Drinking Responsibly, Bobov & Rimonv, Litvaks, Youthful Love - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

okay so good day today is yud and U it's tin sest and we're in middle of T the second section but in the he calls it and we're on page 150 please go to um the second column on the left hand column of 150 we we started yesterday but we'll we'll repeat those those lines as well it's about seven lines from the beginning of the second column now is explaining the second type of AA love for Hashem that every person uh can attain it's not just for sikim and the connection to the to his overall principle we'll see a little later in the chap in the hak so let's read it inside and the second type of it's a type of a love that every person that every person can attain it how when the individual when the person will meditate well from the depth of his heart he will meditate on things that arouse the love like I told you yesterday if you don't meditate on the proper things you're not arousing love for God what those things are we're going to see in a moment and that will arouse a love and says this meditation on these issues will make a general impact but there CL is general and that is here he begins the first the first meditation which we learned about we learned this in chapter 43 and 44 he says is our actual life and just as a person loves his own life a person wants to live so a will have love for when he will meditate and make his heart pay [Music] attention that a God is a Jew's true nees true Soul and's actual life it says in the Holy Z on the verse Hashem says I put myself she my soul desires you in other words since a Jew's Nish is God CU hasem put himself into as we learned earlier in Tanya chapter 2 that every has so we actually have a part of hasem within ourselves therefore therefore I desire you I love for you in a spiritual sense in a holy sense what's is saying here is saying here that this type of AA is clout you see the words after the period when he starts this thought he says why is this love called because the idea of wanting to live is something that every person every human being that that's sane and normal wants to have right it's just a matter of waking up and realizing God you're my life you give me life we're here today at this year because we woke up who gave us back on so therefore this is a cloud this isn't this isn't yet details intricate details which is going to get to soon so this is a but but you have to meditate you have to be MB on this thought if you don't take the time to think about that that hem is our love because he gives us our life and I'm alive just because of him you're not going to have any feeling of a to hasem so therefore you have to meditate you have to be but these the content the of these B over here is that now he continues then he says there's another type of meditation that's necessary but this he calls already a specific one and and and what is that and he says when a person will reflect and understand hashem's greatness in a specific way not just in general way God I'm alive because of you that's a very general thought no but how am I alive why am I alive for who am alive that's called Prat that's specific that's that's details okay so we have a gener a generalization of of meditation that involves a generalization I'm alive and thank you for keeping me alive and making me alive then then we have details within life how I'm alive this situation that situation that's he continues he says every person with their own intelligence will come to a certain conclusion how specifically God keeps me alive in other words we're all here right now here's the question where did we get here where did we start where did we travel how did we what did we do there's no two of us alike over here that can say I know exactly my story is exactly is story is exactly like mishas it doesn't work that way you might have met that an arbor at University very very nice but you know mha had his background when he was a child is had yours therefore there's no two alike doesn't it doesn't exist remember that cloud it's one of the surv important survival and thriving methods of a person to continue on is you are not dispensable every person is indispensable but I look alike I feel alike the guy can do the same thing no he can't so says it over here what I just said using his words that the meditation in a specific way bring it brings forward nuances and differences that excite you but doesn't excite someone else the idea of the meditation that God is our life and I'm thankful that here what's the difference we and and and a and myself every one of us right we we will we're all thankful we're here and we just have to wake up and realize every day to give thanks to that's a generality there's no differences but then you talk about another type of meditation which is very important his b it's called in the terminology of he B and what does say it is it says he says every person can feel the words my intellectual realization is not yours and yours is not mine every one of us has a different c a different brain a different amount of intelligence a different application of how we use our says fine that's why it's why you understand that's why it's individualized it's custom made to you no two people think alike I mean sometimes we use that aphorism oh you know we think alike but the truth is we don't think alike you're not a clone there's no cloning over here every person is an individual with a specific uniqueness and that's why every time you have a chance you meet someone embrace them embrace them because they offer something other than you wow in sh this morning you know they the Alias went today's a fast day $25 they sold the Alias and then for so the got you know the thei was given to someone who comes into sh and he looks you know he he he looks you know broken and and I