Klolei HaChinuch Education Principles Rebbe Raayatz #11

good morning today we're learning countries the previous essay uh chapter four middle of chapter on page 45. that ebba's last point is that when it comes to educating a student and guiding a student the assessment of what the student is capable of is crucial and he and he elaborated on the nakuda on the point that if that is not done and an an educator thinks that his student is either better or worse than what he really is this is this is really um as that ever says the previous step but not only is it not proper he's damaging the student because either he builds him up falsely or he puts him down falsely and we have this every day with our children with our students with our employees right let's say employee is an employer i think selden do you have an employer that evaluates properly an employee and an evaluation an evaluation what properly what does an evaluation properly mean know exactly what your particular employee can do it cannot do and if you overwhelm them overwhelm them with work they cannot do you're gonna be frustrated and you're gonna blame you're gonna blame them for not doing what you want and really it's your fault because you gave them too much to do because not just quantitatively but qualitatively they don't know how to do that how many times you have a student in a classroom and the teacher gets frustrated even without my wife's a career teacher you know read and you hear the way they read and they read atrociously right and and it frustrates you and you get kind of get upset maybe they have dyslexia maybe they have something else were they evaluated for it i can't tell you how this is so common and um and the same is true not just for that particular issue of dyslexia but other issues the brain works in various ways and really you need like a brain surgeon to to to to to to so um going back to what i'm saying this is what i'm speaking about here he's talking about understanding that there are differences and those difference make a very big imp and make all the difference remember what one of the two items that he identified in chapter six of which chapter 7 is the first item explained the mohus the essence the essence of the person the essence of the student have you mastered knowing this student's essence this is what we're it's about now we're on page 45 the second paragraph he brings from the flavors hell of of us everyone has heard about cleveland celebs and usually you hear about it in context of shah habit right the portals of trust hope and especially coming from the covet the there was a big uh awakening to learn the javis alvarez and those that use the hyena see now that they actually inserted a section a daily section i think of learning from javascript and and uh also be aware that there are in many letters to people who have questions about faith tells them to learn clever salavatas and point number three for the history buffs like maisha salma shechter told me that in 1941 rabbi khadak of the rebels closest secretary would give a shirt in 770. and is known as a muslim safer so in yeshiva called 770 when it began he gave a shear in javascript and zalman told me it was gevalted he was good it was tremendous you know my point is that you know although chabad is hasidis the terrorist there are basic aspects of titus have muslim that's relevant for every person regardless if you're a husset or a little or a safari or islam you're just a jew just a jew you are a jew not just a jew a jew is a jew you guys know that that ever told me once to scrap a flyer that i made when i came in 1984 85 and i wrote i am not reform i am not conservative i am not orthodox i am a jew and and then i wrote in some well the words say this is at the heart of the philosophy of khabad abbas israel and my picture was alongside this and i got this flyer an idea from a friend of mine in chicago and for some somehow he got away with it but when i sent it into the rabbit i got an answer like uh almost immediately basically a long answer at settle not not not in a formal letter but in a response to my letter and and my letter i i just sent in the flyer because i would send in a report of what i'm doing and i printed up 500 cards of this message you know large cards and i was going to do a mailing i had the federation waiting list 1900 names and and we were we were having a fair so i printed up 5 and then the river basically told me that my message contradicts the sorry the words the wording of my of the flyer contradicts the message because the message is i am not this i am not this i'm not this so by the very fact you say not this not this not this you're you're you're you're you're you're admitting that there is this this this and you're saying you're not this this so you're you're automatically labeling and then they never went on to tell me different things about what was wrong with it and his concern the bottom line which i'm not going to go into right now another time the bottom line is i took the 5 000 and i put them all into my trash bin in my office and it never went out why the chicago didn't get it over his head and dolphin did only rabbit knows that that has to do with the shrubs we could speculate marine county is different than chicago chicago's more conservative american was the hot tub capital of sitting in a in a hot tub and and smoking dope you know and growing having