Every Jew has Awe for G-d, it needs to be revealed - Changing Satmar Attitudes - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

we're learning tanic M and we're chapter 42 we're on page and teaches in this chapter that I think I think we're 118 yeah I said 118 I thought you said 119 I'm sorry yeah all right anyway teaches that the basic year that we that one needs in that the Al said in chapter 41 quoting him the beginning of a and and the primary a and the root of a and we explained all those three different words in the pre in our previous I'm not going to repeat it now he sums it up in the beginning of chapter remember is calling it the lower and and he says in in to make to distinguish it from gir which is going to talk about in chapter 43 not this chapter in the next one but basically it's the same idea basically and then and then he said that who is the one who who draw who gives a a the ility to to access this it's that's found in every single so once he talk mentions that he starts explaining about what is M what is a leader the those were the last few we're now at a point where the AL says that this this giving us the ability to beer our to hasem which is the prerequisite for proper mid I think we discussed that too anyone can have mid and I said many times is not mus T is not another mus safer is not another mus safer it's this so this explains to us that there is a there's a they're the the leaders amongst the Jewish people the sikim etc etc this is where we're at now so everyone turn to 118 after the dot seven lines from the top after the word so here says in order to access the within yourself one the first thing you need to do or one thing rather one thing you need to do you have to exert your flesh BOS means you should shitz that's what b means somehow you should exert your self when it's uncomfortable both to to to to to understand Hashem to spend hours like I told you in last year when I was a b Yesa to understand the G I spent hours in learning the T the and and I wouldn't I would sit there to to make sure I got it and and challenge myself B it it it it exhausts you too so let's go further and he says [Music] so to to kind of U Splinter the body and to subjugate it so that the body does not darken on the light of the Soul we learned earlier in chapter 29 of the name of the if there is a body if there's a person that the fire of the Soul doesn't catch it catch on then what you what needs to be done someone has their uh mute please mute yourself I hear your wife or your daughter we need to split enter that goof into little pieces Al explained in chapter 29 you have to go you have to have detailed thoughts of and I want to point out to you what does it mean over here he means for example this idea of of uh doing chuva requires detailed B you can't I'm doing chuva how you doing Chua no you have to say to yourself last night yesterday I I embarrassed someone so you have to find his number and you have to make a phone call and you have to and before that you have to really mean it it shouldn't just be lip service and so in every aspect of a person's life chuva requires real chuva knowing the details otherwise it won't last it's only a temporary fleeting feeling of remorse that you have that's not real chuva and that's why by the way most times we fall right back into the type of that we did we do it again and again why I think chuva the answer is you didn't really do chuva you didn't really do chuva you know you didn't do psycho analysis just just taking that for an example not that that's the only way to do things you know did you understand the the the details of of what you did over here otherwise your remorse is not emis it's it's you know it's it's better than nothing but it's not em so that's what Al says here according chapter 29 in Tanya a piece of wood a body it doesn't catch on fire you have you you learn with everything right why is it that you're not excited why is it that you keep on doing the same foolish things because the Soul's fire is not catch ing on to your body your body is not is is rejecting it so what does the say there in the name of thees you have to do a process of maach and it's not comfortable it hurts to chop wood and Splinter wood it's hard work with an axe and you have to have muscles and you shitz and you break the wood and you chop the wood you chop yourself up okay so that's one thing which he calls Yas B now number two let's continue inside the second process necessary to be able to access the M within us he this is what we call the exertion of Soul of NE it shouldn't be difficult for you to serve Li to exert effort with your mind to deepen and to contemplate in the greatness of God one consecutive hour and I recall when when when I was in yes I was 17 or so and um my our Masia said I want you to think some before you begin daving but not more than five minutes and I remember I I was saying to myself and he reiterated it like for a long time during the fa and I said why only five minutes if I memorize something for 20 minutes and I can think it over let me do that so after I bring and I went over to one of the older B very fine B refined B and I asked him why do you think the masan said that so he said I want you to try thinking two minutes without a distracting thought in those two minutes and and if you could do that then you can think another minute but the mashia said five minutes because to be able to concentrate and focus in thought on something for just a few minutes without any other thought coming in and I'm talking about even good thoughts right that's a that's an accomplishment and here the AL says that's what the exertion of soul is the ability to focus