Is it possible to Cry and Laugh at the Same Time? - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

Hey 365 [ __ ] this is the last that no it's not next to last ice we're learning to my Mahalo Samba higher and the less thing that I've explained was the difference between Marino's and Ahava frustration at the motor frustration versus the mode of Simcox usually simcha and the difference between Ava and yireh so let's go on and cuz he's still a middle of that port um them however cozy paced out cause bean burritos the simpler the other the year this difference these differences that we explained earlier between frustration and simple and between love and yet arrived Anita that the Asia who big medius and he and he repeats this point that he's emphasizing he see how he's made he wants to really say it again and again that during the time of burritos in a Shia cleric in a simcha it's not only that he doesn't have simpler he's not able to relate to simple in a science club but I've been out there on the contrary how simple my surface touka Alberta Rosa simcha at that time adds upsetness to his marinos in other words when you drive when you what well sure what the word to go I believe the word means from upsetness anger upsetness it makes you more upset I think there's a word to go yeah in cuz I'll they bring it into the motor like a tiny Italia an argument you know so when you're when you're it when you're frustrated and someone try is making you happy you don't the simpler or you try it doesn't work and it gets you more upset that's that's what he means they shall be simple and conversely when you are in the mode of simpler English I fling in armadillos you're at that crime not trying to Marino's to frustration you're totally the simcha you can't hear any notion of mid of similar they ain't some double typhus I'm sorry you can't hear any notion of frustration he ain't some double typhus muck him because at that time nothing nothing is valuable we've got a driver who sure who buddy compared to the good that you're into at that time you're in the mode my chef simcha and you're you're totally percent Club that's that's all you know about and anything outside of simcha you don't hear that's what he says so even if you're trying to interject a a frustration mold to give you an extra high it doesn't work because you are in simpler mode and it calls that who bit critical said you loo you sense that ever this is all what I'm talking about the revealed powers the clay perceptive in other words the state of being in which your clayey your your attribute your emotion you're feeling is active I will because if this ask me in but there's something consider says called Clayface osmium the essential place by nefesh which are rooted in soul how to a numbers caucus they're not divided now let me explain heceta says their various aspects two places there's something called Clara sake Lou iam the revealed places and Clara's ask me in the essential places in other words let's say the clay off of facet there is the said as the facet as the flaccid manifests itself the manifestation of a facet depends on the environment depends on your mood and depends on who you are whereas we're as the closest osmium this is not created by the outside stimuli ie the environment the purse the other person in the situation rather it's who you are side we call that clay this Oxman so there and and the proof that this cussedness brings is that at a time of a wedding of a child someone who's usually frugal is very expensive how could that be normally we see this person is acting you know about it and in a frugal way but what yet the person splurges what happened what happened is at the time of a simplice of a child it touches the essence the class the way the class is in essence and the class in its essence is not frugal it's not frugal and it's not spread drift it's basically essential so if the simple is so great and the the expansion becomes so great that's one of the proofs that it brings another proof for example if someone is underpinned under a car you will find that there people are able to actually pick the car up to some but and unpin de how could that be they don't look so they don't look like up in the body builder because there's a clarity of of saving the life that's very deeply rooted in the person so this is these are examples and there are many more examples of places oxygen so that Epis sense when we're talking about classes I've seen him there's no escape us there's no division between Marino's and simcha and alga and inner it's all one - ah it's all one notion what let's see what he says he made some big shot at samosa now this is a rhetorical remark you got admission I think it'll pay attention because this is this is deep stuff for him and if he loses trade of thought you can be lost the rhetorical mark the immigration is the denotes a rhetorical question and although the immigration although it's an eczema husam if you look at their very essence Hema forums and is a not those I guess when you talk about the activity of the class you can argue with you or you could explain there are two positions of the activity of the courier but the fact is the class itself was out its activity small either its average Sierra either love affair