Klolei HaChinuch Education Principles Rebbe Raayatz #7

we're on page uh 33 and uh just to recap um what what what he started to speak about on 31 it was chapter four tonight he calls this the first condition the first prerequisite what is that because of the self-examination of the educator and the guide and the guidance counselor biacos liatsemi in in about himself and and and he does that by introducing uh the idea of every person has miles and he's there's no such a thing as a person without virtues and deficiencies if you find me someone like that he's not a person he's an angel he's a malek and even and even malachi it says in kabul and hasidis are limited to their mission so that's a that itself is a deficiency they cannot do everything only in the shrama this is an important point the virtue of a soul over the summer has limitless potential so that that's why you need because we have an ashrama we are able to do things that maybe we weren't raised with we didn't uh we weren't born with those talents and character traits but the fact is that our neshama has it all so the body might not have it if you access the neshama and you have the right key to access that aspect of the soul you will at some point in your life and no one knows when that'll be it's up to the person when he goes about to access it he'll he'll he'll be a different person so kind of like right a get again again yes yes the rebel always repeated what it says the the mystery mother says there are three people that their sins transgressions are are uh are are are forgiven or not there cotton they a minor you know no cotton that comes by mitzvah like uh and called cotton oil anyway gas gas and this guy here a convert that converts and chosen a groom right so the question is asked why does it say gesh in this guyer yakov it should say it's not gash in this gaia he wasn't a gay at the time of conversion he became a gayer what was before a gentile a non-jew a guy so it's explained the the reason is that this shows that the that the the gear always had a jewish spark in him and he was never a goat although according to jewish law he was a guy and he needs a conversion and everything else that goes along with it nevertheless uh the language of hazal is indicative that he was always aguer aguero so means firing and strange it was lost it became fire and it became strange jacob if you want to say something i do um we had a terrible uh mice in chicago and i'd like to mention the aguero who i was very close with uh was murdered and the lava was on friday his name was tequila mordechai than abraham he was a very sweet guy and uh just the terrible story here no they're able to help you should have alias on the shrama and um there should be less of these uh killings in chicago too many killings in chicago so you guys from chicago here online pray for chicago anyway let's go back to the text so so jaime's saying that this idea that i'm mentioning is similar to the the gear that the gear always had the potential in him so that's a very good comment and remark you made but getting back to the text so the rebecca says that every so every person has miles of extraneous and by the way this is such an important thing to keep in mind always because we're so quick to blame we blame we blame we blame ourselves and we blame others what are you blaming yourself from blaming others you have miles of sadness that's how you're born you're in a constant battle chapter 27 of tanja is a must learn for everyone dr ebba opens our eyes and tells us in chapter 27 and tanya based on what it says in pirkei this is why you were created to in to battle the eight sahara delta rabbit teaches over there this is the mission of men and anyone that asks says to himself wait a minute i worked so hard i doubt i learned i give to dhaka i move territory slow i'm doing all good things why does the age of heart bother me why does it make me struggle why does he give me tests says doctor 11 27 you're about guyver that's his response look 27 if you think that way you're an egomaniac you're arrogant you know why because you think you're a sonic that doesn't have a yates or horror well guess what you're not and every person who's not exotic and has a yate sahara has to struggle and that has to struggle struggling is good and that's what we're learning in this chapter over here that avoid the includes taking the miles and kasrinas assessing them and balancing them so then he says towards the end of the first up 31 at the bottom going on to 32 33 he says there are two types of categories that these virtues and deficiencies find themselves in or are are consist of one is tyvien dossier which means innate from birth and then the second one is saying page 33 top of the page habits then he says that moshe asked about this yesterday pointed it out because it was important he says a person who works on himself can contract can transform his innate natural tendencies to become part of his essence in a good way and and he can also take the habits and make them natural tendencies so we have three things and i pointed this out yesterday we have habits we have innate uh character issue traits and then we have etson who the essence the person in his essence and we spoke about that yesterday now let's continue now on page 33 second paragraph movement itself it's understood [Music] and the the form of the deficiencies ain't on miss godless misrach voice um three words regardless is from the the sheriff god great they're not gonna get any better or any worse on their own they're going to be stagnant believe that without effort right you could be born with the greatest talents if you don't use them they can remain with you till just as man will not comprehend these khakim and will not become wise be loyally mood without study there are no shortcuts if you don't learn you don't know in a cane lay his goddamn so too the deficiency will not become greater and broader below without effort that you invest in it the rebels not saying he's not suggesting you do that he's just saying that why is it why is it that deficiencies i'm sorry how is it that deficiencies grow within a person it's because you're being shaken in them you're you're invested in them you're using them yeah but go back to tonya chapter 20 feed out that ever says over there that the the body our body eats and sleeps and you know and uses he