Farbrengen Lag Bomor 2026: Rashbi-Torah, Ahavas Yisrael, blessings for kids, marriage - RC Dalfin

So first of all a a happy to everyone. It's a very special day today. It's special because today is the day when the author of the Zoharim, the the sage of the Talmud passed on and he left instructions that he wants his day to be what we call a hilula. Today you hear the use the word hilula celebration a festive celebration and actually so the I don't know if the first one but the writes this in desired in other words that the day of a passing usually is a morbid sad day and comes along and he says no it's a day when my when the soul ascends to a higher level each site so for several thousand years we've been we've been doing this and like I said I always say uh it's enough now it's time to celebrate the rising of the dead including Shim uh we had the great fortune some of us here h I remember came with a few other and we went to um to shim grave site in Iran in northern Israel a few days I think 3 days after the the actual yard site because we didn't want to be a stampede At the time it was a terrible mess. Uh I was there one year. Only one time in my life was I at Miron on Lad Bulmer. I had a VIP uh in there and I got pretty close to the where the the banner rebi likes the uh the the Madura the fire and there Mark there's not just a thousand or 2,000 people. They say there's 300 to 500,000 people. And it's not an it's not an exaggeration. It's it's it's an entire mountain. It's a northern. It's in a mountain. And the mountain and everything around it is just yeden celebrating. So this special day we have to a little understand is it is it's about lighting bonfires um shooting bows and arrows in the fields. the day the children go out with their teachers and they do that and having these events fine but what is what is behind the day you know in in in the kabad system of of of of looking and connecting and serving Hashem everything needs to have a logic and what is going on so I want to share a little bit of what the Reb said and what says inidas about this day log today is called lobb Omar log is 33. Today's the 33rd day of the dome. If you reverse the letters lit gimmel, you get gal gimmed. Gimlmed means a heap. Gal and also means a um revelation from the word gil reveal. >> What >> also waves? It means a wave. a wave. Okay. A heap, a wave. So the idea being to to reveal this eye the eyes metaphorically speaking of the Torah in it revealed my eyes in your Torah. What does that mean? That means there is the Tyra as we know it, the legalistic mechanical Torah. the dos and the don'ts, right? And then there is a revelation that's deeper and that requires the eyesight, the insight of looking and piercing peering deeper. Right? So g and and what does that cause? It causes g a wave, a heap, a pile, a of of revelation that through the study of the pmia, the inner dimension of which is kapola and we come to a deep we come to to a deeper and clearer understanding of hashem and his creation and everything else that's going on. And that is why on a day like on the day of it says in you must have read it those that learn it from the or otherwise that on day like today like today what do we have? We have the ability of miracles and particularly with children marriages because the secondb would go out to the field. He would not wash. It says it clearly in so there's no mitzvah to wash although plenty of people do wash and have a suda meal today and it says he took mashk in other words he said and he showered people with blessings for children and everything associated with children. So a it's important to know that you have family and friends children healthy children spiritual you know anything associated with that field of children is the day to in particular for for that for that in that's number one number two is a day in which in which we celebrate as I said what are do the Goran Shabas I believe says that as soon as he came out of hiding 13 years in the in in in the cave right what did he do he went around to see where someone is buried so that kohanim priests high priests not high priests regular priests Jewish priests which are kahanim they shouldn't go over that piece of land and earth because if they do they become spiritually impure. Right? So this idea the Reb I remember spoke about this once. He said, "We see that of Shim, you would think after he was 13 years in a ca in a cave, in in a cave, he would go to his family. He would go to his other rabbitic friends. He would, you