Klolei HaChinuch Education Principles Rebbe Raayatz #14

so let's start now uh one second one second here we go okay so we're in page 59 let's do the kit sir before we go on to udalif kisser we learned yesterday asaritivium 10 different qualities nature kuala lumpur bashiris five on the wealthy five exist by wealthy people vaca misha and five by poor by people who come from a poor background etc poverty and um that's if you know if you haven't studied it please study it let's go on you dollars the third the third condition for the massage for the situation that the educators should look at if desiring success with his students this is a classification based on habits but we have though without difference in whether they be good or bad in other words we want to focus in now on a person's habits sounds pretty uh pretty uh practical for us right let's see habits are one of the strongest nature natural phenomenons for for us they themselves the habit itself moisture is very powerful in its own right and number two look what he says bipolar the impact that they have on on on things outside of one of a person habits are very powerful in that way too right let's look at the words they're very powerful in their result on things that are outside of themselves and it'll explain behindu a habit habits are not innate you weren't born with a habit to bite your nails right but it seems like this is who you are you're biting your nails you can't stop and you have to do things right that's a habit it's not who you are next mz next page top of page 61 he meet the taqifa that's aki what's that with us he meet the taqifa biatsuma it it's all in its own right it is very powerful so the feeling of a habit is like is like it's natural you understand although it's not innate but it becomes so much part of you it feels like this is who i am and this is so true and it's a mistake but this is the way it is you are not your habits you may be identified by habits by others but are you your habits no okay so so why is it that habits identify you okay your habits become second nature meaning it's not really your nature it becomes your nature but the so so we have the the two sides of the coin it's not your nature but it becomes look at the words kid teva shaney it's like a second nature within you and it feels like as though it's you know in addition to it being very powerful in its own right it is so powerful that it affects all aspects of a person outside of him whether it be on his body whether it be on his soul powers in other words the habits that we form yoni the habits that we form are not to be taken lightly yeah on one end we want to dismiss it's only my habit it's not who i am and that ebba says it's true it's not who you are but it becomes so much part of you that it does have an impact on you both in your external aspects of life and in your inner life so for example anxiety do you know again i'm not the professional but i i i think it seems to me there's one aspect of anxiety that's inherent in a person they're born with anxiety with a nature to be anxious and then there is anxiety that you bring upon yourself through stress through real estate and through many other things right pierces what type of anxiety is that moisture is that natural no marvin someone decides he wants a lot of property which is great but remember marbadaiga you're going to have a lot of worries do i have a tenant do i not have a tenant is he in is he out is he paying is he not paying is the roof leaking and the it goes on and on and on marvin margaret digger so tiger anxiety there is natural anxiety and we see this why are some children of ours more anxious and some are less anxious they come from the same parents because there's an element of anxiety that's that's innate but then there is an anxiety that's brought about by habit so i use the the example of marvin as an exchange word for habit meaning you habituated yourself by buying lots of property so the result is what it is yes yaakov it's a consequence what is the consequence and therefore um that's right and that's what he says here i'm not making an extension between then a consequence of investing but that's um uh they're not a habit i i i said i know it's not a habit it's not like you have a habit to gamble or habit to drink or habit to eat or habit to bite your nails i mean first of all that could a person it could be a habit of buying real estate and just being obsessed and having a habit to buy and buy and buy and buy why not but i was giving a dogma i was just giving an example of how to support whatever says here that a habit has not only not only in and of itself is so powerful but its impact is also to the outside right it impacts the way your life is and it impacts the way your spiritual life is he calls that a vari and he calls kaikaz so the way so so i was giving an example just as marvin brings about marber daiger so it's it's not you you're not real estate but when you invest yourself in that area and you're fully into it and you're marble remember the wording is marble then the result is marbadika so when a person has a certain habit in whatever area that may be it's going to make an impact that's all i was using as an example is it clear now kind of okay very good yes so i know it came a little late but um question is this how is it different when you're talking about habits um or having digits or whatever you know the lushen is then having a person that that has an it's his inherent nephesh bahamas meaning a person has a nephesh bahamas right yeah so if my nephesh bahamas likes to go run after children by a kiddush which i guess i like to do right i'm going to have a very bad habit of uh you know not being able to put the plate further for me and jump into the challenge that's also a habit it's also bahamas is it the same thing that's different like what um would you call not being able to control yourself at a kid a habit i mean would it is it really habitual i mean no i i i would think that that is more of an expression of nephesh obama's that happened what