Kissing G-d: Spiritual meaning and positive results - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

we're on page 128 in the Tanya and we are about seven lines down from the top after the first period on the seventh line and it said the Hebrew word is the bat brought here the concept that the the idea of of RA we're going to use mid the mid of mercy of Charisma of um of evoking God's passion on our soul and number one why is it need to invoke God's passion our soul number one because the soul came from on high into this world and with all the trials and tribulations on Earth and number two when the when the soul gets involved with with what he calls this in the terminology of The Zo the the hide of the Serpent of the snake which is a reference to kipa to nonsense and Unholy ungodly matter then surely you need to uh raise it back bring it back to its source and the Al said so by by invoking particularly not a as we discussed until now but rather the mid of raim of mercy God have mercy on the spark that you gave my soul my Soul has your Godly spark and look where it is now it's all messed up so please you know have mercy and help me get out of this rut so Dr Reb said there's a correlation between what we do on Earth and what happens on high and this is an important point because many times we think we can get away with it who's looking does really does God really care does he really know you know isn't he asleep now it's middle of the night I'm but you know and then where is God I have no idea says God is personal and being that Hashem is personal when you just like a rope when you you pull the Rope below the top part of the Rope is also impacted because it's one wholesome rope so too now let's look inside this example uh this parable of pulling the Rope Etc this is the explanation to the teric idea of what we call the Exile of the divine presence you know we do not have yet the Third Temple the basa mikdash we do not yet have a a messiah in Revelation form we are still in Gus we're still in Exile now where does this Exile begin now you you could say you know where it begins the Romans destroyed the Holy Temple the basa mikdash and that's where the the destruction that's where the Exile begins so Caba and based on also the the Shala and other commentators they explain that the truth is it begins in God it begins in the in the godhead nothing on Earth begins here it begins elsewhere it begins in its spiritual counterpart now if if if a person understands this and lives with this they'll be in better shape because when something happens here Moshe on Earth to a person they right away they don't say hey God why did you do this to me why did my you know this and this happen in business why did I get ripped off why does why am I having family issues whatever the whatever the issues are they look at it what's happening in heaven that's causing this issue on Earth so right away the analysis is to look to heaven to seek what's going on in heaven and what do I need to do in a Heavenly manner to correct the situation and if we train ourselves to think this way we'll be far better both we won't be as angry at God we won't be angry at mankind as as much as much and we'll have healthier relationships so the AL says here one second L we have the right the the divine presence is an exile there's no Temple there's no Holy Temple you can go to the cotel you can go to the Western Wall and you should go and Davin but the fact is there is no temple on the Temple mount with priests kohanim and Levites and Israelites and all the Holiness all the laws of tuman Tara pure purification and impurity is only spiritual today it does it doesn't exist physically although a a priest shouldn't go to a um a funeral and and and and and a cemetery but barring a few exceptions that also need understanding wi it's that way the whole idea of Tara has been uh put on hold put on hold why because we don't have we don't have a real Bas on me there a real Temple so in other words the right right okay the the the divine presence that we are we're told rested where all over the world but particularly under the harabas in the b in the Holy Temple because over there the Cornerstone over there is from other mishan according to tradition right so the the holy of holies and everything is not here so the divine presence what's happened to it it's in Gus it's tied up it's locked up it's in ja jail it's inos Goos means Exile says the what's the esoteric idea that's the kind of the physical material explanation to the spiritual idea is that a Jew who commits a sin a transgression and when Jews do that they cause the to go further and further away and be more and more in Exile it's always there but it's really really behind you know it's like this guy navani whatever name you know this Russian he it was it was bad enough that he was locked up you know they sent him now way to Siberia deep who who knows who ever see the day of light again you know it's like hey he's already and goes no it's not enough no we're going to send him now to deeper gos you know and more gos and more gos says the AL this all is a result of our doing when we transgress when we mess up when we when we do something contrary to God we cause God to be more in Exile yes isra you wanted to say something uh yeah so when you ask the question where does goas start I wanted to say with adish but that's with man and and you know I had a note in here from a previous time we learned that you know when we when we put our own the in gas we drag the with us into gas but what you're saying is that it's already in go we just drag it further in yes yes but it it it didn't start with aarish well unless you want to say adish in a in a spiritual manner yeah with the with with the of course of right of of course but then then we had a starting in mankind what that's starting in mankind that's starting in mankind but as far as the global Cosmic world you have the you had a you had a you had a first temple you a second temple so the the was restored now the second one there was five things missing you know but but overall it was restored on some level so you're right other other you're right it said other called was the the first cosmic explosion of the energy to to to leave to ascend right but that's the whole idea we just spent through bani theat that MOS came along that's what the that's what the m is saying and mosha brought down Moshe Moses brought down the from the Heavenly Abode in