Endurance: It's most powerful in communication - Igeres HaKodesh 15c- Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so we're learning the 15th letter in the fourth section of Tes and we [Music] are um we are on page with the AL yesterday we learned he explained the first of the three spos as I said yesterday some of you weren't here this is the chapter in Tanya which explains the spos yesterday he explained what and are and now he's going to explain the rest of the spherus I want to get right to it bottom of page and um it's the the last word on the fourth line from the bottom it's the acronym let's go good morning where's that beautiful yamak of yours H I didn't see [Music] it when the effluence comes to fruition this means M at the very time when the effluence is taking place one needs to take advice how should this affluence come into fruition how it should Express itself but in a manner in which the recipient can handle it to receive the affluence and it gives a mus he gives a parable for example someone desires to to to share words of wisdom Turn the Page to page two top of 244 he wants to teach this to his children to his son if he will share it with his son all of it the way it is the way he understands it the way the father understands it in his mind the son will not be able to comprehend it and to receive it because it's too overwhelming intellectually should please mute yourself rather the father must organize it in a different order in a different format each word the words in its particular way m m a little at time you can't overwhelm your son you can't overwhelm your student and I got a secret for you guys you can't overwhelm your wife says the AL this is advice iser who's giving this advice your faculty of your Nish has an advice button and if the order in which you communicate the SE is proper the advice button will light up and say wait a sir no no no no it's too much hash it's too overwhelming find other ways how to say the same thing I hear this from my wonderful wife always find other ways how to say the same thing that's what we're talking about here let's continue says the this idea that I'm sharing with you this this advice it's called Splendor n is endurance Victory and SPL and acknowledgement they are the kidneys they're analogous to the kidneys and the kidneys one of the functions advice comes from the kidneys I don't know how we'll ask later the scientists but the kidneys are the part of the human anatomy that gives advice lends itself to advice so the AL now explains right spoke yesterday about now he goes to the middle set I'm sorry the last set and soon is going to get to the others so and are both the advice within the within the human being now says another point about them they are the two he uses a a very graphic anat anatomic uh Parable they are the the two testicles that L liter simply speaking cook uh whatever that means again I am not doctor I don't know but it means that kind of uh haera the semen the semen coming from the brain of the father is in a sense I don't know digested cooked consumed baked in the in the in the testicles and the testicles somehow um take this drop of semen with all of its potency and make it sensible is there uh would you mind explaining this or you don't have an explanation what does this mean how is that in the physical anatomy of a of of of of of a male um good question um in fact the fact that the the tesses are outside of the body and contained within the sack of the scrotum is to keep them cool because it destroys the Zera if the temperature is too high so I don't have an explanation I've heard by the by the Cleo by the kidneys that when people talk about I feel it in my kishkas it's the the the that's the advice of the of the Cote that are in that area of the body that give a person intuition but but I can't explain the the the B the B no but not even the okay the B but even the claws you telling me that you understand in in in the physical Anatomy the act the kidneys give advice I never heard of thing I mean I mean I I heard about it no no in in common usage so people say I I I I I'm not talk I'm not right I'm not talking about in common use talking about into the anatomy no although the kidneys filter all of the blood but uh you you have to go into some deep drush that out okay be that as it may this is what it says let's continue he refers to this the drop of semen that comes from the brain of the father like we learned in chapter two of the first section of words of wisdom and intellect which is drawn from the intellect of the father it shouldn't be drawn in a way that is very refined intellect as it stands in the father's brain it should change partially from the refinement and of the of the intellectual State that's by the father and it will and it should create a type of intellect that's not so refined why for the purpose of the son to be able to comprehend and to to receive and comprehend with his intellect this intellect this idea that the father is sharing with him this is the parable the mus now comes the no I'm sorry Dr says this is mish it's Mish says M it's like this the drop of semen that descends from the brain in the in the brackets it's very very thin is gasa and it becomes materialized kind of more coarse moreal betain B in the in the kidneys and the two testicles so this is a second idea of the mus that the AL says that we see that the two testicles I is referring to in this case in other words each testicle refers to another another faculty which is called okay you know you go you tell this to someone who's unfamiliar with this they'll think you're you're cracked up you're out of your mind you don't understand you're talking about testicles the human anatomy and and talking about holy spher yes this is the system of Caba to use and employ wording and sometimes the and the wording involves the human anatomy but it it refers to a whole spiritual idea that's what he's doing over here let's continue means grinding called like the grinding tools they grind Mana for the righteous just as someone who who grinds wheat with a grinder the grinder it it it grinds the wheat the the the to very small and thin parts so the father must minimize I his intellect and his words of wisdom when he wants to when he's wanting to communicate to his son an idea and to divide him into many small parts and to tell him this and to give him the information a little at a time