and concentrate a great hour means an entire hour consistently says I know I know you guys I I know the average person who I'm this Tanya for I can't say You must do an hour when people can't do five minutes look what he says further this hour is not equal by all yes there is a refined Soul by its nature that as soon as it contemplates on the greatness of God it will it will accomplish the fear and dread of God it says when a person will reflect and meditate the great king the king of all Kings fills all the world stands upon the person sees his actions immediately he'll have fear of God oh really says yeah oh really for those that were given by hasem a z if you don't have you only a neish zaka a refined neish meaning to say God did not give you a refined neish he gave you a neish that has issues he gave you a soul so that neish cannot accomplish y by just thinking about God within a minute then immediately he should have y it don't work that way so this is very interesting a this is very interesting you know why because the balat is saying here why do some people why are they inspired immediately and other people takes them months and years and on and on to get inspired it could quite well be because of the neish the neish that God gave them and and and you know Yeshiva I remember when I looked around the B there was certain B that they were what we call in yish ad gab they were born refined that's the now whether has to do with their parents relationship you know their intimacy or spiritual they're not going but the bottom line is that these were you could see that they were then there were others that were more aggressive and more rough and tough and Grub and they refined themselves so that's why Dr E says here I cannot tell you that when it said when when I'm suggesting meditate reflect on this for an hour for a time period that it's equal for everyone it's not for one person the inspiration comes quicker and for the other one to come takes longer and he continues conversely there is what we call a lower NE means a more um not disgusting but a lower one B by its nature it's not that it made itself lower from on high Hashem gave this person a NE where does it come from it's carved out from the lower levels of the T of and it cannot it cannot find in its mind godliness rather with difficulty Z and with strength in other words it can come to feel God but it takes a lot of work NE so now we understand is more of the on the physical side to shatter your your body to break your body of your Comforts nees is is exerting the soul in other words in in in in in thought in meditation so it's two of but one we classifi classifies B number one says continuing says and especially if this person is such that became spiritually contaminated from the transgression called the sins of the youth nocturnal Omission wasting of seed Etc masturbation and he quotes the that those sins separate you from God so you first need to do chuva you need to do Chua for those for those of through effort and strength when the Jew will strengthen their mind with Great and Mighty strength and effort and and and great depth again repeats to delve deeply delve his mind deeply into the greatness of God again he says so now twice on the same page he says so there's a there's a there's a there's a ver theb the previous Reb where he where he says what does this mean one this day one sh this day in other words it means that he should he should dedicate time of serious focus and concentration of Chua a little bit today a little bit tomorrow Etc and that will that will make it possible for even the person who was given a lower Soul a a not such a refined soul to be able to access the mha within himself so that he could be on the right page let's continue so even such a person who has this more unrefined Soul it will it will reach him it will happen top of P top word now that that he'll have at least the that we discussed earlier in this chapter and say if a person says I tried and I found I got a result you believe him if he says I tried but I didn't succeed don't believe him if he says I didn't have to work hard in schooli I ended up at Harvard or at te I don't I don't know if we should even mention those universities today anymore but anyway hey I was a goof off in school I ran around you know you know wasting time and hanging out and I'm a big knocker I'm the gamar says don't believe him why cuz maybe he faked his degree he paid it off as we knew heard on the news the last two three four years of inside money money was given and by wealthy people and and to to give their kids degrees number two what they could have accomplished really they didn't they they they went through the process of getting their degree right and the same is true in learning someone says oh I didn't have to work hard in Yeshiva and and here I am today successful well you could have been much more successful and you could have been really a not a fake okay because between you and the mirror you know that you really aren't a you know but plenty of people know the right words and they have the right Charisma and they fake but they fake till they break okay so the gar says if you didn't the word in Gish is effort if you didn't and I succeeded all time in but let's go the first line on page if he says the person says I worked very hard Bo did I spend hours in Yeshiva or in college or in school or at work and and M she was backbreaking work it was intellectual work it was hours in the library of we have Physicians over here you know the night not sleeping I remember I had a Doctor Who Came From Brooklyn from my man to maristan to Thursday night he'd come in with a scrubs he was a resident