pigs in your backyard with your with your ponytails i mean we could we could we could we could philosophize and and go into theories but did i what's my point my point is that we're learning over here and the quest you know has the shah happy talking is is for everyone it's for everyone so i said just the jew not just the jewel this morning someone who was a virgin you know the older so i stopped him as he's about to go back to his place i said what do you what are you into these days i he he's always learning and then he learns he goes to the oil he's not an officially laboratory i said boy you've put put on yourself a big burden because the alternate what the alternative demands of no one else does his and and he looked up to me says he's so right he said then he said to me and this is the way i explained it to my wife he says you see a person when he dies his body lays there so i obviously was walking around the soul then the shaman makes him go so dalton so he sent his wife so therefore when a person is walking don't look at the body it's the soul that's walking the proof is when the soul is gone the body's the lies there so who's walking then the shama so who is the person then the sharma and he said to me you know this is the way i explained to my wife and she got it she said i i know from this forum you know what's my point that that's what i eat this that's really what i need this so therefore regardless of who who the yid is the this usually when we quote the clay versailles of us we refer in chabad to asha habit here the previous letter cites another section okay that's why i i bring i i elaborated let's look inside 45. s where he deals with making the fish an accounting of what's going on with yourself questions of all human beings alike can should we evaluate everyone alike and based on that come to a decision meaning holiday mascona we should come to a decision that the answer is the man's efforts in their toyota and in their world uh you know felt shaft wrote salon differ moshe based on their recognition their intellectual abilities and zakut and refinement of their understanding so what the question is you cannot put everyone in the same bag it differs based on who they are what they were given as intellectual abilities and how they processed this and refined it and every individual is obligated to think enough if his soul in what he obligates himself my voice is but the obligation and particularity of recognizing god i think these are again these are javascript words basically what he's saying is the answer to my question is the answer to my question is we are not the same and everyone has a different and therefore to put everyone in the same bag and say i'm going to judge you all because you're all human beings alike the javascript says incorrect that's the end of the quote that the frida krebs cites of the favorit cell of office next paragraph this is the previous rebel now writing himself however from itself understood i shall call adam might call masha afterly the hovering every person is obligated to to do as much as possible to understand himself or ishmael or to listen to others lecturers who teach in public or the histadio and to put effort to know god's creator's goodness in other words a person has to put their effort into understanding god and what god does if that's not adequate for whatever reason they should attend he says clearly lectures on this topic so that people get inspired to love god and to follow god um and he sustains he enlivens as claudius all creatures creations as we say in davening foreign [Music] to all the living who do the will the will of god so in other words that's such a practice and you know it doesn't say it here but it's a famous verb it says give people their their sustenance their food shouldn't it say give them their food be eat tom and their time in the time of their need they need they need 12 o'clock food hashem says i will give it to you four o'clock four o'clock it doesn't say to eat tom with a mem at the end which in hebrew grammar means the them it says he gives them akhlum it's their food but when do they get it on his clock you heard that before right it's it's a very powerful thing to think about the itoi you know we we say god i'm doing what you want hashem give it to me sorry chap hashem has his own clock and everything he gives is his glock not your clock you have to ask you have to do yes is that one i don't know how it is in america but israel when when uh so a woman is pregnant or if there's a they don't you know they say is that where it comes from um means a good or auspicious time so you're saying that auspicious refers to god's time um i'm not sure that's what people have in mind but if you stop and think yeah you could say so but that that that's clear in the ashrae is saying that right um so this he doesn't mention here but it's it is brought down in the swarms i thought it's important to know so a person should should either study themselves or attend urine where these things become are discussed or both the lust and a person should make their brain and their mind attentive over the individual supervision not just that you're one out of millions or one out of thousands or one out of a family of seven every single person has got the proteins of hashem upon him or me is butter from god almighty all of upon him and his family be fruct individually and you can't