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Practical Chasidus w Rabbi Chaim Dalfin - Maamar Rabi 1942 #1
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that says osios maki mice the letters
the words the iciest of the titan
malcolmus
they make you smart and the reason is
because the ACS are kedusha are holy so
when you when you actually see the holy
words of tater any Seifert of tater any
book of theta
it adds actually it adds actually to the
Kozma to your wisdom so that's a reason
to follow along whenever possible in a
text so this is on page 279 and the
third volume of what's called my modern
Miller cotton of the previous raba
the previous rabbit didn't put together
this book this book was put together I
think by someone in Crocker bad actually
what they did is they chose my more'n
discourses that are more user-friendly
and like I wrote to you and they
whatsapp more psychological
psychologically oriented and they put in
the kudos normally the my mom don't have
the kudos they put synopsis before each
paragraph and they opened up some of the
acronyms in the bottom and also added
sometimes and and and Hebrew translation
of Aramaic words that cited for the
Gomorrah and other places that's the
text that we have in front of us good
morning hello
okay so page 279 also it's worth
mentioning again that we were taught in
yeshiva that the heading and the date of
a minor is also was if it was written by
a rather it has kaduche it has holiness
and therefore we also begin the minor by
reading the heading so this begins with
base Samak dollars with the help of a
Shem Shabbos parses below huh which is
yesterday for us in America
was last week tough ship bays 1942 now
the year 1942 has a lot of significance
for us as Jews
I believe when was the year wasn't that
the year when the Jews found out about
the terrible you know destruction in in
in in in the Holocaust I think it was
242 yeah
also on that but the death camps only
really started working as as me file as
a factory in 1942 okay thank you thank
you thank you so and the previous rebel
who narrowly barely escaped Nazi Germany
in a miraculous way it's been written up
it's a fascinating story that the SS
themselves took out the previous at ever
but it was of course fuelled by funding
and palette politics from here in the
State Department and then of certain
politicians State Department action was
against us but you know they also
probably paid money it's a whole story
there is the Habad Rebbetzin Alton
Oliver Sholem in a book called out of
the inferno who wrote up the whole story
her father abayas well Jacobson was the
person who led the came here in 1926 he
was from the goodest I see the Sabbath
and the leaders of Chabad in America and
he orchestrated the entire thing with
with others so his daughter rat the
rabbit said all time
together with cuffs he put out a book
called out of the inferno if you haven't
seen it it's a fascinating read that's
the version from the Habad side then
there's the version of Brian rig Brian
rig is in Texas and he wrote he wrote a
story to his I think historian today it
might be a business
and he has a different angle to it so
between both of them you get a full
picture of the miraculous escape from
the previous setup in 1944 so he comes
to America 1940 March of 1940 and he
comes and if you take a look at the way
the pictures and the video whatever the
movie of him coming in 1940 compared to
the way you see him coming off the boat
and other pictures of 1930 29 because
they're ever visited America in 1929
during the 20s
many many goodell and receivers and some
rebels mostly good palin and receive his
literature receivers visited America to
raise funds there Shemesh cup of ceará
he did 1929 and and and the Burroughs
bear was here and the list goes on
because they needed funds and there was
a time you could travel but that ever
came in 1929 also one of the purposes
was to raise funds for his his his cause
of saving the Russian jewelry you know
so if you see the picture of him in 29
you see a younger man a healthy man he's
walking himself it looks like that he
looks like a prince you compare those
pictures to the way he looks in nineteen
in 1940 he's in a wheelchair
he's you're more frail and then old and
those 10 years you can see a big
difference and people make a mistake
they think the difference is because
they they they tortured him in in 1927
in when he was incarcerated and given a
death sentence and then released now I'm
sure that didn't help his his body but
however you see that 1930 he looks fresh
and young so just three years before in
27 they tortured him the real reason
that that that he that he
he reiterated in his health so much was
because he had MS and a certain kind of
MS that debilitated him and ultimately
it took his you know speech when he had
a stroke in 1945 so between the MS and
the stroke you know he was a very it was
a stroke patient and that really took a
toll on his body
it was I believe the nvm s so so but
nevertheless his mind but of Hashem was
sharp as a razor and he either said
there my mahram or wrote to my Morin and
wrote the letters and let an entire
campaign of you describe for 10 solid
