Don't schlep others into your stupidity - Creative Meditation for freedom - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so we're learning time yet we're on page actually mem we're at the uh third or fourth line but let me recap briefly this Pedic the outer ever asks a question himself he had said in chapter 29 and 30 that the way to crush the negative force and energy that blocks a person from feeling that happened from having feelings throughout because there's Barack home which ultimately you need to have when you pray when you're diving and we do other Mitzvahs um is using the advice of the zaira kadish which says a piece a piece of wood doesn't want to catch on fire you break it into small splinters and then it's easier to catch on fire so too a body the body of a person who doesn't catch on fire to this lot to the fire of the soul of the persons the shama should break his body into pieces which is a very humbling experience and a very uh in a way humiliating experience so so Dr Pepper says if that's the case you'll walk away depressed well they're sad that's when he tackles in chapter 29 in chapter 31. also the advice that he gave in Chapter 30 which is based on the purity of his should even be more it should be humble before everyone including before the most lenient person of cow ship a column also involves meditation and thoughts that are sad that that result in a sadness and like okay yeah I'm a goofballer everyone's better than me so the question is how you if you have to ultimately serve Hashem but simcha walking around with these thoughts and these meditations and Reflections don't seem to be good so the alternative answers the question in chapter 31 in two ways while he says yes you need a you need a moment of contriteness of sadness to rebound back to a to a higher form of positive energy in the sense of being frustrated with your situation so he acknowledges he acknowledges that that there is that aspect yeah you're gonna be sad for a few minutes that's right but it's okay because if you're not sad for a few minutes you won't be able to rebound back in the positive number two he says over Ms she was really speaking the second method which he suggested yesterday on page 78 was that we're not talking really about sadness we're talking about something else we're talking about mariros literally immediatives from the word Mara or bitter frustration the outer that says this is all this is a positive orientation the same he's very he's very quick to say it's not yet simcha but it's what we call and why it's it's these holy it's holy discipline it's Holy Quran why is that necessary because Aina didn't talk if you seek to to to sweeten judgment and this and and and and harshness you need to get to its source in a source we understand why God makes it this way for our betterment to challenge us to make us better there's reasons why a father puts kind of traps and and employees to his son to his children and at some point so that they become a real Mensch a real powerhouse if they're always you know oh you're a nice little sweet little boy you're my best and all that but let's put it in modern terms today you know sometimes you got to send the kid into the army you got to send them out to boot camp you know a good kick in the pants over there wakes them up and they become a mensch right it's the same idea same idea it's it's no it's not it's not Rosy you know when you got to get up early morning and March for miles and and you know etc etc it's but that's that's that's the the sword you get you're going to the source of wa of of being strict and mean why are you so mean right that type of why are you so strict so we should get to the source of of that strictness and meanness and toughness you understand that from aha this is the way to to to to sweeten it sweeten in the sense to to re to realize that this strictness is all about goodness it's the only way you're gonna you're gonna you're going to grow and grow at best that's what we learned yesterday one last point that I haven't made yesterday towards the end of this year was that when is the time and he says the word kosher one is the right time to transform sadness to to positivity that is when you're sad anyway when a person is down for whatever reason they get up in a lousy mood they're down at that time grab that time that you feel this you know you feel down and and use it for changing your your your your issues whether you're down because of uh worldly matter or just you're down just he says below some siba as I look at that page ma'am then is the right time to transform the sadness the Elijah that's when you should make an account what did I do where am I why am I wasting my life for now all the time a person should always anger should enrage his Yates or Tov what was Yates of Heart of canal as we learned early in chapter 29. yeah and when you do that at the time that you're down anyway feeling down anyway you pop them then it will re you will rid yourself from sadness coming from worldly matters that disturb you that are not good in your life okay but this is all just a stepping stone to get to the ultimate the ultimate is simcha the ultimate is the Marino stages of the frustrating stage is a very very good stepping stone but the ultimate is to be in a state of symbol let's look at the doctor ever says now Paige manth and the third line following the maritos they could do show the frustration a person will come