Essence of Chasidus #12-Antidote to Strife: Find Yourself w a Holy L'Chaim not a Rishus Beer

and says i have to do it this way okay good morning we're learning here this year of uh on the essence of siddhis and again since yesterday uh the admonishment wise contacted me on the on social media so i didn't realize he was it was going to be 60 in two days so again they'll dedicate the shirt to the shim and band that mushulla shop and his children and wife and children family and grandchildren and the relatives should to have the hum a true er con comfort in a way that they'll see the greater good that comes out of the someone's passing and uh which preservatives because of mamash okay so learning now here on page 39 we're up to the toyota is that correct um yes the last thing we we learned and read the note about was this idea of that when the shield will come the uk buff k will be clicking that it will be we will pronounce it the way uh we read it meaning to say now not now the way it was in the base of mikdash so the way it wasn't the best midnight will be also the way it will be in in in in everyone's reality in everyone's life because that's the that's the guillory that will be at the time so let's go to page 37 uh it's actually 30 39 yet but typing in yeah in the second paragraph the the events in english is these events furthermore and the hebrews that we discussed three points that they're quoting the rambam uh will not only be based this already is that ebba's own writing elegamies you'll have this in all worlds question that you have to ask yourself is what's the kesha what's the connection between the what happens here that the the wolf will lie with the with the with the canvas with the sheep so there'll be some idea in in heaven in those spiritual realms that the wolf will lie with what does that mean why is that important so the idea is and this is a basic teaching in this that's important to know it's based on a shallow okay it begins before hasidahs it begins with ibushia lavi horowitz the if you want to know what is happening in heaven understand what's happening below because below is a derivative a byproduct of what's going on in heaven and and see this adds a nuance to this and says that you know why it's happening below it's because of the way it's happening above it doesn't begin it doesn't begin with our reality it begins with a supernal a holier reality and because it's this way in the holy reality it's reflected in our reality in our life this is a very important teaching why because this this this tells us and teaches us that is the key to darshan is now we hear this every day davin learn go to asadi go to a caver right so what does that amount to that is more important than the gosh the sha allah is giving insight again the way the citizens explains the shallows giving intellectual understanding to that idea because on one hand what does spirituality look this have to do with gosh meals it's two different worlds i can touch a cup i can smell i can talk i can laugh i can cry and look near it's like we said yesterday it's all spiritual it's all um gibberish remember i told you the story of the heart so until mashiach comes we don't really know what it is comes along the shalom says you might not know what what it is but you need to know that that the source the key that it's it's the luchnius and from the gospels comes from that root so if you want to understand why your foot is hurting look at the symbolic rook is the idea of feet and for example that ever writes this in letters to people who have issues with their feet it says that siddhaka giving charity giving to dukkha is the feet of man it puts you on your feet it gives you a solid base never writes to someone a letter who had severe feet issues to be marbled to really increase in the giving of sadaka in other words we we we we we find the element in the gosh me is the issue that has its counterpart in the is and we correct the is or we improve on the rookies of that issue and we'll make a difference in the dashnews so that's why when someone comes towards sajik and the tsatik says you know czechia mezuzah mezuzas check your titses uh check your fill in uh whatever and we say what what mania shemitah says what does one have to do with the other the answer is boy do they have to do with it because that's where the icar is and if you if you could hone in on the right area in your life that's associated to the issue that you're dealing with now you'll have great improvement and greater outs luck and everything else and the alterna by the way in the introduction to tanya he alludes to that he says he alludes he writes it clearly he says everyone has a a of source and tito right everyone everyone has the problem is we don't see it where is the name of ram bell entire where is the idea of avraham in the torah abram bell hi i'm dolphin where is it the answer is you look from today to tomorrow and you won't find it because we're walking in darkness because we're spiritually not sensitive not enough says something that the traitor has as well he doesn't i'm paraphrasing what he's saying he doesn't say this clearly so if you look in the introduction you're not going to find these words in the introduction he says my shirt that the toyota has an answer to everyone individually not just because generally speaking individually the answer is