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Klolei HaChinuch Education Principles Rebbe Raayatz #5
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Self Examination is Crucial to Remove Self Love
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please good morning we're
learning now let's start learning the
third chapter
of countries
the principles of education and guidance
from the fleet of kadebo were
were on page 27 in the hasidic heritage
series
just to recap what the rebel explained
earlier
that there's a difference between
and limud and lima de niro means a
teacher
a teacher who teaches and hira means he
instructs
and it's very different than an uh
a guide and a mechanic an educator and
the difference that he
says over here the primary difference i
mean he said several i don't want to
repeat the whole chapter it's important
it's a very important
chapter for the rest of the country so
if you haven't really studied it
you should but basically the difference
is
that the the teacher
teaches information and
if the information is not understood
or understood a little or you know it
doesn't really make a big difference
to the student because a very very
slippery slope
okay so this is this is what he said in
the previous
uh chapter and this is why
this contrast this essay is dedicated to
this because
at the time in 1898
the the students that were in the bhavat
yeshiva were
tabitha but character wise they had
flaws like everyone else and
however the flaws that are by talbit
are a lot worse as the gemara says
so therefore the rashad the previous
rabbit the man
the the principal administrator of the
yeshiva
was beside himself when the two
maine mashpeem rependell and rob green
and came to him
that handel was supervising the students
in lubavitch
and upgrading was supervising the
students in a city called
jembin jambin
so they came to him and they said we're
not being effective
we're not being effective and we need
help we need help
so the free frida karaba went to the
rebel shop his father
and he asked him for help and he said
here is
an essay that i wrote about educational
ideas i'm sorry
here are letters that i wrote 10 years
before in 1888
about educational ideas take it study it
develop it and write it up in a form of
a
essay which will be helpful to these two
uh mush pm and subsequently helpful to
the
talmudim that's the the the
chronological development of this
countries
so the whole idea of the countries was
to refine that to
to teach
and counselors how to
appropriately educate students
so that they are less course in their
middles
this is not about knowing another or
another mimer that's not what this was
countries was written for
i think i told you the story or some of
you
that in lubavitch there was um
a student named avram eliyahu plotkin
plotkin a plotkin and he came and he was
a very big talmud
my father-in-law of sheldon had him as a
reshiver in samarkanth
in the mid 1940s and he would always
rave
about him how he was such a going and
yet he was able to explain so clearly
murder yes hillary where is
he turned you turned off your screen you
turned off your thing
what where is samarkand
in kazakh kazakhstan
okay okay where today okay
the geography will you'll have to find
on the globe anyway
kazakh some uh someone's radio's on
you're interested i know who's it is a
yakov turn off
mute yourself um
when russia when stalin came in and he
you know and he made all the terrors for
the eden
they ran to a safe haven which was
kazakhstan
some and the bigger cities they were
known as samarkand
and tashkent and that became a refuge
for many eden polish eden
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they fired him everyone was a hodgepodge
because there was safety they they
wouldn't they wouldn't be persecuted
and they set up and and this fight and
the spy the and this father see you
that were there from way back already
were you know they had shoes and tom
potatoes you know
there was an establishment there but
that's another story maybe another time
we'll
we'll talk more about that i just wrote
about it
i i just printed a book called khabar
and sfardim and i
went back to the time of the rashad some
of his qasidam
were asked to come from maritz's role
they went to raise funds for chevron but
while they were there the community said
wanted to have a real love and they
stayed for several years
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and then several others anyway it's not
it's another partial another story
but going back to this story is that
this rabbit this
you know the more you learn many times
the more diver you have you feel you
know
you're the kingpin you know
and the frida karebe saw this
but you know but as a good educator he
saw that he has here a diamond
the diamond needs to be polished
so he spoke to his father about it and
it was decided that for pesach the