don't overwhelm him with advice and and and and intelligence you know as MOA and I have discussed on our on our roots to and from the airport of fale the importance of communicating to young people the same ideas but in a way that they can grasp it and handle it and I remember without mentioning who but some you know popular speakers today when they were in Yesa in Los Angeles with me I wanted to you know bring them to a little more ofite andad and Torah and all that what did I do I said let's go out to see the LA Dodgers believe me I had no no interest in the LA Dodgers I was a New York Met fan in my youth so but that was the baseball the team that the Anaheim you know the the Angels were further away in in Anaheim the dodes a little closer I think in Downtown LA or were originally from Brooklyn so you went back yeah I know but that's before my time they they were they left in' 64 and uh I I'm not that old of an A A gizer I'm not I'm a gizer but not that old of a gizer anyway manasha who was a very young guy maybe he he was from New Jersey I think so maybe he he probably followed the Dodgers either the Yankees or the Dodgers but anyway back to to the Tanya here the point being that if you want to communicate a a sophisticated idea to someone who doesn't have that level of intelligence yet because of there it's still not developed you have to minimize it you have to be mocked in it who gives you the intelligence how to do that the cles the kidneys the they are the kind of the calming fact and they they to you they say Hey you have this this beautiful idea but just saying it the way it is M it's going to overwhelm them they're not they're not vessels for this you know they're interested in whatever kids are interested in today right so here we're going to use intelligence of how to communicate the same idea using other words other ideas other ways but the underlying point is to bring them to the higher place not to get stuck and they should remain with the lower level no no the point is for them to see that within this minimization there is sophistication and on their own as they will develop IM mature they'll say I want more and that's the way if we think back to our own youth in in in high school and in college that's the way we develop and we grow and hopefully we have right teachers and so much the depends on the teachers and professors which we all know about unfortunately many times they themselves are good I don't want to use the vernacular but they're good messed up you know they're messed up I mean I met some professors that were at Berkeley when I was in Marine County from Brooklyn Jews Geniuses you know wearing uh you know short pants because the flood the floods there's a flood there's no's flood happening in Berkeley California cuz they still are living in the in the past right but what they were teaching was opic courses was heresy you know and and I tried dialoguing and I it's Lo unfortunately and and and and this was true in Brooklyn College in the 1930s and 40s I heard this from people who tadash students became non-religious the Tas mosha was the traditional Orthodoxy is Shiva that most boys went to students went to and then they went went to night college and many of them left observing Judaism because of their professors in particular one Professor who was a Bible critic so he with his with his brains refuted um you know the the the basic belief in creationism and they went came out as aurum I heard this from someone who his contemporary friends in taradas in the 30s were plagued by this so you know when we talk about he talks about a father and a son we talk about a father who's plugged in the right way not a father who's messed up in his brain and he's going to uh subtly or maybe not subtly uh you know share heresy heresy with his kids and guess what still happening today in different ways the extremism that that you guys know about all around you down there in your part Bish over there and all of that it's in a it's the same thing in a different form in the name of of T the name of kidas you know uh preaching to to to to throw rocks and and beat people up and and burn cars and all of that why because I'm holding the flag it's the same idea the same idea I mean I think I told you one of my daughters met someone lovely gentleman and my daughter was at that time you know in a in the mode of an upgrade in her own connection on a higher level she was Fran all but you know and this gentleman had it but he told her she told her that she would like to you know have an instrument to teach the children at home and he said his mashia told him that they that that's not good and he wouldn't allow it in the house so she never saw him again it's like we're not talking about some kind of you know you know vulgar instrument that's going to play you know rock and roll with with sexual inuendos and words and Concepts we're talking about or whatever no you know so it's across the board where the the teacher the Father the rebi takes the liberty of giving information but the CL by him or her is messed up the advice button is really messed up cuz the advice button is of extreme or heretical or you know antithetical or um apathy you know whatever whatever it is in other words teachers and parents inject themselves into their students and kids and and it it it's it's it's it's almost by osmosis it's like automatic you know and what we're learning today is the importance of the CL push the advice button stop ask yourself wait a second is this good and what what does my advice button say so number one right away when you stop and you calm down that itself is very soothing it's like you're on the basketball court and it's you know it's 96 998 and the nickers and and the Celtics are it's it's the play It's the the game decides who goes into the playoffs and all of a sudden the guy's dribbling down he's about he goes time out why you telling me time out I'm about to got to calm down for a second cuz you could maybe do that and then bounce something and be F be called by a foul and you lose the game right that that moment when it it counts there's that moment that it counts that CL y are so relevant and it's hard when you're in the throws in a passionate throw um it's it's very hard to stop yourself that's what the AL is saying that Hashem has given us that ability CU we have those kidneys and those kidneys are able to to to bring um advice and