Effort is Key - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so we're learning Tanya chapter 15. we're in middle of page on page Huff Alice let me uh briefly recap point that the balotagna makes over here and it's a central point in Yiddish kite in Judaism but it has the the flavor of hasidus in in traditional yugoskites in traditional tolerant learning the idea of effort and diligence in in study is the the number one issue that creates what the the Jewish Terror World calls a terror scholar we have seen and we see and we will see people with very very good heads and the lots of knowledge great memory but they aren't the top Scholars the top town of the Jewish people and the reason is because they aren't they weren't and aren't as diligent as those who who are are diligent and put in Greater effort and hence no mortada know how to explain it better and eventually become the leaders so the idea of effort intelligence diligence is a key element um Hillel could you please uh mute yourself so this idea is a truism for for Judaism for Tata there's no there's no hidden adds to that except except when one is studies the Jewish psyche and that's what the altebra does here in Tanya he studies not only judicycle the the non-jewor psyche the world psyche he he looks to understand man from the inside who he calls the true man the true person the real person this is what Tanya is a study of and this is what makes Tanya just for a moment so unique in comparison to most other swarm including where in a very mythological organized concise warm intellectual way he gives you an insight into yourself that's very rich and very important so here in chapter 15 and Patrick explained to us the five categories the two types of the show you and the two types of sadikem and the bainini you would think he's already done his job and he can go to sleep no he has more to say about the beginning and what he says here is that this vanity that I've lauded and she told you and taught you that you can become if you only want to be a pain in the requires the element of effort of avoida and ever since the balotanya wrote this and taught this this has become the Mainstay in the philosophy of Chabad and do not allow anyone and anything to tell you otherwise so regardless of what you see on the street than in habachul or Chabad house which is all very nice and very good and has value who is the founder of this movement it's all about avoida it's how the banana knee within his avoid the within his prototype needs to exert a fight and if he doesn't exert avoida he's a lacking bathing he's a missing beneley he is kind of a crippled beneley if I may say so this is this is astonishing because here you have Abram a person who doesn't commit at a transgression a sin in thought in speech in action right what more what more could you want from a person and I repeat again what what the what club would say and say hello if only I could reach the level of abandoning comes along Dalton ever says here even if you reach the level of being a knee and you're careful in makshava deeper of mice and thought speech in action but if it comes easy to you for whatever reason you're not a true vanity are you a Russia definitely not if you're not committing a sin and thought speech in action as far as the grade you're going to get in heaven when they're going to give you your card and say come in or don't come in you're going to be able to go in because you're a good boy and it's not that it was it you know it took work to become a good boy right and you and you worked yourself out where although you have an urge which is different than the topic that we've discussed that Sadiq has eliminated the urge you have an urge but you control your urge comes down to them in chapter 15 and says that even if you control your urgent myself but it's natural for you either because you were born that way or you were raised in the community and therefore you adopted those customs and traditions and it impacts your lifestyle and your behavior then you're not working what what I take from this is the importance the necessity not the leisure the necessity of the struggle and struggle doesn't mean that I have to be poor and downtrodden low self-esteem no no no right what does it say when you take a a skin and the skin is thick and smelly you have to be my Abed you have to refine it you have to work on it a Tannery the tanning the Tannery avoid the means to refine your tough thick skin and guess what when you learn cinders and you learn more sins and you learn most of this at the end of the day something rubs off something rubs off okay and I'm not talking about something rubbing off I put on now instead of one pair it's filling two pairs of two once again that's practical myself I'm talking about inside you look at yourself differently you look at other people differently your values become more spiritual more Godly more Titanic and it changes many things in your in your life and ultimately you're healthier and better this is what the altered in a nutshell to accomplish in chapter 15 and Tanya Pedic test wolf and he does this by introducing apocic or shaft is you are to reflect and see the difference between the righteous one and the wicked one between the servant of God and the non-servant four different terms and the question that that that he asks is why four terms seemingly if you're righteous you're a servant of a God