Hechaltzu chptr 8- Chaos vs. Normalcy, Yearning vs. Being, Ego causes hatred- Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

So we're learning the mimer the rebar from 1898 we're at oas chapter 8 just to recap what we learned um well let's actually read the introduction if you have I don't know if you have yet the safer on 59 in my book here of lessons it says at the beginning of chapter 8 that rashab resumes the abstract discussion of bit and unity at the at as the hallmarks of holiness and yes and discord as the hallmarks of kipa. However, in the middle of the chapter, the reb shifts focus from the abstract to the personal and demonstrates how these concepts play out in interpersonal relationships. And in the avoid of every individual, he explains that yes is the cause for baseless interpersonal hatred. It creates senseless friction and tears people apart from one another for no reason at all. This kind of animosity arises not because one has been harmed by someone else but simply because each person is so preoccupied with his own self that he cannot make room for another. He finds it difficult to tolerate the very existence of the other person. Sadly, such friction and intolerance are widespread existing even among those who devote themselves to the TA study and avoid lofty pursuits in which unity and cooperation would be so profoundly valuable. After all, it is precisely by collaborating and hearing different ideas, differing ideas that one's understanding of a ta concept is broadened and his appreciation deepened. Moreever, when people communicate and share these struggles and successes in avoida, they help each other advance in their respective spiritual goals. Unfortunately, instead of working with one another, sharing and being open to suggestions for self-improvement, people often fall into the trap of their own selfimage. This makes it impossible for them to appreciate the input of others and causes them to find a host of reasons to belittle others and look down upon them. Let's learn learn the text. This concept of working together and inclusiveness is on the side of holiness which is dominated by humility and that's the reason why there's unity and inclusiveness they are completely and utterly separate from each other in a divisive way. because of the ego that is within them and and it dominates the z he says in the parenthesis the z this is the primary difference if if you look at the same ideas in its source right we keep on learning in kap is there are the emanations of the world of chaos known as theu and there are the emanations of the of the world of corruption which is known as the aminations of chaos they were and it's a quote from apostic embraces I shall reign each one with a big I shall reign I and not anyone else so the ego is very pre prevalent and dominant the gaming and even the concept of there's the I shall reign. So first the first thing is is says that the eye was very primary and very felt but even the concept of mal of kingship in that perspective yes that's not a kingship that's associated with humility it's a kingship of ego I'm the king so that type of kingship and that type of reigning and that type of dominance is even even though It's mus and you would think that kingship is is holy but because it's predicated on the I on the yesesh an therefore it the itself is fraught with ego that's the that's the addition that he says here you see the word so he's adding something to what he said earlier let's continue and this is also the cause the humility within them it was in a manner of what we call yearning running longing oh it's alone it didn't have within it what we call retreat explained elsewhere This concept is of course from based it's also has its root ini with the bon right the children of they wanted to be close for god so they brought in the theas they brought in the incense they weren't told to do it and they died explains that what happened over here where were they coming from they were the children of they were they were holy people but they had a longing for God that caused them just to do it without any boundaries. That's called toyo chaos, wild, crazy, over the top. But not over the top in a one second. Not over the top in a positive way, in a negative way. Because the end is they were punished. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes, sir. So we know after the fact that they were punished but beforehand beforehand couldn't we say it's kosh that they had such a desire that and we we consider kosh to be a very positive thing >> what you're saying right right so so you're right that's that's the ver that's what you're saying is what the is saying the is justifying that what they That's is he's saying that they came from a they were coming from a good place in but at the end of the day that's not the kavana the kavana nephesh means you you remain alive and you have the sensation and attitudes as though you have nephwise why did put us here right ask you you're asking a fundamental you're touching on upon a very fundamental thing. If the ideas and everything else why the answer is yet God wants that of us while we're alive. In other words, sacrifice all your gashm be a servant of Hashem as you live not as you die. In other words, live for God. Don't die for God. So while you're living for Hashem, create within yourself the attitude of what did they do? They they acted in a way that they died for God. In other words, the Reb always brings the famous four people entered the the garden the the right and three one cracked up and one this and died the bish he went in with peace. So the question is why does it have to say he went in he entered with peace they came out one came out cracked up and sugar you know one died and came out healthy why does it say that he went in healthy and the explanation is that you know the reason why he was