know what I'm saying? What is the first thing he does?" The G says he he found places and he checked them TO VERIFY IF SOMEONE'S buried there. And of course he did it with his prophecy and and and holiness that he was able to detect this before they had these uh I forget what he called them. You know, you're able with the with the rods, the iron, you're able to see what's under the earth. Shiman was the first who did that. Later the did it because the Arizal is identified for us. Most of the are all because of the he said here is this person lays here and this person lays here said etc. But if Shiman 500,500 years or so before already did that that's the Gar says. So what what what's the lesson? The lesson is that you could be as holy AS says you could rely on me for to for for Hashem to answer your prayers. I mean you know what that means? It means if a ye has an issue at a problem, he it prays to Hashem visit at in in best but if not wherever else and says I'll bring your toe. I'll bring your prayers TO GOD AND YOU'LL BE ANSWERED. is um you can it's you can rely out of sh uh in a time of agony and problems and difficulties to resolve your issue by bringing it to Hashem and that's a very powerful thing and that's Why for 2,000 years all kinds of yeden from the right to the left to the center no one has an issue with everyone call it there was from Williamsburg there was a he was known as the klesbach ro I forget his last name now it will come to me ohas roas roth he was a a sapper with the the eight garments with the WITH THE COLORED PANTS and the white socks and right and it was a big big he was a pois he he he made rulings real and on on severe cases. He lived actually in Boro Park but he but he was a real satar. He was a student of Rabo Telebond Satma Revi and he had supporters and they bought him a house over there in the village over there in Iran and he would go throughout the year. There were periods he would go for a week, two or three whatever and he would sit there and learn cabala and and make his place there and then come back. So so the idea of of riv and then of course the is is universal. No one has an issue with everyone looks at as so you have to we have to know that the first thing that he did is HE WENT TO HELP ANOTHER EID THAT WAS THAT WAS the lesson the Reb took from this piece of Gur in in Shabas that although he's such a great person in you know that say he didn't have to stop to pray why because his his his his uh omnis HIS JOB 24/7 WAS LEARNING. That's that's the level he was at which is a rare rare um compliment and uh and an issue to to be at to be able to say that your um ness your job your life your your your your life uh connection to Hashem is just learning. That's a tremendous thing. Nevertheless, with all all this notwithstanding, what does do he goes and MAKE SURE THAT A SHOULD BE ABLE TO WALK from A to B. So he shouldn't become meaning he expressed he expressed a love for another Jew. The Reb that was the lesson that the Reb taught one particular year. Another thing is an interesting in Tus with the circle drawer. Everyone knows the story where the Eden didn't have rain. One year it was a drought. They came to they said pray for us that the rain come. He ded and rain came in great buckets and every drop was so large and heavy and destructive. They ran to him. They said it's not what you had in mind. So he prayed again and little little amounts came. tiny amounts which did nothing. They came a third time. He said, "You're dabbing for us and we see that your words make a difference, but for some reason it's coming either too much or too little." So he dabed the third time and then the normal measured amount of rain came and the drought was over. We find a similar story with Zadesh where the yeden needed rain. They came to Shiman at Shiman on the first crack, the first at bat you'll meet, right? We're in the baseball season. We got to talk baseball language. Anyway, so the first this first swing, he hit a home run, rain came and the gum says and the says, what did he do when they came to him? He said on the on the verse, how good, how sweet it is. How good and sweet it is THAT WE ALL SIT TOGETHER AS ONE one nation as one people. So we have a gor with that it took him three attempts and he used prayer and we have a zor that he did it in the first attempt and it came properly and but he used not prayer. It doesn't say that he prayed, but he expounded Torah, Torah teachings and ideas on this verse. So, analyzes this. I'm sure others do as well. And