if you're Wicked you're not I'm non-servant but since the first mentions four terms obviously the four different terms and therefore he says the first term Sadiq does not equal servant of God ove de leukemi says refers to the banana the one who is evade he presently works I'm serving God and Russia the second of the four terms the wicked one does not equal someone who he calls in the verse a non-servant a Russia is someone who does an uh Act that's against God hence he's a Russia the fourth term in the verse is not referring to a wicked person I promise referring to abandon me but there's one type of banging that we call active servant and God of God and there's another servant that we call lawyer what is that explains this is someone for example he uses a few examples who is a mass mid Billy he's diligent in his learning he loves to learn instead of playing sports and doing this going to movies or he loves to learn it's his pastime right a mask who whose nature is that way and that's his comfort zone it's not only for they look cute is it doing that a favor of course not he's not in Russia say that he's an avid he's presently working it's it's he has to break through no for him he gets pleasure out of sitting and reading books of Tyra then you know doing other things the other example he gives oh and he says why is that because by Nature his nature is what we call mother the bitter goal there's the mother of Vena the happy goal and there's the bit ago that's why some people are always happy if they're you know not talking about people who pretend to be happy but there's some people by Nature they're very happy people and very fun people and laughing and smiling and all that and everything that they they they they come in touch with even if it's something difficult and and not great then they they they turn it around they take it in a lightheaded way modern lavena foreign he walks around with his nose down everything is [Music] like a gloomy rainy day the sun's out now here in Brooklyn it's gonna be 70 degrees it's a spring day it's the week of Swiss should be happy no rain in the forecast it's not 95 like in some places right say isn't it good it ain't good he's always I don't want to say you know he's always means he's always grouchy and Moody and it's always no good he sees in everything he sees it's a problem it's no good foreign because that's the again sometimes people who are not that way make themselves that way but really in essence they're not that way the famous uh one of the famous thought that a line that comes to me is the rabbit said oh the I think this is what they say the neighbor said my father-in-law the reviews was a Broken Man his health wasn't well he lived through Stalin he lived through the Holocaust a lot you know so outwardly he he seemed to be down and broken and all that the river said that was outwardly but inside he was a very happy person and he was in learning his my mother and his secrets and putting and looking at it the free the correct was a very jolly person a vet he was always you know like a socialite you know a holy socialite the rep on the other hand outwardly he he he he was more you know on on the happy side meaning to say he would always smile and make a joke and be humorous whatever and he said but inside he has a lot of not pain you know he he you know he deals with with things you know inside you know everyone can understand when you don't have children you don't have to be a scientist to sign a rocket scientist to know but you don't have children it's very painful I'm just saying just as an example and so many times what you see on the outside is not what you get on the inside but I'm not talking about that right now I'm talking about what you see on the outside is the is what you see on the outside is always there's never a good day he always finds issues and complaints and and is negative a negative person is a positive person is a mother living I'm giving a general difference this person who enjoys learning moisture to the point where he'll learn and learn to learn and learn rather than eat and sleep till just and play golf and play sports and do music learning right it could be it's because his Nature's mother his nature is like to himself and all that a loner right so his learning is not coming because he refined himself and it was difficult for him to learn and he turned around and transformed himself and now he sits and learns as much as he can so every time he sits down to learn he breaks his nature he shatters convention that's an avid Elohim although he's doing everything right but it's natural the next example the balatonya gives on page called follow towards the beginning of the page is someone who has no milhama he has no war that he wages when he sees women a normal man according to hazal when a man sees a woman they are aroused on some level okay this fellow is a cold fish you put him in front of the prettiest women and all that and he's not fathomed he's not bothered and he's not aroused at all sexually you know I'm not talking about you know imp you know acting on that uh feeling but just the the arousal and this guy is not that way why it's Dr never says because he's mitsoina he's called it is nature and you have such people it's hard to imagine but there are such people and I'm not talking about people who've already experienced you know intimacy and all that we're talking about