Happiness - Do I have it? 3AM Maamar, Chazara & Talucha - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so it's pretty much air force so I thought we'd talk a little about you let's call it a fablingen so I want to share just uh a memory how it was uh By The River the years that I was there she was which were you know from the in the mid 1970s till um I left Ashley to California in 1984. the rabbit rabbit from 1952 till 1971 19 years at 3am the first night of shorts that means let's say tomorrow night Thursday night after everyone said tikkun in Chabad and Hasidic circles uh we say chicken at this time we learn as well but we don't we don't not say taking like others some others don't and they just learn anyway so we say chicken and by the way you could say it in Hebrew and Yiddish and English and any language yes he will it's a in the Chabad yes yes so um at 3am the rapper would walk into would come down from his office he would come into downstairs or or in the early years into the basement and he would start saying this without a niggan that was normally sung before he set a member in in Chabad the Le Papa and before they said the actual member a Hasidic meditative niggan was sung as a preparatory step of uh kind of bringing the the people to a certain place of seriousness and meditation and the Rebellion too they prepared themselves for what in Chabad tradition is the communication of Hashem going through the river at the time as he says the mimer and that makes the mimer different than asika is more you know a conversation and a talk you learn you prepare you give a share you give it to Russia sermon a mimer although it was prepared by the Rebellion but the uh the belief is that there was a uh a greater force and energy that overtook the rebel at the time and it was similar to what we call shrina Perez that's the Chabad belief and I'm not sure anyone else that has that belief but if if you want to know authentic Chabad the belief is that when I represent a minor God's presence the screener speaks through the throat of the river just as God's presence spoke through the throat of mashinabelu naturally not you know many people have a hard time understanding this or believing this or and that's fine but that's in Chabad that's the belief and that's why the maima hasidis foreign it made the difference and people knew that whatever says a minor there's all kinds of things happening some of which you might see some of which you might not see but there was there was a much greater um importance given to the mimer that represents versus should not be light in your eyes your mundane conversation of of it should not be lightly taken naturally the retainer and debris insidedness of of exotic is definitely important but nevertheless compare that to a minor there's no comparison so again these things are Community are communicated from generation to generation and to tell you that we can explain it all we can't you have to just you have ha you have you have had to be there to feel it and I was there I was there with that Evan I could tell you that the atmosphere in the room and the represent a mimer compared to the the secrets it was two different worlds so now take everything I'm saying and imagine it's 3 A.M night you know and and we're preparing for mountaintailer and the Baba today with this great Sadiq walks into 770 walks into the basement and he starts saying a mimer without a nigging which normally was sung to prepare the mo the atmosphere and again why he did it that way he never explained so what why should I you know uh pontificate and you know whatever you know that's the way it is but I could tell you that it was very very intense it was the intense within intense there wasn't a pin drop in 770. now now granted 770 from 52 to 71 wasn't the 770 of 2023. okay there were 300 people 400 people 500 people whatever you know what I'm saying but nevertheless it was silent and then after and the miner was usually 40 to 50 minutes or 40 minutes to an hour it was a long mimer and a complicated mimer it was either usually on the possible that came and moisture the beginning you know of what it says by the series or it was bashash dimu not Israel nishma the Gomorrah that we got crowns you know different different sukim or hazards associated with shavuas so right there standing there 3 A.M listening to the rib as he opens his mouth and says this verse from from our Sinai you felt you're standing at harsinai you you became you were transform you went into a trance I mean again if you were focused and you know and the Stillness and silence and it's dark outside it's three in the morning it's it's it's awesome it's awesome and I I just for a moment you know since I did finish my book on it and it's coming down two weeks and reading and preparing and you know and being totally immersed in that for for several months you don't need psychedelic drugs to be in the trance you can learn on my Mercedes and go into the same Trends I promise you and promise you but you have to get in you have to go in you have to allow yourself in and and um anyway so after the mimer there was what we call Hazara repetition and again this is a concept primarily in the Bible to review the minor of the Rebel and Hazara had the following in my days and around him were good students with good memories and and and then everyone else was around them and no one went to sleep the fact that at 4 or 4 15 or 4 30 you can already go to the mix and say shma no one left because they were middle of reviewing the my mistake remember the mimer only after khazura do they go to the Mikvah then so then in Chabad in general we do not have in bahashkama then we haven't 9 30 10 o'clock again it's not a sin to Diamond but you know if you know you're not going to get up 9 30 10 or 9 o'clock are you gonna miss Krishna you better diving early okay here about there Christmas is the riser but but if there's a choice then you lay down for a few hours then you get up to say krishma and and then and then you dub so and that's the way it was the rebel would come in 10 