it explains that the the reason why it took three times and why it took one TIME IS BECAUSE USED prayer as the tool to access God's blessing whereas used Torah. What's the difference? Is mile it begins it's generated in you and it goes to Hashem well if I woke up wake up on the wrong side my prayer my is really messed up you know I have if I wake up in a great mood my is galdic my prayer is great so in other words with fela the whole idea of one two and three first second and third attempt is natural THAT'S THE NORMAL EXPECTATION OF PRAYER it wouldn't be any otherwise Yes, that's what is pray speak to HASHEM FROM YOUR HEART which is important said it before we said it again is not robotic it it's it's such a mistake I got to go into the shoe make dominion on and on yes you do but more than that you have to talk to Hashem are you talking when I'm talking to you I'M TRYING TO EXPLAIN SOMETHING TO YOU I'M TRYING TO EVOKE something in you right I want you to understand what I'm I want feedback. THAT'S CALLED CONVERSATION. THAT'S CALLED TALK. NOT I JUST READ WORDS. Even if I know what the words mean. Where's your heart? Where's your feeling? That's what feel is. That's what prayer is. And that's why prayer says Mark, it doesn't say you have to these these words. My writes in in Jewish law. believe he says biblical is to say to God help me I need help with this >> you're ding with intention >> you're ding with what >> intention >> exactly >> just not saying the word it's with intention >> yeah so like my mother of blessed memory will mention her on on a day like she was a a survivor a Holocaust survivor and then she grew up in Costa Rica where there was no Jewish force education. There was no yeshiva. There's no girls school, right? And she, you know, it was she didn't didn't have that. Gets married, has a has a kabad family. There were times, you know, she she would say to Hashem, "I'm thanking you FOR THE FOOD THAT YOU GAVE ME." Guess what? SHE DIDN'T BENCH FROM A BENCHER. SHE DIDN'T BENCH FROM A SITTER, BUT SHE SAID THOSE WORDS ACCORDING TO THE RAMBAM. SHE FULFILLED the mitzvah of I'm just saying one shouldn't be limited. Oh, I don't I don't have the prayer book. I don't know how to read Hebrew. I I don't know what it means. Okay, it's good to know all of that. It's important. But till you get there, Davin, you get up in the morning. You can't make it to shul take your film, put them on for a minute, say here, O Israel, and and pray. PRAY IN YOUR OWN WORDS. So upon him the whole idea of prayer is self-generated. So it takes three times till he got it right. Even when they came to Shim if Shim didn't use prayer, it says he USED TORAH. HE SAID TORAH ON THE verse is from above below. We don't generate THE WE'RE GIVEN THE FIVE BOOKS OF MOSES the we're given the in other words. HEY, HERE'S THE EXPLORE IT, STUDY IT. But and and guess what the says the words OF TORAH DON'T DON'T RECEIVE YOUR SPIRITUAL PURITY. YOU COULD BE THE LOWEST OF THE low Torah. YOU HAVEN'T DENTED TA AT ALL. You've dented yourself. You've made an imp you made something negative on yourself that you're not pure. You're not clean. You're messed up and all that. Okay, that's your own issue. So is not generated by us. Tyra is generated by Hashem given to us. So when you when plugs in to to to Hashem through Tyra, God is good. GOD IS RIGHT. GOD KNOWS WHAT HE'S DOING. SO ON THE FIRST SWING, HE HITS the home run. Even if he's not uh a judge or one of those sluggers, okay? or Hank Aaron or Willie Mays or Babe Ruth any ye that will learn Tyra will ac will will will swing at the first swing and accomplish the home run. Why? BECAUSE GOD IS GOD IS A HOME RUN. HASHEM IS A HOME RUN. So just that's what he did. He said on that verse. So what we understand from this is another important point in our life and as far as the fabangan is concerned. We spoke before about the virtue and the importance of davening and speaking from your heart and daving from your heart. Right? Then there is the the flip side is when we learn to sometimes we're not in a good mood. Take out a take out a Torah book. I I told my granddaughter in Tel Aviv I said you know because her school is up in Kiryakon. So, um, you know, they are having school, they're not having school, whatever. So, I said, so she's staying home and helping her mother in the Ghana in in Tel Aviv this week and all that. Wonderful. I said, take out a book and read about Lymer. Why do we have why do we go to the fields? Why do we colored eggs? Why do we have bows and arrows and why this