How to Become Refined?

the kuntus of mine was written by the rebel shah defeat the karepa's father he's explaining here the idea he explained various levels of thai new game of pleasures number one the time of bahami which is the lowest the animalistic pleasure number two the pleasure of music number three the pleasure of doing someone a favor and it's in that third pleasure that we're discussing now and he said that the the if you do the pleasure because it gives you a high and it makes you feel better and all of that it's similar to then a tiny bahamian the first type of tainan which is the lowest type of pleasure because it's all about yourself so let's continue now in 37th second paragraph moshe i don't see him on i i don't see him did he send him send them a whatsapp a private whatsapp um um everything that was created in the world was created for attackers so here what they're going to talk about this idea of one domain one species giving of itself to a higher species submitting to a higher species and that's its tackles its purpose [Music] the purpose of each species is to ascend to the higher realm of uh above it take for example the ultimate purpose of the vegetation it's when it's incorporated in the living kingdom the animal kingdom the tacos what's the ultimate of hai it is it's when it incorporates itself in the higher kingdom species which is the speaking of the human species the topless so what's the what's the ultimate purpose of the madaba elevation it's when his spirit ascends heavenly upward venus [Music] and the human being allows himself to submerge to submit them sorry to submit in spirituality that's above and beyond his realm because even though he is he is the human species which is the ultimate and the highest of the four species nevertheless it's within humanity he has to leave humanity what is what we call that in this instance messy potatoes when a person learns and he delves deeply into it not a cursory learning but even we call this to understand these ideas that he's learning well and truthfully not that he wants to tell the traitor what's the shot what's the meaning rather he seeks to understand the meaning of the title as the tater meant it to be ahead he then binds himself unites himself with hashem's will and wisdom within essential very powerful unity and that and it sends us to of course tanya peter k or commissioner kosov as it says be safe and shall begin in the book of the intermediates of section 1 pedica chapter 5. [Music] and with this submission to what's higher than man i.e is it binds itself and it incorporates itself in hashem's wisdom hain basic on the dictatorship whether it be when he studies the talmud the revealed part of toyota for example [Music] which is in its essence god's will and wisdom [Music] hashem said when you punch someone in the lip and you make a damage and so and so is the guess what that is hashem's will whoever has their the the please turn your mute off quickly quickly it's making a lot of noise yes i'm sorry i'm sorry to interrupt you just i came in i missed exactly where we are i'm sorry page page 37 okay i i don't i don't i don't have with me the regular saver i'm using the old one so are we still in the first mimer we're still in the first mimer in parrot gimbal of the first mimer um in the middle of the page you know that's what i could say okay i got it i got it thank you thank you what page is that 64 in the in the old one yeah yeah 64. okay thanks okay so he says when i eat when i'm adaba here when the living species the living not the living the the the species of you of you of the human elevates themselves by submitting themselves to torah and tida is so he receives an aliyah because he's now left the plateau the arena of humanity and he's gone into the arena of spirituality and he says that this is this is not only true with learning hasidis and kabbalah and ponemias he says this is also true when you learn and and why because when you learn any part of today this means that this is hashem's will and whatever the hell says is the halacha that's actually god's will so you're connecting with god even in matters that are very physical and very tangible shazam question of his apostle that the says this is kosher and this is this is not kosher it's possible it's invalid more so the whole martial whatever any future student in in in the future will will come up with a novelty and tater call nemar it has all been said the moisture messina top of 39 to moisture on rc night so in other words even an idea that you come up with in 2020 tough shin pay aleph that seemingly no one has come up with until now that thought is part of hashems hashem's will and wisdom and therefore it's holy the hain this also includes all laws of terrorism of the oral tater the members and all the explanations associated with the oral torah it's all part of god's wisdom so when man when a yid delves into this these he is bound and united and include and incorporated in the essence of god as we said earlier so this is true for nigla the torah now other episodes behind basically oh so too when a person learns the inner dimension of terror which we call panini satire this refers to knowing and comprehending godliness all that our sages of blessed memory memory revealed to us bizarre whom all of these sages and rabbis and scholars of thailand that they reveal to us the inner dimension of terror this is all part of the torah the essence of god and hashem is one with that so he says and when when this in his little room learns he binds himself with the inner dimension of god's wisdom shalom island that's way way above the external part of hashem both are part of hashem once the kitsanias and one's the premiums the niggler is the kitsinus and the premium system and and sid is cabola and all that is preemies so that's one advantage that we have when we