years from nineteen forty to fifty and
it passed on in New York in Brooklyn
1950 over seventy at the age of seven
this minor that we're about to begin
was said shoppers passers-by lay slow or
written for showers balance the Tufts in
base 1942 now I think the only year in
the 1940s that he had the I guess T
strength to say my Maurin not just to
write them was 1942 rabbi label groaner
all of a sudden just passed away in May
a soul have a now Leah told told that
told us that he recalls hearing those
discourses of the Reverend 1942 I think
they were said on a Monday or Tuesday
evening every Monday or Tuesday he said
am i right of every single week but many
weeks so hence we have a book called
safer on my mom the book of discourses
of tough shin base 1942 so those were
actually sent when whether they read
this this date here is Travis Parsons by
the way stuff so it's not you know dated
in the middle of the week so what I
don't know how to try finding out is
whether it was actually said during the
week but nevertheless for some reason he
chose the heading the date of Shabbos
Pasha's by Lisa so
my my warmed Russia points to the fact
that even the the the date and title in
a minor one can learn from it and and
and benefit from now let's skip let's
skip the the synopsis and go right to
the minor and this was by us yesterday's
pretty others Robbie I'm the business
says Robbie which is an actor which is
refers to that be who Tejano see Robbie
oh it made up he says quote ezel he
definitely shovel shovel on your order
what is the path man should choose says
the missionary she need to finish a sell
a path that is beautiful to its creator
to Hashem but the Fed is lame in our
other and it's also beautiful for
mankind and Givens there's an old
expression so God wants a light to God
and light it means to human humans to
people one should be good Scott to God
and excuse me and to lighten to people
be a mensch that's the best path that
you should choose by the way of silesia
types that I heard from from rather in
classical sofa of yerushalayim actually
it says that Robbie ointment only a
Rebbe only exotic that's already can
tell you what path you choose and that's
what Asia he dead of them easy death you
Shara forever alone what's the right
path you choose an ordinary rabbi can't
believe that and a Russell Shiva can
tell you that but I did that was Caesar
neshama he knows we're you know summable
belongs at what kind and that's why it
says that a Ravi Ravi means a river I
love that touch ok the heat shipping
method as well so the method small was a
commentator on the pair T of us asks you
are clueless - a regarding this this
saying in the Mishnah there a Z that if
you shudder
regarding the statement which is the
right path
the hello yes the how benefit you shut
up
by Delmon are okay page 279 on that page
came a gimbal the same say look we're
learning before yes and and and yo you
should never never say you hate to
interrupt me
it's a pleasure because you want to find
the text okay let's go back to so the
question is the methanol asks this
statement ASA he did a free shuttle
which is the right path a yet you have
did it by a shorter handle das from a
full sentence there is the known and and
publicized
right path with who well close to
everyone and what is that
wake up the he dark the art 8oa mitzvahs
the ways of fate of a mistress so what
does that me hope that knows he's saying
what's the right path the right path is
played on mitzvahs what's the finish
that's the question of the methods more
bhai no shaddadi I played of Amit sir me
that the ways of tato mistress in karate
Dean a.m. with all of the details of the
laws are a mockery hey Matt - hi Alton
they surround one's life they encompass
one's life but McLaren Shabalala lucida
even before he was created tailor
Mitch's existed he preceded better comes
into the earth at certain time
behaved in a honey swing the laws of
marriage or schmira cetera
Hado and then keeping tire service boffo
the hockey do's and the sanctification
shape mom she came the bush Kaddish that
draws down a holy garment that will stop
here for a moment because this needs
explanation but ever saying here that i
be saying to us if you choose
right path she brings the medical school
asks title missus is the right path and
title mistress is here before you were
born
why why because the title tells you how
to get married
who to get married when to get married
let's resume once you're married the
title says me to Tyrus Thomas buffer
then the tie ptosis says something that
were not so familiar with which says
mostly in in in Kabbalah Mustafa Siddhas
and that's called mom she from the vu
Scottish when the parents are together
when they're intimate they draw down a
holy garment to the soul that will be
born and that comes through Kadosh what
is kiddush me sanctification the
holiness in the union between the father
and the mother it's brought down as
foreign that there's a la bouche now
what is that the bushmeat which mr. gong
what does it look what what does it mean
that there's a soul has a garment so
let's explain the garment means the way
you will process things that's the
