G-d's Mercy is Key, Change yr Attitude on High Holidays - Igeres haTeshuva 11b- RC Dalfin

okay so we're learninga chapter Al 11 on page K it's the second Shear on this chapter to refresh our memories here speaks about the the humility on part of the person in the process called chuat but then he he shifts and he introduces Sim in other words we in this until now is there we haven't mentioned Sim the I I don't believe there's even a mention of sim one time until now and this is towards the ends of of the of the gis it's chapter 11 and 12 it finishes so it's interesting and important to realize that why is that possibly possibly this I didn't hear from this is my own thinking that for Sim to be truly appreciated when you go through a process of chuva again like you asked me before this year then it becomes real in other words when you're real and you realize you I mean us when we realize our shortcomings and we deal with them not just we we flip service we do something about it then there's Sim then you then there's Sim you know it's practically I had a struggle I had an issue I I held myself back I worked on myself I changed it's it's you know it's a my wife and I talk about this you know we're married 40 years and and and and we ask each other I ask her more than she asks me have I changed for the good you know you get married on the younger side you have children you have a family you have paros and you have all of life's issues 40 years later you take a look and you say no we're talking about now you know personal have you have you changed in areas where and and and number two have you changed because of your spouse has your spouse helped you change I don't know to me that's a very it's important it's important because was we want to leave over for the next generation and the Next Generation something that they could look back on and said our parents came from here look how they developed and and um and we could learn from that and emulate it and all that so parents I believe should should take some time to make such Ain you know in private and you when they go out or whatever you know to H H have I helped you change have you helped me change and that that's part of a relationship and there's nothing to be embarrassed about it's very very healthy I think so you know and I and and and when you identify an area too where you could you see that that brings you s you know it it it brings you s in other words I got married I was so and so I had a weakness in this area and now 40 years later looking back like I say I say to my wife you know to say that I don't have you know an urge here and there whether it be you know impatience or anger or B what whatever the issue is car hoiness whatever the character issue is but I've tamed it and and you've really helped me tame it because I listen to to you in this area because you're more refined in that area and I hope that you learned something from me and and when you reflect back on it you feel good about it it it there's M it does bring Sim I don't know what what's your feeling on that thought is since it's you and I alone so we could we could share go ahead what's your thought um I think this the s from is is inherent meaning that when you when you DOA you're different person and and you feel closer to because you've you've done the work to repair what you messed up in the past um somebody you know there's a v that says why why Kipper are we singing you know we're singing is it feels good to get clean very good I like it in the shower feels good to get clean yeah I like that word yeah so so Masha please mute yourself so so Sim is is so let's go back to the text says here that in in in conjunction with the now I didn't say this yesterday I'm saying it now why is he emphasizing actually I did say it but because ordinarily the mode of joy of sim and the mo mode of humility sub subjecting your your tiis it's not sim I I want to I want to eat as much as I want I want to sleep as much as I want I want to do what I want we say come on control yourself you're not a beh it's not healthy for you and you know as a physician how we struggle in in so many areas with health and issues constantly so so stay be having a simultaneous joy and frustration let's call it it is is a Now by someone who's a b like in chapter one at T brings desire of chap chapter 34 that there's two compartments and therefore just you know realize where it's coming from and then you can have SIM and you can have you know but here in is's talking to one and the same person because here we're talking abouta which I said yesterday is each and every one of us and why because the the AL terminology Bas and the ne kiss are mixed you're about to you know what you did wrong that's that's that's neis yet you're pulling yourself away and you're and and you're working on that that's NE it goes hand in hand here the question is how can the two go together and this is why here Dr says that if you that's he says in the second on page K in in the second for the second the beginning the second line he says when you combine the concept of belief and Trust I told you the difference yesterday you said a good ver about that now here he inserts in other words when you know when we know that Hashem wants this and he's open to this and it's not like you're coming to him you