Find out Who You Are - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

that says osios maki mice the letters the words the iciest of the titan malcolmus they make you smart and the reason is because the ACS are kedusha are holy so when you when you actually see the holy words of tater any Seifert of tater any book of theta it adds actually it adds actually to the Kozma to your wisdom so that's a reason to follow along whenever possible in a text so this is on page 279 and the third volume of what's called my modern Miller cotton of the previous raba the previous rabbit didn't put together this book this book was put together I think by someone in Crocker bad actually what they did is they chose my more'n discourses that are more user-friendly and like I wrote to you and they whatsapp more psychological psychologically oriented and they put in the kudos normally the my mom don't have the kudos they put synopsis before each paragraph and they opened up some of the acronyms in the bottom and also added sometimes and and and Hebrew translation of Aramaic words that cited for the Gomorrah and other places that's the text that we have in front of us good morning hello okay so page 279 also it's worth mentioning again that we were taught in yeshiva that the heading and the date of a minor is also was if it was written by a rather it has kaduche it has holiness and therefore we also begin the minor by reading the heading so this begins with base Samak dollars with the help of a Shem Shabbos parses below huh which is yesterday for us in America was last week tough ship bays 1942 now the year 1942 has a lot of significance for us as Jews I believe when was the year wasn't that the year when the Jews found out about the terrible you know destruction in in in in in the Holocaust I think it was 242 yeah also on that but the death camps only really started working as as me file as a factory in 1942 okay thank you thank you thank you so and the previous rebel who narrowly barely escaped Nazi Germany in a miraculous way it's been written up it's a fascinating story that the SS themselves took out the previous at ever but it was of course fuelled by funding and palette politics from here in the State Department and then of certain politicians State Department action was against us but you know they also probably paid money it's a whole story there is the Habad Rebbetzin Alton Oliver Sholem in a book called out of the inferno who wrote up the whole story her father abayas well Jacobson was the person who led the came here in 1926 he was from the goodest I see the Sabbath and the leaders of Chabad in America and he orchestrated the entire thing with with others so his daughter rat the rabbit said all time together with cuffs he put out a book called out of the inferno if you haven't seen it it's a fascinating read that's the version from the Habad side then there's the version of Brian rig Brian rig is in Texas and he wrote he wrote a story to his I think historian today it might be a business and he has a different angle to it so between both of them you get a full picture of the miraculous escape from the previous setup in 1944 so he comes to America 1940 March of 1940 and he comes and if you take a look at the way the pictures and the video whatever the movie of him coming in 1940 compared to the way you see him coming off the boat and other pictures of 1930 29 because they're ever visited America in 1929 during the 20s many many goodell and receivers and some rebels mostly good palin and receive his literature receivers visited America to raise funds there Shemesh cup of ceará he did 1929 and and and the Burroughs bear was here and the list goes on because they needed funds and there was a time you could travel but that ever came in 1929 also one of the purposes was to raise funds for his his his cause of saving the Russian jewelry you know so if you see the picture of him in 29 you see a younger man a healthy man he's walking himself it looks like that he looks like a prince you compare those pictures to the way he looks in nineteen in 1940 he's in a wheelchair he's you're more frail and then old and those 10 years you can see a big difference and people make a mistake they think the difference is because they they they tortured him in in 1927 in when he was incarcerated and given a death sentence and then released now I'm sure that didn't help his his body but however you see that 1930 he looks fresh and young so just three years before in 27 they tortured him the real reason that that that he that he he reiterated in his health so much was because he had MS and a certain kind of MS that debilitated him and ultimately it took his you know speech when he had a stroke in 1945 so between the MS and the stroke you know he was a very it was a stroke patient and that really took a toll on his body it was I believe the nvm s so so but nevertheless his mind but of Hashem was sharp as a razor and he either said there my mahram or wrote to my Morin and wrote the letters and let an entire campaign of you describe for 10 solid years from nineteen forty to fifty and it passed on in New York in Brooklyn 1950 over seventy at the age of seven this minor that we're about to begin was said shoppers passers-by lay