an intern whatever you know and and and and Mish he wanted to learn so he drove from Brooklyn to maristan that's over an hour at a 10 at night came in the way he was in the hospital to learn that's called har that's called effort in other words I want to learn you know but I couldn't I can't learn I'm I'm I'm trained to be a physician so I can help people so the point is that is a truism as it says if you will search for andem like silver and diamonds you will find them then you will understand the or for God explains this just as a person the way a person searches for a diamond in the earth he's told go there you're going to find diamonds and you're going to be a rich man so there's a treasure of diamonds buried in the in the depth of the earth so the person looking for it he digs and digs and digs like our are doing digging and finding these tunnels all over you know that's the mus now comes the moral a person must dig with much effort to redeem The Treasure of fear of God that he or she has in themselves so this is a very powerful nuda where are we going to find not outside of ourselves the AL teaches us here in t in p m in chapter 42 it's in you why because you have a little M within you find that M and when you will find that Mo In Yourself by digging and working hard you will the will come out and help you in and you'll have this this that we're talking about let's continue so look that's why look at this language that's why a person must dig with much effort and look at the next word legal not to create it doesn't say to create M what does it say to reveal that means it's in you you don't got to go to China or to Buddha or to V you have it here that's hidden and and and concealed in the in the depths in the understanding of the recesses of the heart of every ye look at the says call he says every e not just a Jew who's a holy Jew is a doer a learner every single ye I don't care where he or she is and where they're at has an and this again we ask you know where doab come up with it philosophy right here is another example everyone has so they might have long hair and and and and face he tastes and smells you know and and on and on and on and he's far and he let's continue also powerful worlds word says this this Treasure of that every single Jew has in their heart transcends time and space so you can't tell me well he's a hippie A hippie he's in time and space he's a hippie but as far as a y as far as his yish kite he's pure he's galic but he's a hippie and aippi a pippy whatever you know that's only his temporary situation that's not who he is is who the is continuing and this is the natural love that's that's concealed within every within every Jew okay I got an but I how do I bring it out in order for it to come into action is hate including fearing sin don't do the sin you know hey we're doing sins we have what does that help me what does that help me we want this to make a difference in our life not to do action speech thought for that says the you have to reveal it from the hidden recesses of the heart that transcends time to bring it first of all you need to bring it into your actual mind in your mind so that you don't think about it I'm sorry that you you delve your mind into the idea that I have it doesn't come from I don't have time gotta go you have to take time to think about it until its activity will come about from the potential to the actual Mish the knew that you will be you won't do sin you'll do more good thought speech and action for because of God who looks from the word a listens pays attention understands all of your actions God knows what you're thinking what you're doing checks your kidneys and your heart in other words hey what are you doing Gaz at three things so what we understand from the since God doesn't have an image of a body contrary simply says someone who has an image of a body who's in a body can't see everything here doesn't know what we're thinking about right but hasem is not limited by an image of a body everything is revealed called go it's revealed and known ad for greater he oh the eye sees the ear hears but remember we're limited how much does the eye see as much as it see how much do the ear hear as much as it hears who's not limited by a body so the whole imagery of a body by God is just a metaphor Hashem transcends that therefore he sees everything and hears everything and knows everything so what is it about it's like similar to a person who who knows he knows with himself he knows everything that he did in one of his 248 limbs he knows if it's cold inside his body warm and even the temp temperature of his nails of his feet he feels he feels whether if he burnt a toenail and everything that happens inside the essence of a person and how he feels he knows in his mind says similar similar to this type of knowledge God knows how much more so whatever happens amongst all upper and lower creatures because all our are influenced by him everything is from you so just just we'll stop here we'll continue to Mar but just to the point being here very powerful words and very descriptive with the bat is is is is telling us like this we all have an of we all have a treasure ofay we need to reveal it and the way to and and and and the way to reveal it he's teaching us it takes Focus you're not going to find inab you know a one two three siga game doesn't work that way once in a while you'll have a seula but everything's predicated on Das Das that's the key Das so Das will will make it clear to a person when a person will take the time to focus that Hashem is Transcendental that's what he's getting at in the in the last part of what we learned today so you can't you know you can