i'm saying is habit could be a good habit could be a an ugly hab but not a healthy habit never shop the drive in other words you're right you're right that some sometimes to discern between is what's causing me to do whatever i'm doing is it nothing shabbat or his habit because nefer shabbam is is part of who you are very good point you made yoni and habit we said here it's not who you are it's who you become but he said to he said as well it feels as though this is who you are so you know in other words i'm not going to say someone who whether it's your example or another whether it's the marvin the host and from pierce office or the kid that's chong that you speak about that's not who the person is i just want to say i just want to say in yoni's uh defense of himself that the kiddush that he puts out of karl buff is like a wonder of nature so it's it's uh you know it would be hard to resist for anybody right no but but in all seriousness he he's making uh he he's bringing to the table a good thing to look at and think about that drive let's forget about it you need it could be anybody that drive to to to indulge and change is that coming from who you are or what you're doing that that is the analysis that we need to think about and i would like to argue it's not who you are it's a it's a a style and an approach that you've in a way been doing for years to call it a habit that causes those results but anyway now could there be any a person who is obsessed with food yeah but i don't think that you're obsessed with food to the point where if you get up in the mornings like a guy doesn't who's a smoker he doesn't have a smoke he he he he's crazy he doesn't have a drink he's nuts you know what i'm saying um could there be a person like that yeah yeah and then it's you know it needs a lot of refinement so um we have hilo dealing with these issues probably daily you know but but let's go up schneider found him hey pull the same skills on that second paragraph page 641 there are two uh two ways that soul powers operate allah influencing at close quarters meaning how does logic how does intellect impact it's called bedarah kirov in a manner of closeness what does that mean logic explains and elaborates that this should be in this and this manner so what is the style that logic that seiko uses to accomplish its goal kirouf why is it kirov i explain it to you i rationalize it to you i you know i i i i take time in developing the idea that's all kirov being shahoo but whether it be a matter of learning beijing whether it be a matter of practice the impact of logic it comes in the form of patience and sweetness seiko is not fighting with you you're here seiko is sweetening you up and saying come my dear let me explain to you what the situation is that's one type of paola bayes number two there's a type of an activity that is dominion a decree it's gonna mensholo dominance willpower is a bulldozer seiko is not a bulldozer cycle is a sweet thing russian is tough haregilus habit pulasa he believes that ever classifies and puts habit you hear avi into the second category into dominion and decree forcefulness but there are gazeto members as the saying is shielding alcohol over habit rules over everything so if like to use yoda's marshall you're the habit of eating you just roll over everyone you go for the food you don't care how you look and how you perceive you gotta have to get the first chunk because that's your habit for years and the way habit works it doesn't take and consider into consideration anything else whether it be a minor thing that's relevant to the to the body in other words let's say to your bowels and to your stomach and to your you know you're gonna flesh away you're gonna have issues or whether it's a serious issue it makes you ugly inside you what are you a glutton you're a behemoth so the heart look at the rabbit says that you know uh i mean i'm giving the dogma i'm giving the example but but the rebels words is when it comes to a varyagr think about you see you have to think about the deeper insight when it comes to ivaria goofy says he calls a dover cotton it's a minor thing the impact um on the way the the limbs of the body when it comes to the quickest and efforts to your soul powers meaning who you know who you are spiritually it's never good so don't think that fleshing away the truth you know you know you're perceived as a glutton that's the big issue the big outwardly what do people say about me the bigger the bigger issue is what does it say about your spirituality what does it say about where you're at where's your heart and mind that's the issue that's the dover goggle that really is important let's continue basically talking about if it's a spirit if you're a spiritual fester not a principal no no we're saying that the the physical eating and freshing of the food has two impacts one on your the limbs of your body you know whether you get sick and you got to go to the bathroom excuse me and and and and you vomit and you're tired you know all of those things right and you're sluggish that's and then the same food tells you and others that your your spiritual side needs a lot of work you follow so it's the same activity it's like him to my legs it's just a little bit yeah but but what i'm saying is that the same activity the same overeating or over sleeping or over drinking and over whatever everything every indulgence has an impact both in the physical avareha golf and in the spiritual and that ebba says that the impact on this physical is considered minor in comparison to the impact on the on the spirituality which he calls goggle great let's continue now he says all activity of habit its impact but derek shlita is dominion bulldozer mibli without consideration imma i i need it i i need it it's my habit i don't care what the outside perceives about me or the situation habits are like any other natural tendencies of human beings and their soul powers and he goes back to what we learned yesterday which is when used for good and beneficial and benefit and benefits he your