finding it and unlocking that key that answer and that is what dalton ebba says in his particular safer that he wrote he put an answer for all spiritual maladies that any and all will ask for eternity and you ask yourself how could that be and if you understand what delta is saying what he's saying is basically my book is a book of title and that's and that's and that's what a real book of trade is a real book of torah is the key to everything but in the spiritual so you connect to the spiritual and what does that sabe god ever do he helps you connect to the spiritual so he tells yanny you know for this issue i want you to travel to taimanin to yemen what what did i lose in yemen but asadek sees that somehow there's something in yemen that his neshama needs and when he'll deal with that issue in yemen there'll be a ticket in that issue and there'll be a opening of a flood gate and that and that and that is that that is the the the uh the greatness one of the greatnesses of sadiq who who who sees that and not not all sadie can see it and you know but those that see it see it so let's go back to the text the the ebba says here that these kids these novelties that will be during the days of meshiach aren't only in this world there's also behold in all spiritual realms there will be a hidden it will be a new gang it will be a new malachi it will be a new accident a new red law a new right let's continue because the condom so how does it work up there what's the schedule against what's the schedule and i see looks keep the schedule is in the la maza so if you're too schlepped and sedate that's the way it is up there for you if you're organized here up there it's organized too and by the way there are certain people that are great and they thrive and it's a schlepped it's a great environment and they do very well and for them it works so up there they have that type of schedule too for those that down here one second yes but those are down here that that's a balagon and they can't function well up there it's that way too yes yes sir i don't want to take away from the text so i'm going to pass it the question for when we for bring okay let me go back to the text i i have all these questions with this because time is mine is clearly a concept and a reality here but in shaman how can we even talk about a concept as man yet we talk about the summers uh getting out of uh their their punishments for shabbos we talked about the 11 months we talked about but yet we're talking about an oil that's that's the question we'll talk about it another time okay it's it's a very good question an important one but as you said not for now and um we have to we mr sham will revisit it sometime let's continue in the brackets take for example he says the time that the gaza the rabbi set for which day should be which they should be the holidays and we know in the parentheses within the brackets shabba ham name you know don't think that the reason why we enjoy a good jumptip is because we have good more time to sleep and eat and and and hang out no there's more to cephas there's more spiritual light that hashem brings into the world on a yomtif and you could get grab on to that you can connect to that de la myla so valdera similar to the to god's setting the schedule and the days of rashid holidays you know god celebrates subscribers too and the octave but who and this is this is a gazelle so look right note 46 see rosh hashanah unlike shabbos which follows as an inexplicable cycle the hebrew months are determined by besdon based on biblical sanctions since the lunar cycles 29 and half days some months must be 29 days others are 30. based on testimony of witnesses who saw the new moon the best declared that they that they rush and count that data this encounter the days for the next festival so basically for example the fiftieth of the sun rosh was always on the 13th day or the 30th day on the 30th day or the 31st day of the previous month now reconciling the 354 days of the 12 lunar months of the 365 days of the solar year created more complexity to the best depending on when the witnesses arrived to testify was empowered to add a third a third a 13th month periodically that's the leap year hence the the festivals were dependent on the actions of the human of the human court that's the proof this gemara that we that explains over here in the note is the proof that in other words a festival is a holy day and a straight is a holy day and it and when it and when is it when does it become part of the calendar based on the witnesses coming and the court determining so it's all the gospels that's that solidifies that's what it says here back to the text even the overall situation the massage of elam in all the spiritual worlds about worlds however now although after everything we said this is so colony anime all these things after godot [Music] wow it's awesome it's gevaltic it's great for us yeah all these things are only a mere glimpse from the real nikuda of mashiach what that is turn the page to 41. chapter five what's the main main point of meshiach and you need to really get this down clear because this is the theme throughout the rest of the countries we're going to use this word a lot [Music] as is known is is the active mode of soul ruach is the emotional part of soul nisham is the intellectual part of show haya is the is the will