Farbrengen w R' Chaim Dalfin lessons from Poland trip

well first falen Chronicle have kind of everyone say short part I was told the circle even associated you know the pain I will tell you I really a little series data right so there's a question that's asked how were the Eden allowed to sacrifice themselves when the halacha Jewish law dictates that only there are three mitzvahs that you're allowed to give up your life for otherwise you have to commit the sin and continue living and not allow yourself to die like this three mrs. yarrow value ever allow yourself to be killed with a yeah but don't desecrate right but otherwise and and and and and rabbinic mitzvot hanukkah's a rabbinic mitzvot conic is not a fable commits her this question is asked many commentators authorities and for various answers I'll share with you a thought that the rebus said that ever teaches and it's the Rambam you know the Rambam Maimonides any serious to a scholar including our ever if you if you don't tap into the Rambam you're not really a serious student all the great Jewish Minds they they took the RAM bomb and they looked at how the Rambam wrote what he wrote and said what he said and they were very meticulous about his language so for example the son of a chick family I've heard of rebus elevate chick they're known to have to have not just studied the Rambam but like he said earlier you know kakuzu you know which really in English the best word I think is passionate about passionate it was so passionate about the Rambam and the story that they tell over is that Rabbi salivates rabbi Yasha bear Joseph bear salivate check who became the receiver of University and ordained over 2,000 rabbis during his lifetime so when he was a little boy teenager whenever he was learning with his father at motion motion was his father's name and the mother noticed the mother noticed that he was yep you are the mother noticed that he was very distraught very upset this little this little boy Yasha bear and he was crying and he was crying why was he crying because he didn't understand something that Rambam said so the mother took the mother the mother not told told them xargs a fish which means don't worry there's very knelt there you'll be older that's the first thing them brown balm you understand the passat of the Rambam so the Rambam you know in in the in the salivation world if you don't if everything's based on the random or what i'm saying is it's not just in their world the real students of tater looked at the Rambam as the coda fire the howl of Lakota fire that put things into into real perspective as far as Jewish was concerned it's interesting just parenthetically with our ever in 1984 came out with the campaign of learning Rambam that wasn't the angle that he was coming from at least not what he said wherever's exactly the rebels push and call to learn the Rambam was to unite the Jewish people because the Rambam touches every aspect of Jewish law including those parts that aren't relevant figures we don't have yet to pay some English the Holy Temple so the rapper was coming from a different angle as far as us learning the Rambam it's not it doesn't exclude the salivation angles just two different analysis two different approaches so anyway so why am I telling you that this is all introduction to what the Rambam says about this concept of yachting valya Vaman says that this idea of allowing itself to die for a mitzvah applies to other muscles a very important person even if the Mitzvah is not one of the three mixes but it's even a rabbinic Mitzvah that's a tradition that's a novelty to say that you're obligated to allow yourself to die for a mitzvah even if it's a rabbinic Mitzvah that's a that's a very that's a big stretch and that I mom says yes you know way if the person who won't allow himself to die but and desecrate the Mitzvah is the autumn cross it was important person people will look at him and say ah if he could do it I could surely do it says that I'm that the title law that Yarra Valley over applies only to three mitzvahs and and nothing else is a regular regular person for a regular person no one's looking at him it's like you know the rabbi the deer of the rabbi the dying the Jewish judge you know the prominent person everyone looks at well it was a famous story with the to custody should AB is new one of them was the Rebbe Menachem Mendel not the COTS kid anyway took to hustle to Casa death the demon over the rim another one was the demon of Arab deals from Galicia from Poland as registered now was there was time for cash live and that Naftali eruptions and Tory eruptions and it stood in the rim another so that Naphtali eruptions was returning from cashless and he sees a student running and running and running towards him it says men the way running release them the sedative polish Colette seen on TV life stir that fool life stirred who is the Russian accent V life stir me life Steve were you running the life's terror is as a rapper he says telegraphy a rabbit a life name and an A virus I'm going to the river to pick up all the sins that you just threw into the river tussle why because for the foot food for the student the Rebbe sins are considered mitzvahs why because and he's a Rebbe okay imagine he is he's such a Sadiq who kind of big what kind of course boorish a Vedas does he have it doesn't a little slight thing is like there is so why am I saying that because the the the imperfection of a regular fellow is not a big deal but imperfection of other than Kruschev says that ambam is serious business and that's why those parenthetically another parenthetical remark those people that argue like this listen no one