garment who the soul is the parents have
no say in the soul sorry sorry sorry to
tell you this but whoever whatever the
sum that comes to a father and money and
mother that's chosen by a cousins Burkle
you don't get a true we don't get a
choice in that okay and we have to bank
that into our head cuz sometimes we say
I'm a control you're not in control of
anything but however they love us you're
in control of us how that neshama will
process the information quick or slow
happy or sad up or down that's up to the
parents so just for another moment
during the intimate time of the parents
they're upset with each other and from
that Union there is a pregnancy and
ultimately a birth it could it could be
that that child that will be born will
have a natural tendency to being upset
now we don't know I don't know if I'm
saying but according to what it says in
this forum that I believe would be the a
proper calculation and the same is true
in vice-versa if when the kind of Union
there is wholesome unity real hosts and
unity that the Schirmer that comes into
a body from that union is a happier
child and now we talk about a union that
doesn't necessarily lead to an offspring
because if a woman is really menopause
and not having children or can't have
children or the husband can't but
they're still together so it's brought
down in the sorted population of the
holy sweating that there too there is
what we call a spiritual offspring what
is a spiritual offspring today may they
might call that the vibes we have names
for everything chill vibes cool whatever
what are these vibes the vibes mean that
there is an aura and an energy that
surrounds a person and that Orang energy
is created through the kiddos of the
parents and when you understand this
idea and you think about it and you work
towards refining and elevating the the
sanctity of the union and the intimacy
that there there's no question that
healthier and more positive results come
from it all all that I've said by the
way is a
- and about less six lines in Chapter
two and Tanya but I that's based on that
section over there over there - it's not
so clear but if this this explanation
I'm sharing now fits for there - and
this is what he means Moshe when he says
AHA ketose and the sanctification said
mom hit him with bush Cabos when the
parents are holy in their union and
sanctifying themselves they drill down
other bush colors I would take more time
to talk about this but I think we should
go on because there's a lot more to say
what does it mean to be holy in a union
so the first thing it means is to follow
what it says are so familiar
the second thing is to follow what it
says in this forum about a union do you
guys know what it says in this forum
about an intimate union it says for
example I'm not going to tell you
everything I only I only tell these
secrets to a hustler if he asks me this
is the night before marriage one our
course secrets of the bedroom from rabbi
dolphin anyway so it says they it says
in his father Mac addition that the
parents for example before their
intimate they should learn some trader
said you I'll give us a story give
sadaqa wash Negev ah sir
those are three three things when
they're actually in the union that's
before the union when they're actually
in the union they should they should
bring to the mush of ax to their mind
the image of tsadikim so so brought down
some say they should bring the bring to
their image the names of Rome get smoky
over Salah Rifkin ruffle and Leia these
are different things that have brought
thus for amok addition all of this is a
way of making the Union holier now you
understand that the the intimate moment
is a very pleasurable moment so it's
like within the the peak of pleasure
you're inserting kedusha so yes your
body your physical body is having
physical pleasure and through these
things and and again it's it's it's a
kind of a struggle it's it's an adviser
to be able to do this because when you
you know I'm using this an example when
you taste something it's easier but when
you're in the moment in the in the
moment of intimate pleasure it's more
difficult and yet then you insert as
much as you can the image of it sadiq
and the names of the others and the emos
this says this we are taught brings
kedusha holiness to the union and that's
what the Rebbe was talking about and why
does that ever mention this when I would
prepared the minor it's a day I ask
myself why in 1942 he starts a minor he
brings a Madras Schmo
by the way these words are not in the
Methodist rule these words in explaining
the Methodist moves question are the
previous rebels so sober taqwa why you
know why because in 1940's when people
throwing off the women were throwing
away their shackles a man would throwing
away their yarmulkes and people losing
their faith because of everything that
they had experienced in Europe with
assimilation and and then the Holocaust
the rebel job was to reignite and
reconnect and to tell them that there is
kedusha I know rabbi right you call of a
solemn who was a student of the previous
Levison at ford's poland pre-war and he
survived the war one of the things that
he did and was like that he had a