slow or written for showers balance the Tufts in base 1942 now I think the only year in the 1940s that he had the I guess T strength to say my Maurin not just to write them was 1942 rabbi label groaner all of a sudden just passed away in May a soul have a now Leah told told that told us that he recalls hearing those discourses of the Reverend 1942 I think they were said on a Monday or Tuesday evening every Monday or Tuesday he said am i right of every single week but many weeks so hence we have a book called safer on my mom the book of discourses of tough shin base 1942 so those were actually sent when whether they read this this date here is Travis Parsons by the way stuff so it's not you know dated in the middle of the week so what I don't know how to try finding out is whether it was actually said during the week but nevertheless for some reason he chose the heading the date of Shabbos Pasha's by Lisa so my my warmed Russia points to the fact that even the the the date and title in a minor one can learn from it and and and benefit from now let's skip let's skip the the synopsis and go right to the minor and this was by us yesterday's pretty others Robbie I'm the business says Robbie which is an actor which is refers to that be who Tejano see Robbie oh it made up he says quote ezel he definitely shovel shovel on your order what is the path man should choose says the missionary she need to finish a sell a path that is beautiful to its creator to Hashem but the Fed is lame in our other and it's also beautiful for mankind and Givens there's an old expression so God wants a light to God and light it means to human humans to people one should be good Scott to God and excuse me and to lighten to people be a mensch that's the best path that you should choose by the way of silesia types that I heard from from rather in classical sofa of yerushalayim actually it says that Robbie ointment only a Rebbe only exotic that's already can tell you what path you choose and that's what Asia he dead of them easy death you Shara forever alone what's the right path you choose an ordinary rabbi can't believe that and a Russell Shiva can tell you that but I did that was Caesar neshama he knows we're you know summable belongs at what kind and that's why it says that a Ravi Ravi means a river I love that touch ok the heat shipping method as well so the method small was a commentator on the pair T of us asks you are clueless - a regarding this this saying in the Mishnah there a Z that if you shudder regarding the statement which is the right path the hello yes the how benefit you shut up by Delmon are okay page 279 on that page came a gimbal the same say look we're learning before yes and and and yo you should never never say you hate to interrupt me it's a pleasure because you want to find the text okay let's go back to so the question is the methanol asks this statement ASA he did a free shuttle which is the right path a yet you have did it by a shorter handle das from a full sentence there is the known and and publicized right path with who well close to everyone and what is that wake up the he dark the art 8oa mitzvahs the ways of fate of a mistress so what does that me hope that knows he's saying what's the right path the right path is played on mitzvahs what's the finish that's the question of the methods more bhai no shaddadi I played of Amit sir me that the ways of tato mistress in karate Dean a.m. with all of the details of the laws are a mockery hey Matt - hi Alton they surround one's life they encompass one's life but McLaren Shabalala lucida even before he was created tailor Mitch's existed he preceded better comes into the earth at certain time behaved in a honey swing the laws of marriage or schmira cetera Hado and then keeping tire service boffo the hockey do's and the sanctification shape mom she came the bush Kaddish that draws down a holy garment that will stop here for a moment because this needs explanation but ever saying here that i be saying to us if you choose right path she brings the medical school asks title missus is the right path and title mistress is here before you were born why why because the title tells you how to get married who to get married when to get married let's resume once you're married the title says me to Tyrus Thomas buffer then the tie ptosis says something that were not so familiar with which says mostly in in in Kabbalah Mustafa Siddhas and that's called mom she from the vu Scottish when the parents are together when they're intimate they draw down a holy garment to the soul that will be born and that comes through Kadosh what is kiddush me sanctification the holiness in the union between the father and the mother it's brought down as foreign that there's a la bouche now what is that the bushmeat which mr. gong what does it look what what does it mean that there's a soul has a garment so let's explain the garment means the way you will process things that's the garment who the soul is the parents have no say in the soul sorry sorry sorry to tell you this but whoever whatever the sum that comes to a father and money and mother that's chosen by a cousins Burkle you don't get a true we don't get a choice in that okay and we have to bank that into our head cuz sometimes