How can I be like a Tzaddik? Importance of Role Models - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so we're learning Target uh we're on page Huff where the uh five lines from the bottom the middle it says but before just to recap so far the balatonya told us that the reasons why it says to hit Russia seemingly it's Superfluous if you're exotic automatically not a Russian why do hazal have to save out in Russian and the answer is at least don't be at Usher because we're talking to the banana knee and abandoned Edition type of individual we tell him and we encourage him you have the potential of not being a Russia so although although you still have an urge which means of Rome that you don't have a an ultimate absolute disgust for evil and that's why the urge still is inside you at all times it's just a matter of controlling it more or less nevertheless the control will will result in being complete and thought speech in action and be it for a minute for an hour during davening during the day whatever so whatever time you you you control yourself completely at that time you're you have the bend any mindset and therefore you're not in Usher so we say to this to the average person we know you won't be at Sadiq why not because the alternative teachers are taught us over here something very important that at Sadiq you're born with a solo Assad that you don't you cannot become a Sadiq if you don't have the soul of a Sadiq you can jump up and down backwards and forwards fast 40 days 120 days through 75 push-ups don't look at women and then dive in and shake and do whatever you want you ain't at Sonic you can have any segula you want you won't be exotic but you could be and will be abandoned me and believe me like I've told you over and over the pain in the the Tanya's banging me is the world Sadiq and that's why the saying is if I only were abandoned me now how about Sadiq I'm not looking to be at Sadiq I'm looking to be abandonedy and if I can reach that plateau I'll be very happy also addresses the questions if so why why do hazal according to the balatonya's logic issue why do we say the Exotic it shouldn't be relevant to the bayony it isn't relevancy right we just I just finished explaining that that's what the ultimate teaches us so why because I'll say teacher explains this in today's sheer and he begins by explaining this we learned towards the end yesterday a person has to set aside times to un to luscious Aces luscious Aces means to put to place advice into your soul that means take time of reflection to realize that you and your lusts for women your lusting feces and then today he continues all kinds of tasty things he refers to food and Delicacies Etc doesn't even say the word Sawyer they become a pile A a pile of feces right food turns into feces so your your desire and gluttony for all Delicacies of pleasure ultimately means you you having a desire and gluttony for feces so too regarding all pleasure worldly pleasures the person who's considered wise sees the future Mayhem the result of these tyvis material type as material indulgences the end will be they will write and they'll be garbage it'll be it'll be a it will rat so what what do you have from all your tivers that ends up being Ash for garbage so this is a meditation that we stay to the pain in the knee that your your your your your um you need to humble yourself through these thoughts now I want to point out to you this this is the first time in the whole discussion of the pain in the assadic that the altaraba mentions this and he mentions it by abandoning why doesn't he mention these thoughts these uh hazal these statements from the Sadiq because the answer is that Sonic has come to a mindset in a position where he doesn't need these thoughts to Humble him he eradicates urges and evil and indulges us without coming to this using these kind of very um I don't want to use the word gross but you know simple thoughts that lusting for women is like lusting feces eating overeating and indulging is eating feces I mean it's like come on but guess what abandon me who does have urges in the heart sometimes you have to point out to yourself what am I lusting what am I Desiring to be more garbage and this is important for the pain in me not for the Sadiq that's why until this chapter 14 you won't find doubter ever employed this this hazal to Humble the the the the the Sadi that Sadiq doesn't need that that Sonic to begin with is a soul that has the capacity to rid himself from urges more or less without reflecting oh uh the urge why do I have desserts it's ridiculous I'm basically Desiring stupidity nonsense feces and all of that you're like come on it's a very very down to earth calculation you know it reminds me of when you know when you get a ticket sometimes they give you uh School you could remove the the the driving the ticket the speeding ticket or whatever if you go to school hours of the you know or or automobile school I forgot what they call it and what did they show you I was years years ago I went one time you gotta sit for two three four hours you know usually supposed to be four they cut it to two you know the Proctors don't care they show you movies film of people who drink and drive and have terrible accidents Fatality and all that they scare you in a sense these thoughts of Ghazal is to scare the person scared meaning to to say look how low you are that you you you desire to be to have garbage it it my [ __ ] if we would say to a person uh you want to eat out of a garbage can you would say you're out of your mind but Hashem we don't have to eat out of a garbage can once we did when there was no food right but and then tell him well you're eating out of a garbage can every time you you you you indulge in food you have type of soakila as the actor ever says that's like it's a very uh very bottom line Earth earthy um type of reflection and because I'll say it why did he say it because they're dealing with an animal