G-d Helps you when you help yourself - Averting Bad Thoughts - OCD - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so we're on page La metallic we're on top of the page not on top where uh we're five lines into the uh page with the outfit I've explained yesterday that sadness that comes to a person because of of thoughts inappropriate thoughts that entered his mind or her mind and therefore they act they say it's not resp it's not who I really it's not who I am and I'm a learner I'm a governor I'm doing Mitzvahs how could it be that these thoughts should enter my mind after all my darling and learning doubt that ever says basically your your misguided because you're so far the words that be used you only um on the um Fifth Line you're so far from the level of exotic so your expectation is misguided let's continue now these three words is is like famous words in the Chabad lexicon you'll hear it that fabrangis is a Hebrew word but it has also that Yiddish implication which means if only however if only are you being in the we were obeying in other words and we wouldn't be a Russia all our days and we're looking to leave the Russia state to be more pain than he like so halify if only we were more pain in me than Russia and and the late I should call Yama then we wouldn't be a Russia our entire days even if we I'm sorry even for just one hour we would be a true baby stop hey if you're looking if we want to be banging it which that's who we are [Music] the measurement of being inim and their activity to conquer the inclination the evil inclination and the thought earlier that ascends from the heart to the mind and to avert your mind completely from it aside with two hands Canal as we said earlier in chapter 12. says the outlet announce okay each time Dr David says yes every single time you push aside a thought that comes to you push it aside from your mind what you accomplish is you bend you subjugate the negative energy of clipper as expressed in the in the in the in the negative inappropriate thought you you subjugate it downwards and through your your arousal the US who are below on earth when we are arouse ourselves to actively subjugate the thought we cause is an arousal from God above and what we do is we subjugate the negative clipper that's hovering that's exists in in in in Heaven above that seeks to rise connection like an eagle thereby when we do this when we push it down we fulfill the verse quote impact bee connection if it will rise like an eagle to become horny and arrogant and to use its negative energy we're talking about the Clipper in alluded to by the eagle which soars on high higher and higher and higher but not like Clips label said higher and higher and higher to Hashem in a positive way in a negative way it wants to go higher and higher higher boasting and causing problems for us so when we push it down get out of here stop get out of my mind so we're doing is Hashem says I will then make it The Descent through our activity of subjugating the thought and pushing it down it wants to rise take over up take us over be and bring in and say Hey you know think about this fantasize about this imagine this and it's it's very inappropriate right and when we don't let that happen and we push it down get out of here you Schmutz get out of it you stinker get away from me don't bother me Hashem says oh you're subjugating the clip below I'm going to subjugate the clip of from above and in the words of the person from there from God's perspective I will make you the sand Clipper um Hashem so says God um honors and and and exemplifies this idea passes through Madoff of tests has an amazing thing Hashem has such pleasure when a Jew pushes away subjugates in their Below in their activity in their life you know what the Jew causes the Tsar says the estallic over here doesn't mean it's removed but it's revealed that the preciousness the economy is the preciousness of God from above is revealed to the Jew akula the this preciousness which is greater than anything your teeth it's greater than any other Praise of God says I'm sorry this is part of the zoo yes when we push away those thoughts yes thoughts come up in her head you push them away that act of pushing them away raise it causes a certain very high light so to speak yeah but I just it causes God then to push it away too bringing it away in other words the clip was an agent of God let me let me just for a second I'm glad you put it up the clip was an agent of Hashem so God made the clipper so the Clipper's doing his job after him the clip of throwing into US these thoughts that's its job when Hashem sees that we even though and one second and why did Hashem allow and want the Clipper to do that to challenge us to make us work otherwise it's all easy it's like the zoha calls it elsewhere it's free bread chain bread it didn't work for it you didn't earn it so Hashem says I'm going to make you earn it there's no free rides here the guy was in Yeshiva in the Kalo etc etc there's no free rides you're you're learning very good but I'm going to test you if you're learning really has touched you and you've become a very special you've refined yourself so he throws these thoughts into the biggest Learners and the biggest Governors and us from people and he wants to see how we're gonna act so the clip is doing what Hashem says then Hashem says to us hey I'm gonna challenge you a clip but now let me see how you react and what do I want of you I want you to push away those thoughts don't try to change those thoughts don't try to be an Ibrahim I'm going to go you know to the uh inappropriate places and not walk inside don't look at people who are not dressed properly and say hey I can look and nothing happens don't be a smart aleck you're not that strong so just turn your head the other way don't look right push aside the thought when I see Hashem sees that and this is not easy this is what we call them and that's why drama says here it's work the idea of averting the thought is not easy it's not just saying I have heard to throw up to no because we'll be there next second you have to like deep down and say get out of