family that's very beautiful over hypocrisy but when used for low life type of things and things that are no good [Music] it's if so move in now goes back to our our he needs to again organize the approach perhaps based on the habits by the each student you can't just put it all put them all into one basket and say they have all bad habits it you will not have any success in educating in that way you have to look at the particular habit and who has the habit you see because the habit by one that's no good is a virtue by the other and the by the other when it's a virtue could be by the other one no good but take your voice with might and strength in a specific way colon what is that the hazak or the fire sergios to strengthen and beautify escargot that they'll be cut away the lawyer mayhem afghan shemets and they will be obliterated with no remaining vestige no how many machamp can do this how many people focus in on what the habits are and who has the habit and when is the habit and where's the habit coming from okay okay i said biting the nails if a person has that habit and a habit to drink what happens worse you know you have to you have to evaluate the situation and of course what's the root of each anxiety stress space psd or pts whatever it's called and whatever other conditions right you got to go back to the sheidish what's causing the person to to to do these habits but one thing's for sure that both good good habits and bad habits are so powerful that when they operate they're like willpower in the sense they run you over and control the situation and they don't allow logical intellect in they fight that off now what is our job hillary what's our job our job is to somehow cool the habit down and get the in the seijo to be more cognizant and real in the person's life and to do that it's a lot of work yes it seems to me uh it seems to me from what we've learned that at the moment that a person actually enacts a habit is acting out uh you know a habit of um that that's coming from the atahra yeah you know it's a heart whether it's you know whether it's an actual issue or not that at that moment um that he's uh the the lesson of the tanya would be that he's a russia at that moment is that would that be how you would think about it at that moment he has fallen into a russian mindset yeah i mean you know i think one of the hardest things for me in learning tanya is sort of understanding that you know when we talk about somebody as being good or evil we tend to talk about like a character through their character through time right across context right but the tanya seems to talk about it as you know what you're doing in the moment if you're if you're uh and who's you know who's ruling the ear kitana at the moment excellent that's correct and why and why is it tanya why does the altitude come to that concept because every person is good there's no such thing as a bad person this bad behavior that is the ideology that stands behind yeah yeah and that you never never always realized that yes jonasson yes yeah the word the word the word like you right here which means habit comes from the word radio which means legs so so so when you walk when when you want to learn to walk you have to go step by step until until you become automatic right so so so a habit is something that you do automatically because you've done it once quite three times already and you become automatic correct correct now in order yes that happens when somebody's walking in a way that's not good you have to really learn how to walk [Music] so we thought the stakeholders evolved and but he has to he has to be able to allow his cycle to get involved yeah and if you don't allow your sacral to get involved it ain't changing let me just finish the paragraph next paragraph now i'm going to talk about good habits ticking and this is good habits says that happens sometimes why should they also need correction a habit of eating good foods delicacies to strengthen your body next page 63. wisconsin so you can learn to be half skeeder in a cavanaugh he the kavanagh of that habit the intent is good ava goofy heads and mcgill is the very essence of that habit because you're indulging in food your intent is good but the actual performance of the habit is on more on the on the bad side in addition to that in addition he says in addition to the fact that a human being is greater than food and drinks and it's a it's it's it's it's a prison it's an embarrassment it's it's it's it's a loneliness from man who is the seat of of humanity a man intelligence to make to be the end all of just one thing which is eating and drinking so he says in addition to that he named he said listen to that how does that neck dog taylor it's against tater in other words it's against humanity because you're not being immense you're not being the human and number two it's against trader because toyota says you shouldn't be indulging therefore to try to solve the situation as much as possible the darker shall tell you that it should be incur in correspondence i'm sorry in in it it should fit the rules of tita so what he adds over here in this last five six seven eight nine lines he's adding that even meters to even regulus typhus good habits that you're eating for the purpose of learning needs refinement so in other words don't think just because it's a habit in a good area it doesn't need tickling it needs tickle and this is a very important dakuda especially by people who are learning and davening and doing the right thing [Music] you need to step back and say the kavana the intent is good but is the application of the tent the habit in its application form is it healthy and and sometimes the answer is it's not whether it's this indulgence or that indulges okay simply speaking someone who is a tremendous mitzvahs and he does everything right and he learns in dublin's but he has certain habits that that that he uses that need refinement that's what it's all about will continue tomorrow mr shem have a great day everyone zai gazoon nice seeing everyone take care bye