Don't Miss Your Life's Purpose - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

on page two 365 but since we haven't learned in a few days I'm going to recap here basically in this paragraph that introduces a very interesting concept that I believe might be new to you and that is that normally the one he said in the previous paragraph was the the emotions of of burritos were actually not emotional the the frustration feeling and the Simca feeling are opposite each other and the and he said very clearly if you're completely in the mode of burritos there's no room you have no room to entertain simcha vice-versa as well and the same is true of the above a year if you're really in the mode of either Yetta that has no place this is what he said earlier in this paragraph he says that's only true when you're talking about the Alvin gira and burritos and sinful yaakov if you can just mute the phone and it'll help in this paragraph he introduces that the that's only true when the the the feelings of frustration and simcha and love and fear are coming from what's called from what he calls places hockey Luo Yin the Luo Yin is the plural of Gil we revelation in other words the manifested powers the powers as they are in everyone's you know heart and being on a level that that you could tap into it and and and use it it's it's it's ready to go but there's something called places who ask me in the essential pleasures which are the father figure of the chaos of the Luo Yin however however and and what and what are they it's the same kindness it's not different co-hosts but it's the Cocos as they are in their pure state so I gave the example last time we learned if someone has never Thunder a car pinned under a car you pass by you have people who don't have normally the cliff can pick up that car and the guy can endure gotten the person lying under the car is released where did you get the clay up your fact is a key you don't have big muscles you don't workout and all of a sudden you're able to do it this muscle shows us that a person has latent abilities latent abilities within himself that are normally not tapped into and they are and these latent Coface are are the essence and the the source for the manifested state of places so so here it is you know you feel tired you feel sluggish you feel you can't do it just recently a few weeks ago I heard this rabbi at Covent then he was near death and he miraculously survived so he spoke to 770 and what he said initially sounded a little you know wishful thinking but thinking about it I think it supports what we're saying now he said they couldn't walk he either lost his ability to walk so they had to retrain him to walk so he's sitting there in his wheelchair and chair and they say the therapist says Organa please get up he says I can't get up get up you have to get up it's good for you you have to get up I can't and he or she says to him again get up so he says that he closed his eyes or he brought to his mind the revaz the rebus image as the good breakfast tell him get up and he got up so he says that you know it was it's it's his feelings towards the rebel that he has deep inside himself that gave him the cuff to get up so this is what he said and I was thinking a lot about it you know is this wishful thinking the practice he got up that that there's no dispute but how do you know if he got up because after the therapist and the third try said get up he just got up he puts himself at he got up in even though he could have fallen down he says I'm jumping up or is it the class that he got from the image which we know of course the rashi with Joseph of Sadiq right in the shell of it Yossi brought the image of his father and that prevented him from sin or another story with the out there Abbas trusted who decided to go to the theater and before he walked in he said wait a minute I'm a husband of the out Loretta better go to the theater what a Shanda and he turned the other way he never went in so he brought the out to revit to his mind so what does that say well we're learning here in this moment is that it's coming it's not wishful fantasy thinking and it's not about being a hustler it's when you tap into the classiest acts me in you can do anything now how to tap in that could take bringing the image of the repetier for one Yakko revealing to the other one your father and mother to the third one your good friend or whatever those are semantics and important ones okay so maybe I should be used with semantics but those are the tools and instruments but then it could be is that we all have clay facade speech so that episodes here in this minor there is a way of having marinos and simpler come together there is a way and that is if they're coming from the perspective of your essential qualities will then not only don't they contradict each other but they actually enhance each other what if I thought they'd never leave I'm sure have already so any of you here this year but I told over the story of discussant there's a family and about called hey pain and one of the kind of first pain was a hustle yet of the midler evidence of acidic so Hassidim saw weird cracked is that from what I heal EFT he had a smile coming from alive mana yet tears motion by us how is the possible theft tears from what iron and and simcha and from the other I'd answer is that if you're really in sync with you you are your closest ask me him it's possible that's all learning here and and in the mind mahir that ever brings a statement that it says it says in desire Rabi Akiva he learned the cider cetera the secrets of the Torah from his teacher of a lesser hot-dogging and when he did that zogu aim of the boys his eyes teared the teared with with tears so their ever says