is perfect no one's perfect you know the person is perfect so why do you blame a rabbi why do you blame a leader why do you blame and you know a special special person give them give them some slack he's only a he's only human b-but lucifina metal-shod allah and what's the answer and what is the answer he definitely brings Chanukah to us so much master Mandela so what so same here so why why is why is Adam Kruschev blamed why because you do expect more of him this is what the Rambam says this is very important because people you know everyone to say whatever they want and fighting al-qaeda source that are of them crush you has more responsibility so if you are at of and if you are a rabbi and if you are a leader if you are asking behave and if you are some special fellow yes people can expect more of you that's that's this rapper and that ever says that ever says this explains and justifies why it says ru de cornet fog nation what's the difference in fit what why is that the saying the Alaniz him that who were the ones who led the the self sacrifice was clarinet foundation and if it wasn't clarinet lapidation it was just a meeting imagine a leader gives him his life trucker for a college particle for God Almighty so why do we say claim application said that ever says that's the reason because if it wasn't clear I never could date him it's not of them for sure but if it's not another crush of an important person you have no right to enjoy that but Yahoo we had to vote you have no right to allow yourself to be killed from it but since it's clear on their core the holy priests so that's a verdict that on the on the on the Hanukkah it's the fifth little tonight we lit the fifth candle and we know that the higher um that there was red this morning that the Sabbath they made a latke oven a latke evening and there was a special celebration on the fifth evening so why the fifth evening's there are many different reasons given but simply it's because there is a maturity of the days of Hanukkah that have passed five all the other reasons are there is is but you know it's salt and pepper let's talk about the meat itself they mean itself is that it's five days and the mayor the clay of the power of Hanukkah is most powerful beginning from tonight from the fifth and little that's that's a story the day that that you know there ever was he met sell more than three times the fifth Allah does all and it's all true but it's it's it's salt and pepper for tonight is the chaos of Hanukkah what's the crack of Hanukkah oh listen for anyone that's involved with Habad and the bondage that ever took disjunctive and really put this young thief on the map for millions of people millet Isis you say Hanukkah we were celebrating it in the camp they celebrated Hanukkah without right yes of course they celebrated Hanukkah but what Connick has become a symbol of freedom and relating to people who maybe don't have any other connection there's something very very unique that they're ever definitely no question about it accomplished in his Macias and it continues today like what he just said he went to buy the food and over there in a toccata band Aida and then the owner said stopped everyone and they made a hockey go what is just going to buy food clarified food in the springs that I Heineken why is it because that's that's what hanukkah's become it's no longer an individual's you know party where's official Ohio and then I'll tell you a little bit about [Music] and so on and so forth and eventually this is my life I'm proud to say that's my holidays and that's why I'm system you're the first one that had said to me in my entire life that had said to me that you're dedicating something to me and not only you did it but you did it publicly because I sank are these a chant this anger these three songs there were 44 other news there my counted specifically after she was crying and after which she walked up to you wanted known and I apologized and she said to her it took me it took me she says 77 years to acknowledge the fact that I'm proud that explains why the lush nation is because it answers this question that the motion masks so it's a very rich insight by the way talk to me a pointless came over to me sure whatever anyway I'll just share a few thoughts you know I'm still under the influence of jetlag coming back I have a hard time with jet lag so I came back from I'm coming back from Poland and Moscow and Moscow Moscow but I want to talk about Poland not about Moscow mint Mendel can play to tell you about Moscow he's a Russian I'm a so I'm you know my mother's opposed sorry by the way Mendel's mother taught my mother had to be Alabama chairwoman serious in 1961-62 she took my mother under the wings under her wings and she and not only my mother other women - that's a whole posture that was the beginning when the Bob which was forming it was a very special time and you know so we go back as children we were trends as children anyway I don't want right now Ava's certain it was a question they have to ask yourself why is it important a general question why is it important to know about your past why is it important to know where you come from and if you ask young people in particular most young people say it's not important what's important is to know - right that today and and further so first times think about this all day cuz in the morning they asked me to say a few words first of all we are a people of Masada of tradition he just said the Fiddler on the Roof right tradition tradition the Messiah you can't get away from the Messiah if you leave the Messiah nothing you're on your own and if you want to be on your own go on your own and