part of soul and will end pleasure and yeshida is beyond the description everyone has we every yid has all five right but what's the icar by the person that depends on the person that's why you'll find one person does best in the mode of action not a great philosopher not a great thinker not not to you know doesn't get too emotional know that when it comes to action he's the one fixing the cars and giving the rides shaming him whatever you guys you know we have here the shrine and the visas game and all the organizations but my friends that really helps us when you break down on the highway i'm free and someone comes and gives you a boost or or fixes your tire boy are you happy and no intellect it may assure him will help you on that time and some are davening at the castle it's very nice but he ain't changing your tire okay and this guy doesn't know of mayor sharon he doesn't know if anything he knows one thing uh he's in trouble i have to fix his tire i have to help my seat there's someone else who that doesn't turn him on that doesn't talk to him what talks to him is feelings heterogation crying laughing empathy sympathy that talks to him love guilt all that talks them and maybe those and those are more people who are psychotherapists social workers i don't know halo's here so we got to be careful what i say but anyway there are people who the world of empathy the world of emotions is is is a wonderful world for them and and they thrive put the same person in the world of intellect or the world of action blah they're totally blah and then you have on the shoe you're you're saying what my accountant says and then you have the shama jew who emotions it was a gift or an action say i want to understand everything and when he hears a good piece of seiko he's electric he's on fire a good argument in a tasteless a good argument in a piece of biology or chemistry or whatever that talks to him prove god existence yeah i want to debate you come on i need to any and he's and there's someone else just get i don't want any part of this i believe in hashem i'm a simple man that's it so nephesh and the shama we all have but the question is what's he kind of what's tougher right governor shepard we just finished the right that's the question you can't say he is only this type of that type no there are elements of the other of each in the other and that's by the way in a shidduch and in a relationship that's what you have to really pick up on you look at a person you look at the person and say well they're you know i'm intellectual they're emotional it's not a or you could say wait a second is there room and balance to get together although they're this way and on that way is the other element within within each enough to bring us together and that and i'm and we've all seen that there is and at times there isn't because if someone is completely dominated by one of these ideas of nephi's and the other person is dominated completely the other way then we have fire and water and we have friction and we have breakup and we have to we have not a good situation and the same as in in employer and employees and the same as with rebbies and teachers rebbies and children and in schools and yeshivas what i learned one of the things over years of writing and looking at stories individuals disagreements is you have to look deeper i'll give you a short example time is running out but frida karebe had a certain malamate his father appointed to to look after him spiritually his name was known as the i'm sure you've heard about them i read a little bit about them their heyday was in the 1930s when the students of tarvadas a group of students left her vidas and went to the malach and to the shiva that they opened and it caused a uproar in the brooklyn orthodox community and uh meant lovitz was a very special year got upset for up high moiser of vilna the rate of high moser that he may ask them to leave the yeshiva which he did he basically threw them out of yeshiva and his reasoning was that it's very nice to be so religious but you're causing that american parents don't want to send their kids to yeshiva that's a whole discussion but that was at the time talking about in the 30s this was a very real issue and i'm not saying i agree with him to tell you what what happened and the sack that he got so this same person the the father figure of the malach a real babbage with all the trimmings but with all the trimmings meant also his particular style and that's what people don't realize it's not and he gave any and he gave the previous a hard time and he accused them of reading a scholar books later there was a best thing and then the previous lab was vindicated so people look at the story and then which happened and it was a very very serious issue there's many more details i'm just making it brief or short i wrote a 40-page article in my first in my book portraits volume 1 on this if you care to look at it in great detail so what we failed to realize is the way i see it it was simply a a bad relationship between a certain type of teacher and a certain type of student cadet was a very very social outgoing fun-going type of a person he enjoyed people what we would call a people's person the malach was just the opposite to the extreme he was very stringent and very reserved and very alone and very strict now you put such a teacher to a young 