healthy advice how to filter the information that's so wonderful and special to the recipient and this is true in every aspect of life it's true in everything it's how you say things you know you send out an email you send out a WhatsApp you send out a text I know I know I know that I'm guilty sometimes I don't you know it's so fast we're such a fast move write and then you regret what you wrote and you didn't realize what you wrote or how you wrote right if you were to take a stop and just think a little bit how to say the same thing to remove a certain word to put in another word to couch it this way to present it this way the one reading it takes in whole different way in a positive way so I'm I'm just elabor I was elaborating a little bit because to explain to you that what the AL is saying here isn't just like sky in the pie in the sky you know it's it's very very practical the importance of accessing let's continue please okay he [Music] says um now he says another another another aspect of victory of it's to be Victorious and to stand up to to anything that seeks to prevent the effluence and the teaching that will Comm that will be communicated to your son from inside and outside you know sometimes say I'm going to share this with my kid I'm going to share this with my friend with my student with my spouse and then something comes and says don't do it and and they and they start throwing curveballs like I like saying questions and doubting you and you get all fished and says that's when comes into play is endurance you see so it's it's an interesting balance on one hand you have to be thoughtful how to communicate on the other hand don't allow don't allow yourself to be stopped from sharing the influence if you believe you have a special message a good message an important message for your kid for your grandkid for for for your student for your spouse and you say it like a mench not like a Vaya not like a wild animal you know a lunatic but like a mench don't allow anything to prevent you from doing that and use your n use M use your your your power of endurance and victory to overcome and I think we've discussed that too in different things that is KES came up over the years you know there's a time to to sit back and there's a time when you stand up it you know it yes there is a time to stand up that's what makes our religion and our and and and and US proper not just to sit back and and let everything you know let everyone step on you no and the says that every needs to have a a a a certain amount of ego why because that's holy ego it's not bad ego it's holy ego but if you let everything you know go by and you know then it's it's it's it's meaningless let's continue and what would be considered says a prevention of the information from the inside you need to strengthen yourself to oppose the attribute of contraction and Min and limitation that's within the father himself where the father arouses judge judgement severity over his son to say other words this guy's not suitable the guy was in jail 10 times he's a lost cause so I've tried helping him 65 times and he does it again and again and again right so there is that feeling so Dr says sometimes you have to overcome that feeling and he says so all this is aspects of now we're moving on to the number nth SPH the number ninth amination called is is similar this is the concept of binding oneself the father connects he binds his mind to the mind of his son when he learns with him when he does so through his love and willingness you see look you could learn with someone your own son your own daughter but your heart's not into it of course you love your kid right but nevertheless during the learning it's not palpable it's not felt and this I I've seen and I probably you've seen it's it's very real even our own grandkids kids grandkids I I find this to be very true because we're not focused so we'll say something to a kid or a grandkid and the kid and grandkid they see you're not into it it's it's lip service you know yeah of course I'm your grandkid Dr says here his you want to know what one second H one second I see you're asking hisk to to bind yourself to connect yourself requires that while you're connecting and studying with with your son your daughter your grandson Etc the the love and interest rone should be felt at that very time that's what he said look what he says he says look at the words he wants his son to understand and without this even if the son would have heard the same things um from his father's mouth skip the brackets on top of page he wouldn't understand it as well as he does now why because the Father the teacher because the father binds himself to the son he speaks them face to face not through the phone be with tremendous love and how do you say and desire and the son feels that the father wants him very much that the son should understand the content that he's communicating and the greater the father's desire and pleasure he has in giving over this information so is the information and this the learning of Greater the son can understand more the father gives more because because of the element of desire and pleasure that's now taking place in this communication it adds it increases and heightens the mind experience in the broadening of the Mind to give this infu affluence and teach his son yes H yeah I I just um I wanted it jumped out of me we jumped from Nets up to without talking about H very good very in in the lessons in Tanya and he makes the he also makes the point um uh that there's some kind of a uh that there was some kind of a note from the Reby that there was seemingly a a um a a gap in the text because also the phrase that he had been talking about before uh where it says uh that he had been talking about um he only talked about he didn't talk about you see I have such a gal student I can't get away with anything he caught me I'm aware I'm aware of it and if we have time I was going not today um but I guess now that you caught me I have to get into it so it'll be one of the next few future sh um but yes the Reba points that out which is as you just said correct he doesn't seem to explain hold and he doesn't explain and I believe the explanation is is that they go together but uh we'll talk about it in in with hashem's help in one of the next shooting but I'm very very happy that you uh caught me have a good day everyone zun love you all take care byebye