says just by the fact that we eat and sleep and we do everything the body does it makes our body regular with these things so we become more like you know more of food and more you know more gosh news in other words it's not that i did anything wrong but the fact is i have to have my coffee in the morning all my orange juice and then with breakfast you know i had i i just you know silly silly things to show i was down in florida for uh for pesach about my kids right so you know it's a little hot so my son said he has a second car that i could use i said thank you thank you very much it didn't have air conditioning i said in florida a car without air conditioning and you know what like it's sitting i know about it already here before i went and i said you know i should rent the car but it's a headache and you know and and it was uh the springtime it was expensive and then i you know i got into that car i opened all four windows and i drove down to 95 and it was a majaya now i'm a high i mean it's still not air conditioned but the point is you become so radial to to certain lifestyle like already sitting here i'm worried what am i going to do when i have to drive somewhere i don't have air conditioning so that's what the alternator said that's what the rep is saying over here saying that a sufficiency will not will be stagnant if you let it be but if you invest in it and what i added now is that investing means usage of it the very fact that we every day we eat we sleep and then we do whatever we do and gosh he is so all of a sudden we must have our food it comes a fast day we run to the pharmacy to buy the pills that help us fast and all that like i mean i guess this is the argument to the the the natural what do they call the hillel the naturals that nature is you know say that um you know just be with nature go back to the way it was once in many aspects some not kosher some kosher but the idea being like who says you have to eat processed foods it's unhealthy eat the grains eat the vegetables eat them you know so the kudu is that the gospels becomes shkida you put effort and energy just by osmosis that's when the deficiencies grow on you and all of a sudden you turn around you say what happened over here yes hello you want to say something no no no okay okay right yes yes you know what what is this particular i think this case means just as if you want the my your miles your virtues to be stronger and better and more effective you have to invest in them and the negative if you invest in the destroyness in the deficiencies it's going to make you uglier it's going to make you more deficient deficient you got it yeah okay now uh yeah i thought he was saying like that just like if you want to develop a talent you have a talent you have a natural inclination you have to put work into it similarly you have to put work into kind of to knowing and recognizing and opposing your negative forces i don't know i i i also thought when i learned you know before i don't know look at the language so too the deficiency will not um be broader and greater so so how how do you see your interpretation in those words i don't i don't see it in that sentence right but i know i know i know it makes more sense what you're what you said but i i i don't think it's that's what he's saying according to the text over here and therefore i i you know explained it that way okay next paragraph such a it's such a different quality of language than we're used to i know i know i know i know you know that that's the hardship you know that so you know yeah exactly tom's there third paragraph guys tom said him therefore we see bemush we see with our own eyes in actuality is um quite often ashley lady monarium children or youth baliki have they have great talents of bali the theaters or the opposite they have great deficiencies and bad characters all of a sudden they remain stagnant without either of them being developed and he explains the balik is shot in and those that have good great talents kisly say him their talents the their talents remain stagnant if there's no use of their talents right i want to play football i want to do this i want to do that and okay you're you're in school yeshiva you're 13 you're 14. okay you have you you know but you have some talents in those areas why don't you develop them or the same is true where someone's only stagging and they they have have a talent in music a talented art they should be given a a way to express those talents and when that doesn't happen there's the talent remains stagnant over ballet and in those of the youth and children that have some ugly tendencies they're again the way on when this has to say and their deficiencies will remain stagnant now to me that's a good thing but i mean what i think what it means is that if you don't if you don't develop a way to deal with your deficiencies those deficiencies will remain stagnant but they'll be but they're there in other words the fact that you either was born with a deficiency or you developed a certain deficiency if you don't work to to change it and transform it it's walking with you and it's always there with you let's go further yes it would increase and and it's quiet would increase now and it's yeah yeah yeah yeah wait yeah i think it's going to speak about that a little later yes what's the reason if because when it comes to the virtues what what's missing is the investment this effort being spot-hood through by developing hakusho and the talents and comma is highest dominos and you're missing the opportunity bespot by developing your the wayward impulses again the language implies like you know so what's wrong with that why should i remain stabbed and i just let them be so i believe that it means that you're missing opportunities to transform the deficiencies and this is a very important idea especially with our children grandchildren and the youth to find you know opportunities and ways to have them develop their strengths and at the same time to deal with um the issues the issues you know it's it's a combination it's a combination of both you cannot just say i'll deal with the strengths give opportunity for strengths and just let the deficiencies right on their own and and be dormant because there will be a time when it will come out and it won't be good so you might as well invest now in reading your oneself or one's children