Genes: Dominant vs. Recessive - Type B vs. Type A - Igeres HaKodesh 13b - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

okay so we're learning we're we're in chapter letter number 13 13 by the way equals you say equals 13 in this letter the balat the author seeks to explain to his people that even if you're soul is left or left oriented or or let's you let's say it in today's vacular even if you're a type uh B personality where you're kind of more to yourself you're not at outgoing like a type A personality it's not an excuse not to give Seda and on the contrary there's something of advantage that you have over someone who is a type A and I want to talk about this for a few minutes now iser because this is a New Concept the concept is like this that giving being outgoing what we call daminous benevolent is more about yourself versus about the other person you have a nature of being kind you must do kindness because that's your nature you can't live without it abam right it's the third day after he was circumcised we know that the third day is the hardest day of the wound that means you're in great pain he wasn't taking painkillers then at least not that we know of and nevertheless he leaves his bed he leaves his house and he goes to the front of the tent to see if there are people that are walking by that he can slep in and feed them why does he do that because for aam not feeding people not doing what we call inviting guests and giving them food literally is greater pain than the pain of the wound from the circumcision could you imagine I can't but that's what it means that someone by Nature there that their nature isid we think ofid yeah someone will ask me I'll help them I myself at times will help them but it's not to the point where that without it I can't exist and this is by the way true not only for but for every emotion and every attribute and every character trait one doesn't really know if this is what defines them not from the positive from the proactive aspect but from the withholding aspect listen to this in other words for someone to withhold in this case of ab his pain because he had greater pain from not doing that tells us that the embodiment ofid by a that I'm sorry that was the embodiment of abam not just an adjunct to abam and when we think of this idea number one it it humbles you because here you are thinking hey I did Thanksgiving a week's time I was giving out turkeys great wonderful it doesn't yet tell you who you really are inside it tells you you have an inclination to be nice and good and thankful one needs to really probe a lot more can I lay in bed knowing that there are people that need food and I'm laying in bed you know so when people and I'm just using that as an example not to pick at anyone God forbid I'm talking to myself I'm talking to myself I'm not convinced that I'm a nice guy I'm not and when you look into books Onis and also books of mus they deal with this issue cuz this really brings out who the person is and what we need to strive for that's the whole idea ofus and mus putting them both together for a moment in as a illumination to just regular Torah regular talud you know there's a concept inad called that deals with called hel the concealment of bad where at times people outwardly they're wonderful but if you go if you touch the right button like I've said many times their ugliness comes out and their ugliness is buried for years and years and years but when you touch the right button boom what happened what happened you're supposed to be a nice guy how did this how does this come to you the answer is that's who you are now to spend all day in this psychological analysis is not good it's unhealthy it's bad it's a waste of time at the same time not to allow this thinking to Humble you is also bad is also no good it needs to be balanced and I say this because the AL is addressing this over here without really you know saying it the way I said it what the ALB is doing over here is he knows that he's sending a messenger to come to this town and this Village to come to B shees to come to Fort Lauderdale to come to wherever you are we need Sedaka for the the soup kitchen in laress so that when people come they should have food and not have to worry they should want to come and and know they're provided for we need money for p there are land owners that put people Jews in jail cuz they can't afford to pay the rent no rent into the hungry into the the dungeon with the hungry dogs well we're going to pay a rent for you of communal fund okay very important very important to have communal funds parenthetically I remember hearing from my father-in-law in in Melbourne Australia where he was from after the war when they came from France they came there in 49 until he left in 1990 to New York a a a major issue was he he he would raise funds to help people in the community with weddings and and Bar Mitzvah and Bros and you know people didn't have to to to afford today's to to to afford the the expenses par par parenthesis within a parenthesis I just heard someone sent me a clip at the Auda convention which is in the here around here this we past weekend I think so someone's speaking he's on he heads a a tuition committee for a Yesa he said let me show you that someone making $300,000 a year $300,000 doesn't have enough money to pay tuition and he went on and enumerated in detail I'll give you one example it's fascinating unfortunately some fascinating to live in a house in MSY New York okay okay M's Upstate right towards Upstate right Rockland County he says it cost $7,000 a month between taxes insurance and mortgage $7,000 7,000 * 12 is 