bakker and baked matsus right
so they decided they're going to give
him the toughest job in the house
and and i think it was the rolling the
pins and
cleaning the pins it was you know for
him there was something that
you know would avoid
what does he say men were doing
women's women's work and women were
doing men's work
and ashley says that's that meaning of
avoiding
when you're unfamiliar it's not your
type
of work you weren't raised to do this
it's very difficult even though maybe
it's not so difficult but for you it's
very difficult
so here he was having amelia plutky was
there was
was a it was a time of learning day and
night and here he's rolling pins and
he's switching and it's like
hard for him and and and the frida krebs
says that
that pesach i think was 1906 in the
early 1900s
it it literally he said he after pacer
he came back to the basement she was a
different
he was a different booker the guy that
was broken
it you know the guy was broken because
how can that ever give me such a job i i
should be standing and checking the
monsters like you know i'm a rough you
know
a rabbi now that ever says you you you
clean
those pins from the though for the 18
minutes so you can
use it again or whatever the case so it
broke in the the aveda avoid the the
physical labor
shattered his guyva and it came out
a new anub i'm saying this the
the story is because when we talk about
these are educational tools and uh
mechanic has to know
when to apply them how to apply them
how much of it to apply and this is what
this countries is all about
let's go on now to page 27 to ice gimbal
any questions before i continue before
we start
okay
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the caption the title reads here man
self-examination and preparation
any person that desires a life of labor
now again you understand from his
opening words that a life of labor
is desirable not not we
not not we shouldn't avoid it we should
look for a life of labor because a life
of labor
is healthy for us sorry luscious
he has to examine himself in every
aspect
of his ethical life he
for the greatest enemy of men who have
us
asthma itself love
happiness that is unbridled
it comes from the word para other right
you've heard that other than pero other
man is born
a wild donkeys petter so unbridled
this
is natural to mankind from birth
of the gas three things he's
materialistic
he's dense and his coarse
that's it yes hello
so we're doing here the spiritual
meaning of the word avodah
yes yes yeah okay right
i mean it also happens to be that when
you when you work it it really
it makes you into a mensch but yeah here
he means i voted
spiritually yes you're innocent
self love is very very important for
development
if a person doesn't have self-love
they don't want to preserve themselves
and they
don't have an ability to relate to other
people
okay turn your mic off because i have
background noise and i'll talk
um we're not talking here about
healthy self-esteem unison
we're talking about a self-love that's
not
associated with god only with man
if it's only humanistic it's not healthy
it needs to be godly and and spiritual
and then
the self-love become comes godly love
so of course we're not talking about uh
self-deprecation the huff it's kind
of the famous story with um
with the person who gave the prophets
khaim a ride in
a car a taxi whatever and didn't know
it's the khofitskayam
and he saw he was talking against
himself
so the sky later then later he came and
he he
met the prophet and he was so imp and
khabib
says self-deprecation is also a form of
lotion horror
so yes from that perspective you're
innocent
it's if that's the self-love okay yeah i
agree with you but we're not talking
about that
we're talking about a person or dembrya
there's the commander right
a um sees all other people's faults
quotes mini gayatsumay
except his own blemishes his own faults
self-love and that ever says that this
is matulda
you're born this way and unless you work
on yourself
you will be stuck in this self-love next
paragraph
yet more so this self
love is one of the tools of the yates
and horror
of the evil inclination
of the sahara blinds
man's intellect libre and clogs his
heart
seismic enough closes
his eyes for oitimus ozdov and stuffs
his heirs milo hovind from understanding
us
from realizing his deficiencies and his
mistakes
of iniquities
because the style of man who walks in
this
jolly way will cope
and he feels he's right in all matters
including his
in transgressions
because because in his own he's up
even in his inherent humanity
is obscured by the self-love in other
words
there are certain things that humanity
would dictate forget about
spirituality humanity would dictate that
you don't behave that way
and why is he behaving that way because
the self-love covers up
the situation stuffs up the ears closes
the eyes