an animal meaning a person Who's acting like an animal and he has desires and loss and guess what we have an animal inside so it's very nice to say hey I have this beard and this is the you know this desire that desire this loss right tell us potential pain in him that there's a point where you have to understand that what you're eating and what you're doing is garbage but that thought that's not relevant to the Sadi because the Sadiq to begin with is a Holier soul and I so I hope this is clear why I thought that ever employs these statements from the the sages the kazal specifically here in chapter 14 where he's speaking about the pain in the and not about the Sadiq earlier let's continue now we're a page huffmanship now three lines to the Bottom now Dr Eber addresses not the negative but the positive in other words there's two things right by everyone surma avert evil and do good so in the surma that's the pain and he does not have the same despise for for evil and bad and indulgences as a topic and therefore we tell him to hit Sonic you should strive the whoever you are go one notch up right one second one second why should one point who are you inspired with you looking at love you look it up you're looking at my spear you look at a God or whatever you look at someone and you're sure the friend who's your friend and you look at him he says wow he's really a servant of Hashem and not even and you know I'm just you know so that you would like to grow you would like to be better says that's why the hazal safety heat Sadiq in addition to about Russia because for the beginning Russia would be adequate South America says no if you if you if we as potential being in them want to succeed more in being potential being in them we need to look upwards to hit Sonic learn from the Sadiq that you need to that there's more room to grow that's why one should always have Role Models I was just talking to my daughter here the rap one the rabbi here main Rabbi is now what you saw for three weeks it won't be beers so I came bothered me a lot I said how are my grandchildren what are they seeing the rabbi is not around he's on vacation he's got it's like what's going on here I grew up with a a student of the river shop Rabbi Simpson who didn't speak to us really he was in a different world and you know what I'm saying he was an old man but I remember saying wow we have here a student of the river shop the guy bye that that brought people into the previous River for yegridas he was a hoser he refused to my mother of the rep rashab as a young boy this left such a deep impression on me although I never I don't even know if I ever spoke to maybe spoke to him once twice three times you know what I'm saying but this is the figurehead so when you have a role model who's nicer than you and better than you and every you know what I'm saying it's very healthy for growth and I think it's not I think I know it's so important for children and grandchildren to see this and this is something that I think needs Improvement especially in in Chabad house situations where you know sometimes this is missing for whatever reason I'm not going to go into it but you know the the stability of a shoe so let's say in this call this number Shapiro is the roof okay he's not the type of rock that's standing over there uh you know up front the whole time he moves around at least when I was there to say show me him and all that and and but you know it comes from lineage he comes from you know what I'm saying he went through his own transformation and he look at the kahila how beautifully it's grown it's very healthy for the Youth growing up okay and even Rabbi Myers and the other shoe it's also he's a different type of a rabbi and a different type of Dove but he he has you know he's a figurehead and this is very so drab is saying here that the Bane in the tahit sadik look towards the Sadiq who does despise evil so though you banging the don't despise evil you know they're the true the truth is to despise evil and indulgences so that whoever you are and wherever you are you will grow in your own way because of the role model the Sadiq that will inspire you yes Maisha you wanted to say something yeah I just wanted to clarify just one thing which is that let's keep Lewis comes up but the alternative is of the of the opinion that a person's own hashama that he has one second um could you commute yourself for someone I hear ringing maybe huge yeah okay if I hate vehicles and the opposite is regarding having pleasure and and happiness with God are Days by meditating on God's greatness you feel hope they based on your capacity obviously a day even though he knows he never will reached the true level of of loving God and having pleasure from God join us it will be considered a fantasy let me let me I'll get back to you in a second in a few minutes can be doing this it's rather just justinees which means you know fantasies I don't became nevertheless everyone turned the page to page 40. the Bengali should do his job the kayam is a sure to fulfill the oath that was given to to us as before we were born she must be and that we were administered in oath to be righteous and God will do the rest don't play God I promise without Robin says you don't play God you do your best and if God wants to give you an elated feeling where you have this great pleasure in God and Only God nothing else you'll get it and if not it's also good so this is one one to hit Sadiq how can I'm not at Sonic I don't have the Sonic's feelings of love for God after everything I know I know but you do what you need to do and if God wants to give you that the the Sadiq like feeling he'll give it to you now he says the urge when the second line on page 40 V8 and this is very important wish I had to go out cold over Sheltering the NASA type of Savior when you train yourself for hair gel and and in a certain way to control yourself it becomes second nature and when a person trains