Israel: No Pain, No Gain - War is springboard for Unimaginable Growth - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

on page 86 we're going to conclude the mitem now the 34th chapter in Tanya K so until now the AL explained to us various various ways of how to gain Sim in your life through beginning from chapter 26 till through this point in 34 what he deals with today is an issue that's relevant to all the nine chapters and that is a very very simple issue it's so simple that we all have it every day how do you balance the two how do you balance the reality that my urges and indulgences are always with me from the moment I'm born to the moment Hashem takes us back our urges are there if you could find me someone who uh the urges are gone completely then we call them a sadik or you can't find such a person I mean we have sadik him but the average person and the is addressed to the ban to the average person has urges has indulgences has Tas has Str struggles doesn't mean that that that that the person is is a bad person evil person the person is a normal person like AB once told me the the the P the about a Jew is not is not the go isn't the Pella the isn't the Wonder the Wonder is the Jew how can a Jew transcend the normal way of life the normal way of life as symbolized by the World by go by is the norm you know I was thinking about this driving yesterday as it applies today to the situation the norm of a be it you know this terrible barbaric nail like enemy Hamas or be it someone around the corner from you in in Evon Illinois it's one and the same the difference is the degree I always go back to a line that I heard from Manis fredman Manis said why is it that you live in a certain place and you feel anti-Semitism so you say I'm moving somewhere else you come to the next place again there anti-Semitism you go to you go across the world you feel anti-Semitism why because the answer is the answer is very simple one second MOA the answer is very simple the nature of the world is anti-g goodliness anti-judaism anti-jew why because the Jew is not understood that's what man's point was the Jew is not understood it the Jew is not normal so the normal person says I don't get you and you must be hiding something therefore I hate you and and this isn't Theory this happened to me in Marin County California when we sought to to have a legal right to have a Sho aabad house you know I don't know if AB you've been to to Marin but Marin County is a very uh docile area you've been there and Marine county is gorgeous it's beautiful it's it's it's upper middle class it it got everything going for it right including the um including the heathenism depicted in the documentary in the 1970s about people you know smoking um marijuana in their hot tubs that was miring County it was the like you can have the best of both worlds you work in the city in San Francisco you cross the Golden Gate Bridge you go home to tiberon mil Valley with redwards the mure woods it's gaval di so and here I'm trying to put up a little Shool the building was there it was the original Farmhouse of the 528 or 38 design planned area of homes what what are we trying to do we took a home a large home had 20 I think fruit trees on it six parking places with car had a a pool it had a two-story house it was the only kind it was the original Farm housee it was owned by a Hawaiian at the time so Ralph Castro I remember his name cuz I bought it from him so and and they don't want us there I said well why don't you want us there because you you do things differently it's 95° outside Saturday morning everyone's either in their air condition or or or walking their shorts and all that and you guys are with these white things prayer Shaws and and black things and you you know and then there like you're praying like what's going on here suspicion suspicion it's called in America you know xenophobia we were a classical case of xenophobia okay I'm still urging a lawyer in my son's community in Carl Springs Florida read my book I put out a book called kabad House years ago all the court proceedings and the Reb's answers and and the whole history of what I went through for three years of my life 3 four years believe me they were 3 four years like 80 years I I if I if I think about it I Was An Architect I was a contractor I was a lawyer I was a rabbi one man I did it all I'm not bragging I'm saying it was like I remember I drove from a ren to a Freehold uh not Freehold Freehold New Jersey uh to somewhere an hour an hour and a half away to to to go see a uh an architect who's from India who we we we we discussed what type of beam I need to have and how it can fit into the zoning codes I mean that's what I was dealing with I wasn't teaching sh I I I had to get this thing on the ground of we did it but the fear from the unknown so every GOI every non-jew and I don't say go in a derogatory way I mean every non-jew doesn't understand the Jewish people and therefore every non-jew doesn't want the Jewish people the most you could say is they tolerate us and Kamas doesn't tolerate us but in in teaching he taught us the the the the Pella the Wonder is not about the go that's what a go is that's what the nations of the world are that's what the world is the the Wonder is us how do we survive that's miraculous that we survived all these years and continue not just to survive but to thrive that is a yes MOA now you wanted to say something yeah I just wanted to ask in the context of this what we're talking about when we talk about the non non-jewish Nations okay but up until now I understand but what about let's say people who are that's different that's different of course of course the ramb says that those that fulfill the seven so GM are 100% GM you know that are real I understand you're asking me about you're asking me about goally the ra writes that those that accept the are are are different than ordinary go so they've there's also a difference in their attitude towards Jews you know to to be able to tell you exactly what's the difference you know spiritually I don't think anyone could tell