o'clock in the morning after all all night with the smimer and so again the the the the Hazara was also a very very powerful experience primarily this hazora because although when the rebel said a Mima and other times every Shabbos not every Shabbos when every set of mimer during Shabbos or during um uh a yamtip it was there was hazar it was reviewed but this one had a particular significance because it it's like in middle of the night and and here the morning's coming and you have a Shema and you have a mixer so rather than everything was pushed away because of Hazara so it took a certain dominance in in the mindset of of everyone participating in Hazara and after after uh you know governing chakras and here in Korea satura people went home to eat and again they Hazard the members so basically the whole swoost about one second then Friday like this year Friday you have only one day we have two days towards the uh evening the late afternoon there was what we call Kaluha means the march to walk we in my days the March primarily was on truest to Boro Park to where we live where I live and in the show that I grew up in the Bible must have been a thousand of barbecues that came and there was cake on a table of soda to make Kiddush and kiddish and then someone got up and someone's shoulder outside in the street and I always noticed how people come to their porches all the other hasidim and the other Eden and they would look it was it was it was a phenomenal time and it was beautiful the weather was nice and and everyone was out and everyone knew the Laboratories come on yes hello well what's the uh Ryan behind the Luca oh so the rock walking the Ryan behind that started action with the rubber I asked the free the karaba in the 1940s um where he encouraged Laboratories to go to other schools to be Mr Mayor to bring more simcha to Eden and you're talking about in the 40s to Brownsville and East New York you know and many Shores already started to die out so he wanted the Le Baba to go and also to share words of Sidis so it was it was in other words if the if the rabbi the rav the you know was willing to have a la Papa just say over a part of uh whatever has said this no that was encouraged and I did yes there was there was in fact entire um papers pasted in the corridor 770 that that moisture moisture I showed moisture that you know and there it had the name of the show the person who's speaking in the show and then I had a list of kevra that are walking along now this was in the days when it was still manageable it wasn't like today you know there were thousands you know but in those so you know in those days I I remember and then and I and I spoke in certain shoes you know so when it was still smaller um it was organized and and this was and you should know taluka by the river was so important he first at the shoes for bringing not just at each of the the Charlotte because we went the barbecuers went and taluka all three right they went to Williamsburg until we were attacked uh in 1977 and it stopped but from 19 early 50s through 1777 we walked and traditional basic to Williamsburg taluka and Sim costola we went to East New York and and you know not not East Side they some go to the east side too but East New York and Brownsville and East Flatbush that was then and I'm sure as it was the Borough Park and that was the idea and the rebel would and the rabbi the fabregan at the close of yamta if he would he would ask everyone who went on taluka to say lechayim and he spoke about the idea of taluka and what it represents it was a Mainstay it was very important and then there were years in the 80s when he came when when Kevin were returning from the shoes later not you know he would come out to the steps of 770 and clap and they would sing and he would kind of acknowledge hey you walked a long way so that it was a very important uh [Music] thing for the for the rebber taluka and uh it Still Remains today in fact about 10 years ago I don't know if you guys you could find it online there were the barometers who walked from Crown Heights to the Bronx eight ten hours don't don't ask hours just to help a a dwindling shoe have a minion hey they wouldn't have a minion if not if happy wouldn't come from Crown Heights so so so the the taluka has become and is still a Mainstay of of the Bible of young of the Bible and I believe probably in in bechamish I would imagine that the there are organized talukas within the communities I would imagine in other words like this the idea when I was growing up when I was you know a buffer was like to go far away you know to my the further it goes the more you do in the taluka but the truth is if someone's not able to his health is failing he's starting to walk or whatever the case go to a shoe two doors down I've been asked to speak in Borough Park you know I'm sure at times I walked eight blocks seven blocks whatever and I you know what I'm saying it's it's the it's the egos the quality over the quantity so even if you're not working an hour to two to some school in Brighton Beach or here there and you feel oh I've walked I've done the look if for me going to block two three or four is not a big deal I'm not the real taluka goer don't don't discount that for some reason yes my I was gonna say and we're here to remember because I don't think I'm not aware there's gonna be there's gonna look up per se I know for example my son Usher was telling us that in migdala emik there's always a big taluka like a lot big well it's maybe about time moisture that the Lubavitch is what's the big deal you got you got hundreds of shows all around you make a list speak to their abundant some will let you speak some won't let you but Five Guys go here and three guys go here and you know again if you come with uh with a Bittle and you're not there to tell them what to do but you're really they're genuine I think you find receptivity in in in in other other shoes and and it's you know it's the mindset I remember there were times I I didn't go far I couldn't go to diving in 770 with the Rebus minion on a night