here I don't want to see you leave me alone you know it's mental work of right when Hashem sees this mental work he says now I'm gonna give you eight I'm going to re so motion you called it you know Hashem gives us a great light I'm just I'm just interpreting that great light means Hashem says that the Apostle says I will shove the Clipper to the floor same Clipper that I told the Clipper to challenge you and to rise and go high high high I want to see how strong you are and once I see how strong you are I'm going to then shove it away from you so then so then it won't come back it might come back in another area but in this area once Hashem who's not who's not limited by the forces of nature gets involved then it's kind of more permanent I'm not going to say permanent more permanent and I think of a very simple example eczema there's action this antibiotic that they can eczema for years I suffered for next month went to a podiatrist about 10 years ago it gave me a pill I was first reluctant and I took it I didn't want any side as far as I know I didn't have any side effects it took away the eczema I'm telling you have it was like to me a miracle all my life since I was a child I suffered badly from eczema fungus and all the stuff right one pill takes it away it lasted two years it came back a few years later I took again the pill and bought a Hashem right why am I using just this came to me now the pill is like I call this barjo intervening from on high and saying hey I see that you're working so hard not to scratch your eczema and all that I'm not I see that you're working now I'm gonna get involved and I'm going to give you that pill that at least for a while in this area this thought won't come to you let me just finish the lineup and this this Revelation is greater than anything else why because when Hashem interferes and gives us the the help We're Riding High it's a whole different then you know what I'm saying then you can and and I want to tell you that this is not I I I I I think about this and I try to live with this and I I see it I don't the times that I do this activity that the Alton Abba says pushing aside the thoughts and all that I can I can I can tell you for sure in different ways how hashan has helped in other in that it shouldn't come back etc etc because at the end of the day we're weak as we said earlier with just potential pain and we're not sadikim right so on one hand like moisha said you can't trust yourself the mother says it right you can never trust yourself it could be 119 years old at 364 days and be an apostate the last day of your life an epicatus right so to say I know for sure that I will never question God and God forbid become a heretic sorry champ it doesn't work that way it's again maybe that's not a good example but it's like suicidal you can never can never trust it could be a moment and they end their life they were all right but if the the you know those type of thoughts are in the system and the the depression hits you it can you can just finish without you know a preparation without preconceived and and it again I'm not studied you know in this area but this idea so the same is over here but at the same time when we exert ourselves in a certain pattern like what you said you know every time the thought comes I shove it out I throw it out get away from me and I don't for a moment allow it to to continue and the more you do that Hashem gives you kayak and help that to begin with it shouldn't enter your mind the next time and that's a phenomenal thought that the out there but shares with us here just for this point that uh that a Jew is talking to us people right don't feel despondent don't feel like hey I'm working so hard and again he's here so remember the expectation is like I wrote the title yesterday for the class was lustful thoughts are expected not lustful thoughts are not expected lustful thoughts are expected lustful thoughts are the norm but Hashem gives us a a way to learn how to reject them not Elevate them just get them out and if you know that then you will succeed a little more and a little more and a little more and then you control your behavior just because you see this event or you want this or that we're adults our mind kicks in it's not healthy it's not good it's not it's not appropriate on and on and young people teenagers young adults who are hot blooded you know they get caught up emotionally the infatuation and the only young adults it happens to older people too but I'm saying is I remember in Marine County we had a couple and um the man who I think she was a doctor fine guy you know from the East Coast wasn't religious and he came to shoe one day and he told me you know my wife became infatuated with someone the men yeah and it's like you got you got a husband who's making six figures probably owns a big house he's a nice guy you have two three kids with him where are you running became infatuated so how long is it gonna last a year two three next so wake up see the future so as part of the belshantive as part of Taylor Teresa gives us various ways to prevention methods but prevention methods not with the in the Musser style which is also good and important but prevention methods recognizing who you are that's the mahalak of rum the approach of Tanya is to find out who we are to find out our insight and when we find out our Insight I'm telling you so many things will be easier so many things will be easier now of course in a relationship with couples and spouses it's important to both find out who they are or one help the other you know explore and find out who who they are regardless if it's the wife or the husband and then you can have a harmonious a more harmonious uh marriage and relationship and and it helps the whole family you know so this all comes from from learning a chapter like this and I encourage you actually to to you know encourage your wives to or share with them some of these thoughts at the Shoppers table the young the table that the tissue is coming up because this is this is gold this is gold these chapters are gold we'll see everyone tomorrow zycus will take care take care