learn the rappers has another advantage [Music] now he says not only does this learning of panini satoru put you into the mindset of god's eye in in a sense but it also has an impact on your soul on our soul let's see how the immediate zuyu diaz ahmed you know when we learn about spheres and kitsonius and pneumous and and and levels and soul let's not kid ourselves do do we really know the essence do we really do we really don't when you take an esri you have an estrogen your hand and you look at the asterisk does it have a blemish here is it have a nice um ghetto growth in other words it's not just that i understand the laws of an s-rig i actually have the esrig i have the essence when you learn about premiums when you learn about ashram spheros what do you have you have bobcats yeah i mean you don't have it in a way you have everything but as far as the physical tangible you don't so what do you have we have the adidas hamid siyot it's called the knowledge of its existence as an idea the famous the vertices of the tsa that they said that will [Music] evidence we learned to see this during his time and we were flying in in concepts and ideas but we had no real understanding of what this is because it's luchnius will come all of that will become apparent and we will say aha this is what the rebbe meant when he said this level of akh or this level of of sakes now i know what the rebel meant so they would say that mashiach comes to to to give us the aha so i say the same thing here because the rabbit says here email although comes now we are what learning only about we only have the external knowledge that such a thing exists that let's continue mikko nevertheless [Music] but what is the content of his your dias hamishi is when he learns plenius we're not learning about an estrogen we're learning about let's say esrig is a positive until a multiview um it's brought down right so you look you know that when you when you have an asterisk there's a concept of guys now guy was also gasmius and you also know that hashem is ultimately the ultimate of of humility so so you understand the messiahs of the ruchness you don't have the mohus of the rochnias the essence of the spirituality you have the externality of spirituality which we call mercia sergius in your soul and therefore when we have that experience um you bind yourself you tie yourself you connect yourself to that while your daisy who yes you say what does that do to you to the person it takes you out it schleps you out migos me you say from your materiality from your guestion [Music] and you ascend heavenly in a way in a sense to the level to the madrega of refinement and spirituality in other words you become more of a spiritual being you no longer look at the chunks and the kishke and the kugel and shabbos as just potatoes and and and and meat and and at the shema but you mama see it as a experience without or with saying you only was saying caduceus shabbos as we discussed last week right it's not just a lip service it's an essence why am i eating this because it's shabbos clay dish and therefore oh you want to you want to have uh something hot because the sugar says you have something hot in your ear they come out to be trolled through against the mice okay so you have a little chunk but you eat it because it's a rooftop not because it's kashmir's if you eat it avi because it's got smears you're eating chunked and you might get stomach cake and and and and issues but if you eat it you're gonna you know you're not gonna eat a lot you can eat a little and you can eat it carefully and you're gonna think about what you're eating so the eating becomes let's continue whether this experience is felt and experienced in your own fishing year old soul and so too because of in all of one's details and in one's behavior in actions everything is transformed into edelkite it's such a spiritual experience that cannot be grasped in the physical may be overly hard gosh it's it's bereft of self of self of feeling uh i'm doing the mitzvah and i'm learning and i'm giving it to doc and i'm helping and all that it's bereft of that it strips that because it's spiritual and if it's really spiritual and holy it removes the sensation that it's all about myself he says the unfailing and their offspring is thus edel you do it edel very beautiful yiddish yiddish word to be idle refined need be not to be grub course in in essence that everything you go about you do it in a grub way unit and in the hebrew and not to be felt murkish means the emotional you the self is felt in everything that you do and all believe this split this is a hebrew word but it means to without standing out and protruding no one has to know that i'm doing it i'm behind it don't don't put your eye into everything that's what they say yes right right right correct and without holding you know considering good uh i'm i'm favorable and i'm behind it i did the good thing lots of himself next page will be called mccoskin surely [Music] this is all about not allowing the self to be in what's being done for yourself needless to say coast gain it shouldn't be recognizable for them anderin that the other person shouldn't recognize and see what's being done that it's all you that you that this he did it you know um and and and the other person will say that he you know he's doing it be sure not really he wouldn't do it but you know why he's doing it because of someone else the debbie says even if that's true it should not be felt in the activity that you do because that too is is you know is is feeling of the self gosh gain then that ever says this is all when it what we've said until now is about doing something on the more the spiritual side you know under he says when it comes to gas mias i mean i've been talking about it in the gospel sense so i jumped the gun he was talking about the first more in the