Kosher Indulgences - Today's baby naming in Shomrei Shabbos shul - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

let's learn now we're learning Tanya we're in middle of page 54. uh kind of um the latter part about 10 lines from the bottom after the word base Hashem sorry a period let me bring you up to a part where we're what we're talking about so y'all today but in this chapter is explaining how the use of the uh the word and the idea of Deborah God's word is proper to compare to God because a human being's word leaves the person and it becomes it's independent and by Hashem it's not that way the word of Hashem he or is always in Hashem and if because if it were not to be within Hashem every moment there would be no light there would be no world so that was his question in chapter his rhetorical question in the beginning of chapter 22. and his answer and and even though we said in chapter 21 that there's another aspect of which we do find the similarity between God and and humanity and that is the idea of Revelation in other words when the title uses I want you to listen to this when the title uses verbiage to describe Hashem it's not always that every aspect of that word and what that word signifies is is true by God we have a right to take one aspect of that word and compare it to Hashem so for example the right of God how can you say that you know God has a right hand God has a so the rambam already and many of the Jewish philosophers ask this question and some say it's a metaphoric I mean everyone says it's a metaphoric God it's not physical it doesn't have a physical hand but there's one aspect of the right hand which symbolizes giving has said that we employ what if you what if you'll find a disadvantage to the right and you'll find an advantage to the left she'll say well using the symbolism of the right is a deficiency in God because there's a deficiency in the right in a human aspect what's the answer I'm not comparing that detail to God I'm only comparing one aspect of the right which is positive to Hashem so we are trained and we understand from from learning in particular that it's okay to focus on one aspect even though the other aspect is different and this is the way you have to train yourself to assume when you learn for sinners in particular you must understand this the entire always because otherwise you will find contradictions and it's good to find the contradiction than to resolve it but this is a generalization of how to resolve sometimes contradictory aspects in other words a muscle and an initial don't have to be identical in every aspect there can be one aspect of the muscle that fits the moral Dimension and then another aspect of the moral the the muscle doesn't fit right employs that in the beginning of this chapter that although there's a difference between God's word and our work nevertheless there's a similarity that there's another aspect to Deborah to speech which is revelation right you hear me now because I'm revealing myself to you with the information I prepared this it I heard it I thought about it it's all in my brain all in my head all my thought it's hit it's within me if I don't speak it out and the computer doesn't work or the program doesn't work you don't hear it so there is an aspect to deeper which is called revelation so just as ma our Deborah reveals what was hidden to another so Hashem Reveals His panemias his Essence vis-a-vis let there be light let there be light as a revelation of an inner aspect of God that comes out through the words let there be light and in that way there's a similarity this is what he said in chapter 21. in chapter 22 in the beginning until it will until we got up to right now that evidence said but one second even though that's true but that's not the primary issue of Deborah that's a a tuffle an ancillary aspect of Deborah Revelation primary thing is speech so if if the if if in the area of speech there's no similarity between the the the the the the the muscle and the moral the nymph show why choose it why use it it's it's giving off a wrong message it's confusing this is this is what he started to explain over here and out that episode that even the deeper that we talk about speech it its core is mentioned that the other day and after that picks up on that thought yeah in chapter 22. what's the idea of symptoms so so he begins in chapter 22. explaining to us what is the result of symptom of contract contraction of God's infinite light of Rome Hashem is all infinite Hashem is all powerful and Hashem is all intense if you don't contract and minimize the light I.E Simpson it blows up the situation it's too overpowering you know you shower someone sometimes with too much love it goes nowhere and so much so too with too much fear and then it also goes nowhere but the same is true for too much love in a situation where the people can't handle it I think I told you I was speaking once for a group of women you were July so how about the program for women very successful very they've really done great work and really climbed the ladder and I got a little emotional talking about something I forget there was a room full of women and and uh you know some women uh afterwards they walked out they walked out it was too much for them to handle and I didn't intend you know just as I was speaking whatever was it caused an emotion it's too intense for them whether it triggers you know feelings and you know or the story I told you about the guy in Bell Harbor who heard me speak about their results view of the second marriage and he walked up and he left and later and said I said what's going on he said listen you know I just got married last week and I tell him I should find a second wife where sometimes your second wife is your best shared and not your first wife are you out of your mind I don't want to hear it too intense my my intent was pure but you know that you know there are these issues and that's why as a speaker and then you guys the speakers you know you have to be sensitive and it's you're not gonna you're not gonna you never if you think you're not gonna make a mistake there's always going to be a mistake it's inevitable you know because almost everything we say right almost everything we say someone will react in a way saying uh I can't hear that so Dr never