we say I'm a control you're not in control of anything but however they love us you're in control of us how that neshama will process the information quick or slow happy or sad up or down that's up to the parents so just for another moment during the intimate time of the parents they're upset with each other and from that Union there is a pregnancy and ultimately a birth it could it could be that that child that will be born will have a natural tendency to being upset now we don't know I don't know if I'm saying but according to what it says in this forum that I believe would be the a proper calculation and the same is true in vice-versa if when the kind of Union there is wholesome unity real hosts and unity that the Schirmer that comes into a body from that union is a happier child and now we talk about a union that doesn't necessarily lead to an offspring because if a woman is really menopause and not having children or can't have children or the husband can't but they're still together so it's brought down in the sorted population of the holy sweating that there too there is what we call a spiritual offspring what is a spiritual offspring today may they might call that the vibes we have names for everything chill vibes cool whatever what are these vibes the vibes mean that there is an aura and an energy that surrounds a person and that Orang energy is created through the kiddos of the parents and when you understand this idea and you think about it and you work towards refining and elevating the the sanctity of the union and the intimacy that there there's no question that healthier and more positive results come from it all all that I've said by the way is a - and about less six lines in Chapter two and Tanya but I that's based on that section over there over there - it's not so clear but if this this explanation I'm sharing now fits for there - and this is what he means Moshe when he says AHA ketose and the sanctification said mom hit him with bush Cabos when the parents are holy in their union and sanctifying themselves they drill down other bush colors I would take more time to talk about this but I think we should go on because there's a lot more to say what does it mean to be holy in a union so the first thing it means is to follow what it says are so familiar the second thing is to follow what it says in this forum about a union do you guys know what it says in this forum about an intimate union it says for example I'm not going to tell you everything I only I only tell these secrets to a hustler if he asks me this is the night before marriage one our course secrets of the bedroom from rabbi dolphin anyway so it says they it says in his father Mac addition that the parents for example before their intimate they should learn some trader said you I'll give us a story give sadaqa wash Negev ah sir those are three three things when they're actually in the union that's before the union when they're actually in the union they should they should bring to the mush of ax to their mind the image of tsadikim so so brought down some say they should bring the bring to their image the names of Rome get smoky over Salah Rifkin ruffle and Leia these are different things that have brought thus for amok addition all of this is a way of making the Union holier now you understand that the the intimate moment is a very pleasurable moment so it's like within the the peak of pleasure you're inserting kedusha so yes your body your physical body is having physical pleasure and through these things and and again it's it's it's a kind of a struggle it's it's an adviser to be able to do this because when you you know I'm using this an example when you taste something it's easier but when you're in the moment in the in the moment of intimate pleasure it's more difficult and yet then you insert as much as you can the image of it sadiq and the names of the others and the emos this says this we are taught brings kedusha holiness to the union and that's what the Rebbe was talking about and why does that ever mention this when I would prepared the minor it's a day I ask myself why in 1942 he starts a minor he brings a Madras Schmo by the way these words are not in the Methodist rule these words in explaining the Methodist moves question are the previous rebels so sober taqwa why you know why because in 1940's when people throwing off the women were throwing away their shackles a man would throwing away their yarmulkes and people losing their faith because of everything that they had experienced in Europe with assimilation and and then the Holocaust the rebel job was to reignite and reconnect and to tell them that there is kedusha I know rabbi right you call of a solemn who was a student of the previous Levison at ford's poland pre-war and he survived the war one of the things that he did and was like that he had a mission i understand from the reverend the previous leper was to speak about paris i must refer to people but you know younger looking younger rabbis you know I already have a white I can talk to you know we're a little older we could talk about this but you know 20 25 year old 30 year old guy who gets to go out goes out there it's a little uncomfortable speaking about these things it's like you know did