rookie sense now he comes to and when it comes to gosh me is moving that the person strips the activity from its course that he doesn't desire the gosh we said this is the muscle i gave you with the child you know what i mean he doesn't want the food because it's it's the food and it tastes good and all that [Music] his entire desire and will who barely causes the godliness kids are left in the kitchen man who is a a a a a man driven by an intellectual soul we call a nephesh muscalis and a yid has an additional soul which is the echo of course which is elo kiss godly soul needs to ultimately find pleasure in the wisdom of tata could you imagine the same wisdom we have from from sleeping when we're tired i'm sorry the same pleasure we have from sleeping we should get from tighter learning and even more and he explains why because tatler's called the purpose of every creature is to ascend to a realm to a species to an experience that's greater than its own by your daily magalia shepard by you're bound to the inner dimension of torah i want to point out to you something that's important you see the kit sir could any the did we learn at all a kitchen is a synopsis of the previous paragraph did we learn the word hasidis that we come across the word qasidis in the previous paragraph no that ever used the word small paneemia satoru and this is why the kitser of the rabbayim is not just a repeat and a waste of time in the kitchen many times you will find a new word a new idea that was not in the paragraph or even if it was the idea but it wasn't said that way and here is in a clear example we did not learn the word in the paragraph are you with me are you with me right i i don't have you have different pages but before we learn the word panimius he didn't mention siddhis and that's why when i interp when i translated i said refers to kabbalah too here he doesn't say kabbalah now the explanation is because not that hasidis is kabbalah that's a big mistake because the rebel wrote a whole essay on it called on the essence of hasidis if you care to follow up and middle derev explains the difference between kabbalah and hasidis excellent explanation excellent translation by dr susan handelman and rabbi greenberg herschel greenberg buffalo excellent translation in english over there the reb explains the difference basically one is going up one is going down and i don't want to take any more time on that right now so but here the rabbit says i'm talking about hasidis i'm not talking about kabbalah because to really understand kabbalah you need siddhis otherwise it's mumbo jumbo mumbo jumbo and even if it's not mumbo jumbo and you understand but nevertheless it's a learning that does not work in a way of of um of of the muscle and the nymphs in the nephesh okay the whole idea of a martial insulin the nephesh is a style of tyrosidis and chabad in particular then there's another thing that i possess here that i want you to pick up on here he says clearly how do you become more able how do you become more refined by learning more gamora you don't necessarily become more refined you you know more about an estrogen about trump but you don't become more refined you want to become more refined he says it's through learning siddhis why because learning citizens is miscarried between me usual in order to become more refined the paneemius the inner aspect of man needs to be refined that comes through limit oxidise and it doesn't come just by saying words it doesn't come just by understanding the text it becomes by experiencing that's what i said earlier in the paragraph delving deeply into and this answer is a very a very important question people ask why should i learn siddhis why should i learn sickness i need to know how to bench a little vanessa how to put up a sucker how to how to have how to clean for pesach how to how to give a how to write a a marriage contract etc what do i need to know about the spheros what do i what do i need to know about about the what the spheres mean in my nephesh and the answer is if you want to approach the kedushin and the sukkah and the pesach and shabbos if you literally see this it it angels you it refines you and when it refines you your appreciation of the mitzvos is so much greater i'll give you an example someone that schmuel and i know in los angeles maybe well he's already kane hara bantisham over 90. lovin and this yidra david he came from russia from the michigan level family i think they have a in beta he's uh he one of the nephews is a russian shiva there and and this ribbed david i i you know i was close to him i used to want to listen to him and i did listen and he told me many stories and because he was a person from the past and he brought so much of lubavitch to to to us those that were willing to hear so i remember this like yesterday it was the middle of spheres and we were diving in the in yeshiva or i was one of the oldest lucham there and it was a middle of a tuesday or wednesday or whatever it was a regular myra nothing more than a regular my roof i happened to be davening near where david was darkening and then it was time to say the bracha on on spherus aimer so the cousin says the bracha and then everyone else says the brother and i hear with my ear the way he says the brother and i just turned around because it was so awesome and i just saw a man like turn like red and say the bracha and go on and i remember like now and what did i see here it is the middle of the week it's not restaurant it's not yom kippur it's not some special day and he's saying a regular bracha where he turns like a red beat because he's talking to hashem that comes up genius you do not get that from just learning more and more gemura and let me say this let me i want to clarify because people listen to this urim and they they have questions i'm not saying it can't be from learning tomorrow