there's no base in English the concept being that this Shabbos we are shown a vision of the base so at least it's like you know you're flying high you're flying over based on the Grand Canyon and you look down from the window wow here's the Grand Canyon but I'm not there I see it from thousands of miles up but I'm not standing in the Grand Canyon climbing and then and hiking so Dr Debra says here in the Tony in chapter 25 in this section that a yeet has a complete nashama that's always accessible to do whatever it does including hard work and there's no so there's no excuse the excuse says when you allow the Yates to throw in all kinds of arguments and ultimately cause laziness that we don't want to work harder we don't want to work harder so comes along the balustanian says the ultimate of the inefficiently kids is hard work hard work and title learning you know schwitzing to understand shot in the Gomorrah of a piece of Tanya or unless whatever you're learning a piece of Allah makes no difference you have a walk out from learning schwitzing because you tried understanding this what you're learning I mean it just wasn't going and you didn't give up and you thought again and you looked again into the text and and you discussed it with a couple with our teacher and your mamish come out wet from that exercise that's what we're talking about and we know this from from our careers it it's not easy coming whether you're a doctor or this or that whatever you do in life or a musician right you have to practice you have to refine your you know whatever everyone knows you have to put time into it otherwise people will see right through you fake it for a while and then they catch you and then they then they call you a fake a phony fraud you know it's like so the quality just it's just this morning someone wrote me uh something and uh I said to him that you're getting up early in the morning early real early is is demonstrative and learning and davening writing whatever whatever one's doing the effort the effort the effort to to to break laziness to do things to break laziness it's a very important thing if all we conclude from this year is to take one to Break laziness in one area in your life we've accomplished a lot really and that's the way we're going to have the best and make this camera it's going to take it's it's much more and I'm not pooing climbing up to the to the those that go up to the Temple Mount and those that say no don't go up and not you know make a March around the kaisal and then the old city it's all whatever swashem is good fine but it takes you know work inner work and specially sharing it with others and now the three weeks what's the antidote what's the antidote to the destruction baseless love push it to love another Jew because they're they're a Jew and that's it don't ask questions don't ask me up and down and it's hard to fight it's that easy no one says it's easy he says here that when you when you tap in to the necessarily kiss for an officially kissed this is also kind of easy you know it's easier because an officially kiss enjoys hard work it enjoys the Avada why because Hashem wants a Vader since Hashem wants work the net for sure the kid says I'm ready to roll up my sleeves you know so may Hashem help that we have we all come back on Monday Mr Shem and we all have witness the vision of the base our mid does the third base of mcdosh the final base on Nick dush and and will will and that means the vision will be as it says at the end spent a lot of time on this verse every single year when he would speak not every time but during the week or on Shabbos whenever he spoke about this he emphasized this concept of the two things that we need to do in the nine days is to add and play The Learning and also in giving up to Dhaka so I leave that with you and it's Hashem wish you all the best Shabbos and we'll see each other Amit Hashem on Monday