don't know who bought it I have a hunch who bought the alas and he could have taken himself the Aliyah okay no he chose to give the Aliyah to a Jew who you know he he feels he wants to exalt him Elevate him give him a boost because he walks around like he's broken okay so now when when you meet this type of ye and this type of ye on the street in the store in SHO Embrace everyone because everyone has something unique remember I used to tell you in the early days of the shabas where at in the morning now right so 20 25 years ago sometimes I'd be there 1 two in the morning cuz for whatever reason I fell asleep and then they have my till 3 in the morning I've told you all this I don't want to repeat it at that time they still allowed what I call the characters to come into Sho you know now theyve M they've basically done it you know I don't want to use that Nazi slogan y Mak you know but like they they cleaned up they cleaned up you know no sleeping in the shol and Ne some of those people passed away it's a diff it's a different there's no one to talk to at 2 3 in the morning getmore and the board some of which live in flat Bush but their parents lived in borrow Park you know are go to the third floor yeah you got to go to the third floor even there there there may be a little easier on the third floor where you can lay down a few pie chairs and sleep but what's my nuda what's my point what I found fascinating is besides being so humbled and be so thankful to Hashem you know and and is the idea of really seeing the the yisha people and the yisha people are all kinds it's always was that way it's always going to be that way it's like you wonder when Messiah comes and it says everyone will be healthy and well you know you you mean to say uh you know some of these characters are not going to be characters anymore the answer is they'll be characters within their realm anyway I I don't want to beay the point because again we're going go on the tangent but in the says here is and that's what I mean the individual the let's continue and and he says so not only does every individual have a brain capacity to understand what they can understand but also you know there are things that are that transcend is the English word they go beyond the logic well guess what every one of us relates to that also very differently for example Faith amuna right amuna is a Mak Amun is you know is a generality right you can't say my nose my nose has one type of auna my eyes have another type of auna no Amun Amun if you have a every part has a is a right so sh there are things that are above logic that you believe you don't have a way of grasping it with your mind right try try try to grasp what happened October 7th yeah yeah um you could blame him and her and this and that but at the end of the day if we cannot understand and feel and say that it came from Hashem we better go back to grade school with our amuna and it's not about better it's not about threatening everything comes from God everything from hasem now can we make you know changes in the sense of more or less yeah say you know through it's all true but at the end of the dayish the God is the one in control so this idea of also depends on your SE ability on your individualistic ability one person has more faith one person has less faith one person will seek to justify and explain what happened with logical explanations and one person will say you know stop with all this it doesn't make any sense this was a Gaza or whatever whatever you want to call it God Hashem wanted this to be I don't know why right we had a holocaust who knows why anyone knows why anyone knows why you know is in deep trouble cuz if if you know why why did you stop it you couldn't stop it last time you wern't born or you weren so stop it next time you couldn't stop it October 7th either and you couldn't stop it in 1492 when there was a Spanish Inquisition and you couldn't stop it in 1910 when they put rums in in in New in Romania over there I forget now the city no so kishna kishna 1910 or 1919 whatever so the nuda is the the individual plays an important role our individuality and I'm pointing this out because you know many people have an issue with Judaism with TAA because at the end of the day if it's all hasem and we're all supposed to listen to hm where's my individuality that you know the famous issued question where is my individuality where is AEM and T give a person a a real place for their own individuality and the alter says here he does because even your amuna how much amuna do you have and how much of the amuna is is is relevant and practical in your life depends on you depends on your individuality who you are let's continue now and he says and afterwards he B so so far he told us two types of meditations number one which is General then he says a which is the idea of um a person using their SE to understand and and both every aspect of God and he says's great love for us that descended to Egypt the shamefulness of the earth to take our souls out of the the the the kind the Ironclad the the the the problems of which is the the negative forces and why did he do that to bring us closer to him and to make us clear and attach ourselves to to's name and and his name one look what words exalted us he elevated us from the ultimate of loneliness go to top of page 8 I involve right and column Thea he elevated us from this loneliness the ultimate and contamination spiritual contamination and where did hasem take us not just one level higher Yi but boom he takes us from the filth and the schutz and he picks us up he brings us out to the the great has no end so when we realize this this is by the way chapter 46 in t we learned this in chapter 46 when we realize that remember cited the verse like the face of water reflects back on water then every person who meditates will have this love will meditate on