Israel's safety includes being non-judgemental of each other - 3 levels - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

we're holding now middle of page 41 me Al chapter 32 in T and we're at the first period it's the uh Fifth Line three words into the line and the AL is explains to us that the mitah is and this is the of his that means exactly like yourself you should love someone else as your s meaning just as you don't judge yourself negatively and just as it's impossible to to to look at yourself outside of yourself what do I mean the fact is that every ye every person is is who they are thei says it best thei says when one hand hurts the hurts the other hand does one hand get upset with the second hand it's part of your one goof so so too is that every ye is you it's you another nuda that we didn't mention yesterday let's say love of brothers and sisters siblings the the truth is before come in and people start fighting about inheritances and such stuff but when you're young and you know your children we're children then there's a natural love it's not like I love my brother because my brother gives me a lollipop I love my sister because my sister has nice hair it's ridiculous you come from the same mother and father or you come from a half whatever the case so there's something called and that's what the AL in this chapter is being he's telling us that the only way of you can have true unconditional unconditional is if the is an an essential AA not an AA that's that's the language used p a conditional AA if it's a conditional AA we will never be able to have will'll be able to help and and we'll be able to be nice it's all fine but to love someone else as you love yourself impossible when is it possible if it's ANM if the whole idea is coming from the essence so now now is going to explain how can we reach this state and Al says basically because we're all one people let's look inside by by the period on page since a person's body is Despicable and disgusting by to himself the tyus the indulgences and Cravings are all disgusting and the and the soul and the spirit who knows how great and how virtuous is a person's soul when you look at someone else and you say he's a schlepper she's a this and I'm a this says really keep me de you know about the person's soul no you don't all you know is about their tie their pants their eyebrows what job they [Applause] have you don't know about NE and since you don't know about their the soul therefore it could it be that their soul is greater than your soul for some reason it got fbl fbl means you know lost it got lost it's temporary and lost but when you reveal this so boy that you have the greatest man think there so many people you can think of but let's say RAB Ginsburg y Ginsburg at one point in his life in early life he wasn't uh from Jew for whatever reason and then he discovered um Y and and and this whole story and and he is today RAB Ginsburg the the so someone were to look at G Ginsburg when he was uh 18 years old or 17 whatever 19 20 whatever the age was I'll say man no a bright guy you know a science student and very nice but uh you know what does it have to do with MIT now look at him today you'll say I would be like Ginsburg right so you never know so therefore since don't know don't be judgmental because he can be he has can have a greater Soul than you that's number one now you have to make like a k after the word then says I'm sorry not not here not here not here one doesn't know the the person's soul in its root in the Living God period that's number one hereo point number two and although they they they and and also not although and also All Souls correspond and they have one father what's the AL adding with this Al is adding the following this explained explained it's important to know this the the has different stages so one stage is that there differences between Souls when you m when you think about the first point who knows who's greater you're acknowledging there is greater and not greater great and virtuous right so what does that imply MOA what does that imply that there's a soul that's not great and not virtuous and you don't know so if you don't know don't be judgmental so that is not the highest level is Sir why because that means that you're saying kind of in the godhead From hashem's perspective there's higher and lower and it's is that true comes says that's one level in other words now here gives several reasons why being judgmental is erroneous so but the first point is there's differences between greater and lower virtuous and not but you don't know in other words if I were to know according to the first idea Hill if I were to know which if I had an understanding of Souls and I know Hill that your soul is so and so I would have a certain right to either love you Kam or not love you Kam comes along the Al and says no wrong you know why because we all have one father since we have a in a I'm sorry before before means Point number twoo we all correspond the level of kimus means there is no higher and lower we're all one yet even this level of we're all one means there are two that are one you see there's a differ saying there's only one and the third point one father means there's only one so we have three things here number one is there's a difference between higher and lower Souls number two there's no difference between Higher One Second m one second please there's no difference between higher and lower Souls but but there's still two there's you and I number three is there's no two it's all one CU there's only one father in other so so what's saying what is your perspective this