and why that? Any book in Hebrew or English or any language, that's learning Tyra. And when you and and when you immerse yourself in Hashem's Tyra, everyone here knows the schles you out. The Tyra schles us out of our issues and problems. Then we have to internalize it. That's another thing that that's like the within Torah. The internalization of Torah comes through the prayer within Torah. BUT WE'RE NOT SPEAK RIGHT NOW. We're just speaking about the difference between Torah and FA. So that was another very important lesson that um the Reb shared over the years on now just to tell you my earliest childhood memories. Lmer the way it was in with the Reb and Kronites on Sundays. Whenever Latma came out on a Sunday, there was a parade I think beginning in 1953 or maybe even the 40s during the time the previous. Why? Because the public schools didn't have school. So, Kabad made in the early 40s release time where you're allowed to come out for an hour to study about and and Davin and all that. It was called Wednesday hour. They took him out Wednesday afternoon. one was called release time. And during the 1940s, there were like 10,000 children in the greater Brooklyn area that were learning in release time. 10,000 children and yeshiva students, you should know yi from yeshiva university and kabad of course and a few other yeshivas had their students involved in this program. There wasn't like OH THIS IS KABAD THIS IS THIS was nonsense didn't exist everyone this was something to help Jewish children were in public schools I met people in in who told me they're from today because of release time I'll never forget it I was going to hear a barrel wine his piras which was full of history that I loved I remember may have a gaden And someone stops me outside of the president's debate over and he sees I'm a he tells me you should KNOW I'M HERE BECAUSE OF RELEASE TIME. Who would know? So this release time touched many many many children. So they started I believe in the 40s already with these with these Loma parades. Then the reba took it to another level and it grew and grew. So if you know I I the first one that I remember I think is or 1980 1970 I I I believe there was a a parade each of those years. Parade meaning that everyone came on Sunday they would march. The Reb would come out. They would make a beimma and and they would and and he would encourage the marching and they had a band and then they went to the park uh down Kingston Avenue. They went to a park over there and uh I remember they gave us sandwiches and there was prizes and clowns and the parade the parade became also a universal thing. Crystal of cran heights in the 60s in the 50s and 60s was full of Eden all kinds of Eden Eden belong to conservative orthodoxidic litak berlin had its place in in Kanes you know so it was a ecumenical community and the parades all the children came many children came it was Sunday so so that so And that so subsequent to that every time LA CAME OUT ON SUNDAY there was a parade in 19 I was there in 1976. So I was there in 70 7376 uh in 1980. In 1980 it was swamped. They closed Eastern Parkway from between Brooklyn and Kingston Avenue. And I remember I was across the street cuz there were so many so many people. And I was looking and someone told me that I should look to the window in the in the house next to 770. You can see the Reb's wife. I never saw her before and I didn't see her well either now, but I saw someone standing there looking out the window. That was his rebbit. Okay. But then in the middle of the middle and the Reb would speak to the children and Rabbi JJud he would translate into English the Reb spoke Yiddish he said it's the Bentto's language and Rabb translated you know he spoke for 10 15 minutes translated he spoke for 10 15 minutes and so FOR ABOUT 45 MINUTES or so that was the extent usually of the of the talks that the Reb gave on Bulmer so IN MIDDLE HE STARTS speaking Russian And there's a video you see going, "Oh, it's like I can't transl" and he's supposed to be translating. So there were quickly there was some guys that came from Russia, Rebean here from Ocean Parkway and a few other but him in particular. And they right away translated uh the talk into into Russian. And what did the Reb say? I REMEMBER HEARING ONE WORD FROM the that night that day that I understood const constitutia constitut constitution and I heard the word over and over is a Russian velvet constitut was saying that according to the the Russian government constitution it is legal to teach ta that's