How to make intimacy work that there's an actual result: Daas, Focus - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

open your Tas please to page NES we are in middle of chapter well actually the beginning uh part of chapter 42 mes and the AL here started to explain to us that every ye has a part ofu in him and that aspect of M raenu makes it possible to have y Inus knowledge in God understanding of God God is not a foreign entity that's that's superimposed on a Jew but rather the balat feels in chapter 42 that is very much part of our DNA seemingly that's not the case so says that is the case and that explains the gamor what does God want of you a little fear and Moshe has mosha has fear and that we we all have a part of mha in us that's where we're at now and this is not going to be developed so what we're going to do is we're going to read quite a bit today and then today or on Monday I have going to give you a general explanation that'll be helpful so let's go to uh NES it's about six seven lines from the bottom after the period the line begins with the word so we're starting from the words even more so in every [Music] generation their descends Sparks from the soul of and invest thems in the body and in the soul of the wise men of the generation the leaders of the congregation and and why do they get the privilege of having this special aspect of Sparks of Moshe entering them in addition to them being regular Jews and having the spark of Moshe says that they get an added infusion and he says why because it's their job to teach the people knowledging God to teach us the greatness of to serve with a complete heart and because this is their job from on high they need an extra infusion so those of us here who are not and we don't need this extra infusion of another aspect or another quantitative and qualitative amount of mosha spark we have the simple rudimentary spark of Moshe which is adequate for our perception and understanding of Das as AEM to know God but who but but we need a teacher we turn to these people the leaders the the to to show us the D to teach us the D so for that they get an extra amount I'm going to talk all about this more later let's continue says that they teach us so so when you speak about teaching you teach knowledge you go to a a course you get information but it comes to the heart what can a rabbi teach you about the heart right what did the holy kuder say where is God wherever you let him in I can't tell you how to let God in only you can say how you allow God into your heart so this is the Al's um Unwritten question over here that he answers with the word ke he he's asking on himself I just told you that the per the job of the is to teach you believe believe to serve him with a with the heart no seemingly the heart is your own own own you take the information you you process it and then you you you find a way how to articulate it in a heart that doesn't come from the rabbi that doesn't come from the The Scholar the leader says but no wrong trueid of the heart is based on Das it's a very important line here we have plenty of people past present and in the future who create a not based on dasem but on their own Das or mishas or and this is I'm not even talking about now in in the G world I'm talking about in the Jewish world says here sorry my friend for to be proper it needs to be based on and who teaches you so then when you go about to process the information then your will be the right the service of the heart and you won't go off on a on on on on a wrong turn and and end up in as Nasha said in the fields of Pennsylvania when there's nothing going on there but of course there is cuz he had to be there obviously Hashem put him there to be M to refine the Sparks but we mean to say is that that the day is hasem is what's necessary to guide the heart that's what he says he brings the know your God your father and serve him with a complete heart so look at the the conjunction the you will serve him with a a complete heart if you fulfill the first thing who gives you the and serve him with a a yearning soul and so we find in the future will come the verse says quote will no longer teach his friend doem saying no God I will say to you you'll say to me let's know God why not brings this that goes everyone will know God in other words but what do we see from this this p this this idea that it's all based on if you don't have the knowledge in God then your is is is improper it's it it's doesn't it it doesn't know for sure if this is the D you must have the which by the way is aner idea in this would be the strong argument for the the style of which is to and if you have you go to the mid they have a different method they begin with the the the the and they go to them and then they and they say it's adequate and sometimes they they'll go to the to the Das but inab this is very much it so fall it falls in line this idea here with the AL let's continue what is of is knowledge what is says and he refers back to what he taught us in chapter three of T the primary aspect of according to the AL it's not knowledge alone that one should know perceive the greatness of God Turn the Page based on the the the the right the writings of scribes meaning rabbis and sages and from the mouth of books many for Holy books being a bookworm having a library with every book and knowing even by heart all the books Etc and understanding him excuse me isn't what we mean by by D lers the primary idea is to delve deeply your mind in the greatness into God Into The Godly concept The Godly idea sorry and to wedge your thought Hashem like you put a a a spigot in the ground you bang it in right a nail into a board with Kaa you stick it in you shove it in right the say idea stick your mind wedge your mind into hasem with my strength strength and mightiness of the heart and your brain to the point that it will will go from just knowledge that is wedged in God in understanding God it will become here is the word you will be tied you will be bound with hasem with what type of knot with a very strong knot just as when you wedge something into something else it becomes bound and connected to that physical item that you put it into that you could actually see it with your physical eye you can see the Das the Das experience do you hear what he says here it's no longer just a Mind's Eye idea Mind's Eye I understand it's no longer it leaves the realm of I understand and it becomes the realm I see it I see it with my eye what do you mean you see it that's how clear it's to you that's how how wedged it's in your mind it becomes who you are my and therefore you delve deeply into it with your mind as it's known the word also is associated with the word hisk connection as it says Ines when had relations with it says he knew what do you mean he knew should say andam lived with it