either simple arenas so that that's his rhetorical remark he says I understand that there is the class in a manifest of state and there is the courier in an essential state in the person's being but nevertheless others haven't year as year I love Isla with what he telling me love is fear fear is love it means two different feelings that's his question I believe that this is the report to his rhetorical question I believes and how do you say Linley a snake in effort nevertheless is you're right but the fact is that if the expression of the X M is in a way called classist ax Mian they can both be expressed simultaneously how do you homeliest name Casa they could both be together I always say the story to explain this is with the famous cousin of the jeddak and he actually was a baby in his crib when the Altair ever saw him and was hustled and that he was positive the Midler F that salmon salad red Mirage yet the rishabh and he saw the previous rather in his crib so this closet was the saw six rabbits six Lubavitch Erebus he lived to his late 80s or 90s oh yeah delicious yummy his name was repair it's hey there's Alabama family Fame and there are many of them that are named parrots named as a sweet I think in Harvard or or a universities called Paris Spain he's a campus somewhere well his ancestor way back was parents gain disgusted that I'm telling you about he was also a rose in the city of chair [ __ ] okay so this parents pained have seen them so a very unusual thing about his his face they they saw that on in one eye he was crying when he would dive in and learn whatever he was and then the other he was smiling so they asked it repentance how is this possible so he said it's possible because it says desire that causation Delta never brings in chapter four at the end of chapter 34 and target heads with Kyoya Billy buddies their joy is is inserted as plugged in as is connected to this side oh and and and and and here the killer blue blaze and crying and tears isn't the other side in other words I'm not schizophrenic there is once one part of the person and one eye that is full of symbol and at the very same time the other eyes full of miracles and I tell you that I saw this in that ever how did I see this in the river that ever one moment that if I bringin can be so elated was so frail us and so lively and then he starts talking and he can't the chokes up that he can't talk because he's crying and he's so upset about Russia Jews are about what mushiya's not coming how is this one person okay so there wasn't simultaneous but the idea the answer is the crisis axiom don't have his house the crisis axiom if if if the Pula I'm gonna make myself clear if the activity that you're doing is coming from the essential classes not for what's called the manifested places then they go together and you could be crying and laughing at the same time you could be loving and fearing at the same time that's what he says here but but but but what does love feel like and what does fear feel like it's two different feelings so regarding what the feelings are I think this is being clear now what the feelings are there's a difference between love and fear but the way the feelings of spretz themselves there is a position depending on where it comes from what you're expressing at the time if it's what we call closest acts mean your essential clip is then they can come simultaneously together that that's that's why it's not a contradiction it's not a contradiction to say that there's two different feelings and and absolutely there are but how they're expressing expressed could be simultaneous that's what he says here oh look at he quotes what I quoted earlier welcome mine man as the saying is yeah and they are has what Pia Billy Boy Missy Trudeau heaven is joy this is Aramaic from Isaiah tears is inserted takua it's it's not tense plugged in Billy boy in the heart be seated are from one side over here and tears crying takea is certainly boy in the heart be seated are from the other side some readers receivable is careful that the Marino's the frost and the simpler come simultaneously he didn't a Rabi Akiva some beside this a tailor-made RB SS I've got learn a bit even heard secrets of the tailor from his teacher rabbi Lazaro goggle Zog Alain of the moist his eyes teared up right and they were dripping with tears the he may have the boys boys the CEPA ski boots Alabama why do tears come they come the reason is BC pass he puts a lever made of the shriveling of the heart and the mind in the mind and heart can't contain it anymore so at that time it expresses itself in tears yes he would he would settle Eve is a Hebrew word liquid comrades mythic events it means shrivels up shrivels up yeah I mean that's what I know the whole key votes hooba severs Marino's rebel says why do you have cables the morning guilty why do you have cables cables it comes because you get so upset that the brain can't handle it anymore it's if - it's too much for the brain and it's too much for the heart so they kind of they can't expand anymore on the country they they're going to themselves keep up they go into themselves and what happens and they get upset and he says in Yiddish epiphany good kite when one experiences a deep no goodness well now a bit to the