you ever see a rabbi go into the bedroom of people I mean not much right yeah well rabbi right chick and he was such a he was like a baneling of Kanye was there were times there were times that he asked to see the bedroom but only I remember right you can ask to see the bedroom because he was so removed spiritually he was you know and he and he spoke to them about that so that every here in 1942 at the age of 62 is facing a a disaster in Yiddish right and at that time he needs to share with people the importance of sanctifying their relationships so that we have a healthier generation a lot more to talk about but we're gonna go on okay any questions on what I just said before we go on Kosova debating that you were Satan debated base and now he's he quotes what I told you before the outfit ever in Chapter 2 of Tanja when he talks about this last point of the key to the sanctification that draws down the Holy garment holding your nail dung and all matters of man hey be a looser whether it be his childhood over naruse re his teenage years they ain't Isaac no sorry not Russia doesn't mean only Tunisia it means the youth years you know adult young adult years if they hain't is a clue say when he's an elder is that he's an aka ready you know hey the holding your leadership 800mm up whether it be all matters between man and God Haim being your name to being of the Missoula Zooey and whether it be between man and his friend the hole on the grace of and all of his practices hey hey big mule edition Maya whether they be in in godly matters and heavily matters they hate that meal of the AMA whether it be in the worldly matters he got coil Casa la coil everything into everyone Navarre in a baby that is very well explained by Taylor this is the conclusion of the question so why does the mission infinity others have to tell us but you who - but it had be a man what passed you passed the pass that's good for man the passes looks for Hashem which is Plato mitzvahs itself understood that's that's and he says I've combat equally on the shambhavi Leo and even matters regarding the ticking on the shovel you know my friends we have here a job besides you know taking care of things that are observable there's something called tikkun amish ummah our in the summer you know usually was here before we didn't do something but we need something more to do to complete it so we have to have what's called takodana summer correction the tickle of the neshamah velia at its elevation that the neshamah receives the soul receives an elevation for being on earth but i should say something that wolf and that happy and happened that happening to the roma after it exits the body after the prison passes arm yes to say to me you could potato that ever says you know there's an order to this madness there's an order to what happens to do the Shama on earth and after Lords as well the saying of Kaddish the going to a parents cave her the giving sadaqa for a parent donating that I was safe at aura aura or himesh or earth or a sitter with their name in it and many other such things are all an order orderly precise thing for the neshamah that's passed on and don't underestimate it and by the way it's not just the first year the first year it's really prominent okay that's why the first year after a person passes on this the sound the daughter the people who are closest to the the soul that passed on whatever they could do that that in public to have other people and so our main to their to their to their brother of an alia to the Kaddish all public involvement that comes through the person who's memorializing the personal passed wrong it's very significant that this actually brought in Halawa as well and that's why it's a tradition by many to get in Ali if they can every time the tire is looked red and it become of course not to make a fight over it with the gabbai and the rabbi and the shoe people you know to hog the elias that's you know and so to 2004 the armored if you're able to but again not to make a fight that I saw during the corona time here in the backyard beyond him we had to hear him on both sides and they took turns you know for a while and that was very not in yet on the Hasidic Jews you each one is you know wants to do the most that he can for his parent but everyone understood that you have to share and that's the most important thing but I told you the famous story with the whole exotic mr. disken they're known as the son of like your fiery the sort of and it's not least here one one year forgot his mother's yard site I don't know how that happened but he forgot it somehow so he had a dream and his mother came to him and his mother said to him a dream I could forgive you for everything one thing I can't forgive you for and you really have to make up is the fact that you didn't give ticket you didn't give key clock and herring atla-hi him ensure for people to make a brother on the day of the yurt site and on you would think Kaddish alia learning is is more significant than a little keyhole in Lahaina maybe how logically it is okay but spiritually when you when when another Jew makes a abraca amiquay Romina Mozilla's and-and-and-and-and tosyl hired to the de Sharma is the highest thing it's the greatest thing then the