say look i'm learning this morning we're learning toyota in this house my son my daughter my mother my father my grandmother my grandfather my friends should be blessed i mean you could say it but it's not adequate and of course we hope that the source of our learning will help a second another person that's a gift and if you get it you're a lucky guy but every person has to do and know that is on the individual okay specifically specifically because there says that ever the last words of this sentence this paragraph nevertheless the jose mourinho [Music] this obligation that a person must think about hashem is good and all these things that we mentioned in this paragraph it's proportion to the quality of one's essential nature you can't say that yanko and yosef and sara and russell are all for similar in all these issues it's not true therefore what might take you longer or shorter might take another person the same thing longer shorter and that ebb is saying this is what the educator must evaluate he must evaluate and assess what type of essence does this student have and based on that i can have expectations and and and there'll be real expectations if you took the time to analyze and assess properly their essence so he brought my share support from the cleveland salaf for his idea and then he clarified in this paragraph how this how this expressed itself in daily life do you have a question or i comment on this motion are you following what it says yeah i'm following it i'm just fascinated because um i it never ceases to amaze me that um understanding and evaluating the students or the child's essence can take so many different forms and i was we've been learning this now and only today my our youngest son usher is starting to go out now and look at ishivas you know like shiva gadola right and and i i'll just make this really quick uh i had this i've been having this in the back of my mind that we've been learning last few days especially the last couple days last few days we've been speaking about in the house and um he went somewhere yesterday and it was a big deal like in terms of the amount of effort and so forth and it didn't for whatever reason variety from different reasons it didn't seem to it just didn't go as well as maybe i thought it was going to go and today i've been trying to encourage him to go and look at another one and he the bottom line is what's what's happened is that he i've been trying to encourage him to make his own efforts to look at these shivas as opposed to me calling and so forth which today he bottom line is that he yesterday he went to mgdalemic where his oldest where his older brother went right okay and for whatever reason i don't know different reasons it just didn't the whole thing it just didn't go he'll go back but it didn't go so well today he went he's gonna go hopefully to go to carrot gut check out the taco cured gut and there for some reason i don't know why but i have a feeling it's it's already growing smoother at least so far it's just everything about it is going smoother and i thought somebody said this is this is the point i'm going to get to i thought to myself just as we've been learning the last few minutes i said you know so interesting i thought that mig dalemik would be a good fit for him for this reason this reason that reason and i didn't think so much about current god i thought i'd go maybe go to look into the yolk's design but i realized that so far the thing the biggest thing that's that is seems to be of excitement for him is not in any intellectual issues it's about that we're in mgdalemic it's where his brother went and so i feel like it's almost i almost feel subconsciously he feels he doesn't want to go on the coattails of his brother and the the the few brief contacts he's made already today for cured god for some reason seemed to go much much smoother and much better for him and i just was realizing that these the last few minutes we've been learning he said gosh what an interesting thing i didn't think about that i didn't think about that part of his essence is that needs uh he needs to make his own he needs to he needs to have his own independence independence and i didn't my that's the point i'm trying to get at i'm sorry for the long win okay we got it you know what i'm saying the point is it's like it was like wow like that's part of his essence that's part of his that's part of like he needs his independence he needs his own his own successes right and and um it's very good that you're honing in on it and dealing with it and maybe if he's willing you could actually learn with him shop at some of the countries because it's it's really not you know what i'm saying and would you have an english translation okay let's continue the next paragraph the rabbit says this that i shared with you now is agreeable by it's agreeable by everybody and it's you don't need any proofs that people are different okay and then says well guess you know he doesn't say it but this was you want proof from from from ghazal i'll give you proof but really the only proof what does he say commemorative and look at this this week is mr luck i'm going to talk about this soon for two few minutes but first let's see what it says what did happen uh yoni do you know what he did the mother said um his job was his um his job was studying torah wait so he didn't work at one end he was uh excuse the