on a when when at my roof when everyone went on taluka I was embarrassed I would like stand in a corner hoping no one sees me because it was considered like the most grub thing that you don't go on taluka so again you're talking about you know it was only buggering it was it was younger light it was older people so everyone should attempt you know to you know if you normally dive in my River Ace kodesh you know and you're not need it if you need it you're a God but you need it you you need it but if you're not needed that time and you go let's say to the Buster of the shoe with your sons and they say oh what are you doing that's it it's a mindset it's a mindset it really is or you go to Salvation truly you go here you know I'm saying if it's two three four Le Baba just walk in they're gonna say what are you guys doing here don't you have your own shoe she's saying the barbecue the rabbit wanted everyone to go to taluka so he came here you know if we could say a few words it would be great if it's not the right time or you're not interested that's fine it's fine you know when you sing a nigging afterwards and you go everything that you know it should be done in it with the resus of the roof it's not something you just walk in you take over because that's you won't be able to come back next year and uh it's a hill Hashem a hill above it just to be done with irrespectful way but let's go back I want to go back okay so this was Friday night now you imagine after the mimer at 3am and the khazur of the mimer day and night everyone's reviewing the mimer and then right and the next day in the afternoon when you're walking an hour now and have to Borough Park for taluko and you come back at night all exhausted finally the second day which you don't have kind of you had a little time to rest a little time and then the rebel with her brain from 8 8 30 till 2 3 in the morning literally I'm telling you I it was a a sixth seven hour if I bring it it was long and and was very deep he spoke about deep Concepts he made us um and he continued uh uh see to see him that he made Arab jumpative or uh you know it was it was it was a big happy for bringing okay and that was kaiso broccoli gave out kosher brother for two three hours giving everyone so till three four in the morning he didn't leave 770. that was the norm in my time then it became a little less three four hour if I bring in you know instead of a six hour if I bring in so this was a this is a uh a synopsis oh so in 1971 when his mother-in-law passed away he stopped saying the mimer at 3am in other words what happened the rebel would eat the meal with his mother-in-law for Derek Harris so he was in 770 anyway so therefore he came out at 3am but once she passed away he went home and he didn't come back so what did he do instead he made if I bring an air of Yom Tiff meaning tonight uh yeah it would be tonight error foolish he made a sea mama said always and he said this tonight we felt was the exchange for the Miami hasidis that he said for for 19 years at 3 A.M but it didn't have the same the same seriousness of my I'm just talking the man on the street you know the fact that it was on um on a um speaker and a microphone and it was you know you know it was taped you know what I'm saying it's not and it wasn't at 3am it took it took it took away that um Ambiance that was created with the 3am member should it be that way no it shouldn't be that way I'm just talking that that's the way it was so as much as we we we we went to the Miami and we heard it and reviewed it but you know you have it now on tape you don't have to sit for hours and hours and hours a review of the mimer if you could just listen to the tape foreign but it wasn't the same anyway that's the way it was from 1972 I think 71 72 to the uh late 80s um the lady I think the last time the other set of mind but I'm sure us was 1989. so that's also many many years what she was about just a vote about Joshua's is about Kabbalah subtitle to receive the data now we say Martin Taylor the giving of Taylor so that there's two aspects here I've run there is the giving of Taylor by Hashem by God Almighty and there is the receiving of the Torah by the Eden Kabbalah what's primarily relevant to us is the Kabbalah the reception the fact that God gives it Hashem gives it we're thankful we're very happy right that ramban says that when Maisha told the Eden that Hashem is giving us the Theta this is andresuel I was 27 at the ramban says that moisha told thee even God's given you the tater so the ramban says with great SIM cards from the rambam so as wonderful as that is and as great sin because we had to be metabolic to internalize it is even greater because you can be given something and you can be given the best product and the best gift and the best you know piece of Tita but if you don't internalize it if you're not macabelle it's a inside bethnemius as we say inward uh it means it's outside of us it remains outside so that's why say a gift as great as a gift is it's a great thing but there's something even greater than a gift it's explained because it is there's three aspects to tell you to an inheritance or yerusha a gift of maternal and working out the terror yourself in a way that is you know is it's your Torah and that's the ultimate the ultimate is to internalize it every Yeet has to take this shuis and and understand that well yes we're giving I'll tell you the entertainers gavaldi and there's so much in the Toyota I need internalizing how do you internalize Toyota with one nakuda with Bittle with humility with subservience not with gaiva anyone that takes the Toyota say forget about citizen say that Taylor is considered an enemy of yours it's only gonna get you ultimately to bad places because what you're doing is you're taking the holiest thing Tighter and you're using the Toyota with your ego and your Guyver and this and this is not only for you know movements within Judaism over the years that have taken the Toyota and abused it in a sense by creating their own version of theta and omitting this and interpreting