Ecstasy and practicality: reconciling them - yearning vs settled love - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so we'll conclude today in mem chapter 50 in Tanya as we're getting close to the end of the first section in t I'm I'm I'm amazed that we've we've come so so far we we've it's it's really amazing I didn't think that I didn't think when we started that we would actually get here because you know a lot of the concept are difficult and and uh I didn't think you know people would appreciate uh you know some of the necessary explanations but hasem uh has been a great response yesterday I got on YouTube you could take a look at it yesterday I um I don't know who it wrote me but someone who has been following the sequence of the Tanya chapters online and and he wrote a a very very warm uh you know comment if you would like to see it you can go on to my YouTube channel but going back to the Tanya we're at the point where the AL introduced to us a very interesting idea the idea is like this on one hand a ye a Jew should work on developing their abem their love for God to a point where all they want is hasem they don't want the material they don't want the physical as good as it may be and as holy as it may be the desired objective of chapter 50 in Tanya is what we call CL excision of the Soul expiring of the soul and like I told you yesterday you know it's hard to to even imagine this although we talk about it and we have support in the and I'll share that with you in a moment nevertheless to be able to say that I really know what it means to have it's difficult for me to say that but does say it and if he says it he's saying it to us otherwise why is he putting it in Tanya and as we explained yesterday several practical examples of implementing a CL Hanish like feeling so I'm not going to repeat that today but what what what what does need more clarity and that's what D is about to explain now is the following if the object if the objective is to have k neish it contradicts what what the what he himself brought in chapter 36 that the purpose is to make a home for God on Earth so this is the question how do you reconcile the two and and that's what the she is about today and the answer is with the famous gar I believe it's Ina theor says four rabbis four sages went into pares pares is a Vineyard meaning Garden of Eden a a very holy place out of body likee place okay with the sensation and the feeling there was spirituality godliness and the the four individuals benazzi was one of of them three out of the four had a negative experience there either they flipped out or they died they couldn't tolerate the intensity of the experience I told you that story with the ribit when he came to the with mavid he said I can't go here I'm scared to go here I'm not going here and mor had to convince him and so he convinced them to come um during the nine days when he would do at the if he was in he did like others um so that was the loophole for get to get the ribba there but why did he not want to come there he said it's too intense another story is the holy bbba who lived on number 61 in t Aviv I've been there I walked the streets I've been there you can go go there yourself to do some praying in the in the same building with the Holy reab the sadic the Rabon of bells RAB Ro and his Gabby was a Jew by the name the Fogle I think and he told over many things that he the rebi he saw or was told by the Reb one of the things was that when the Reb would travel to because he had Yesa in you know onas Yesa still stands and that's where he actually passed away way he told his Gabi don't leave my house don't leave my Sho or my house stay there so he said rebba why he says it's dangerous the world might end now I don't understand it I don't think you understand it but that's what he said these are people who are living on a different reality of Consciousness and they sense something and for some reason remaining in the house while he's out of the house keeps the world going now I say this because here we're talking about this idea of if your heart yearns for God return Retreat and as as we said what's the purpose of going into Paradise three of them couldn't handle it and they and and they had negative experience RAB AKA it says shom he went into Paradise in a peaceful way and he came out one out of four succeeded and the rebba has a fascinating insight and the rebba says you know why he was the one that was able to come out peacefully because when he went in he didn't go in with the purpose of flipping out of leaving Shalom he went in to create shalom shalom means you take two opposites and you bring him together on Earth so if your intent in the closa neish is to experience it but at the same time to re same time to rebound to bounce back and to have it experienced here then you will come out bom peacefully and that is the explanation here in Tanya as well right of course a Jew can have this Ava of of of this Ava of intensity of clish of gold of gur everything that we've been learning all these this entire week if you work on it you can somehow get a glimpse of it but you must always remember the purpose of going up is to come back down and it's like the heart and the lungs it has to keep on pumping always constantly the question is why why okay if this is the purpose why not do it just once God should bring our soul into the world and as we learned we'll learn soon the Mish says in by force you're alive on Earth even though you don't want to come here you rather be with souls and Angels Hashem says no no no I want AR Feer tole from to the Reba to New York with son with the boys and to have a great experience right why sit home basking you know in the Rays of and noem says you're forced you got to go you got to travel at the same time what is the end of the P say you don't want to die but you have to die sometime you have to go back into the Earth what's the concept the concept is you have to you have to yearn and long and desire and come back down and re-experience and it's constantly it's constantly happening it's not a onetime thing cuz if it's a one-time thing we could close up shop after the first time we've done it and Goodbye Charlie no and this is a fantastic phenomenal teaching of it's but really spends a lot of time on it yearn and return long and Retreat right it's so true in life a a person needs to take time to feel Elation to feel that they really they just want to be with Hashem they they just want to you know just be in the moment with God that is so I'll use a a word that's not so popular a cathartic experience it's really a cathar a catharticism it's a feeling it doesn't have to be S it can be today as you're walking down the street right now you can stop for a moment and just close your eyes or not close your eyes and just block out and just say look I I'm I'm so thankful to Hashem that I'm able to walk that I'm able to be n that I'm able to have a