84,000 84 minus 300,000 is whatever it is and he went on to to to to enumerate everything and he came down the guy is left with $20,000 how can he pay tuition when they're asking tuition of5 or $20,000 per child in a regular Yeshiva today okay camp overnight camp is $66,000 a child for four weeks I maybe it's for eight weeks $6,000 what eight weeks eight weeks so he he was just showing everyone you can't when you hear a number three you're making $300,000 a year wow you're a wealthy guy today's living standards of of of a what we call an orthodox Jew an orthodox family you're left with nothing nothing I was telling this to my wife I said if they live if they didn't live in a house they lived in a apartment I think it wouldn't be 84 it wouldn't be 7,000 a month it would probably be 35 4,000 a month but go you have three four five six kids in a in an apartment in a building so that's one of the differences between the past I mean the past past whether it's the tenant's houses in the 20s and 30s and the Lower East Side or the way we lived in Europe what my mother a blessed memory would tell how they all lived in one room in war in the waro area in one room the grandmother the mother hold on please you the Mercedes you Mercedes no no do you to know who no I don't I don't sorry so I just so the point is why am I saying this why am I giving this whole Russ that doesn't seem to relevant to Tanya that the the the the we what we see is not what we get you hear $300,000 y oh you're a wealthy guy oh really it was it's just I maybe I'll send you a clip I still have it I'll forward it to you guys on the on on the on the chat it it's only three four minutes but he breaks it down and he he says I know he's the head of the he's head of the he pays he says I sign the checks here's another example um every other every week every week we have boxes of pizza that we we in the garbage you know wait empty boxes Han can now Donuts we the kids are you need today Donuts they don't Han comes you don't give them Donuts this boy from this Yeshiva had Donuts I don't have Donuts so to to to you know to complain about the system that the system is messed up it's a whole different parture and I think Yi and us we've discussed years ago I don't want to repeat it you know I'm saying get into it how you know about the weddings and the extra extravagant expenses compared to Isel you know yes and no yes and no but the point is the point is getting back to the piece of T because this is not about tuition today is that you never know what's on the inside and that's why a person the only one who knows what's on the inside is yourself sometimes because many times we live in a a fog and we fool ourselves and we convince ourselves and then one day we wake up we say I I'm living in a lie and we Rebel and that's what happened really part of what happened in the ' 60s and' 70s you know the Rebellion our parents are living in a in a li in a in in in a lie they have to conform to everything to society you don't have a TV in the 50s you're not a mench TV came out everyone has to have a TV the Reb always would laugh at Hollywood kitchens and wal toall carpet those are his two favorite quotes I remember in in the 70s you know it's a kick back to the 50s you know if you don't have a holwood kitchen you're not a mench you don't have Wall to- wall carpeting o at that time today they really see how how many germs and and things are in carpet and all that but the point is that the the the the here is 250 years before or so 200 right right and the 1792 this this this letter is from 1792 the AL says no one has an excuse not to give Seda because the truth is even if your orientation is from the left type B personality you're inward not outward you have not only that responsibility you have the ability to give and therefore open up your pockets and give Saka to help people people who need and and and what we added today is that the AL is teaching Us in between the lines that the person who is the left orientation type B personality has a greater ability to give than even the right cuz the right the person from the right and the type A MOA he's used to doing it so you don't know it so it's not necessarily kind of genuine as genuine it's it's like by Nature that's why I gave you the example of ab and what it means to be magnin and really CID and how do you know you really are living with maybe you're doing it because of an of a superficial reason but someone who's from the left someone who's who who's inward the in the inward so the person from the who's inward to themselves you would seem to say they they're limited Al is really saying that limitation could be at times the holiest act because you give not because it's your nature to give you give because God wants you to give you hear that the the giving of Seda needs to be because hem wants you to give tells you to give in other words it's not about my nature it's about God me being a a product of Hashem and Hashem says need to give this is in a nutshell the the overall explanation to this third letter in P let's continue learning now so we are on page um kuu test we are on V second paragraph V every Jew must include within themselves B from these two levels from and you can't say I only or I'm only I'm only kind or I'm only disciplined and there is no there isn't anything that doesn't have its place we find amongst the two households of Torah study called the house of shamai and the house of H where normally shamai is strict is m m means stringent h b h is m is lenient so he says we to teach why was why is B usually except for six places in the entire tal always stringent in an argument