say well how how does Hashem know this and that and all the intricacies of of what I think about and what I do and then he says yeah AB ofam you would have a good question but Hashem is Hashem God is all knowing and God is Transcendental any imagery of God is not God it's your understanding of God so he wants you to think about that you know and and and and and and in other words to understand to for us to use our cup our Mo to understand that Hashem is Transcendental that requires our understanding right in there's a concept I wrote about this in my book demystifying the mystical is a concept called positive knowledge you know this is God then there this is not God this is what he's not and and in there's a lot of discussion about the two different levels of Y in other words they're both Yuda they're both levels of knowledge one is knowledge of and one is knowledge OFA what is not and Yuda rejecting what God's not is also part of Yuda so when we talk about God being transcendental we mean that God is Not is for sure I don't know who he is I don't know what he is but I also know what he's not and that itself is already a a definition and description of God the god that is not what I think he is then there's even a the greater God Transcendence and this is discussed at length in my Mor you know to I mean this is something that theab spent days and hours and years teaching and and the mas and teachers you know but but what's relevant to us and to T to a which is the trajectory of what we're learning in T is that every ye every year that means every Jew every potential B every Jew has the ability so the so so there's no such a thing as a a a lost Jew and look look now just to conclude here all the soldiers soldiers at least are united they have to win a war they the right the left the center P this out a all kinds they all have one thing coming we have to get rid of this enemy where's that coming from they weren this one was trained at am AR and D TR went to slot and this guy went to bre and this guy went to kabad and this guy went to Kon you know but when you when you touch the the when when a Jews Ence is touched all that falls aside all that falls aside so the and and the breast and the and it all goes out the window we're here for survival or better said we're here to thrive so that the that's exactly what he's talking about here Tanya so here you take a piece of this Tanya we learned today it's exactly what you are seeing now on the ground in that at least by the soldiers and not by the politicians I don't know I don't think so but by the soldiers as long as they stay focused on the mission and they don't get for m in in Nish politics it's the and the re was always focusing on that and that's why there was someone who I knew Rabbi David Hollander at at a time he was the head of the RCA back in the 50s and 60s and he was very prominent he was a good speaker was um you know but he had he was very much against the reform and conservative he wouldn't even call them rabbis he called them clergymen cuz when I when I interviewed him I said so what about this Rabbi that Rabbi he said quiet shut he says we don't call them rabbis they don't have real SM they don't believe in so he came to fais he was close to the Reba so had a certain faan he came and he was sitting behind on the days behind the re somewhere and he noticed some other clergyman who was there too when he noticed that he picked himself up and he walked out and it was noticeable to everyone that he was very disturbed the next day or two the rebba contacted him and the rebba said Rabbi Hollander AB a Hollander he came to me he didn't come to you he's coming to thean that I'm leading and RAB Hollander respect he told me this RAB Holland I said I respect I love the reab he said RAB reab I disagree with you you are giving him a platform by allowing him to be on the Bea now you think the rebel was the one who set up the Bea and who decides to sit here or sit there but he was such a k Zealot against these the reform and conserv because he's he lost his position he paid his dues because he did not concede to what the RCA wanted in 1956 and they they and they not only want they joined the synagogue Council in New York which consisted of all of the dominations had Representatives reformed conservative an orthodox and and his his RCA voted they should join and he single-handedly said absolutely no and they fired him he lost his position as the RCA president because of that so it wasn't just slip service he paid his dues for it nevertheless what is the saying to him he has you know the again saying he came to me meaning you know and also I didn't set up the place the didn't say that but I believe what the is saying what his great great grandfather Al says here you have to look at a clergyman that he has a and he has an and if he ends up coming to a bran that's a beginning it doesn't mean to say we we accept the Reba fought tooth and nail against this type of Judaism okay another F bring in in the 1980s it's online the head of the reform movement Rabbi Alexander Schindler came was brought there by my wife's uncle Rabbi herel fogman of Worcester and after faan it was one of the weekday large faans you know long fa so the re would go home and then people would wait outside at few you know for a few minutes out of respect so reab folman was waiting on the steps of 770 and the reab comes out going to his car and he sees reab folman and he turns to him with a great smile and he says means refinement of the Sparks the re was saying refinement of Sparks that Schindler who represents he's the president of of of the reformed movement and congregations agrees to come to aing now are you