the true SIM card the hainu is this is the thought that you should think about that you should make your heart be attentive too but not me because fly him this will console you twice as much after everything said and done as we said earlier to say to your own heart Emma's who came Belize Suffolk it is true without a doubt Hashem I am very far and very distant from Hashem from God and I am disgusting this is what we said we learned in chapter 29 when I looked at myself and I realized by nafisa bomb is dominates my heart and my body and my being and my Consciousness and I'm walking around with a disgusting Behavior you're coming up the nephews ah nevertheless all this is anilovadi I myself it's the goofy is the very fine so which is the definition that I sh that I have but nevertheless yes I also have an actual part of Hashem which is an efficient yes that exists even in the most lenient and of all lenient the most light-headed Jew which refer this refers to to an official is [Music] which has an actual spark of godliness in a tangible way that's invested in it there's a spark of God omnitsu's eloki which is invested in the nephe chili case and I have that Within Me as ghosts it's captured you we have we all have the Snappers really kiss that's a spark that has a spark of Hashem in it and I have it in me the only thing is that in me this message will accuse is an exile it's a slave MK if so on the contrary these are very important very important words this word here on the country foreign as long as I am distant while I am distant and disgusting in the eyes of God because of my issues had inefficiently kisses so the definition of the kids that I have it's not that you don't have it we all have it at the time when we're acting disgusting and all that that means my nephew shall the kiss is in greater garbage therefore the mercy that there is on the necessary case in that situation is very great Village there and therefore awesome I will make my entire uh wish and and will Lord Sia to to schlep it out to slap it out from this Exile La Yeshiva obesity to bring it back to its father's home as it was in its youth Clayton goofy before it it invested itself from my wolf which at that time the Netflix was incorporated in God's life and United with him completely so now too in the situation where it's where it's now the Netflix is I.E in my in my body in a ghost and in a deep deep colors it is still United but it's in ghosts so when I will put all my uh oh my being it's a potato mixers now that all my 10 faculties will be invested in the study of state and doing Mitzvahs over France and especially that I will invest myself in the midst of prayer lead secular Hashem which consists of shouting to God but Goofy that I am in such pain I have to serve it's not it's narrow it it's it's constrained it's constraints that it's in in this in this ghost in my goof how much which is disgusting so I secretly it's here I seek to take it out of its constrictions to reattach it to Hashem so it's doubt that episode stop because this is a 180 degree uh change in the way you think right and I don't think a person thinks like this look I haven't been shopping yeah very good when I do an Aveda when I act like an episode by missing and basically controlled by another Shelly kiss is in in deep trouble and therefore the more I.E sin and the more happy the worse it is but that's true but there's a way of turning it around Focus on the fact she's usually when we do an Aveda when we do something that's animal-like we're not thinking at the time about The Godly Soul we're acting like an animal and the more we act like an animal the more negative we get we're more animalistic so if you stop and think for a moment you say oh yeah I'm so disgusting I am such a disgusting thing right but the autorabba says while you're so disgusting and why are you thinking that at the same time think about hey I have something in me that's very special it's called in the Shama and when I act like a behema I'm taking it's like taking your father your mother your Rabbi your your your your wife whatever and you're slapping them into your filth that's disgusting and that's a great murder you should have mercy have mercy you want to be a behemoth you could be a behemo but but what you're doing to them is is is is is is it's not only disgusting it's a pity what did they do that they deserve to be in your Schmutz [Music] that's without that ever says here and when you will think about that simultaneously to be to to knowing how you're acting that's like a behemoth you will have mercy on your Shamu and that's gonna ultimately get you to stop being a behavior because the mainland you're an animal and you're you're doing sin and all that that's yours your our trip but to go and take someone else who is pure and great and beautiful and and schlep them in that that's outrageous that's like mean that's an answer you're an actor you're cruel says therefore you will have rahmanas and you'll start oh wait a second you mean to say I have this pristine Diamond inside of me that's that's looking to be holy and all I have to do is release it why wouldn't you release it why would you want what are you so mean who it's like this a person Who's acting like a behavement all that and doing sin all that it doesn't mean that they're cruel it means that they're they have a desire they have a lust they have a temptation doesn't mean they're bad people right Dr Davis