mission i understand from the reverend
the previous leper was to speak about
paris i must refer to people but you
know younger looking younger rabbis you
know I already have a white
I can talk to you know we're a little
older we could talk about this but you
know 20 25 year old 30 year old guy who
gets to go out goes out there it's a
little uncomfortable speaking about
these things it's like you know did you
ever see a rabbi go into the bedroom of
people I mean not much right yeah well
rabbi right chick and he was such a he
was like a baneling of Kanye was there
were times there were times that he
asked to see the bedroom but only I
remember right you can ask to see the
bedroom because he was so removed
spiritually he was you know and he and
he spoke to them about that so that
every here in 1942 at the age of 62 is
facing a a disaster in Yiddish right and
at that time he needs to share with
people the importance of sanctifying
their relationships so that we have a
healthier generation a lot more to talk
about but we're gonna go on okay any
questions on what I just said before we
go on Kosova debating that you were
Satan debated base and now he's he
quotes what I told you before the outfit
ever
in Chapter 2 of Tanja when he talks
about this last point of the key to the
sanctification that draws down the Holy
garment holding your nail dung and all
matters of man hey be a looser whether
it be his childhood over naruse re his
teenage years they ain't Isaac no sorry
not Russia doesn't mean only Tunisia it
means the youth years you know adult
young adult years if they hain't is a
clue say when he's an elder is that he's
an aka ready you know hey the holding
your leadership 800mm up whether it be
all matters between man and God Haim
being your name to being of the Missoula
Zooey and whether it be
between man and his friend the hole on
the grace of and all of his practices
hey hey big mule edition Maya
whether they be in in godly matters and
heavily matters they hate that meal of
the AMA whether it be in the worldly
matters
he got coil Casa la coil everything into
everyone Navarre in a baby that is very
well explained by Taylor this is the
conclusion of the question so why does
the mission infinity others have to tell
us but you who - but it had be a man
what passed you passed the pass that's
good for man the passes looks for Hashem
which is Plato mitzvahs itself
understood that's that's and he says
I've combat equally on the shambhavi Leo
and even matters regarding the ticking
on the shovel you know my friends we
have here a job besides you know taking
care of things that are observable
there's something called tikkun amish
ummah our in the summer you know usually
was here before we didn't do something
but we need something more to do to
complete it so we have to have what's
called takodana summer correction the
tickle of the neshamah velia
at its elevation that the neshamah
receives the soul receives an elevation
for being on earth but i should say
something that wolf and that happy and
happened that happening to the roma
after it exits the body after the prison
passes arm yes to say to me you could
potato that ever says you know there's
an order to this madness there's an
order to what happens to do the Shama on
earth and after
Lords as well the saying of Kaddish the
going to a parents cave her the giving
sadaqa for a parent donating that I was
safe at aura aura or himesh or earth or
a sitter with their name in it and many
other such things are all an order
orderly precise thing for the neshamah
that's passed on and don't underestimate
it and by the way it's not just
the first year the first year it's
really prominent okay
that's why the first year after a person
passes on this the sound the daughter
the people who are closest to the the
soul that passed on whatever they could
do that that in public to have other
people and so our main to their to their
to their brother of an alia to the
Kaddish all public involvement that
comes through the person who's
memorializing the personal passed wrong
it's very significant that this actually
brought in Halawa as well and that's why
it's a tradition by many to get in Ali
if they can every time the tire is
looked red and it become of course not
to make a fight over it with the gabbai
and the rabbi and the shoe people you
know to hog the elias that's you know
and so to 2004 the armored if you're
able to but again not to make a fight
that I saw during the corona time here
in the backyard beyond him we had to
hear him on both sides and they took
turns you know for a while and that was
very not in yet on the Hasidic Jews you
each one is you know wants to do the
most that he can for his parent but
everyone understood that you have to
share and that's the most important
thing but I told you the famous story
with the whole exotic mr. disken they're
known as the son of like your fiery the
sort of and it's not least here one one
year forgot his mother's yard site I
don't know how that happened but he
forgot it somehow so he had a dream and
his mother came to him and his mother
said to him a dream I could forgive you
for everything one thing I can't forgive