expression cast was shown to say this but he seemed to be a lazy good for nothing right his work his work meaning his schwitz and his labor and and and everything that comes along was learning toyota other people saw this and they said let me do the same thing says harvey look at the language many others huh we're thinking already living off the government heartbeat tried living and doing like based on their essence and their talents and therefore what if shipment was able to do all the others couldn't do no here's the point not because he was a greater sadiq that's not what we're trying to say here it's because rep shimmin it was because rep shimon had certain abilities that hashem gave him that he was able to make of his toyota umnas his work was tighter and others didn't have that ability by nature and they tried and it failed and this is a phenomenal murder to know about and as it applies over here we're not cloning the body it don't work with cloning you either are the shimmer or you're not the shimmer you either are moisture brawn or you're not each one of us is who we are and what one can do the other can't do and doesn't have to do because what the other can do the other one can't do they has given everyone their specialty nevertheless when this is used this uh this logic is used as an excuse so i'm gonna do nothing or just that's not right because we until we a until we really find out who we are we don't know who we are and even when we find out who we are sometimes we make a mistake in assessing who we are and we can really do more you know the the the line the line between shecker and ms is very thin the line between assessing yourself properly or not is very very thin the line between assessing a student whether they're capable in this area or that area is also very very narrow very right so that ebb is saying that the fact is not everyone is so the fact is not everyone is capable to do the same thing so if the teacher if the educator if the mechanic won't assess these this issue in the student not only will he be wrong but will actually ruin the student and i think that what moshe said although it took a little while to get out but it's very important the independence that you know he's seen by a son so if if you've identified if you've identified correctly and you know it still needs it's a study in progress but if you did you're a very very lucky man and your son will be very lucky too when he gets it you know when he gets it or maybe he has it maybe that he has it but i'm saying this is this exactly is so is what that ever wants in this country what you what you shared with us is an excellent practical example of what he wants and you can't put them all the same one boy and one girl you know enjoys learning from an older sibling i remember my brother five-ish was today you know in florida but he said once at a simcoe important ones he says he said uh i think you said it my 16th birthday he said it you know when i was young my older brother me he says i love to learn from him he was my idol and i did i copied him he copied me you know for good for good things hopefully he take the bad things but some some some some siblings they thrive on that and others hate it you know and then there are those that really haven't figured out themselves so this is this is uh an area where we need to hone in and when you do that you could you you educate and raise your your children better and teenagers this is this is a big issue with teenagers this this isn't this you know the teenage years these issues are really really big stuff okay so uh tomorrow we'll learn the kits here i'll begin the next chapter mr shem but it was a good discussion and thank you moshe for sharing you know and uh you know things that you guys share with that for everybody it's it's very helpful you should know people listen to adi shiurim online and in their car here in america and i got a call the other day from a chaplain who who was who learned yeshiva was becoming you know maybe he is because he said himself today and he was raving about our classes especially on the underground you know he just called to thank me and to say that it's so valuable so the more people and it's not my teaching you know we're learning together i'm just reading and just translating a little bit and elaborating but the more people that will will hear the message of the rebbe here it's uh it could save a lot of hardship you know it it really it really will save a lot of hardship if you're able to implement what it says you know and uh it's time it's tough at times you know because you know the emotions the emotions take over so you got you have to sit back and as it says in gracious when you're upset and angry don't talk don't talk and today don't email don't text don't whatsapp just just you could boil inside go get a soda go take a walk go to sleep go put out watch something whatever calm down calm down and once you come you can start over again and um i've seen this i'm sure you've seen it and doing it this way saves a lot a lot of agony and grief you know i just did it today tell me about it okay okay and i gave it 24 hours i gave it 24 hours i let it simmer for 24 hours and then i waited hashem and you'll be happier trust me it'll be better whatever it'll surely be better so so this is part of what we're saying trevor have a great day i have to go to another sheer zeitgeist take care bye