Sham has the most enjoyment and that's what she told her holy son is the thing that that you really you know I wanted to make up so why do I say that because there ever says here that there is the ticker on the shimmer and the Ilia of the dashana after it leaves the body and he says the words and again I point out how every word in the minor has significance yes my Seder may you could buy Torah there is a say there it's not just you know have to spend suggest you do what you want come when you want it doesn't work that way there are things that are organizing sometimes we wonder why is this in my life this way why why pay attention to the details and you'll figure it out you know they say there this there is this is chaos here you know we're not living in chaos you know it's very easy to they think we're living in chaos Rome the riots and isn't that it's all Petronius the previous is the same the Abra's there knows exactly what it's doing he's doing exactly and their Seder and so is also for the neshamah let's continue NIM some in a dicey hot either we understand from this that the ways of Tatum might even higher Adam they encompassed the life of man mysteriously the e-readers how the Sharma Babu from the beginning when the soul descends into her body a doll a song I mean I goof until it exits the body the in cane if so my identify each other what other right and proper path is there revived archaea Taylor Mitchell besides Taylor Mitzvahs this is again part of the question a z galaxy Overlord oh hello it's of course Kato mistress and the impediments is from the beginning till the end what does he show us here he'll what is he showing us by saying kiddos I'm secretly Bush car though she's talking about how look that even before you're born there's an order to your parents sanctification and then by talking about how it is after your death through the through the cottage and everything else everything that he alludes Thalia it shows you that even after you're gone there's an order to to - you're in the summer so pre-birth post birth during birth you're all guided by terror of menses so this solidifies illness to this question that what sir I'll be saying what's the fitness of Robbie's words that's continued boots had over marshmallow so we understand from all of this much the government's from all of this masturbate implies Channel five doctor I theta amid son besides Terry misses yes that that if he's shown a sudden turn elliptical button if Robbie makes such a statement he knew what he's saying obviously there's some other Dara that he suggests we choose independent of Terry mistress Wow what is that why should I bet if show them sort of leaf collapse way in the end the path that one must choose for himself sleeve fairly years to fetes Lisa huh Oh what is this path a path that's beautiful to the Creator the defendants legmen our other man beautiful to man that's the recipe here what will make God happy and what will make man happy and that is the path I'm talking about now and he's going to elaborate in the mind fail amen her gone and now he goes back to something that we discussed in the last moment at great length for other right look at the language class ADA he dares sugar Shara show your fur and learn how other it doesn't say you hoody it doesn't say Avery it says other the my smile or them you do our own the foolish the implication from the wording and this mission empathy of us means the gnome and publicized the famous man sure who her nation to fetes based on the definition and this man whoever this famous of public man is will bring Beauty to fairness to those that choose the right path but so does love and so we need to understand my identify shouldn't watch the audience out of live claim what is this special path that man has to choose how they meekly mother develop cause if it's a clear verse quote in the flesh the delayed foolish ways to destroy us is a miser you follow my Torah and my mistress and keep them and them and watch them and keep them but a something is math and eat them I will give you your reign you'll have / no sir vomit ever signals on the cause I'll say now by deserter ain't what it means this no because I'll say it means prayer beseeching it's not a choice it's telling you that when you beseech a shameful Terry misses the pain next page 280 the same alignment so it's they say it says Lou army so merrily you throw but Raphael a home Luke what could literally mean like if if my nation will listen to me and we'll walk in my ways chocolates boy who who miss calmness mam and Rashi says no Lu means God is pleading with the Jews say yes mr. Taylor he said in other words he says guys plug in plug into this later if you plug into Taylor you will you will have it good for so in both cases delays hold that's why what it says if in my statutes you shall walk not if how the vine I only with I only wish to glaze it a label that you will follow in my way my Tatum behind with the Eames there ain't a lesson tonight this word em over here it doesn't mean a condition Commission a Metallica like it says afterwards in bulk I cite them license Molly if you won't listen to me and all the all the blessings ie curses true lesson tonight that's it's night if you don't listen this is what's