you for and you really have to make up
is the fact that you didn't give ticket
you didn't give key clock and herring
atla-hi him ensure for people to make a
brother on the day of the yurt site and
on you would think Kaddish alia learning
is is more significant than a little
keyhole in Lahaina maybe how logically
it is okay but spiritually when you when
when another Jew makes a abraca amiquay
Romina Mozilla's and-and-and-and-and
tosyl hired to the de Sharma is the
highest thing it's the greatest thing
then the Sham has the most enjoyment and
that's what she told her holy son is the
thing that that you really you know I
wanted to make up so why do I say that
because there ever says here that there
is the ticker on the shimmer and the
Ilia of the dashana after it leaves the
body and he says the words and again I
point out how every word in the minor
has significance yes my Seder may you
could buy Torah there is a say there
it's not just you know have to spend
suggest you do what you want come when
you want it doesn't work that way there
are things that are organizing sometimes
we wonder why is this in my life this
way why why pay attention to the details
and you'll figure it out you know they
say there this there is this is chaos
here you know we're not living in chaos
you know it's very easy to they think
we're living in chaos
Rome the riots and isn't that it's all
Petronius the previous is the same the
Abra's there knows exactly what it's
doing he's doing exactly and their Seder
and so is also for the neshamah
let's continue NIM some in a dicey hot
either we understand from this that the
ways of Tatum might even higher Adam
they encompassed the life of man
mysteriously the e-readers how the
Sharma Babu from the beginning when the
soul descends into her body a doll a
song I mean I goof until it exits the
body the in cane if so my identify each
other what other right and proper path
is there revived archaea Taylor Mitchell
besides Taylor Mitzvahs this is again
part of the question a z galaxy Overlord
oh hello
it's of course Kato mistress and the
impediments is from the beginning till
the end what does he show us here he'll
what is he showing us
by saying kiddos I'm secretly Bush car
though she's talking about how look that
even before you're born there's an order
to your parents sanctification and then
by talking about how it is after your
death through the through the cottage
and everything else everything that he
alludes Thalia it shows you that even
after you're gone there's an order to to
- you're in the summer so pre-birth post
birth during birth you're all guided by
terror of menses so this solidifies
illness to this question that what sir
I'll be saying what's the fitness of
Robbie's words that's continued boots
had over marshmallow so we understand
from all of this much the government's
from all of this masturbate implies
Channel five doctor I theta amid son
besides Terry misses yes that that if
he's shown a sudden turn elliptical
button if Robbie makes such a statement
he knew what he's saying obviously
there's some other Dara that he suggests
we choose independent of Terry mistress
Wow
what is that why should I bet if show
them sort of leaf collapse way in the
end the path that one must choose for
himself
sleeve fairly years to fetes Lisa huh Oh
what is this path a path that's
beautiful to the Creator the defendants
legmen our other man beautiful to man
that's the recipe here what will make
God happy and what will make man happy
and that is the path I'm talking about
now and he's going to elaborate in the
mind fail amen her gone and now he goes
back to something that we discussed in
the last moment at great length for
other right look at the language class
ADA he dares sugar Shara show your fur
and learn how other it doesn't say you
hoody it doesn't say Avery it says other
the my smile or them you do our own the
foolish
the implication from the wording and
this mission empathy of us means the
gnome and publicized the famous man sure
who her nation to fetes based on the
definition and this man whoever this
famous of public man is will bring
Beauty to fairness to those that choose
the right path but so does love and so
we need to understand my identify
shouldn't watch the audience out of live
claim what is this special path that man
has to choose how they meekly mother
develop cause if it's a clear verse
quote in the flesh the delayed foolish
ways to destroy us is a miser you follow
my Torah and my mistress and keep them
and them and watch them and keep them
but a something is math and eat them I
will give you your reign you'll have /
no sir
vomit ever signals on the cause I'll say
now by deserter ain't what it means this
no because I'll say it means prayer
beseeching it's not a choice it's
telling you that when you beseech a
shameful Terry misses the pain next page
280 the same alignment so it's they say
it says Lou army so merrily you throw
but Raphael a home Luke what could
literally mean like if if my nation will
listen to me and we'll walk in my ways
chocolates boy who who miss calmness mam
and Rashi says no Lu means God is
pleading with the Jews say yes mr.