that he has with h and if you analyze each opinion you'll see that shamai takes the the strict side and H takes the lenient side why is that because shamai comes from the left from gur and that's why sh is always judgmental in the strict six in a strict in a strict sense in all matters of prohibition thatoh and B conversely that comes from the right upper right is Holy right would always find favorability Merit merits why the person doesn't do a and C that's why and therefore B permits those things that b says forbidden B says it's m it's permissible [Music] that they should be permit per perit permitted from the prohibitions and B Hill says they could Ascend upward to God they're not forbidden second line for the bottom nevertheless in many things was lenient is I told you in six cases in in all of tal why know this is the question if your n is gor is from gor you should never be able to be lenient and if you're is from kindness you should never be able to be strict that's that's what he's answering here but we see not that way we see in six cases in talmud the reversal Ro reversal says the AL I'll tell you why because his it's because the inclusion of the source of their souls has an element of right orientation within the dominant gura there's the dominant gene Dr iser there's the dominant gene and there is I don't know what you call it in medicine the ancillary Gene whatever that is recessive recess recessive thank you the dominant gene in B is gura the recessive gene is but there's an element of within G let's continue please turn your T the the top of page 238 he says now let's look at B although B's dominant gen is what it's known it's a fact they also have a recessive gene called within do as is known how it operates the superal Holiness the there is no separation when you talk about the Midas the holy mid there's Unity there isn't distance and each are incorporating the other that's why we have the 49 days right y of the right on and on what's going on over there when you count the days Moshe between the second day p and the giving of the Torah 49 days each day we make a blessing and we say this is the day which has Victory within Splendor acknowledgement within kingship and it goes on and on seven character traits times seven subordinate recessive gene within each 7 * 7 equal 49 each day we're supposed to refine another aspect of those 49 issues that's Al says here therefore although B is normally strict because bash is the source of bash soul is is gura nevertheless we find six times when he says just the opposite he's lenient that's the recessive gene within B that is coming to to to four that's coming out and so too with Bas the opposite therefore the these these elements are united one with the other as known to those that study the esoteric wisdom of Torah as it says by the our ancestor AB the first father he's the of kindness the attribute of kindness and love it says by him God says now I know now not before that you're a God fearing person because he took element of strictness by bringing by binding Isaac his son and he took the knife right a How could a your namesake how could he have done that how could he have taken a knife ready to slaughter his son y if he's the epitome of kindness the answer is kindness has also an element of Kor and if God says I want you to do this the recessive gen Gene comes out and takes over and that's and that's when you know that what he's doing isn't his own nature AB enjoys to do kindness the proof is you hear the proof is when he C can't doid and he still does what he needs to do ab should have said mosha AB should have said to God God I cannot Slaughter my son I'm I'm not you know why it's not in my nature slaughtering is is is is gor is is judgmental is is strict is [Applause] bad and I'm I'm only kind he didn't say that he takes his son he binds him and he's about to slaughter him because his recessive gene of he because he has that recessive gene of G and when Hashem says this is what I want now he says yes God whatever you want it's not about me cuz my kindness is not my kindness my nature it's God's kindness as it's found within me that's the explanation this is a rhetorical question that the AL asks well it says in the verse God calls AB Abraham my beloved one and God calls the the thread of so the question that the AL is asking is Sir the verse seems to say otherwise the verse gives the classification of ab being my beloved and the the difference is only in in re in Revelation in manifestation and concealment it doesn't change the core issue the core issue is by that's the primary dominant gene and Y is gura the fact that there the other recessive genes are alluded to and spoken about and all that as important as it is it doesn't contradict and it doesn't change the situation that there's a dominant gene and a recessive gene that's what he's saying over here in this in this section that's what he says he call he he just uses the words he says this is only in matters of Gil of Revelation and concealment not in Core Essence Core Essence Remains the Same we have to discern between what is revealed manifested vers versus what is the essence that's what he's saying over here and he says dread is Prim is revealed and and the love is hidden in a concealed way and he says and the opposite is true the opposite is true by AB okay so that so this was a rhetorical question with a with a retort to the rhetorical question we'll stop here the shop is before so prepare yourselves I know there'll be I'm sure and in Florida so um we'll see you all Monday bright and early have a great shabas everyone take care good shabas good shabas