says that in a way you are a bad person because what you're doing is you're not allowing the necessarily kids that's with you that you've slept into the sin you're not allowing it to be released and that's that's a great man this and you will have in other words if you're gonna say Hilo that the person is a mean a cruel person who seeks to hurt himself and seeks to hurt others write the Ponzi scheme individual knows clearly what he's doing and knows that he's messing up other people that is cruel not just for himself but he's cruel to others but a person was not that way and I think most people are not that way when they realized that not only are they doing damage themselves but they're doing damage to some someone else they won't want to do that they'll say no no no I I have if that's gonna involve someone else I don't want that I'm I'm Gonna Change that's without the devil says here there's a someone else within ourselves it's called the necessarily kiss remember we're talking about remember that when we went from chapter 20 and the outer being of the Jew when the Africa Behemoth so the Bahamas right so you're basically animalistic right you're acting animalistic but yet you have on the Sham inside you so this the shama within you Let It Go let it rise to its potential why wouldn't you want something that you have with that you know that can become a star to be a star I think I told you the the greatest Pride that were you know was parents grandparents is for our children grandchildren to outdo us hey imagine someone a father a mother who says no no no I'm going to keep my kids under the radar why so that he never outdoes me that's me that's evil our normal parent says on the contrary I'll do me I'll be the happiest father the happiest mother that you're a bigger servant of Hashem and you have a bigger heart than you you know and and I've seen this I have seen it and a smart parent should should be jumping for joy if he has a kid or a grandkid who puts them to shame you know down today is saying I'm just using you know contemporary psychological words I think he's really saying the same idea Maisha he's saying the same idea we have in the shaman ourselves we enjoy you know sin we enjoy time and we right after that because I understand you enjoy but why why do you want to make your son your nishama do the same thing if the sashama is elsewhere wants to be elsewhere it's in you but it really wants to be elsewhere and it can be elsewhere and it can shine and can outdo you you're so mean no you're not so mean to have mercy on it that's without to that that's the meditation of this chapter 31 which is a very different type of meditation and a very very powerful meditation and this we haven't by the way this is new we haven't yet encountered uh I've run this meditation in Tanya until this section of chapter 31. let's continue okay you know we say if you're business truva and my son told them here explains guess what that all my symptoms it's not two separate things but all good acts in tovim are really true look how he says that explains it is a good deeds shall I said that a person does it in order to return the pride of God which is within the person to its source so those doubt that ever saying it's not two different things when you do mice and tell them what what are you doing you're returning your nishama to its its original state which is being one with God through the micentavian so it's not that chuva is one thing second thing is my symptoms says no the mycentaven itself is the process of chuva this should be a person's avoider all his life [Music] that when you have this meditation and in middle of my sin Behavior I say you know what I'm going to allow my nephew the kids to get out of the situation and I'm going to help it Ascend and be what it's about this brings you the greatest symbol from doing the right thing here you're doing the wrong thing you're in the middle of doing the wrong thing and within middle of doing the wrong thing you realize along for the ride and therefore you're willing to release it and relinquish it and let it be itself and rise to the to be the star oh that's a great symbol if I can if I can in the middle of my student allow that part of me that's really pristine and pure to be his best and I because I have rahmanas I I can't do this I I can't it's it's wrong to take my father and my mother and my Rabbi my wife and my Rabbi into my studio to say please please I'll do my my craziness myself but you go go go to the right place the end of the day when you think about that it brings you SIM card that you were able to release the necessary kiss that's you that's you it's your nashama are out of this why are you doing the shoes it's not easy because in a way it's like at this at the time of sin and tithe and and Guyver and all the different types of lusts and and yet Sahara's at the same time I'm recognizing I have something pristine and holy and I'm letting it out but when you do that and you recognize that you have SIM card but that's what he says and look at drama's wording with zeist this ain't happening in one day in one month in one year call yamov All Your Life this is going to be avidasa your Aveda and when you and you go through life working on this it will bring the Sim horrible it consists of the simplest of the Soul exiting the goof while you're alive how mature which is disgusting the Goof that's disgusting and you're allowing the your nephesh