this the depths of his to love with a mighty love attach with heart and soul as we will explain again not with but proving that the AL wanted to write publish this but for whatever reason he didn't as we've spoken about at length but mimus and other places in Tanya which is over here referring to chapter 46 so these are the two things says this these these two these two or three types of meditations is within the human being's capacity and ability to attain the first is abundant love like you said in chapter 43 which it's automatic and it's it's a gift it's right and this is one that we generate and create through his bonness says this regarding this second AA not the first one desired to plant it within the heart of every Jew in the it says what does God ask of you and so the answer is God asks you to be meditate on these ideas there's another there is in heaven he desired your ancestors and therefore you had the circumcision with 70 Souls it's all in the over there with 70 Souls we descended into Etc and you love regarding this the second type of a says the AL hasem says I command you regarding the first AA you can't say I command you you can't you can't command someone to be a sadic you can't command someone to have an experience which we call not not as he spoke about earlier so what do you mean I command you and number two what is what does it mean to command love love either you have it in your heart and you don't have it you the feel you don't says you're right regarding the first came that higher level you cannot say I command you and you can't say You must love but regarding the second one you can you know why cuz the command is not under love the command is under meditation so when a person says gives you the excuse I don't feel it I don't I you know just I just don't feel putting on F in the morning I don't feel anything I'm like a stone the answer is learn and meditate you're right you don't feel I can't no one God can't command you to feel you don't turn off Force the water comes out but if you put the pipes the right pipes in and you set up the whole situation which would be in the moral you learn the right material and two you meditate on the material you contemplate and like I told you yesterday you don't rush then you will have the right type of forcd with the water and then the result will be a love let's look inside this is what we call a love that's made in the heart it's created in the heart through the by meditating and reflecting and concentrating on on on Concepts that arouse the love and this is what commanded us already commanded us early in the these are the words I command you today on your heart why is there instruction to meditate on these things in order to have a develop love very clearly says I'm not talking about the first type of a the second the language is applicable he repeats to make your heart pay attention and your mind pay attention by reflecting on things that arouse the a but regarding the first level of love that we spoke about next left hand column which is a flame that flickers automatically you can't say command and the word command CL that's what we call a reward for to have a taste of what it's like and what will be in the world to come while have this taste remember it's only a taste they have it while they're here they get a taste of upon which the verse says the says the service of the of the gifts I give to the explain in it place now here comes with a very interesting thought and he says that even sadik surely B that have this first level this gift that they give him they have ups and downs and this my my friends is a very important concept because we've see it you know sometimes you hear a story about a sadic having a depression or this or that I would say it falls into this category let's look what Al said it's known in other words it's known to those that Know You Gotta Be You gota you got to be in touch with the spiritual realities you know the verse says seven times the sadic will fall and get up specifically a person who's called a walker and not some not someone who just stands in static at one place one has to go con from level to level not to be only on one level between each level before he gets to the higher level he that is considered falling right you have to climb the level seven seven ladders Seven Levels before you get to the higher level you already fall from the previous level now what is this concept briefly the says the says when he came when when when he wanted to learn he had to fast some had to fast 100 fasts why because in order to learn get a sh me he had to forget that's a p what does that mean you had to forget you're not all to forget explains there different explanations explains that in order to go into an experience a level that is transcended way different not just a little more a little less a different category you can't bring with you what you know from before CU it's a contradiction right you can't when can you say listen to this when can you say that the that the first step AIDS the second step when there's a um an association a yakas in Hebrew is the word there's a yakas between the two so you first here then you go up and you go up and gradually but if you're going from one level to the next level and the other level is Way Beyond you you have to do a cold turkey act okay you got to stop cold turkey whether it be smoking drinking or GAA and the Raam says it what does the Raam say the the normal way is the the middle way but if you have an acute spiritual illness or character flaw you have to go to an extreme until you get back to the middle had to learn there's no right if you says it's in darkness what's darkness meaning there's questions back and forth challenges issues Shi is you look into you see the whole Shak of the style is not there because the light and the energy of of of and all that is clear how I