themselves to despise evil bad MS SAS you'll have a little truthful this the spies for evil it will rip off okay and when you'll train yourself to have simcha through godliness ideas so through the arousal of below of your heart it will arouse the god of I love this these words and maybe foreign God will awaken a spirit from above the yes look at the word it's a Swiss and you'll Merit Le Prince to attain temporarily albeit the spirit mishraid Sadiq from itsadiq should a cyber boy that will impregnate the pain and knee Hashem that sadiqam Rejoice truly in God with the sky and boy by EMES and then it will truthfully be fulfilled the oath she must be in teacher that we give the soul beatsadiq so in other words we have two explanations the bellatania gives here very important what is you're not you're never going to be of Sadiq it's kind if you do your best and if God gives you a little bit fine the second one is training yourself to do Sadiq like activities of despising evil and loving God through meditation and all that will instilling you the the nephesh of Sadiq it's called the ruach about Sadiq and he uses the kabbalistic idea of Ebor spiritual impregnation so and then at the time when you're pregnant a woman's pregnant nine months you know then it's just not pregnant but when that for for how long for whatever how you're pregnant meaning regardless of how long the pregnancy lasts the spiritual pregnancy at that time of the spiritual pregnancy you will feel like a Sonic and you'll act like a Sonic and this is uh this is it's the way it puts it together but this is brought in the Kabbalah so I just want to explain a little more because it's a general issue and basically it's brought in the kiss fianice out that when a person dedicates themselves completely fish ready to go into fire and to do whatever that Sadiq wants that Sadiq will pay back the person later in life and that Sadiq will come from time to time and impregnate you with his soul with part of his soul and when that and when you're in that place you can do things that you couldn't do regularly and then he leaves then then that soul that spark of a soul of the Sadiq leaves you and you're back to yourself so two people are walking for a jog in the morning and the night before someone wrote out a check Way Beyond their capacity not knowing how to govern it foreign says you look different so the natural thing would be to say yeah I just I just gave away most of my earnings right but it's much deeper it's Sadiq it could be why do you feel different why does your friend perceiving you you're a different person this morning or this afternoon or this week etc etc it's because you're walking and around with the soul of exotic in you that's a whole different world now if you're gonna ask me how long does this last when did this happen there's no answers to that that God knows and God decides how long he wants to impregnate you with the soul of exotic thou art that ever brings it over here at the end of chapter 14. because he says the the gemara says to you we give the soul before the soul comes into a body we administrate an oath to eat Sonic be righteous and don't be Wicked so we explained here in chapter 14 though that the the Delta rep explains that this refers to this statement of the Ghazal is referring to the average person who is the potential baby me who's not exotic and we're telling this soul Who's not exotic don't be out in Russia I know you're not at Sonic's but at least don't be bad control yourself thought speech and action I.E be abandoning right so the question was why do we need to say the first part be righteous I'll never be exotic so why mention why is part of the of the oath to eat Sonic explains in the last section of this chapter that either you do what you have to do and if I sh and and you're aiming towards something higher which is more subject-like you're not you're not exotic but for you to be whoever you are and the best you could be you need to know that something higher that was the first explanation the second explanation is you actually can be at it for a certain amount of time when you're impregnated with the solo but something like a Sonic now this doesn't mean to say that this should be your modus operandi and every day you should be saying oh uh when am I gonna be impregnated with this over something or like people say why is it that I never had this elated feeling of just loving God not wanting anything else no money no women no wives no kids just Gods like I told you my father we came back two three in the morning from that episode bringing I remember as a young boy till today and my father said to us in the car I just came out of gun Aiden I just wasn't gonna eating so I said father what does that mean he says sitting by the front Brendan I felt like I wasn't gonna eating I don't know what Canadian is but I could tell you just sitting at the fabrina with the hasidim and with the red and it just felt like unaid and I said now we're driving back to borrow back from Crown Heights it's three in the morning my time pays up we're stopping at Corn's Bakery get a piece of hot bread the right half the first thing or a pizza like people get you know my father says I left grenade I'm not I'm no longer in Dunedin that's Delta hip is saying here that's what he's saying here so the the words tahit Sadiq are true not it's a make-believe or it's like wannabe or it will help me be better knowing there is a robe and a rabbi and a sadiqlo no you yourself will have exotic like feeling if you dedicate yourself to the to this particular Sonics avoida is applicable today famous and I could tell you you know and I've said it before when you look around at some of these Chabad rabbis putting up buildings with institutions and you know and I know them from the inside many of these people trust me they weren't the biggest Learners and the biggest the Hashem you know regular guys but they've dedicated themselves to a certain