able to come out healthy is because his attitude going in was healthy means one and two opposites and you make peace but down here. So understood the kavan is to live on earth and the kav is to serve hashem here. So he went into parades. It's not as though he didn't he didn't he didn't seek nephesh like you like you said he's seeking neph but a a neph is experienced in his body alive. Yeah. Do you follow or not? Want to make sure you understand? Got it. Okay. And it's a it's a it's a it's a very real thing, especially if you learn. There were there were streams in Yiddish kite, whether it be the extreme Musra movement of Nardik and others. It was mamish like to to abolish Gashmas to the point of making yourself look silly. Why? because you want to um you want to humiliate yourself so that you you you come to a place where you you realize you're a nothing kabat we don't find such a thing we find it but not in the using a style of you know uh going into a store that's selling a food and asking do you have a pack of nails like are you out of your mind we sell food here not nails you know so this was a way of being um of of of of mocking intellect goes intellect or everything I write. So I'm going to do things to to mock and I told you many times to in 1700 in um 1700 1770 uh where they would they would make fun of the people everything was seel. So they made somersaults and they they made them so foolish and it was all to show the lit fox that your approach to God is very cold and very apathetic and that's not where it's at. And they caused mamish. This is a stir. And it it was one of the reasons it caused by the way the the of the go that he issued I think in 1772 was because he said these guys are outrageous. And the answer is didn't hold with them. Didn't hold with them. This is too wild. And their famous saying was this is done by I think is nit to you take the the letters and you you reverse it you get a Yiddish word to it's not a tok means it it ain't it's not a it's not a way it's not a behavior it's not a normal behavior is nit that's not the way you serve God by making a fool out of yourself and causing you know ostraation in in in in in the community and and outrage that's not the way you you accomplish it. So I'm saying the same thing. You look into if he's serious about it, it's it's very much, you know, that a person should hold himself back from gashm is kafia. It's it's a main stay in kabad, you know, we we don't practice it too much today, unfortunately, but it doesn't the ethos is isafia, but the iskafia of kabad is is a very different iskafia than the vardic for for example. It's not through torture and pain and uh uh you know putting down. No, it's through you know hey there is Hashem and I Hashem put me here. So no am I serving myself or serving God? So focus on Hashem. I told you the famous uh it's you and God you conceal yourself. So there's an old lab to tune back to the beginning of the the movement. It's like you know it's like a cry. Yes, it's you but you conceal yourself. Right? So there are two ways you can sing the song. You could put the emphasis on the Helen where is Hashem God's hidden you know it's the it's the o you know way the men of when he sang the song for me he sang it he said you have to sing it differently. Put the emphasis on at you. Don't don't don't be madish of you're saying those words, but put the emphasis on at. So it's the same words. It's the same words that the nar would say and the kabadics would say, but it's two different worlds. One is emphasizing the kale. That's their shita. It's a holy shittita, but that's their the other one's not emphasizing the kale. We It's emphasizing the so that's why I'm saying we're learning here. It's good that you ask this sir about you know the the nephesh. If your your attitude when you go into the situation is I want to reach in that's disgusting like in kabad they would tell you you're a nothing and cut it out you you faker you want to read first get rid of your ego then we can begin talking you're such an egoomaniac understand so in kabad the the the the we call it the mukash the bush of you know of selfation and if there's a it's not kosher rather immerse yourself in Hashem immerse yourself in immerse yourself in what's beyond you and just float over there when you start floating there you're going to you're going to become more refined because you're floating with God with rrook such spiritual ideas that all of a sudden you see ego ego has no place here. There's no place for ego here. In other words, the values the values that we that ego brings along which is honor covid and and all the other tyus when you're when you're floating in the world of truth just by being there the truth just the the e the ego it just dissipates. It's it's a you know it's like I I assumed you guys had this experience too but I remember learning with someone who wasn't from yet and he asked me questions on on the end of Tanya chapter one post to Gomorrah about that all good that go does all kindness of is sinful the brings it's not it's a gor but he asked me what does that mean there's no genuine goim so we know that the the the the has already the comment on that piece does it doesn't refer to the but even even regular goyan the kamicazis they they in the Japan Japanese war they gave their life it's not genuine right so I'm not going into the explanation now but I'm the I want to bring out is that >> can I just saying yeah what you're saying >> when somebody says I want even if it's close enough the sentence stops because it's I want instead of Hashem if you start the sentence with Hashem instead of I it's a completely different thing >> that's exactly right >> I want even if it's something good and but there's the eye >> right that's exact and and there was a and some there's spoke he said the says in which maybe we'll learn after