Improper Intimacy, Marriage, Divorce, Infatuation leads to anger & problems

in preparing ourselves for gimal tamas and in continuation of the previous two um clips that I made about those that consider themselves smarter than kabad be it those intellectual individuals those emotional individuals those Spitz kabad who who push the button of their prestige their uh pedigree and background as a reason to be able to do what they want to say what they want I want to address one final point in this uh clip and I say to emphasize the good not the bad but if you don't say it the way it is there can be confusion and we know from the Reb famous that the T has to say clearly these are the kosher animal and they're not Kosher animals when it's just kind of uh repeating um not a story but you know what took place in the T during no's time but when it comes to we we're talking about the animals that are Kosher not Kosher the T says these are the non- kosher animals clearly TR animals why because there you have to be very clear so I need to be clear and the third issue that uh I want to discuss is the IDE the idea of intimacy as sexuality in this debate that these two genius kabad Nicks who um Lord Reb Khan but then say clearly that we know better than him and if people knew what we were really thinking they wouldn't uh you know step step near us kadik wouldn't it happens to be that so one of them in in in this discussion says clearly about sexual frustration Etc my dear friends I could tell you from people that I studied and wrote about who already are in ganen and have done Chua but while they were alive the issues that really caused issues for them was intimacy was relationships was marriage for more about that I I urge you to read and and and watch the clips that I've made about that there's no question about it you don't get married at the regular age of getting married man man and woman boy and girl you start feeling differently and you have all kinds of thoughts and you find loopholes and justifications and you become angry so to all you guys get married find a girl a kosher girl a girl who's better than you and I say that because RAB salvic said it RAB Joseph be Yash be salivic said if not for his wife he wouldn't be grounded the genius re salv who came from bris who came from who came from the V with everything else that the brisk movement brings about he said that if not for his wife T he would be off in left field now if he could say it surely you who are so smart you can definitely say it and should say it when you find a wife that's better than yourself that's more religious than yourself and more honest than yourself she will keep you grounded as long as you're not an animal and as long as you're not a nasty person listen to your wife it says in the Holy T listen to sah and that brought him the blessing so when we talk about the frustration of sexuality it's your only issue my friend who asked you to be 35 to 45 and 50 and not and unmarried and then have issues so therefore you start justifying intellectually this and that that's that's one point the other point is that when it comes to intimacy even those that are married what's this business of marrying God forbid a non-jew this is like outrageous you know where you come from you know better you're a grub you know what a grub Yung means you're a Mal you know Whata means you're an indulgent animal so you drop your religion you drop your family you drop your beliefs you drop the re and you're not ashamed to stay at the stand at the ohel and Dav to the Reb and to hasem living with a with a non-jew a great person but she's not for you and how is it that that you can even walk the streets of Kon Heights and speak that way shame on you be embarrassed of what you did don't show your face and do chuva and you could do chuva you know how drop her she's the best person drop her but it's not for you and when when when our amongst many other Orthodox from people in the lith community community it's a plague that we're going through now but I'm talking to to to us leiters boys and girls Bim and girls you went througha you went through Al you went through b Rifka you know the system there are issues there are questions there's always going to be questions find the friend find a mashia find a rabbi find a parent find someone who you can talk to I was sitting Shu 6:30 in 770 and someone came over to me from a prominent home and he spilled the beans he you know I smelled the alcohol on him but he was you know not completely blasted and he opened up listen there are people that are willing to listen so when we talk about you know intimacy and sexuality and marriage and divorce why do you why are people some people divorcing their wives their husbands with children good people and going going why they're running away with other men and other women they're going to other men and other women why they're not satisfied they're not happy the terrist says there's a time for divorce we understand that but most most of the time it's because something is inside you is bothering you it's not happy and I understand that but the answer is not rebellion of God and Rebellion ofus you know when we had the uh the Fiasco of col of the chauffeur back I think 2000 2001 Ryo spoke then and whato said searching is a good thing but search in our own books in Tanya inid it's there just take any pay can Tanya any chapter in Tanya I promise you if you'll be honest and thoughtful and have quiet and think about what it says there you'll find an answer for your issue you will I wrote a book called Tanya on Mental Health I identified one one or two ideas per chapter 53 chapters read the book not because I wrote it I'm just opening up what the Al said and just exploring it elaborating so I really hope that in the light and spirit of giml when we so connect to the rebba the re thead the the symbol of honesty Purity Holiness mashia T Talus Caba mus ethics we have thousands and thousands of pages of writing from the re don't be lazy open up open up a MIM open up anes it's in all languages today in many languages the masim would say the muscle there's the ostrich the bird it's a very tall bird that has very long neck Hashem makes a a wind come and blows it next to the water and there's water and it's hungry it's thirsty but it's too lazy to bend its neck down so it remains thirsty has the answers brings fulfillment brings marriage learn think D with talk and you'll see if you just surrender the yeses the ego that you could be the biggest intellect and the biggest philosopher and you can read but sidus will ground you just like RAB salic said my wife grounds me she keeps me on Earth she keeps me normal you want to be normal you don't want to be an old man an angry old man frustrated and angry at the world that's what's going to happen the tra the trajectory of these type of interviews and these type of people walking around and on one hand saying oh we come from G kabad we came from Spitz kabad weitz kabad or we're you know we understand we learned to and and and and we know this and we know that at the end of the day they're all frustrated angry unhappy people every single one of them just like carach and were very unhappy and they passed away that way they might have not told you that but you watch those in that interview I did with z m and you will detect and hear that he's not happy and barem you know the last years of his life there was a a little shift towards you know coming back and that's why B hasem he he passed away and was buried like not just the Y but with the kadish and with the standards of laich etc etc anyway the bottom line is that it's gimal thas coming and we have to bring together yes those that are a those who want to be a Heretics want to want to be Heretics those that want to be apostates those that are want to be sophisticated running around and doing whatever they want come on let's for bring let's take a little let's and let's say we're willing to to start a new the paradigm shift should help that we should only can keep on preparing ourselves and following the way of the and we see