what he SAID THAT WAS PART OF IT THEN I FOUND out that he spoke about this not for the labaturers in Brooklyn. What do we HAVE TO DO WITH THE RUSSIAN JEWS in in Russia? I was heard that there were agents that came to this Lima. You know, they were stupid KGB and the Reb was giving them A A MESSAGE INTO THEIR FACE that you know you're wrong in preventing Eden from learning Tyra and people ching the children Tyra and everything else. That's what I heard. Can't prove it. That's what I heard. The bottom line is that he it was like a scene to be seen, you know, like all of a SUDDEN FROM A MIC ON ON EASTERN PARKWAY. IT'S BEAUTIFUL. THE SUN, IT'S EVERYTHING. IT'S SHINING. IT'S it's it's the spring. IT'S A GORGEOUS day in Brooklyn. And the babe is speaking Russian in public. It it it was it was a real a real special gift that we had. So the in during the 80s there were a few times I think that maybe the Reba did they did have a parade not on a Sunday but primarily it it was the Sunday and what happened the first there was I don't first but there was a marching band then the police or the fire corps and then they they they came with the fire engines then behind them I think there were floats not I think floats I was on a float myself what is a float for two weeks before Bulmer, you built on a large uh truck bed which we called a float. Um different Jewish names. And one year 76 when the Reb spoke about the campaign. I believe that time they they had 10 floats to to show Muza um Saka Talbas all those things. And we the float went by. It was all the service lane. Dreba was Reba's podium was raised on this beautiful platform which had a red carpet. It mameish felt like a king is coming out to his people. It was so royal, so majestic. When that door opened for 7:70 and the Reb came out walking on the red carpet and they sang an imam. That was the song that they sang when the Rebi came on the carpet to the podium and then he spoke to Rabbi H and then he started to speak and then afterwards after his talk he stayed for several hours TILL THE ENTIRE PARADE PASSED HIM. All the floats, all the marching bands and there were clowns. It it was it was such a wonderful day. And he would go like this to the children and if he saw some older person who dressed up, I remember it was an his name was Kajitski, a very interesting man. And and he was he was heavy and he was a historian. He was a and he was a lot of fun and yet you know connected. And the Reb saw him and he was DRESSED UP LIKE A BAKER and they had made a they made an oven and he was like putting matzah into into and the Reb burst out such a smile to him cuz I was on THAT FLOAT. I THINK I WAS ON THAT I think I was on that float in the back. So when he went through, I was able to see how the Reb he's passing and he's doing he's looking at the Reba and the Reb smiled like, "Hey, you're the baker." IT WOULD IT WAS THAT TYPE of a very festive, friendly, warm uh experience. As I said, the the the the royalty and the majesty of the Reb walking on the red carpet to the PODIUM AND THEN STANDING like a soldier and you know I think in 1976 also I think Rabbi Gutnik from Australia Alman Gutnik who was a Reb there but he was also a chaplain. He came his brother-in-law was Rabbi Hera. So he came and he stood behind the reb. You could see this on pictures. He didn't budge. HALF AN HOUR AND 45 MINUTES. HE'S STANDING LIKE A ROBOT. He didn't move his head. I remember thinking, "Wow, this is a chaplain. This is an army man. This is someone who's in the NAVY IN THE ARMY, you know, with it. It it was very interesting to then they had the Elderim on one side, the Bim on the other side and and and the the the parade really um became uh a universal event. So much so that when I was sent by the Reb in 1984, my wife and I were sent to Bin County as aim. I remember we made a parade in 1985 La Bmer in Salelo Salo. Some of you have been there. It's gorgeous. It's by the water. It's across the uh San Francisco Bay, right? You have the Golden Gate Bridge separating Marin from San Francisco. And the first city is Saucelo. So I MADE A PARADE IN SAUCELO AND I TOOK the Talmura children and the families and we made and we made black signs and we marched. I'll never forget it. It was beautiful. And then we had a picnic. You know, we had a picnic. today the the the this is I'm talking about 1985. So 40 plus years ago now 40 year plus years later it's it's mamish and there are thousands and thousands of children tens of thousands that are that are celebrating. So all of this