Klolei HaChinuch Education Principles Rebbe Raayatz #16

we're on page 71 but before that let's read the kits at the bottom of page 69. this was the um the fourth prerequisite the firs fourth condition that that ever in which a person needs to look at in order to succeed in hashball in educating a student a child etc so he says in the kitchen the educator of the guide he needs to customize that that is you know uh vulgar and that that's i'm sorry that that that is beautiful and that that is vulgar if you have based on each um student uh you cannot just say that it's all for the same person it's not that way and he explained that before i don't want to go i don't want to repeat it again let's go on so now on top of 71 into the new chapter today is 14 you dollared tonight the fifth condition remember these are all conditions in what what he called very way back i think a chapter eight or seven the matsav right there's the mohus the essence of the of the student and the matzah the situation and and and these are all conditions for them the fifth condition is [Music] a deliberate reflection of the educator in choosing specific approaches of education and guidance so now he talks about the the various approaches let's see what he says the educator in the guide must gaze well look well in the virtues and in the deficiencies of the of the student and the guy and and and the guy and the guided the student of the guided although he's been abraham and he needs to reflect on these things the messiness could dealer with great amount of patience so basically if you don't have patience you shouldn't be doing this this shouldn't be your job okay what does he have to do when he does this to evaluate over lisscale combine to weigh each virtue the sudden and each deficiency vapeless um through a weight not to underestimate the layla hot deal and not to overestimate so he really has to weigh carefully the students virtues and deficiencies don't exaggerate and don't underestimate okay dogma systoles and this is comparable to looking carefully these buenos and reflecting of her um a craftsman who searches as a clearly socna he looks at a certain vessel that needs fixing and the rebel is going to give an example now of a craftsman and a kaley and he says [Music] when the craftsman corrects the first and foremost he separates he needs to take apart the the the limbs and the mean the the parts of the vessel of the item bizahirus carefully shall be not to break gum sof ava not to break that part hamakuku that's ruined in the vessel so you take let's say a watch and you have a watch it stops working so you need to take it apart you have to be careful not to break in the process of taking it apart that part of the watch that doesn't work well number two and after you took apart the the item to its parts then you need to reflect on each of the parts not only having the good part of the watch but also in those bad parts you have to look at every single individual part that's left that's there number three um and when you study carefully the parts you divide them the moroccan is the categories good baby medium mediocre whatever and bad feels and then initially then you once again reflect you've now categorized the parts then you re-study the parts as they are in the separate categories you reflect on each of the parts and kailin by dividing them into three general categories good medium and bad hijab this is considered a good division in other words first you have to determine which parts of the vessel are good which are medium and which are bad and only once after you have made that determination and hence you've put each of the items based on your calculation and assessment of the part in its category do you continue what do you continue with and then you decide on what type of tick and correction do i use for each of the parts how do i remove that which is ruined over by over ma le males es mccoy and what do i fill its place with in other words yeah i'm going to take it away i'm going to remove it jaka why because it's no good but there's a there's a hole there's a gap there's something missing so you have to already be thinking what am i going to replace it with next sake so one second so this is this is the tikkun right this is the correction that is for what is already ruined what we called before the category of band of ra with what am i going to pull up replace the bad issue next yes i think one thing that i'm having trouble with is i'm hearing a lot of hearing a lot of absolutes when when loretta is saying um we divide between what is good what's vulgar and and then these these uh of toys um rat is is also subjective because sometimes those midis are exactly why we call them meat ice is because there's a shopping mall between them that sometimes they they are to be good used for for good things and sometimes they're they're these bad meat ice are meant to be used for a good purpose uh let's let's say there's a lot that means a lot of there's a lot of gray here that also also what we tell those students we don't tell him that he's bad we tell him we always give him encouragement that doesn't mean we rosie it we don't rosie it but we anything that uh you know any good teacher that i've had always is you know as a consequence yeah yeah yeah but you're you're you're not following i think what he's saying he's not saying to tell this to the student he's talking he's talking here to the mashpea before he to he's talking about the assessment process and if he sees anger in a student is that and and at this in a particular way is it good or bad it's bad it's bad for that student at that time in that manner it's no good and he so the the maspea has to now hone in on that aspect and not confuse another aspect of his personality on the contrary i think what they're ever saying supports what you're saying to say oh he's a bad student because he has one area one part of the kaylee one part of the watch is broken if if a watch has one part that's no good does it make the other parts no good no that's what he's saying there are parts that are clear there are parts that have been