is what he's getting in how how this is is giving us a way how to have this right CU it's a very big struggle to love someone else like myself it's very difficult so he says I understand this difficult therefore I want you to think about what is going on here with the so the perspective of souls remember the first thing he established in yesterday's year was you got to look from the Soul's perspective that was the whole chapter 31 if you look from the body's perspective you'll never have OB okay so now we're going to look from the Soul's perspective from the Soul's perspective there are three different perspectives one is I don't know who's better and who's therefore who's not so good therefore keep your mouth shut and stop being judgmental but from that perspective there still is a difference between the two in the sense that one is greater and one is lower the second perspective the deeper perspective is it's not about better and you know higher and lower it's two means we both correspond so there's two that correspond the third point is we have one father from the perspective of one father there's no difference it's not two that become one it's only one look at his language one father and that's the perspective that I have explained with the mush Del there brings in Chapter 2 and Tanya with the the the the the drop of semen coming from the brain of the father then going into the mother the the the the um the nine months and then coming out right so there says a similar thing he says similar thing when the when the fetus is in the mother the nine months there's already another the fetus is already a fetus it's not born as a human but it's a fetus but where did it come from it came from a and the drop of semen as it is in the a does doesn't give place for a fetus it's Sean in the brain of the father how however we understand that right so in other words from that perspective all there is is the father seen so now so so to over here the perspective of how to have at the end of the day is to realize and there's no difference not that not that there is a difference and I don't know the difference and not that there's two that becomes one there's only one that's what he says over here M what you want to say yeah just I just want to understand this word the a little bit better with the word maot it's from the Hebrew word matin meaning like appropriate um appropriate but like they go together they go together they go together the two go together so he's saying that you and the other person right we're talking about love to another we go together but that means we go together there is M and there's and we go together the third perspective is there isn't there is only AEM and hasem has a lots of branches and lots of things and then he he lets it all out in the universe people and and so when you talk about let's let's for psychologically for a second break this down when you talk about being able to have unconditional love unconditional feelings is when you don't look at the other person as other person it's yourself cuz you we both we're both and other words who are we of we are father the makes it's it's one big Nish it says in Caba we come from other ration I mean all the capitalistic ideas but the ideas were one and that's why he says here this idea the Reb once explained if so why does the AL have to say point one and two just go to point three you know how you can have is because you you think about why is the first point and the second Point why is that relevant and he explained a very important point and this is very practical too if you don't come to a point in your life where you appreciate the person's individuality you're missing in other words yes we come from but guess what this says is is a doctor and he's a social worker and an artist and a CER and and and we are whatever we are right now can you have AB is to the individuality individual so the point one and two emphasizes there is an individual in other words someone will say I have a for you know why you're God's child then ask that person do you have obious thr for for their idiosyncrasies do you have a for their particular hairstyle do you have a for the way they make Davin no no no no no no no no no that drives me nuts this I don't like that means your your your is not true that's what Al says point one and two the means there is there is differences we all are different yes is isn't speaking again isn't he speaking about the yes make a differentiation between the person's and their behavior right yes mean maybe they you know maybe they how they dve in maybe that falls in in the ghetter of their behavior or maybe if they wear blue hair maybe that falls in the you know in their behavior very good very good point but everything begins with the the why does this Nish choose to D in this way you're right the behavior is the manifestation but everything begins within the sh right so so in other words the question is can you accept AA that has a certain orientation I'm I'm going to I'm going to I'm going to throw a curveball here because it just came to me so I'm going to say it can you accept and I had discussions here over shabas can you accept on the shama the side of of of a relative I don't want to say of a child but of a relative who decides to become a transgender again that's that's they the sh that's how can I judge how could we judge the right right but I'm saying practically let let let let's for a moment you know come down to earth it's your own child it's your own relative it's your own friend and you know it's like you know what's going on over here it's it's it's a strouble and we all