Taylor he said in other words he says
guys plug in plug into this later if you
plug into Taylor you will you will have
it good for so in both cases delays hold
that's why what it says if in my
statutes you shall walk not if how the
vine I only with I only wish to glaze it
a label that you will follow in my way
my Tatum behind with the Eames there
ain't a lesson tonight this word em over
here it doesn't mean a condition
Commission a Metallica like it says
afterwards in bulk I cite them license
Molly if you won't listen to me and all
the all the blessings
ie curses true lesson tonight that's
it's night if you don't listen this is
what's going to happen so that ever says
the types of in in the Plata an imbecile
in in place I tell ankle it's not like
the next set afterwards next sentence we
employ later in the same posture there
it's a condition if you don't hear it's
it's it's it's bleeding it's it's be
seat beseeching it's it's not a tonight
ya know so you're a Jew you have no
choice
yeah we always have choice but in other
words from transcends perspective this
is the Mahalo this is the terror
I will even say who Las Intifada names
to cover no say I love I say says
clearly what is the word in mean in the
first second first vopo sake it's the
beseeching a lotion of tough new name
Tottenham Chicago no say holla by the
governor is I wish I wish the clothes
annoy the M who asks Muhammad SAW yeah
what does that mean that this itself
here guys this itself that that that i'm
i a levar you do this this itself give
you kiya messiah it helps you but nice
and clearly is no good still a home how
will you have the clay up to do the
traitor because hashem says in so let's
list it normally when we learned that
eve of christ follicular first to
us says you know image it's a three to a
Shem hash it's always free question but
it's not a Shem
saying to us it's up to you and if you
do it you're gonna get rained if you
don't do it you're not gonna get rain no
he's saying this is the right way
and by me telling you that and
instructing you I give you the that it
selves gives you the clay up the power
to accomplish what you need to
accomplish behind look inside the
lyrical this vertical miss Conliffe name
is Theta the fact that sham pleads with
a Eden to follow the tighter in a in
this quote in Zaire the young they have
a vibe which means I wish hell a vibe
true nuts knuckle this wonderful did
means this is the will of God shall
other news mr. theta he in Zaire who
acts my Messiah but there's a great
heart that I'm sorry I said it before
this gives a person declare the laser
Bawarchi album akitoshi I favor
not only that he will stand be steadfast
in his decision being sponsored
mystical capabilities but if it will
keep the myth says lol ages more so I
said those crazy they'll ankle he will
become he will walk in the statutes so
you Dave Schmidt is a who can who
keeping the statutes NASA high-heeled
Evalia bacala Jana he'll become a walker
ahead a holy a Hilo and are getting a
lien all matters
so all of this all of this will is the
continuation of a question that he began
on the beginning of check of of 279
bottom the after he says to us that when
it says her other hey Zoe dedicate the
other lawyer other obviously refers to
some special man special concept of
other and that he says and then he says
so that but and then he asks even if it
refers to some special aspect of man
which he hasn't explained yet what that
is
it's crystal clear indicator so he
starts speaking about what it says in
theta so once he already mentions what
it says that either he clarifies that
the in book glacier today who isn't a
choice but rather a see you er its
Hashem giving us help to D Torah
when I say when I say oh I wish you
would do it this way right so by us by
us because it's it's conditional away
but by ash M saying I wish you would do
it this way I wish you would keep Tina
it's not a condition it's a help the
word the words of itself
I wish by a sham halav I gives you Clara
think of it this way when you know a
parent a teacher a friend who you really
love and you really care for and they
say I wish you jump
why was I've run cold I've run my of a
doctor ever says this what I'm gonna
tell you now and look at the tailor
I promise cold boas my beloved I've run
away you know why I doubt that ever says
because he figured out where I said
wanted before I shan't told them what to
do
real love is not being told what to do
real love means you're always searching
how to make the person and they burst a
happy of rumbles that way I've loved
irony everyone else waited for waited
for a command you tell me what to do I'm
gonna do it and that's that's also a
great thing but when you don't wait for
the command but rather you're always
thinking how can I make the
commander-in-chief there a burster and
in our relationships those people that
we love how can I make them happier then
you're a real lover they are real or
ugly ugly and it's a very important
point in a later session you know
because many times we wait we wait we're
going to do it but we wait that waiting
shows that you have free to improving in
that relationship not only should you
not wait you should search ways of
bringing pleasure and kind of get love
and kindness to the other and there
four of ram couldn't rest until he he
accomplished that hashem he made us
unhappy so he went around making
thinking about it and so us too when you
really care about someone you don't wait
for them to call you you don't wait for