in the in the parts that are and and a good educator needs to to himself come to that determination before he's much better we're not talking about the hashball we're talking all about in the okay so now so so so that was the first thing number two he says he's now talking about the ifane atikun the methods for correction so now he says um he already identified that there's part of the of this vessel that is you know it can last a few more years a little while longer so it's not overtove it's not rara it's mediocre it has still some shelf life you know a battery in a car you go to mechanic i've been told this you know your your battery has still some juice but you know don't expect it to go long term and you say and when will it burn out when will i get i can't tell you but you know it's not a new battery and i'm recharging it now and take the charge but it's already symptomatic of being a schwaka battery that's bananee so he says the bane in the we have to somehow turn this bane in the and give it a a a upgrade to make it to tove to make it good and that's an aveda do you replace the battery do you somehow is it possible to give the battery more something new and with that the battery will have a strong life you know what i'm saying something what on the other hand let's say you're dealing with a kid with um you know some syndrome and the way he is is the way he is so trying to upgrade the battery is going to be square pegs and round holes right you're right so so again so they're a good mechanic that is not saying here that every child in every situation has these three things he's just saying that there are times when a student has this in a situation like you mentioned so you're right that that doesn't apply it doesn't apply if the agent didn't bless someone with that particular blessing but bless them with other ones if you identify that your job will be easier because you won't ex have expectations of him in that area okay so that is not contradicting that he's not contradicting that but we're talking yaakov about someone who doesn't in in this case doesn't have that issue okay he doesn't have um you know he wasn't blessed by hashem with these these issues in his life okay he was blessed in a different way you know and and and seemingly everything is rosy and everything is good but then you look and you see there's some bad me days and you see some that are middle how do you deal with that let's go on and he says i'm sorry that's already referring to the third category someone when you identify that part of the character that is told that is good how do you continue to maintain that it be tough and it doesn't fall we live in a very challenging world and there are people that are raised in wonderful homes and they're raised with wonderful parents and community and they have meetings and all that and they go out whether it be to university whether it be to yeshiva whether it be to work whatever the case and they meet all kinds of people i see all kinds of situation and they start slipping and they start you know and i don't mean now just jewishly their character becomes dole the character becomes fi there's a word in yiddish far rusty rusty and they start becoming more bohemian because they're living amongst bohemians and they you know tend to some gravitate towards that at times so so that ever says the third category of the mediteva that that right or let's talk about in the vessel in the watch there's a part of the watch you open it up wow it's like it was never touched it's like new now how do you know it's going to be that way next year you're lucky that till now it's that way so that's why the rabbit says has to devise a plan in himself how will i get this student to continue being tafe and that's that's that's an accomplishment okay and we've seen this too we've seen this many many times i saw it when i was you know i'm doing i do some types of you know in the past i did more so i had uh girls women coming and looking for shidduchim so you know some of them i heard were in school as an 18 19 year old you know hasidic girls they would never let's say listen to non-jewish music now they're 23 24 25 they're in the work force and many times they the the you know non-jewish music plays there and sounds pretty nice and they start getting the liking for it so when they drive home they put on the music so they're good but the the an issue there's been a a drop why because of a circumstance and of course ultimately that's unhappy that their friends are married they're not and it really bothers them so they start chilling out they told me this i i'm telling you from case uh case history not not the my own thoughts what what they told me what's the nakuda the good is you have to divide devise the plan you're innocent how to keep a mediterva to continue to being good so what we've identified here this morning so far is there's the toy the bainini and the ra in every person's character and a good mashbiya assesses those three things and he thinks about what they need of tikkun in other words everyone needs tickle that's the park yakov everyone and let me let's even talk about the example you gave someone who you know was not was blessed for machamp to be born a certain way with a deficient would say with um with an impediment okay so what you so you need to guide that person too and that's why we have the whole field of special special education it's not just be you know because it's a field it's a study how do you improve the quality of life of a special needs uh person child and environment it's a whole culture and a very important culture yes yaakov forgive me that i have to comment on what you mentioned about the music it just rubbed me the wrong way that i was in the office uh oh i had to go for a procedure and the music they played it was just awful and i was couldn't wait to get to put my own headphones on to play what i what i enjoy listening to you know nice now still a cappella and a gooden and i i couldn't wait it just it it hurts me so much to hear how pressed the lyrics are the music and the style of it it's a person in the search