going to happen so that ever says the types of in in the Plata an imbecile in in place I tell ankle it's not like the next set afterwards next sentence we employ later in the same posture there it's a condition if you don't hear it's it's it's it's bleeding it's it's be seat beseeching it's it's not a tonight ya know so you're a Jew you have no choice yeah we always have choice but in other words from transcends perspective this is the Mahalo this is the terror I will even say who Las Intifada names to cover no say I love I say says clearly what is the word in mean in the first second first vopo sake it's the beseeching a lotion of tough new name Tottenham Chicago no say holla by the governor is I wish I wish the clothes annoy the M who asks Muhammad SAW yeah what does that mean that this itself here guys this itself that that that i'm i a levar you do this this itself give you kiya messiah it helps you but nice and clearly is no good still a home how will you have the clay up to do the traitor because hashem says in so let's list it normally when we learned that eve of christ follicular first to us says you know image it's a three to a Shem hash it's always free question but it's not a Shem saying to us it's up to you and if you do it you're gonna get rained if you don't do it you're not gonna get rain no he's saying this is the right way and by me telling you that and instructing you I give you the that it selves gives you the clay up the power to accomplish what you need to accomplish behind look inside the lyrical this vertical miss Conliffe name is Theta the fact that sham pleads with a Eden to follow the tighter in a in this quote in Zaire the young they have a vibe which means I wish hell a vibe true nuts knuckle this wonderful did means this is the will of God shall other news mr. theta he in Zaire who acts my Messiah but there's a great heart that I'm sorry I said it before this gives a person declare the laser Bawarchi album akitoshi I favor not only that he will stand be steadfast in his decision being sponsored mystical capabilities but if it will keep the myth says lol ages more so I said those crazy they'll ankle he will become he will walk in the statutes so you Dave Schmidt is a who can who keeping the statutes NASA high-heeled Evalia bacala Jana he'll become a walker ahead a holy a Hilo and are getting a lien all matters so all of this all of this will is the continuation of a question that he began on the beginning of check of of 279 bottom the after he says to us that when it says her other hey Zoe dedicate the other lawyer other obviously refers to some special man special concept of other and that he says and then he says so that but and then he asks even if it refers to some special aspect of man which he hasn't explained yet what that is it's crystal clear indicator so he starts speaking about what it says in theta so once he already mentions what it says that either he clarifies that the in book glacier today who isn't a choice but rather a see you er its Hashem giving us help to D Torah when I say when I say oh I wish you would do it this way right so by us by us because it's it's conditional away but by ash M saying I wish you would do it this way I wish you would keep Tina it's not a condition it's a help the word the words of itself I wish by a sham halav I gives you Clara think of it this way when you know a parent a teacher a friend who you really love and you really care for and they say I wish you jump why was I've run cold I've run my of a doctor ever says this what I'm gonna tell you now and look at the tailor I promise cold boas my beloved I've run away you know why I doubt that ever says because he figured out where I said wanted before I shan't told them what to do real love is not being told what to do real love means you're always searching how to make the person and they burst a happy of rumbles that way I've loved irony everyone else waited for waited for a command you tell me what to do I'm gonna do it and that's that's also a great thing but when you don't wait for the command but rather you're always thinking how can I make the commander-in-chief there a burster and in our relationships those people that we love how can I make them happier then you're a real lover they are real or ugly ugly and it's a very important point in a later session you know because many times we wait we wait we're going to do it but we wait that waiting shows that you have free to improving in that relationship not only should you not wait you should search ways of bringing pleasure and kind of get love and kindness to the other and there four of ram couldn't rest until he he accomplished that hashem he made us unhappy so he went around making thinking about it and so us too when you really care about someone you don't wait for them to call you you don't wait for you for them to contact you you knock on their door you you you you search them out what can I do for you understand that whole mindset then it's not vitae this isn't this isn't an easy piece of bread and toast you know with some peanut butter this is an avoid that a mindset to to accustom ourselves to always think about what can I do for the other and figure out what the other you know loves you know at manis