agree it's not easy it's not easy is not saying that inappropriate behavior is acceptable he's not that's he's not a or or or or a homosexual or what whatever whatever the issue is this is not this is not this is not we're talking about in the sh from like and I'm glad you brought that out from the's perspective this is a for some reason this Nish has some orientation I mean I can explain it it's brought down in theel I don't want to go into it that is talks about these you know where there is reincarnation of a female Soul into a male and vice versa and maybe that's a possible reason for a transgender issue I don't want to go into it it's another discussion and and at the end of what it's too late you already went into it right no then the point being is do no I mean to say is do we know I I I can I can tell you what the Aral says but but but no one knows I'm not an Aral you know the Aral knew he saw soul I don't see soul I can tell you what it says and it says that these things are possible Right does so so when we learn this this the idea is that you have obious means it all you all come we all come from one father our souls come from one father and for some reason on the the Tree of Life dat they from there there are these issues that doesn't mean to say that you shouldn't you know work with someone who has these issues and you know Etc and and and and try to work them out but how I gave a very extreme example I know that but I I I to to to to make the point clear I felt it's important in other words and and and the same over here now right imagine now what's going on imagine someone else want to make a decision that's going to upset all the from yeen all you know so what are you going to say I hate him I want to kill him there's a soul that's perished for some reason he's from M now of course we're going to argue is the behavior causing the soul so the and Torah teach us everything's everything starts with the sh everything starts with the and if the has a certain orientation it's going to and and this we learned in the remember H and Shai why is H mostly M and Shai is mostly M what does the AL say he says there in the name of cab another that because the orientation of H is and the orientation of sh is G that has nothing to do with with with with this issue and that issue now we don't know we don't know that's why when a person believes in aad believes in a re there's a belief that the sadik does know the AR does know the does know right so when you believe a sadic you you believe that that sadic knows something about souls about n so but the AL is not you know openly discussing that he's talking about an average ye's relationship with another ye should be with AB let's continue I want to com about yes that seems to me uh kind of irly maybe we'll get more explicitly into this idea but but um that that considering the last chapter talking about kind of you know crushing the body so to speak and identifying with the soul and uh and now and now uh and now sort of saying it seem seems to me saying there's kind of a danger in uh that you could that that attitude of sort of U despising the body and it's it's urgent can can extend to despising other people in the same way uh scorting them in other way and it seems to me a kind of inherent danger in um in in mysticism in mystical teachings especially like uh um uh of of any kind that um because you you want to contemp if you want to contemplate the origins of souls well you can you can say well one soul is more highly evolved than another one soul is greater than another there's a kind of a danger in that uh that uh you can kind of look down well uh look at that guy he's had 12 incarnations and he only never finished his neish work you know and uh and and it seems to me that that's kind of at the root of of you like looking in in in Indian Society kind of the cast system the idea that people a reincarnation are are sort of born at a certain level so Society has the right to uh to cast them treat them differently as a result and also in the in the doctrines of Nazism that you know the idea of a superior race uh of so it seems to me like he's sort of uh saying we should remember that uh um even though we're sort of relating to our own body in this way that it has these urges and we want to distance ourselves from them that we want we don't want to allow that to sort of infect our attitudes towards other people interesting I never never thought of it from that uh perspective thank you for sharing let me think more about it but I I hear you let's continue says that's why we're all called all yeen are called all Jews are called Brothers it's because of of the source of our souls in the one God it's only our bodies are different but as far as Souls were all Brothers those that make their bodies primary and their souls ancillary it is impossible for them to have love and Brotherhood true Brotherhood amongst themselves between themselves the love that they have is only one that's dependent on something it's conditional that's the meaning of statement regarding the Fulfillment of the quote this is the entire Torah is in is in this one Mitzvah and all the other mitzvas of the who are an explanation of this one mitvah what does that mean it seems to be a very perplexing statement Al explains excuse me for the source of the entire it is what's the purpose of it's to exalt to elevate Soul over body Mila Mila upward upward to its very Source the of all the spiritual worlds not only is it to exalt and Elevate the soul to its source the the purpose is also also to have the soul then draw itself come down to bring down the soul will