that has an answer that wants to have a question they already have the answer it's because they're broken and a person who doesn't want that because they realize they they their their goal is to get a shimano they won't let that infiltrate them they won't have any they won't let that affect them that's a person who who you know we all understand since everybody's you know met someone i'm just saying that's a person who already has an answer that wants to have a question they already have their answer because you know i'm surprised because of my friends right but you don't want to be that way you won't [Music] you're you're responding with much emotion and and i appreciate it but i gotta sit back and tell you that and i i'm that way too but i gotta sit back as a counselor as a shotgun i gotta hear what where they're coming from and to impose and say it's disgusting and it's not fair and it's repugnant and how you're a low life i mean you're not going to get anywhere no we're not calling anybody names i'm just saying that the goals to which you was you aspire to this isn't going to help you get there if you want the nice that you're looking for this isn't going to help you get there because you're you're already answering a question that shouldn't have an answer because if you know what you're looking for this can't be part of the answer right right no that that's true that's true and that's part of what we discuss but what i'm saying is i i i was bringing out that they they start that there's a fall in other words someone who's trained someone who had good good tithe in them and there's a decline in the type you know whether it makes sense or doesn't make sense anyway let's continue he says the craftsman who has to fix this broken vessel because of a broken part needs to reflect on what should be the order of tikkanavi very important it doesn't say more here but it's very important if you begin with c instead of a it's a mistake if you begin with if you put too much in a nothing in c it's a b and c 12 and you're left no you leave nothing over force for c for for it's also no good in other words there's an order look at his words and the mashpee has to be miss bueno has to reflect on the order of correct of the corrective method what should i deal with first in the student of us once he does that this vessel is now fixed he corrects this he fixes this vessel in the most beautiful way and that's why why because hey he's assessed them correctly b he's he's he's focused on what each part needs and see he has a method and a style of of what's first and what's second and what's third as far as his um correction to the problem this was all the muscle says that every now this is the last paragraph on page 71. iso it is superfluous to explain all the details of the muscle me tickingly of the craftsman who is diligent in fixing the vessel benimsul in the moral of the mechanic of the educator that's immersed in education why is it uh unnecessary to explain the rebel rights it is impossible to ex to to explain all details as they are only in general um general what's it called marks you know those general points i i i it's every situation is different i mean jacob alluded to that earlier so to give you specific advice for every specific issue is impossible the 10 the to quote give the wise something the generality the odd i want you to remember that this quote in jewish literature and and learning give the wise abyssal a little the yeshkamoid and he will then take that and be spam and be smarter by using it further in his own life so that i've been saying here he what supposedly prosecute michelle thank you so right of course the possibility so so so the rep is saying that take the information that i've given you in a general way and use your cycle and apply it accordingly to do what to choose to choose specific approaches in educating to begin with is muslim you must be muslim patient uh calm calm and patient visa and villas to pay attention to every detail um with education with smart so in other words basically this paragraph and we're now going on to page 73 sorry that i've been saying that i can't spill it out for you in detail it's just too much i'm giving you the general guidelines of how and it gave you a muscle i gave you unison a beautiful muscle of a craftsman relearn that rethink it and then take take the same ideas and apply it to education all right top of 73. the relationship of the educator to the educated has to be strong firm unwavering if an educator shows flippy floppiness he will be a flip-flop okay you want to succeed you have to show that you're kazak you believe in what you're saying you know what you're saying and you're not changing your mind you're the educator and this will have an impact on the student that you're the border the student will know for sure that since the educator designed and gave a certain uh instructions for education to the student billy hevdle regardless in believement whether it be in study in bernhard or in practice he never my teacher my educators not changing his mind he's not going to be swayed by honor and money and and and all kinds of what we call khanifo and nothing will prevent the educator from bringing the educated impression into shape it whether i need to be kind or kind of stern by fulfilling his instruction so basically you cannot and you will not succeed if the educator is this type of educator with the evidence he needs to be such an educator kazakh what's the words unwavering and by the way this does not equal being stubborn we're talking about he's thought out intellectually and rationally on approach and it makes sense for this student based on his assessment as we've been talking about and that's what he sticks to only this type of forceful education um with kind of pangs of of of of iron albus will place the student on a good plateau good and right and and and straight and truthful even when he will be older he won't deviate from it next paragraph however this right away at this that i told you that it needs to be firm and and strong and unwavering it must be processed it must however be