people have gone on their own but we we from people we people who believe in our cause is powerful and God Almighty you know that the Titus M is moisture M is potato CMS we have a tradition and the tradition is who we are anyone who tries to take the tradition out of themselves is-is-is is on their own and listen you want to be on your own you can be on your own but remember you're stripping yourself from a little part of your XM of your essence of who you are so the mists yes you just you may already have no like have built in what I'm about to add so maybe it's redundant and I totally apologize but some people move away from you to Skype because they're there they just they're lazy and there's no effort that there's no authenticity some people as you know just came back from Europe let me talk you know okay so so so following along the tradition and the Messiah every one of us have here has a we come from somewhere it's not continents of the Congo yeah I'm here who are you I'm here what's your background where do you come from well in my case there was the chief rabbi of Russia and perilous marrying his daughter to a very good friend of mine rebel Lansky's son Sohrab Lansky asked me to come yeah classmate so you asked me to come so I said fine and I was able to stop off in Poland there of Istanbul er of the Habad had a shop at town and he asked me if I can joined the staff of rabbis that were teaching his name is show him there so so so I went there ready for Shabbos once I was there I reminded myself that my namesake my namesake is my grandfather who was murdered by the Nazis himakajima and my mother was born in in Poland in a city called a town called Makarov which is about 45 minutes outside of Warsaw of our show and my grandmother and Mendel knew all these people I'm talking about my grandmother hinder my grandmother hinder lavash alehsalaam she was from a village which is 15 minutes from markov called cross the hills so I had an extra day as I decided you know let me see if I can get to these places in addition to that I went through a place where our Rebbe is for many of us 20 Lubavitch even learnt and Lubavitch deceiver in a trusk of thoughts because a half an hour out pretty much out of Warsaw and a Trotsky's where the free to collaborate abuse of youth club the six Lubavitch whoever came and he lived there in 1935 originally came to Warsaw and stayed from 33 to 35 and Warsaw and he came to a trust in 35 the main reason he went to a thoughts there are various reasons but the main reason is because of better air it's not that it's at a higher elevation like in the Catskills it's not that way but there are a lot of trees and forests and the air pattern someone explain this to me is very unique over there in that section where it's actually a kind of a more refined air so for the rabbit was very good Trotsky was also placed for TB patients Phoebe - but the brook allowed yes in fact the the moisture hottish Kane who was a relative merit or Schneerson he had a home a group home where people were recovering from TB stayed in there and his son I believe Mendel a horror stain who was married to the youngest daughter of the fetal cadavers Shana they lived there in their birth they were sent away to Treblinka in 1942 and she never came - they never came to America anyway so uh Trotsky was somewhere where the my teachers and people alerted the Labov achiever learnt over there so it was interesting to go there to see the building the building was we thought the building was destroyed by the Nazis only five years ago a woman from san paulo brazil named named the celo Rosenfeld was in Poland research and she's a researcher historian and she came across the building or a bear 11 the main historian and librarian of Labov itch in new york was shocked to hear he thought it was destroyed wide there was own research I don't know but he can't he just what the building was destroyed and to his amazement the building stands intact and I was there this is the Akatsuki Shiva number set on 22 says spits a young skier whatever the name of the street is it's a dirt road leading in to the street the Freda could ever lived about I would say 15 20 minute walk on a street called process street number 6 processor which today is a one-sided hospital on the other side an empty field so the house doesn't stand that ever lived over there to feed the kid air burn and the yeshiva was about 15 20 minutes away on this street so to go to the Shiva was very very important for me and to go inside was even more important but how do you get inside when you have now tenants there the city owned the city of instructs called the building until about five years ago and then it was bought by a private person I heard from CeeLo that at the time when she was there there was actually a barbecue with the Sun from Miami I don't know who it is I'm trying to find out but the right I don't know yet who it is want to buy the house and give it to Habad but and they hired an aqua cop they hired a lawyer but the didn't apply because the price that was wanted was they felt too much and it never bought it and hence it does not belong to us the building still stands experts are a very large property and the backyard opens up to this beautiful forest and it was a great place for the Bufferin to meditate and to learn I mean it's beautiful trees and grass very beautiful it in Poland outside of Warsaw half an hour outside of voice that's called a tusk OTW Ock in Poland so what is what did I find in all of these places that I went to well first thing I found was that the atrocities that took place as we all know are are beyond our beyond are beyond comprehension