17 15 16 70 year old young man teenager who happens to be at saddix and his son the shidduch is it's not a great one and i'm just i'm just saying the way it looks to me so of course there's going to be issues so if it's not you know i'm accusing you of a scholar why did you wipe your nose a certain way why are you sitting a certain way you know there's always something to that they'll find because they have a certain mahala a certain approach and you the social type of student have a different approach and this is what happens many times in the classroom so the intelligent thing is if there's a choice to find the right type of teacher for the right type of student or one second or as we learned to the countries if the educator wants to really be not just a teacher but an educator as he teaches us in that context then work with that student and find within yourself ways of accepting that student and understanding that student is not you and therefore if you want to succeed with him or her you have to work with them and not just impose your approach on them yes you're innocent and then the father of the liberals picked got the teacher my last name you know i i knew that question was coming um look repeat the question knew the characters of the teacher and he's done seemed to be like he so again um if i may say so i think somebody will say what i'm going to say is blasphemy but uh you know me i i i i don't i don't shy away from from controversial issues i think that ever ashab i think that ebert ashab had an element more like the malach than the previous senator if you if you read his exidus and and and the secrets about it it was very intense as well in a different way but he was also very intense so i think he found commonality with a person like the malach and he he wanted that for his son because he felt that model was the best model oh oh maybe or maybe you weren't done maybe what i didn't hear you maybe what could someone say what he said what he wanted bad balance he wanted what he wanted to bring balance to the malla i don't know because he started yeah okay okay okay i can accept i can accept that as a as a position yeah it makes sense but why why did i mention it and then we'll finish with this because we talk here about he says he married it to princess elio meaning that the primary the kuda of david is action right and you see the throughout he's a man of action eli yahoo the announcement of mashiach knows the emotional the announcement that claire schaefer elio maisha is neshama maisha brings us the title represents soul sharma the first man is higher because it's the willpower and pleasure power that's deep that's more deeply seated than man and who is man or the maritime that that represents the idea of haya which is the idea of russia in other words here this cover none of the four had as their primary operating mode yeshida who will have as their primary operating mode and and and this is look at the word yisuke you see the rebbe used the word what's the word yisker merit because this comes from on high this you can't buy at sears a robot and you can't buy it in in h m or wherever else this comes from the abrasive to the person so yes so is the implication what you're saying is that uh kaya was part of the paneemia sticking nature of adam marie shone outside of like the human body the human uh existence it became a marquis rather than a fanime oh that yes that was very very well said there is such language excuses yes what you just said but but we need to you know really articulate it much more but that's the nakuta yes that what was plenius became consignous yes i just want to go back to something you mentioned a little while ago okay regarding and i and i must have been i didn't totally catch it but you said something to the effect of people let's say when they have a different show when they have a different you know distortion um yeah could cause you know like sparks to fly like so but but me i've always i mean obviously we we have no idea like how we don't we we weren't born with like uh with like in the shama meter you know like like like like a detection system you know our spouse you know where we know it where are they coming from you know like um or someone to work with et cetera et cetera i just wanted to bring us back to for a second just a question of like what do we what do we do with that i mean um well it's it's a good good point the first thing is do we realize it are we sensitive to it that that's the and and before that you can't go further first you have to become sensitive to that to become aware that that's a possibility so what i what i quoted a few weeks ago from the arizona sibling rivalry you have a brother you have a sister you start you're sitting on your couch tomorrow shabbos a few days shabbos and you remind yourself you know we fought and we had this and that and now you don't have such a great relationship what's going on we come from the same mother and father they were loving parents what's going on or you know is it our parents who created this situation and you're sitting and you're thinking you know yeah this house says an amazing thing says that you know why they're sibling rivalries sometimes because they both are sucking from the same cherish on the spiritual aids high end tree and each one wants more nourishment and it expresses itself in the fact