but in today's day and age unless you learn the gemara with eponemius and paneemia doesn't mean shaking and baking and making with your hands and closing your eyes it doesn't mean that i'm not saying it can't be that but that's still no proof that this mimi is there i always say and i've told you the rabbit dove like a regular one of us if you saw the lubavitcher rabbit daven or look at the video when he stands from one esri he barely is moving like this so quiet so soft and i promise you that he was so medubik so attached to hashem during shimon esre but yet it was without commotion you know totally focused so and that's again could it be that someone makes a lot of commotion and with their hands and their body and their mouth and they clap and they dance race whatever they do that they don't have at vacus i'm not saying it can't be but it's it's not to me and to the training that i got in in chabad it's no proof at all yet because the penis is a very different um measurement it's a very different uh uh category and the wrapping says here i'm just elaborating for a minute for you all to see that rebbe says clearly that ex m i'm not sure if this may be the three that could have been wrote the kisser not the rashad the son but whoever wrote it one of the two rebels makes no difference they say clearly through the study and the learning and asic you know asec avi is not just learning asic is a business a business person is totally immersed day and night he's always thinking about how to develop his business make it better it's more successful hasidis that he's not just studying hasidis he's living with it he's thinking about it it's it's in his dna dna through that his muscat in the binemius and the and that's the answer when you know someone who you grew up with or you saw and all of a sudden you didn't see him for a long time and then you see the way he behaves and the way he is and you say was the shender what happened over here we ate from the same plate we played the same football we went to the same movies and you're here and i'm here and the answer is could be that he learned siddhis and if you learn to see this he turned into a different person and if you're going to ask we have uh we learned so we see so many people made and many times ourselves we learn hasidis and we're not that way so you know the famous answer is you have to learn more as it is right three things if you drink alcohol and you're not sicker yet you need to drink more if you want to get sicker right it's proof you haven't drunk a drunk enough and then then the other thing is i forget what's the other one is anyone remember there's three things yeah given to that means you know if you if you haven't been moved by that you have to give more to docker and and i mean money money money give me more money have more money get more but you're gonna more sugar right if you have the more and more money you get more uh like it says in pity of us right and so they'll see this too so the answer is not to stop learning to this i had uh when i was in california in schlichters in marin county i would learn a period uh once a week with a doctor he was a pediatrician at kaiser at the hospital and he he was from boston he had a good head and it was he was very anal he came first his parents answers came from russia he was a very uh and i really enjoyed learning with him you know i'm teaching you natanya the first so he come after chapter 12 and tanya when i intro we you know we learned about the the the the banemy the next week he doesn't show up to the sheer well i don't say anything you know something the second the week after again he's not at this year so i call them up and i say my dear harvard what happened i missed learning with you this rabbi i'll tell you when you know when we learned when when we learned about the beginning and i understand what this pain in the is and i know i'm so far from being abandoned me i don't see the purpose of learning this so of course i told him we need to learn more you'll see how it applies to you and as shmuel once called me about to make a banana society you know which the idea the idea is a good idea the idea and i and i an idea is a good idea for sure that the alternate no question about it the balatanya wants that a year to strive to be abandoned that's what time is about if anyone tells you otherwise they're lying and they're fooling you okay the objective is to become a refined person in thought speech in action no question about it how to implement that you need to learn tanya now if that's his philosophy and ideology and his thesis study study it read it understand it cox in it question debate so a person on one hand should a person seek like oh i have today two banany points no because in labavich in particular that's very um it's very i'm not gonna from the chabad perspective it's a gross perspective it's grub it's grub two points three points four points no but but to to to a sometimes a person needs that okay sometimes what motivates a person is a point system just like with a child and that ambam says you begin with sri lanka right so you give the first candies and then toys and then honor them pleasure right so let's not let's not kid ourselves many times we we we thrive better on a system of points the whole dafayami i'm not going to go into it now right but daffodil is the same thing and it and bar hashem thousands maybe millions i don't know people are learning but you know in in in in europe pre-da foreign and in certain communities like lebanon or other communities it wasn't a big deal i remember my father would go every night to learn gomorrah with rabbi israel freedom and all of um in in in a stable and crown heights and i sat sometimes there and the mama she taught them deeply to gomorrah they weren't following the fayomi they weren't but they were mamas learning and murder