Friedman says their husband comes home anything and it brings a beautiful gift for the wife's birthday and she says I thank you very much but this doesn't talk to me so you could say he's rude she's rude but the truth is the truth is of course that depends outset the truth is if you really know your wife you should have you should you should have brought the right gift obviously there's something missing over here this there's a disconnect somewhere to people we know each other very well when close to each other very well and care about each other very well they know what brings a ver and pleasure and and and and Happiness to the other and the same with a mister that that that in greater delay so the image that is giving us a secret how color the Able's are saying guys I wish you would follow through what does that tell you think when I tell you that this is God's will ie Taylor and that's because a shitty lives will you become a mahalo you become a walker or goer you you know you transcend you on the right path so you say Wow attendez opening for me an opportunity not that a Shem is giving me a choice that I could say this or that ultimately have free will of course you could say this or that yes or no but a smart the smart thing to do is that if you see a Shem says in Bethesda late who run for it go for it because there lies the answer and this is also true to parenting and in our lives that in your Shiva when we were you Shiva or even today sometimes a rabbi a Rebbe said something and he won't spill it out you won't tell you the whole thing but if you pay attention what's being said you'll see that there's there's a there is advice and have the Rafah being given over here you know another example that comes to mind in the early years of the 50s and 60s when the Rebbe essentially looking it was still before the 70s when an eighties when it became very much more popular and acceptable and all that people just came from Europe people came from hard times from decimation they settled whether it be energy stroll or in Brooklyn or Chicago wherever it was and they weren't looking to run around you were looking to just read a good Yiddish your life work hard build a family and and and put you this guy back on the map after the decimation comes along to the barbecue that by 1958 and he announces who for roxtor you have to disseminate you have to go out what are you sitting in the stable what are you sitting over there in mayor Sharon or in beth shemesh go out to the kibbutz in okay first of all cost you less money for rent and second of all you become a teacher and you'll end you and you'll be mcconnell people and guess what maybe you become the rabbi anyway so this was this was this was revolutionary not people think was revolutionary in the jewish world in the front world it was revolutionary in the Chabad world we never saw such a such a outreach orientation coming from one girl about remembers to the point where his mom is talking about the 58 and 59 and a 60 over at stir and that's when everyone everyone i i heard from literacy guys who in the cams camp how good that camp monk of this out in the Catskills here you know from terrific bass and crying Belen and all the liturgy is sheepish and other you shivers and they would they would sing you know and kind of to make a little fun of Allah Babbage so far I've Stouffer ox though we're at Stouffer Asda and Bank Rothman you know he's a very popular criminal lawyer here in the New York area Ben Brafman who's defended some of the greatest criminals he grew up in the building next to 770 today it's the Lubavitch of building with offices Americas as its office but that building was a building of people who lived there and next over 770 so he spoke at the kiddos the international kid has a bachelor dinners one of the way a few years and it's online you could see it and he says Iram and he lived in his parents lived there so as a young boy or of a teenager he remembers hearing the that make it go far rocks the coming from 770 over rocks though for us it was 58 or 59 that that year and that became now you think just because the river settles arasta and the and the haste of the passion if I see them Sango for roxtor you think the parents jumped no didn't jump they didn't jump they want the kid next to them they want to go to Vietnam or come on Rocco or to California who move up California in the 50s I mean I'm saying you know the from you know I mean the whole you know counterculture world the new about California but but the Labov atures in Crown Heights and Brooklyn we didn't know about California okay so that looks really the wild wild west and the reversal for Rasta so the way it worked then I gave you this as an introduction the way to the story the way at work then is that rabbit havoc of the rebus closes one of his close secretaries who was in charge of sending slew him and that whole area say he would talk to a young newly married man and say we're looking for someone the Mara Keisling young as you know America's is looking to place someone in in st. Louis place wherever would like you and your wife to would you would you go and he says you need permission and he says to the younger man to the to the coiler younger man or they you need to ask your