kite and a very frustrating bitter thing when someone experiences something very bitter very apathetic etc the Misha said mayonnaise a governorship a social yes lethality me someone will hear something no good god forbid all has great pain she ain't my sympathy but Yahoo look Kapolei that his hardness Mike can't receive it can handle it how to him his cuffs him the heart of the mind shrivel up the end of Zelda's demise and their eyes trip with tears and you dish as far cracks in them hats yeah that's the Yiddish words far-fetched you heard of the word crepes Johnny right I catch far-fetched means the heart tightens up tightens up right so when someone says Isaiah and Isaiah naive edition I'd be back that's a photic let's kite it's a notion of shriveling up and and and and not being expensive and you end and money and it gets to a point where you can't handle any more because a normally hillel your mind can handle it to filter it and your heart can handle it or filter it but if they get if it gets too much they can so you go into yourself that's what fact red stripe means that's for clenched in them hearts his heart creches him una vein and his bothers him so much that he cries but what I was saying was that is out there the sages able to keep a Libra it could be sky shel olam his heart was like the opening of the unum in the in the you know there is biscuit it was a broad heart hello Giselle hominid toes have balm it's had a simple violin ik so here's the question if the camara says that the heart of Rabi Akiva was kiss for so long how is it that he cried right look like a few lines before it says when he heard the secrets whether they Akiva heard the secrets of theta filling up his teacher rabbul izza at google his eyes teared and cried and cried but wait a minute and the answer is that this crying was not morbidity was not depression rather it was a frustration that came Mitaka simcha varenik you're so happy that you cry you know how someone we have an experience you haven't seen someone for years you hug them you're with them and know many times you cry it right while you cry you didn't see a friend of 40 years and you didn't think you survived the war or something else someone came out now some covent you didn't never thought that he'd come out and you give him a hug then you start crying why are you crying that's coming from a simpler it's the simplest so great that the heart and mind can't contain it and it comes out in tears so those are joyful tears their tears literal tears and I don't know but you know sometimes I look at the rebus video and sometimes I get sad like you know I knew what this is I lived it and I don't have it so it makes me upset that I cry and then other times I see such joy in the second enough in the same video I cried too by crying from simpler so there are two ideas to crying and tears one is from the you know upset side and probably depressed depressed depressive side and one is from the healthy side and this is something that I don't know you know I don't know in America it seems like I'm said destroy looks like a big taboo a big taboo like what are you crying I remember I gave a shear to the woman or high Anusha about 15 years ago and I forgot what I was talking about notice it was women you know women girls and students and I shared a story it was very emotional so I cried and after this year a woman that came over to me says rabbi why are you crying I couldn't explain why I'm gonna explain now middle of the Shira that's what happened my just started to but I saw that they weren't Cailyn they weren't vessels especially if I may say so the women you know it's like it brings out you know they start crying to some of them and it gets very emotional you know but but even for men did someone usual here the truth is when you little see this and you and you learn tighter in general I remember Reb official her sports who was the Italian in the close of our community and he and he spoke at a youth test kiss with Miss Eva like you have opinion a OMA we had here in Borough Park at a big hall and he spoke about the most gentle and when he started to met when he mentioned the hey look the heilige they say highly not hailing the halogen percent of the holy baal shem tov he just started to sob why it should just kiss lives this two thousand people he has the podium he's you know this is its light it's bright it's caval tickets it's a hockey confer for her sinners and here's a man standing there and sobbing about that when he mentions the baal shem tov and and it hit me and I was there and I and I paid attention to what's what's going on here it's tears of joy but it's tears you know it's not I didn't walk away saying oh he's crying because he doesn't have the percent of now 20 years later I wake up duh where it goes where it goes so why are you crying what you you know the answer is it's senseless show mitzvah and it sometimes with the simplest shell Mitzvah and the title is so powerful you express it through peers that's what he says here then I'd be a Kiva let's back back into the text that I believe oh how you like holes tithe rebbi akiva had a good hood a good talent bees are very good one beside the cicada in understanding the secrets of Taylor the cache of Mercedes our traders had given