Hey Teves #1- On your birthday look at your life and make a resolution to change and improve

yourself so it's mentioned today's hey Davis I'm not your Rabbi I'm not your mashpia I don't know who you are really I was invited to fabrein for his Joy Melendez that's what I was told now it's understood it's hey tables but I'm not gonna be talking much about hey tables I'm going to be talking to Gabriel about avoidance Hashem about serving God my father was a student in the Le Bobby and he learned eight years from 13 until um 21 by the famousheim kesselman Castleman was a yeet he actually was born in Russia I'm sorry in Poland but he learned in the Laboratories and he became probably the greatest has seen until today and when I say the greatest must be I mean and actually and actually influence and impact on grooming students to become true Eden true Jews and truexism it would be a full night of a fabrangan to talk about this Jew and what the style that he used the impact that he made on future Generations and and many of which we see today so the video it was so it was a fabrangin my father must have been 17 18 I don't remember what what exact age my father told me this he had a human lettuce father had a birthday like your birthday and it was happening and I don't know maybe other reasons for the family but definitely it was if I bring and it was Associated also with his young Miller this is birthday and this is what he said that you'll please uh excuse the vernacular and you're all adults and those that are children it will be said in a way that uh it won't be too bad for their ears because they need to know these things and grow up if they want to beat them and I'm sure they do so they can hear it as well and this is what he told them my father's name is Aaron Aaron Aaron right had a way of calling his talmuda many tell me them by kind of their nickname you know what a nickname is yes like a nickname you're an American I know the Americans know I was asking the people from Russia they know what a nickname is okay okay so the the the it's not even a nickname it's kind of a cutesy way a nice cute way he would call him Arrow Arrow okay Aaron is the name but he would call them Otto his particular style was with a lot of love and Hava there were certain teachers of hasidus and mashpium their style was more what we call yira or fear reverence but his style was Ava with a lot of love he smothered you with love but it was until it was a very intelligent love it had a shape it had a direction he wasn't just you know saying oh you're the best and you're the best and and really you're not the best and you need a lot of improvement it was a very smart individual you would call him an excellent psychologist a power excellence so here it is a 18 year old young man who was in Yeshiva who's developing himself refining himself to become a mensch to become accustomed and the flame Heim says them oddly says what did you do this year what did you accomplish since your last birthday uh my father you know it's what we call an English a rhetorical question in other words he's not asking looking for an answer he's asking to make a point and he's going to himself give the answer that's called a rhetorical question so so he says you're here now if I'm bringing a year after your last game of letters your last birthday what did you accomplish this year let's let's do a little hash but a little account let's let's see what you did and he said if you cannot pinpoint what transpired in your life in an improved way from the year before to the year now then you've wasted a year wow you wasted a year and if all you could tell me is and this is the punch line that you're excuse me you're behind your backside okay grew larger from eating more and sitting more then you also wasted the year and and my father this is 18 year and he would tell me this as we grew up and Shabbos he would talk to us and share with us so many things that he heard from his mashpia and this I remember from childhood when I was 8 9 10 11. I I remember things that he told and this is one of the things I remember which by the way is also teach us the importance of sharing things that you heard from your rabbis and your mashpim and your teachers with your children and believe me they might be playing they might run in they write out run out which didn't happen my father because with a a Jew from Romania or european a European Jew you didn't mess around if he tells you he told you to sit at that table you sat otherwise your backside felt it okay it doesn't mean he kept us there for five hours but when he told set over things from his teachers and he sang the gun to him we have to sit at the table and we sat at the table therefore we remembered things okay anyway so good now Leo it's your game of lettuce you're not 18 you're 45 I think you're you're you're you're you're uh Hashem you're a grown adult you know is the same there has been the the thought that was shared with my father in Yeshiva when he was 18 applies to everyone at their birthday in this case Gamble and it's not to make you uncomfortable or to put you on the spot which that would be good as well it doesn't make that's what if it's about her bringing is not a time when we eat sushi and drink wine and it's a nice party okay that's a side benefit if you get a blanket if a blanken is a time of some serious reflection doesn't mean you have to be morbid and sad and Melancholy no but you have to ask yourself what's going on in my life you know we have this covert this this terrible pandemic and everything else in the whole world for a place for a little while became a little serious now we're back to the same old old way of you know everything else anyway let's stay positive not negative so if I bring it is a time where I make a freshman so high leaves the help that that even though it's already passed you again you said this it says Hey Davis and we're here for bringing in your house which is a house see them in Russia see them they they bring the lot in the house now of course it was because the KGB and the Communists we understand but nevertheless there was something to to the fabrina in the house by blinking in the house brings in the city the Hasidic warmth the the warmth of the shama of Soul the warmth of togetherness the warmth of Abbas Israel into the house and then the house this house is permeated with this Farm kite and as the year goes on it comes out in this corner and in that corner and in this book and in this picture you understand it so the house becomes oxidation house I heard from actually there was a schlier in France he's reading illum emis and his wife's and I remember his name was they called him he was married sister her name was a cousin of my wives and and um so we were there for we were in Paris for one one night it was actually when gimmel Thomas went at that same time and we were there because uh my my brother-in-law got married in in in in in in Paris in France so you know I was told it was it was a very very trying time in Chabad and the difficult issues with the neighbor's health and everything else Gable Thomas it was a very trying time so I I mentioned it to Mrs azima if we're talking you know we're talking like cousin to cousin you know face to face you know between ourselves there's no uh mics and and I I kind of uh expressed my my feelings which were you know uh I even called sad it was difficult it was difficult and she said to me the following line and they will never forget it she said come from her and you can see that she was a real a real shelter for real she says my father had been seeing Hashem name was Benja betsya he taught us as the rabbit is niched in in in in in holes brick that every isn't in wood and stones and she was saying that the fact that they ever lived for 40 50 years in 770 or you know 770 in Crown Heights that was that time then he moved himself over to the oil and that's where he is now but the way she said it was so first of clever whether you agree or disagree but it was a very clever statement and a very poignant nakuda and it's an occurred that is is connected to the yemi letters to everyone in your area if we look at life and Jewish life as Associated only with the gesham with the kashmias with the physical then you can become very sad because we all you know after 120 and 180 we returned to a chef and there's illness and there's this and there's that and there's many reasons why we can get very uh depressed very upset very morbid but if you understand that this is only a temporary I mean I'm not this classical Yiddish guide you know that's not see this this is Judaism 101. tell you to 101. if you understand that this is only a temporary place and that and that the Ikea here is the Rooney is to make the gosh means so yes we have sushi on the table but we make a broken Sushi and we try to think about what it means and we eat it with and everything else we eat it for the sake of Hashem and we eat like a mens not like a glutton then the the physical becomes truly a vehicle for the spiritual and when you make the physical into the spiritual you should be a very happy person why because you've did have a righteousness you've created a novelty when you take material goshness and you transform gosh means you are what we call the mother says a partner with and when you're apart with God you're godly that's the meaning of a Godly soul never surely kiss another push me about mine about from my yard explain to us and talk sometimes that with a Godly Soul means unofficially kiss a Godly Soul means is that you have within yourself a part of God of an aspect of God and God is not limited to the gesham to the physical material and if you become that then you're you're God but of course you're not God you're creation of God but you have godliness in you and that's the greatest thing so that's what your mother is about this is birthday is about finding in their life finding in their Community finding in their work finding in their experience God I'm behind them to help that we should we should we should find Hashem in our lives be open to change never say we know we know we're already grown and if you have that attitude you won't have just another year of having a big a bigger backside but your year will be a year that will be permeated with Tata and gross in avoidance