rashi tyson is deep deep and disgusting you know but most people they want to feel they've accomplished something i want a degree i want a piece of paper i have i've been i've been called uh an emt we had a girl come here we said margaret after her thursday she got her degree as an emt she feels like a million bucks right now of course you need to have today degrees to be an accountant and a lawyer and a doctor an empty and no and a rabbismichael we know that and like i told you it used to be in the bavaj the bacharam shied away from getting smikha my father-in-law who could learn very well he didn't get smikha because his mindset from russia he came from russia was smith i didn't want to learn because of a title and they didn't learn basically so they might have even learned eurodaya and new yordea without the title came the rebbe in the 1950s and said here in america we need to get smikha and the rebbe had a far vision he saw that without that smikha even though the guy in russia without this michael could learn better than the guy in in new york or in california or in america that had smeared nevertheless that feeling of accomplishment and with that piece of paper and that title will in in in today's world give them an entree to certain positions and so it was and it'll make them feel good and and and and they'll want to learn more so so on one hand why am i saying this why because on one hand this idea of becoming a dollar more refined is you do it because not because of that failure not because of speaker not because of any you do it because the tables are tighter you need hashem says learn taira here i am learn the the fact is that there's a world around us that is not edel that is grub and that those things do mean something so the rebber and others said okay and that was the whole argument with the art school gamoras and the stein sells gamoras i mean you can't imagine or maybe you could imagine the the the antagonism by the gadolin and maybe some rebels to translating and putting the gemura in in um in written form with nakudos and commentary and in english and hebrew you they the argument was you're watering down the torah how will the how will a boy a student appreciate learning a piece of gemara and harving harving is the term used in the yeshiva world effort and diligence i remember when when i'm from the pre-art scroll world you know i learned gemara beginning in the 70s and i remember harushvitzing to understand how to read a piece of gomorrah and arashi you know and and and of course you know and to understand the difference between rashi and tysons and the gemura i remember the days when the the the unison and to ferris i remember the way the boys had pencils and they used to write the rabbit seekers and translating yiddish based on fizzy ellipse giraffe ellipse girl of ashland and others gave this urine and they and they they schvitzed to learn a little yiddish i remember that you know nothing was okay all of a sudden we've gone into an age which it's much easier with the new gemaras and translations and now with the internet so what should we do should we say it's forbidden no valdic and and there's so much more data being learned and understood now and today you have people and you know some of these people because you've seen them and read their works where they're writing torah based on the art school gomorrah or the translation of overcoming folly in other words if you take away the kudis from them they wouldn't be able to read it or understand it properly who cares the main thing is to learn to learn so when you learn siddhis valid when you're involved and immersed in the learning of siddhis your nephesh your nephesh has to become more able that's what i started with and if you and if you say i'm but i'm not able yet first of all self discrimination is not deprecation is no good number two you can't be your own judge ask someone else because you're subjective ask another party and finally and finally if you feel that you learn to sit this and you still grub there are more cities and more cities and by mashpee and morristown it's people that were showing up when when i presented such an issue to him as a teenager you know who goes who has the issues that teenagers have and the questions and the issues he said to me imagine what you would be how much more grub and course you would be if you didn't learn siddhis and sometimes that's a calculation too so one the previous rabbit writes in a mimer 1948 um he writes over there that when it comes to averting and avoiding sin [Music] do whatever it takes to get out even if you use guys to get out by saying hey look i come to such a family it comes from such a community i i know you know imagine if people know that i do this they wouldn't want to associate themselves it's not good for my name my family name or of course it's not good for shidduchim i i want to give you an example um we have a neighbor here who who said um who said to us that um she really wouldn't have themselves tested for covet but she'll do it because if it's gonna mean that her kids won't be able to go into school she'll do it so people in the same as with vaccinations i mean you know what i'm saying that whole argument now the truth is you should do it if it needs to be done because it needs to be done but at the same that's not the way most people are on in in a daily way that you know the insane is the external the superficial makes an impact on the panemias here we're learning when we learn siddhis and we're learning cities we're going to see this we're learning as aseclenius learnt more premium satire i'm telling you that rabbit says when you learn more panini satire you become more adele any questions comments okay if not so everyone should have a great hairdish and tomorrow we will learn the same time same place and we'll go into the next chapter says good