and youth and all that from these issues and that's what that's getting at what he's getting at is he's telling the educator educator you might have a student in your classroom that's quiet and and you know but you have to really assess what are his strengths what are his weaknesses and you need to and you need to develop a plan to help him in both areas to help him both in those virtual areas to develop those talents more and more and at the same time to give him a path from his youth to slowly obliterate and get rid of negative character traits even though some of them he was born with that's what he's saying next paragraph i'm numb however [Music] even someone whose base characteristics have hey miksada to have grown hey it's whether it be from those those base character traits that are innate that he was born with hey mitzados or whether it be those character traits that he picked up through habits his spot who boy from and he they were developed by the the individual in a wild way in peru like i thought yesterday that language not korea perea is from the root peru peru is a different word peru means um you know wild untamed yes lawyer this individual has the ability layer up with heisen not only to push them aside will i see them relevant to remove them from himself he can also transform them from bad to good when the goodness based on the jewel situation the kayak that comes may eluyon so now he's introducing the concept that even if things are natural to a person and even if you feel that you you're so you made such a habit of it and it's hard to uproot and to change you need to know that you have a kayak which is nishama and knowing that you have a that hashem gives to every single person if you can access that hashem through that player will help you change the situation and the rabbit quotes the gemara that the alternate quotes in chapter one of tanya must be and i say we administer an oath to the soul before it descends on earth into the body to heed sadiq be righteous it's explained in yeshua this right the word shivua has three meanings three words associated the etymology of sure sheva seven sovereign satiated and shivua an oath so here he quotes he's referring to the second meaning that the word shavuah means that hashem that when you take an oath and when hashem gives an oath i'm sorry when hashem gives an oath makes the soul take an oath prior to to descend into a body hashem is satiating vis-a-vis that oath then the shrama he calls it look at the wording here guys the spiritual the soul hashem empowers the soul fills it up motion salve i feel full i can't eat anymore i had enough pizza already enough right then the shrama has been satiated with hashem special kayak and this makes the summer if just access able to accomplish to overcome because the summer our nusrama got this prior to us coming into our ghoul for our bodies and the rabbit now quotes the good morning based on the camel is its load should i call that noise say next page 35 to every to every person at and to um sweeten bitterness to sweetness by dosa through serving god begins buster through the divine service known as this the effort of the flesh and the soul so the rebbe says here very briefly he doesn't elaborate remember because this is clay it's principles so he just gives us a principle the principle is like this you tell me that you're born a certain way you tell me you have a you know a limitation because you habituated yourself in a certain way so that ever says i'll even accept that but what you're forgetting and what you need to do is remember that hashem who made you gave you something before you came on earth that's in your system and what did he give you he gave you a kayak elliot a godly not a human a godly kayak so you're telling me that humanly you can't overcome you have an addiction you have a craving you have an indulgence you have a taivor says i understand but you have a coyote that you're not talking about and you have that too and if you access your kayak helium through work it's avoid the biggest boss of a nephesh it doesn't come through you know just laying around and wasting time and when you access that you'll be able to overcome so there ever says that the educator and the guy the mother they need to explain this to students and to develop it with students and to you know to really make it crystal clear and when we do this we have more success both in ourselves and again remember here he's talking about right what was the the tonight re-shown at the beginning of chapter four it was one second unison it was the the uh the principle the prerequisite principle that the educator and the guide must self-examine himself so what he's saying is you have to do that too in order for you for you to get this accomplished and your student they have to see it in you and if they don't you know what they say you're a hypocrite and we have plenty of that too you preach one thing and you do otherwise so that ever says tonight is for the educator to live that way to do that and here we ask ourselves the question do educators do we as parents do we do that and i think we could include we do some of it but there's much more it's much more room to grow because it's so easy to tell others to do something but the best way of impacting a person is being a living example of what you want to impact him or her with yes youngest you wanted to say something yeah you know this idea you know that i used to be i i i got a fba religious education from milestone and i got a master's degree in special education from from delphi delphi university so i was teaching special ed you know in new york and that was an experience it really was you know you have to develop individualized programs for each kid and you have to write down their strengths and their weaknesses and what programs you're going to have to try to develop them it's not an easy job it's really not you know because when you're trying to educate a child you're concentrating on partly it's information you have to make sure that your and then you've got another another another another another job is to to watch their character and develop that that's another thing all together right and and and what's the rabbit teaching us here that it's more important for an ed to educate to deal with the the character than the limu remember what he said in one of the previous chapters