you that you know but but overall they identify with the Jewish people but but don't miss the point I'm I'm glad you asked that but that's not the point I want I want you to walk away with I want you to walk away with m is that the Kish is us not them okay and let us not forget that it's like you know the Nazi Spanish Inquisition all the wars the Christian Crusaders you know the the the Turks I mean it Rome it's just a continuation there's no difference over here the difference is the barbarism and and you know the brutality and but it's all part of the same thing okay and those that that tolerate there's always a bone a carrot bone you know we need Israel in the Middle East so we're going to give them hopefully $10 billion you know what I'm saying uh we need oal so Israel will be you know what I'm saying there's always caveat now how does This Ti into what we learned in Tanya here today we're going to learn now is that the AL asks this question say how do you balance the two I am a Jew in a world I am a Jew in a in in a secular world how can I be happy and at the same time acknowledge the weakness so this is what he says let's learn now page 86 uh it's about seven eight lines from the end of the chapter after the period in regard to all the details that we learned earlier to to find Sim joy of the nees a person should be happy in their service to hasem there is no obstacle from the fact that there is a downtrodden a [Applause] brokenheartedness act at the actual time when you have simultaneously It's upsetting and why is he brokenhearted because he looks in the mirror and he says what a jerk I am what a what wow wow I come on I this is shameful this is shameful says the Al and he repeats it basically what he said earlier in chapter 31 that perspective of is the perspective of the body my body is an animal my body is AA my body IND wants indulges but NE but the the soul I have that indulg those indulgences and those attitudes and those course uh attitudes are all from the the the body the body the body and its needs and and the animal drive but simultaneously I have a the and the makes me very happy that's from the perspective of The Godly and The Godly spark that's invested in The Godly to enliven it as we said earlier says if you think I I'm making up a story he says it's a piece of there's a story in the Zoya listen to the story the son of who we all FL to right was sitting and teaching his sonim was teaching and they came across the whole Su the whole idea of Destruction ofb soer realized and it was very sad he told he taught him the esoteric idea of destruction of hban and at the same time he became happy reel why he was sad that he heard from his father the inner meaning of hban which is very deep and sad but at the same time guess what he heard secrets of the T he heard Caba he heard Z he heard the secrets he understood the secret the esoteric deeper meaning and he became happy says the look at the language now tears planted in one side in the Heart from one side and happiness joyfulness planted in inserted in the heart from the other side and this wraps it up and this puts it to sleep what is that that the AL is saying using this teaching of thees that this is the way Hashem made it in the world happiness and joy go happiness and sadness go together and and if you EXT extrapolate that it's it's even it's the following the struggles and the successes go hand in hand if you don't have struggles you don't have successes if you don't have successes you don't have struggles the re always quoted the listen to this and the re said my father-in-law said a Jew should always be a b you know what a B is in debt I I plenty Jews can say that I'm a debt tuition and bills and the previous says y that a Jew should say I want to be a what if you want to be a you want to be debt you want to pay your bills so the re explained that what my father what his father-in-law meant was that the way to have success is to have the feeling that you're in debt even if you're not not in that but if you're sitting on your loins and playing golf or in in Palm Springs and in the winter and nothing is shaking and moving you you're not growing you need the as it says in the you need you need simultaneously simultaneous to the happiness of success you need to have the frustration that comes from wanting to do more I'm not doing enough and Liv this way and the taught this way 1975 a group of B were in Florida the and they were in Yesa and it was purm time and they wrote to the Reb that they gathered 5,000 children and made ainos you know the reab answered him that's all gaed 24,000 so ask yourself the question whatab was a mean guy bab didn't know how to give it a compliment of course he did but theba was teaching his own boys his own his own out there don't pacify your work with 5,000 when when morai who represents you know the story of of M and of porm did 24 so big deal five compared to 24 big deal not that you shouldn't do that but don't pat yourself on the back it's the same thing that we're learning here and in life it's that way too and again I I I share with you things that I I I saw by the Reba by the faans growing up and I think about it now I'm older the re can be clapping look at the videos he can be clapping and making with his hands and the the place is electrified right and 5 minutes later he's choking up and he can't speak he can't speak when he talks about Russian Jews or he can't speak when in 1980 a Russian Jew was shot and murdered in cron Heights you know in middle of that he said that following shabas he spoke about it or when leine was murdered NE Mrs leine Right the same reab who is seen to be you know so beyond tears so beyond uh you know brokenheartedness and frustration and all of that no because that's and that's all predicated on this little piece in Tanya here and that's what the AL is saying to us here at the end of the nine chapters the nine chapters of sim says Sim comes together with struggle Sim comes together with pain if there's no pain there's no gain that's it that's it but and and and the and the more the pain meaning