doesn't say Adam lived Witham was intimate with it says he knew why because the the the the process of intimacy is expressed best through yod because yod doesn't just mean an intellectual experience it means real life experience so whether you you you impregnate the the woman through the Yoda experience or you you give her the spiritual impregnation if she's postmenopause or whatever the case right as it's brought in the Holy yod represents reality right a baby comes out it's real it came from Yoda so Yoda is not just a an intellectual a deep intellectual experience yod is reality that's the point Al is making here and that's his understanding and that's what he means with with Das so of the model is not just knowledge it's a wrong interpretation that's why I constantly use the the word that I've seen other scholars in kabad use which is concentration and focus and the gar says I think we discussed it in chapter 3 that if there is no you know ejaculation you can't have an offspring you must have that process of in the physical Union between man and woman to make to make an offspring what's kishu what is this concept the concept of kishu is that it's it's Focus so technically and I'm not the biologist and you you know but technically it would seemed to me based on this gamar that if if in a union an intimate intimacy if there isn't a kishu there won't be any Offspring there cannot be Offspring even if the drop of Sean enters the the the the woman's uh I guess uh you know the woman if there's no kishu there it doesn't have the potency of giving off giving birth anyway that that's for another discussion again I'm just that I didn't see clearly in in but I'm just putting two and two together if I'm wrong I'm wrong but that's what it seems anyway going back to the text this and this to bind one's mind to every single Jew has potential by nourishing from the soul of since the soul invested itself in the body one needs tremendous effort and mighty effort doubled and redoubled to accomplish this so the fact is that we have it says every Jew has this power of D but it takes a lot of effort to reveal it and work this does not come by osmosis it doesn't come by pedigree it doesn't come by and it doesn't come by sitting by your Reb's feet and learning from him which is wonderful so he gives you the D but you we need to take it and processes in a way of H that's what it says here and that again is very much the inad which is different than the in in other not saying all but other cic movements there's no free rides here in kabad a Reb was a pointer and the our Reb said this in the firstat it's upcoming the yard site 1951 January 59 51 when they n the to become to take their leadership and he finally agreed so in middle of the m and by the way you can hear it online he says in Yiddish he says we will help but if you guys think that we're going to do it for you you're making a big mistake that was the what we call a marketing the tagline that gave forab not just for himself forab and he said this is the so yes you can come for a and you can come for an and you could write right and I'll bring it to the oil and everything else and give to but you have to do it yourself the through Thea will not only live himself he will enliven you so when you go to a sadic and you look at thead and you learn from thead and you give s and thead and you go to have private counsel from the sadic even if you do not exert yourself to to to to through a to to implement all of that the of the B of of is it will be helpful and the said once I think thousands of of the Holy it Tak help it's not you know there's a lot of fools out there and and the fools say oh if you don't do it the kabad way that means theas way doesn't have a a a result that is foolishness beyond words it's coming from people who are foolish and and uneducated and the said it by many times but once in particular he said thousands of of the were changed but the question is what part of them was changed and how they were changed and the answer is through the and the faith in the that's the that's theas way the kabad way is you got to do it yourself and and and if you understand this overall difference a lot of things fall into place that you read about over the 200e history ofab and other this this very much falls into place and it's not a contradiction it's both holy ways different ways and everyone needs to decide what path they want to choose for their a hasem and this also rebut this today's um you know happy gol lucky Miracle Reby worship totally not kabad completely not kabad it's a fallacy I was sitting with KH who who is greater than that person as the Paradigm of the movement and what kabad represents one shabas Friday night I I was sitting next to him in someone's home he was here for shabas and he said you know people today want to hear Miracle stories of the rebbi miracle stories he says that's not me you can all go home he says that's not me you know and what did he do he shared a story from the that the previous rebba wrote with the alter I don't recall the story now which has a very um very rich uh explanation behind it and so in other words it has a miracle part to it but it comes from the intellectual process that was Kad all the generations and the saying in kabad was that there are Miracles rolling under the table but they're under the table velv they're under the table they weren't on top of the table so so for example I told you a few weeks ago about the Holy ribba that was you know P lived in America after it came from chitz there was open Miracles by this Reb by this person open open Miracles you know or the they say the bells are rebba the old bbba not today's Bel rebba maybe he also does Miracles I don't know but his his um uncle Ro who lived in in in in in in in Tel Aviv onam I think 61 aam right in the heart of all the mishas I've been there many times I recorded it my father was there my grandfather was there right so he was known as a Mal whatever he said from his mouth was fulfilled I'll give you just a story for a minute and then we got to go back to the text I just heard this the other day from a vision because I told the I told the vision he's probably 80 years old he D's on the same table in the morning with me so I said to him you want to hear a difference between the bin and theit he was the the father of the last two brothers that already passed on one in man and one in B the father was hugger of vision so my grandfather was from Romania and he was a visionit but he had no beard maybe maybe in his youth he had a beard but you know most of his life he didn't have a beard so and he went to to the Tish sometimes cuz he lived on 55 five which is right next to the ocean not far where my daughter and son-in-law have their shoe it's it's right there you know in the disl area from there to walk to to is 15 