but that wasn't my focus because if that was my focus I wouldn't make it through the first day the the the what we have today is what I found and my son-in-law yes you know I discussed it he says his experience was different but my experience I did not find anti-semitism again I was only there for a few days but my experiences I was welcomed everywhere and felt so comfortable fact warsaw is so clean it's so white I'm not joking there's no you know other denominations of all sorts where you have an Amsterdam an absurd I'm I was once on the train station I thought they would push me into tray I was surrounded by Muslims all over you know I didn't see any of that in Warsaw I didn't see any black people I didn't see I didn't see I didn't see I just saw it was very very calm clean well well I don't know I mean areas are Germans you know could be could be but but but this is the point the point is that we we went and spoke to the people in the city hall first they tell tell me I wanted my mother's records are there any records so I she says what's the name what's the year I give her information and then and then she gave the information for sister not allowed to he smile at them one way the other way had to polish people with me by starting with me and someone else a woman who works in the Cultural Center and they were cooperative we went to the city called Mucka Mucka buzzer yes which is where my mother was born I never knew we never knew my family the real birth date I don't know if it's only polish people I don't know Russian people the Hungarians are the same thing but they didn't they'd also didn't know but some of them knew but they didn't want to say for some reason so I grew up in in that type of environment and I really want to know when my mother was born i lo and behold the lady takes out a book the pages are brown and it's a book from pre-war and she says and she covered the other part of the page I shouldn't you know I can't read polish but she doesn't know that and then right there in front of me is the birth record of my mother that her parents who I'm named after came a year fourteen fourth eleven thirteen months after she was born and they documented that they had a girl Miriam's my mother's name on this in the state August 14th they think 1936 and now I have a date okay big deal big deal Mauryan was the plateless way of saying but what's the point what's the point of getting at is that you know a person a person at least talk for myself a person feels feels more complete more wholesome okay a better word in English is wholesome wholesomeness more wholesome when you see a a progression coming from here to there to here you know you see it continue so then you start wondering well what type of community was this is Michael and then you hear that eighty percent were from eighty percent five thousand people I think about seventy eighty percent were Jewish and not only that eighty percent was from so that's interesting okay was there bundes yes there were were the leadership Stern yes there were were there religious no there weren't many of them but nevertheless what about the first citizen the town oh they had to be strong groups of Hassidim I'm shunova Hassidim Aleksandr Hassidim and get her casita gorg air right they were the primary see them then cuts a little bit okay I'm sorry so so that was that was there now from there we went over to this cross officials which is a village some castor ships there was a shoe when we asked our grandmother you know what happened to her husband who I'm named after she says well the first week of the war the Germans killed him and and 50 60 70 other people so that was very interesting because they weren't doing that the first week of the war no bombing they were bombing the first mass execution of Jews was in crass the sense though was in the flute village where my grandmother was married and was raised and her husband was the victim with others of this mass September 5 or 6 1939 the war broke out went Friday September 1 five days later the SS decided to do a mass execution they put him ball into the shoulder shot him out and someone wrote up the blood was flowing etc 31 of those names are known because there's a monument down the back they did a mass grave and I believe that my grandfather is there although he's not on that mass grave names only 131 but there were 50 to 75 people killed I believe he was one of them the shul I was in there it's not a jewel it became a barn but it came a place which is storage for corn corn they you know silo thank you but I looked up and I saw all through they they fixed it up the insta inside the outside still looks like the original a part of the original a window which looks to be from the old shoe I took with me a historian a Polish a star he was an expert in cemeteries who identified by the way all the those four and those gravestones in Lubavitch which is ready you know Russia by the Risso whatever and he he's an expert in engraves and I turned around this is like 2:00 in the afternoon and I see him crying his name was Chris yes yes I had range before they have a driver and have him and it was a team three of us and we were moving we're going you know was you know I'm saying and we were just going from place to place so this guy Chris I see you crying so I say Chris what are you crying for he says look what they did to the show I wasn't crying because I was you know in working mode and I couldn't allow myself to go that way and he was taking pictures and he said look what they did to a Jewish or just interesting a guy you know but he has a sensitivity to that so so there to destruction no remnant no remnant right that