know begrudgingly like like when you come to another to a person say please forgive me I'm sorry so you you go into that that situation knowing you know I did a no no and this guy and he G he he pardoned me once and pardoned me another time forget it the third time he's not going to do it if he does it he he's going to say you don't really mean it you're a bluffer you're a faker and and therefore his pardoning is not really truthful completely there's always a rosem a negative rosham negative uh impression left that since is he is the abundance of Mercy he definitely forgives you for completely and that's such a and at the same and and and what's the result is of that that's why you should have SIM the Sim that you that you that you the having SIM from a struggle is is good but it's still limited why because the struggle sleps you into the situation of the negativity and you're grappling with it so yes you succeeded so as far as you're a that you worked hard okay a person who wants one measure of his own a better than nine measures of others you know the says you know if you if you if you reject and hate gifts you live longer and the by the way I think I told you this ones was very mck and careful he was he he he never he hardly they never accepted gifts if they gave it to the library fine to the kabad collection fine you know people wanted to always give him be and silver this and silver that anyway so there is something to but the AL says here yes that something will lead to the greater accomplishment that is so to to put it into your words is from before this year the is analogous to the global Redemption those are your words your language the is not a normal expectation you when you goof up you pay the price like I told you you you you you speed you get a ticket there's no two ways about it you smoke you drink you you're taking big risks you're overweight same things whatever it is we know what we're doing we're not foolish so then to say that the ab will will will see how hard you're working and therefore he says come my dear my K Kinder come talk to me so I'm pointing out this now this pointed which is different than yesterday an add-on that the is not a second tier you know NE you have no situation you come to God he'll forgive you that's the way by the way most people I would say look at the Yem is so nice so he even put up with my nonsense and forgive me is very different he says the essence of God the content of hasem is quote what does that mean that means he doesn't get fathomed by you asking and and asking again when he's because he's and the language in these the adjective god with your mercy save us we don't say that every day in the we say that's a verse in famous Story Once Ted the same said God on you is great Mercy the mercy is on you that you keep us and go us heard it he said if he wasn't the AL the bat the I would excommunicate him how can you say such a thing it's like Theus he draws a circle he says God I'm not leaving here until you give the Jews you you're telling God who are you so what is the say if he wouldn't be he would be excommunicated but said the same thing the tradition is about the Al it's a mercy on God what kind of words is it so why am I saying is is uh is not just an adjective a behavior it's a noun God is the Abundant of Mercy so and that is the that is the in a sense that that he speaks here from that perspective if you understand that and you relate to it there could be true Sim together with the frustration because you identify now with and he and he uses the words to have faith and trust that your your heart will be cleansed and pure because Hashem wants this hm loves us he's and he is quote let's continue now um we are five six lines from the top as we'd say in every every as soon as as we request God please pardon us Etc we say blessed is who's gracious and bestows the abundance of Mercy not just the same because God is is now going into he's asking a rhetorical question on himself from we know that when it comes to whether you're a doubt of making a blessing a you take the lenient opinion because it's if you don't know if you made a br not you don't make the BR because it's it's suff you're M you're lenient right because of a concern that you'll say a in vain God's name in vain so the question is y what's the AL asking it himself how can we say Bor we say this three times a day 365 every day did we once think about what he says here how can we say such a such a blessing you're sure God forgives you really how do you know this is a rhetorical question himself and what's the answer the answer is because since God is the abundance of Mercy there's no question is there from the abundance of Mercy perspective he forgives you if he just ordinary forgiveness like a human you know similar to a human being you're right maybe he won't forgive you he'll say go fly a kite I I forgave you already twice go you're a faker you're a bluffer you don't mean it but since is and that's why the terminology in the is [Music] the grace comes from the abundance of Mercy again that's not an ad only an adjective it's a noun that is the god that I'm addressing in Theon and from that perspective that's who he is in other words here is listen to this it's not like I'm I'm asking God for something more than what Hashem is this is Hashem