wife get permission get permission you don't need to ask your parents cuz you're married well the parents mixed in could you imagine that newly married kids who they thought they would have next to them are all of a sudden moving out of town if the young man did not say with a with a clarity and a conviction I'm ready to go there are stories that a week later he said I spoke it over my wife and my parents on and we're ready to go there were times that he said forget it why did he say forget it because this is not about getting permission this is the soul is your soul so driven and connected that you see that the message that the Labov echad ever that sadiq sees that we need you to be in Chicago in LA here and there you do it and if there's a moment of hesitation you're a great guy but you're not over all my other you're not my beloved and the same happened with your Rahzel 400 years ago Friday known before Shabbos that reason goes into that hat he's sure they're in smash and he said who is ready to go to energy or shall I am with me to greet Messiah we have to we have a super shoppers we have told tomorrow well you have to put my kids to sleep all the excuses good excuses Ariza says you missed it we missed an opportunity to the Greek Messiah that's a traditional story in our circles of this guy so whether it's the Bible should have been 58 or 59 or the arezzo four hundred years ago five hundred years ago and ever it was there is the aroma oil in focus at Alejo however I and for that it's it goes beyond it goes beyond it's a conviction and let me tell you this if you're so convicted if you're so in touch with this message others will feel it in you and follow your wife will go home your parents will go along the community will go along and maybe today they'll give you a hard time of tomorrow but okema they'll see oh now we understand what the Lubavitch should have been you know I'm saying they don't understand so these are the times in our lives where it's in that minute in that moment and and and and it's either there or it passes you missed the opportunity you know Seamus nice and I'll give you another opportunity but it might be another kind of opportunity so there were saluted who could have you know but they hesitated for whatever reason if Rebecca the co said ask your ask your wife okay that was the instruction but if he didn't say that he came to you and it was like are you are you in this or you're not in this and if you couldn't you didn't say right away yes there were times and people and we know they are he said okay you're a great guy but this is this so this is a I think a message that we and we have to that's relevant the missed opportunity and not to make us feel bad Hospital but to to folk to understand that there's there are opportunities and and if you miss don't miss that opportunity because that opportunity seize the moment and reflect back on that opportunity you know I was told I mentioned to you several times that about 20 25 years ago forget I went to see with some people I brought from America McDougal the Baba Sally's nephew named math new philosophy he lived in Dimona and I want to introduce them to whatever Coupole is and I was told that he's a real mokuba so I said let's go and then very interesting another time to tell you different things that he told us he told me one of the things he said to me because I was one of the four people so he said to me he looks up after I wrote down he wouldn't he just went like this on the paper he looks up and starts speaking an errand in Arabic I had a Jerusalem guy if every man gonna I made sure him die he wasn't really on the ball care she was his name I remember I hope he's fine and there should I it seemed like he understood what he said and then he said to me that he wanted he said to me he's telling you he's telling you that whenever you make a transaction should be on a Thursday or Friday you shouldn't sign a contract or make a deal if it's not a Thursday or Friday he didn't explain he didn't say more from that day on I can document for you that whenever I had to do some whenever I did some thing that required a contract or a deal or a purchase whatever something of that kind of business nature and I did it in Thursday and Friday I had out slow seize the moment he said time twenty five years ago and it's out of my mind every every single Thursday or Friday it's not something you can explain and it's not something you know you can argue with it is a moment and either you get into that moment they don't and the same is in every aspect so hevener there is there's opportunities out there I'm telling you there's great opportunities for kedusha and Tahara and and and family and friends focus on that opportunity especially if you have a connection with a Tzadik here with exotic is saying don't tell the Tabak what you want him to say you listen to the topic whoever your topic is and listen and and and and and just connect and you have ocean both with an Aleph meaning fortune are you sure with an iron wealth and a lot of happiness okay more happiness will continue tomorrow I hope you all enjoyed and any comments anyone want to say something Saiga's oh boy thank yous I doesn't and a good day shall humble see everyone tomorrow bye