a big lesson when he heard the secrets that rebel Esther taught him Harley are in the goggle me ideas great pleasure whom is Agatha because when he says oh he's a golfer and from that itself Baha DeVos family does came the shriveling and the frustration Masha who a night the XML host madre kazooie Masha Masha who a night the exit Ozma Draco's a which which is not in the essential level meaning meaning that in the essence of this experience there's no division between the tiers and and the joy that's what it means when you experience this most admires when you experience this feeling this level this critical saps me in then you can't it makes sense you you can either cry you laugh because it said it's not coming from it's not being prompted and sheriff's are not being generated by the outside it's generated in you and if it's generated in you depending on what europe's feeling at the time that's what you're going to express i know and he says he scours really yes I read you a little differently right how do I just want to say what you think of the cartoon my soda Satara to do the reveal yes there hi Ella the mayor had this great delight with zebb boop boop from bad people among whom aha Maria's moksha who had some I lose my drag is that when he himself from being IVA recognized himself was not being a demographic how do I read it first I don't know what you think but wait wait based on your reading since happy had he explained the the flow so the flow would be that you know he he he was exposed to these exalted teachings and then he saw himself as not on a anima dragon not being Ackley able to be McConville this no no I you know I maybe check someone's Shabbos in shul to another but I don't think that's the shot okay I say I think the Masha who is going on the closest axiom that it's a continuation of his of his dialog in the paragraph which is overall making a difference between classes ask me and clintus a Gilliam so in Quakers lucky Louie in you couldn't have the two come together but in clays facade to mean you can I think that's the truck but let's let's learn a few more lines and say maybe let's see what he says I knew be his skull high nobis Carlos belly coos when do you experience this when did that we achieve experiences when he was included incorporated like kal-el hit Collin his scholar would be le cose in godliness and he says until this boy's gain and get a kite it literally means to melt and godliness to be consumed and godliness shall I be achiever when he was learning center cetera the secrets of theta he melted away what happens when you melt away small what happens your rational thought and your feelings melt away so there is there is the way we approach any without a cup in our heart that's the Luo Yin clickers idilu' you but when he so but when he whether the ateva went into the mode of service our data that all melted away he was now included in the godliness and as from God's perspective from a sense perspective there's no difference between the the manifestation of simcha or Marius that's what I think he's saying here so that's why eat money specifically when he learned say the cetera he cried it's a very interesting shot here I never saw it this way now I'm hearing it very differently in other words why does the governor say that when he learned such a satire he came through this really well what about one big mother says that the ateva would dharshan on each crown you know the famous good murder right and then the Crown's of the same fat or emotion you know write in the letters the tacky why doesn't it say most of that when he has founded the talk him he had this feeling of any cried so good demoys it doesn't say that it says that specifically when he was macabre the secrets of Tara from his reputable loves and a goggle right there's a Google that's when he cried so I think the trapped is what he's saying here that the rep is really clarifying it because when you when you when you get to a state of sada cetera so then you're vacating the observable and the understandable and you're going into a different realm you're being taken into a different realm and in that realm there's no difference and that's why he cried and those tears of joy whereas it was you know kind of when it when he was learning and darting the cocky it wasn't such a cetera it was in Ziggler the terror it was yes a madness in a garage and I'm the target but it wasn't surgeon cetera anyway just a thought maybe a right maybe I'm wrong okay several we're gonna stop here it's youth based Thomas Sunday so Mabel if I blend a little bit when you not maybe we should pray their Sunday or Monday want to get some more people to this year so if you know that the timing would work better at 1:15 or 1:30 tell me you know right I spoke to the flamer he has no problem changing the time I have no problem I usually dive it at the 120 minute so that would not work for me to change it oh okay so that wouldn't work for you okay and what time is the 120 million finish usually about 140 okay yeah I'm not jumping because I see some one of the few people who said they're not you know they're not really committed to coming to each year so we'll leave it for now and we have a great Chavez a great you these timers I've slept on everything bye-bye