mean the outside you know but the the the mass grave is not there going back to my Cove the cemetery is a paved parking lot before we used to be for buses not buses don't take off from there but I was there so you know there is mass destruction but this is a place where Eden lived and Eden thrived thrived for example I found out from the document of my grandmother's wedding that the rabbi who married her was rep Isaac yes of Silber barrack and who was this race Isaac Yosef Silverbird he was the clear em that have made dumpalot ski who's a known personality his son-in-law so stop I'm just saying that you know I never knew who was the rabbi to marry the mother and but now I know in other words to me this puts the pieces of a puzzle believe it is still there's still pieces that need to be put together but at least I'm seeing that there's a piece of puzzle coming together in other words growing up I didn't really know my grandmother she she said scam Ella from home I I believed her you know I have proof that the roof of the shul that was of massive Thomas Holcomb and a Haley the youth was masada condition officiated her marriage my grandmother's marriage so to me I come from right my mother grandmother there's a tradition there's a messiah it puts you back to a to a picture where you see that you describe that Judaism is not just you know parts it's it's it's a wholesome picture and you're in the picture and therefore you know if you get a chance to visit places like this I think it is a important thing to to take some time and especially if you're going with children or grandchildren to to have them see this because it's very powerful it's very powerful that they should know that there's a larger picture than just what there is today understandably what's here today and the future is the most important right but what you learn from history what you take from history and and and that's why people has asked me like why are you so passionate about history what you know my brother my own brother my youngest brother we've met today you know came over he said to my wife I said like why is why I am why is he so like obsessed with this trip that he went on and I'm in touch with these people of Poland then I'm gonna what's happened there and they're going to City Hall and we're trying to figure this I what you know what are you gonna get from all this you got you're gonna have more more more more years you can have what's a duck car you can have more what's what's going on unless unless you're into history you'll never understand this you'll never understand it's not fundraising what's fundraising but maybe one day be useful fundraiser to me it's not about just knowing historical facts again it is showing the continuity in the connection to a mural you know next to the Cosell right buddy right there they have that they made new display right they showed the generation so I asked when it came out at once buddy spend millions of dollars with the hi-tech and they told me that for many many people Jews and non-jews showing the continuation of the chain of Judas kind of from from from of them from our ancestors patriarchs and matriarchs till today for a lot of people this is makes a big change in their life there's another issue that I want to mention which is more for those that are inclined to the mystical part of Judaism there have been people that over the years have told me you know they feel that they have a soul from the Holocaust have you ever heard someone say that I'm not going to go into this this is a whole field in Kabbalah called trans Minds great creation of souls and repression and and repression therapy and there's a lot to talk about it but it's not for now but we do have sources in antonov and sources in kabbalah for sure that people do have souls or aspects of souls that have been from previous gil ghulam and previous incarnations so the famous story that the deficit our ever said simplest Torah 1974 that ever that year or 75 his mother's York said yeah but some heinousness and was matzah Shabbos it was 10 years from the from the day when she passed away right touching her fatal tough ceilometer hey 10 years and then I'd be called a surprise for bringing I'm sorry and if her brain was not surprised but he said he wants to wash out the fibrin that was a surprise was normally during a weekday if I written that I didn't wash yet was a messiah everyone thought that you know why he's watching because it's ten years from his mother's yolk site ten years is a significant date well at the table and they never made a see him on track they'd suka and the mother says over-the-air story with Miriam buzz Bilger this this woman was Abbas Korean she came from the Kohana family and medium bus bill girl was punished that she and her family got stale bread from the from the vase a big dose because she married out of the faith they never made a senior unquoted attractive course he did that it for every yard side his father's a mother but then he did Lucas Lucas yet that ever made a hundred and eighty degree interpretation of the Gemara that threw everyone for a loop at the far Brandon and then the two weeks after their ever setting that Miriam Baz Bilger was a holy woman because she took her shoe and she banged on the author said Lucas Lucas foxfox sandal sandal what are you doing here and she turns to God how can you allow this to happen to the Jewish people such destruction and foxes are wandering on the undie holy you know place of thee of the Temple Mount and and did it just kind of spoke positively about this lady when the demography learned that the simple meaning of the Gomorrah the Gemara speaks negatively about