where did those tears come from the dost here tears come from the bedside the the happy side or the sad side and he says that those tears came from the happy side he wasn't crying because of pain he was crying because of great Simpson in this case the simple was that he learned the esoteric secrets of the Torah so he knew when he puts on 2:00 in the morning what's happening in the world what's being accomplished by those villain could you imagine when you when you when you do a mitzvah and if you were to know the secrets of that Mitzvah what chambers and rooms it opens in heaven for you boy would you run to the Mitzvah just like someone who gets a good destructive or good real estate investment a poor or what that's a good gets a secret knows old do this and you'll make a lot of money or you accomplish so much they run they wait to get up early and they're waiting at the door for the doors to open right so that ever says that rebbi akiva Desire says learnt the secrets of a tailor from rabbul izza I've got the one because of that he cried say it wasn't crying because of pain he was crying because of simcha so what do we see we see that the outward manifestation of frustration and tears can be a result of a deep joy and happiness the other example that I gave you the other day last week was when when at a time of a your child simcha someone this examples brought in considers who could be very normally very frugal very stingy and they splurge at the wedding they splurge why do they splurge you're known as the cheapest guy in town you don't give a dime and you have it you don't give you no say Yakov why is it it's because at the time of the censor the essence the essence of the person comes out that's what we're talking about here this is what we learned last week let's now look inside 365 we're learning were the three lines from the bottom the middle of the page I know hiss can elute brother coos the neighbor says this idea of coming of bringing together two opposites comes from when we incorporate ourselves the hip collar loot but Allah coos and godliness he says in Yiddish ice gain and Gettler kite but he also touches the word Escala loads from the word kilos callosum nefesh extinction of the soul well you just want to be with Hashem and that's it right what is the Gemara same Magilla yoni once I'm poor him rep robber of Xena Bravo invites his student rep Zara to the Purim soda he gives him quite a bit of wine and then he gets up and he chefs from zero what a what a strange Gomorrah so the river has the interpretation of famous talk of the river the Rebbe explains a very hot Ella who Russia that the Marcus of the murder the Gemara says she fought the slaughter also means to draw Masha Misha robber drew rub Zara to his level he elevated him he said read Zahra I'm taking you today for a special spiritual ride into the world of raba a world which throughout the year you don't know about you don't care about you're scared of on and on it's pouring drink wine and vacate all of your inhibitions let go of your rational mind and come along with me and he says yes ready I'm coming along with you and he drinks wine and more wine in there saying like I am and it's pouring and all the sudden revs air is no longer he's in heaven and not because he drank a lot of wine he became cuckoo because he was uplifted spiritually to a different plateau and that plateau all the issues that we experienced on earth don't exist and contradicts the heavenly experience so that's why it says he died he shifted him it was overwhelming he blew his antennas there was a blowout of the fuses but if Xavier couldn't handle the arm of his Rebbe because his rep user was very intense the mother says it came to next year represented was sitting at the table of his Rebbe again Rocco and Robert gang says a racemic I am he says Rebbe this year I can't go along with you because it's too overwhelming for me I couldn't handle the last time what am I saying there is an experience called closer nefesh we don't mean you shefte physically you go you go into a place that is so overwhelming that you don't desire to live anymore meaning you know not physically you don't desire to be involved in all the matters of the physical world I'm writing now but Nevada the the yeshiva a movement called Navarre Tech they were very extreme in their Musa their founder of Yosef yo ezel Horowitz in the in the 8th 1800's he he was first business man and then he met Roberto Salaam tur the Father modern-day father figure of Moosa and he convinced him to go and learn but Rebbe Yosef jazel took it a step further he said I'm leaving my wife and two kids and I need to study and guess what he was away for a year in nine months Andrew and his rebbe reb is Rosa laughter who introduced him to Musa said that's not what I meant go back to your wife and children what are you outrageous he said no revi I need to find a new path and serving a sin that I never learned and I need to be isolated so he went to it he went to a place he got someone to give him a hut in the back of his yard he brought him food over there and he was there by himself didn't leave for a year in nine months until the authorities came because they told they told them told on him and they forced him out that he went back and he became a little more mainstreamed that's extreme very extreme and that's why he was the father figure of navarre that movements the violet move was a very extreme Muslim movement and in my humble opinion that's why it didn't last I mean both in America and there in Cicero post-holocaust they tried rebuilding the verdict but it had no success because the extreme the extremism was not for the average person and it's similar to me to the story of Robert of zeda rather one