going to tell me that tomorrow in the morning he he he gave up he dropped all of his reformed Shas I doubt it I don't think so but the p is there and then then I tell you that I know I I knew I know two reformed rabbis one is n m and one still lives in the west east side who reject the reform after years they started to learn they started to learn T so my point is what Dr says here is EMS it's EMS in the bank not EMS in the clouds it's EMS on and we know ourselves that the is there just a matter of bringing out and the same is with all the kids today and the the youth and our grandchild children and and you know all the young people the younger people there's an there you just have to unlock it and you have to give them that ability to unlock their and that takes D if you go with pressure and in the old ways and my way is the only way otherwise it's the highway you're not getting anyway you're you're a big fool you have to be able to what does the say with the right you Embrace and bring closer and at the same time smile with the left you push aside but what's theat the one second he needs to guide the small the the the with the right you bring closer should guide the small yes he will I just wanted to share a similar story that happened with my great-grandfather the threatener rebel of Toronto okay that apparently uh the rabbi of the Holy Blossom temple in Toronto came to to hakas and and Reby danced with him much to the shagin the who gave him a hard time and his answer was what can I do I love every Jew exactly that became the that exactly exactly and and you should know that even holoc survivors after the war who were children ofid in Poland and and they you know they what they went through they a lot of them lost their faith the the the the many Rebus looked at them with tremendous AA tremendous compassion you know they didn't you know blame him Y and your beard off and your kite and youring and all that and and and this is this this is the so this P here talks about being is a very important point and again in order to do it successfully he says you have to do it through Das because that's just as important if you don't do if you don't if you don't use Das then it won't work this needs to be a focused you know deep understanding of the situation and what God is and what Aid is and and the more you understand the more you you find the the positive the positive at the same time you know if something is against hem it you have limitations that we understand so you ask right you know you know if someone if a family member like alen is marrying not a Jewish person do you go to their wedding or not you know these are serious questions and that's why we have and we have and and and and we follow the counsel and the guidance of of T and they are different Ron giving different answers we we know that so that's why you need to have a r and a community and but but but the the is that to to to see and and I could say over the last 50 60 years since the post Holocaust there's been a a mish an advancement in a positive way where more and more yeen are finding finding the sh I I had here at my door two three weeks ago a woman comes from a satmer background and uh we know one of the kids I'm not going to go into many details and they married and we were involved she did not follow in the sopur ways but she remained Orthodox she remained from so the parent comes to thank us thank my wife but she wasn't here thank us for making the sh help you make the okay and she wanted to give some money okay fine so we're talking about it and and and she makes this comment like yeah that you know that they are where they are now but um it's a NE that they had to go through this when I heard this I had to confront her in conversation I said I said that's the problem that your attitude is still it's a ne how do you expect how do you expect your kids your grandkids to embrace your way if or or theic way on that where you're coming from if you're attitud them it's a NE you know it's second best so you become the garbage cleaner okay so at least you're you know that whole attitude excuse the expression stinks it's it's so far from Hashem it's so far from God you know and and and I saw I wasn't getting through because they're trained and in a this way from this is their culture so I said do yourself a favor learn sh from she say wow I should learn sh I said yeah you learn sh you you'll start seeing things a little differently and hopefully you'll understand that this is where your kids are and that's from God and it's not a NE I didn't want to say maybe you're the ne you're the ne that you have such a warped way of thinking about your own child You Should Be Dancing the street your child marri a Jew they have a child they're they keep shabas what do you want what do you want they don't want to go in your cidic way they don't want to go that way God gave them Free Will and and and so we have a lot of work to do it's it's you know it's when we're the people are raised in a certain culture and they're indoctrinated that this is the way it is and nothing else it's it's it's very far from yish at the same time there's pride in being a and pride in being a Ben and talk about those things that that's it you know anyway enough for thees we had the faing a little bit in of my birthday so that was the fa bringing okay happy birthday thank you 5050 years old I reached 50 so now we can go further listen All I ask is for good health if you have good health you have everything amen you can dve them for Mia Hashem should bless all of us just to have good health and continue AEM have a great day I'll see everyone tomorrow Shalom byebye take care bye-bye thank you