says that's why there needs to be a filter the filtering system is a great system like Maisha is a great filter for for the show right you have a tine on the rabbi you have a tine on this guy so instead of attacking the rabbi and the guy in school you go to agaba you go to Maisha and you let out your frustration on him and and really that's a good company and it's a it's a big job it's no small task because you have to be a filter to to hear out the person's anger frustration problems and then somehow communicate that to the rabbi to the the people whoever else whoever is relevant it that's so he the filter is the Tsum Tsum the symptoms so the rebel says in chapter 22 Tanya says that the deeper of Hashem is that Simpson and God's Infinity in order for hashem's energy to make a light and a sun and a moon and a mountain and a fish and a human being the energy had to be reduced contracted once he speaks about that he says guess what too much Simpson brings about negativity and he says that negativity we call in Kabbalah Clipper or clip out the hospital the forces that aren't antithetical to God that go against God these forces are ages of God so it's an oxymoron seemingly to say that the same forces that are ages of God go against God and what's the answer after that ever says the answer is in the name of Kabbalah the answer is that Simpson which God made on himself was made in such a way that there should be the creation of a Clipper which is Tommy to challenge the Jew to bring out the best in the Jew so why is there a a a a a a cheeseburger with a good smell of a plank steak as you walk down the streets they started in Manhattan or wherever you go why it's to make you stronger but meanwhile you need that Temptation has the Temptation created through Simpson yes typically is it your example okay here in Israel we don't have exactly that madrega well you will you you walk in Tel Aviv on peso right walk then I saw them restaurant open serving Travis and and I don't want to say what I'm Pacer at my heart my heart fell out never said they're telling me there's all over theirselves okay let's go but my point is the flip side the flip side to where the point we see they've taken all these Concepts like cheeseburgers for example cheeseburger and made it into a kosher cheeseburger where there's fake cheese or the shrimp kosher welcome welcome to go Lowe's welcome to the welcome to the papayas and the beard and 55 types of non-paser bread the potion of the place of bread and cheese Yoni it's a golos but listen they just came from Shu I just came from shoe a man comes in you know looks and smells like an ex yaylee I'm sorry for saying that a next stopmer I mean like I could smell it just from the first moment and then when he starts speaking and here is Hungarian Yiddish and the guy's clean shaven with this little yarmulk and he goes over to the guy bye and he says please put down the hayam and some brazilus and my wife had a baby girl I'm here to to to to get an Atlantis into this and everyone say look higher and he gives him money I think he gave him a good amount of money to pay for it and they call him and he buys the alias and after it's after that we finish chakras I go over and then you know what I say I say to him I say to him quietly how about putting on TuneIn with me essential he just got Malia he didn't put on he didn't say he says I put on already and then he says are you habotnik I say I say are you are you a satmer as he's going out of shoe five minutes later ten minutes later a friend of his who looks like he knew him from Yeshiva comes over to him and he says come like thrilling put thrill now and he said and he just walked out when when his friend walked back then I said you got to be a chabotnik to ask someone to put on to him of course everyone should I mean to say you gotta use their Style a sensitivity you don't embarrass a guy in front of everyone whether it's noticeable any anyone in that shoe knows what we're talking about here now I want to make a point and that's the you know one attitude will be get out of here we're gonna give you an Alia you had a baby you know you know I'm sure some are thinking your wife went to the Midfield what are you hacking the China you're going up to the toilet to name your daughter when you you're not really you know you're you're not religious you put on the yamaka just because you came into school right that's not that's not the data I'll tell you though it's not a delicate and I think there's an Aveda a mixed with a mitzvah so the same thing I'm telling you with the sheet with with the kosher the fact that we're we're deep and golus and like I've said over and over that if we thought covet made a difference it made no difference we're back making a hundred thousand dollar weddings and and and and everything else okay it's like covet never happened it looks like over it never happened you know I remember during covert I was saying oh there's going to be a change in the weddings and the Extravaganza and and extravagant you know expenses and we're going to live more modest we're saying yeah you know what that means uh wrong is I don't know how to say it in English it not not it's true and not it'll never be true that's a paraphrase what it means but again you know let's go joining but we have to stay on track if we go off track because of what's going on around us we're in big trouble and that's the beauty of from the sky you know stay focused but stay focused no way that incorporates every eat so don't give up on your values you know at the same time if there are Jews that need to have kosher Cheerios on pesach because it'll make their kids happier and the market provides it okay you know when our school came out with the Gomorrah in English you can't imagine what kind of uproar there was in the Jewish World in the from world in the yeshivist world hundreds thousands of years we're learning Gamora it was from a regular Gomorrah without interpretation and that's that's what made a buffer you know go through the system and and however and and work harder to figure out how to learn the whole idea of I'm coming into basement post high school was can you learn a piece of gamara on your own could you figure out the shot in the Commodore Russian toys was on your own that was the criteria right now