the more the struggle and the more you realize that the struggle is coming only to help you and the what exactly so when you realize that then the is greater so actually even this little part this concluding section of chapter 34 which is really a conclusion of all the nine chapters is relevant to all the different meditations Reflections that he gave in the nine chapters to gain Sim in your life and and and and I would say that it's all predicated on this in other words if someone says it's like you know the organizations that say oh not 25 ways for Sim in the 80s 70s ' 80s this was a big thing you know college we're going to give you 25 different ways to be happy if you come to our course in our program doesn't give you no 25 ways Del tells you here the end if you think that you you're going to have happiness and going to say if I'm going to put on Fillin I'm only going to have good and and and I'm never going to have a bad day in my life you're a big fool and you don't and you don't understand the the T you don't understand God and you don't understand yourself what what do you what do you you putting you put yes and we know what it says in the it says if you follow my ways you'll get the r you'll get yeah and and if it doesn't happen it's like the FI of the mar and the rash he was such a dedicated and he was a wealthy man he owned businesses in kuk he owned you know soap business and cigarettes business and he had properties and and he also had the the logs going down the the River Lumber business and one day it all went up first the first you know the the log business and then the Communists came and the revolution came and uh took away all his properties so they said but they benched you and the de promised he said now I'm a when the de promises me and it and it comes into the bank and it works out who says I'm really a oh you understand now there's a war now that's what hasem wants don't ask don't ask why I I don't know why but that's what it is right now now to be a ye to be a to be a believer now now is where it counts now when when and not and again I don't want to say not that we should wish for a war God forbid that's against the T and not that that we should wish for pain and not that we should wish for death God forbid it's against the T but when when and God said Hashem sends us a clear message and he did I say it again and again on that October 7th God closed the eyes of the Jewish people and this is what happened it's from Hashem I don't care if they're going to find out that nanyu and the other Colonel commanders and the whole group of them are guilty and then after the war they're going to fire him sorry chap it's from Hashem it doesn't mean to say that all these people did things that were right or did things wrong and they need to be be there needs to be din there needs to be judgment there needs to be decisions but the at the end of the day it's so if it's and the curve ball is being thrown at you it's coming to the plate and the batter standing with his Bat and it's coming you need to react if you're not going to react either you'll get a strike or you get a ball in your head or whatever so you need to react how do we react by saying if Hashem sends this message I'm going to only show what I'm really made of strength power and and Al in in this chapter understanding the difficulty the difficulty the difficulty of it and boy are difficult without I don't want to you know what I have to give scenarios you all see it on the screen and and like some of you have real life situations I don't have to it's not my place it's the you know is saying that this is the zes is saying this is the real Jew this is the real Jew the real Jew is and you made a commitment you know I'm thinking about you as I'm sleep going to sleep how you you know you could all been a in La Yi in New York in in in Chicago you could all been comfortable just like look here here we are in Brooklyn and we're talking about it but I go to sh life life is normal they say an extra Capital till him at the end of ding wow they give extra to daa wow it's it's right but the the soldiers on the field in Gaza fighting this enemy this is this is this is real so it's it talk is cheap okay and I know that but at the same time the AL knows it too and thees knows it too and what they're sharing with us is what Hashem teaches what Hashem wants what Hashem wants for the world and Hashem wants for the world stand strong know that challenges make you stronger and and and live your and in every situation and you'll come out stronger somehow and therefore he concludes the the nine chapters this is the key that all of sim predicated on the simultaneous ups and downs of life and and and and we need to think about this and really knock it into our heads and into our hearts and into our children and grandchildren with and will definitely show us very soon the greater the greater light which we don't necessarily see it now but there's no question that has a plan and it's just a matter of time it meem with Mia's coming let's hope and pray that this last war is like the last and and and msia will come and I'm not talking about as a is it not you know that I I'll allow brighter people if you call them brighter people that they can tell you what what is you know was pretty bright I think and you know he didn't speak this way and he didn't say we should you know I mean yeah it's good for P time you know when you're having a beer on shabas with some arabis and you want to talk about you know prophecies okay but but you know there's a of go with the tus go with the T go with the rim go with the family go with normality and but but realize that there's something happening there's something greater happening this isn't just another incursion this is really a a revelation May Hashem help that we have a great chabas and we hear the news that we took care of the enemy and we're all coming back safe to and to the families and with us Monday on Monday we go back to our regular time so M that's a what time is the regular time [Music] 245 yeah 245 cuz we are we are moving one second