sadiq's approach that he wants Outreach and vahulu and God imbused them with uh you know it's in with these abilities that are Beyond himself it's not because they went to Harvard of Colombia Oxford or barilam they didn't they didn't say how are they able to do what the big CEOs do because and what I'm saying is it's much more than being in a a cyber fundraiser and a good speaker it's much more than that it's something that comes in if they're dedicated and talk it if if they're doing it on because of their own ego it will fall flat if not now later and it's happened okay I can document it I don't want I won't because it's not proper but I've seen it you fall flat in your face you can have a habaris for 4 30 40 years and all of a sudden because if any ego gets involved it contradicts the Messier Snapfish that we're talking about now I should go ahead I think you can answer the question ahead but the question is basically the idea of a person being born with a certain type of Channel and that question you you know like in Hussein outside of Chabad Circle let's just say no concept of like oh like you can work on yourself it can really grow and it's over and and that's fun but the question is here with this ultimate basically I just got a question of confirming your thread is saying listen you're born with neshama let's say of potential mainly the person is not one of them he's not getting a team I guess that's my question can he attain truly being exotic so so first of all you have to hear yesterday's year because we spoke about this yesterday in this year you know you were traveling so you didn't hear it so I really urge you to listen to the cheer yesterday because I spoke and and emphasized because this is you know and Delta River in a few words in the the from page the Huff uh he basically says that the Exotic soul is a gifted Soul Masha just uh for you to become start becoming familiar with the words in Chabad but Sadiq is again born with a base get born ished and not again foreign you're born into a from family or you become from there is being born at Sadiq and then there is becoming exotic believes if you don't got a Sonic Soul you ain't becoming exotic what did we learn today today we learned that you will that it's possible temporarily to be impregnated but it's only an impregnation so that that should answer your question you say you want to say something it reminds me a bit of the uh I think there's a the more perhaps says that uh this the talmud attains the level of understanding of of his Remy during the week so this this impregnation is uh is we can all tap into the least took temporarily uh Chavez there's an automatic you know connection that raises your level of understanding to the level of your rubs understanding during the week tomorrow okay okay again here I think we're talking the Kabbalah again this is the cabal is talking on a deeper higher level it's not just a matter of understanding learning it's it's the Elation the spirit what you understand it's it's a whole different it's not about you know knowing it's the the mindset and and what time is it I want to tell you a story and then what time is it 317. okay one short story so I heard a story this morning someone just had me like of his youngest daughter so the brother of the someone tells me you don't know what happened 37 years ago I said no he said it was like 37 years ago my brother and his wife were married for several years didn't have children so the rabbit is decided to give out sadoka dollars whatever coins dollars during the day whoever was around so they called my my brother um and they told him oh so my father his father-in-law who was a Russian said quickly come from Manhattan to them is giving out dollars it's not blamers so he he couldn't make he didn't make it but the father-in-law when he went by the red but the representative new asked for a brother he had asked for his daughter and son-in-law to have a child except many times they still haven't had the child La blame it the rabbit tells him he didn't you know no ask for a brother today like what better day is there right next pesach they have twins they never get and they never gave him three dollars one for himself one for his son-in-law one for his daughter they had twins PESA that's like nine months later or so ten months later so I was thinking about it okay there's more to the story uh someone later came and asked them for a dollar because he just [ __ ] he sees him in 770. this gentleman that had the Twins and an Israeli who came for young to sees him and it says could you give me a dollar of the red but he says you know I have dollars but he said and he says why are you coming to me he says you know I'm coming to you because you've been around it looks like you know you've been around you grew up in Crown Heights so he says to give me a dollar I don't have a child I want to be blessed with a child and he like Blown Away wow it's coming to me I didn't have a child and the rabbit gave three dollars and he went home and he asked his wife his wife is sure give him a dollar and he gave him a dollar and a few years later I don't remember he came in he he this person who had the twins came to the family and said I got a call from spot from this gentleman he's he wants me to come he's paying for my ticket to come to the briss that's a topic I'm saying they don't grow on trees so they can don't grow on trees you know they're never goes and solicits the father-in-law to ask for Abraham I'm not blamer what the rep is is a big shot that's what I'm saying it flows through a Sabbath and it's not just with the red but it's the Boston the rib and the bells are there but I'm just saying that a real Sadiq there's a flow so when we this is when we have mercy Las for our levels in your name for their things then we then we then we get that tomorrow we'll be back with Hashem we will learn so everyone stay well and see you all tomorrow gotta go Shalom bye not sure