how I would be that way but anyway anyway compared to B he he he wants to learn you to Shi he has to do something drastic he has to forget B what does it mean he has to forget the DNA of the B approach if he goes about learning your a shi in with the B brains he's never going to learn youri properly he never will identify with youri and this is such a powerful thought in in our lives when one seeks to really attain something that's completely different a different category you can't come in with the same boots and pants it doesn't work and the same brains and the same heart you have to make what we call in Psychology a paradigm shift in your own mind you say that what what was till now is like a different world for whatever reason I had to go through that you have to you have to change your your thinking that it's a new situation and really work on living that way and thinking that way the AL says here this is what explains this in order for a to get to a another higher level he had to first kind of lose his lower level to appreciate the higher level because the alos byad are ble are infinite so he's going from one level of infinity another level it's not like going one step up to the other step it's two different experiences two different categories says the AL give me a second give me a second says there's another part to the end of the verse when he falls from the first level going to the second it won't be removed completely and this is also very important in other words as much as we say there has to be a forgetting of the first level but not that the first level doesn't exist anymore there always needs there won't be removal of it complet so why do we call it a a downfall a falling if you compare it to the higher level we're talking about sadik so the fall of aad is the fall of a sadik is the high for us like the story what they told you with the the of and the other sadic I forget now he's coming back from Tash and he says where you running to he says Reb I'm running to pick up your Aus the Aus of the re is the MIT of the so I'm running to get them for me they're they're they're mites it's same idea over here then the the of the for us is is mitz but for the it's an A so that's why he's saying because nevertheless not withstanding these type of NE that the has he's still way above the average person with his service to because he still has a Remnant left from his first sadic level right seven 1 2 3 four so when he's on level four and there's some the he wants to go to level five he level four still has some some remnant that makes an impact on him however look what he says says you know what sustains that sadic did not give up you imagine this is a sadic who's living with a this Bliss and this kadus and then thead why shouldn't he give up says he doesn't give up because of the a that he had in his youth meaning before he became a sadic what a thought look further it's because of the that he had from his youth before he became that's why it says even when he'll be older that you love even when he will older the question was why not the answer is because this AA of the youth I.E the generated meditative AA that we spoke about the a shus that's what he's calling now the AA of the youth will even keep the will always be a constant and this is the point theik with all of the levels they have Al in in their sadik level but the and therefore there's ups and downs but the which is the Aus is a constant and since it's a constant it gives them the click the the the the push to be on right path always now connects this to which we're about to begin next week that he says the the the the of amongst the first issues that awaken the a the love and the fear that we that that a Jew needs to serve God it's pure and loyal regarding the unity and being together who is blessed and is exalted meaning to say is what gets the ye to to S but to get to a you need a and to get to you need this B of that's that's why this is the introduction so what we walk away with for this introduction is that if you're missing the his sh your a will be missing and if your a is missing your am is missing and this a very different way than the way you know most yeden look at it believe believe believe believe believe well I I have to have feelings for belief I have to understand believe God that's why the next 12 chapters one which are you know loaded deep intellectual and issues of reconciling hem and the world and the universe and ourselves and everything else and the names of God and the everything is there right it's it's all to develop a feeling and the purpose of a feeling is so that the Amun is animated I think I told you once there is smart and there's foolish there's a like a and there's a like a tip now again bottom line is put on in the morning put a up have give to visit someone but but but you know so for that to continue you need to you need to uh feed it as AOS or a from the word feed a what do you mean feed a spends a lot of time on this you have to feed that and I'm telling you especially now those you see how you have to be you know it's it's a question what's going on over here here we are people learning together taking of our time doing our best raising families you know helping like so what is going you have to you have to and how do you do by having a feeling of love for God at all for God a right but that itself that itself needs something to trigger it otherwise the the the Ava is not real AA it's it's it's it's a shallow Ava we're talking about real love for hem and not I'm talking about now by the way we're not talking about levels of sadik now talking about us which the B remember I told you this is a means it's a sh which is called that means that all these ideas that we're going to learn are also applicable to the B that's why emphasizes the level leave for them this is not a book for you know does need to