this we'll seem so he says that the whole idea of is to get rid of the I it's a good practice instead of I say we many times in my writing I substitute for I we but you know some people say well it's it's it's very Nice. But in English, you don't read a sentence when you're talking about yourself with we. Anyway, let's go back to the text. >> I told you I told you there's this there's a very rabbi that dav he's not the but he ds in the not all the time. Friday night brown he teaches in a lot of places big big he said that ego is edging God out. >> Okay. Very well. I like it. I like it. Very good. Tell him that he has some fans here who like the verb. Okay. Back to the text. That true, true humility is not in the notion of the yearning and the longing because that is really a a an expression of self fulfillment. The primary mode of humility is specifically the level of the retreating the returning knowing that that that the purpose is to be on earth and it doesn't feel maybe as great and as high as you get from a ne like you said but nevertheless that's not the kavana the kavana And this was missing in the world of the einations of why was it missing there? Because they were full of self and therefore they were separate branches was only they couldn't mix with each other. The sweetness of they are the the the expression of humility. Therefore they understood that the is what in the retreat and the return. This is the idea of the settlement that comes along with the world of cororrection. This is the level of specifically settling in a vessel. Calm down. Get in. Get grounded. So what happened in there was the shattering of vessels says from the shattering of the vessels of the world of chaos. It caused here below on earth the existence the emerging of the negative side in a manner in of ego complete evil says that now this source the difference between and is the reason for the difference between inclusiveness and division here amongst people and this is the negative negative force and husky. It is the strife and divisiveness hatred from one to the other if he didn't do anything bad to him at all. And he didn't touch anything of his. He didn't bo touch any anything. Not even a half of anything. He didn't even bother him. And he doesn't think about hurting him. He has no intent to hurt him. So why? Hey, the guy didn't bother you. The person didn't bother you. And you're not even thinking of bothering him. But for some reason you can't take him. You can't tolerate him. You can't look at him and you hate him with an ultimate degree actually to the point where you can't speak to him. You don't want to speak to him. You don't want him mixed in in anything of of of anything that you're involved in. Even if it's something of holiness that you're involved in, you don't want this fellow involved. Because of your own ego, you don't give place for the existence of the other. You oppose him even though he did nothing bad to you. was brought to and there's no specific detail of bad that he did to you that you could say ah this is why I don't like him >> rubs you the wrong way >> that's right the fact that he exists in this physical world it just rubs you bothers you [Music] and because you say to yourself if he exists that means I am smaller He can't tolerate him and he hates him. He can't join together with him. Says that now he's kind of alluding to the situation that the based on the infighting and all that wherever Jews are sitting and living. You're a guy over there. There's differences in the car. Put the air condition on higher and lower and I didn't get and he got and everyone's fighting. When it comes to holiness, it's not for myself. It's air condition for the look what he says here. For example, the rabbis disagreements about who should be the rabbis, theim, the slaughterers, vaness, and ideas of the shul. Exactly what I said that writes it 1898. This is what they're arguing about. Who should be the rabbi? Who should be the who should get the alias? What ways? >> Never change. >> Yeah, exactly. She actually people can't get together. the attitude is what this person says. I have to say the opposite. What this person builds the other guy destroys. The difference he says is separation of the hearts. The fact that he says different contrary to his friend It's not that he thought about it and by him he comes to this decision rather he says whatever he wants not due to the intellectual reasoning behind it why does he want this because my friend this guy this other guy wants it this way I want it just the opposite so he he concludes by himself self. Whatever this one says, I'm going to say just the opposite. That's because of the separation of the heart. They can't tolerate each other. Therefore, they oppose each other. Therefore, what happens? Everyone loses in fighting causes the congregants to lose. that cloud. But the ego of these egotists, they don't give a, excuse the expression, they don't give a damn. They don't care. It's all about themselves. So the fact that we just had in the show this morning, one guy, he's cold. Everyone else is boiling hot. So if if you say something to him, he's going to start a fight. It's like people came. It's more than usual. You know, you're cold, so put on a double coat. I'm sorry. We're not we're just talking like you can't out everyone in the shoe. There's a whole shoe. But it's it's like are you looking at the cause? What's best for the cause? You're looking for yourself. That's what he says. But these egotists don't care about the cloud. The main thing is their own ego. Tomorrow we'll continue. Have a great day. Hey Remy, what what's the what's the last day we're going to learn before the >> um like we always stop yum kiper I think. Yeah. You know a day before not itself a day uh a day before. So okay. Have a good day tomorrow. Bye bye. Bye bye. Take care. Thank you.