a Steins out it's an art scrolling Edition Hebrew in this language it's spoon fed to you so should we say we're gonna ban all those gamoras why because we're taking away the effort necessary to figure out a piece of Gamora and the answer is no because there are thousands and hundreds of thousands of Jews that would not learn a piece of gemara if not for an art school gamarra or Stein's out there the translation etc etc does that mean the crime dolphin should learn tomorrow that way truth be said no I should be learning the way I was taught in in Yeshiva now if I if I if I want to check if there's more me first shame commentaries and if I understand the shot right I could check it but it's very luring and the same has happened with hasidus you know what you got guys you learn right it's wonderful and in a way it opened up because it is for thousands and thousands of Jews to understand the Peace of time you're a piece of liquidatara and now the girl the girl has see them have their version of since mothers could be the the Slenderman have you know various groups are are realizing that just like there's an art school on Gamora there should be an art scroll um you know a Steins outs and hasidus that's the world we live in so again it's the same thing the saying we're not going to do that because we are splurging and indulging and giving in to the nourish kite and making 50 different types of kosher breads for pesach you know no no it's it's it's you know it's something you have to Common Sense very important for a rabbi especially in a god body and any teacher you gotta use the common sense you have to know when to say to talk and you have to know when to be quiet and even when you talk that's why I said to these guys I'm sure you want it you want to encourage them to put on film do that but in a way you embarrassed them by running and grabbing even though it's his friend the whole show is looking go outside go over to this air say it's your daughter was named by the Toyota put on trillion come on you and I know you didn't put on film today but I'm feeling you can't you know and I was thinking I'm going off topic I really wanted to learn I want to learn Italian sight cultural Judaism it's amazing here it's like okay I don't feel soccer maybe it's business but it was a a guy okay he's coming to show I'm talking about now 6 15 in the morning early morning my baby's wife had the baby last night he was coming from the hospital could be because he still had the band on him so probably that was it cultural cultural Judaism in a way how's that different than reform a conservative cultural Judaism we're going to celebrate an event because it's a culture and you see in that shita has to be broken that doesn't mean you shouldn't celebrate the event but the sheet of the ideology motion the philosophy the Jewish that Judaism dictator is a culture and and we celebrate culture and history that is very dangerous and it's wrong it's factually wrong and dangerous yes could you give us an example that you know man that's the example the example is you don't put on filling you don't keep Shabbos your wife doesn't go to the mix but you come to shul because you want to name your baby that's a culture the cultural thing that people do you think it's cultural or you think maybe it's a situation hey forgive me for Sinners you think maybe it's a situation where you've got somebody who is hanging on by a thread and he maybe he was abused or maybe he went through some some rough something rough right and he's like hanging on and he knows that he just did a baby and he it's like you know like at least he's he you know he he wants to do this okay so so there up I was there so I'm asking I'm asking you why when I offered to put on film with him would he not put on two because maybe maybe the person who abused him abused him and then he looks in and the guys are from you know is this Rabbi and and he looks Phil and it's like why would that would be the last thing I wanted okay so why okay so what what actually then why would you get an Aaliyah why is it important to come at 6 15 in the morning to have getting Alia so that's culture so that's culture what is that because that that's the pencil he is that's connected was trying to screaming out to be connected again I'm I mean how how else can we look at it no how else the way I'm looking at it which is I'm I'm not saying I'm right I'm saying from the overall what I'm saying is from the overall picture the way it felt to me and I I'm the first one to say I could be wrong and and frankly I hope I am wrong but from the overall you know you have to be there you have to you're only probably understands more because he comes from Brooklyn you you have to understand this this mentality he's not one there's thousands like you and they're like slick you know it's like they're like they're like it's like it's like it's breathing out of them it's like I'm cool yeah but but my my that's another issue the cool issue we also had here you know I remember in the 70s mid 70s I remember yeah go ahead little Hill yes I could give a different example because it reminds me of what was happening in um pre-war pre-World War II um Europe uh I know somebody who um became about sugar and his wife were where it became literally like readers in their community and whatever happened they pulled off of being Shoma Chavez and it pulled out of keeping kosher but he continues to learn Gamora twice a week so we know this in Berlin or I think it was Berlin that guys have learned Gamora and Shabbos although smoking cigars I think that's another example yeah yeah yeah so I'm not sure I I it's important to clarify this you're 100 right that it's important to to find schools of a person what I said was just based on the overall situation that that I experienced this morning you know but I I believe I said it and I say it again one has nothing to do with the other even if it's just cultural fact is that he he he bought the locals named this baby I mean so much so he didn't know his wife's Hebrew name yeah I think one of the things should be added and that is that we have to be careful when we see something as being a deviation or an aberration from work because the the curve percent is by by assuming oh that person must have had an earlier traumatic or abusive