Hashem is you see the regular from Jew thinks no Hashem and that's true rward punishment and when you goof up you ask for forgiveness you bang away I'll and all that and hopefully God forgives you says the AL you have it all wrong you have it all wrong it's backwards if you understand and if you identify that God is so of course is important and of it's basic and but nevertheless you could be assured that you get from a god that is a God if God was only and not you couldn't be sure because then it depends on your box it depends on your conditions and one day I do well one day I do well and that's what it is I'm asking and then arguing and positioning let's continue inside El Ella is the response to his own rhetorical question El Ain there's no doubt here that you might not be forgiven since we asked we requested so since we exerted effort in not just banging but really requesting forgive us pardon us look at this if we would have not reverted and and sinned again we would immediately be redeemed as we say in the next that's the connection of the two in you hear the point here we say blessed are you God the Redeemer of Israel so what do we think normally we is the Redeemer is going to bring mhia says it's personal that if you are relate to as then you have in your life G is CL like you said is before clean cleanliness and a cleanliness that brings Sim Vis the chuva so that's why he say that's yes that's what the reab always said the reab said that we're the ones that have to bring the glory we have to bring the messah yes not to wait for right we are G to bring the Mia yeah but he's talking about through our the at the end of the first mimer that he said in January 1951 when he that was kind of the official day accepted the leadership of kabad after the previous passed away a year before so at the end he broke down he was very emotional that mimer and he said you can listen to it it's in Yiddish but you can hear his emotions he says there is the G and the gis so he spoke a lot about the G is the general Redemption Messiah and then he says it's also connected with our own gula and we have to get out of our own gos and he spends time on that in a very emotional way and we understood from then that this was a call to our generation which continues today until bhia till the actual arrival of mhia that you can't separate the two see there have been philosophies that have separated the two and and and and and and the that he he saw from the AL on is they they inter connected and that's what I was telling isra before the she he asked me a good question you know if it's if the is more limited and in conditional in the Box how does that lead to a goues you know how does that lead to a chuv law which is like the a general Gula and and and and that's what he's saying here because even the chu here its objective is it's its objective is I'm connecting to that is is the equivalent of the the general continue we find even in in The Human [Music] Condition a person should immediately forgive and pardon his a person who who who hurt him and as soon as we you ask he should forgive the person look at the's words he shouldn't be cruel from for for forgiving the person and he brings if someone mistakenly whatever cuts off someone's hand says you should forgive and if you request forgiveness from someone three times and he doesn't forgive you you don't have to ask anymore for forgiveness this is the actual now he asks a question from the story ask for forgiveness on behalf of who [Music] killed and they didn't want to forgive him decreed upon them they shouldn't come into the Jewish Community why says I believe that the the three traits of a Jew and one is merciful yes so the fact that the did not D said you guys aren't Jewish there's not Jewish blood in you if you were Jewish real Jewish blood you would forgive so what does d bring he brings the point that forgiveness is part of the Jewish experience and he and and and understanding it deeper and more clear he says because God is the god of [Music] forgiveness so if this is so he brings these two garas in bakama and over here um in yamus to say that look at look at Hashem expects of of human beings to forgive each other so needless to say Hashem is definitely how much more so Adam the the the the the Zenith of the symbol the Prototype of forgiveness I guess I jumped the gun says and and and and we praise and we thank we we bless God that he is the graceful in being the abundance of forgiveness says yes those words very precise is the abundance of forgiveness in in a human condition if one person sins against another and the person ask for and he forgives him and then the person goes back to his old ways is very difficult that he should forgive him a second time surely if he does it a third and fourth time repeatedly attribute is different there's no difference between the first or the Thousand time because God's part attribute of of mercy and his attributes his holy attributes they aren't in the in the category of Li of limitation and and it has a box Ella next page top of page 200 it they're infinite as it says God's um Mercy has no end we'll stop here and we will continue mem on shabas on Monday M so have a great chabas and good BR and and give my regards you too and only good things byebye thank you thank you thank you