someone let's say he didn't and and you know I remember when the the Supreme Court elected Clark Clarence Thomas I think was Clint it was Clarence Thomas no no no no it was this judge I forget his name from Boston Robert Bork no not Robert Bork he he only served a very short time he was a small guy he was a Harvard and graduate he never married he he was in the court for a little while just in the last 20 years and I remember reading that the suspicion was was that he was gay what was the Super it was gay because here he's living I think he might have lived with his mother and it was like you know he's such a genius what I'm saying is that in other words again maybe he was gay I don't know but but the point is that right away we go to an accusation babies the type of person that women and all those things don't don't talk to him he has no interest although the Morales Prague writes that kosher she is yamsov that it's difficult to pair people you know marriage wise like the splitting of the Red Sea I was told this by the option of a rebel when I saw him 20 25 years ago in by the gun so I was talking to him I have many girls I'm talking about different things so this he told me this so I give him the credit so he told me that yams of King he says the nature according to them around the nature is that man and woman male and female should be attracted to each other that's that's the way God created the general nature of the human species yeah and the difficulty is the difficulty is to pair to pair them up but not the difficulty is that they don't want to be with each other they want to be with each other now you got to find the right ones the right you know is a to A A to B and all that so anyway but then there but but there is a situation which possible a person is but soon in the deeply it's not that ever says here this person who's around women let's say he's working in an office and there's women floating to the right and the left and whether so much residious or not and it it makes no difference to him if it's truly that way it's because he's a mature he's cold-blooded in this area it's count right so the outrama says do I credit such a person for not being aroused not acting and all that he says no no no and again you have to you have to you have to Define this of course he gets credit for not acting with women you know but if but inside you know is he really working on himself no it's just natural for him for that person so these were two examples the beltonia gave to explain the what abandon me that's an over that it came is and is not that's what we learned um last week and now let's go to the middle of page it's it's about 10 12 lines down the after it says if there's a a diamond period that's pretty big and the word the follows pain and so too much now someone who is Not By Nature a diligent type of student in his studies so you would think this person when this person does exert himself or herself to study they're abandoning us a servant that's working the struggling says the altareba but in this scenario that I'm bringing rakshi here again this person has trained himself to be diligent and it becomes pedagalloy becomes a routine to the point where it becomes what we call Avi tevashani second nature so true initially it's not his nature but he works and works and becomes so comfortable in his own skin moisture that now it becomes second nature to him is this a bang a knee that's considered Elohim no Zoo it's enough for this individual to arouse what we just what he mentioned earlier a latent hidden love in your heart for God so in other words someone who has made study of Taylor his second nature and all of a sudden feels non-interested in studying he kicks back into into the recesses of his heart which is in love with God and therefore it's God's Torah and he starts learning you don't need much effort you just need a kickback a flashback to the Alamos of Terrace to the hidden natural love that you have in your heart how unless this person who's become it's become second nature alien Kane all right yes if he desires to learn more than what he's accustomed to and he learns more than what he's accustomed to then he's an over the little kid so say you have your sharing and whatever else you're learning but it's like natural now I have my abusa like you haven't told me you have cabusas this time and that time very nice but if you don't feel every time you go to learn that you're it's you don't want to do this and you're breaking yourself to do it because it's the right thing to do and when I and and the good and when Hashem wants of you you're a bait you could be obeying any but not an even little kid you're not abating me that's a servant of God because it's become second nature for you and this explains joining many of other questions and this is over that you've asked over you know and about different people in the front community even if it's not natural to them but become second nature whether it's because they're parents or their Community or their family or their wife or their husband it doesn't get mean that you're an ovied you're a great person believe me you're not you're doing the right thing and I'll advise we should all do the right thing but what we're looking for and Tanya is much more the timing is not satisfied with being a nice boy the Tanya wants work and this is what we're looking for in this chapter are you really working