framed by love and thoughtfulness that's what i told you thoughtfulness but not only thoughtfulness that the student knows you know the sin that my teacher who's unwavering and and and not changing his opinion he loves me and because he loves me he feels this is the best way for me so it's not that he's doing this because he's stuck stubborn individual and a mean individual no he's a loving individual you're here [Music] it benefits the reception of the instruction that the student takes from the educator he knows more so yes miles here we go five benefits get ready let's count alex miss goddard this type of education will give the the um the student [Music] a he sees his unwavering so he says this guy this man this teacher this educator he really means it and that's why he's not bowing bowing to the right on the left and changing his mind he's not wishy-washy number two [Music] the educated student sees ashley mitsado it's not due to cruelty or asakas or anger or pedo and and sternness that this is the way that the educator deals with him but take it goddamn he feels this is coming because he loves me that's why he cares so much about me number three it's necessary that this type of conduct that he will use for the student it will add aleph it will reciprocate the love from the student to the teacher base trust the student will trust the teacher the educator gimu by seeing that his teacher is firm it will evoke in him that the approach to life healthy approach is to be firm and unwavering in a positive way with love as its as as its as its essence at its core and five han zoo this conduct the fundamental principles of decorum and proper behavior and this is very very important and very thoughtful of that to delineate five different results positive results from a teacher who is firm and unwavering and what we have to do is think about do over the years in school or university we had if we had such a teacher and do we do did we pick up these five things or some of the five from that particular teacher in other words sometimes you have a teacher who you know is is wishy-washy you know one boy uh says one thing and one student says one thing and the other day someone else says one day's talking on the right side one's talking to the left side who is he he's not firm and then you have a you have a teacher you have an educator who is firm why the difference is because he's thoughtful and he's not as thoughtful and when you're thoughtful and and especially when you're coming from a place of love not thoughtful because he's mean or cruel that ever says that here if he has a preconceived uh meanness and and and and um cruelty and anger he's not the right because then it's not coming from love then it's coming from his own yes his own self-ego and his own issues so so yes [Music] yeah we had a teacher her name was mrs harrison and she really really believed in us really really pushed us and really really gave her self-confidence self-esteem and she said that we can all go to normal school and she pushed us and we all went to norfolk school wow and it made me such a big decision in my life it was so amazing right right because she was she she got it she was on the right track for the rest of my life the one guy who's now a professor of political science wow yeah i mean my daughters tell me that you know certain students in in in base rift in the school you know who hashem you know didn't give them certain body parts or certain and and they're like the top student and you know and it's amazing it's amazing so so um you know but you're right you have to have an educator who believes in you but but believing you doesn't mean you know excuse the expression sucking up to you you know believe you means that he tells you the truth i told you i must be in morristown when when i i i came to him and i spoke about certain meetings i didn't like it within myself and i asked him for any advice so he said get yourself a buckler in the basement who will give you musser you're right it might may look simple jonas knows that our much better male that's what he told me and what did he mean he meant a friend that's really a friend but a real friend opens up and tells you hey you know in this area it's ugly you got to make a change you know what i'm saying so so the firmness and the unwavering honey uh strength is so important for the development and at the time sometimes you don't see it because you don't like it you know i think about it in my years in yeshiva you know sometimes i didn't like it it's too bad too bad because the educator sees the whole picture i remember i'll end with this i remember um when we were in los angeles we were already older students we were sent from morris down from yeshiva to l.a and we had some tightness we had some complaints about the russia shiva okay and i i was chosen to be the representative so i went into the rapper's secretary rabbi khadakov and robert hanukkah was a very very bright man he was a pedagogue of education he was the education minister in enrique latvia you're talking about a very educated the top person in the field of education and of course a front person and everything else a very from person he learned to nevardic you know what i'm saying so i brought my complaints to him so he told me this he told me a muscle he said you have a a a war of soldiers protecting the front and the enemies on the other side and you hear all of a sudden that there's a breach to the right so you leave your post and you go there to stop it right you've lost the walkers they come in from where you left and he said you only see that soldier only saw one part of the entire picture so he figures he has to go to that side to protect the open the breach on the other side right what he doesn't see is there's a greater whole picture so he said to me you students he's talking about the 22 year olds you're 21 23 years you guys see one part of the picture the rash of shiva sees the whole picture and therefore we side with him not with you as they told us okay kevin have a great day everyone will continue learning tomorrow zai gazette [Music] bye-bye