and everything else that he said here
and clogs the heart
so you become despondent
totally smart
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for stopping it is the word as far
stopped
next paragraph
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self-love makes the fool
and the one who is silly
ignorant turns him into
a great man in his own eyes oh you're so
great he thinks himself i'm so great
yes as
and it causes the mind
to be clogged from comprehending and
seeing
the truth and understanding the truth
es again of
the honor sorry
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it makes him think that guyva that he
has
he's really anonymous
something that is ugly le faye toyot
he makes him think he's it's beautiful
something that is cruel with almighty
makes him think that these are proper
characters
someone who's jealous has jealousy with
toy
he has a good eye okay
and many other examples yes hilo
this word a tomb in the second line
is that the word like the word yes
yes i believe so okay like that okay
which which what does what's your
translation
like to clog up yeah that's the way the
course is
right right
so that over here in this paragraph
elaborates in with different words
the result the negative result of
abisosumate
next paragraph comma
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the fool for the fool mocks
the the the the stupid what does that
mean
does the
the the clogging of the mind
la nivermidas
um to
be you know it takes the the mind
again
he's using all the words in the previous
set paragraph
is he's saying basically that this
of self-love self-love causes a
foolishness
and a blindness that all of these
negative character traits and issues
are highlighted and put on a pedestal
and looked at as
in a good way
and all other blemishes ethical
blemishes
i means ethical blemish may please
kashif
without at all taking into consideration
a mummy ottoman the very core
deficiency of the issue itself
in other words guyva is negative
so don't you know don't try to convince
yourself
that gaiver is good it's not
there is the mother says in sight
it might even use the word guy over
there what it means is healthy
self-esteem
but arrogance is arrogance
now along comes
a person or people and they say to this
fellow my friend
your your self love is so
all over the place that it's really
causing you issues in this area in that
area and all that he has
maori him he's being awakened aroused
to wake up from his sleep
he will find hundreds of excuses
and esoteric reasons
you know why i have this uh
negative fault this issue i got it from
my father
you know why i have this i got it for my
rabbi i got it with my friend
i got it from a community i got it
because i was raised in a certain way
and he has all kinds of excuses
why he has the khasarin deficiency
sorry
and he says
the person who has this deficiency not
realizing it is a deficiency
and is a negative says blames the person
who comes to him and says hey
you have this issue you're making a
mistake
i if i have an issue it's not mine it's
because of my father my mother about
computing my rabbi
baba and
and you're making a mistake um
built him and the rebels says next page
there are those that have such open and
obvious negativity and characters just
visit
and see if it is like us it means a
smell but this
like it's so it's so obvious their their
character flaw favor bleak wool
it's like you can't it's gold it's me
what are they saying hebrew me adam ever
right
over blake wool it's like over cogwhole
sorry
i even it goes over all boundaries
it's all over the place
but due to the the
these people who are blemished this way
they sin against the the choicest of
creation a shabbato
kim that man created which is who are
other men
they're going against clapping this
muslim
their soul is to expand their chutzpah
and they have the audacity to place
themselves
besought in a category that's lamyla
menopause
beyond criticism you can't criticize me
you know who i am you know where i come
from
you know what i have i'm in a very
different category
they put themselves in there and it all
comes from the
same dakuda that i was saying you know
comes from abu satsuma
look at the next words guys you're gonna
like him
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you've heard the expressions right here
second power for page 29
whoa to the individuals
to these individuals
lowered their soul ignorama from a
lofty and exalted
plateau libido amigda mountain
all the way to a low valley hashem took
the nusrama from very much
from on high and centered below balaam
has in this world
to serve him
to guard his mitzvahs also through the
acquiring of midday voice
nice about him in the television scheme
it's in addition to learning tight and
doing mitzvahs
keep in mind yeah hashem wants you to be
to acquire meet these types
so when when when when a person