serves ADA to come from come to him in heaven in his level revs I just didn't know what that meant sort of theory went along but after tasting it he says I can't anymore it's too heavy for me but I'm sharing all of this just to bring out the point of what's called his Carlos allow yourself to be incorporated into something higher have you ever tried that a generator have you have you tasted that yoni were you you you vacate and again I don't know for saying it doesn't mean you have to leave your house the idea means to vacate the pleasures of this world and be complete with our share it's a very hard experience no no no no I'm not gonna cook the dishes this is called the extreme form of self purgatory FF of self the deprecation and then punishment and you know it's his budget this means you you're isolated there for a while whether it's that nightly or weekly or monthly talk to us a minute that's it doesn't warrant it doesn't doesn't demand self-deprecation and and you know being harsh on yourself you know they tell over the the talmidim the students in the fire that would go into a grocery store and ask could they buy a pound of nails and the guy looked at in my you out of your mind I don't sell nails here sell eggs here and bread in other words they did things to humiliate themselves that was a Nevada a Nevada to crush their ego that's the type of thing but I'm not I'm focusing on the word his scholar lute Ivy normally a scholar look means what incorporation but it also is associated with the word Telos kill ace huh nefesh extinction of the soul for all you want is I call this particle let's continue and that's why it says in the you - look at the others words yummy yakov ice gang in get with kite this game means to melt to melt and godliness that I believe is a failure meet the evil jerk uh sorry the achieve his true desire liaise with my Vegas le cools he wanted one thing and one thing only he wanted to be in the godly level in the godly chamber and the heaven when what gazook then them in you from closer nefesh rebbi akiva was searching motion what was he searching for he was searching for maecenas nefesh leave colo be actuals to be incorporated in the essence of hashem top of next page 366 bindings of butter who the infinite infinite light of a sham and and there ever support circles of Gomorrah what does the Gemara say okay my man as the saying is call your my o ye submits tie and all my days I was in pain messiah valley yogi when will I have the opportunity vaca men and I will fulfill it Rabi Akiva was walking around all the days of his life saying I said when will you give me a chance to do mysterious nefesh to die for you if that's what you want that's the Gemara this isn't a citizen Cabela's and Muslims tomorrow he was sent sheep and look at the language here Moshe call yo Maurice emits tire he was in pain yet sir agony pain because he didn't get that opportunity and of course when the Romans raped him at that time he got the opportunity so what is why does the tempest bring this Gomorrah look further next line the Inca took our service after your Amity because rebbi akiva is primary desire and true will placer has scholars by uttering self but who it was to be incorporated within the infinite God Rabbi Akiva his real life was being with a shed anything less which throughout his lifetime he wasn't within Hashem was not where it's at you see if this is an issue of the paradigm what is your paradigm and this is a very important point we must set our paradigms and if we set the right paradigm whether or not we will reach that paradigm in a way is irrelevant I'm gonna explain that soon why is he relevant but Rabi Akiva set a paradigm and you know what his paradigm was Lee Cola will be aimed alienating self butterfl to be incorporated in the infinite God to be without sin not my family not my wife not my business not my friend Hashem everything else is an extension of God and and if I could find God and everything else great but what's the paradigm Hashem now just for the just for your knowledge consider says that that bready achievers desire is not the ultimate why because his paradigm was dying for God but she does nefesh fastener says he knows paradigm was the ultimate of rama v no because i've rum said hashem i am yours both said they want to be with God but I think even said I want to be with God through dying for God ready and now Brahma be who said I want to be with God whatever you want god I have no self-interest rebbi akiva compared to her from had a little self-interest you know what it was I want to die for God but that I want to die for God is a little self-interest sets of sinners of Rama binos paradigm is even greater he doesn't have any interest at all except for one thing that not I want to live for God not I want to die for god I'm Yours you decide you want me to live I'm here you want me to die I'm here but here that this what I just said now explain in other places of considers that's why I said earlier if he keep his approach is not the ultimate but here were focusing Arabic Tevas approach what did he want he wanted to be Li Colo Bay oily so pitifully he wanted to be with Hashem in other words contractor actor of zero to Kamara Magilla country to have zero who the next year said rabbi Rafa I ain't going with you up there it's too heavy for me let me keep he says I am going with you I like that I want that very different paradigms so let's go back to the mind map alkane third line alkane his son made behind Surya loyal Khadijah said and because his paradigm was to have mysterious nefesh look what it says he only therefore he had his son egg Tanooki a pleasure Yucko he had pleasure from his his Cyril could you imagine avi a person having pleasure from