Is it the Chabad way to reduce speaking loshon hara during Elul? Stories abt this Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

foreign to my beloved my beloved is to me I begin the process of coming to God Almighty in making account of what I did throughout the year and Hashem reciprocates with Lady Lee yesterday I was talking to a son of a of a famous Russia Shiva a literature a little Shiva who was from Europe yet and I needed to find out something about his father something I'm writing about so he said he didn't know so I asked him this one of his brothers maybe no and he says you can try this and this brother but the problem is he doesn't speak during the month of evil only things of holiness Musser but anything that's mundane he doesn't speak so I said to him but it's not yet it's only the first day yesterday was the first day today is the first of allos I said he saw from he's so mockberry so religious and so stringent that he begins even on the first day of his college which is really the 30th day of of he laughed and he said yeah serious businesses so I told them that I remember growing up my father told me that in Yeshiva in lud my father learned it from 1950 to 58 Castleman that the bahrim would Davin with focus and concentration and about that's called it's a bad way of meditation and and prayer and they would reduce their speaking in general and in particular I remember hearing this with my father it stood out in his mind that he shared it with with me as a young boy as a teenager so I told this to him and he said yes of course of course it's kind of show and this is what I would like to bring to the table today is it a Lubavitch thing to reduce your speaking of Russian during khaidu you know the the hoffitzheim foundation an organization they they take the holy Hafiz khayam's words seriously and they make campaigns about reducing your speech and and kindness Deborah fasting but fasting through not speaking not fasting through not eating it's called time it's deeper and there's an entire kind of campaign and world around that it was never an issue the famous saying is that they they told the Russian Bear the fifth of the Bible about salvation and then this is what they say and said it's yes it's a great thing but our emphasis is not about not a we don't emphasize the speaking of being careful what you speak speak but rather what you think about mashava automatically if your thoughts will be pure and clean and and proper and not gossip of course you won't speak gossip and the two aren't mutually exclusive okay they can work hand in hand it's not that one is better than the other but nevertheless the focus in the Babbage in Chabad is under marksheva so therefore when I ask you is it okay should we make a campaign during ELO to reduce speaking mundane things and particularly Russian horror and gossip the answer is of course but without what we call the yahirazo the hiratso means the trimmings you know oh we are now causing Unity of God's name through doing the Mitzvah of not speaking Russian that you don't have and that's not a bad way of thinking but the issue itself of being invested and involved during this month in more spiritual matters and tolerant matters and hasidus and davening and praying and automatically reducing the time that one speaks mundane conversation including gossip and Russian Hara absolutely I recall years ago I was giving a lecture in Los Angeles on Pico Boulevard I had a series there six part series and a woman raises her hand and she says you know I stopped talking to my friend she said it in public in front of many people he said why because every time we speak on the phone we speak about someone so I said to her that's one way to do it the other way is to change your conversation to something more lofty sophisticated and holy and spiritual so on one hand we need a very grounded approach on the other hand we need to understand that is about touching the thought how you think about something the story they say with he wanted the mashpim and Lubavitch and Beholder alter he was yet a Hassan of the samache and he would Daven at length and one Friday someone came from far away and he was dirty a husband came to see the rabbit to be with the rebel for Shabbos and he comes into the basement and there's no one there except from behold this is in LA babic and his Talus is over his head and he's davening you can hear him governing with with cavana with with Focus concentration and it's very movement moving now the hasid knew this knew that he knew that he really shouldn't disturb him but he had no choice he needed a birstel a vegetal is a brush and neither a vegetable to polish his shoes because his shoes was full of Schmutz from the travel in those days in those roads so he he Taps it up behold he says I'm sorry for disturbing your darling but maybe Shabbos is coming was a wintery Shabbos it was early maybe you have or you know where I can get a brush to brush my shoes so that they're polished and they look decent for Shoppers look over Shabbos around the hall turns to discuss it and he says you came all the way to be in the Bible says right in the Bible nisht supports in the Sheikh nor it puts in their Cup and the Babbage should come not to polish your shoes rather to polish your head polish the way you think the shoes is practical you don't need this for practicality to do this and don't do that there's a concise there's Musser this is something go around this very different see this would say is Reich see this is Rich what do you mean this is Rich this is sophisticated in the sense that it puts the person in a different domain and a different Realm and this is what we should make the focus of and once you have that naturally you don't have time to gossip and to speak ill of another person or even speak mundane conversation because the entire level you're involved in the husband on Netflix and what it means to be be one with Hashem and the opportunity because the king is in the field it starts today the king is in the field I thought about it this morning as I was dominating and said wow it makes you happy I have an opportunity hey the king you're right next to me hey how can we have a conversation so this positive Spin and this positive attitude is the Chabad way of looking at ello and no question about it through this will happen to have the xivable we will we will be written and inscribed in a good year of life and health and Panasonic and all other good things we'll see as we say Ella was also an acronym for this video is