her and that's what she and her family were punished to get stale bread from the left I'm upon them come to the bhava chattable simplest or two weeks after this for bringin the rebus said during the for bringin they've been sending me letters settler notes and they've been asking and how can you say such interpretation in the Gemara when the demerit means to bring to how bad she is and you Labov agenda but today how she's good how she's good she's so concerned about the Jewish people this was during the for the rap oh and what yeah that you know the rebus spoke interpreted the Gemara and vuf Tishrei his mother's yard side and and and and at the simplest her of her brain which is two weeks later he said i've been getting these notes and letters complaining about the way I interpreted the Gomorrah and the revered then answered the question with the following story this is the connection to you know to souls and reincarnation and all that the rebus said that a Jew once came to the altar there but the founder of the kebab movement and the out there and he said to the out that ever rather you have to allow me and grant a divorce I want to get divorce my wife no sorry wrong story long story that's another story China which I don't want to tell I don't that's wrong story no no no not for now not for now so no what happened is so the pearl oh yeah yeah yeah the person says to yell to that but I I can't I can't handle anymore good look I can't I got got to get out of this marriage doctor never says I'm sorry try it again another few months cuz back he says read this cancer English man I can I gotta get out of this marriage affair look terrible doctor never says okay I see I see I have to really I have to tell you something he looks at him any sense there was a no because how you nervous Zechariah the Prophet is acharya Hanavi was murdered by two jews you know why because he was about to say a prophecy that if the Eden don't do chuhwa they're gonna die and the halacha is the law is that when a prophet says a prophecy prophecy good or no good it must be fulfilled that the Jewish law according to the rumba according to others - but the Rambam rules this way so these two jews got up and before he can utter the prophecy that if the Jews don't do true ver that I died they stabbed him and killed him this isn't enough oh here but he gave them a warning the game don't ya me before I don't know that that was I don't know how prophecies work I don't know I don't know how they know it okay so so that whatever says to this gentleman so they killed him they killed him because they didn't wanted to say the prophecy so that'd ever said to this person you have the neshamah of one of those fellows and and this is a chuva for you your wife Maggie you were driving you crazy is the truth afoot for that aver i reaiiy returned its you're returning to a college Berkeley 32 God Almighty in other words a petty okay this is this is you know every time she touches you it takes away a little bit of that sin from 2000 years ago yes and that ever said this as a response to the question that he was asked about Miriam bus Bilger that in other word in other word in other words and this that ever didn't say but we understood that this that media bus Bilger was 2,000 years in a gilgul came along the Bible should have been tough salaamed hey on his mother's yard site and he took her out of the gilgul how did he take her out of the Guilbeau by speaking positive she was Malamud schools and there's a mucker for it and if it keeps me at ease out as a there's a there's a source that when you speak your Mohammed's hood about someone else you turn the negative into the positive in touch of powerful things that you couldn't even take out a reincarnation okay musical break intermission hi so we knew beautiful you asked to see next week you said hook it up Oh baby singing [Music] it goes over this city that's what the deficit ash was but she did this she was almost like moister than that fish that should help the people basically killing people left and right yeah okay what happened to who's educated about sinneth us that's a shot that can be said like like this goes [Music] tipping us is the key insight into they asked us make dinner they asked they asked the never they were saying you make me see him under the under the motor say sure you know the same so that whatever was out saying this of of course you say the shock he knows the shock but he's saying what's the message there's a deeper message so it's not a contradiction no she did you dislike wrong right in a sense like these guys that killed the car you know in a sense they wanted to they wanted to save the evening they didn't want you to die yes yes yes a that's what that's what that story mom yes yes Nate and he gave down the cops close to those guys that kind of essentially it's like a horrendous right sorry about the but they prevented other you didn't from dying right correct nope yeah you should get back soup yes to Sitchin's of gave you a high in mind is gonna be actually winning Oh today we all know that's like really nice yeah we were even for taking over the darkness like the majority select happens to mean my personal life something happened lately in the last couple days thank to somebody from the member of the synagogue not gonna say his name doesn't force to be here base it's a very busy man but he find that if I can prove in it for me to in between and I call it as a miracle why I cannot the further to ever lawyer so I took a poop on a loyal it's a very nice guy he tries the bed is best capital times who you have another cup of time so many times we went to cold is sitting in the corner