pain the Gemara the Gemara says the Gemara says subdeacon have pleasure from that pain in the average mind we don't relate to this we don't understand this but that's why we're not sad deacon maybe Akiva was but what is it happening you know this is of the Mara what is considered adding what is the red beheading over here I believe what he's adding here is that this was that that it's not just about he was looking for when Union ended Amara when you learned this piece of Gomorrah it simply means he was looking to have mysterious Nestor's right Yaakov you've learnt the Gemara that's what the Damara means what is Casilla saying what is that abandon here he's heading here of much deeper ideas that the rep is not it's not just tackling the issue of what that I was attacking the issue of why why why the dhurbey of kefir wanna be why was this is paradigm and the answer is because because he came to the understanding this is why I was created I was created to be a godly being on earth so I'm sorry to be a godly being so we're better can you find being a godly big compete with God so in other words it's the paradigm that sets the the the way you live your life and it's so true each and every one of us whatever our paradigm is at certain times in our life that's the type of bed we make remember that you do not you don't people say well it just happened to me no no it just happen to you at some point you decided you want to do this and years later you find yourself doing that and and and vice versa sometimes and that also includes doing this which could be something that later you're gonna regret but but but why why because you realize you made a mistake in the paradigm you released you you really set set a low paradigm or on the real erroneous paradigm so you end up like years later saying life has passed me what have I done to myself like I told you when we started learning the previous mind who can really tell you what's your paradigm or ever now it's up to you to make that decision yeah free will Robbie Hayman a the dead of see over the other code what path should you go up only Robbie not a psychologist not a good rabbi not a good receiver a doctor a lawyer no one can tell you a Sedaris Darris and I've a dissection comes from a Rebbe or a Rebbe light figure who doesn't have an agenda I need you on my team I need you on my team anyone who tells you I need you my team stay far away from them and I said we saw this with the Reverend and then just saying just from what I observed 25 30 years being with her ever so many people came in he didn't tell him I want you to be alibi batur he didn't tell him many times most times I want you to be thrilled that wasn't the language I want you to find your neshama see this Chabad is about one thing explore your soul find out who you are how I see this helps you find out where you are I rep as a pointer but at the end of the day at the end of the day Moshe we need to find out ourselves who we are that's what it's about so when someone came to the by the chair ever for a breath or there he didn't he didn't tell him you need you need to do it this way that's that comes that that that that choice has shared granted everyone and it's a very healthy way of living but at the same time and we like this in the previous mind - I'll lay right in boohoo case I tell a whole world what did we learn not if you follow my mitzvot Torah and mitzvot but in the lesson shall abide meaning I wish there is a wish in other words what is the would consist of I'm giving you a little secret that this this path is a good path try it out now it's up to you so the whole idea of of tackling life's roads and and issues is up to us so that ever says here that Rabbi Akiva had had no he had pleasure but how is Suren in his in his pain and agony why because he said his paradigm being with Hashem that's what he decided who Fischer Miller let me continue a little bit of a summary side the citator so when he heard the secrets of Toyota for a BLS the metabolism in a mid- Tom salary because they were so good so tasty tooth power so delicious little regards nev apne me and the secrets were so pleasurable so essential and so deep the in k police of hotma within the depths of the wonders of clockman the language here so not part of poetic but it's so rich look at this tooth times regards to Bo Pelini by the gods me me me in place of Huffman's like it's really one word for delicious and desirable and great right fascinating but that ever had a beautiful path the previous level was a master writer and the way he writes it is is is so rich he mean is there who yeah give us that's why he became far-fetched why because he couldn't obtain this he was looking for this he was struggling and it made an tight so then zogu ain't of demoys that's when his eyes shed tears in other words he heard the secrets of tina and for years he was looking for this and finally when most of - do you mind turning off your mic please and finally went when the when the when the when he got the revelation by listening to his teacher of the Alessa he couldn't handle it it was the diffuse blue what happens when you can't handle something you either go cuckoo crazy or you cry he cried he cried out of joy finally finally something I've been working on all these years finally I've gotten a taste of it Rahzel some do it brings another good mother the mother says a Mason rosie tato we do not give over the secrets of theta ll and me Shelly Brigade but it abou only to one whose heart is anxious within within us within inside of himself what does it mean anxiety holy anxiety positive anxiety Jakob normally anxiety is very bad for us and we have too much of it we've become white quickly and cuckoo faster anxiety is not good the