that they are jealous of each other so number one if you understand this and number two or number one or two you believe it right because you have to believe that because no one can show it to you like this that kailey said okay so at the end of the day it's a munda and if you believe in in the arizona's words and you understand what he's saying and it makes sense and you have a you gravitate towards that then you'll start looking at your sibling that you are in a fight with or not in good terms with in a different way it doesn't yet mean you're going to be best brothers and sisters and best friends but at least you'll be able to start understanding uh you know that there's something spiritual over here happening and then you will position yourself in a different way and i think that's very practical because it can bring such solace and such openness and such acceptance and such more happiness to a person who's been living with you know anger and disappointment and and guilt whatever for so many years yes my shirt for example so you supposition oneself in a different way what would be an example of that i'm not jealous anymore that he has so much money and i have so little money i'm not jealous anymore that he's my parents uh what's the world word we used to use in yeshiva um uh not uh abraham no tattletail uh you know uh like a pet a pet a pet it's just pets yeah yeah a pet you know he gets he or she gets whatever they want parents gave him everything me they made me work hard silverstone yeah so maisha the there are results from from these things now again in therapy here we can tell you and we all know that you come to a certain cognitive decision about something you'll behave differently and and it will ease up tension right but here we're talking about that the cause of it is the understanding that spiritually your neshama is is coming from a different place now so you know i just speaking to another friend who has like three four brothers and just was telling me a little about his brothers and i found it fascinating same parents together wholesome successful four different sons four different how does that happen so of course you could say it happens just by nature you know the world he decides to be the lawyer and he starts with the doctor and he starts to be the the businessman and the accountant and the rabbi and the bob but a scholar and it's a lot deeper it's a lot deeper so this is this this idea is another example here this is not really the topic of the mimer here but but i thought it was important to to touch upon it because it's so it is relevant it is relevant now at the same time i i do want to just say because i don't want we should walk away with and i told you the story i was in florida once said giving a lecture at the big school on collins avenue rubble's kashu and i spoke about uh first and second marriages based on the arizona and i noticed someone stormed out right i after minsk i went over to him i said i'm sorry if i insulted you what happened he says yeah i was very upset i just got married a week ago are you talking about second marriages it's a sensitive issue you have to be sensitized you have to be on the in in the rook is the commode so someone will say has an argument with his wife or the wife or the husband they'll say oh that's because you come from the nephews you come from [Music] that can only be when there's you know you're glued together you're one then you can you could you could take this and make of it a an understanding where something practical but if not best is to not go that direction because it can lead to a lot of problems in other words if we'll we'll start and that's much i think also what you're what you're asking and saying is like you know most of us are not are not uh you know into these things so and the answer is you're right i just said i just said that if if a person wants and needs to to go this approach it could be therapeutic that ever writes this to someone that who lost a daughter and it's a very unusual answer that ever dave usually didn't get his answer that ever basically said i know the people were talking about that ever said your daughter was taken and it was heir of pesach there was mom-ish no shiver so the mother wrote to them and said it's bad enough that my i lost my daughter but they don't have a time to mourn for my daughter you know that ever wrote debbie wrote citing her name of this daughter it's obvious from from what the way god made it happen that she didn't need shiva for her neshama to have tikkun and wholesomeness and to be in the right place [Music] now that's a very hard thing to accept but she reached out to the number so that ebba opened up the door into the shum over here of herself and her daughter and everything else and shared it with her and i saw over the last 30 years the positive result from this answer of the nebula i saw it on the street i saw it in action it's not just you know in up here i saw it the playo mamish so for some people these things are tremendously helpful and for others you have to stay away because it it again it's very uncomfortable it's very could be make a lot of trouble and and it can hurt things so it depends on the individual heaven will get back to these things on monday mr shem have a great shabbos and make it and make sure you have the shabbos your lechayan not the richest beer bye