you for them to contact you you knock on
their door you you you you search them
out what can I do for you
understand that whole mindset then it's
not vitae this isn't this isn't an easy
piece of bread and toast you know with
some peanut butter this is an avoid that
a mindset to to accustom ourselves to
always think about what can I do for the
other and figure out what the other you
know loves you know at manis Friedman
says their husband comes home anything
and it brings a beautiful gift for the
wife's birthday and she says I thank you
very much but this doesn't talk to me so
you could say he's rude she's rude but
the truth is the truth is of course that
depends outset the truth is if you
really know your wife you should have
you should you should have brought the
right gift obviously there's something
missing over here this there's a
disconnect somewhere to people we know
each other very well when close to each
other very well and care about each
other very well they know what brings a
ver and pleasure and and and and
Happiness to the other and the same with
a mister that that that in greater delay
so the image that is giving us a secret
how color the Able's are saying guys I
wish you would follow through what does
that tell you think when I tell you that
this is God's will ie Taylor and that's
because a shitty lives will you become a
mahalo you become a walker or goer you
you know you transcend you
on the right path so you say Wow
attendez opening for me an opportunity
not that a Shem is giving me a choice
that I could say this or that ultimately
have free will of course you could say
this or that yes or no but a smart the
smart thing to do is that if you see a
Shem says in Bethesda late who run for
it go for it because there lies the
answer and this is also true to
parenting and in our lives that in your
Shiva when we were you Shiva or even
today
sometimes a rabbi a Rebbe said something
and he won't spill it out you won't tell
you the whole thing but if you pay
attention what's being said you'll see
that there's there's a there is advice
and have the Rafah being given over here
you know another example that comes to
mind in the early years of the 50s and
60s when the Rebbe essentially looking
it was still before the 70s when an
eighties when it became very much more
popular and acceptable and all that
people just came from Europe people came
from hard times from decimation they
settled whether it be energy stroll or
in Brooklyn or Chicago wherever it was
and they weren't looking to run around
you were looking to just read a good
Yiddish your life work hard build a
family and and and put you this guy back
on the map after the decimation comes
along to the barbecue that by 1958 and
he announces who for roxtor you have to
disseminate you have to go out what are
you sitting in the stable what are you
sitting over there in mayor Sharon or in
beth shemesh go out to the kibbutz in
okay first of all cost you less money
for rent and second of all you become a
teacher and you'll end you and you'll be
mcconnell people and guess what maybe
you become the rabbi anyway so this was
this was this was revolutionary not
people think was revolutionary in the
jewish world in the front world it was
revolutionary in the Chabad world we
never saw such a such a outreach
orientation coming from one girl about
remembers to the point where his mom is
talking about the 58 and 59 and a 60
over at stir and that's when everyone
everyone i i heard from literacy guys
who in the cams camp how good that camp
monk of this out in the Catskills here
you know from terrific bass and crying
Belen and all the liturgy is sheepish
and other you shivers and they would
they would sing you know and kind of to
make a little fun of Allah Babbage so
far I've Stouffer ox though we're at
Stouffer Asda and Bank Rothman you know
he's a very popular criminal lawyer here
in the New York area
Ben Brafman who's defended some of the
greatest criminals he grew up in the
building next to 770 today it's the
Lubavitch of building with offices
Americas as its office but that building
was a building of people who lived there
and next over 770 so he spoke at the
kiddos
the international kid has a bachelor
dinners one of the way a few years and
it's online you could see it and he says
Iram and he lived in his parents lived
there so as a young boy or of a teenager
he remembers hearing the that make it go
far rocks the coming from 770 over rocks
though for us it was 58 or 59 that that
year and that became now you think just
because the river settles arasta and the
and the haste of the passion if I see
them Sango for roxtor you think the
parents jumped no didn't jump they
didn't jump they want the kid next to
them they want to go to Vietnam or come
on Rocco or to California who move up
California in the 50s I mean I'm saying
you know the from you know I mean the
whole you know counterculture world the
new about California but but the Labov
atures in Crown Heights and Brooklyn we
didn't know about California okay
so that looks really the wild wild west
and the reversal for Rasta so the way it
worked then I gave you this as an
introduction the way to the story the
way at work then is that rabbit havoc of
the rebus closes one of his close
secretaries who was in charge of sending
slew him and that whole area say he
would talk to a young newly married man
and say we're looking for someone the
Mara Keisling young as you know
America's is looking to place someone in