into Earth he brought it back it was here in the beginning God said hey this is my place this is my vacation place I got the beach I got the the air I got the and all of a sudden boom boom boom boom boom right and the the mum roll around shooting and everyone runs so de is empty and theot is empty and B is empty and we have a massacre so now it's gone now you got to come back you got to come back who brought it back down m Ru that's very nice so Moshe is mosu it was M he corrected other Maran sin I believe it says that in Caba too but the problem is we we continued goofing up so then the left again and then brought the again so it was restored again and then again we had baseless hatred so it left again and now we're in we we've been 1900 plus years in the state of Gus so the idea is this is the point that I was making before listen that it's the the TR the the sin the the transgression of the individual that causes G so there are different stages in you mentioned and then there other stages but all is associated with transgression the AL says that this transgression is like the rope and the rope in the sense that when you move one part of the Rope or you peel away the strings the strands of the Rope one and one and one you get a very thi thin rope and finally CH it snatches it it disconnects and got forbid there's a cation and and and big problems so we don't want to go there let's continue re just to add to what is said wasn't it also the G started with the with the when they when they that's another stage that's another stage but is is talking about it earlier that's exactly the point that there are different stages yes yes you're right that's another stage but then then when they when yoseph was reunited with his brothers that was a reunification so you we find throughout our history as we follow the Torah and that's why so I'm I'm very happy that Moshe has been learning the par every work with every week Rabbi Gordon to understand that this is a trajectory of Jewish history through the Torah portion it's not just stories about our you know Abraham Isaac and Jacob and and and and and and and ra Rachel Rebecca Etc this is real this is real so what you're saying Y is you're talking about the stage of Jo yph and his brothers that's true but then there was re reunification and then so that was a rebuild building of of of of the Gus but then came along MIM you know and then then we were immersed in klippa and God says out you go that's another um uh Gus you know expression and a and a and a reunification of Gus by we didn't change our name we didn't change our clothing we didn't change our language and all of that so we you we find this but but all of this is is according to the Caba the the ES idea of let's continue he will return to God and he will have mercy now normally in this verse goes God will have mercy the bat interprets it here and the mercy will be on the spark of God that we have mercy on our spark of God that's not the literal meaning in the verse the literal meaning is you do chuva you do and you cause you know here we're saying is and the spark you will have you the person will have mercy on the spark not God will have mercy on the spark AR that's the literal meaning God will have mercy on the Jew because the Jew does chuva but we will use ra the the the application to draw down God into the world will be through us having mercy and calling out to God please my spark is lost and and and and messed up please have mercy that's the T look how he explains continuing inside we have mercy on with an abundant of Love on the name of God that rests within us and has been messed up and lost and distant we have mercy on it and we call to God to reconnect it God who rests within us amongst our Tuma where is Hashem now you could say God is all over everyone knows that but the quotes the verse within the contamination the spiritual contamination God says I'm there I'm there with you don't think you see we mentioned before Beville about the G it's a it's a double-edged sword and and there's a positive thing as well you know the positive thing is God is suffering along with us we're suffering now in gas because the is not revealed and we have all these issues don't think for a moment God is happy and he's coasting on the on the beach God is really in pain because God says I suffer when you suffer Jews and I'm involved with tumas and when you slept me into the Tuma when you do something that's spiritually um contaminated and impure I'm there as well so that consoles a person that's not a downer it's an upper what do you mean it's an upper Hashem is also going through the pain and if you know Hashem is going through the pain you want to release him from the pain it's like you know when when when if you have a cold it's cold season right by you guys and by us here with flues and everything else and and your child has a when you when your child has a flu and your child's not feeling well and you're not feeling well you you you you feel the the the the pain and and and on on your child and and you say let him at least get out of the situation like we discussed a few days ago so the AL is saying there's the the spark of God that Hashem gave to every ye is is contaminated with through the transgression so let me release it from his trans transgression now is going to explain antic statement verse in the Torah quote and Jacob and yov kisses Rachel and he lifts his voice and he cries now when you kiss someone what are you crying for you should be very happy so over here um first first a famous V velv I think you appreciate it uh Aid comes to another and he says the Torah says he gave her a kiss and the guy takes his hand the other it gives him a slap he says you really believe yov kissed ra he says that there's a spiritual concept of kissing which we're going to learn about soon you really believe that he kissed her you got to be nuts Yakov is kissing a woman and Torah tells you about it but my friends that's what it says and that's what it means and it's behooves us to understand these verses in Torah and the question is a very good one why would the Torah mention that Yakov kissed ra so of course the humanists who interpret the Torah say well it's Humanity kissing is part of humanity but the Torah is not Humanity Torah is godliness you have to approach torah's Holiness so of course there is a concept of kissing but what's the spiritual meaning of that's what Al says now this is what the verse refers