brings to mind that the importance of this day it's not finished by you it's the afternoon by mean it's the morning is a whole day if you have time say to him you may make the day useful give more sedaka if you're able to get out to join a parade or join a picnic or you know to participate to feel you're part of the bima day because otherwise there's no there's no right We dab. We go on. It's like a regular day. What do you do? So you have to make the day a day. Hom the day is a day. Make the day. Yes. >> What's the sh or the origin of the bow and arrow imagery for lad? >> Okay. That is because it says that during the lifetime of there was no rainbow, no rainbow. And the rainbow is associated with no right with the the marble that it was such a special time of holiness that there was no rainbow. So the bow the bow and the arrow. >> Good. Thanks. >> Yeah, there there's probably other reasons, but that's the reason for the whole idea of colored eggs. I never saw that. First time it was when I was 16 or 17 and my rashiva who was a survivor from VNA. He invited us once a year was to his house for a faban and his wife prepared food and we come in and we see colored eggs. You know what we were celebrating Easter? What's going on here? He said, "No, it's an old tradition from Europe to have AND EAT COLORED EGGS on La Bulmer." Again, color because of the rainbow colors. So, you know, these different traditions developed throughout the years in Kabad. Just for the record, it's important to know like with the Reb with all those years, we didn't have a bonfire. Doesn't mean you're not allowed to have one, but in our days there were I don't I don't I think even at the park I don't believe there was a bonfire in Kabad. I don't >> they didn't allow it. A lot of places didn't allow it. When I was I remember if I asked they didn't allow it either. >> Right. Okay. Yeah. But now I I'm told that the the fire departments are very happy with us Eden who uh right was so careful and was so uh efficient. I don't I assume it's that way by you guys, but here I heard in Lakewood was a thousand people in in an area there was a fire in one 123 and the fire marshall told this person who I spoke to this morning surely it's so happy so beautiful to see. So you know but but regardless the the energy of the day is a very special one. So as we as we think about if and let's not forget of course stop dying and they they die because of a punishment because they didn't respect each other and we don't want to talk much about the negative but unfortunately there is that too where people think one is better than the other and my rebi is better than yours and my r and my god and I'm better and you're better my father's stronger than your father and all that nonsense. Well, that led to uh a plague because when you're talking about regular people, okay, you know, it's not it's not good. But you know, we're regular humans, but when it comes to these sadikes, students are. So the Reb look at the Reb how he took that Gmorrah and he found justification in their mistake. And the Reb explains in a listen to this that the what does it mean? They didn't respect each other. Each one was passionate about their teachers approach. So one one student said listen my teacher is all love all love. The other one said no my teacher is all discipline. THE THIRD STUDENT SAID MY teacher is all mercy compassion. And they were so PASSIONATE THAT THEY BUTED HEAD WITH EACH OTHER. So in other words it was coming out of a great commitment to their teacher. The problem is as the Reb explained the teacher has room for love, discipline and compassion. That's why he's a teacher right to Ferris not just not just Gava but to Ferris. So the Gur says what it says and and what happened happened and when did the students stop dying on B on the 33rd on today. So it was a great simka. So that's another very important thing that we we talk about on May Hashem help us that we continue celebrating it with and and and and only spiritual things. Anyone want to say anything? Anyone? Yeah. >> Hey Rabbi, in all my years in all my years in yeshiva, I never heard about the colored eggs. It's the first time I've ever heard. >> Me neither. Well, I guess I guess I guess that's why we're we're we're fabanging, you know. We share what we what we learn. Absolutely. >> That's why we're fabanging, you know. That's that's it. Pass it on to your children and grandchildren and to others. Everyone have a great day. We're going to learn tomorrow. Happy only God. Byebye. Take care.