says he's beyond fault and criticism
and places himself in a category
that's beyond that he is sinning
against the purpose why hashem created
him
in addition to this
so evil
in addition to this they're losing
the advantage the illui that they would
have this
as ascended
in spiritual matters
and they would gain reward in the world
to come
for refining themselves
in addition to this i should have showed
him hey my
they remain disgraced and forever
repunctant
republican so that i was saying your
calculation you guy
who has avas atma is so wrong
and so ridiculous because hey you're not
doing what god
you what god created you to do and b
you're you're you're you're squandering
the spiritual
alley that you could have from all this
next paragraph
says that and this blame
for all this is true
the natural love
that the person loves themselves
and because of that he covers up
on everything and i shall
do ability makes him die
a person who doesn't pay attention
doesn't make his heart and his mind pay
attention
the vaqueros asks me to criticize
himself
check himself
after the dictates of the heart
whatever like an ox going out to be
slaughtered
who just marches towards the slaughter
not understanding where he's going to
and ready to be shifted
yuval
and his human purpose why was created
man's life on this earth hey
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what's beautiful really and what is
disgusting
and during the time of a war
one of the ploys one of the tactics
warfare tactics
habitus udettus
the very keen
um inspection
an organized inspection that is
necessary to recognize
the tactics employees of the enemy
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even people who are friends
lovers friends
what needs to be one needs to be careful
and pay attention
there ain't a pickle with an open eye
are they fulfilling their obligations
helped in being helpful to overcome
the enemy
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this powerful supervision is is needed
the habitus and the inspection
the very sharp inspection alloy of him
over those who you really care for
sorry i'm sorry i'll oil them on those
who are your enemies
sorry
more more important is this
when it comes to assainance
an enemy who clothes himself cloaks
himself
in garments of a lover someone who loves
you
what the devil says
is a sign is an enemy
but he puts on these garments of i just
want the best
um and he fools
man i'll cold side of its side on every
step
i'll share next last paragraph 229
a person who desires life
he wants life that corresponds
to the slichos to the mission that from
heaven was decreed upon him
the hoya saul him to illuminate the
world by iraq
mitzvah with the light of traitor the
candle of mitzvah
um
and hashem does good to sustain him
the call of duty whatever he needs but
his ai nissa
with his missingness his food name
spiritual food
the fiancee expat page
page 31 based on the work
that that's upon him
the way you prepare yourself says that
heaven
to be a vessel a healthy vessel
who are your day habiquitis is through
self-examination
she evacuated
that he should uh examine himself
in his avodah and in his conduct
now this was a long paragraph with
wonder kuda
and to the code is as he says at the
beginning i'm 27
self-examination and preparation and
and he says that and he gave gives the
marshal
that when you're you're you're you're in
an army
and you have warfare and you have an
enemy you're standing there you have to
be
very keen and very sharp
in in recognizing
what the enemy really
wants to do and is doing and how he's
doing it
and he says we are in a constant battle
hashem we have
beautiful and disgusting good and bad
there's a constant ongoing battle that's
the
that's the gether that's together of the
world that's the
the condition of the world is avoider
so we talk about i don't want to someone
says i don't want to be an
avid i don't want to be in battle well
my friend if you're on earth and alive
as long as you're breathing there's an
avoider
i've told you the famous verdict of the
cutscene
he was lying on his deathbed and it was
the last few moments
before his neshama returned to
and he said with his sharp witticism
as the cutscore was known for and he
said
you know what i'm thinking about now
what are they going to say about that me
the cutscene after i die
and when is he thinking about it moments
before he dies
when you should be like you know only
with god
he's thinking about now you you
understand you told me to hear about the
cutscene the halogen is such a big sadiq
this vert of the kotzker is not anything
different than what we're saying now
that we are in a perpetual struggle as
long
as we breathe and are alive
till the last moment and that's the
point of that story
that here you are your moments before
your last moment
and what are you thinking about what are