cause for for the Infinity of God to come into the world the Jewish congregation spiritually as we'll learn later in the Infinity of Hashem will come into the source of all Je Souls when they'll be become they'll be one one one specifically not when there is distinction and differences and divisiveness God forbid why not that God does not rest in a place of of blemishes meaning of divisiveness and as we say father bless us all like one with the light of a countenance has explained elsewhere so in other words when do we have the B of V when do we have of V it's like you have to make a comma after the words when will we have the blessing from God from on high that he'll bless us our father will bless us when and I'm telling you this is true if we continue with and just pump and and and stop with the divisiveness and I'm this and she's this and he's this and all that we have the we have the so the this last section he says that's now I'll finish with this that's now the explanation to what H said H said that the that the entire is encapsulated in one Mitzvah in how could that be this what's the answer is I told you this yesterday so I'll just make it brief the is demonstrative that this one Mitzvah of of of making Soul primary and body ancillary because from the body's perspective H there's differences okay both M said in behavior and there all kinds of differences from the body's perspective I cannot have obious so someone who who focuses on the soul and the Soul heal is not scornful the soul has it's in its pure state in its pure State when you focus on the the then you have mercy and then you work with people in in other words if someone want to tell us is it someone to tell us this and this person you know I used the example before we transgender so I I'll use I'll say it again if someone tell you from God's from on high that soul had transgender um issues from on high you would have a different perspective you would you would say you the The Compassion would be much more what do you want from them what do you want from them okay we have to work with them you know someone wants to jump off a a bridge you try to stop them the Reba said this by the way the rebba I think spoke only one time about um homosexuality by fa I think I was there and the Reb did not say at that faan that the argument that it's genetic is not true he didn't say that I I remember we were discussing it after fa the rebba said even if it is the case you know that doesn't mean you shouldn't help them that I remember and the same is here but the compassion on a person whether it's this issue or that issue I'm just using issues whatever is coming from the soul perspective and that's what Al says that's what T is about when we put on in the morning and H and and and is has wonderful beautiful P that I just I see right P the Mitzvah of p is is is is is is really the m is part of the Mitzvah how pay means you know others cut cut off their payis completely to look a certain way and I'm and the T says no I want hasem says I want you to have a payer here so what are you doing when you have a payer what are you doing you're following God you're following hasem that means you're making spirituality Soul primary and the way you look ancillary MOA right the big beard right that's it that's Rus over some will say oh you look look so much better without a beard you're such a handsome guy you're a matcho guy take your beard off you say sorry chap I I it's a holy thing and I right so what you're doing is you're saying over gmas that's what you're saying with every aspect in in in in in in in in in gmas when you do a Mitzvah whether it's the P whether it's the beard or whatever else it's all about as he says here to raise the soul to God and and and to make that primary which Mitzvah out of all the Mitzvah demonstrates this clearly when you can love someone if you can love someone as yourself that means that you're definitely looking at the beard and at the pay and at the I mean to say theas right cuz otherwise you wouldn't look at them you wouldn't want to be next to them right you know I come from this family I come from this class I don't want to be with the schleppers I don't want to you know what I'm saying and that's why when you come across a ye a whatever a family a person who's humble and you see that how the person Embraces Brokenhearted people people who are not you know people you know who who you would normally asso and and and he doesn't do it because he's gaining mileage out of it but simply because of attach yourself to such a person follow such a person learn with such a person learn in other words this person is you know and I saw it with the re really you know in so many situations he could have it could have should have you know no no he didn't make differences he really didn't he didn't make differences even that Jew that comes to the rebba you've seen the video with Jews for yoska right so he gives the rebba a book and the rebba kind of throws it away you know because rebba didn't want anyone else to but but if you listen to their conversation the the Reba tells him you're a Jew and if you think that with yashka you're you're you're spiritually sick and we need to heal you in other words it doesn't mean hey lovey doy we're going to embrace everyone you can do whatever you want no that's not that's not Torah you can do whatever you want but we're going to work with each other and we're going to look at the and and and people feel great that way that's how we have you wanted to say something no okay have a great day and we only have safety and shom and Mia now take care see you tomorrow byebye