so you say I'm working because it's not natural hey wait a minute okay but did it become natural second nature and if it did you're not working again but this wasn't the way I was born I know that I know that but you've been living this way for so long and you're comfortable your skin and it's your habit now it's Teva Shaney but it's a Teva second nature an adopted nature not a genetic nature but it's become your nature so you're not really working with this doubt that ever says will understand the famous I believe in Massachusetts who is a servant of Elohim of God [Music] someone who learns the same piece of Torah 101 times the gamada says and who is considered a non-servant of God I know this refers to Mission someone that learns gamara only 100 times what's the differentiation between 100 or 101 times right the question is why does the glamora call someone who learns it one more time 101 times versus 100 times this is because he is considered the 101 is considered or even the location and the other one's considered non-servant explains this is based on what we're teaching this chapter it says be sure it's because shall be your man during the time of the talmud the Gomorrah oh yeah the tradition was from youth everything you learn you learn it 100 times an example muscle from a Marketplace of donkeys Chinese Garden that are rented asset policy for ten it's a figure 10 party bezuzah betrayed and and and and if if they're used for one more extra Percy one of distance one donkey goes a certain distance the other one goes one more distant amount and what's the charge two zuzi double the amount now wait a minute does that make sense if you go eaten Posse it's costs only one zoos you go 11 one more it costs you double the amount what's the reason midnight what it's like gasoline why it was in Chicago what the characters in Chicago yeah okay say it's because the 101st time and the extra mile is different than what you're trained and accustomed to so because you're breaking your nature you get full credit in this case cost you one more you know the equivalent of all the ten right the 10 you know or or or someone who learns 100 one time when the custom was moisha only to study it 100 times in other words to study that extra 100 of first time is breaking your nature it took so much to learn that one extra time and this is so true this is true in life when we become comfortable with something we could do it in our sleep right right for example Ashley would say three times a day well if you say it 30 40 years 20 30 40 years after a while you memorize it now go and stop yourself from saying gosh straight by heart and look back at the sitter and read the ashtray in your sinner lots of us have that problem no we just could say it in our pajamas asleep no safe when you sit there it's hard I'm not used to it ah that's where you get credit so this is such an important lesson I'll stop here and we'll continue to monitorship that and you see when you learn this why should you know what you walk away with one thing is that whatever I do the little bit that I do if I do it with effort and diligence I'm greater than the great pain in me who's like a Prof a perfectionist foreign because it could be that guy and and it is comfortable in the skin it's a big deal for me to break a habit is so difficult and I break that habit you get more credit for Breaking the Habit one time than the guy who doesn't break the habit and does and does what he's supposed to always now of course to walk away saying therefore I'm greater you know that's not the point you know if God knows what's great and not great that's not the point the point is that we should we should really think twice by our about ourselves and about others especially family close people friends not to be judgmental because when you're judgmental of others and believe me with judgmental most of the time lots of the time you know various degrees of being judgmental you never know what's difficult I I remind myself I might have shared this with you my father-in-law the Blessed memory he was in 770 once Shabbos the week they meant weekday and a father came in with a lot of children and they were making a lot of noise and you know this beignet who started to say shh and look at the father like you know father-in-law after a few seconds you know turned around and said to someone rather than saying why don't you help him at home with his family with with his children you think he wants to bring his children to shul to make noise obviously he can't leave them at home so instead of going out of your skin and going over to his house and volunteering to to help you say and so so here you are governing in the show you're doing the right thing you're doing the right thing but right away you judgmental of the other person you're basically blaming them for bringing the children to Shula making a noise where you you're not going through his difficulties at home and you don't have and you're not even putting a finger to making it easy for him so it could be that his overcoming a struggle and bring the children to shul and is greater than your Dominic again is that an excuse there should be noise and all that I'm not saying that there's an excuse but there needs to be a sensitivity and this is a a very practical outcome from today's year that we all take with us have a great day and we'll see everyone tomorrow Mr Shem Shalom bye foreign