the limo they'll either get more or less a little more information less information okay but character is life skills character is menstrual kite characters everything that's gonna make them or break them later in life and you're so you're right and what you're saying it's it's a heavy task in the secular school in the public school they don't really care about character development they could go there you know to get max to get minimum amount of behavior in order to have a classroom where people listen and they behave right they're not interested in making the person developers trying to keep the status quo yep yep of course of course yes hello i i covered kind of a structural question um by going back to the beginning of this uh this uh chapter or yeah tonight re-shown but korrasama khane in connection with himself right yes it seems like but what this chapter is really talking about is like how he should view other people more than how he views himself right right i i i picked that up yes but in order to accomplish this and others you have to do it in yourself okay yeah yeah you know so in other in other words i would say that the general uh chapter its language and and and the paragraphs and everything else and the structure is an indian claudia it's a general idea of who man is and what the issues are the strengths the weaknesses etc and both the educator and the and and and needs to do that to succeed with the students in as far as character development i know i put a lot of the way i taught it was more about the the recipient the student but the truth is he's talking it i said it but i didn't maybe say it with much elaboration he he's talking to the educator that if you want to succeed with in this manner with your student you need to do it within yourself um the kids it's towards that goal uh rather than sort of saying these are the qualities rather than emphasizing these are the qualities one needs in order to sort of contemplate being an educator so it's like it's addressed to somebody who's already made the decision this is about what i'm going to be doing so these are the qualities i need to cultivate okay and as opposed to a different question like should i be a mechanic right right good so remember historically he had the rashaab had the previous letter put this together for the two educators who already educators must be him in the baby you understand so that was that's the history that's why it's so important to know it's history but but but by extension hillel it does answer what you just asked should i be am i should i be a teacher an educator am i shy to be an educator and and and you're innocent just said it you heard what he said you know it's a lot of work you know my wife also you know does this uh special ed teaching you know but you know yeah doesn't speak about special ed but even outside of special ed a regular teacher in the classroom and in any situation you know um again i i think i i believe that you know if more teachers would would look at this and and inculcate it and develop it and there's more of it going on barak hashem we would we would have a lot more success um with with our youth and you all know what's going on of course you know with the youth um i told you i told you and i'll finish with this you know my son was 15 or so i was having a hard time with him yeshiva you know and i you know i come from a traditional place you're learning yeshiva and that's it there's no way you learn yeshiva and you know he's he's having issues so i didn't know what to do someone told me to call i think was uh the but c and torsk i think rabbi yotorski's son who's a also a professional here in in brooklyn so you know i've met him you met him very fine person so i think i called him i remember i remember i was laying down i was talking on the phone and he said to me he says not every uh boy or girl are cut out to be in yeshiva you know and to me that was like hair raising and and like coming from you because i know who i'm talking to you know we come from the same hater you know what i'm saying we grew up together in the same and and it was an eye-opener and i accepted it and and and he continued yeshiva hashem and you know because i had frankly because i had good educators because his principle understood and accepted what i said and i told him you're the principal i'm not going to tell you what to do but i know if you want to have success try this because he was you know he took he wasn't good at written tests he was good in oral tests i said give him a normal test even though others are taking written tests so you know don't do it in public doing a private in your office whatever that's my suggestion but you're you're the principal and he did it and he turned them around and and you know and then he continued in yeshiva so there's no question that it was a good educator i saw this firsthand a good educator made a change in in in this young man's you know life for the rest of his life you know um so this is this is why the the this countries is a very important countries and um we need more teachers like that and like i said you know we need we need better funding i'm serious for teachers and educators there's not enough of that you know there was a jew here in brooklyn in new york mr joseph cruz you'll see me i don't know i don't know if his name is on the news yeah his name is underground berlin he put up entire buildings very survivor he did very well and he was very successful i don't know if he did anything there to throw well he actually uh the yu campus um in the in jerusalem it's the gross that's his that's his product that's his baby anyway so he he had a he has he has funds even now it's called the joseph groves foundation he has funds to pay substantial extra money to teachers who excel you know and that's what i'm talking about you know it's it's it's it makes a big difference and that's also sometimes you know before yeshiva or girl of the school starts you give the teacher a little extra money it'll go a long way i'm not and i'm not looking at as a bribe i'm just saying you know you got to use your cycle you know you know people are struggling people need money and it will help it it will help and besides it's a dhaka so you know what what's the worst thing you give to docker so let's go i'll see everyone tomorrow mr sam will learn take care have a good day bye-bye