minutes 20 minutes it's not a long walk so he would go Friday nights you know winter Friday nights for Tish but my father you know but we asked did you ever see the Reba personally oneon-one like they don't call it Yas but you know so he says I was afraid ask why you afraid he says cuz I knew I I didn't have a beard at that time most of my life and I wasn't planning on growing a beard he grew a beard towards the end of his life like many people they decide at the end of the life you know to end their life with the beard but anyway why wait do it now but anyway so so he he he um and he said that if he went into the bell of Reba and the bells of rebba just hinted to him by saying one or two words that it would be proper for you to grow a beard or something about a beard and he said I knew I wouldn't do it he says the next day I would drop dead he said I'm convinced the next day I didn't listen to the rebba my life is over conversely he said he had private discussions with theit why because when he came into you he gave went like this on your clean shaven face oh you're such a darling you're so nice he so special so he he said he wasn't afraid he knew that what comes out of his mouth you know he's not going to say so so this so This Bells a this is a story to introduce the next story this I heard this week from this Vision he lived in he lives here in America now so he said to me you know the SA right but it's and didn't really weren't really ma it they didn't accept it in fact they probably had some ESS okay some complaints so one day somehow the B Reb gab told the um the Bel Reb that there's a in our BAS M he just mentioned amongst you know the rabbi asked him which are there in the in the and he said this this so he said them do me a favor take the out of the sh and there was down stairs nearby there was a garish table and bring it to the garish table and he did that that's the type of re he was so this is very like kind of miraculous in other words to to him having a is dangerous that that that's the implic of the story it's not just you know one second and it's not dangerous for no I I I no because the the gar you know are more accepting so he says in their Sho you know their Reba and their sh accepts that so it's F if they want to have it that's fine but in my sh I urge you to take it out now now I'm bringing out in the that the whole style the whole style this is a style you understand it's not like saying hey we had Aristotle's books or a Christian writer's books and it's a question of Tuma it's a question of Christianity it's a question of we're not talking about that talk about a kosher safer that was WR written by a a God He happens not to be your sh whatever the case and you tell him take the book out right and and and it's also not like Rabbi salv for example sometimes he would come into a house he would look in the bookshelf and if he saw a safer that he thought was narish kite nonsense he would say like why do you have the stupidity there I mean he was very sharp like I'm not talking about either that that's an emotional you know what I'm saying he's not telling you it's dangerous to have that book there but this this this this beler is telling you telling hisid that in his Bas of medish again he didn't use those words I didn't hear those words dangerous but he said take it out and the implication being like like my my grandfather if you put if you don't put the beard on I I I mentioned you to put the beard you're you're you're going into dangerous territory that's KAG that's KAG it's not kabad it's a very K and and trust me the belb was a Malik they say whatever came out was m but it's a different style it's a different style na it's a very different style Na and frankly it fits many people CU people don't want to work much people don't want to exert themselves much especially with the mind you know I I think about the way when I was younger and I learned the piece of with tus and I we used to say bre the cup in English it doesn't broke the head it meanings M Wasing for hours to understand you know I would learn today the way I learned then you know what I'm saying and when you talk about Concepts in God how he created the world why he created with what did he create who did he create and I mean it gets even more intense and that's enough and and and the purpose of which is to be a mench to have a good maid a better maid so this is all part of the kabad system of and that's a different that's what was saying you want to hear Miracle stories you know today's today's kiks many of them tell you Miracle stories so you know I've heard about some of your speakers in bemes without saying names because you know who they are those who attended many of them just tell you miracal stories okay and and and and frankly a lot of people need that today I'm I'm not poing it but I need you to know and they know too they know too but they because the people today are either not you know real kabad niik or really not interested in kabad or don't have the capacity therefore they they they feel that telling you the miracle stories is more influential but when when when we when one learns Tanya or been learning for years Tanya and then as we continue learning it's a whole different game it's it's a game changer it's not about you know Miracle stories but like I said what that that's why they said inab is the Miracles are rolling under the table of course there are Miracles there great Miracles but it's an approach that's under the table and uh I think we need to to understand this and this also gives an explanation of the difference between kabar and breast with this idea you can understand you can understand many ideas people say What's the difference kabar and breast just like I told you last week someone asked me this is one of the explanations that makes the a major difference it's not an ancillary difference and it has nothing to do with are they alive not alive and all that stuff no we're talking about the forms the what is the of and what is the of bre two different sheas I hope you enjoyed the we will continue mem Monday re yes yes re one thing I'm I'm gonna going to post it on the group there's uh David was the Sham he was the Sham of the rib yes I know he posted something yesterday did you see the video that he posted no the ribit and remel foot there a story with the ribnitzer and rendel your uncle yes so please post it in chit in chit they were in chit I think I I I know the story but po posted anyway these were all special Eden and we can be the same mendal I don't know if we can be the but you know believe me when we shape up and we do what we need to that's is saying we have a part of in US you can make a big impact have a great shabas see you all bye bye byebye it's my birthday my birthday my birthday on Sunday so maybe we'll make a I'm I'm 50 years old bye