to be released from that bondage the shovel base of vehicle and it returns to its father's home as it was in its youth which is the which is a metaphor to bashasate you allow it to learn and to do avoidance because I'll say a person should always be call Yama all of his days should be betwa there's nothing greater than exiting the Exile and the bondage of captivity and it brings the martial commercial a son of a king who wasn't in captivity with hurricane and he was captured on top now page 89. in a jail the basis it wasn't a jail I don't know you know one of these fancy jails in in Colorado that maximum security jail which is like a hotel okay it was uh let's say Guantanamo Bay Guantanamo Bay was this disgusting place so this son of the king is in a basement he's a manual he's disgusting from filth and junk garbage all around him in the jail now the the rebel explained once that the altirebe uses these adjectives in other words why wouldn't it be adequate he said to say he's in jail finished why wouldn't it say that he's in jail why not because he wants to bring out he wants to bring out all these details he wants to bring out that the the ghost is so is so deep and so he's gone so far that not only he's in jail but he's in a jail that stinks in a jail that has garbage in other words this jail is a Guantanamo Bay jail not a uh the Colorado Max jail which is a country club let's go further foreign and from there he he set free to his father's house the king that's the end of the muscle that what's the name show we have here this goof that's disgusting ugly smelly garbage you know it's it's it's a Bahama mute yourself please one second screw yourself and and within within this disgusting situation the King's son is released the nashama so the King's son is the metaphor for the nisham we have to know the nashama is in a place of Filth and Schmutz when we act like Obama when we act with a goof enough and the air it's released what a simple in other words being released from a Rosy place the simple is not that great but when you're in a dungeon and when it's smelly and it's really bad and you release from there You're simply so much greater and this is true in life person who who who's able to to come out of a real bad situation their simcha so much greater yeah you know someone who was addicted let's say to the drinking whatever and they're able to overcome they have such strength and and when they think about it really they have such simha that they they that they had this challenge for years and they couldn't overcome and finally they overcame the greatest symptom you know I just say you know I remember with with my my sleeping and you know and I didn't know for years I was falling asleep and drooling and you know finally someone said go check yourself out if you sleep apnea and I realized and then I put on the machine the next morning I promise you have that I've experienced the a miniature Mason talk about the resurrection of that that next morning when I got up and I had no drooling and I know my headaches and I wasn't falling asleep at the computer into the car and it's been this way 10 15 years brother Hashem it's simple in other words when you are when you when you experience something that is is so bad whatever it is this is a health issue right and then you come out of it it's like I I I I I'll I'll talk about you know the sleep machine to any CEO and the president and the greatest rabbi you know because I went through it I went through it so this doctor that I've been speaking here about the same thing within the Showman is so special and so beautiful and so pristine and so holy and so confounding and yet for years it's stuck in this filth and this nourish guide and then you say how mean can I be how how you know but mainly myself I want to be like a behavior and then behave that way it's not good you know but it's your own trip but you're slapping someone else into your store yet that's that's disgusting that's what Delta efficiency you have to unmute yourself hello sorry foreign izing with this muscle is that it's not it's not even if we're doing a favorites it's just the situation that the nishama has to live in a body and the body has all these needs and preoccupation so even if you know even if a person's holding like uh you're holding like abandon me and and not active in the pursuit of uh of a Vapors or uh it's still hard on the dashama to live in a body like this that's what it seems to me that is he's emphasizing here um I don't agree that he's emphasizing there I would say it maybe includes that but he's definitely talking about the situation where the person's actively shook it's the language that is employing all of these that that's filth and Schmutz you're talking about the potential for taiva so you could say that it includes it but no I I I disagree maybe when you have a chance later look into the to this yes how they interpret that I think you'll find that they're talking really more about the active role in in in Yates any other questions or comments anyway yes major yes I raised that issue like take I don't use the clipper to help solve the issue I'm just I'm just I'm just putting it out there you said you said we haven't used up America but I'm just bringing it up okay let me maybe later in the day when I have some Netflix think about it it's a good it's a good thing and I believe that tomorrow everyone have a great day we'll see everyone tomorrow okay