experience you know and and contemporary Western culture that is overused and I'm saying that as a professional who has seen thousands of people over my career who who are abused and also some people who perhaps imagine that they were because there's a thing called false memory syndrome so thank you very much for saying we just said I I I I thank you it's very important and and it definitely is being you know it's being over abused and overused but but it does happen so so you know Malaysia is referring to when you know we know him but but hello so listen the bottom line is we shouldn't be judging others I'm just telling you just telling you what I felt you know I'm not I'm not saying I know but regarding I just said it to to refer to to yoni's comment about you know this idea of of the indulging the from people indulging and you know when we talk about the Clipper the contraction of God's infinite light that we're learning here in Tanya you know um it comes back to smack us and the answer is it does and that's why we're learning what do you think we're learning Tanya for other people they're for ourselves we're learning for our issues so you and I maybe are not interested in you know in in all these in those peso so we have other issues that we're interested in page 54 about 10 lines from the from the bottom second words God's will which we which we call Face continence is the source of Life enlightens all worlds well the fish ain't initiated at this level of life doesn't rest and dwell on the negative side and then we have the total opposite of Life of highest of positive life which is called the backside the back side so that's an alien of the will of God Amen nevertheless God gives life to Clipper right The Temptations do exist says the altareba but they exist not in the way where God is um I've run you see the word means it enclosed but better word invested God is Not invested in Clipper but God hovers over the Clipper therefore the clip was a place of death and contamination may God guard us from such things takes a riddle of the holy energy into itself and it captures it like like we talk about the reincarnate the the the gilgulian of a soul where a soul is is is in this galgal becomes reincarnated into an animal imagine human a human being in the soul a human soul in the body of an animal is like in a sack or a prison for that matter we just came for you base Thomas right you're alive but you're not in control because you don't have the key to the cell you're a prisoner that's what we call between the same thing here it is kosher and what we're taking kosher and kosher we're putting in to Indulgence it's called shirt it's called shirt but the Simpson was so great of this energy that the same culture now is being used for indulging now and this is the concept that the shrina the divine presence of God Maisha is in ghosts that is why we call Clipper foreign Gods it's actually about the Zara idolatry recruited and denial of God's Unity in other words they Clipper says there is a God but guess what um a god of gods I'm also a Gods you're you're the God and you make me a little God and the call to lakaya that's Clipper Clippers I worked for you God but you gave me power to tempted you so I also am a a yatra madame which means I'm a macho I'm a big shot I have something to say I have some power says this is denial Kira look at his words very heavy words the king of all Kings God Almighty okay since the energy of kadusha is in golos within the Clipper next page it is not at all to the sanctity and Holiness of God on the contrary what does clipper do asthma connection it rises like an eagle I uh I'm I am you know it I'm everything okay my man look at my man you're only parallel says the river belongs to me I see sunny and I made the river that's Clipper in other words recognition there is a God but God gave me power so this power May denial who gave me the power to make denial God but at the end I was the one who made it happen like actually worshiping an idol why the son of the primary concept of idolatry before means the idol thinks I am independent separate from the Holiness of God says the idol doesn't deny completely in God's existence God is in existence but I'm in existence too and that's haughtiness Holiness is God made me my parents made me but I'm also a day as ogre I'm also an opinion maker he said because mother says he quotes what I said earlier Dakota lay that they call and look God elaka the god the lakaya of all gods ELO yes although they call God the God of all gods they consider himself also for an independent being if they answer me when this and this makes them separates them from the Holiness of God since they're not announced to God we said in chapter six of Tanya God does not rest and dwell only on a place of humility that is the answer kevra if you want to know someone's Godly if you find your ability there it can be Godly if you find ego and haughtiness there stay far away it's not godliness could be a great head and a great speaker and a great teacher and a great it's not godly it's not holy it's yes it's I it's ego that's why we call Clipper the mountains of Separation that's a quote from desire foreign but separates itself from everything else in the God's true Unity the cool commit corruption if there's nothing compared to God or Buckle them and everything should be buckled nullified to God into his will I'm the highest which enlightens them and sustains them and and creates them may I L yes coming from nothing to something constantly so this is the idea that in this chapter the outdated explained to us the ideology of Clipper and he brings it back home to the beginning to tell the pain and they look clever pain in him you're talking about God's actors God's unity and how we have to realize that God's Unity is in the world so part of that is is is denying and recognizing that anything that's outside of that Unity including someone or something that says you're a God but I'm a God too that's clipper Kevin Tomorrow there's no sheer as it stands now there's a change I'll let you know but it makes a sham Wednesday okay so I just don't have to go flying tomorrow yes Hashem unless there's a big delays we'll see tomorrow I'll let you know Shalom bye gotta go Florida yes yes Florida come join me zaga's going to see you