write a manual for will take care and the and and and and all the and and and all the on we're not worried about them I think they they they they they they they know what to do but we the average person the average person that has a has a has struggles has issues has questions how do we develop a real and the answer is it's put him time coming and what is p who Pim is about poor explains that special explains it's about the lottery what's the lottery the lottery is an experience that's called Transcendent it's a it's a lottery in other words there's a part of every year the that goes beyond tadas and again but that itself to appreciate that saying it is nothing to to feel it is when after you've learned and after you've DED and after you meditated the end you come you say you know what you want to say something please yeah basically it's an example would be is if you grew up a lit and you and you started to learn you have to unlearn a lot of the stuff that you did as a lipf you got to unlearn something order to learn something knew because it's like opening the pores you know opening up places that you never the thought process the has it's a very different different path and and to Echo your words there was a famous his name was and and he and he was a about 18 hundreds and he became a and they beat him he writes his own MERS he got clip so he said I had to get clip because for a to become a they need to knock a lot of stuff out of you and I got it through the clip you know so you know today no we're not going around giving clip but absolutely I mean this is this is a you know we had over the years and probably you guys know too but that came from realas and and they had some you know and they were learners but they had real and and and they took a lot and and they had to clap it out and that's why those guys are the most faers they're the most passionate laes are the LX that kabik you know but butoh yeah RAB faroh RAB faroh grew up in in a Lish environment yeah that's true that's true that's true yes Misha Misha this is the I'm sorry I zoned out for a second but I lost you this is the from I don't know if it's the same reference read the p is correct thank you M for finding the P that's the P how does he spell over there yeah yeah is is not which means from the word Ro pasture right right yeah Ro MOS called the them yeah yeah what are your thoughts this morning listening to this um it's very it's very nice I don't know think I've ever learned this before this New Concept so I'm looking forward to next week to come okay okay but I want to encourage you I know it's a weekend of and everything you know um if you have a chance you know either lessons in t or see this no there's no this is on this but there there are few both in English and and and Andes that uh I think will help um because there's a lot more to say here I I just you know kept it for now the way it is otherwise again we'll be here for five weeks I can give you five weeks of sh on this I don't want to do that right now this way when we learn when we're 80 years old all of us and we'll be well we'll learn again KRA have a great pu M should come and uh oh the question is about Monday Monday uh you you guys are you have uh you have like purm things what yeah I don't yeah I think let's let's reconvene Tuesday okay so we'll we'll we'll we'll we'll the next year will be Tuesday this way everyone can sober up and remember no but remember drinking like a like a wild animal is not acceptable and and and and the whole purpose is to reach a place of between meaning to for hasem so you know and practically you could say until you fall asleep if you want to be it says that's also considered doing the mitvah um and uh just keep an eye out that young kids should you know not get themsel you know stoned and and and hurt themselves keep your eye out for that and and and be careful who you pour mashka to that you know it's not it shouldn't be a freefor all it it's it's really I I mean I must say in the last few years here in B park it feels like it's been reduced a little bit it's calmed down I I the last two three years and I and I and the Rabon and MIM and rebes and you know rabbis have have I think spoken more more about it and they're encouraging people not to just go into any house because of sne so there's there's some good things so um I'm sure betes you know it's um it's a you know a Flatbush te- neck Community uh and all kinds yeah it's wild I know it's wild but you got to what they come from all the yes the Seminary ah they come CU they know they'll get money there well Misha you're a gab Yodi you're a gab whatever you guys are involved there so so make sure that uh you know try your best listen you know you can't control and you know but you know open bottles you know shouldn't be left around you you I don't have to tell you you know and even at your table you know what I'm saying and by the way technically the Mitzvah is on wine not not on on scotch and vodka the the the suda was with wine you you know what I'm saying so it takes a lot more to get suar from wine so maybe the answer is not to have any alcohol out you know vkin scotch and just have wine anyway I don't have to tell you you you're all you know smart and intelligent and and you'll do your best a what's the good word I don't hear word from you a well R dolphin just uh like I was an unw then I became lick then it became a h a lot of work to do remember what I said that was the past you you needed to go through that but that's past and you got to have that paradigm shift this is who I am today this is my the past was the past my friend when I hear I say right you have to be by to appreciate right right yeah okay have a great day and a good erase him well erase well and then P him have a great day everyone great week we'll see everyone Tuesday Tuesday Tuesday Tuesday Tuesday take you byebye