in st. Louis place wherever would like
you and your wife to would you would you
go and he says you need permission and
he says to the younger man to the to the
coiler younger man or they you need to
ask your wife get permission get
permission you don't need to ask your
parents cuz you're married well the
parents mixed in could you imagine that
newly married kids who they thought they
would have next to them are all of a
sudden moving out of town
if the young man did not say with a with
a clarity and a conviction I'm ready to
go
there are stories that a week later he
said I spoke it over my wife and my
parents on and we're ready to go there
were times that he said forget it why
did he say forget it because this is not
about getting permission this is the
soul is your soul so driven and
connected that you see that the message
that the Labov echad ever that sadiq
sees that we need you to be in Chicago
in LA here and there you do it and if
there's a moment of hesitation you're a
great guy but you're not over all my
other you're not my beloved and the same
happened with your Rahzel 400 years ago
Friday
known before Shabbos that reason goes
into that hat he's sure they're in smash
and he said who is ready to go to energy
or shall I am with me to greet Messiah
we have to we have a super shoppers we
have told tomorrow well you have to put
my kids to sleep all the excuses good
excuses Ariza says you missed it we
missed an opportunity to the Greek
Messiah that's a traditional story in
our circles of this guy so whether it's
the Bible should have been 58 or 59 or
the arezzo four hundred years ago five
hundred years ago and ever it was there
is the aroma oil in focus at Alejo
however I and for that it's it goes
beyond it goes beyond it's a conviction
and let me tell you this if you're so
convicted if you're so in touch with
this message others will feel it in you
and follow your wife will go home your
parents will go along the community will
go along and maybe today they'll give
you a hard time of tomorrow but okema
they'll see oh now we understand what
the Lubavitch should have been you know
I'm saying they don't understand so
these are the times in our lives where
it's in that minute in that moment and
and and and it's either there or it
passes you missed the opportunity you
know Seamus nice and I'll give you
another opportunity but it might be
another kind of opportunity so there
were saluted who could have you know but
they hesitated for whatever reason if
Rebecca the co said ask your ask your
wife okay that was the instruction but
if he didn't say that he came to you and
it was like are you are you in this or
you're not in this and if you couldn't
you didn't say right away yes there were
times and people and we know they are he
said okay you're a great guy but this is
this so
this is a I think a message that we and
we have to that's relevant the missed
opportunity and not to make us feel bad
Hospital but to to folk to understand
that there's there are opportunities and
and if you miss don't miss that
opportunity because that opportunity
seize the moment and reflect back on
that opportunity you know I was told I
mentioned to you several times that
about 20 25 years ago forget I went to
see with some people I brought from
America McDougal the Baba Sally's nephew
named math new philosophy he lived in
Dimona and I want to introduce them to
whatever Coupole is and I was told that
he's a real mokuba so I said let's go
and then very interesting another time
to tell you different things that he
told us he told me one of the things he
said to me because I was one of the four
people so he said to me he looks up
after I wrote down he wouldn't he just
went like this on the paper he looks up
and starts speaking an errand in Arabic
I had a Jerusalem guy if every man gonna
I made sure him die he wasn't really on
the ball care she was his name I
remember I hope he's fine and there
should I it seemed like he understood
what he said and then he said to me that
he wanted he said to me he's telling you
he's telling you that whenever you make
a transaction should be on a Thursday or
Friday you shouldn't sign a contract or
make a deal if it's not a Thursday or
Friday he didn't explain he didn't say
more from that day on I can document for
you that whenever I had to do some
whenever I did some thing that required
a contract or a deal or a purchase
whatever something of that kind of
business nature and I did it in Thursday
and Friday I had out slow seize the
moment he said
time twenty five years ago and it's out
of my mind every every single Thursday
or Friday it's not something you can
explain and it's not something you know
you can argue with it is a moment and
either you get into that moment they
don't and the same is in every aspect so
hevener there is there's opportunities
out there I'm telling you there's great
opportunities for kedusha and Tahara and
and and family and friends focus on that
opportunity especially if you have a
connection with a Tzadik here with
exotic is saying don't tell the Tabak
what you want him to say you listen to
the topic whoever your topic is and
listen and and and and and just connect
and you have ocean both with an Aleph
meaning fortune are you sure with an
iron wealth and a lot of happiness okay
more happiness will continue tomorrow I
hope you all enjoyed and any comments
anyone want to say something Saiga's oh
boy thank yous I doesn't and a good day
shall humble see everyone tomorrow bye