they gonna say about me after my death
all right what are they gonna write on
my tombstone you know
et cetera et cetera so the rapper that
ever says get real
understand that humanity is such
that there's a struggle and the mailer
you have to you have to know that
in order to overcome and win that battle
you have to remove ava's oxmoor
self-love
the way to do that he's suggesting here
it's through self-examination
as he will continue in the next
paragraph in the next few paragraphs
this is required on the mechanic
before you can get to teaching
i'm sorry to educating and guiding
the student this the child
etc you need to do self-examination on
yourself
and when you examine yourself and you
come out
from being self-absorbed with yourself
then you're a vessel to communicate that
to the to the others to the students
yes yes
i don't hear you
no i don't understand how possible
to make a self-examination
by being completely objective with
yourself
a person is normally subjected to
himself
how's it possible to be objective with
yourself
the the the way to be objective is by
having
someone else help you be objective
okay yes then you need somebody to help
you get out yes
i've told yes uh melissa people who
you knew our mashpee and morristown
when i went over to him when i was a
bakla yeshiva
and i sat there and i
feel you know this uh
this uh you know this pride you know
because
i'm doing everything right you know you
know
so he said to me and i said i don't like
it i know it's not right
so he said to me find yourself amongst
the bahrain here someone who will give
you
musser
yeah and he meant it that's the answer
so you're right it's very hard it's very
hard or virtually impossible
to to know you know
but but let to know like what's the
truth and to be objective but unison
you know there's plenty of room to get
to that point
where then we need the outsider to
confirm for us
what is the real objectivity from from
you know
etc i think that for most people
the the very initial steps of
self-examination
is something that is is difficult you
know we struggle with
who wants to who wants to look at
themselves in the mirror it's very
uncomfortable
very uncomfortable and so
you're right and what you're saying but
but i believe it doesn't contradict
whatever it says here
that i was talking about you know start
self-examining
you know and yes if you find that you're
justifying everything oh i'm right
i did this i'm right you know why i'm
right because of this and the never used
the word before
mayors he has hundreds of excuses he
uses it
right so
then it's time to have uh uh
someone else and this this this touches
upon the whole idea of having a
vachavruzza
a friend a good friend a good friend is
not someone that says oh you're the best
a good friend is someone who shares with
you
you know how to refine yourself that's
that was always
the essence of a real cassidy fabregan
was where people sat together
and they were open enough to hear
how to improve that was the whole idea
any questions trevor yes gentlemen
um so the remy keeps
repeating this opposite uh idea
yeah so how is different how is that
different than gaiba
because we know don't we know that all
the root of all evil all sin
is from guys right yeah is that the same
kind of thing
it's it's it's the same idea but much
more refined you know there's there's
this course and grub guyva i'm i'm a big
shot
ava satsuma is is not is is much more
refined but it's still self-love in
other words
when a person justifies many of the
things
they do when really others would say
it's outrageous
they aren't necessarily baligaiva you
know boasting and bragging
but to themselves they feel you know
like they're doing it right so it's
you're right it's
it's it's a it's a more refined sense of
geyser
but guyver in ghazal and in community
has
you know the the the uh feeling of
more ostentatious avas atsuma
is much more refined it's it's you know
quiet but deadly
it's that type of uh issue hello do you
have any
uh words you could add to yoni's
question
and uh i i i i
all i know and what the only thing i
would say is that
because it's so uh it tends to be so
unconscious
so outside of our awareness it seems to
be the point he's emphasizing
that
that becomes one of the major obstacles
to learning
and open-mindedness is because we
because of our hidden biases
yes but he's not talking so much about
learning he's talking about character
improvement
remember right character better going in
the direction of learning
right yeah well well
uh but what it means going a direction
he's going in the direction of improving
character
since it's a mime around hinok i'm just
assuming that's where he's going that
he's
he's sort of setting up the psychology
of learning and the obstacles
by describing the obstacles to it okay
well let's see how it develops
haven't have a good day we'll see
everyone tomorrow