governor does say there's one time anxiety is good when you that bothers you that you don't know the secrets of a shaman you don't you're not with God and it bothers you and you're anxious about it and frustrated oh the mother says if that's who you are my solenoid Strozzi tighter then we give you the secrets of Toninho so again Rahzel chambre Mason Rossiter only ll initially but like the kid to someone exercises anxiety with himself the idiom is cedars Rosie tell you know having early coolship adazi Taylor actually will stop here and we'll revisit this tomorrow now do any of you have any questions or comments on what we learned yeah yeah I have a question rabbi please we're going to sing about a singer cut sonic a Rebbe on that level obviously the Rebbe is passed from this world yes is there anyone today could we say that there's anyone who's a level of a a Rebbe each other today is there anyone left like that look I you know this is not for me or you to decide this is the decision of every person however you know when I when I wasn't there to throw about 20 years ago and I met the option of a rabbit by is the gun to me you know I can't you know I I'm not a maven of the size of Rebbe which they say he is even though he himself says he's not but he's definitely a servant of Hashem that I could tell you and not just humble he you know he's a dick he doesn't need he doesn't sleep I was there at a quarter to 5:00 in the morning and his stomach was growling like you did and eaten in two days I heard out my own ears I'm not making that up you know so a person whose host who's not sleeping and not eating and learning and helping people that type of a person is a is a great candidate for being the Rebbe whether he's this time parade that that you know that's not it's not like we have far fewer today it seems like we're talking about the Robin Kiva's day or even room Rebbe yeah you know there is there is a mattress and a college bar cool does not let us be bereft of sad deacon and and in the world it's a membership of the Mara so the issue is whether this person talks to you and you see in him not the soul that he identifies himself and to you it's soul to soul not body the body that is that is really to me and humble the two issues that you know and they go together if you have real humility you know then you have that ability of being sold to soul today we live in this hotspots world where everything centers around miracles in Subodh you should know just for the record miracles was never the criteria of a Rebbe it's it's the Altair ever and he gathers the clay this I think 22 sons that the whole approach in the polish Hungarian Hasidic movement that's all about miracles in Kabbalah wasn't about miracles although miracles they say were rolling under the table but it was nothing about miracles and I heard this from my teachers you know the whole approach the different approach Retta wasn't you know a what miracle did he do I'm gonna go to the Rebbe I have a problem and he's gonna say something I'm gonna have a miracle that wasn't the attitude not that it didn't happen many times but that wasn't the attitude today it's been changed it's it it's been changed on the outside where everything is about miracles see all most harbour engines or Habad events you go to you'll hear events of the rapids this miracle for this person of this miracle disability and people need that today that's what people need I could tell you you know for being a power speaker and that's what gives a lot of people and muninn chaos but here we are an intimate group learning classes we go a little deeper and we understand that that that's not the criteria so moisture might you're asking me much in other words if you you're asking a very good question how do you know who's a ready for today for you and everyone dancer is it only could come how you how you feel it to see it and it's not about someone can tell you he's a Rabi because I had this story make this miracle that's true but who says the miracle is gonna be for you right it's it's a different criteria the criteria is whether this neshama that came on earth you see in this the Schirmer a revi ability and by the way I'm not saying there's only one Rebbe it can be multiple rivers that saves one read that but but run it's something much deeper than than the outside you know and it's not giving a good class or good advice those are important things that's not what I read is a rabbit is like I told you over and over a soul geologists a maven under neshama and if you think of it that way how many people are may our maven under the new soma it's it's it's it's a it's a who could be amazing an addition so the baal shem tov introduced the concept of a rather who was gifted by hashem a special gift which is this quality and sometimes takes time for it to come out at the end of the days belief so using the miracles as brief is you know in other words in other words if he did five miracles he's the Rebbe of quality a if he did ten miracles he's a rep of quality B but that whole approach is very for me the way I see it very shallow it's it's like it becomes like what did he do for me but what did he do for the world of course of course these things are happening and and you should know today the rebels are held you see so many streamers and fuss I would say probably this more novel babbage's company - the rebels aerial demo by lectures on average week I'm not talking about give no promise for the yard site you know it's become a place here in New York but could I just be a mere oh really I'm telling you it's it's it's a fascinating phenomena but that's the phenomena anyway however I have to build up inside the zone to have a good day will seek tomorrow okay well thank you very