family that I'm able to have a relationship and and on and on and on and if you if you really mean it and you can mean it of every one of us it can lead a person to just be in love with God and that means not in love with gmas the two don't go together it's it's it's a mistake that many people make and we make it as well that you can have what they call the Best of Both Worlds like I told you when I came to open the Kyo and I met a gentleman fine gentleman with a beautiful Villa and everything else and and he's speaking English to me comes from Brooklyn and I say what what or whatever New Jersey forget now he says what what are you like why are you here and his answer to me was if I can have the best of both worlds why shouldn't I now on one hand it's a good point right on the other hand it it doesn't mean you have to live in poverty the rebit teaches us that that's not the that's not the approach and it doesn't mean you have to you know Cry Your Heart Out day and night and because we're in Gus which we are but but the point is what is your Mand what is your focal point is your focal point hasra kadus or gmas and and believe me it it this issue can be a big contradiction even in the rest of situations it can be a contradiction because it's not about you know whether I can make my Shear or not make my Shear I mean that too but it really is something very deep inside a person especially now let's say with the War I am sure there are people in N maybe maybe some of you I don't know that have had second thoughts why am I living here my daughter in Tel Aviv has an International Community do you know and and and her school she made an international preschool barem and half of them picked thems up because they have the money bar hasem and they went back to England to South Africa to America now they hope that they'll come back you know when the war ends and things calm down and I'm not criticizing but it's like when it's convenient I'm an AR Ro when it's not not convenient I'm not there right and it's not for me to make thein about someone else it's wrong but it's for every person to make their own and this is the r of this is a r of you really love is then put your mouth where your put your money where your mouth is put your body where your money is and go out and and fight the enemy and stick it out and Yeah and run into a hiding place when there's a siren you know and and talk is cheap action is where it's at so the AL in discussing this idea the first thing we need to know what we have in order to access it and then use it we need to know what we have teaches us constantly what we have and what he says is we have an to like f fiery Ava inside yourself and nothing can stop you if you want to go in that direction but remember don't remain there because if you remain there and you forget about everything else and everyone else it's also not the objective it's like the the B Aron right M of R why did they die so what are the different explanation one of them is that they had such a I think says this I think they had such a yearning and longing for God when they went into the the the mikdash they didn't want the Mish they didn't want to come out I don't want to come out I just want to be there there godliness right but wait a minute you have a family you have people no so what happened what happened mesu they died they died Why by yes right that's what I'm talking about why because this is not the purpose at the same time is the purpose to have a good day and a party and just you know live it up no so so what's the purpose the purp purpose is to be on earth be in this world and to experience Ecstasy of God within the greatest of the gmas we find that I always give the example look laav how these you know priests and Buddhas and all these all this mishas and whatever even not mishas other religions what's the highest thing is to be celibate what's the highest Thing by us for two people including the greatest of rabbis to have a wife and unite and and procreate to the point where gar says that the students hid in the room to see how the rabbi was having relations with his wife so he could learn for himself how to how to do it in the most holy way how do you like that a gamorra and the gamorra is not a disgusting you know magazine the gamar is Holy what is the gamar teaching us that the the ultimate is not to be celibate the ultimate is not to vacate the ultimate is to experience in the intimacy the most holy feelings of Holiness and that's hard everyone knows but that's the a that's what that's what the Tanya is saying here so that's a summary as we now will learn inside the last few lines of the chapter on page I Alf Tanya chapter 50 we are on the fourth line aai then when you have this tremendous feeling of ecstasy and love for God and you desire to be with God and forget about everything else at that time make your heart pay attention be attentive my to the saying of the Sages you're forced to live it's a Miss where the in the physical body to enen it so that you draw down eternal life from the Living God through the living Torah and to make a dwelling place for is for the oness of God in a revealed way we said earlier in as it says in the Holy you want to create one to one that the the concealed un should be revealed Friday night so you add this to the car experience come my beloved what are we doing who is the come towards the towards the Jews meaning we need to bring the god the to the Kal towards the kala because if the dii is AI is a beloved one but has no connection to the kala it's not a real Union so the AL uses this to explain that we need to take all of those feelings of uniting AEM in the most powerful way in a way that's revealed right here by the Kal on Earth this will also explain the other half of the statement of he doesn't even say that doesn't want to say so he says Etc that what's the idea if a person says I'll okay God you want me on Earth you don't want me to be with angels I'm going to come but if you're sending me here let me enjoy myself hands off get away from me let me party says the you have to pass on meaning what does that mean you have to give up the goshas you have to sacrif rice the Comforts for Hashem that's the concept of Mace the Ella and and rather what is God's Will has explained elsewhere at length ends the chapter with the help of God it's not easy to do this it's not easy to com to to to to come as soon as you come to a point where you want to just be with God and flip back and say no no no no no I have to be here on Earth so that's why Al says God when hasem sees that this is your your intent and purpose Hashem will assist you and he does he does he does I I always say that if we are in the moment and we're conscious of it and and we and we unclutter you know we have to unclutter many years 30 40 50 60 70 years of stuff baggage we're carrying around you have to say to yourself today is a new day I'm uncluttering then you'll have