Kissing & Hugging: Difference and their expression in serving G-d - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin #1

learning chapter 45 I'd like to finish the chapter page 128 um and we're holding about this idea that yov kissed RA in the Torah he lifted his voice and he says um tell me about yourself now by the way this seems to be very odd the first thing when you meet a when when you meet someone you want to know about them you says tell me about yourself the next thing you do is you pray and the third thing is you kiss the PK in the Torah is just the opposite kisses the next part he lifts his voice and cries prays and the third thing he says and who are what family do you come from just the opposite so the ezar on the PK asked this question and the re's father in comment on the on the Tanya here brings this as a response to the message of the ALB is saying here the kissing the vishak is a result of number one exploring who are you and number two praying lifting your voice to God then the kiss is Meaningful and this a powerful lesson as well the kiss that yov gave ra which means the the emission of breath to breath Visa the kiss the deep relationship that's implied in a kiss comes only after who are you and once you know who you are Mark once you know who you are then you pray you pray to God there's something in me that's a little stuck that's called the nitu it's the spark the god of sold and effici kiss and now I want via through the prayer it's elevated to a place which transcends then the kiss is a kiss then the kiss is a proper kiss but if you go right for the kiss it's invalid it yeah it a temporary pleasure and temporary experience but if you want the experience to last and in our case we're talking about Torah mitz being Dr Reb says in chapter 45 employ this method but again we started to learn and you know about ra what what I'm adding today is that the AL is saying the Rah comes first through who are you where am I at what has happened in my life if you don't know and you don't assess what has happened in your life you're chuva you're returning to God and your your your relationship is faltered it's not it's not based on On Solid Ground you know and and talking about relationships people need to know the issues between themselves if they're going to create an intimate Bond if they're going to create a a relationship like employer and employees or Partners I know the Reb answered some people like for Partnerships and business what do you need this s what do you need this problem you don't have enough problems but but but I'm if I if I get a get a share in the with the CEO of IBM or whatever of Facebook or whatever is popular o oh really and what about all the issues that come along with it you know so the point is you have to really know the person and you have to know yourself and then you have to know what's going on with your with your Nish where am I AO famous Story the AL right the guys say AO Al says to the guard how old are you AO he says I'm 55 he says AO that's your pport age you're 55 where are you really where are you at your spiritual your your your connection to where where are you not your age and not what you're doing and all of that so let's go inside now page 128 and um V we're in the middle of the page about 12 to 14 lines down the there's a period and the last word on the line is this is part of the verse by it says that yob lifted his voice he raised his voice and V why did he cry call yov wasn't just thinking about himself he was thinking about All Souls all Jewish Souls the source of all Jewish souls to elevate them from their Exile and to reunite them to their true superal Unity infinite God in what manner so there the PK says he used the instrument called kissing the shikin as the means to uh to to create this Bond and the AL now says what a kisses okay chapter 45 Tanya is the chapter for kissing in today's grub world we have to put it in these terms unfortunately or fortunately whatever you know you want to know what a kiss is according to Torah and right here she is it's the attachment from the word Dak is it's the connection the attachment of spirit to Spirit the two people who kiss each other it's not the physical lips and the physic gash it's the spirit that the that's coming from the inside of each person that connects with each other the kiss bring support it says kiss me from the kisses of your of your mouth which of course is used always uh reference sometimes in a slanderous way where someone wants to say someone go somewhere so they say I'm telling you the secrets of theer now so don't don't publicize it they say isak kiss me you know you know what that is in English I don't want have to say it yesak they'll just say one word yes okay it's a quote from this it's a quote from from so the AL employs it too but in in in a kosher wayak the kiss isik it's from the kiss of of the mouth of God it's not just a kiss of physical kiss sure it's a physical kiss but what is get what is happening in this transmission between the the two kissers it's the pemus that's coming out let's continue is it's The Binding the connection of man's speech with this with with the word of hem in so when you learn T you're kissing God why because there's theem and you're saying it with your deor so your deor which is is based on the air right your air your breathing is expressing something deeper from within and it's and you're expressing it through learning so when you learn says that it's the concept of it's spiritual kissing then we have The Binding of the mind to the mind when you use your mind to study Torah then we also have action to action through the deed of Mitzvah so the AL says here that in each of the three elements thought speech and we have on relationship so I want to make this clear one second m not only not only in not only in speech is there than the shikin relationship but also in thought when you thinking Torah you want to understand right and also when you're doing you're putting on there is a form of Nik go ahead M what when writes here I don't know it's zoo or zo zoo zoo zoo he says is the reason he just just to go back for a second is there reason he says as opposed [Music] to I mean yeah yeah there is because is the bottom line like we discussed yesterday so is the expresses the M he's emphasizing later so is kind of the within Torah Torah study there's Torah study there is study what go ahead yes just following up on that would you say that there's sort of an undercurrent amongst as opposed to L World maybe to focus a little bit more on yes we we we yes we discussed that yesterday iser brought it up absolutely absolutely is is made made a very good point about the difference in the Kim and all that yeah for sure no question about it that's suggest in correct correct let's continue now says Within action itself said there's all kinds of Deeds specifically the act of giving the act of and is where you have more of that kissing relationship you put on you put on right all Mitzvah but when you help a with it and you give and by the way s doesn't mean just giving a dime in the pushka OR to someone who needs but you know you slap someone's packages you know or if you learn with someone who doesn't know yet there's three things with your body exerting your body right to help someone else with your money and number three with your soul you take away from your time and your learning and your K and your rashash and you go and learn with someone who doesn't know as much when I was in Yesa in Ocean Park way when I was 17 you know I was a good bck and I wanted to learn with the best B because this way we can as they say by the L I can really learn a lot right you know my principal who was a Survivor and a tremendous said to me I want you to learn with this and this B he came from another country I think from Italy he didn't know as much and I said RAB taban was his name I said RAB tab it's my best years I'm just starting to learn I'm starting to understand I I really want to with the with the best B in Yesa he and I will will be you know it will be great it'll be important he says you'll gain more from learning with him than learning with with the strong B cuz gaining learning with the the the weak you'll have to really learn harder because you have to explain it to him and guess what I listened he's right he's right I listened what it's it's act of kindness of course it's an act of of of course it's an act of kindness yes yes but but it's like you know when you're sitting around at Harvard with geniuses is you don't want to go to in Brooklyn College or or whatever you know what you consider Harvard the G these are going to be the future CEOs the future MERS of of of the future presidents of Vice President blah blah blah blah so I have to now as much as I can cuz I can also one day be a future Star right so it's not easy to give that up but the fact is that when you when you take time and says an interesting point a lot of people oh my gosh