to when it says by quiet and he and he lifted his voice why is because Ro is the congregation of Israel is the source of All Souls I'll explain a moment through his superal attrib which is the of Mercy in the world of he um evokes arouses abundant Mercy on her okay Rael represents KRA Rachel represents the Jewish people the Jewish people are in Gus we're in Exile yov elevates us yov is RA Mercy the the attribute of Mercy when we call out to Hashem have mercy on us who are in Exile we lift the uh we lift ourselves I.E the Jewish people from the state of Exile to a state of Liberation and how is that done it's done in a manner which we call kissing V Let's what does that mean let's continue for a second so he lifts his his voice Heavenly to the source of Mercy which is called the father of Mercy with a me at the end not of of means the the Father the father that is merciful that means that type of Mercy is already a contained one you're limited to Mercy but when you say the father of Mercy that means M it's that Hashem the father isn't limited to Mercy when he wants to use his mercy and when he wants to use his love when he wants to use discipline and guess what he's using right now in Earth's role a lot of discipline elements of of of of of Rim but you know when there's judgment and War which is G it's the same God so that's why God is called of with a me at the end not of with a n at the end with the nun at the end means the merciful father that means you've box God into Mercy God's Not only mercy God is greater than Mercy when you say the father who has Mercy that's not boxing G in that says God is the father and when he wants he uses and in this case he uses to feris the point being what's the point that when yov lifts his voice to hasem crying out to God to have mercy and and he does it through the kiss he's he's connecting the Jewish soul to the highest level of God that's the point and tomorrow we'll learn more that the the emitting of of air Vis the kiss is a a union of the highest relationship between God and and and the Jew it's symbolic M it's symbolic of a very deep Union you know it's not just about oh I have this desire and lust to kiss you no it's it it represents emission of the greatest form of spirituality comes out through a kiss and this also would would I don't want to go into it now because the time is up but it brings to mind the importance of EV valuing a kiss and a kiss shouldn't be wasted a kiss comes from depth and if a kiss doesn't come from depth it's just a waste you've wasted an opportunity and you know maybe we need to give a Shear sometime the spiritual idea of kissing and embracing and hugging and things like that to understand that there's a very very deep spiritual Godly emissions that that God gives us to to express him in the world the kiss so sure it says yov kissed Rachel but he he kissed her but he was kissing her with God so it's not the conventional oh he's kissing her o let's go to a dark alley you know this is Holiness this is this is real Holiness going on here and when we bring that into our lives that we use that kiss in our relationships whether between a child or a spouse or things like that it's a whole different level of experience it's not just a physical kiss it's a kiss emitting the depth of Soul the depth of soul that we're here for a purpose anyway we'll continue tomorrow I think this last part of this year answers the first part of this year of why and and they focus on theas so they don't have to talk about the kissing and the you know things that are are a little bit more controversial uhhuh what's the word in English risque Ros what's the word you know R yeah hey you know we're leiters we're not scared of anything we tackle everything because it's all in the tah it's all in the Holy books and you know in the in the you know I wouldn't be speaking this way if there was women online you know what I'm saying it it everything has its context you know but uh but we need we need to understand these things otherwise we end end up making mistakes and that's another discussion from another time the mistakes that young men and women are not taught you see when I be when I was a when I getting ready I investigated a lot of these things Hally and spiritually cuz I wanted to be prepared when I go under the and I was the one my friends would say you asked the question we had a teacher right teaching us the laws of marriage they were all they didn't want to ask they said you you ask you you ask you know about very very um I wouldn't say controversial but you know issues of marriage of intimacy issues a lot of issues and I did and not only did I I studied the laws and I looked into the chu for and I spoke to people and I gathered all that so that I a I have a a better understanding of what's going on and and and when I share with others it it it it all fits in but if you you say you know push it uh the night of the wedding uh you you you'll have your intimate experience cuz that's a Mitzvah the night of the wedding but you don't know what you're doing and you don't understand and then and then sometimes you get all messed up I'm not saying it's always that way I want to make it clear there are thousands of people who do who get married this way but it's becoming more and more by the way in the from Community where there is more learning and idea um of of these subjects because we are having you know more divorce and and issues of young people so it's better to um be be knowledgeable kind of and know what to expect and to you know discuss it with a a teacher mashia both for men and for women and a parent you know and and to really understand that there's something very special about an Embrace and about a kiss and about an intimate moment and and a relationship and you know it's it's but you are right Yi know there there was and probably still is and I would say Yoni that it's it's really more in theic community more than the Lish Community maybe n Ro and ponich not ponich but you know in me sharum I don't know but in America I I would say it's it's it's more in the community I mean uh don't don't I I don't believe that in Lakewood which is the Bastion of of the Lish World here in America that they don't know about these things sorry you won't sell me uh the Brooklyn Bridge you know um but you know if he told me some sers and square and things like that I would agree to that okay got to go another Shear see you all tomorrow Z take care bye-bye byebye