this Bible you know the Bible criticism and all that but even amongst from people in Benitez as soon as Aid tells the trainer what to do what to be we're in deep deep trouble and this happens every day it happens every day and we've had discussions about it but it's important to reiterate that don't tell the trader what to do what to think let the title tell you what to do and what to think and submit to the tater and for for for for many people may I say for everyone this isn't this isn't easy because on one hand Hashem created us it's on Earth with a mind and heart independent to think to create and at the same time to submit how do you reconcile to submit together with Independence and the title itself gives us guidance the title itself gives guidance what's the number one guy used to tell you to gives Kabula soil Kabbalah soil mouth to accept the Yoke of Hashem is the fundamental necessary ingredient to have a real tighter life and yes if it means putting aside our understanding for hashem's understanding we do it happily and we do it with with kabbola soil not because uh I I must do it this way otherwise uh God's Gonna spank me or otherwise my wife's gonna really give it to me or my kids are going to criticize me that type of Cabela soil is not good because a human being isn't perfect and it's just a matter of time before it there's an explosion where a person just leaves in various ways so when we talk about following Hashem we mean the simcha and and the simple we're not talking about fake simcha induced by alcohol drugs or anything else that's not simple that's terrible we're talking about a simple yes you want to say look I am fine but a simple person really feels good and happy that he he's able to to take to receive hashem's tailor and use the title if that's what that's what the rambang says I'm focusing on this ramban why were the Jews so when you learn the pastors the shot is because God's giving them to tell you they're very happy it's a lot deeper into that motion that they realize we will now have a way to connect to Hashem that's Godly that's not just a human experience and we will have it and so to say them to do something if you look at it as the rapper is superimposing his stuff on you you got a problem frankly you're not a real husband or you have more you have more work to do the whole idea of the Boston created this that you come to a point where you you understand and you feel and you relate that this instruction of this rabbit to this hospital is what God wants it's God speaking and this is I don't have to tell you everyone here knows if if whether it's us or others you know sometimes we have a hard time with this we don't we don't we don't we don't relate to it and this is the avoid of Martin Taylor afraid of Martin Taylor is that was the traditional that the previous would write and tell people before may you receive the Theta with joyfulness with simcha happiness foreign and inwardness to internalize the data and I believe that the previous was defining he was defining the simcha that the simple will come if it's been paninias and if you don't have it with anemius you don't have real simple it's external yes Maisha the forgive me for asking is the traditional brother says it Torah is some people all said is said and encouraged was not the of it doesn't say that's it I'm not saying biava is not at something good I'm just telling you what what what the brother is but don't lose focus the The Panini is is what makes this the simcha real simple and and this is we we should we should think about in other words am I really internalizing to tell you to am I internalizing in the data and this is this is something that we have two days to work on and I was I read yesterday today you know what it says it says that the the shmuel is when the potatoes given it's like the time of Kia chauffeur and Rosh Hashanah and like uh Yom Kippur right I mean those are pretty awesome days I think just think back how you feel during those times well the same is when the title is given and I want to add one last thing and then we'll finish that I'd be encouraged I think 1980 from 1980 spoke about it spoke about it in in Yiddish and then I think you spoke about it in Russian that we should bring children even infants and toddlers in their cribs to listen to The Ten Commandments when it's red and true I know in different communities they make besides the time because mothers sometimes can't get out children they make ice cream parties later in the afternoon I would think that they will have in bed Shemesh but don't rely on if you know a family next to you that normally doesn't go to school for Sarasota and their children don't go offer to take them with you and give them an ice cream and give them a candy you know if you know that they go okay they go but I'm telling you I know here in Borough Park over the years we noticed that some of the they did there was no emphasis on the children going to send us a difference now do they must go they don't must go is it no it's not Allah but if a person like that a big Sadiq suggested it it's a good suggestion so I want everyone here to you know to know this and to and to do to do it you know whether it's you you're your children your wife yourself you have neighbors again it's not just for children it's every Eid should be at aceres so you might want to make sure find out from from the the heavier you know when they're having different reading times throughout the day and this way you could tell people you know if you can't make it at this time you can go at this time and here's the location that this was a very very big thing I remember 770 you can hear these little toddlers and babies crying and crying but that's the represent I want I they should be there when the tire is given because that's the way it was at at Martin at carsinai everyone should have a great young living with Hashem we're going to continue Monday chapter 16 and Tanya and only surestavist couples all the brothers that Hashem gives us should be come revealed in our life take care Bible good job